0:54🔗VoiceoverLoveline may contain sexually oriented content.
1:00🔗VoiceoverLoveline with Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew.
1:04🔗VoiceoverI'm Adam, that's Dr. Drew. Phone number, 1-800-LOVE-191. Dr. Drew, board certified physician, addiction medicine specialist. And tonight, we welcome back a very special and dear, dear, dear, dear, dear friend, Art Alexakis from Everclear.
1:39🔗AdamWe're doing great, Art. Great to see you.
1:42🔗EverclearHow wonderful to see you, it's so cool. I listen to you guys all the time and I almost call in because when Adam's being a jerk, I just want to call in, what, Adam, a jerk?
2:00🔗EverclearI know that you know you're right because and that's basically the same thing because you don't even think you're right. You know you're right.
2:24🔗AdamI'm sure of what I know but I don't think anyone cares.
2:27🔗DrewYou know that you don't like it when people notice or care.
2:31🔗AdamYeah, I'm sure of what I'm saying but I don't think anyone should listen anyway.
2:37🔗EverclearThat's the thing I've always liked about you, Adam, and I think it's natural that both of us are just supreme narcissists. Yeah, and we're really good at it.
2:48🔗AdamBut Drew, what is it you say about your drug addicts? You have this thing about that, it's really the only thing you say that's worth a damn. Unless you're agreeing with something I said.
3:08🔗AdamThis is your narcissist drug addicts who hate themselves but hate everyone else as well. Or something like that. Drew, come on. You really only have like two good ones. This is one of them.
3:21🔗DrewI don't think of it as a good one, I guess.
3:22🔗AdamNo, yes, you better think of it as good. You say it enough. Although you have not said it in a while. But it's basically, my ass doesn't stink, but...
3:32🔗DrewOh, I have not said it well. I'm a piece of...
3:36🔗DrewYes, take a beat. This actually comes from a therapist out in the Alma Treatment Center who coined the phrase that all her patients feel like a piece of ass around which the whole world revolves.
4:02🔗AdamYeah, that's our point. Art is... Art's got many projects going, acoustic shows and things like that. The thing I was interested in seeing here is the advocate for the deadbeat dad bill and all that stuff.
4:18🔗AdamIt's been a while, I know. And I think we talked about it last time you're in here, but Art has always been sort of civically minded. And I like that. I like the deadbeat dad one. Put it this way. You can't get the rappers to get on board with that one. Do you see what I'm saying? We gotta get the rockers on with the deadbeat dads.
4:36🔗EverclearThere's plenty of rockers that won't get on with that, too.
4:44🔗EverclearWell, this is back in 2000 when there was a bill called the Deadbeat Dad Bill, HR. 1433, that started on the floor of the House and worked its way up to the Senate and had bipartisan support, which bipartisan support isn't something that you hear too much of these days.
5:09🔗EverclearAnd once Bush got elected, it just disappeared. There was the, everybody walked away from the bill. They had it piggybacked. It was, that means that they included with other bills and it was pretty much assured of passing.
5:26🔗AdamWhy is anybody against any of these things? You know, some of these ones just sound like layups, like, hey, we just like to get the dads.
5:33🔗AdamYeah, who knocked up the ladies to be financially responsible for their offspring? Yeah, just stamp, next.
5:40🔗EverclearWell, this is what this was about was that the fact that it's not just people knocking up, guys knocking up gals, it's like parents, like, you know, a father of a family, his wife leaves him, he takes it out on his woman by taking it out on his kids. Of course. He gets back at them. And it's not just men, it's women too, but for the most part, it's men. And what this did, this took all the mystery out of getting the families paid because you can get a judgment against somebody and they can dodge it for years and years and years. My dad did that, by the way, I talked, I went and saw my dad this last weekend for the first time in 14 years.
6:38🔗EverclearNot really. He's a sweet guy, but at the end he's just like, God, you've been mad at me and your sister's mad at me. I don't understand why everyone's mad at me. I don't understand what I did. And I'm like, really?
7:52🔗EverclearI kinda hope so. That'd be a strong ticket.
7:54🔗AdamYeah, what do you think? You think it's gonna be like McCain or Hillary Clinton or... You know, a lot of people saying like Hillary Clinton. I could get down with McCain by the way.
8:04🔗EverclearI like that guy. McCain as Vice President for the Democrats?
8:08🔗DrewI can't tell if he's Republican or Democrat.
8:21🔗AdamAnderson thinks Edwards too. All right, let's get to the phones. What's going on with Everclear?
8:26🔗EverclearEverclear, we're, I'm writing songs and we're getting ready to put out a greatest hit sometime. We don't have a date set. We got a new song on the record called Glorious. It's a really cool song. I was trying to wrangle a copy of it to bring down and play for you guys, like as an exclusive, but couldn't find it, so.
8:43🔗AdamAll right, it was probably next to the letter.
8:45🔗EverclearProbably sucked. No, I know where the letter is.
8:48🔗AdamAll right, well next time bring the letter in the CD.
8:51🔗AdamAll right. Tori, you're 17? What's up? Hold on a second. Don't you hate when you're stupid, when you repeat someone else's stupid stuff? Like, I didn't think of McCain. I was sitting at a table with a bunch of guys and we're going, who the hell is gonna run over at Kimmel today? And someone said, what about McCain? And it just stuck into my head and then I spat it out on the radio. Not thinking about if he was a Democrat or a Republican.
9:21🔗DrewYeah, you do. Yeah, all right. Tori was about to tell us something very difficult. I could tell her she's been building a sign around her in the middle.
9:31🔗Speaking of Kimmel, I'm watching him right now.
9:48🔗DrewIs your mom in the room or? Uh, yeah. Okay, we'll put you on hold and we'll get back to you, okay? Okay.
9:57🔗AdamWow, we haven't had one of those in a while.
9:59🔗DrewWow, that can, usually the last time we had she was telling us about how she was having anal sex. Good night, mom. Good night. Yeah, thanks. Okay, anyway. Good night, Father McConaughey.
10:11🔗AdamYeah, that was the last one we had. Danny?
10:22🔗AdamAll that political discourse knocked her off. Go ahead, baby, what's your question?
10:28🔗CallerI was calling because I don't have a boyfriend back in September and lately I've had feelings for one of my close friends or whatever, but I don't know.
10:38🔗DrewWhoa, you guys move so fast past crucial material. What do you mean you lost your boyfriend?
11:08🔗CallerYeah, so it wasn't the hardest part. It wasn't just losing the boyfriend aspect of it. It was the best friend part of it.
11:14🔗DrewYou know, but are you okay? Yeah, it can be very hard for teenagers to deal with a peer is dying. Yeah, yeah, I'm not going to tell you, but it shatters some of their ability to sort of defend against the feelings become overwhelming. The young persons aren't supposed to die. Teenagers feel invincible and it shatters all that.
11:36🔗AdamReally? I don't know. I got this other thought about it, which is the kids, it's almost like an injury. Like they snap back better. I mean, it's never a good time. I remember there was a couple of my good friends died in high school. It was like, oh man, this is sad. All right, well, let's eat.
11:55🔗EverclearDo you really think that you actually dealt with it?
11:59🔗DrewI remember your opening observations about Adam.
12:12🔗DrewAnd the teenagers are very good at that too.
12:14🔗AdamNo, I'm saying how dare you. I am saying. God, it's so weird, these guys. Robert and Lenny, and one of those two guys died in a Pinto station wagon, boom, burst into flames.
12:29🔗AdamOh man, pegged in between two cars. Car just went up like a torch and never got out. But the thing about it is, it was very sad. I went to both their funerals, but it didn't haunt me, I guess. I mean, what is, it's never good age to have somebody die. And in a way, I think better 16 than 26.
12:52🔗DrewNo, come on. Well, here's the point, it might be more likely to get in. You might feel more of the feelings associated with it at 26 than at 16.
13:00🔗AdamI'm just saying at 26, you could go into a stupor if your mate died and not be right for years.
13:08🔗EverclearI know from experiences similar to that. I mean, well, exactly like that. I lost my girlfriend who was like a year older than me when I was 13, like a year after my brother died.
13:23🔗EverclearRight after my brother died of an overdose. So I was 13 years old and it was pretty devastating. And I was definitely self-medicating at that time in a big way. So that I thought that helped actually it just kind of put it off until, you know, later on in life till my mid twenties when I got clean, it was just like it all came back to get me.
13:44🔗AdamAnd the suicide is even a bigger and bitterer pill to swallow for the boyfriend and or girlfriend whoever's left behind. Danny?
14:04🔗CallerI wonder like how long after that, like, is it normal? Because like, I have a lot of friends, like you're the really popular guy or whatever. And like some people are like, I haven't really asked anyone about it, but everyone just seems to want to put it in their opinion anyway. And some people, you know, think it's okay for me to move on. And some people just think I'm trying too hard to move on too quickly.
14:50🔗DrewSo it takes about six months usually to get over, not get over, but to really have completed grieving. And at that point, you're 16, you've got to have a life. He wouldn't want you to end your life. In case of his misfortune.
15:03🔗EverclearHey, Danny. Yeah, I would have too at 16.
15:06🔗DrewWell, again, both your observation at the beginning of the show, but the narcissism in there.
15:09🔗EverclearRight. Yeah, your point is, Danny? When you talk about dating with this guy, I mean, can you just start spending time with them and become friends with them? I mean, and then.
15:25🔗CallerYeah, I mean, that's like what's happening right now. It's just like, I don't know, it's like, I feel weird about it, but at the same time, like, I want to move on. I don't want to be stuck in it, you know? Like, I listen to you guys' show and I hear these messed up people all the time and I'm like, I don't want to end up like that.
15:58🔗CallerYeah, I was just kind of wondering, I've been seeing this girl for about four months and she's 10 years older than me, she's 29 and she was my cheer coach in high school.
16:14🔗AdamWhy did you have a cheer coach? Wait a minute, let's give him a chance to back out of this. Did you say beer or cheer?
17:39🔗AdamDid you get some sort of scholarship for cheering?
17:44🔗CallerYeah, you get a scholarship. You get a book scholarship and then a couple grand for tuition costs.
17:54🔗AdamThis guy's like- one instinct is you want to make fun of them, but then you see them and they got big arms and they just rattled off a push up for every point that the basketball team scored and they're in triple overtime and you think, I'm just going to make fun of them as I'm heading the other way.
18:09🔗DrewYeah, and they're getting their college paid for.
18:10🔗AdamYeah, they're sort of the gymnast guys, right? And they get to just stare up at 18-year-old vagina. You know what I want to do? Hold on a second. I had this idea. You know what one of my dream gig is? Is Spotter. Spotter at a cheerleading camp. You know those guys?
18:32🔗EverclearYou want to hold them right up here?
18:34🔗AdamNo, no. Those are the guys who are actually involved. I'm talking about the guys who stand behind the pyramid. They're not involved with the actual... It's during the competition.
18:44🔗DrewAnd they just work at these camps. They don't actually...
18:46🔗AdamThey work at the camps and they spot for the competition. Are they grown men? They're grown men. Drew, here's what you do. This is what you do.
18:56🔗AdamYou just stare at ass, like if you look down, you'll get into trouble, you understand? There's ass, there's like 17 year old girls, three or four pyramid layers high and their ass is hanging out and you just stand under them and stare at their crack for hours on in until a new batch moves in.
19:18🔗AdamAnd if you look down, you're going to get fired, so just keep those eyes up. But your idea, now you don't wear the outfit or anything, you're just blending. You're the actual, you're the spotter, you know, at those competitions and camps they have the spotters.
19:32🔗EverclearDude, how do you know so much about this?
19:35🔗AdamI see it on like ESPN3 after the Lumberjack.
19:38🔗EverclearSo you watch the cheerleading content?
19:41🔗AdamI watch anything and then I had this idea about a TV series called The Spotter. Now listen to this idea.
19:52🔗AdamNo, this is a real, this is an hour long crime drama. Here's the deal. I was one of the greatest male cheerleader and spotters ever until the Tulane pyramid incident of 1982, 1,500 coeds died. I blame myself. Don't ask.
20:14🔗AdamI know it wasn't my fault, but I blame myself when the Tulane pyramid collapsed and took out 1,500 coeds. Now, even though I'm the best, I'm sort of banished from working this small cheerleader camp in upstate New York.
20:30🔗DrewBut there's jewels and gems to be heard from this man.
20:33🔗AdamPeople know me. Once in a while ago. That's Dirk Moxie. He was one of the best spotters.
20:42🔗DrewAnd then they shake their head and shake.
20:43🔗AdamIs that for the Tulane incident? I just tell them no, that's not it.
20:46🔗DrewAnd then Susie talks to Dirk and wants to express her enthusiasm and people won't listen because it's Moxie.
20:53🔗EverclearYou're kind of the Colombo of spotters.
20:56🔗AdamI'm the Colombo of spotters, but with a little bit of like a little bit of the Hulk mixed in like I'm moving. I'm always I'm kind of I'm trying to stay ahead of my memories.
21:04🔗EverclearSo you just go every episode you're going to go from small school to small school. Going to new backwater town to backwater town.
21:11🔗AdamHigh schools, cheerleading academies, you know. And again, I use a fake name and stuff, but people people know that I was the best.
21:20🔗EverclearAnd there'll be dramas going on like drama. Little Susie's pregnant.
21:23🔗AdamI'm solving crime. I'm stopping crime within the dorms, within the gymnasiums as the spotter.
22:25🔗CallerNo, I started dating her after I had been in college.
22:28🔗AdamAll right, Tim, here's the thing. You go to all the sporting events, you got the cheerleader, you got the palm of your hand in the cheerleader's groin. You know what I mean? Chicks have a groin, right?
22:40🔗AdamYeah, you don't need a 29-year-old mom with the baggage. I mean, look, I'm not saying it couldn't work out, but you're 19, you're on the cheerleading squad, you're in college.
22:49🔗DrewI'm concerned. Whenever there's that big of a difference, I'm worried that the younger person is being exploited. Because you really just not...
22:56🔗Adam19 is the cheerleader. Where's the sweater with that tape on it?
22:59🔗EverclearIs there any point where that stops, like if you get to a certain age?
23:04🔗DrewYeah, I mean, if he were into his adult life, adults are all sort of the same age, whether 25 to like 40 or sort of, they're 28 to 45 or shorter.
23:15🔗EverclearSo a 20 year old and a 37 year old, bad idea.
23:18🔗EverclearI wish you'd have told me that earlier.
23:20🔗DrewSo, I'm not a horrible, bad idea. I mean, just enjoy, worry that they're, whenever there's a position imbalance, age imbalance, there's just the potential of exploitation. And Tim seems kind of confused and can't figure what's going on.
23:35🔗AdamJust stick with one of those cheerleaders who got your hand up. Hey, you know, some of the dialogue from The Spotter, like would go like, Dirk, Tulane was over 20 years ago, let it go. And I just grab it, I can't forget. You know what I'm saying?
23:49🔗Drew1500. Just hang your head and walk off onto the field.
23:56🔗AdamBecause of me, we were going for the record.
24:03🔗AdamAnd yeah, yeah. And then maybe I have a little flashback. You know, I'm looking up.
24:07🔗EverclearYou can make the show kind of like The Fugitive because there was actually fifteen hundred and one. But you're looking for that one kid.
24:17🔗EverclearThat might be the one at the bottom.
24:19🔗DrewHe's the one that screwed it up, the one that screwed it up.
24:21🔗EverclearBut you took the blame. You took the rap.
24:23🔗AdamRight. Yeah, it was the it was the the two chinned boy. It's like The Fugitive, one arm. An arm. Yeah, this guy had two chins. He was a fat kid. I don't remember his name, but I put him down at the bottom in the cornerstone position position and he was he was stoned and he fell apart. And that's and they blamed me, but it was him. And yeah, I'm on him. All right. That's it. I got to go. I got to work on this.
24:45🔗DrewThis is could you throw in like a concentration camp or wacky commandant or something?
24:56🔗AdamA lot of ass. And I'm I have to look at it by law. I have not enough to look at the fixate on it. If I look down, people die, you know. So I'm just there with the boner looking straight at my sweatpants. That's the profile. That's the beginning. It's like James Bond. You know, it's like the profile, the boner and the guy looking up. Art Alexakis is here tonight from Everclear in Oregon and many other places. We'll take a quick break. We'll be right back.
25:34🔗CallerCall toll free one eight six six three four four KNOW.
25:44🔗AdamThis week on The Spotter, in order to catch an arsonist, The Spotter's gonna have to become a rapist. Yes, that's, every promo works that way. We pick whatever crime, but it always ends with rapist.
26:17🔗AdamArt Alexakis is here tonight from Everclear. Everclear is coming out with a Best Of CD with some new stuff on it. We're not sure when though.
26:27🔗EverclearYep. I'm not sure when. It's not slated yet, but it's not like we get to record all these songs. They're pretty much recorded.
27:01🔗EverclearIt helps them make their numbers for the year. And I don't know. It feels like closure to me for, you know, one period of my life and then move on to a different, different kind of thing. I think the music I'm making now is, is not as a physical, not as, I don't want to say physically aggressive. Musically, it's not as musically aggressive, but lyrically, I think it is. So it's, it's kind of like more mature.
27:31🔗AdamRight. I mean, would you, would you say in the past, the music was driven by anger and energy and, and now it's a verbal articulation of it more so than the energy.
27:48🔗EverclearThe energy and the anger is still there. I think they're just, I just act out in a different way.
28:11🔗AdamAnd then we find out that, and by the way, let me say the Spotter, he catches people that fall. So everything is sort of stuff like, that chandelier is gonna come down and crush. Don't, you know, Spotter slides in, you know, it's like, you know, they say how these work. If he throws a javelin, the guy throws, you know, you know how it works, you know what I'm saying?
28:32🔗EverclearWill he catch someone every show? Or is that just like...
28:36🔗AdamWell, he'll have to become a rapist in order to catch someone that's not a rapist each show. That's why. Here's another idea. Think about this idea. It's real fast. And we're getting back to Tori. What about this? Terrorists take over Olympic training village in Colorado Springs or whatever, right? They lock up all the Olympic athletes. One of each. You got the shot putter. You got the gymnast. You got the steeplechase guy. You got all the guys. One of everything. We gotta break out. The long distance guy, the marathon runner. We gotta get this message. It's 26.2 miles away. The phones are out. Go. You've gotta make it. You gotta best this time by five.
29:24🔗AdamYou see what I'm saying? It's all using all our Olympic skills. The pole vaulter guys, the guy's gonna get us up to the second window. You see what I'm saying?
29:32🔗DrewBut the spotter could be there to catch people jumping out of windows.
29:36🔗DrewNo, new show. Well, Spotter could do a guest appearance.
29:39🔗AdamSpotter's a series. This is a movie. And everybody, and it's called like, I don't know, Going for the Gold. There's something like that, you know. And it's all, you know, it's got the hot gymnast chick. It's got the black boxer guy. You know, it's all the different Olympic sports guys all trapped. We've got to out think the terrorists and use our special skills, you see? Special skills.
30:03🔗DrewIt's kind of a spinoff of Charlie's Angels.
30:05🔗EverclearSo, yeah, there's going to be a whole crew, right?
30:07🔗AdamYeah. Yeah. So it's no, it's sort of like, you know, it is like those movies, like The Dirty Dozen. It's like, you're the, you're the knife thrower, you're the demolitions expert, you're the computer hacker, you know, those movies. It's like that, except for it's all Olympic sports.
30:23🔗EverclearGot it. Yeah. So it's like Ocean's Eleven.
30:26🔗AdamYeah. As a matter of fact, that's a good name.
30:29🔗EverclearBecause kids today, they say Dirty Dozen, they're like.
30:31🔗AdamYeah. It's Ocean's Eleven. That's right. In the Olympic Village.
30:43🔗DrewThis has got to be like anxiety provoking, to say the least, that she was building up to tell us something very important, and then you started rambling, and then her cousin walks in.
30:53🔗AdamIt's the rambling. Jesus didn't ramble. You understand? Do you hear me, Drew?
32:18🔗CallerYeah. I mean, they have like, they were recording like one of my birthday parties. We were at the park and I threw sand in her eyes. And I mean, violently we didn't like each other. She dislocated her shoulder. And to get back to her, I kicked her in her shin.
32:51🔗CallerWe've tried that, Jasmine, we've tried that several times, but I really, we both really love each other.
32:58🔗AdamAnd now you guys are living under the same roof. And the roof is over the same house? Oh, Christ. See, sometimes not always over the same house. Yeah. People don't specify that. Tori? Well, you guys, other than the sort of general chaos that is your family and the people passing away and stuff, were you ever abused just in a wholesale way? Really? Because this really just seems like somebody's been abused.
33:55🔗AdamAll right, so Tori, do you feel you're just a full-blown lesbian? Yeah, of course. And your stepsister feels the same way? Well, see, they're the cause of some strife for you, because.
34:14🔗DrewIf she goes off with a guy, I think that's going to feel.
34:16🔗AdamYeah, and why? Why you keep telling her she's bi? It seems like something you want me to tell her.
34:24🔗DrewYou can tell she's not lesbian the way you are.
34:27🔗EverclearShe's kind of a negative self-talk, kind of.
34:31🔗DrewBut also she may really pick up on the fact that her stepsister is just confused about her sexual orientation. Let's goof around, but not commit to it.
34:38🔗EverclearThat's true, but it sounds like Tori, do you really have proof that she's not gay? Like 100% gay? Or do you just say that because you're worried about her not being gay and leaving you? Of course not.
34:59🔗CallerBut, I don't know, I mean, we've talked about it before, she says that she doesn't want to, you know, be with a guy because she's had boyfriends and she's never liked it.
35:19🔗AdamIf there's some Junior College exchange program where they take goofballs from other states and send them over here...
35:25🔗DrewHow about she? Is she going to stay at home?
35:26🔗AdamHow much range you got on that moped, Rob?
35:28🔗CallerWell, right now I just want to kind of stay home because the reason is like it was different when before, because like we didn't really consider ourselves related almost.
35:47🔗AdamOh, I see. So now that's made like some sort of bridge between the two of you in the blood department. Well, look, here's the thing, Tori. I don't know what went on in the past. I'm just picturing a supreme chaos reigning over in your family, before your dad left.
36:07🔗CallerIt was all happened because like when my mom got breast cancer, she went away for treatment and it was just my older sister here who was, you know, looking after us, making sure we didn't kill each other. And one day, like we just kind of looked at each other different and like, I don't know, like, she asked me like to scrub her back or something, she didn't tell me, like, ask me just to scrub her back.
36:31🔗AdamRight. Okay. Well, that's same thing that happened with me.
36:44🔗DrewBut the boundary issues are going to haunt you.
36:46🔗AdamI don't want to bum your high, but what are the chances your soulmate is living with you? You know what I mean?
36:52🔗DrewYou're supposed to say she's not gay by your own description.
36:55🔗AdamThis is like when your neighbor turns out to be your best friend and then you hit 18 and you realize, wait a minute, that guy's not my best friend. He just lives next door to me. I mean, I'm not doesn't mean we can't talk anymore, but there's that part that you guys all got to hear when you're young. And I'm not telling you turn your back on your friends, but I'm saying you, you know, your soulmate sits behind you in English class, you're in love with this person, your best friend lives across the street. And all of this is caused because you don't have a car, right?
37:24🔗AdamSoon as you get out and start moving around and going to college and spreading around a little, then you start really heading toward the people you like, you have common interests in and so on and so forth. And these so-called best friends or soulmates or loved ones, it's like, you keep in touch with them. Maybe, maybe not.
38:16🔗AdamYou were like a pressure cooker, except for instead of steam coming out of the top, passion was oozing from your pressure cooker. That's what they call that.
38:27🔗AdamAlthough it didn't come out of my sleeve very easily. All right. I'm going to have to work on that. A little soda water. Get that passion right out.
40:02🔗CallerSo I have a little quick story for you. How I met my wife. Hey, going through high school, she was the captain of the cheerleading squad, I was the captain of the football team and her mom was the coach. Her mom wanted me to go do the cheerleading stuff with her and the first step we learned was called a chair. Where you have to put your hand right on their butt that like sit on your hand.
40:24🔗AdamYeah, I mean, it's sort of part butt, part crotch, you know?
40:30🔗CallerSo her mom, exactly what she told me was to put your hand right in her coo.
41:05🔗DrewBut you were captain of the football team. How could you do both those things?
41:09🔗CallerOh, there were different times. Because with the football season, and then they had a competition time, too, where they went, like, during the summer.
41:18🔗AdamPicture him, like, on the sideline, yelling, go me. Okay, all right, it's, it's, okay, Drew, is that, that's what, you're taking, taking time away from my sermon on the mountain so we can talk day holes? I put my, I palm-F'd my girlfriend before her mom told me to fister. That, that's it?
41:41🔗DrewThis now is Cookie who we talked to, I think last night. Remember Cookie jumped out of a car when she saw a freeway accident where a tanker truck basically caught on fire.
42:12🔗AdamWell, hyperbole makes it better. What would have been better if it was a tanker truck? Cokie? Yes. All right. But we were saying you had the alcoholic gene because-
42:24🔗DrewAnd we saw the way you managed Thrill, the way you were activated by Thrill.
42:27🔗AdamNon-alcoholic, stay in the car, call 911, roll up the window.
42:31🔗I thought about that long and hard. And here, I feel that I have control over my self and drinking in a hole. But for me to feel that I have-
42:45🔗AdamAs a hole, I think to me, actually drinking in a drainage ditch.
42:49🔗It makes me feel like, am I gonna wind up under a bridge drinking mouthwash?
42:53🔗DrewWell, the gene means you can get out of control with it. And if the switch gets thrown, you're at risk for that. Just having the alcohol, mom puts you at risk.
43:03🔗Well, she's sober now and she's, you know, she's really supportive with me and-
43:08🔗CallerI did manage to get out of control, but I stopped that myself without treatment or aid.
43:15🔗DrewWell, it is a progressive condition and it will resurface in some fashion. And we picked up on you having that biology based on your behavior. And lo and behold, we were right. You have it. And then we didn't know even about your alcoholic mom yet. Now you told us that, so just the alcoholic mom puts you 50% probability of having the gene. Now you've basically told us you've got it.
43:38🔗AdamIf your dad's an alcoholic too, it's still 50%.
43:55🔗DrewHaving disturbed family systems may make your disease come on earlier and more intensely, but just the predisposition is a pure biological predisposition.
44:08🔗AdamAll right, so this is my policy. When I fart out a kid, if my old lady turns into an alcoholic, I go alcoholic too, since it doesn't up the ante.
44:19🔗DrewThat's right. It will make the kid's disease worse, but it won't make the probability of the disease worse.
44:26🔗DrewAnd if the kid, it's a daughter, she'll have depressive illness too.
44:30🔗AdamTrue, Drew said it was cool. All right, you wanna talk? Oh, we got a Germany or Florida. Andrew? Art, this little game we like to call Germany or Florida. All bizarre stories, most stories that have to do with crime emanate from either Germany or Florida.
44:51🔗AdamI said bizarre. Andrew? Go ahead, buddy. You give us the clues. We tell you Germany or Florida.
44:57🔗Right. All right. A guy tried to siphon some gas. It was in like just a regular, I guess, a gas tank and he siphoned the gas, but I guess he sucked at siphoning gas and he choked on it. And he ended up getting a stomach ache. Then he realized it wasn't actually hooked up to gas. He had accidentally siphoned sewage water. Nice.
45:22🔗AdamSo he thought he was siphoning gas out of a storage tank at like a gas station and he was in the sewage. Yeah, right.
45:30🔗But he accidentally, like, I guess put in the wrong thing and it ended up being a sewage tank.
46:44🔗AdamArt Alexakis, everybody. We'll take ourselves a quick break. Dear, dear, dear friend, take a quick break. We'll be right back. Here it is, Bottom Line, it sucks being single today.
46:55🔗CallerTons of lame people and no decent prospects. Call the Dateline.
46:59🔗CallerCall the Dateline. 1-877-889-DATE. Love Line will be right back, so get your problems ready.
47:26🔗AdamHey, everybody, it's Loveline. Phone number, 1-800-LOVE-191. Dr. Drew, Board Certified Season, blah. Art Alexakis, dear friend on the show tonight from Everclear, of course. You can look out for that Best Of CD. And yeah, thinking about Everclear while I was walking up my stairs today, thinking, a lot of hits, a lot of hits. And Drew's thinking, Chris the engineer's not in the room.
48:10🔗DrewFinally, finally registered. What do you got to do?
48:12🔗AdamYeah, he's the strong but silent type engineer, Chris. He is, he's like a Navy seal, you know? He'd come in under cover of darkness, cut your throat with piano wire and be out, climbing that rope to the helicopter. Not a ripple in the water. You wouldn't even know he was there. Stealthy. They call him the Black Panther. You know what I mean? Be up in that tree, pounce on you. You wouldn't even know what hit you. Carrie? You're 27? Drew, hold on a second.
48:53🔗DrewThey never really specify what the injury was. As best I can imagine, something had happened to what's called the posterior circulation of his brain.
49:01🔗DrewWhich is the cerebellum and the mid-band, the brain stem and the motor, so where the motor area sort of feeds into the brain.
49:09🔗AdamHow does this go, by the way, that these things become front page news for many, many weeks and there never anybody, you know, at a certain point, after reading article number 55 about it, I want to go, look, what's the prognosis? Is he going to walk? Can he talk? Where is he?
49:37🔗AdamThere seems to be some sort of shame that's like, you know, people are coming up going on, sort of weaving these tales, these optimistic tales about, I looked at him, he squeezed my hand, I knew it meant he would be all right.
50:00🔗DrewNot a HIPAA. HIPAA laws, yeah, okay. The mayor such that hair takers, medical hair takers, cannot talk to anybody. It's illegal to say anything.
50:11🔗DrewEven amongst colleagues, you're not allowed to talk to yourself or somebody could overhear it. So doctors are scared asless to say anything about patients unless the patients direct them in writing what to say and when to say it. So the people actually know what's going on are clammed up. You've got the laypeople, the family, whatnot, distorting things, trying to figure things out, trying to have no idea what they're talking about or what the situation is. They're the ones that are providing information to the press. The press are taking things further and amplifying these sort of stories as always. So it's distorted, amplified misinformation. So there's no way to figure out what's going on. I have to try to decipher, to decode the press now. Whether it comes to any medical issue.
50:53🔗AdamWell, when you hear collapse on stage from dehydration, you think junkie.
50:58🔗DrewI think alcohol, yeah, I think drugs. That's the only one. If it's a 20 year old guy.
51:04🔗AdamOh, it's great when the guy's gotta pull out a few concert dates because of dehydration.
51:07🔗DrewThat's drugs and alcohol, right? 20 year olds dehydrated.
51:11🔗AdamHave a Sprite and get back on stage, A-hole.
51:13🔗DrewYou remember the day when you used to do football practice, 105 degree heat, not allowed to drink water. Did you get dehydrated and faint?
51:21🔗AdamNo, but I did miss some concert dates. I had to pull out of the van store that year.
52:01🔗AdamYes. Is this the drunken broad from Portland? Is a pain in my side?
52:06🔗CallerYou sound much more suave coming through my phone than over the radio.
52:11🔗AdamListen, I appreciate all of this, but please tell us your problem or we're going to hang up.
52:15🔗CallerMy problem is this. I have been married for about a year now, but I've been with my husband for about 10 years. I'm going to try and say this appropriately so you don't get bleeped. But whenever I give him oral, one of his testicles completely disappears, sucks all the way back into his abdomen.
52:38🔗DrewNo, hey, Carrie, that's a normal thing. Happens all the time. Many men get that. Some guys get it both sides. And the test goes up in the inguinal canal during the contraction.
52:51🔗AdamThat's why I snap one of those dental rubber bands around.
53:58🔗AdamI'd say she cocktails at best. Carrie says.
54:02🔗CallerHey, listen, I'm driving through the mountains. I'm going to say thank you guys so much.
54:05🔗DrewWait a second. Do you perform at this club?
54:08🔗CallerNo, I don't. I don't. Although, I'd like to, but...
54:12🔗EverclearYou know why in Portland, though? It's the highest rate of women that go to strip clubs with their boyfriends or just with friends and just hang out. It's casual.
54:27🔗EverclearIt's big clubs. Plus, there's more strip clubs per capita in Portland, Oregon than anywhere else in the country. Yeah, man. People will have like a little diner, a little, you know, just crappy diner, you know, and there'll be like a girl right up here where you're trying to eat your Monte Cristo sandwich and dip it and stuff.
54:47🔗AdamAnd you're like, listen, this is a hardware store, sweetie. I'm just coming in. I'm just getting some toggle bolts here. Yeah, I know. I know. We're just, you know, give us some money in the can, what do you think? I like that. I like I like it when when businesses expand a little like I always like the diversify. I like the car wash when you go when you go to the cash register at the car wash and you're standing there and you're gone. Yeah, it's cars can be another 10 minutes. You're looking down. It's like, hey, maybe I'll buy a water pipe or some noon chucks or a quick plate home.
55:19🔗DrewBut isn't that some fruit popcorn with a real mystery in it? What what leads them to choose those objects?
55:26🔗AdamI'll tell you, if you go to there's one in Hollywood that has a mini crossbow pistol, crossbow pistol. I swear to God, like nudie playing cards, noon chucks, weird sort of novelty weapons and as well as like the Kleenex, the road maps, the air fresheners, just bizarre. You know what it is, I really do think that there are guys who just show up at these places and go, look, I can use just two square feet of corner floor space over there. I'll slide in this popcorn machine and you'll make extra 85 bucks a month, what he said.
56:07🔗AdamYeah, I mean, there's just these guys just stuffing things everywhere. I just like, I really like that everything is done.
56:14🔗DrewSo they don't have to have an inventory, these guys maintain the inventory for them, I mean, yeah, they're just hucksters, basically. Things that can't be sold anywhere else, basically.
56:21🔗AdamIt's the mini crossbows next to the bootleg cologne, which is next to the bad jewelry.
56:29🔗EverclearAnd then it's really next to the next to the hash pipe or the rack of CDs of people you've never heard of.
56:36🔗AdamI love that. Ray Stevens, greatest hits and just like crazy, greatest hits stuff. And then the ones who just have the theme like Gone Truckin. The greatest song to truck to.
56:47🔗EverclearThe best one that has ever showed up in a truck truck truck stop or car wash. The Jazz Wolf. Do you know about the Jazz Wolf?
56:57🔗EverclearOh, I'm surprised you don't know this, Adam.
57:00🔗DrewIs it a late night? Is it is it is it? There's there's no about it.
57:04🔗EverclearThere's these you know how in truck stops, you can find like the ambient sound CDs, you know, this and that. Well, this is a cross between like ambient sound of of nature with like bad Kenny G type, you know, smooth jazz. But like you'll be listening to Kenny G like jamming and all of a sudden you hear in the back. Yeah, it's jazz. All the way through.
57:31🔗DrewOr some of their they have like waves going right. Ocean water.
57:34🔗EverclearWell, yeah, there's those two. So so it's like you get a massage.
57:38🔗AdamSo it's like the stuff you put on when you're when you're trying to go to sleep or you or you get a massage. But it actually has that day the wolf that gay saxophone, which is more of like an oboe that Kenny G plays. By the way, if I play the sax, I'm offended that he calls that thing you want to bury sex.
57:55🔗EverclearYou don't want to auto sex. That's a soprano.
57:59🔗AdamSo who decided anyone like that garbage, by the way, I know it's he's an easy target. But Drew, I remember you're talking there and stuff sucks compared to the jazz that's out there like, hey, if you want real jazz, you can have it. Yeah. All right. You know what I got? And this is the definition of rape, by the way, for for male, which is you got to be careful when you buy those CDs at the truck stop because it'll say like original hits. And then it turns out it'll be done by, you know, Papa do run run or something like one cover band will do are the Beach Boys and the Beatles and all that crap. I got one. This is diabolical. This is a rich. This is the hits sung by the original artist. But it's not the same.
58:46🔗AdamIt's them 30 years later and the guy's on a Casio.
58:50🔗EverclearAnd so it's like kind of the original recordings.
58:52🔗AdamRight. This is the original artist. And you start listening and you're thinking, yeah, that doesn't kind of sounds like that grass roots song. And then it's like, but something's different. Like it starts dawning on you all of us immediately worse, though. Yeah. And then you realize that you think, no, but it's still the same guy singing it. And then you realize it's not the arrangement is different. The musician, there are no session musicians. It's the guy with the Casio. Really? Is that what you want to do to your people, by the way? Drag the original singer from the Casio or the grassroots out of the office, bar stool to cut some crap, to fool everybody and put, you know what I mean? All right. And you know what? You know, these are like these pills that add two inches of girth to your penis with the money back guarantee. No one ever goes back, especially a truck stop. What are you going to turn around and drive 600 miles back? Unless I'm going to need my seven dollars.
1:00:02🔗EverclearOh, God. This girl calls into my radio show every week. And she's from Portland. Now, let me explain. She's this is actually very interesting because she's become part of the show. She's from Portland, but she's living up there now and she can't listen to my radio show every Sunday.
1:00:20🔗EverclearSo what she does is she calls in, we put her on the line and she listens to it online. She's got unlimited minutes on the weekends and it's kind of cool. And every now and then when the phone slow down a little bit, we'll go to her and start talking to her. And she's got a big crush on me, but she was telling me how hot she thought I was. And then she she said that I was to tell him, Kristen, you're on the top of my list of older men to do.
1:00:47🔗AdamYou got to be careful with those old guys.
1:01:30🔗CallerI guess I could throw Adam on there, though.
1:01:32🔗AdamYeah, I think you could get Baccala, by the way. Yeah, call us publishers. Yeah, well, see, Art, you can't get. Art's too much man for you. Yeah, but Baccala, Baccala's available. That's what I'm saying.
1:01:49🔗EverclearYeah, Ted, I think Ted's, I don't think Ted's in the running personally.
1:01:53🔗AdamNo, Ted's in a committed relationship.
1:01:56🔗CallerI want to know what you think about the whole same sex marriage thing that just happened in Portland today.
1:02:03🔗EverclearOh, they started marrying people. I think it's awesome. Personally, you're asking my opinion? I think it's cool. Who are they hurting? Let them do what they want to do. And I think it's cool for Portland to do that. I was actually very proud when I saw that on the news today.
1:02:17🔗AdamThanks, Kirsten. Listen, here's my thing. I think the problem that Bush has is with the actual ceremony. You know, the two dudes standing there.
1:02:27🔗AdamOr the two chicks standing there. I feel like...
1:02:31🔗EverclearIf you get it by mail order, it'd be okay?
1:02:32🔗AdamNo, if he said, look, I'll have all the same sex marriage as you want. Oney has got to dress up like a dude. Oney's got to put the beard on and grab a cigar or something.
1:02:44🔗DrewIn other words, everyone's got to look like the two people on the top of the wedding cake. Otherwise, not a wedding.
1:02:48🔗AdamOney who needs to dress like the Monopoly guy. Put like a top hat on and a mustache. First off, it'd be funny.
1:03:02🔗AdamBecause here's the whole thing. Once they're married, I don't think people really have such a difficulty with it. It's really the actual standing there part.
1:03:13🔗DrewThat's all I'm saying. I have like zero feelings about it. It's like whatever. You know what I mean?
1:03:20🔗EverclearWe're fighting about- Well, that's basically why are we talking about this?
1:03:23🔗DrewRight, it's troubling to me. But what- I can't even swear you read it or write somebody's arguments. I've heard. Because I just don't- It just seems so ridiculous.
1:03:31🔗EverclearWell, it is ridiculous. And the only reason it's going to come up is because it's an election year.
1:03:36🔗DrewBut are people really going to get behind it being an issue? And are people that-
1:03:42🔗EverclearWell, supposedly, even Republican leaders on the Hill are saying that that amendment's never going to happen. It's a dead issue.
1:03:50🔗DrewI can't imagine it would. And nobody cares.
1:03:53🔗AdamI was talking to Jimmy about this and I was saying that, I think he was talking about it on a show too, that we should cut a deal with the gays. It's like, I don't know why this doesn't exist in society where Bush goes, okay, listen, you guys can get married, but we're gonna need something in return. You know what I mean? You want something? Fine. You give us somebody or something.
1:04:17🔗AdamWe'd like rainbows back. You know what I mean? You guys took our rainbows and turned into a gay flag. We, we wish our rainbows. We want the rainbow back and we want to be able to wear like a kerchief on our neck. You know, I'd like to be able to wear, that's something I would like to be able to wear. I'd like that back. Jimmy suggested parades. Like we went, went parades like- Loafers? Yeah, loafers. There's a few, there's apparel, there's symbols. Few symbols. There's a few things we would like to have wrestled back. I was saying, you trade, you want to get married? What's it worth to you? What's it gonna cost you?
1:04:51🔗AdamYou know, I mean, this is how this country was founded. Right? Give us something.
1:04:55🔗DrewWe traded like that with the Indians. Give us the rainbow back.
1:04:58🔗EverclearYou know what they have? They have that thing that girls have that, you know, when somebody lights your cigarette and you touch their hand, you know, guys, gay guys can do that. If I do that, I'm going to get hit.
1:05:10🔗AdamRight. We would like, yeah. We would like.
1:05:20🔗EverclearAll right. Here's a question kind of off, cause I'm running a, I'm running kind of a, I'm trying to figure this out because I've been in an argument with someone about this. When a woman does that.
1:06:01🔗AdamWith lesions if she ain't into you. Like feel what it's like, like once in a blue moon, a chick has to hug that guy from the office, it gives him the creeps because it's her birthday or something and they threw a little party or something. It's like an ironing board just tilting against the wall, you know? That's what it feels like. Here's how you know.
1:06:20🔗AdamChick, oh yeah. Oh. Chick, in far as you get the pan. Yeah, yeah. It's like they're putting an after shave on your shoulder. You get the slap. It's the one my stepdad gives me because he's not, he's sort of robotic and he's an engineer and he's not sure what to do. So it's always like, see you later there, John. I was like, it's like he's makin a pizza on my back. You know, it's always weird. But the point is, is if a chick likes ya, she'll give you the drag.
1:06:53🔗DrewShe'll hand- Or she'll touch when you're lighting something.
1:06:56🔗AdamHere, they make excuses to touch. Like, they can't even help it. Like, they'll do this. Like, if you said somethin funny, they'll go, they'll go, they'll go, oh, oh, all right, that's so funny. They'll put their hand- They'll pat you. They will make excuses to touch. Or conversely, make excuses not to touch. Right, so if you get that-
1:07:15🔗EverclearI agree 100% and I, most men I talk to and even most women I talk to agree with me.
1:07:24🔗EverclearThe woman I'm having this discussion with absolutely doesn't agree with me, but she does do it with, and I watch her with the same type of guy and a lot of times the same guy.
1:07:57🔗AdamAnd that for that person- She will be alluring even if it's with her dad. You know, it's like that's the only way she knows to interact with men.
1:08:06🔗EverclearAnd they usually don't even know it.
1:08:07🔗AdamAnd they don't know it. So in that case, you could get a woman who touches your hand who has no interest in you because that's her mode.
1:08:14🔗DrewAnd that's by the way, that's a sign of somebody if you knew that she was doing that, who would be bewildered if you took it as a, if you sort of started then coming on, she'd be like, well, where'd you get that idea? I would write. Yeah, right.
1:08:27🔗AdamBut if you find a chick who does not do that with other guys and all of a sudden is dragging her hand down your shoulder every five minutes, she's into you.
1:09:04🔗AdamGodsmack coming in here tomorrow night. Art here tonight from Everclear. We're going to get back to the phones. I'm seeing a threesome question. And then there's Tasha down here. Nothing can help.
1:09:24🔗AdamWell, Drew, you've been rambling on about your horribly ill-fated movie ideas and television shows. Let's talk to Edward because he's only been on hold for 10 minutes and Christina's been on hold for 104 minutes. And Tasha, we should wait till she gets up to 100 minutes because she's been on 97 and a half minutes.
1:10:19🔗CallerUh, it was just, we started dating and then we got serious towards like December and stuff and started going out. And, um, we ended up, one of my good friends, we went partying over at my girlfriend's house and, um, we all were drinking and stuff and, and they both had gone upstairs and like, I started going at it and I came upstairs.
1:10:42🔗AdamThey both, that's, that's your girlfriend and your friend.
1:10:52🔗CallerYeah. And you know, I wanted like a-
1:10:55🔗AdamBy the way, hold on, just to, this one might cut you off. When you say, uh, you and your friend went over to your girlfriend's house, uh, you gotta specify female friend.
1:11:07🔗AdamSo, uh, so now the two chicks are upstairs, getting it on. They don't invite you, they just steal away?
1:11:14🔗CallerOh, well, they'd invited me, I was just downstairs, walking everybody out and stuff and making sure that I had designated drivers and all that. So. Sure. Get a phone call that one of my friends was passing around, so I said it's nothing. Yeah. But anyway, I'd gone upstairs and I heard her like, screaming like I've never heard the scream before. It wasn't even like an intimate scream. I guess you would call it like a pleasureful scream.
1:11:38🔗EverclearRight, right. A what kind of scream?
1:11:52🔗AdamPleasureful in every puff. All right. So she had a pleasureful scream.
1:11:59🔗CallerAnd when I walked up there, she was up on the headboard. My girlfriend was up on the headboard and my female friend was fingering her. But like fingering.
1:12:11🔗AdamHold on. Hold on a second. I love a good fingering story, but this is bogus or you're just an idiot.
1:12:28🔗AdamNot the popcorn. Edward. This is bogus.
1:12:35🔗EverclearWhy are you doing this? Why? What would he get out of it? Let's see.
1:12:39🔗AdamAnd how did it happen? And God, you know, is there anything worse than a 19 year old guy? Is there any any creature worse? No.
1:12:51🔗Everclear17? At least no, I get to see 19 is worse because they're out of school. The 17 year olds have the excuse of still being a minor. The 19 year olds, I get them all the time. They're the worst callers that call in the show. The 19 or 20 year olds that live at home with their parents in the suburbs.
1:13:28🔗AdamWow, that's a guy who worked on a minesweep in Vietnam and was hooked on pain pills. By the way, no worse foreman to have than the Vietnam vet who did a couple tours on the minesweep and is strung out on pain meds. Yeah, that's good times. That's a great guy to see at 7 a.m.
1:13:53🔗AdamI'll tell you, this dude, this guy was the meanest guy I ever met in my life and used to make these proclamations where he would say, look, I'm going to get, he would say stuff like if two guys were sitting on scaffolding a couple of stories up doing some tuck work, some repointing work, meaning take an old brick building on the side of the brick, you'd have to take a grinder and buzz out the old mortar. By the way, think about a horrible job that if you buzz out the old mortar just an inch or so deep and then you take new mortar and use a tuck trowel just a half inch thick and you stuff new mortar into the thing. Well, on an old brick building the mortar starts to decay and it starts to come undone. You can literally take your finger and pick it out. So obviously you can't take it all out. You got to take out the outer layer and it's called repointing. Anyway, me and another guy just sitting up there and some guy named Doug just sitting feet hanging off the scaffolding repointing. He walks by, stop talking, no conversation between the radio or anything. We're sitting as far away as I am from you fixing the bricks. He didn't like the conversing during the thing.
1:15:05🔗DrewBut be fair, you probably ramble on a bit then too.
1:15:07🔗AdamI wasn't. You know me, I'm not a talker. The point is, Mike would make the announcement that one of you is going to quit by the end of the week. I will get you to quit. I will ride you so hard you will quit. I'm not going to fire you. You will beg. You will beg to quit.
1:15:25🔗AdamHe fired a lot of guys. He was an a-hole. He was a mean, mean dude, and he'd scare you physically. But the greatest story is the only thing the guy ever liked was this puppy he had named Buckwheat. And he loved Buckwheat. And it was the only time you ever saw the guy smile. Like he'd come in, he'd start yelling at everyone, and then he'd be like, come here, Buckwheat. You know, people compensate with their pets, their colossal pricks, and then their sweetest sugar with the pets. As a matter of fact, I hate to say it, but most of the PDA holes are this way, too. It's like they love pets, they hate people. Really, they're much worse to people than are to pets. He loved Buckley. One day, we're working on a job right here in Wilshire, and he told the one guy I used to ride all the time, Jeff Gaines. He said, Jeff, you watch Buckwheat while I'm gone. I'll be back in an hour. He took off down the driveway in his pickup truck. The dog started chasing the truck, ran out onto Wilshire. Mike just turned his truck onto Wilshire and started driving away. Buckwheat got squashed. But Mike just drove away. And this guy, Jeff, was like, oh my God, oh my God, he's going to come back in an hour. We kind of like replace Buckwheat. We've got to get like a new dog and pay him. Like everyone just spread out. Like, oh, this is Jeff. Sorry, buddy. We're splitting. I mean, you're on your own here. Yeah. I mean, we thought he was going to like physically assault him, you know, when he came back. Like, where's Buckwheat? I left you in charge of. No worse guy to do that. I left you in charge of and the dog's dead. Yeah, it's good.
1:17:00🔗AdamI'm not. Oh, way. Am I going to be around here with Buckwheat when you deliver Buckwheat's corpse to Mike? It'd be horrible.
1:17:06🔗EverclearNow, did Mike run over his own dog?
1:17:08🔗AdamNo, another another car ran over it, but he the dog was chasing Mike's truck when it got ran over on Wilshire. It's good times. Good times. Tasha.
1:17:21🔗CallerOK, so I am man, depressive and I have a lot of anxiety and whatever non pleasant things and I have been on various medications for like the last three years and nothing worked. I'm like at my wit's end right now. I just, I don't know, is there any other like form of, I don't know, something to help me besides medication?
1:17:44🔗DrewWhat are the symptoms you're trying to control?
1:17:45🔗CallerJust anxiety and depression and I don't know, that.
1:18:21🔗DrewSo, that is, what you need to think of is that in addition to having this bipolar condition where your mood fluctuates wildly and rapidly between very, very high highs and very, very low lows, there's also a deficiency in your ability to sort of regulate your feelings and feel complete as a person and maintain boundaries, and that's something you've got to work on in therapy. So, are you getting therapy? Well, it takes a long time, and I bet you have had times where you've been under control, just you're not right now. And one of the things about being borderline is you can't tolerate frustration and you're a patient and it feels like an emergency right now. Everything seems very dramatic.
1:19:02🔗AdamWhat are some things she can do other than go to therapy twice a week?
1:19:35🔗DrewAnd also, but spending time with friends, just talking, people who...
1:19:38🔗CallerThat's another problem. I can't have relations with anybody.
1:19:42🔗DrewYeah. Do you kind of freak them out? Yeah. Yeah. Well, somebody will care about you. You have to make sure it's not somebody needs to fix you. How about going to a 12-step program? Maybe, you know, there's something called Emotions Anonymous.
1:19:55🔗DrewYeah. And that's, again, the idea being that you can create a structured relationship with somebody when you have trouble maintaining those kinds of boundaries.
1:20:04🔗DrewIt's been around. I'm not sure. I don't usually recommend it because I'm not clear what it's doing, but Tasha's just looking for a way to have a relationship.
1:20:12🔗AdamWhen do you have a cake after you've been talking to people for a year, should you be giving a cake?
1:20:16🔗DrewYeah, I don't know what the recovery part is in the EA.
1:20:19🔗AdamOh, I can see my mom getting involved with that group.
1:20:47🔗AdamYeah, chicks don't snore. She's only been on hold for 114 minutes, well 115 minutes. This guy's got a quick automotive question. Pete? Yeah. You're 25? Yeah. What's happening? You got an automotive question? I do. Yeah.
1:21:05🔗CallerI have a Jeep with a 5-liter V8 in it. Boring.
1:21:43🔗DrewWe used to think they were guns. Now they are.
1:21:44🔗AdamBackfires are awesome. They are when fuel that is not combusted goes down the exhaust pipe and then re-ignites inside the exhaust manifold or even the tailpipe somewhere. Somewhere along its travels reignites and that's what that boom is. So and I'm not an expert on it, but I did have a friend, actually the same guy I used to carpool with through these horrible construction jobs, drove a VW van and he could get his car to backfire on cue by like he'd pop it in neutral, push on the gas, flood it a little, drop it back in the gear and pow! You know he's doing it on the freeway, under the freeway in the tunnel underneath and there would be like kids walking to school and he'd just come sliding across and drop it in and just boom and watch everyone hit the deck. It was good times.
1:22:38🔗EverclearYeah, I had a friend with a Baja bug that could do that.
1:22:42🔗AdamWell, okay, here's the thing. The gas is not being combusted properly and it's running rich. It's using up fuel. Something's happened. Okay, so maybe you got a bad, you may have a bad, Pete, bad cylinder, I bet you got a bad cylinder. Guys, listen, check your distributor cap and then check your rotor inside of that and then maybe even check your wires. Let's try that.
1:23:10🔗AdamCouldn't hurt. What's that? It might have a cylinder that's not burning the fuel.
1:23:16🔗DrewRight. What does the distributor have to do with that?
1:23:18🔗AdamThe distributor is sending the spark through the wire to the spark plugs and if you've got a bad cap or bad rotor, the number six cylinder may not be getting a spark and never igniting.
1:23:29🔗AdamThat's the only thing I can think of. It's something with the carburetor, something with the distributor cap. Check that. Art Alexakis is here tonight from Everclear. Alright, I start talking about car distributor caps and I saw Art start to wilt.
1:24:17🔗AdamPow. You go right under. All right. Art is here. He's going to stay awake for one more break. One more break. We'll be right back after this.
1:25:15🔗Oh, Adam, I love you to death, but I couldn't believe you were wrong on this one.
1:25:18🔗AdamI don't know that much about backfires, to tell you the truth.
1:25:22🔗Generally, if it's happening on deceleration, it'll be caused by a vacuum leak or unburnt fuel, something of that nature. But if it's happening while you're driving at a constant speed, most likely, it's the ignition system arcing off the block itself, like a bad wire arcing off a manifold or something.
1:25:40🔗AdamAnd it's igniting in the exhaust manifold?
1:25:43🔗No, it's not igniting at all. It's actually creating an arc between the wire and the metal of the block.
1:25:51🔗AdamAnd where's the backfire occurring, though?
1:26:36🔗AdamNo, it's not the starter system. Face is something arcing off the block. Well, anyway, Christina, I always liked this one, too. Uh, Adam, hey, I love your work. Can't believe what I heard.
1:26:46🔗AdamYeah, no, this is in the tailpipe, like you said, in the unburnt fuel reigniting. Listen, I don't know that much about that stuff, but I'd still say it was a pretty good description of it.
1:27:29🔗Um, actually, my question is pretty short and to the point. I, uh, just started, um, really, uh, spending relationships with my high school sweetheart.
1:27:41🔗DrewSpending relationships? Is that what she said?
1:28:16🔗DrewI understand, in retrospect, but at 21, what would you have said the reason was then?
1:28:21🔗The reason I would say is that we owned a business, and the more money that came in between us, and as the business was growing, um, things got a little bit shaky in regards to trust, in regards to...
1:28:34🔗DrewAlright, Suzie, stop. Let me translate. The boyfriend wanted to screw around and in fact started to screw around. Is that right?
1:28:43🔗CallerNo, he would have never cheated on me.
1:28:47🔗AdamIt was kind of cathartic then. It was about the cash register. The guy was dipping into...
1:28:52🔗I think, I mean, I don't really know what... He was a bit more overweight than I was, I guess. And so there were some insecurity issues on his parts. And, I mean, it got to the point where his jealousy issues... I was coming home from the grocery store and he would give me a hug and check my back pockets for a phone number from the bag boy. I mean, it was just absolutely ridiculous.
1:29:14🔗AdamMaybe he was just seeing if you had some candy on you or something. He was jealous you were around all that food.
1:29:20🔗DrewHe became very controlling. All right.
1:29:22🔗AdamWhat kind of business did you guys have?
1:29:42🔗AdamThat's the whole thing. Here's the deal on this show. If I ask a question, you give an answer. If you're right or not, say, that's fine. But we're moving on. All right. Give me one last chance. Susie.
1:30:05🔗DrewHow dare you? I'm shocked. What kind of maniacs would own that kind of business?
1:30:12🔗AdamYou crazy kids with your miniature screwdrivers. Your super tiny screwdrivers. All right. I'd rather not say. What the hell is wrong? All right. I'm done with you. You know what I don't like? I don't like people do that stuff like, listen, I got an idea for a script. Oh, what is it?
1:30:31🔗AdamI can't talk about it. Oh, shut up, you self-important blowhard. I'd rather not say. I've never even said that about anything ever. It's either just shut up or or I'll tell you. But it's not. I'd rather it. You know what it is? It's like you got a super boring, crappy business. And if you said rather not say now, it's all of a sudden you're James Bond, who is very intriguing. Must be some. I'm picturing a black attache case made out of ballistic steel handcuffed to her. She walks to the airport heading to a charter jet for destinations unknown. Stuffing Wayfair lenses back into it after fat people sit on their sunglasses. Fantastic. I'm done with everyone, Drew.
1:31:27🔗AdamI don't know. I don't know what the Loveline on hold record is, Drew. But one twenty nine is getting it's getting close.
1:31:32🔗DrewI don't think anyone's ever been at two hundred.
1:31:34🔗CallerNo, it was really close to two hundred one night. We just started just short.
1:31:37🔗AdamReally close to two hundred minutes on hold. True. Why didn't you get to them? Are you telling more stories? Art died when I started talking about backfiring. That was it.
1:31:51🔗EverclearYeah, it did get me sleepy, but I'm back. Talk about something sexy.
1:31:55🔗AdamHe was like, you know once in a while you leave one of those candles out in the sun?
1:32:44🔗AdamWell, everybody, there's the show. Godsmack in here tomorrow night. I want to thank Dear, Dear, Dear, Dear, Dear friend, Art, for coming in. You can look for Best of Everclear coming out soon enough, and look for Art coming to a town near you, probably with his acoustic guitar.
1:33:17🔗EverclearI'm going to cuddle up in the front seat like a big cat.
1:33:22🔗AdamThose are the good old days, falling asleep in the car. Isn't that true? Now I just you get drunk and pass out, but you don't really fall asleep.
1:33:29🔗EverclearYeah, too bad your dad can't carry you to bed.
1:33:32🔗AdamOh, my dad barely get a fanny pack from the driveway into the house. We're going to if you put like a number two pencil in it, it would stop it. Couldn't do it. We'll take a extendo break. And until next time, this Adam Carolla for Dr. Drew saying mahalo.
1:33:48🔗CallerI was to tell him, Kristen, you're on the top of my list of older men to do.
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