1:47🔗AdamAlright, welcome to Loveline, along with Dr. Drew, who's a board-certified physician, addiction medicine specialist. I'm not Ace Rockolla, Adam Corolla, I would be Stryker back in the house. So, Dr. Drew, they're going to have to deal with my suckiness for two hours straight.
2:00🔗StrykerGood. We're ready for it. Are we? Yeah.
2:02🔗VoiceoverAlright, we're supposed to have a band in here, SR-71, from Maryland. I think they were playing a show tonight or something, had a couple of cocktails, and they're on their way. So, if you have questions for SR-71, call. Something's wrong with you. We're here. It's 1-800-LOVE-191. And Drew, you're very melancholy right now.
2:18🔗StrykerYou alright? I've been feeling good for the last few days. I go through ups and downs.
2:57🔗StrykerWell, not necessarily, but it means it's something that certainly happened as a result of sex, whether or not it's actually something that's classically an STD or not remains to be seen. Was she a virgin? No. Yeah. You got to see somebody. They could be chlamydia, gonorrhea, non-gonococcal urethritis. These things are very common. And it could even be a mechanical problem or an irritation of the urethra, but it's got to be seen. It's got to be treated.
3:20🔗AdamNow, these diseases you just mentioned, these STDs won't go away unless they're treated, correct?
3:25🔗StrykerWell, for the most part, and they can have complications if you don't treat them.
3:32🔗StrykerShe undoubtedly doesn't know. And again, chlamydia is the leading cause of infertility in this country, and most women that have it don't know they have it. And that maybe something she's been harboring and just didn't know it.
3:42🔗StrykerBut you'll need to talk to her about it because she'll have to be treated also.
3:45🔗AdamBecause you don't want yourself to all of a sudden get better and then have a sex with her again, you're going to get this burning thing in two weeks again.
4:03🔗StrykerAll right. Yeah, I just recently started this fantasy with like masturbating and stuff, like thinking about my mom and stuff. And I just wondered like, what's wrong with me? I mean, is that normal or?
4:35🔗AdamIs your mom one of those hotties like from that movie, American Pie?
4:39🔗StrykerShe's not all that. I mean, she's not like super hot or nothing.
4:43🔗StrykerBut well, it's normal for humans to have those kinds of feelings in a way. They usually aren't explicit mature feelings. So I don't know. Come on. You're 21, Bob. Come on.
5:12🔗StrykerListen, the whole idea about therapy is to be able to tell them anything, anything you've done or felt so that you can get over whatever shame or you can process whatever shame is attached to that. You don't need to be ashamed of it. Like I said, it's a normal human thing. It's just sort of late in life to be having those kinds of feelings. It's whatever. You're not doing anything about it. It's just weird fantasy.
5:31🔗AdamI don't know. Anytime you say the word normal, masturbation and mother in the same sentence, I think that's abnormal.
5:36🔗StrykerIt's not routine. But he's wanting to get something wrong with him, like a capital W. That doesn't necessarily mean that.
5:42🔗AdamWhy see a therapist if you can't open up completely. Hello, Lindsey 17 on Loveline.
5:51🔗StrykerI was just wondering, I've had major headaches lately and my throat is really sore and I'm bulimic. And could I just take Robitussin to make my sore throat go away? Or is it because this is because of something else in my throat or that I need to like take pills or something?
6:09🔗StrykerSomething called Herpangina, which gives you headaches and sore throat. And look, are you being followed by a doctor for your bulimia?
6:16🔗StrykerNo. I haven't told my parents yet. I told my dad about some other problem. And he's not talking to me right now.
6:26🔗StrykerOK. So that's a potentially life threatening problem, right? Yeah. OK. That's what needs to be dealt with. Yeah. Nothing else. Everything else is rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.
6:37🔗StrykerCould you give me a number that I could call here down here in Maryland?
6:54🔗StrykerI'm sure you could start that way and you'll probably go to some... There's undoubtedly some eating disorder groups you can get involved with. And I'm sure you can do it without your parental consent. In fact, some of it may be at a limited or no cost. So get going. Get going on this because the sore throat issue is obviously a secondary problem. You know you got something serious going on here. So let's do something about it. You've got to do it for you. Obviously, your parents aren't going to be able to help you in any substantive way and you're not in a position to really communicate openly with them yet. So do it for yourself.
7:22🔗AdamIs that normal one time a day if you're bulimic?
7:39🔗StrykerI just want to say something real quick. I called a little while ago. This is just anyone who's ever thought about throwing up or anything and I wasn't supposed to do this forever. I was just supposed to be for like a little time and lose some quick weight. I just want to say that it's nothing like that and you really can't stop when you start.
7:54🔗StrykerThat's the deal. We talked about it. I remember it. There you go.
8:35🔗AdamAll right. We're going to play a song for you guys pretty soon. You'll hang out. We'll talk about wieners and bosoms. And I'm sorry I'm not Adam Corolla.
8:44🔗AdamOh, to talk about wieners and bosoms. Okay. On the air and off, I'm sure. All right. SR-71 is here. So call and ask questions about anything. 1-800-LOVE-191 and Chris14 on Loveline.
8:54🔗StrykerHey. SR-71. I'm like your biggest fan.
9:12🔗StrykerI just wanted to know what the details are for the re-release of Grow. I've been hearing about that.
9:18🔗DrewWe have an independent CD that we put out a couple years ago, and that's what he's talking about. We plan on doing something next year with it, actually. We're not exactly sure, but probably after the first of the year, we're going to go back and redo it and put it out for everybody to get.
9:53🔗AdamYeah. If you've seen the previews for Loser, that's SR-71's song in there. We'll play it pretty soon. All right, we're going to speak to a guy named Rocky. Anytime you get to say the word Rocky, it's cool. 23, what's up, man?
10:03🔗StrykerHey, guys. I was just wondering what Dr. Drew thought about starting a relationship over the Internet.
10:09🔗StrykerYou mean a relationship with somebody you've been communicating with over the Internet?
10:15🔗StrykerBe careful. That's all. It's not like one of these dating services, right, where you know a lot about the person.
10:19🔗StrykerRight. Well, I was just on the Internet talking to my dad because he lives in a different state, so a long distance from me, and she just started talking to me.
10:29🔗StrykerYou were talking to your dad in a chat room?
10:33🔗AdamIn the room called Big Boozums, your dad was there, along with the lady with big breasts.
10:36🔗StrykerNo, I wasn't in the chat room. I was just, you know, communicating with him on the Internet, and this girl come on, started talking to me, and well, we started, you're getting along pretty good, so we started calling each other because we were in the same state.
10:49🔗StrykerAnd we got to know each other pretty well on the phone, and I think we both have been pretty honest with each other, and I was just wondering if, you know, this is a healthy way to start a relationship or what.
11:02🔗StrykerSo she says. Yeah. Usually these things, in my experience, they really only work out if you have some way of corroborating what that person is telling you about themselves, like a reference or a common friend or something. Some way to really make a connection that works. Because really, how long you guys been communicating online? About a month. Yeah. Well, it's not that long yet, but there's so much fantasy involved in that sort of pseudo intimacy that the web affords, and there's evidence accumulating that the real equality of that relationship is fantasy. It's not real. And it's likely this is going to be a disappointment, unless the fantasy sort of permeates the real relationship, in which case you have a relationship built on fantasy, and that's even worse.
11:41🔗StrykerSo if we meet and everything seems to be on up and up.
11:44🔗StrykerJust go ahead. It's fine. It's going to do it anyway.
11:46🔗AdamHey, Rocky. Rocky, what did she say she looked like?
11:51🔗StrykerWell, she sent me a picture, and it seems like it could be possible that it's her.
12:11🔗StrykerSee you later. Yeah, I usually tell people to get off the line quick, get on the phone quick, get off the phone quick into real life, bring a friend with you, make sure you live near that person so there's a possibility of a relationship, and enjoy.
12:22🔗AdamYou guys go on the internet a lot, SR-71?
12:25🔗StrykerWe get so many emails. We try to answer as many as we can, but Outlook Express.
12:30🔗AdamNow, do you ever go in chat rooms where they're talking about you guys, and you say, hey, I'm him, or you just go under a pseudo name and just kind of find out what the kids are talking about?
12:37🔗DrewI don't personally go to chat rooms, but I find out that someone who says they're me goes to chat rooms a lot and gets me in a lot of trouble.
12:45🔗StrykerI actually have gone to a couple. We've been in some town late at night. I'm sitting there on my computer with nothing better to do. And I go into a chat room that I know that a lot of our friends go to, and I go in there and I say, I'm here, and there's like nobody. I actually, it's like an e-tumbleweed floats by nobody.
13:01🔗AdamIt's just you. You couldn't find any scrambled spice on TV, so you're looking for something on the internet. All right, that's SR-71. Stryker with Dr. Drew and Jonathan, 22 on Loveline. What's going on?
13:12🔗StrykerWell, it seems this happened about five years ago, and before I start, SR-71, you guys kick a lot of butt.
13:35🔗StrykerBut about five years ago, I was dating this girl. She was 14. I was 16. And the relationship was really hot and heavy. And I mean, we had so much in common. It was just perfect for me. And one of the last times, it was pretty much on and off of an LDR, a long distance relationship. And one of the last times together, we had sex. And what I just found out about a week ago was that the last time we were together, I got her pregnant. I just found out about the kid. And the real kicker was about five to six months after she had the kid, she was killed by a drunk driver.
14:16🔗StrykerHow did you find out about the child?
14:17🔗StrykerI found out about the child through the child's grandmother. She finally told me. And it's been five years.
14:22🔗StrykerAnd you've known the grandmother all this time?
14:23🔗StrykerAnd I've known the grandmother the whole time. Her reasoning behind not telling me when my girlfriend was alive was she was afraid that at that time since I was 16 that I would have done what normal kids my age would have done, ran away. And the reason why she told me after she died she didn't tell me is because it took me five years to come to grips with her being dead. And so she basically said, you know, if I couldn't come to grips with my girlfriend being dead, how could I come to grips of me now being a single father?
14:54🔗StrykerThe child right now is still living with the grandmother because I'm trying desperately to get on my feet.
14:59🔗AdamSo what are you trying? What's your question then?
15:01🔗StrykerShould I, since I've been out of this child's life for five, almost five and a half years, what should I do? Should I, because I did a paternity test, it came back positive.
15:13🔗StrykerWhat do you mean you're trying to get back on your feet?
15:15🔗StrykerI spent like the last two years, I got a lot of money and ended up blowing it, spent a few years homeless. And now I'm basically back home.
15:36🔗StrykerNo, I just pretty much, I started out, started out not really on my feet, then I was given the money, and I pretty much blew, blew about $65,000 in under two months.
16:04🔗StrykerBut her mother, her mother sat there and told me that when I can get on my feet, that she will give me custody of the child, and I have told people about this that I work with, and people said they're not really sure that that's really what she's going to do.
16:17🔗StrykerOr that it's in the best interest of the child.
16:19🔗StrykerYeah, because I said, you know, I have been out of this child's life for five years. I did meet the child, and I mean that it's one of the most awkward positions I've been in in my life.
16:27🔗AdamShould he go get in the child's life or what?
16:30🔗StrykerI don't know how to even begin to answer this one. How's the grandmother as a parent?
16:35🔗StrykerThe grandmother, from what I've seen, is a very good parent.
16:37🔗StrykerYou need to stop smoking cigarettes, John. I'm getting asthma just listening to you puff. Right? God, he's like...
16:45🔗AdamYou know, if Jonathan said, yeah, I graduated college, now I'm working at this job, I've always been up on my feet, I'm like getting that child's life immediately.
16:53🔗StrykerEven then I would be peripheral, be Uncle John for a while, don't confuse this kid, be a supportive male figure in that person's life. So that's sort of the approach I would take. I don't think too confusing to come in as dad now. And financially you can support the child and get the kid resources all the way along, by all means do that. And again, be a part of the life, but I don't think dad is the right job for him right now.
17:42🔗AdamBut I don't think there was a grandfather. Let's take one more call and let's play one of your guys' songs, right? SR-71 is here on Loveline, and Corey, you're 20. What's going on?
17:52🔗It's hard for me to explain, but this weekend I was at a party and I mixed Coke with E and I was drinking and I kind of blacked out and when I woke up I was having sex with this guy that I didn't know.
18:08🔗CallerAnd I just want to know how long I have to wait before I take an AIDS test.
18:55🔗CallerIt was like an accident. I really didn't mean to. I do coke a lot and I drink a lot. I mix coke and alcohol and I black out a lot, but it's the good time I've done this.
19:05🔗StrykerThe blacking out from alcohol is really a sign of alcoholism. You may not really believe you have that disease yet, but I promise you, you have it. And there will be mounting consequences. That being said, my bigger concern for you is the ecstasy, though, because I just pulled an article today about just a list of psychiatric and neurologic disorders from ecstasy. It's just like as long as your arm. And I've seen it all. I swear to God, I've seen it all. And I've been sort of a lone voice for a long time. Now it's starting to get documented.
19:29🔗AdamNow, will the effects of ecstasy happen right now or in five years all of a sudden? Both, really?
19:35🔗AdamDamn raved or screwing up our kids out there, SR-71. Too much fun, though. All right, so actually let's play your song. Great. You got many songs. Let's play the one that's blowing up right now. And you kids out there that don't know it, you're going to know it immediately when we start to hear it. So Ken, you ready? All right, check it out. This is SR-71 from the album Now You See Inside on Loveline. There we go, excellent. SR-71.
22:44🔗AdamRight now, look, we got the huge applause. All right, SR-71 is here at Love Line. We've got to take a quick break. We'll speak to Caroline, who is dumping boyfriends, taking them back and screwing other people. We'll find out what's going on next with SR-71 on Love Line. All right, we're back. Welcome back to Loveline. Stryker here, filling in for Adam Corolla, along with Dr. Drew. You've been so nice to me, Drew, except the comment yesterday about my wiener size.
23:44🔗StrykerYou know what, that wasn't directed at you. It just directed whoever was in that seat. I'm so used to talking about Adams, that it just kinda came right at me.
23:50🔗AdamI beg to differ. I think you've been funnier the last few days than I've heard you in the last, I don't know, a few months or so.
23:56🔗StrykerWell, you give me room to do other things that Adam would not.
23:59🔗AdamSpeaking of like touching my feet all night under that.
25:17🔗StrykerWell, the intro before the break was a little off so let me see if I can clarify. Okay. My boyfriend of three years, college boyfriend and I have been going out for three years and out of nowhere in the beginning of last semester, he just broke up with me and he came crawling back, of course, a couple of months later.
25:54🔗StrykerWell, I was hesitant, definitely hesitant, but it's an important relationship that three years of my life, I'm willing to give another shot.
26:01🔗StrykerWere you at school together or something like that?
26:06🔗AdamThey're in the same class. Now, are you guys living in the same city?
26:09🔗StrykerWell, he wanted to move out here to DC, but I told him, no, no, no, no.
26:13🔗StrykerSo you're sitting in the room here by chance?
26:15🔗DrewI was going to say. What's your name again? What's your full name?
26:19🔗AdamIt's Caroline. Caroline. Caroline, I know exactly what happened because I went through this, dated a girl for three years. Yeah. Then I was like, Oh, God, what the hell am I doing? I broke it off. Maybe within a month, I came crawling back to her. And I'm actually very happy, but she didn't take me back. And the only reason why I went crawling back to her because I realized basically those three years, I was in a routine. And the first two years was cool, but the last year was just so easy to say, Yeah, I got a girlfriend. I know where I'm sleeping. I know she's going to be here. We're going to hang out. She'll do this with me. Then I got tired. And then I realized, God, who am I going to go to the movies with? And I went crawling back to her.
26:55🔗StrykerWhat happened to him when he graduated?
26:57🔗StrykerWell, he's an engineer and he took a job in Cincinnati. And he wanted to move out to DC.
27:01🔗StrykerSo he moved away from you, engineering job in Cincinnati.
27:04🔗StrykerWell, he wanted to move to Washington, but I told him, forget about it. Take this job in Cincinnati.
27:09🔗StrykerAnd as a result of that, he decided he wanted to break up.
27:13🔗StrykerNo, no, this is way after. This is after I took him back.
27:25🔗StrykerSo things are progressing and, you know, fast forward, we're here. This is six months later. And, you know, these issues between us, this, you know, distrust, it's still there. And I think it's, you know, manifesting itself in the fact that I'm getting mad at him for little things and I nitpick and I'm not a nitpicky person and I just don't know how to channel all this anger that I still have and distrust.
27:46🔗StrykerAnger for him having broken up at all.
27:48🔗StrykerOh yeah, totally. And I, you know, it's just that six months later I feel like I should be able to kind of move forward with it but it's just stagnant. I get mad at the dumbest things and I just wonder if there's a better way I can go about this.
27:59🔗StrykerIs it necessarily this? Are you depressed generally?
28:03🔗StrykerI think it's just this whole break up specific kind of thing.
28:06🔗AdamThey've been going out for that long. She's got, she'll definitely be upset about that.
28:09🔗StrykerYeah, but you better decide you're going to get over this or not. I mean, you've got to decide what forgiveness means to you and get a little of that under your belt and get going here. Because if you can't forgive, then you got to forget. Just end it. Get on with your life. But without forgiveness, this ain't going anywhere.
28:24🔗StrykerBut you know, I think I've done the forgive thing.
28:26🔗StrykerDid somebody else leave you sometime in your life? Big time?
28:35🔗StrykerBut how about before, like you have a parent abandon you or something?
28:37🔗StrykerOh, no, not at all. Healthy family, all that good stuff. Just, you know, bad, you know, boyfriend, you know, things.
28:43🔗AdamCaroline, I'm just one idiotic, dumb guy, but I would just say forget it with this guy. He's not even living in the same city. He's got his career going somewhere else.
28:51🔗StrykerI agree, but there's something more going on with Caroline, though. There's no alcoholism in your family?
28:57🔗StrykerWhy don't we get this feeling that, I mean, you set this up, too. You told him to go away to Cincinnati, and now you're mad at him for sort of being apart from you. I mean, you set up these abandonments, then you make them huge.
29:08🔗StrykerNo, no, not at all. No? Let me, let me, another perspective. If I were to step away from the relationship, I would say he's doing a great job of trying to make it up to me, honestly. He's a good guy all around, but I'm just nitpicking and I just want to get past it. I just don't know how.
29:24🔗StrykerYou know, we've given you several different opinions. You've come right back to the first base again.
29:31🔗StrykerYou either have to forgive, and if you can't, you have to get on with it.
29:34🔗StrykerNo, he needs to come to the East Coast, gentlemen.
29:36🔗StrykerBut, Caroline, that's the point. You set up the separation. You set up, you set these relationships up, you sabotage, you create the abandonment, and then you make the abandonment insurmountable.
30:01🔗AdamYeah. Why don't you guys look for Caroline when she's there?
30:03🔗DrewWe might bring her up on stage and do a little love connection.
30:05🔗AdamShe sounds pretty good, actually. We'll be back in two and two. All right. Let's speak to Andrew, and this is probably a topic you guys are familiar with on the bus. Andrew, what's going on with you, man? You're 17.
30:55🔗AdamAll right, keep on going. That's a master glide. It'll feel a lot better. SR-71 is here and they'll be hanging out for a couple of hours coming to a town near you. We're going to talk to Daisy32. What's up?
31:06🔗StrykerHello. Hello. Well, I'm having a problem with my girlfriend. Go ahead. Well, we've been dating for a couple of months. Well, she wants to have sex and I want to have sex with her, but when we start getting intimate, I just kind of don't want to. I don't understand it because I'm very attracted to her. I get aroused. Then I just seize up and it's like, no, okay, I don't want to.
31:35🔗AdamHave you been with a lot of women before?
31:36🔗StrykerNo. I've considered myself bi since my late teens, early 20s, started acting on it in my mid-20s. I've had one girl from where I was sexually active with her and the girl that I'm dating now, she's been with one other woman also. So we're not totally beginners but still pretty new to both of us.
32:01🔗AdamDr. Drew, I think this could be the right avenue but possibly not. Girl last night, every time she wanted to have sex with a guy, she said, no. You said, what happened? She said she was violated when she was younger. So when she gets to that point, it's like, no, I don't want to get there. Anything happened to you when you were younger, Daisy?
32:16🔗StrykerOh, a lot happened to me when I was younger.
32:29🔗DrewAnd your friend? Where are you and your friend?
32:31🔗StrykerRemember we talked about, I was talking last night about trajectories, that people have some sort of early exposure to sexual material and that sort of sets them on that trajectory of being hypersexual. Does that fit your history?
32:42🔗StrykerYes. I was promiscuous at a very early age. How old?
32:47🔗StrykerHow about before that? I'm talking about like six, eight. Something happened to you then?
32:59🔗StrykerSo it's just you. Are you, no manic depression in your family anywhere?
33:04🔗StrykerNo, manic, well, no, let's see. Yes, but not by blood. Very. I could be the poster child for dysfunctional families. I spent lots and lots of time on the couch.
33:15🔗StrykerOkay. That has something to do with it, then. So this stuff, this stuff.
33:18🔗StrykerYeah. I'm just kind of wondering if, I'm kind of confused whether this is, I've consciously made a point in the last few years with relationships to kind of slow them down, get to know people better.
33:29🔗StrykerIs it possibly something you're sort of intuiting about her, that there's something maybe more troubling there than you really realize, than your body and your sort of instinct is telling you, don't go there, don't get that intimate with her?
33:40🔗StrykerYou know, I hadn't thought of that. That is possible.
33:43🔗StrykerAnd this isn't something you've ever done before in your relationships. It's not as though this is, hey, this means X, Y, Z to me when this happens. Right.
33:50🔗StrykerNo, no. Usually, like I said, I tend to be more like a guy when it comes to sex, and if I get horny, I just do it.
33:58🔗StrykerI'm not doing that, and I'm a little confused about why this, unless I'm having some performance anxiety or something.
34:04🔗StrykerWell, there's that. And that can kind of go both ways, right? And this is sort of an overgeneralization perhaps, but it's that either it's that you intuit something sort of not right about this relationship or maybe something too right about it, and it's overwhelming and scary to go down that intimate pathway with her because it's too close, too tight, too good.
34:21🔗StrykerOkay, and it could be too maybe, anything to do with the fact that this lesbian relationship is new to both of us?
34:27🔗StrykerWell, you said it's not new. Are you perfectly comfortable with that? You know, you've sort of...
34:31🔗AdamSince you're late teens, you've been going with women.
34:40🔗StrykerYou're 32. I hope you sort of have command of all these sorts of things by this time. I don't think it would be that sort of thing, no.
34:48🔗AdamYou know what's great or odd about this? We talked to these women since I've been hosting this, that they're all ready to have sex, and when it's time to, they close their legs, okay? Would you guys ever, when you're in that business, just say, ah, no, I'm not going to have sex with you.
35:01🔗StrykerOr how about, it goes further than that for women. It's like, I'm almost there with, oh, no, I'm just not tonight, no.
35:23🔗DrewFred. Let's just call her Fred. But it seemed to me that although she was telling me she was into it, that she wasn't and I just completely wanted to stop.
35:44🔗DrewI can stop that. But you know what? I also think there's something going on where you're into this person but when it gets right down to it, you're not sexually attracted to this person. Physically, they might be everything you want but I mean, sexist smells and it's chemical. It's all these things. She might get right to the point because, yeah, I'm just not that turned on.
36:01🔗StrykerI think Dr. Drew was right saying that she, that it just seems like something that's too right.
36:06🔗StrykerI think either too right, I think it's what you're talking about though too, either too right or something you're intuiting and those kinds of issues come to bear on that.
37:07🔗AdamAll right, we're back. It's Loveline. 1-800-LOVE-191, I would be Ted Stryker, in for Adam Corolla along with Dr. Drew and SR-71 from Baltimore's here.
37:21🔗AdamIt's the same thing. But we were just talking about something, and these guys were talking about it, so I wanna see if you give the same answer. What is the new bus missing that the old tour bus had?
38:07🔗StrykerIt's a very new bus. We just got it. He doesn't even know that yet.
38:09🔗DrewChannel 598, baby. I knew that one. I knew all about 598.
38:13🔗AdamIn Tucson, Channel 28 is the old station to watch. All right, you ready to take some more calls? Sure. All right, let's do this. Lynn, 19 on Loveline.
38:22🔗Oh, hi. Thank you so much for taking my call.
38:27🔗Okay. My problem is actually strangely similar to the last woman you had call. My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. The first two years of our relationship, we had great sex, like the best sex, wonderful. About six months ago, I started feeling really uncomfortable during foreplay.
38:48🔗StrykerLet me stop you right here. You started seeing him when you were how old?
38:53🔗We got together when I guess I was about 17.
39:17🔗CallerYeah. Just about six months ago, during foreplay, I would be kissing and touching, and I would just tense up and freak out and just be like, please, please leave me alone.
40:27🔗AdamBut if you mix ecstasy and coke, you'll be wonderful.
40:30🔗StrykerOh, no. I didn't do anything else. No, I'm just kidding. Here's the deal. As you've probably heard me say, marijuana addiction always follows the same course. Somebody gets exposed to it a couple of times, somewhere around the third time, pow, oh, my God, the greatest thing, and you start thinking about it every day thereafter and smoking it most days, and maybe every day, and somewhere between one and maybe many years later, it stops working. You start getting depressed, start freaking out about things, panic attacks get forgetful, and it has a profound biological effect. And when you stop, it will get worse for about six months.
41:01🔗AdamIs it just the women that don't want it, if this is what it is, the marijuana making it like...
41:05🔗StrykerNo, men get erectile dysfunction, all kinds of things.
41:09🔗StrykerHow does it affect so many different people so many different ways?
41:12🔗StrykerThat's what we don't know about it. Some people after, you know, Lynn, after a year, she starts to get this stuff. Other people, you know, Joe, he's been smoking 30 years, he's still okay.
41:20🔗DrewI've been taking a survey of my friends. Every one of my friends that started smoking weed when they were like 14, 15 years old stopped at 22. Everybody that started at 18, 19 smokes until they're 28, 29, 30. I think there's something to do when you start young.
41:32🔗StrykerBut the people that's... Well, there's actually some brain change when you start young. But the people that start young almost always graduate to something else.
41:50🔗What's up, man? I just wanted to know how you guys are classifying your music now and what kind of bands influenced you when you were growing up and starting out?
41:58🔗DrewGood question. We're a rock band. A lot of people think we're a punk rock band. We got a lot of punk in us, but I think we're more of just a rock band. We love everything from the Sex Pistols to the Beatles.
42:09🔗Really? That's cool though. I'm glad that you didn't say punk.
42:13🔗DrewNo, we're not a punk band. We've never worn that moniker. The song right now, a lot of people hear it and they go, ah, you know, Blink 182 or punk.
42:20🔗You guys toured with them and bad religion, you know?
42:22🔗DrewWell, I'll tell you, if you listen to the song, if you listen to the vocals, if you listen to the way I sing more than anything, you can tell it's pretty much a rock band. It's just an up-tempo rock song. A lot of people get that.
42:31🔗StrykerIt's more like I want you to want me than What's My Name Again.
42:34🔗DrewYou know, it's funny, I grew up listening to Metallica. And that riff, that double-picked guitar riff, that's so metal.
42:41🔗DrewOh, my favorite records, man. But I grew up double-picking everything, and that riff is just so metal to me. And then the song kicks in, and it's pretty fast. There's so many chords you can kind of put in it. So a lot of people think it's more of a punk tune. And there's definitely a punk edge to it, but we're a rock band.
43:47🔗AdamJust to, you know, blow everyone's minds away.
43:49🔗DrewIf the audience doesn't sweat as much as the band, we have not done our job.
43:52🔗AdamI heard you say the best quote. We're a band that will not look at our toes while we play.
43:56🔗DrewOh, absolutely. There's no shoe gazing in this band. As a matter of fact, I swear to God, this is a true story. I'm up there playing and I'm rocking out and I feel something. I look down and my guitar tech is tying my shoes because somehow my shoe came untied. I didn't even know.
44:08🔗AdamAs soon as you have someone tying your shoes, you know you've moved up somewhere.
44:55🔗CallerUm, because I just want our friendship to go on because I haven't known him since kindergarten.
45:00🔗StrykerI understand, but if he is not going to have any respect for you or boundaries, then that's it. There's no friendship there. There's got to be mutuality for there to be a friendship.
45:10🔗StrykerWell, but he might be able to knock it off if you really let it be known, but it sounds to me like you haven't been very clear with him. You're afraid he's going to leave. You're afraid you're going to upset him. Hey, hell with that. He is being disrespectful to you and your needs and desires in this relationship.
45:26🔗AdamBrett, do you get aroused, excited, happy that you're getting this attention from him?
45:39🔗StrykerBut you don't sound like the most assertive guy in the world, Brett. Right. Here's a situation where you've got to be very, very clear and not worry about his feelings. OK, because he's certainly not been worrying about yours in terms of how he comes on to you.
45:52🔗DrewYou need to find a girl that you can parade in front of him too.
45:54🔗StrykerDon't lose the friendship. But he's not doing anything to keep the friendship going such as it is right now anyway.
46:00🔗AdamNo, Brett, be assertive. Tell him, hey, dude, stop hitting on me. We're not going to be friends and then things will be fine. Sarah, you ready to be more pleasant?
46:13🔗AdamSarah, you're going to have to hold on a bit more. All right. Stryker here for Corolla with Dr. Drew and SR-71. We'll talk to Sarah possibly next on Loveline.
46:23🔗CallerLoveline, Loveline, we'll be right back.
47:17🔗AdamYeah, very good. Very good. All right, it's Loveline. We're back with SR-71, coming to a city near you. Let me just throw out a few cities, and these guys could be near you.
47:49🔗AdamAll right. I'm curious now, from the East Coast, from Baltimore, were you just playing the local scene there, created a big buzz and got the deal? How did everything come about?
47:59🔗DrewYeah, pretty much. We did the local scene for five years, but we found out that there are no record companies in Baltimore. That was really, believe it or not, it took five years to figure that out. So we bought a van, a 1987 Dodge van and a trailer, and we hauled it to New York City every week, and we showcased and showcased. The funny part is we became the showcase band with that set that everybody talks about, that 40 minutes or that 45 minutes, but we actually discovered our manager in Raleigh, North Carolina. And he discovered us, discovered us, sort of. We sent him a tape, so I guess we discovered him. And we went back to New York with him, and the next thing you know, five months later we signed to RCA. Good job.
48:39🔗AdamThat's how it's done if you're trying to be in a band. It doesn't happen overnight. You need to buy a Dodge and a trailer.
48:46🔗AdamGo to Raleigh, North Carolina. Next up is the O'Needers. Hey, that's the O'Needers. All right, Sarah, now we're going to speak to you. How are you?
48:57🔗CallerI've been going out with this guy for three and a half years. I'm 18 years old, and he is 21. And I have recently just moved to Palsville, Washington, and he lives in Woodland, Washington, and we've been very serious. And so we've been talking about...
49:31🔗CallerI want to know if I should wait for him to come out here and live with me out here, or I'm waiting for a commitment. I'm waiting for to ask me to be engaged.
49:48🔗AdamThat's why she's been on hold for 72 minutes.
50:12🔗CallerNo hurry, really. I come from a broken-up family. I live with my grandparents, and they have passed away in less than a year, and I've been moved to two other places.
50:22🔗StrykerAll right, but looking for a life preserver is not the greatest way to build a relationship.
50:27🔗StrykerAnd what you're going to end up doing is recreating the broken family you came from in the first place.
50:32🔗CallerYeah, but now I've been put into a very rich environment, and it feels kind of awkward, but...
50:40🔗AdamHow are you in a rich environment? I'm not sure I know what that means.
50:44🔗CallerMy aunt and uncle that I live with now are very wealthy people, and I live in Pauzeville, which is very close to Seattle, and I'm just in Pauzeville.
50:56🔗StrykerGo to school, get a career. Yeah, enjoy that. Take your time. Look, Sarah, do not look for a hostage, a life preserver, a way of solving your problems. That's not what relationships are about. Relationships are about two people that have their lives together, coming together and sharing those lives.
51:13🔗StrykerYou're 18 for Crying Out Loud. You're going to inadvertently recreate your family of origin. Let's break the cycle. Let's get your S together, go to school, enjoy those resources that, thank God, you've got now.
51:27🔗AdamTake advantage of the situation you're in now, Sarah. Make the most of this. I mean, I'm sorry everything happened to you, what happened to you before this, but now you're in a good environment with rich people. Take advantage of it, not of them, but of the situation you're in.
51:40🔗StrykerThe University of Washington's a few miles away, come on.
53:17🔗StrykerWith whom? Wait, wait, wait. Your best friend is not your best friend. Your best friend is a girl that's into you. Big time. And the reason that you have that friendship is, the reason that was established in the first place, is she was completely into you. Don't be an idiot.
53:28🔗DrewAre you attracted to her? Your best friend that is? No. Oh, well then what are you worried about?
53:34🔗StrykerShe's into it, he isn't. You've got a girlfriend. You've got to confront your friend about this. This is not right.
53:41🔗AdamJealousy. She likes you, but it's the, call that friend. Hold on, yeah, let's see if we can get the number. Hey, James? Yeah? Can we put you on hold and we can call up your best friend who's a girl and find out where she's at?
54:48🔗CallerYeah, I was crying. And me and my friend were both talking to each other, saying how creepy he was. And I started seeing his brother, which I really, really like. And I enjoy his company. But Monday night, I went over to his house to visit his younger brother. And this guy, me and him ended up fooling around.
55:22🔗StrykerShe just, she just a flow, a drift. A drift. Lost.
55:26🔗AdamYeah. So, what's the question, Brittany?
55:29🔗CallerWell, when I went over there, we were fooling around and I told him I didn't want to have sex or anything and he kept like saying he wasn't going to.
55:38🔗CallerAnd this guy is 18 years old and he stuck it in anyway and I kept trying to push him off of me and he wouldn't get off of me and I'm not sure exactly how I'm supposed to react to it.
56:15🔗AdamReason this out. This guy took advantage of you. You said no, and all you're thinking about is, well, I kind of like the brother, so maybe there's a chance.
56:22🔗StrykerYou're making out with the older one anyway. Yeah. That's already makes the relationship with the younger brother impossible and it speaks volumes about how crazy this family is and these brothers are. The fact that you're attracted to them scares me even more. So look, Brittany, you got to end this. You got to call the police. God knows who else that he's forced himself on. You have to do that.
56:45🔗AdamAnd what can she do for herself? Like did he ejaculate?
57:28🔗StrykerI am married and I have a husband with a healthy sex appetite like all guys, and we are trying to conceive, but I get yeast infections every time we have sex, and I'm wondering why, and if there's anything preventative measures I can take.
57:45🔗StrykerI drink a lot of water, I eat a lot of yogurt with active cultures.
58:18🔗StrykerYeah, I've used it like three or four times in the last couple months. I'm almost wondering if I could get an immunity to that?
58:22🔗StrykerNo, you really can't. There's a couple things about recurrent yeast. One is, obviously you want to make sure you don't have diabetes and thyroid conditions, all these sorts of things that can predispose...
58:33🔗StrykerMedical problems that can predispose to yeast infection, which I can virtually guarantee you don't, but you ought to check that out. Number two, incomplete treatment of the yeast. A lot of people use the vaginal suppositories for yeast, and they sometimes don't get up into the recesses of the vagina and clear the yeast out of there, so the cream is useful. But then you're not using that using the diphlu can, which is very, very effective. Then finally, sometimes men can harbor a little bit of this in the urethra, and sometimes the man needs to be treated too. It's kind of unusual, but it can't happen. You need to talk to your gynecologist about perhaps treating your husband also.
59:06🔗StrykerNow, I've had other boyfriends. I'm sexually active before I was married, and I had the same problem.
59:11🔗StrykerOh, really? Yeah. Well, you understand that's just a very delicate environment, that if anything disturbs it, it's like an ecosystem that goes a whack and this one thing blossoms. It's no big deal. It doesn't hurt you. It shouldn't really impair your fertility. You've seen gynecologists been tested in culture and whatnot? Yeah. All right. Well, it's something to reckon with, but not something to worry about.
59:35🔗AdamSR-71, when was the last time you guys talked about a yeast infection?
59:38🔗StrykerWow. Just this morning coincidentally.
59:40🔗StrykerAre there any symptoms for a guy that would have them?
59:42🔗StrykerNo. Again, if they just have a little bit in the urethra, there would be no symptoms. You can get a skin infection, get a little redness of the skin.
59:50🔗StrykerNot that I'm worried about that or anything.
59:52🔗DrewI'm Jewish. I don't know about yeast for at least 10 days out of the year.
59:59🔗AdamIt sat outside for nine days while his wiener burned. All right. Laura, 19 on Loveline. What's going on?
1:00:07🔗I live with my aunt and my uncle. My aunt is related to me. He's only by marriage. The thing is that he comes on to me. He puts his hands on me and I tell him, I'm like, you know what? I feel uncomfortable. So what I did was that I told him, I mean, like, because I have this boyfriend. I've been together for a long time and he's moving to Mexico. He's going back to Mexico. I told him when I was like, okay, you know what? I'm going to break up with him. But I didn't. The only reason I did it was so he can get mad and not leave me alone. But the thing is like now, he's like, it's as if he's trying to get me kicked out of the house.
1:00:47🔗I don't want to do anything with him. You know what I mean? I don't want him to touch me.
1:00:50🔗StrykerYou're talking in circles, Laura. But you feel like he's trying to get you kicked out of the house if you won't do something with him, right?
1:01:00🔗StrykerHang on. We got that. And that's the healthiest thing about what you've said so far. But you've kept the boyfriend around just so he could protect you against the uncle?
1:01:08🔗The only reason I used it as an excuse just to say that I was going to break up with him so he would get mad and leave me alone. Like, it's like he's jealous or something.
1:01:21🔗AdamSo you said to the uncle, I'm not breaking up with my boyfriend.
1:01:24🔗No, I told him, I'm like, you know, well, I decided not to break up with him. You know, I decided to stay with him. I think that's... And he got mad at me. He goes, well, you're stupid.
1:01:53🔗No, she doesn't know. Tell her. There's times where she's like... Well, the thing is, I'm afraid that they will, like, they'll take it the wrong way. They'll think that I'm trying to do something when I'm not. The only thing is...
1:02:04🔗StrykerWhy don't you call your parents? I mean, you really... Just don't...
1:02:08🔗Don't make a big deal out of it. Don't make it like...
1:02:10🔗StrykerLaura, look, get out of there. Get out of this house.
1:02:13🔗AdamWell, yeah, get out... You're 19. Do you have a job?
1:02:40🔗AdamAnd it's all because her aunt is a large woman, by the way.
1:02:44🔗StrykerThat's her thing. Laura, with the command of language that she had, it was just astonishing.
1:02:49🔗AdamOh, man. It was in circles. All right. You're listening to Love Line, you guys. I'm Stryker with Dr. Drew, and we're going to talk to Miranda 14.
1:03:32🔗StrykerIt's a great thing, but at 14, it makes you wonder if something made her compulsive. Like some, again, we talked earlier about some exposure, some sexual material when you're a kid, or sexual abuse or witnessing something.
1:03:54🔗StrykerThis is part of that, this sort of compulsion. This is where sexual compulsion has come from. And sex in that situation is not about sex. It's about this compulsion to manage these overwhelming feelings. And you should seek some treatment for this, Miranda.
1:04:07🔗CallerI was going to get in the therapy, but like every single time, like I tell my parents in any therapy, because like I'm like really, really depressed, you know. They like, they say, oh no, you don't need that, you know.
1:04:19🔗StrykerYou need it. Look, check out, there's a website, the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, NCSAC. She's not going to remember that. ncsac.org. And they have a lot of resources for people who have been through what you've been through, okay?
1:04:44🔗AdamYou know what though, like we'll see that we're going to talk about masturbation and addiction, and then I'm like, oh, this is going to be fun. And then she was molested as a kid.
1:04:54🔗AdamYeah, seriously. You want to take it outside?
1:04:56🔗StrykerPoor Corolla can't go to strip bars anymore. Well, he still does. Let's face it, he does. Because those are all abused kids dancing around there, and he's able to see that now, and it kills him.
1:05:15🔗AdamI got to know one or two here and there, and eventually you find out they are screwy, man.
1:05:20🔗DrewYeah, I got a couch at home. I lay them down and talk to them for a little while, make sure everything's okay.
1:05:25🔗AdamOh, do you? You walk around with a pen and write things down. You try to help. Where was your father? All right, Danielle, you're 15 on Loveline. What's going on?
1:05:35🔗CallerI have two questions. When I was seven, my mom's boyfriend molested me, and I was wondering if I should tell my mom.
1:05:48🔗StrykerThat doesn't matter. That's all the more reason that you're able to tell her now. It might even help her deal with his passing better to know that he was such a scoundrel.
1:05:55🔗AdamNot only will it get off your chest, maybe because you tell her, you'll be able to get some therapy and she'll be happy to help you get in therapy.
1:06:02🔗StrykerTell your mom. I think that's fine.
1:06:04🔗CallerOkay? My other question was, I'm completely in love with this guy, but he absolutely hates me. I was wondering if I should call him up and tell him how I feel about him.
1:06:16🔗StrykerNo. No. No. No. Just cool out. Just relax. Get some treatment, okay? Get your mom to get you somebody so you can get a real relationship with someone and to start to feel better about yourself and make better judgments about your relationships.
1:06:28🔗AdamOkay. Goodbye, Nino. So we're talking about molestation and I have another question. I really like this guy. What? It's like two sides.
1:06:55🔗AdamSR-71 is here on Loveline and Sarah, 15. What's going on?
1:06:59🔗Hello? Yes. Well, I have a boyfriend and everything's going really good and everything, but it seems like every time I get drunk, I'll have girlfriends around and I want to do something with one of them.
1:08:08🔗StrykerNo, I don't know. There's a lot more going on here than just this one thing. It may be all about alcoholism and may be all about coming from a family of alcoholics. Whatever it is, it's about the consequences of alcohol here, right? You drink and you have things happen to you, yet you keep drinking. Yeah. Okay. Well, why not focus less on the symptom and more on sort of the source and the maybe not drink. You're 15. You're getting wasted at 15. And I suspect, I would bet that you have an alcoholic something in your family somewhere, right?
1:08:42🔗CallerWell, my mom's last boyfriend. We lived with him for about three years and he was a heavy alcoholic. That's why we had to leave.
1:08:51🔗StrykerWell, I would bet, given that mom picks alcoholics, that your dad was probably an alcoholic too, right?
1:08:59🔗CallerNot really. He drank a couple of beers when he came home from work or something, but he wasn't really abusive or anything like that.
1:09:05🔗StrykerHe doesn't have to be abusive to be an alcoholic. You just have to give you the gene. Well.
1:09:12🔗CallerWell, that even was, that wasn't my real dad.
1:09:14🔗StrykerOkay. Your real dad, the one who gave you the gene, the one your mom picked to get pregnant with you for.
1:09:24🔗StrykerOkay. And you got the gene, and it's starting to express itself now. You better do something about it, because the consequences are going to begin to grow from here.
1:09:32🔗CallerOkay. Well, what does, I mean, what does that have to do with liking women?
1:09:36🔗StrykerThat's. Hey, you're on drugs when you're like women. You don't like, when you're sober, you don't like women. You're on drugs.
1:09:55🔗AdamOkay, bye. I mean, I'm sure you guys have gotten drunk plenty of time and wanted to make out with the local cows when you're in the Turbos or something.
1:10:01🔗DrewDan is so attractive to me after 27 beers.
1:10:06🔗AdamSo Sarah, it's in the genes. All right, SR-71 is here and we've got to take a quick break and we'll speak with Frank in a second. And his girlfriend will not have sex unless she's drunk. Wow, sounds like me three years ago. Hold on, it's Loveline.
1:10:23🔗CallerLoveline, we'll be right back. Call on the 1-800-LOVE-191.
1:11:00🔗AdamAll right, we're back. It's Loveline. Stryker here for Adam Carolla, along with Dr. Drew and SR-71. We're gonna play another song from SR-71.
1:11:08🔗DrewThank God we're gonna play another song.
1:11:10🔗AdamDefinitely. So check this out. Everyone knows the other song, but this is Politically Correct, SR-71, on Love On.
1:14:38🔗AdamExcellent. All right, that's SR-71, Politically Correct. And I just mumbled Politically Correct. That's on the CD. Now you see inside in Yes, sir. SR-71 coming to a city near you. See them live, because apparently it's just awesome. We rock. We rock. And not necessarily a punk band.
1:14:54🔗DrewWe're rock, punk, we're funk, funk, jazz. We're all of it.
1:14:58🔗AdamSo do you guys get emails from people that hear the one song on the radio, and then, you know, I was expecting this on the CD, or I like this on the CD, what's the vibe you guys are getting?
1:15:08🔗DrewWe'll put it out there right now, there are not 11 songs on the CD that sound just like right now. There's all kinds of great stuff on there. Right now it's pretty much the extreme, it's the fastest tune on the record. But then there's PC, that's our next signal, the one that came out. And then there's some slow mid-tempo rock stuff.
1:15:22🔗StrykerThere's Deal Stryker, we're not gonna see these guys again. You know what I'm saying? There's gonna go whoosh, straight up.
1:15:53🔗StrykerYeah. And anyways, I was just calling to ask Mitch, when you're writing the lyrics to your songs, do you ever hold back from what you originally wanted to say because you know that your family and friends and the public will be hearing your songs?
1:16:06🔗DrewAbsolutely not. Actually, there are a lot of times that Jeff actually turns to me and says, you know, you're being vague. You're not saying exactly what you want to say. I know what you want to say, but I don't think anybody else is. Be more specific. Say what you want to say. And I'll tell you, that song that you just heard, Politically Correct, is kind of about...
1:16:22🔗StrykerYeah, I love that song. It's awesome.
1:16:24🔗DrewYou know where I'm coming from, speaking your mind. I think the biggest problem we have today in society is that nobody wants to speak their mind and tell the truth. And if somebody asks you a question, there's always that preface. You want me to answer honestly? The fact that you have to say that is ridiculous.
1:16:42🔗DrewRight. It's all about being honest. And lyrically, I think I've always tried to be honest, as honest as I can describing a situation, or an idea, or a thought.
1:16:50🔗StrykerAnd when other people can relate to it, that's brilliant. That's what you want.
1:17:18🔗DrewHe never liked the band. He never used to come out and he used to. I can't tell you exactly what he said because I don't think I could say it, but he said that, I don't really like listening to you guys, but all the girls are here. So I got to hang.
1:17:39🔗StrykerSpeaking of my mind, I have a great relationship with my girlfriend, and I always tell her what I'm feeling, but she won't shave her pubic area for me. And it's something that I just want her to try once.
1:19:20🔗AdamThey have the hairiest man in the history of mankind in this infomercial. He's sitting back smiling. Some French lady is rubbing Nads, not product. On his legs. It was on his leg and he's sitting there smiling and she rips this thing off his leg and he...
1:19:36🔗AdamAnd they're like, look, he's not even in any pain. He's just smiling back and he's like, get this fricking thing off of me, please. Go for the Nads, Jason.
1:20:06🔗StrykerShe got a hernia? What happened with that? What happened with the waxing?
1:20:11🔗AdamShe wasn't smiling like the hairy gentleman on TV.
1:20:12🔗StrykerWhat do you mean she had a bad experience with the waxing? What does that mean?
1:20:16🔗StrykerHer sister told her that she went to a salon and she tried doing her bikini line but she couldn't follow through with it and she was going to try and shave.
1:20:51🔗CallerI have a question. I like love to have sex and I don't know. It's just like I got a really bad reputation at school last year and I'm trying, I don't know. Like I still just like I'll have friends that I just do that with and like there's nothing more, nothing less and I don't know. I don't know.
1:21:18🔗AdamYou're taking that route of just spreading them and having sex with anyone you can get your hands on.
1:21:24🔗StrykerWhat about getting some treatment for that experience?
1:21:27🔗CallerI went to counseling and we're in the middle of prosecuting right now and I don't know, just nothing's going on. I've like had hell with my parents and stuff.
1:21:38🔗StrykerNothing has helped? Is that what you said?
1:21:40🔗CallerNo, me and my parents ever since it's been going on for a couple of years now, it's been like I keep fighting with my parents and we don't have a good relationship.
1:21:54🔗StrykerI did counseling for like a year and it didn't do anything.
1:21:59🔗StrykerI bet it at least calms you down a little bit. Yeah, I bet it at least sort of kept some of these behaviors from exploding like they're doing now. So you can't always, with therapy, it's not like a magic panacea. It's not like you're just going to be well. But it helps you manage some of these feelings. It helps to reduce some of these risky behaviors and ultimately helps you process this all in a way that you do start to make healthy decisions and slowly do grow and feel better. Takes a long time.
1:22:30🔗AdamAll right, we got to take a quick break. Stryker here with Dr. Drew. I'm in for Adam along with SR-71. We're going to speak to a man who is thinking of piercing his penis. We'll find out if that's healthy next on Loveline. All right, we're back, it's Loveline. Stryker with Dr. Drew.
1:23:33🔗StrykerI have Neapolitan radio for breakfast.
1:23:35🔗AdamMitch, Jeff, and Dan are hanging out here in the Loveline studio, they're from SR-71, and you got 25% of your band outside of the studio. That would be whom?
1:23:45🔗DrewMark, he's too drunk to get on the air right now. Is he?
1:24:32🔗DrewActually, no. We have a great relationship with everybody back home. We played forever. We met everybody. Everyone, we played with everybody. So when we finally, actually the funny part is we disappeared for a year. Like I was telling you, we went to New York and then we finally got signed. And everybody went, what? Y'all got signed?
1:24:49🔗DrewSo we told everybody and the studios actually are jam-packed in Baltimore right now. Everybody's recording, everybody's putting on their own CD. Everybody's getting smart. They're realizing that if you want to do it, you got to get the music out there.
1:25:54🔗DrewNo, start with your ear. I'm not saying only do your ear. Start with your ear, get your nose, maybe your lip, your eyebrow, but Jesus, man.
1:25:59🔗AdamIt's not extreme enough just to go with yours.
1:26:01🔗StrykerI had that so long ago that it was back when if someone had their navel pierced, everybody would freak out.
1:26:13🔗AdamIs it safe, Dr. Drew, to get that procedure done?
1:26:16🔗StrykerIt's amazing how few complications there are, but there's bleeding and infection and stenosis of the urethra and all kinds of things can happen. They certainly aren't very, very likely to. But the question is why? Still, why put yourself in harm's way like that? What is it going to do for you?
1:26:34🔗AdamI know exactly why it wants to do it. Just like some people don't want to get one tattoo anymore because everyone has one tattoo. You gotta get the full sleeve now. Everyone has piercings, a nipple, an ear. If you go for the penis, it's more extreme than the guy next to you.
1:26:47🔗StrykerIt wouldn't be really different to none of that stuff.
1:26:50🔗AdamThat's just like my friend Barry that lives in San Diego. He's like, he's crazed, hot smoking, told his parents aren't listening, this person. And I'm like, how come you have no tattoo down here in San Diego? You haven't worn a shirt since the early 90s. He's like, everyone's got them. I'm not going to do it.
1:27:11🔗StrykerI've seen it done a couple of times. It is just horrifying.
1:27:14🔗StrykerSome people have gotten pretty messed up with it.
1:27:16🔗StrykerWell, no. How have you seen that done? We had them done twice live on the radio. Piercer came down here, guy laid right down right there, and they stuck a spear right through him. It was lovely.
1:27:28🔗AdamI don't know. Do it. Don't do it. I don't care. I guess Dr. Drew says it's safe. John, go for it.
1:27:34🔗StrykerThat's probably the thing I'm worried about. I don't want to lose sensitivity.
1:27:37🔗StrykerI said it's remarkable how few complications there are.
1:27:40🔗DrewI wouldn't mess. That's the area that I treasure the most. I don't want to put anything into it. I want to put it into other things.
1:27:47🔗StrykerI just wanted to see if he went into that BS about it being so arousing to his partner.
1:27:51🔗StrykerI'm not trying to be like, oh yeah, I've got a ring and show everybody. I'm not going to be like that. It's just going to be like, you know.
1:28:59🔗StrykerAnd what does she say when you ask her why?
1:29:01🔗Why she wants to do this? I've never really asked her. She just always wants... I mean, I've told her I don't really like it, but I never really asked her why she does it.
1:29:39🔗StrykerIt's not that you're doing wrong. It's just something about her and what her belief system is and what she feels she should or shouldn't be doing or is ready to do or not ready to do. And she needs to talk about that. She's how old? Seventeen. Seventeen? She may not be ready for this yet, but here she is.
1:29:56🔗DrewHey, Frank, I'm sorry, have you ever seen Annie Hall?
1:30:22🔗Yeah. I'm having problems with my girlfriend. I come from a less off family than she does, and I feel really uncomfortable around her family because her family is kind of wealthy and mine's not.
1:30:40🔗StrykerWhy should that make any difference to you?
1:30:41🔗Well, I don't know. I feel really uncomfortable around them because her mom drives a Lexus, and I drive like an old beat up Chevy.
1:31:26🔗CallerWell, because they're like, I don't know, they have all this money and stuff, and I've been raised living off a welfare part of my life and scraping up pennies and stuff to go get candy, that kind of thing.
1:31:40🔗AdamHey, Chris, are you afraid they're going to think that you're trying to be a freeloader?
1:32:02🔗StrykerThe people, if they're if they're quality people, which I would think that's what you would be sort of around, they would be judging you for your economic status. They judge you for who you are.
1:32:25🔗AdamChris, that's ridiculous. And I guarantee they have not thought about this one time that you're driving around in a lesser of a car than their daughter is or the mom's Lexus or the 2000 Honda.
1:32:36🔗DrewI was in, when I was in college, I dated a girl whose parents were very well off. And I drove a 71 Buick Skylark.
1:32:44🔗DrewAnd I had no money and I had very, very, very long hair. And trust me, when she brought me in, man, they freaked. But these people welcome you with open arms. They fed me night after night. They took me out to dinner. It was not until they saw me naked running down the hallway in their house and realizing that I was boning their daughter that they ever, ever act in any way not nice to me. But up until that point, trust me, they loved me.
1:33:15🔗AdamIt's like Daniel LaRusso, who was from Recita, going to date the girl that lived wherever she lived. All right. It's break time. But Drew, yes or no? Do tampons bust the hymen?
1:33:35🔗CallerCall 1-800-LOVE-191. Adam and Dr. Drew will be right back.
1:34:15🔗AdamWe're back. Loveline is here without Adam Corolla. I tried my best, little sucky, but you gotta deal with me one more time. I'm Stryker with Dr. Drew.
1:34:57🔗AdamThank you for having us. Thanks for dealing with me. Not only I'm speaking to everyone listening, great band, just great guys in general. It's very fun to meet you guys, fun to hang out.
1:35:05🔗DrewHey, can we plug the site, our website?
1:35:21🔗DrewIt's the dash, not underscore dash. That way, you got questions about dates, questions about anything else, please go to the site, refer to the site.
1:35:28🔗AdamIt'll be there and you can pick up their CD. Now you see inside for Dr. Drew. This is Stryker. We will talk to you guys tomorrow on Loveline saying, just for you, shalom.
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