2:19🔗VoiceoverListener discretion is advised. Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew Loveline, Coast to Coast.
2:30🔗AdamAll right, we're back. It's Loveline. Dealing with me again, Stryker, with Dr. Drew, board certified physician, addiction medicine specialist. One question for you, Dr. Drew. Where's your cell phone?
3:23🔗Cindy MargolisI had no clue. And I was lost. I was on the phone. I said, well, I don't know where I am, but there's a big crowd of people out here. Should I stop and ask them so I can pull up? And they ask, do you know where Westwood 1K rock? Like, hello, Cindy. And they have these pictures. I'm so clueless sometimes. I'm driving myself here. I get out, look at me, and how I'm dressed.
3:43🔗DrewOh, you did? But not me personally. I mean, Westwood 1, Westwood None is the driving force here.
3:49🔗Cindy MargolisNo, I loved it. It was great. What a reception. You guys throw a party here. We throw a party. Yeah, I have to have my show from here from now on.
3:54🔗AdamThe only bad thing is you have to deal with me instead of Corolla.
4:22🔗AdamTake it easy. No, I used to sleep at his house. He played on the Yankees in Little League, and he was a good tennis player, and we played tennis against each other.
4:30🔗Cindy MargolisThat is amazing. Wow, what a small world.
4:32🔗AdamDoes his mom still wear those funky, really big, round hats?
5:15🔗Okay. I have this problem with whenever, okay, all my friends are guys, and whenever they show interest towards me, it's always sexual interest and it's never like, hey, I want to be my girlfriend.
5:29🔗AdamWell, guys don't want, well, most guys at least, just don't want a girl as a friend. Guys think sexually. You think so, Cindy?
5:48🔗AdamShe wants guys just as friends while these guys want a little more than a friendship, right?
5:52🔗Yeah. Or even like a boyfriend. Like I have this interest in this guy and we like made out and stuff. And I was like, you know, we almost had sex. And I was like, wait, you know, I'm not this type of person. We can at least go. He's like, well, you're not really girlfriend type. And then he stopped like calling me and stuff.
6:10🔗DrewSee, that's the question. Why doesn't she ever get the boyfriend?
7:28🔗DrewSo why are shows ended up in Friendville? Once you, there's a reason that you're there in the first place. In other words, a guy that is really interested in you is not gonna stop at Friendville. He's gonna keep going right through. So the fact that they're already friends means that they're not attracted to you in that same way. And you really have to sort of start from scratch. And there's nothing wrong with you asking guys out that you're interested in and really letting your ability be known that you're interested in them. And don't wait until a friendship is established and then try to kind of move it along from there because guys don't usually do that. Women are much more evolved that way. They can do that kind of thing. Guys are sort of, they're either in slot A or slot B and they don't go back and forth.
8:05🔗AdamElizabeth, I want to know how many guys do you like kiss and maybe go more than that and then say, oh, by the way, I'm not that kind of a girl. Do you do that with most of the guys you date?
8:17🔗Cindy MargolisNo, she is not. I'm sticking up for you, Elizabeth. Actually, you're 18, you know, I had a boyfriend when I was 18 and it lasted for 10 years and I regretted it. I thought that, you know, you're young, enjoy it. I know I didn't have a boyfriend all through high school. So when I got a boyfriend, I was like, yeah, you know, I'm going to have a boyfriend. I was so excited. But I'm telling you, you're young. Enjoy it. Enjoy being single. Enjoy all these guys loving you. I'm telling you, it's okay to be a tease when you're 18. Go for it and have a good time.
8:42🔗AdamIt's not okay if you're the guy, for Christ's sake.
8:45🔗AdamSure. Kiss me, kiss me. Let me grab the boob. I'm not that kind of girl. Unacceptable. You're telling me, Ace Rockolla. Cindy Margolis is here. And let's talk to Jim, who is 42. What's up, man?
8:59🔗Hey, how are you doing? I was just calling because I have a real problem with a relationship because my girlfriend is only 22 and I'm 42. And we both love each other, but we have a lot of problems and a lot of communication.
9:19🔗Well, part of it's her family, part of it's her age. You know, I have teenage children. And she's eight and a half months pregnant. She's getting ready to deliver.
10:16🔗No, she had basically planned to have a trip, basically.
10:23🔗AdamWhat's your question, though, by the way?
10:25🔗My question is, is how do I get along with her better? How do I understand how she feels?
10:34🔗AdamWell, she's 22, you're 42. Let's see, you were married and then you hooked up with her. Now she's pregnant, you're on a camping trip. I don't know.
10:40🔗DrewYou're asking a huge question. She's got a lot of stuff going on, no doubt. I mean, she ambushed you on a camping trip, a married man. And now that she's got you, she's creating all sorts of drama. There's a lot going on with her, a lot.
10:54🔗AdamHave you dated any older guys, Cindy, before, as you were growing up?
10:57🔗Cindy MargolisI have not. That's a big age difference. I mean, she's going to be a completely different person in a couple of years. I mean, 22 is so young. When she's 25, she won't even act, you know, completely different.
11:06🔗AdamYou think girls are still growing mentally at 22?
11:11🔗DrewWomen are still ahead of 22. Don't get me wrong. It's much more evolved.
11:14🔗That's the major problem is that we both love each other, but we don't know what to do.
11:19🔗DrewWell, get some counseling, Jim, because there's a ton going on here, and it's not some simple intellectual exercise of understanding where she's from. There's a lot going on, and she injects tons of chaos into her relationships, and there's reasons for that, and that needs to be sorted out.
11:33🔗Cindy MargolisAnd now they're bringing kids into it.
11:34🔗DrewOh, on behalf of the kids, get some help, right?
11:37🔗AdamAnd on behalf of the public, stop having more kids. All right, Jim? I'm serious. Poor Jim.
11:43🔗DrewTake care of those teenage kids. Make sure they don't have kids, too. He's got teenagers.
11:47🔗AdamThe teenager is 17, the mom is 22. You want to go to the bar tonight, kids?
11:53🔗DrewI found out today that Springer and shows like that have a staff dentist. Really? Because people that come on the show, their teeth are so messed up, they had to actually do something before they put them on the air.
12:04🔗Cindy MargolisYou know, the executive producer of my show is the Jerry Springer, executive producer. Ask him about the staff dentist.
12:10🔗AdamYeah, ask him about that. I don't think Scribble needs a dentist, does he? No. You're DJ from the show? No, of course not. He's good on the Ones and the Twos, by the way.
12:36🔗DrewIt's a... I've actually been on Accutane twice. I've been on it too. Me too. And it just got off it and it made me depressed as hell, as a matter of fact. And fatigued and back pain and short of breath, all kinds of funny symptoms. But I kind of persevered.
12:47🔗Cindy MargolisI didn't realize all that was related to Accutane.
12:49🔗DrewIt can be. Accutane has lots of funny potential symptoms.
12:52🔗DrewWhat is it? It's a vitamin A analog that clears acne. It's an incredible medicine, incredible, and extremely effective. And it's something you want to take and take carefully. And it can certainly precipitate depression. And usually, it's very quickly reversible if you're off the medicine. So it's not a huge risk. Just make sure you watch very carefully. Don't let somebody hand you a month's supply and say go about your business. Make sure you watch every couple weeks for a while. And, you know, 14-year-olds, they give them big doses too, bigger than adults.
13:19🔗Cindy MargolisYeah, and you have to check with your doctor and have your blood.
13:21🔗DrewAnd the big issue with it is it causes severe birth defects. So women of childbearing age, they're very careful with it.
13:26🔗Cindy MargolisThat little pregnant woman with the X on every pill. That's scary.
13:30🔗AdamSo does it cure it temporarily, the acne?
13:33🔗DrewWell, there's sort of total doses you're supposed to take as an adult. They can clear it up. The same with young people. But usually the younger people use six months of a certain dose and sometimes it's curative, sometimes it isn't. Sometimes they have to do it again.
13:49🔗AdamAccutane if you have pimples, by the way, you guys. All right. 1-800-LOVE-191. Cindy Margolis is here and Rico is on Loveline. What's up?
13:58🔗Hi. I just found pornographic pictures of my stepfather with his ex-wife. And I don't know if I should tell my mother because she just got over severe depression and she's real happy with him. So what should I do?
14:27🔗DrewYeah, but here's the deal. This is upsetting to you. And it's not your responsibility to take care of your parents. You're thinking about them long before you're thinking about your own feelings. You're thinking about your mom being okay with this guy now and you wouldn't want to upset her. But here they've done things that are sort of unhealthy for you, leaving these pictures around.
14:46🔗AdamI want to know where these pictures were, Rico. Yeah. Where'd you find them? Were you snooping around or what? Seriously.
15:18🔗AdamSo what does Rico need to do about this?
15:20🔗Cindy MargolisDoes she just keep it to herself or what do you think?
15:22🔗DrewI think you need to talk to an adult that is close to the scene so if these adults need to be spoken to, they can be spoken to by another adult and it's not Rico's responsibility.
15:33🔗AdamWhat were you looking for in the safe, Rico?
15:37🔗DrewPart of the problem is you get what you ask for when you do that too.
15:40🔗AdamI don't know if I blame the stepdad that much. They were in the safe.
15:43🔗DrewYeah, I understand. You're right. I thought they were just kind of lying around. It's not that big a deal in terms of what the parents have done but on the other hand, it's not his responsibility to maintain their happiness.
15:52🔗AdamI agree. I agree. So quit snooping around and find an adult and tell them Rico or her, okay?
16:00🔗AdamOkay, good. Sounds a little wishy-washy. All right. Let's talk to David here on Loveline who is 20. What's up, David?
16:08🔗Hi. I think my girlfriend, she's dusted her bra and it seemed pretty big but she never let me touch him in any way. Whenever we have sex, she keeps her shirt on.
16:32🔗AdamAnd you have never taken her shirt off yourself?
16:35🔗CallerNo. It's like every time I try to even go towards that way. She kind of slightly makes a gesture to move my hand away or sometimes I'll catch her adjusting it and making sure it looks right, making sure it looks straight.
16:49🔗DrewIsn't that weird that people can be that intimate?
17:14🔗Cindy MargolisAnd would it bother you if she was?
17:16🔗CallerNo, not at all. That's the thing. I mean, no matter what, I love her no matter what.
17:20🔗DrewIf you say it like that, I'm sure you'll be able to sort of open a discussion about this, OK? Really. It's something bothersome to you. It's not as though she's missing this. Something obviously she's attending to very carefully.
17:33🔗CallerI just don't see how long she thinks it's going to hold off.
17:37🔗AdamIt's going to go on forever. She's never going to take it off forever.
17:40🔗DrewI don't see how it's going on this long.
17:58🔗CallerNo, I know what happened. She told me what happened. We went to a club on Halloween and she got raped in the club by a couple guys.
18:08🔗DrewThat wasn't the first time she was raped, I guarantee it.
18:10🔗CallerI know it wasn't. But the point is, if she doesn't leave her full on sex, I don't see what the whole touching her breast would mean.
18:18🔗DrewWell, you're going to have to work very, you've got a work cut out for you. She's had majorly abuse, probably since a very young age. She's going to have all sorts of mixed feelings about being sexually active. It's sort of extraordinary that she can have a close relationship and is able to even have sex with you at all. So you've got to take this very gently, but I think you shouldn't worry about embarrassing her. Just to tell you very honestly how you feel and talk about it.
18:45🔗AdamAll right, David. All right, thanks. OK.
19:15🔗AdamGot it. Mine are going here. All right. Cindy Margolis is here in John 23 on Loveline. What's up?
19:20🔗Hey, guys. How are you doing today? Good. Hey, John. Dr. Drew, hello. Stryker doing a good job while Adam's out. Thanks. Cindy, beautiful girl. Thank you. Well-downloaded woman on the internet. Okay. Here's my problem. I have a bacterial infection in my throat. I'm sicker than I've ever been in my life. I'm totally hit. I'm taking days off of work. Wow. Once the doctor got like a super strong antibiotic. The thing is, I was intimate with my girlfriend for the first time this weekend, oral sex, and we had sex. Of course, I used a condom for the sex. Reading the medicine, the little thing you get from the pharmacy that's used for this, this, and this, it says something about an STD. I can't figure out how I got this.
20:06🔗DrewAzithromax is for sore throats, right? Period. It also, in a one gram dose, is for chlamydia. But they didn't give you one gram. They gave you 500 milligrams followed by four 250 milligram doses, which means they're not treating you for chlamydia. They're treating you for a sore throat.
20:24🔗DrewStrap. It's not an STD. They're not treating you for an STD.
20:27🔗Okay, so I have nothing to worry about then?
20:29🔗DrewWell, Zithromax is the right medicine for chlamydia, but that's not what they're treating you for. Okay.
20:34🔗AdamHey, John, if it was chlamydia, it would have been 50 milligrams.
20:38🔗DrewReally? A gram, a gram. A gram. A thousand milligrams. A thousand milligrams. And no, no, no, no, no. It's just some sort of infection. Zithromax is fine. Zithromax is fine. There's other chlamydia other than STD chlamydia. There's chlamydia, Tuor, and there's mycoplasm, and all sorts of non-bacterial, in between a bacteria and a virus that can cause sore throats. Zithromax is pretty good for it.
21:03🔗AdamRight now, John is going to break dance and do backflips that he doesn't have in STD.
21:06🔗DrewDefinitely. This is another reason why the pharmacy should not be including information with the medication they've been sending.
21:12🔗AdamPharmacists are so odd to me because I'll go and get a prescription that give me nine pages of material.
21:17🔗Cindy MargolisI like to read that, though. You're saying that just makes your imagination go.
21:23🔗DrewI was talking to SR-71 last night here, and I said, when you're trained in medicine, you learn how to evaluate and create great lists of positive findings and putting the history together, and then you create giant list of what the possible explanations are, diagnostically, and a million reasons why it's the one diagnosis you finally arrive at. Fast forward 15 years into your training, and you walk in the room, and you smell it. You know what it is immediately. I mean, literally, it comes from experience. So to take somebody that has no experience and start to give them those lists, it just scares the crap out of them.
21:53🔗Cindy MargolisWhen it says possible side effects, they all go through your mind. Oh, I had that. I had that.
21:57🔗DrewYou have to be in the context of a ton of experience, or it's just meaningless information.
22:01🔗AdamWell, they should redo that at the local drugstores. All right, we're going to speak to Brian in a second. We got to take a quick break. All I know, Brian wants to talk about anal beads.
22:21🔗StrykerLoveline, we'll be right back. Call on the 1-800-LOVE-191.
22:59🔗AdamAll right, we're back. It's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. Stryker here, in for Adam Corolla along with Dr. Drew and Cindy Margolis. Hello there. All right. So you got this new show, The Cindy Margolis Show. And I think it's on Channel 2 in LA.
23:13🔗Cindy MargolisIt is. CBS follows Howard Stern, Saturday Nights. And it is all about a good time.
23:18🔗AdamWhat's the whole premise? It's like you got DJ Scribble playing music, you got girls in tops, it's on the beach. It's just like a big party show or what?
23:25🔗Cindy MargolisGirls in less than tops. It's illegal to be topless in Miami on the beach. So if you're topless at noon, only imagine what you're going to do at midnight.
24:05🔗Cindy MargolisWe're in my South Beach. It is just a late night party. We have sexy games. We have our Webkini Contest. We have celebrities, music, dancing. It's a late night beach party. The first late night show to be shot on the beach at night. It's just all about getting everybody naked. That is the goal of the show. Just like this show here. That's the goal.
24:24🔗AdamThe goal here is to get naked. What time is it? 10.26?
24:26🔗Cindy MargolisBy midnight we'll all be naked and my show as well.
24:30🔗AdamCan I have a glass of water please in here? Anything we'll do. Gatorade will be fun. But all around the country, it's not just on CBS, it's syndicated. So they have to find out what channel is on.
25:05🔗Cindy MargolisFor a little bit. I was a Barker Beauty.
25:07🔗AdamDid Bob ever show you that long ass mic that he carries around?
25:11🔗Cindy MargolisHe did not. I was there during that little awkward time when some lawsuits were going on. So I couldn't get anywhere near Bob. You know, I'm an affectionate person here. I want to give you a hug. And he's like, don't touch me.
25:22🔗AdamSo you were doing that. And then you were ahead of the game in terms of getting websites.
25:25🔗Cindy MargolisYeah, in 95, no one had one. No one knew what a downloader the Internet was, including myself.
25:30🔗AdamAnd no one could steal your name either.
25:31🔗Cindy MargolisNo one could steal my name. This is way before. And the TV show Extra came down. They were the first entertainment entity to have a website. And they said, oh, can we put your picture up? And I said, sure. Had no clue what I was doing. And the next day, America Online called and said, oh, you know, you got this many downloads. Again, no clue. But when America Online calls, you find out real quick what they're talking about. So I started working with them doing chats. And here I am four years later with Yahoo, American Online, Guinness, and, you know, most downloads.
25:57🔗AdamSo it started with The Price is Right, then getting the website, Extra, Extra, put it on TV and bam, there you go.
26:02🔗Cindy MargolisAnd then you started doing stuff for E! Entertainment, too.
26:04🔗AdamYou are parlaying this thing like no other. Good job. That's exactly the way to do it.
26:09🔗Cindy MargolisI'm working it. I'm working it.
26:10🔗AdamNo, but you're doing it well. And then that TV show on E! I've seen a bunch of times.
26:14🔗Cindy MargolisI know. In your dreams. I have where I make people's dreams come true. They're entertainment dreams. So if you're an aspiring singer, model, or band. Actually, my band got on K-Rock Capital, too.
26:25🔗AdamNow what do you think I am? Chopped Liver? I watch that show.
27:03🔗Cindy MargolisI don't know either. I'm right with him.
27:05🔗AdamWell, the only I think, therefore, you have someone slightly push them in there. It's a long string of them and then they slowly remove them from the buttocks. That is supposed to create pleasure.
27:17🔗DrewYeah. Right, Dr. Drew? Remove them however the people like them removed.
27:22🔗AdamWhy are you interested in these things, Brian?
27:26🔗CallerHe was going to buy them and I wanted to know what they were.
27:29🔗DrewThat's what they are. Things you put up your keyster.
27:31🔗AdamPut up your butt and you pull them out with your mouth, your feet, your hands, and slowly or fast and it creates pleasure for the other person, apparently.
27:38🔗Cindy MargolisDoes it matter what kind of beads? Could it be any type of beads or is it a certain type?
27:42🔗AdamWell, as long as they're round and fit up there. Nothing too big.
27:46🔗Cindy MargolisYou seem to know a lot about this.
27:47🔗AdamTake it easy, Cindy. All right, Brian? Thanks a lot, man.
27:51🔗AdamBye-bye. 15, asking at anal beads. God, I didn't learn this until about two weeks ago. Philip, 18, on Loveline with Cindy Margolis. What's up?
28:01🔗I really appreciate you taking my call. I actually lied to get on. I hope you don't mind. But anyways, on to the question. About a year and a half ago, I dyed my hair. And after that, my hair started falling out.
28:20🔗Well, I dyed the hair on my scalp. And that started falling out. But then about six months later, my pubic hair started falling out as well.
28:26🔗DrewOh, interesting. Without that, I haven't been dyed.
28:29🔗Right. And then the story unfolds more. I've like lost a lot of my sex drive since then. And I was wondering if this was like a hormonal problem. I've been to the doctor and a doctor told me I was just stressed. And then I've been to a dermatologist and he just, he prescribed me Propecia, but I mean I just don't think it's just like, I mean I think he said it was hereditary or, but it seems like maybe I have some kind of hormonal imbalance or...
29:04🔗DrewWell, I'll tell you, loss of hair in the pubic area in a young person is a sort of weak sign, but a sign of adrenal insufficiency. It's your adrenal glands aren't working quite right. Okay, so that's a possible explanation, and that would potentially cause hair loss in the head, too. Then you worry about medication, you worry about other thyroid conditions, you worry about some kind of chemical reaction, whatever you're using for the dye.
29:30🔗AdamWhat kind of, what color hair did you...
30:21🔗DrewBut I would keep pursuing this and ask to see an endocrinologist, okay?
30:25🔗CallerYeah, that's what I was going to do next.
30:28🔗DrewAll right, all right, get it checked out. But it may be something hereditary, it may be related to stress. Those are certainly reasonable explanations for this, but I agree you should have it thoroughly worked out before you sort of leave it at those diagnoses, all right?
30:39🔗CallerAll right, okay, thanks a lot, goodbye.
30:41🔗AdamQuit telling lies. Dyeing your hair and the pubic hair falls out?
30:46🔗DrewIt may just be incidental, though. It may have some time to time.
30:48🔗Cindy MargolisYeah, I don't think it had anything to do with the dye. Please, please, I hope not. All us real blondes out there aren't going to like that.
30:55🔗AdamJust got a little blonde action going today. Trisha.
31:08🔗CallerYes, and of course, he just boned out and that was it. And my question to you was, you see, I was just going to let him have nothing to do with the child and just raise him on my own. I wasn't going to put him down as the father or for child support, but some other people are telling me that I should.
31:30🔗CallerYeah, no, to get him for child support.
31:32🔗DrewAll right, he has a responsibility to help support the child.
31:36🔗CallerAnd you know, and I understand that, but like he's going around saying, I guess, that he thinks I'm doing this to keep him around and I'm not. And you know, my moral to that was just, you know, I wasn't going to put him down as father. I wasn't going to get him for child support.
31:50🔗DrewIt's fine not to put him down to your child. That's not going to make the child's life any easier by sort of criticizing his dad all the time. That's going to be bad for the child. I support that. But to let this guy slip out from under his responsibilities entirely, why?
32:06🔗CallerI know. And he just like totally, you know, stopped calling and just hasn't been around.
32:11🔗DrewThat's fine. Let the authorities take care of collecting from him.
32:14🔗AdamHow many times had you slept with him, do you think? Or how many times did you sleep with him?
33:16🔗CallerWelder? No, he just works at a little, like, hardware business.
33:23🔗AdamAll right, Trisha, the only thing I would say, maybe you're only 22. I know there's kids a lot younger than you having kids, but maybe put it up for adoption and, you know, try to straighten out your life a little bit.
33:32🔗DrewProbably be the best interest of the child to do that.
33:39🔗AdamBye. All right, 1-800-LOVE-191. Who am I to be giving advice?
33:43🔗Cindy MargolisWow, yeah, that was a big decision. Telling her to put him up for adoption.
33:46🔗AdamBut did you hear that? The baby's going to have no father. All right, he works in a hardware store. She's an office manager. I don't know if she went to college or anything, but the baby's at a disadvantage the second it's born.
33:58🔗DrewAnd it's not like we believe she's going to march out and go, oh, good, thank goodness that got resolved tonight. Set up the adoption paper tomorrow morning. But the kids do not think about that enough as an option. It really is the healthy one for the kid most often.
34:14🔗CallerYes, I'm having a bit of an ordeal. I've been in a relationship with a guy for over seven years, and we have a two-year-old son, and it's never been a healthy relationship from the get-go, and I've just stuck it out, whatever. And I've recently decided to end the relationship.
34:35🔗CallerWell, it kind of has to do with some of the stuff that you guys were saying to the last girl, but I had to think of my son's best interests, and I don't think that raising him in a household like this would be the best thing for him.
34:48🔗DrewIs he an addict, or is he raging all the time?
34:51🔗CallerNo, not really. It's kind of more of, like, I call it that he has, like, trophy kid syndrome, like how guys have trophy wives who kind of have, like, a trophy kid. Like, he doesn't really spend quality time with him. He only wants to kind of show him off, type stuff, and then there is some, like, drug and alcohol stuff that I'm not kosher with, even being in my household with my son, and there's just a lot of other issues. He's cheated on me numerous times. He's really disrespectful to me. My son sees it. I don't want him to be raised in that kind of environment. But now that I've made this decision for the two of us to get out, I'm having a lot of anxiety about it. I thought that I would be feeling pretty excited and, like, ready to get on with my own life, but I feel like I'm getting more and more depressed.
35:44🔗AdamFor the child's sake, it's making you upset, I guess?
35:48🔗CallerWell, I think that that has a lot to do with it, because I had my son when I was pretty young, and I knew that it was like I didn't want to be just a statistic, whatever, teen parent, and I wanted to do, like, the right thing by staying with the dad, and now I'm going against what I had worked so hard to do, and I think that that might be some of it, but I don't know. I'm totally throwing myself for a loop.
36:12🔗DrewIs it just making a big change, being alone, that sort of thing makes you anxious?
36:16🔗CallerI've never been alone. I started dating this guy when I was 17, moving in with him when I was 14. I started dating when I was 14.
36:24🔗CallerHe's 25. He was 18 when we started dating.
36:26🔗DrewThat's enough to provoke a lot of anxiety itself. What were you running away from at home?
36:31🔗CallerWell, I think that I was trying to substitute, like, a not really there for me dad with, like, another male, because he and my dad are pretty similar. So I think that I was probably trying to fill that void that my dad had left with him. And it's just, like, a vicious cycle, because obviously my dad wasn't doing the right thing. So now he's not doing the right thing.
36:55🔗DrewHave you had some treatment, some therapy or something?
37:01🔗Cindy MargolisBecause she sounds like she has her head together. She sounds like she's thinking it through, yeah. You're right. If you feel you have to leave him, it really sounds like you know what you're doing. I was raised by a single mom. So I think if you feel strong enough, and it would be good for the child to get away from him, it sounds like you're already halfway out the door, and that you...
37:17🔗CallerI'm in school right now, and I'm done with school in October, and I'm leaving as soon as I'm done with school. So I have the date set to leave. It's just that as that date keeps getting closer and closer, I feel like I'm freaking out more and more.
37:32🔗DrewIt's going to be uncomfortable. If it were an easy decision or easy path to go down, you would have done it a long time ago. It's been a path of least resistance for you to stay in this abusive situation. So obviously, there's a lot of heavy feelings attached to leaving this situation.
37:48🔗Cindy MargolisIt's going to get harder before it gets easier.
37:52🔗CallerBut is it really going to be... I guess what my issue is with it now is, is it more beneficial for a son to be raised by a single mother in a positive relationship or in a positive environment, or is having that father figure...
38:09🔗DrewHe needs the father. You can't take his father away from him. But you can structure the relationship with him in such a way that he's not exposed to so much negativity. And which is better for a given child? No one can answer that.
38:23🔗AdamAnytime you're with someone for a long period of time and you want to get out, whether it's a child or not, you're stressed about it, you know? And if there's a child involved, it's going to make it even worse. So I just think... Yeah, I just think your feelings are normal at least. All right, we got to take a break. Cindy Margolis is here, Stryker for Corolla along with Dr. Drew. We're going to speak to Tori in a second, who was exposed to, wow, oh my god, all right, you'll find out what it is in a minute on Loveline.
39:38🔗DrewI don't know. Just like Cindy, we're just told to sit down and answer the question.
39:43🔗AdamI'm kidding. They would never say, no, I'm just messing around.
39:46🔗Cindy MargolisWe've been drilling Drew about Loveline's TV show.
39:49🔗AdamI have family, and I'll say, yeah, I'm doing this Loveline show, filling in for this guy, Adam Corolla. Why isn't it going to be on TV? Like 60-year-old people that have seen the show on Loveline.
40:02🔗AdamYeah, definitely. Cindy Margolis is here, and you have the Cindy Margolis show, which if you guys live in LA, I know it's on Channel 2 on Saturday nights after the Howard Stern Show. It's on pretty late, and I saw it last week.
40:13🔗Cindy MargolisIt's on Saturday nights everywhere.
40:14🔗AdamOh, everywhere Saturday nights. Okay. Very good. How many shows have you already filmed, or you just do it every week?
40:22🔗Cindy MargolisYeah, we already have a couple in the Cairns. So I'm going to go back to South Beach and maybe Vegas and just travel and have a good time. You know Saturday night is party night, date night.
40:31🔗Cindy MargolisSo, you know, it's all about having fun.
40:33🔗AdamOn my next date, I'm going for dinner or movie and watching the Cindy Margolis show. And speaking of cans, hopefully grabbing them. Ooh. Yes, yes. And you, Cindy, maybe?
40:40🔗Cindy MargolisWe do have our Webkini Contest. We have five gorgeous girls every week strutting their stuff, so I know you'll be there.
40:46🔗AdamI love reading the bio. It says, we have gorgeous people on here, both men and women.
40:50🔗Cindy MargolisWell, you know, I don't know if you noticed this, but I am a girl. Did you notice that? Yeah, of course. So there is stuff for girls to look at on the show, too. I made sure of that, yeah.
40:57🔗AdamIf you ever need someone with a really ripped stomach and like blonde spiky hair, I know this, no, it's not me, because I have the... Yeah, exactly, Drew. The handsome man over here, Dr. Drew. Mr. Big Brother. All right, Tori. Hi. Hi, you're 15, I'm Loveline.
41:12🔗CallerFirst off, I want to see Stryker. You're doing a very good job.
41:31🔗CallerI'm nervous. Okay, well, basically, my question was, being, I was, I'm sorry, I was like a sexual content. I was kind of exposed to that at an early age. And I was just wondering, like, is that why I'm, like, completely turned off to this stuff thought of, like, sex and sexual acts?
41:54🔗CallerYes, and my mom is just very open about our sexuality. If I don't want to hear about it.
41:59🔗DrewYeah, there is, I've been talking the last few days about theories of trajectory, as far as it goes to energy about one's sexuality. And there are things that can happen in childhood that can set you down various trajectory paths. And what you had experienced is something that can set you certainly in one direction or the other. It can set you in a direction towards hypersexuality or pretty much shut down to sexuality.
42:21🔗CallerWell, I'd rather shut down than like over acting.
42:24🔗DrewWell, neither is healthy, but indeed, of the two, this is a safer and less dangerous route to go down.
42:31🔗Cindy MargolisBut at 15, what are you supposed to expect sexually?
42:34🔗CallerI don't know what this thing is, even just kissing. I'm just like, I recently, I don't know, a couple months ago, I had my first kiss and I was just completely like, I wish it would have been somebody that I would have really liked, but it wasn't. And I just thought, okay, I'm gonna get it over with because all my other friends were like, oh, Ryan, you haven't even had your first kiss yet, da, da, da, da, da. And so, I'm just like, well, okay. What's the big deal?
42:59🔗DrewWell, Ryan is aversive to this. It's not just that she has no sexual feelings, she's actually aversive.
43:04🔗Cindy MargolisWell, couldn't she be a lay bloomer?
43:07🔗CallerI don't think I am, because I know I'm ready for that kind of stuff. It's just like, I haven't found the right person to like, experience it with.
43:14🔗DrewShe's aware that there's a connection here.
43:19🔗DrewYou might get over it, you might get over it.
43:20🔗AdamYeah, do you think you need to speak to someone, just get some things off your chest, maybe that'll, you know, make you feel more comfortable next time you want to make out with a guy?
43:27🔗CallerI had a therapist, but it was just, I didn't like, I don't like crying in front of people, so I had this thing about opening up to her that I didn't want to do, so I ended up talking about irrelevant stuff that I, like, instead of stuff I really should have talked about.
44:41🔗CallerI think it's perfectly clear when the wrong band over. Heidi says she'll be sincere as much as she can know. I called her up and I said, you know, that I'm drowning. It's the dog train over again. He says that he thinks that I need more hunts.
45:04🔗Cindy MargolisAll right, Tori, make some noise.
45:06🔗AdamGood job, Ryan, Tori. Email on Cindy and maybe she'll...
45:10🔗CallerI didn't ask her to do a computer. My hard drive crashed.
45:13🔗Cindy MargolisOkay, then you have to... Can we put her on hold and get her number? Yeah, OK, cool.
45:17🔗AdamHold on one sec, OK? All right, can you guys get her number or something, and we'll track you down, and maybe you'll be able to hang the story.
45:22🔗DrewWe're now going to have the 4,000th edition coming out of this show.
45:44🔗AdamEw, what's going on? Me and you and the trip, those two women. OK, Jeff, 22, you're on Loveline. Drew, you can come. I see you over there going, oh, come on, let me go.
46:11🔗CallerGreat. I'm fine. Wow, Cindy Margolis. Anyways, let me tell you the reason that I'm calling. Basically, recently, I told my dad about a friend of his that messed with me when I was a kid, and sorry, I'm really nervous.
46:37🔗CallerStill a very close friend of his. Wow. And basically, I told him everything that happened, and he won't talk to me anymore.
46:46🔗DrewIs he just freaked out or what do you mean? Is he mad at you?
46:50🔗CallerI don't know. At first, the first thing he asked me after I told him was, why did I let it go on for so long? Why did I tell him did I like it and that sort of stuff?
47:07🔗CallerAnd he won't let my mom call me. And so I rarely get to talk to her. And one thing you have to know about me is I don't have a lot of friends. I'm very, very close to my family. I mean, I love them very much.
47:21🔗AdamDo you have a phone you can use to call your mom?
47:24🔗CallerYeah, but if my dad answers the phone, you know.
47:46🔗CallerAnd he's not that good of a golfer. But I have a four-year-old son, and my son is just... I mean, my dad is his Superman. He's in love with the guy. And he used to have lunch with my son every Wednesday. And he doesn't even call my son. He doesn't come by.
48:11🔗DrewYou've got to figure out a way to reconcile this. And can't you, at least on behalf of your son, get something going?
48:16🔗CallerYou've got to understand I'm not mad at my dad. I don't have any problem with my dad at all. And I've tried to talk to him. And it's like he's afraid to touch me. And he used to be one of those, I mean, like I'm 22 years old. And he would still hug me and tell me he loved me and how proud he was of me and my life and what I'm doing because I'm about to get married. And now he just won't even, you know, he won't have anything to do with me.
48:40🔗DrewCan you, this is all his crap, you know. It's nothing to do with you.
48:45🔗CallerIt's not like he's even acting like he's mad at me. It's just he avoids my phone calls and then I'll call, like a couple of times that I have called my mom and fix the phone and said, your dad's here. I'll call you back later.
48:56🔗DrewHold on. We got to take a break. Yeah. I want to talk some more to Jeff here.
49:13🔗Loveline, Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191, we'll be right back.
49:59🔗AdamWe're back, it's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. Ted Stryker here, in for Ace Rockolla, but have no fear, the man will be back on Sunday, right Drew?
50:11🔗AdamAre you? I'm afraid when he's, like, when Dr. Bruce fills in for you, he rags on the guy the whole time, and then you come back, and he just goes on, Dr. Bruce, this, Dr. Bruce.
50:39🔗DrewDoesn't he? He's building a cathedral-like garage.
50:42🔗AdamExactly, I want to go over there. Cindy Margolis is here, and you got the Cindy Margolis Show, Saturday Nights. Check it out when you get home, and you've had a few beers. You'll have material in your mind to take care of business, guys, for at least seven months, right?
50:55🔗Cindy MargolisYes, and Bo Weiser is our sponsor, so it's okay to watch my show drunk.
50:59🔗AdamThere you go, exactly. Dr. Drew is nodding his head.
51:05🔗AdamShaking your head going, yeah, yeah, I'm going to do that. Now, I got a fax the other day. Somebody has overtaken you as the most downloadable woman on the internet, have you heard about that?
51:14🔗Cindy MargolisI have heard about that. Actually, no, it's completely different. It's Dani Ash, and she is the most downloaded x-rated site. She does, you know, porno chicks. I keep my clothes on, so it's a completely different category.
51:26🔗AdamHave you posed for a playboy or anything like that?
51:28🔗Cindy MargolisI have not. You know, but I have nothing against nudity. I'm not here to say.
51:54🔗AdamIt was very cool. Scantily clad in the bikinis.
51:57🔗Cindy MargolisSexy girl next door. Definitely. I have a whole girl talk community for women too.
52:01🔗AdamWhat's up with the girl talk? The community for women.
52:04🔗Cindy MargolisI have my own home shopping products. I'm a spokesperson for imamogram.com. There's a reason for women to come to my site. And, you know, when I put up my wedding pictures, they got downloaded more than my bikini pictures. So there you go.
52:42🔗AdamLet me just rehash what's going on with you very quickly. All right. Jeff finally broke down. He told his dad that he was molested between four and seven years old by his dad's friend who his dad still talks to and plays golf with. Your dad apparently is very upset about this. And now he won't even talk to you when you had a very close relationship before you told him, right?
53:00🔗AdamNow you want to know what the hell to do with your life because you still love your dad. You still want to hug him and you're getting married soon. Dr. Drew, this is you.
53:07🔗DrewIsn't there any sort of third-person liaison you could use to try to make the contact? Mom, uncle, aunt, somebody else that he respects?
53:17🔗CallerYeah, the thing is my dad is just like a really hard-headed person and...
53:20🔗DrewI understand, but he's clearly not willing to even have any contact with you for reasons that are truly bizarre.
53:25🔗CallerRight, and that's the problem. If I knew what the problem was, I know my dad is willing to go fix it.
53:30🔗DrewI understand, but he's not going to allow you that opportunity. So you have to have somebody else make the contact and begin moving them in the right direction because whatever is going on with him, it's bizarre and it's all in his head.
53:41🔗DrewHe needs somebody to talk a little sense into him, and he's not going to allow that from you. So who else can you contact?
53:46🔗AdamIt doesn't sound like your mom can do it either, just from the way your mother cannot talk to you. Probably not.
53:50🔗DrewIt sounds like it needs to be another male, so just judging by it. Why don't you, could you ever get the friend that perpetrated this to... To admit it? Not just admit it, but to make at least some amends by helping heal this rift?
54:06🔗CallerOkay, the guy that did it, when I see him around town or whatever, he winks at me, blows kisses at me. I'm 22 years old, I can handle it.
54:25🔗AdamDo you have any uncles in town, big men, that can put some sense into this dude and your dad?
54:31🔗DrewYour dad, primarily, we're interested in.
54:33🔗CallerPossibly, the thing is, I haven't even told my fiance about what happened. It took me 22 years to tell somebody, and now I'm forced into a situation where if I'm going to get things fixed with my dad, I have to tell everyone that I know, or the whole family is going to know.
54:52🔗DrewI don't know that's true, but you do need to tell somebody to try to help move this in the right direction.
54:58🔗Cindy MargolisIs there other people in the family, an uncle, a grandfather, anybody?
55:02🔗CallerThat's the problem, because it took me so long to even get to the point where I could tell him, you know? I'm not even at a place where I can tell other people about it.
55:10🔗DrewI'm a little nervous about uncles or grandfathers, because they're going to be of the same sort of cultural mindset as dad. As a father, right. But you got to tell somebody, because he's not going to allow you the contact. And at least on behalf of your son, make an effort here.
55:26🔗AdamHow can a dad go from this loving guy to seems like a monster now?
55:29🔗DrewWell, that's what makes this a little bit suspicious, because dad's real, I mean, people don't do that. They don't give you a perfectly open, caring, wonderful person to shut down a distant, hostile, angry, bigoted guy.
55:44🔗CallerOkay, let me throw another wrench in the dill here. Whenever I was a little bit younger, I think I told them, I think I remember telling my parents, but nothing ever became of it. And so I'm wondering now if he knew, and if he just, you know, if he doesn't care, or he wanted to ignore it, or whatever, and now maybe he's just really hurt that I'm bringing it up again, or what?
56:13🔗DrewNo, no, no, he probably just didn't believe you the first time around.
56:17🔗CallerBecause at this point, I'm just really, I'm crushed, I'm honestly...
56:23🔗DrewFor some reason, you remember American Beauty, The Neighbor?
56:27🔗DrewThat's what's sort of flashing in my head.
56:28🔗AdamMe too, I was thinking the same thing a second ago, actually during the break, yeah. Well, Jeff, I mean, Dr. Drew has given you some good advice. I don't know if there's much more he can say or we all can say.
56:37🔗DrewThe next thing would be to get, if you can't do it on your own, to get professional help and have somebody assist you through this.
57:03🔗AdamAll right. Love... What is it? That's the number Drew here? Yeah, all discombobulated. Poor Jeff. Justin? Yeah. Seventeen, Loveline. What's up?
57:11🔗Yeah, this question is mainly for Dr. Drew. Over the past two years, I've dropped about 59 doses of acid, and I don't notice really too many side effects right now, but I was wondering what the long-term effects are going to be.
57:27🔗DrewBut not just flashbacks, but most people that have had more than 30 hits of acid keep seeing trailers.
57:32🔗Not constantly, but I'd say every couple of weeks or so, I definitely see trails.
57:37🔗DrewOkay, and is it in the context of a true flashback, or you just all of a sudden see trailers?
57:41🔗It's just all of a sudden, you know, it's just the trails from the hands.
57:43🔗DrewAll right, well, that's a sign that your brain has been altered, right? You don't see trailers just because. You see it because that part of the brain has been damaged and changed.
57:51🔗DrewAnd people that have that particular symptom tend to be the ones that have mood disorders, the disturbances that develop sometimes as long as five or ten years later. And they're usually quite, quite profound.
58:09🔗DrewNo, there are medications that can treat it later, but you just got to stay on top of it.
58:13🔗AdamAnd stop doing 59 hits of acid by 17. Now, where are you taking the acid? Concerts? In your parents' house? At school?
58:21🔗CallerWell, I started taking the raise, but then it was just kind of like I loved it so much, you know, I just kept doing it, like at school and wherever.
58:28🔗DrewYeah, it's the people that have the bad trips that are actually the lucky ones, because they don't do it again. They do it until they have a bad trip and then they stop. And it is the cumulative effect of this drug that has its toxic effects, the neurotoxic effects, and it damages the brain.
58:58🔗Yeah, I was going to ask Dr. Drew about... I've been trying to get my wife pregnant for a couple of months right now. We've been married for a year. And, well, I've been using marijuana for about 11 years.
59:14🔗And I was wondering, could that be the effect, you know?
59:18🔗DrewI suppose it could be. It's not as though you're going to have severe fertility problems from smoking pot. But if you already were sort of marginal, it might be enough to give, push you into troubled territory.
59:30🔗Let me say this. I've been with her for about 10 years. And at the beginning of the relationship.
59:35🔗Oh, yeah. We used to have sex. No, no, no. We used to have sex, like, three times a day. You know how it is at the beginning. I used to come inside all the time. And I never once got her pregnant. And then one time we got a scare. I took her to the clinic. She was not pregnant, but I stopped doing that. And, well, right now she's on the pill. And what happened was, like, about a week ago, she told me she missed her period. And also she's diabetic.
1:00:04🔗AdamI don't know what's going on here. Hold on one second.
1:00:06🔗DrewShe doesn't finish the story. Go ahead.
1:00:12🔗She's on the pill. I wanted to know, can you get pregnant even on the pill?
1:00:15🔗DrewIt can happen, but you can also miss your period on the pill. Yeah, that's even more common.
1:00:21🔗I was going to ask, well, how come she never got pregnant at the beginning? Like, I've never gotten a girl pregnant. I've never even-
1:00:26🔗DrewWell, maybe you have some fertility problems. If you guys are interested in having a child and you're ready to have one, which you're not, you can go to get a sperm count, have her have something called a hysterosalpingogram, where they actually light the tubes up with a dye to see how they're functioning, and to see if there's any source of problems that might be the reason that you're having difficulty with fertility.
1:00:46🔗AdamHe doesn't know anything you're saying either, do I?
1:00:48🔗No, no, I do, and also I was going to say like, My wife tells me, it's all the pot smoking, but I tell her like, look it, like she's got, like there's other relatives and friends that we know that are smokers that smoke, you know, for years, and they're having babies like crazy, they have three kids.
1:01:04🔗AdamWhy do you want to have a kid right now, Johnny?
1:01:14🔗Yeah, we're married. We've been together for 10 years. We got married last year. And well, for the past two or three months, like we've been trying, like we're not trying, but she's been telling me she wants to, but she's on the pill.
1:01:25🔗AdamWell, she has to stop taking the pill, and then...
1:01:28🔗DrewShe has to stop taking the pill, that's for sure. And yes, indeed, like I said at the beginning, marijuana is not a sort of common cause of infertility, but if you're already having problems, it could sort of move you further along into difficulty.
1:01:41🔗AdamAnd, Johnny, listen, if you've been smoking for 10 years, you better stop when the baby, if you get your wife pregnant, you better stop when the baby comes out, and most likely your child is going to have that same trait, possibly, right?
1:01:52🔗Drew50% probability. And marijuana does reduce testosterone levels and can reduce sperm count and libido and whatnot on that basis.
1:01:59🔗Cindy MargolisA lot of drag calls tonight.
1:02:01🔗AdamWe're bringing them out, Cindy. Cindy Margolis is in here at Loveline. And Raymond22, what's up?
1:02:08🔗Hey, I got some typical signs of OCD and sexual compulsion. I went in, and I'm at the university here, and I went in and saw some people to health care, and got some help for a while, both psychiatric and with a therapist. And I'm just lined up to go to a bigger thing, some psychiatric institute kind of thing. Where? It's right here in town. It's actually in Madison.
1:02:57🔗See, that's what people keep to, you know, kind of mediate or moderate, you know, when they kind of talk to you, this kind of thing. But it's just weird how it kind of plays mind games with you, and you don't believe that.
1:03:07🔗AdamAre you doing anything that's messing up the rest of your life due to sexual activity?
1:03:12🔗Not messing up. You know, I've been pretty clarified as far as the difference between compulsion and addiction, but like still where it interferes and you like at times where you just can accomplish tasks and whatnot.
1:03:43🔗Which is very minor right now. Like it flared up when I was back in like fourth, fifth grade. And I was mainly with eyelashes and stuff. And now it's real. It does... excuse me, it's really infrequent.
1:04:00🔗Just like pretty hardcore organization skills. I mean like overly abundant where it's kind of taking up time when you should be doing other things, that kind of stuff.
1:04:11🔗AdamDo you have to masturbate a certain way every single day?
1:04:14🔗No, not a certain way or a certain amount of times, but it's just more of the fact where it's more of an interference. It's a nuisance. It's not something like you're relaxed about. It's just more like you kind of have to do it at...
1:04:41🔗DrewWhy are they sending you to a larger freestanding institute? Psychiatric Institute?
1:04:44🔗I guess I just agreed with the therapist and the doctor that we kind of hit a standstill.
1:04:49🔗DrewAnd there would be more to be done there?
1:04:51🔗Right. And I was just wondering, basically my inquiry was whether or not you had any other ideas or anything. I've read books on OCD and whatnot to just try to find some kind of self-control, that kind of stuff.
1:05:03🔗DrewWell, there are obviously multiple ways of intervening on that. The medication, which I'm sure you're on one of the serotonin drugs.
1:05:08🔗DrewAnd to realize that none of those medications are universally effective for anybody. You have to kind of fish around a little bit for the one for you, particularly if it pertains to the trichotillomania.
1:05:17🔗DrewOkay. And then you've tried the individual psychotherapy, and there are behavioral modalities too. And I suspect that's why they're sending you on, is to get more intensive behavioral work.
1:05:25🔗Exactly. And I was curious with the medication. I know they said it can even vary by dose to dose.
1:05:30🔗There's arguments about whether or not it'll let you do better.
1:05:33🔗DrewMore or less. Yep. You got to fish around. You got to work with it a little bit.
1:05:35🔗Okay. And I was working on Zoloft, like a real small amount right now. And I always inquired about that too, if it would be worthwhile to try, you know, just to switch medications altogether. It would be.
1:05:50🔗DrewAnd then going up, again, no single medicine is predictably reliable for any given person. So you got to fish around a little bit. And then these serotonin drugs will decrease your libido a little bit, make you a little less compulsive sexually.
1:06:02🔗AdamAlso, badger football will help Raymond. Badger basketball. They took out the Wildcats last year.
1:06:07🔗In other words, I'm at the right university right now.
1:06:24🔗AdamYeah, the jovial hair puller from Wisconsin. Let's take a look at Lizzie. She's 22.
1:06:29🔗CallerHi, guys. I have kind of like a big problem here. I'm getting married in about two months. And a few months ago, my boyfriend and I were making love, and we had taken ecstasy pills. And what he did was, in the middle of us making love, he reached over and called some girl on the phone and was kind of like, I don't know, if he thought, it felt like it was having a threesome or what. But once I realized what was going on, all I could do was cry. And ever since then, I have like this really big trust issue with him, even though he's never cheated on me.
1:07:13🔗DrewI don't understand. You mean he was talking to another woman while you guys were...
1:07:16🔗AdamWho was the woman? That's what I wanted to know.
1:07:18🔗CallerHe just said it was some friend that he used to know from heights or junior high.
1:07:33🔗CallerHe was having sex with me, but he called her and he would put the phone next to me so she could hear me moan. And then he would get the phone back and talk to her. And we were just really out of it. And once I realized what was going on, I couldn't... I don't know.
1:07:51🔗AdamYou put that on a website, you will top Cindy Margolis' website. Talking on the phone, having sex.
1:08:02🔗DrewIt sounds awful. Really, it sounds just awful.
1:08:05🔗AdamWell, they were on Ecstasy. It's the first time he's done it. And he's never cheated on her before. I think it just has to do with the Ecstasy. But now you're reaping the effects.
1:08:24🔗Cindy MargolisRight. It sounds like he's immature, too. 20 years old. Yeah. You already have these trust issues. You cannot get married if you have trust issues. I'm married. I know that. I'm telling you, if you have any doubts and trust issues before you get married, do not walk down that aisle. Coming from a woman to a woman, I'm telling you, you know a woman's instinct. And it probably isn't the first time. I mean, you don't know that he's cheated on you. But he's only 20 years old calling other girls where you're having sex. Ecstasy just isn't a good sign.
1:09:05🔗AdamAll right, she's got a new show, Cindy Margolis Show. It's on Saturday nights. We'll discuss that and talk to Sam, who has something to talk about. And it's sex. Is that OK?
1:09:49🔗AdamWe're back. It's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. I'm Stryker. Thanks you guys for being so cool calling in, by the way. Big shoes to fill for Ace Rockolla, who's coming back on Sunday. Dr. Drew is here. Cindy Margolis, you know what I need to ask you?
1:10:28🔗Cindy MargolisNo, or the Cliffhanger. No, I suck. No, I didn't get to do any of them.
1:10:33🔗AdamLittle man going up the hill. How about the card game? I like the card game. They have to be between, but I don't think they use any of the models for that.
1:10:42🔗Cindy MargolisFlipping the price and showing.
1:10:43🔗AdamLike the one where you have 30 seconds to put all four prices on the four different prizes and then how many did she get right, Cindy? You pull the arm level down.
1:10:51🔗Cindy MargolisHe knows more about it than I do for in trouble.
1:10:54🔗AdamWell, I'm hoping to model on the price. I want to be the first male model on the price is right.
1:10:57🔗Cindy MargolisI think you should. All right.
1:10:59🔗AdamTed Stryker walking up the Plinko stairs. Cindy Margolis show is on Saturday nights, late night. Check it out in the city near you and drink the Budweiser while you do it. All right. Right.
1:11:13🔗CallerOK. Every time like that I'm with my boyfriend, like we pull into a parking lot or something and I'm giving him a blowjob. So like until we finally was at during and like after his orgasm, he like he likes getting really paranoid and thinks like someone's watching us.
1:12:23🔗AdamToyota Corolla, and he takes care of you in the Toyota Adam Corolla?
1:12:28🔗DrewHow many times has this happened that he's gotten so paranoid?
1:12:31🔗CallerLike six or seven times, and like it didn't used to be so bad, but like I think it's like getting worse. Like the last time we did it, he like totally freaked out. He was shaking, like he almost started crying.
1:12:43🔗DrewSo it's a panic attack, really. It's not paranoia, huh?
1:12:46🔗AdamWhat's he like after he takes care of you?
1:12:49🔗CallerHe's fine. He's not paranoid when he's horny, because he thinks he's going to get something. But like after he has his orgasm, like he's like totally.
1:13:01🔗DrewWhat is he afraid will happen if somebody were to find you guys?
1:13:03🔗CallerWell, he like keeps thinking there's like some police across the street who like arrest us for.
1:13:08🔗DrewDoes he do cocaine or speed or anything like that?
1:13:10🔗CallerNo, we've had marijuana once. We shared a joint, but neither of us got high.
1:13:14🔗Cindy MargolisHave you had sex though? You slept together, right?
1:13:35🔗DrewGood. Again, I don't know why it's so monumentally important to him presuming this is some sort of real feeling he's having, why it's so frightening to have been caught. But-
1:13:46🔗CallerI don't know, but last time I really got scared for him, I thought like, yeah.
1:13:51🔗DrewHe was having a panic attack, a panic attack sometimes, well, having panic anyway, and then sometimes that can be triggered by environmental cues, and so this whole process now re-triggers panic every time. So you've got to have some experiences in environments that are less anxiety provoking so these things aren't sort of provoked.
1:14:09🔗CallerWell, we've done it a few times in my room, and that's been fine. We've done it at his house when his parents weren't home, that was fine.
1:14:16🔗AdamWell, then it's got to be in the public. He's nervous about getting caught.
1:15:42🔗AdamWell, you are taking the route that Dr. Drew has mentioned the last three days. You can take a route where you don't do anything sexually or you take a route where it's just...
1:16:11🔗AdamThis person will not tell a soul, and if there's one person you can open up to, it's going to be this person helping you. So I know it's hard, but once you do it, you will feel so much better in the long run. She'll help you, okay?
1:16:36🔗AdamAll right. What is the weirdest request, Cindy, you have had for someone to get on the E Channel show about becoming a star or doing something like that?
1:16:45🔗Cindy MargolisI don't know, wanting to sleep at the Playboy Mansion?
1:16:47🔗AdamSleep at the Playboy Mansion? That is not weird. Every guy, oh, back me up. Drew, you don't want to do that?
1:17:05🔗Cindy MargolisWait, let's see what else Brandon has to say. Yeah.
1:17:08🔗AdamAll right, what's going on with you, man? You're 15.
1:17:11🔗CallerOh, yeah, I've had sex with my girlfriend once, and it feels better when I masturbate. I mean, I get discomfort.
1:17:18🔗DrewWhat was it, Adam's friend, the Wheeze, that said, you know, sex is great, but it's not the real thing?
1:17:24🔗AdamYou know what you should do? Flip your hand upside down. It feels like someone else is doing it.
1:17:28🔗DrewWell, Brandon, maybe you're just not ready to be engaged in that kind of relationship with a person yet, and that's fine. There's a lot that goes into that. People are a hassle, among other things, right? And you're 15, your partner's probably 15 also, and neither of you really know or are ready to figure things out, just take your time. Maybe you shouldn't be in such a big hurry.
1:17:49🔗AdamDo you have a fur coat in the house you can use? No, I don't. Ah, get a synthetic fur coat, man. That'll take care of everything. All right. All right, dude.
1:18:06🔗AdamIt did? I'll explain it to you later. Guy will tell you all about it. He knows about the fur coats. All right, Jennifer, you're 24, Loveline, what's up?
1:18:14🔗CallerI have a really hard time telling the difference between things that I've dreamt and things that have really happened.
1:18:23🔗CallerA couple days ago, I had a dream that my father did something that upset me and for like an hour after I woke up, I was really mad at him and I had decided that I was never going to speak to him again. That's not a good example.
1:18:38🔗DrewAnd do you lie in bed and have trouble waking up in the morning?
1:19:04🔗Cindy MargolisSo basically you have these feelings when you wake up about something you dreamt and they're very strong feelings?
1:19:10🔗CallerNo, I mean, there are things that I've dreamt and I really thought they happened until I talked to someone about it who had been in my dream and they said, What are you talking about? That never happened and I could have sworn.
1:19:34🔗CallerI just tried waving my arms and nothing happened and I realized I couldn't fly.
1:19:38🔗DrewHave you ever told anybody about this?
1:19:40🔗CallerI just told my husband a couple days ago and that's why I called because he said that this sounds like I'm psychotic that I can't tell the difference between what's real and what's not.
1:19:49🔗DrewWell, that is a feature of psychosis and there may be something like that going on here. Or it could be a neurologic thing but it warrants evaluation I'd say. It may be a sleep disorder even.
1:20:00🔗CallerI did have an MRI and a sleep deprived EKG to see if maybe I, the neurologist said maybe I was having seizures and he said I wasn't.
1:20:13🔗DrewBut you have, so you have seen somebody about this problem?
1:20:23🔗DrewDid they offer any medication or treatment?
1:20:25🔗CallerNo, that was it. He did those tests and then I went.
1:20:28🔗DrewYou ought to get back with them and let them know you're still troubled by these symptoms and see if there's anything they have to offer, okay?
1:21:06🔗CallerNo, and like, I think it has something to do with me masturbating a lot.
1:21:10🔗AdamYou smoke pot? Because you masturbate, you're saying?
1:21:15🔗DrewWell, people who are addicts often are also sex addicts. So it's not as though the pot's making you masturbate more. It's that you're an addict and you're dealing with your feelings through these mechanisms of thrill and endorphin release and whatnot. And marijuana is... Excuse me, masturbation is one of the ways you can do that.
1:21:34🔗AdamAll right, man. See you later. Lay off the bong.
1:21:36🔗DrewAmple evidence that marijuana actually shrinks the right frontal lobe of the brain, the part of the brain you use for development thought for moderate smokers at the age of 15.
1:21:47🔗AdamI don't know if potheads would rather smoke it or masturbate.
1:21:50🔗DrewWhich, what do you think? They probably go through an internal struggle every, every opportunity.
1:21:56🔗AdamAm I going to knock one off here? Am I going to hit the bong?
1:21:58🔗Cindy MargolisWhich is going to be, which is going to be decisions, decisions?
1:22:07🔗Yeah, I've got a really short tongue. I want to know how that's going to affect my going down on the woman and if there's anything I can do about it.
1:22:17🔗DrewWell, there are people that will operate by cutting the frenulum on the base of the tongue so it comes out further, but it's not going to have any effect.
1:22:56🔗AdamI knew he didn't want to talk about that. He wants to go to Briggs. All right. Cindy Margolis is here. More of Loveline next.
1:23:02🔗StrykerHello. This is your radio. Loveline will be ready.
1:23:43🔗AdamAll right, we're back, Loveline. Stryker here, my last few minutes in for Adam Corolla until the man is back on Sunday along with Dr. Drew and Cindy Margolis, who has a show, Saturday nights, a Cindy Margolis show.
1:23:54🔗Cindy MargolisThis Saturday night, the pajama party.
1:23:56🔗AdamAnd what are you going to be wearing specifically?
1:24:00🔗AdamIs it going to be like the skimpy, skimpy, skimpy pajama?
1:24:03🔗Cindy MargolisWe're talking Victoria's Secrets here, lingerie all the way.
1:24:06🔗AdamOkay. Couldn't have said it better myself. How do you, now isn't just the whole pool beach full of people that are hanging out during this thing, right?
1:24:17🔗AdamNow you cast these people to be there?
1:24:19🔗Cindy MargolisOh no, I invited everyone from my internet site, all my cyber buddies, what I call them. You know, I don't want to walk out on stage and have people go, who is this Cindy chick? I want to feel the audience. People have supported me over the past four years, so I put an invitation on my website and emailed all my cyber buddies and said, come on down to South Beach.
1:24:34🔗AdamGirls that good looking are not going on your website like that.
1:24:37🔗Cindy MargolisYes, believe me, 40% of the people that come to my site are women. I had girls, guys, walked it out on stage and they were all there.
1:24:43🔗AdamI watched that show last week. I've got material, by the way, for a long time, as I mentioned earlier. What, Dr. Drew?
1:24:50🔗Cindy MargolisLet's see how he segues into anal beads after this.
1:24:53🔗AdamWe're going right into the anal beads.
1:24:54🔗Cindy MargolisI want to see your segway, go.
1:24:56🔗AdamSo I was drinking some Budweiser and these anal beads popped up and this is Mike, who's 24. What's going on?
1:25:01🔗Hey, guys. Well, here's the problem. It wasn't no drinking Budweiser, nothing like that. But me and my girlfriend were experimenting and the last anal bead has popped off.
1:25:57🔗AdamHey, for everyone out there, tell us exactly how this went down for the anal beads. You just said, ah, you know, sex is okay. You're down there with your mouth sometimes. We need anal beads. Is that how it came about?
1:27:40🔗CallerWell, it was just a little while ago, and I was like, well, it was really weird because like my dad wants everything off at 10. Like he could himself like he wants all the lights off.
1:27:55🔗CallerGo ahead. He wants like all our lights off, like like all my siblings. He wants us all in bed by 10. So like I was like in the bathroom upstairs and the door to his room in the bathroom, they're like right next to each other. And and I walked out of the bathroom and I saw my dad's door open. So I walked in and my mom was like naked like on the bed. And my dad was like calling my siblings upstairs.
1:28:26🔗CallerLike when I when I walked in, my dad like kind of he yelled my name out. And I kind of like turned around with a cake and my mom like covered up and like it was like nothing happened. But I don't know it was really weird.
1:28:40🔗AdamSo what do you want to know if you're going to be okay in the next couple of years because of this?
1:28:43🔗DrewLike, well, yeah, but this will sort of slow your pace down a little bit in your bathroom.
1:28:52🔗DrewAnd that's fine. And you're 15, you're a big guy. Look, you'll survive this one. This isn't going to affect you permanently in any way whatsoever.
1:28:59🔗AdamGood. Andrea, you're 23 on Loveline. Andrea.
1:29:05🔗I'm sorry. I was just wondering if you could possibly tell me the long term effects of ecstasy. And I'm worried about a friend of mine. He's been doing it occasionally. It's like maybe once every six months or something.
1:29:29🔗DrewBut mood disturbances, panic attacks, various kinds of paranoia as I've seen. Usually the paranoia is resolved though. And the main significant issue is mood disturbances. And sometimes those mood problems don't come on for many, many years after the use.
1:29:48🔗CallerAnd then also he does hallucinogenic mushrooms as well. I mean I know they're both bad but is one better than the other because I don't see him stop a few times a day.
1:29:57🔗DrewWell, in my clinical experience I've seen lots of problems with ecstasy. I've not seen any serious problems from mushrooms but I expect to.
1:30:03🔗CallerBut is there not a long history of research or anything?
1:30:07🔗DrewWell, people don't do that much mushroom.
1:31:21🔗DrewYou're fine. Don't worry about it next time. If you worry too much about it happening again, it will happen again.
1:31:26🔗AdamYep, exactly. Think about it, you're done.
1:31:28🔗Cindy MargolisOh, now it's for sure going to happen for a guy.
1:31:30🔗AdamI'm going to give you guys an update about me because we're talking about this just in case I get lucky tonight, which is slimming none. We'll see what happens. Sarah?
1:32:50🔗CallerSo, you know, with there being kids, I don't know if I should just let it go and give him time to figure out what he wants to do. I definitely don't want to hurt anybody's feelings.
1:33:03🔗DrewWell, you're hurting the kids, although.
1:33:07🔗AdamAnd you're 20. You're only 20. There's, you know what, I would just, if it were me, I would forget it right now. Sarah, it's tough. I know you have this mental click with this guy.
1:33:20🔗AdamYou haven't even slept with them yet, but just walk away. You're only 20. Forget it. He's got kids. He's got to deal with that. And you know what? If he decided to hang out with you, just think of all the trouble you're going to have with this wife and then dealing with his kids. Forget it.
1:33:43🔗CallerI was pretty much married for 5 years, you know, myself. I was with the guy since I was 13 and I just, you know, about a year and a half ago I left him and...
1:34:03🔗AdamGood job. Bye. All right. I guess it's time for a break, yeah? All right. Cindy Margolis is here, Stryker with Dr. Drew, a little more Loveline coming up next.
1:34:53🔗Cindy MargolisHe left us alone. What's up with that?
1:34:56🔗AdamDr. Drew is probably listening, driving home. I just want to thank him so much for being so cool to me, filling in for Adam. He just made it so easy for me. And for everyone that called in, that was really nice and I'm like, screw you, Stryker, Carolla is so much funnier than you. Everyone was just so cool.
1:35:10🔗Cindy MargolisNow you did a great job. Give it up for Stryker. No, no, no, no.
1:35:15🔗AdamSo thanks to everyone that called in. That was nice. Adam will be back on Sunday with his antics and we'll find out about his garage and the man show. Ace Rockolla. And Cindy Margolis, your show.
1:35:27🔗Cindy MargolisYes, the Cindy Margolis Show.
1:35:36🔗AdamThe star of that show is Unbeatable. And you're still doing the E! Channel Show?
1:35:42🔗Cindy MargolisI am and I got a couple prospects tonight. Some great talent out there. Who knew?
1:35:45🔗AdamJust give us in 20 seconds the gist of that show on E!
1:35:48🔗Cindy MargolisThat show is where I make my cyber buddies dreams come true. So if you're an aspiring singer, model, actor, email me and I'll put you on the show.
1:35:55🔗AdamIt's all good. Alright, hello to everyone in Tucson at KFMA. Hello to K-Rock. Hello to everyone else. Thanks for checking us out for Cindy Margolis and Dr. Drew. I would be Stryker. Saying this time we'll say adios.
1:36:07🔗StrykerThis has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors or this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Dingle. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.