5:54🔗
Drew
On one, I am Dr. Drew. He is Adam Corolla, and he is evidently in car trouble. It's raining like hell outside here, and I don't know, my prediction is he'll call in from a roadside somewhere and tell us where he is. Last time this happened, you weren't here, Anderson, last time this happened, he had car trouble, ended up jumping basically the wall of the freeway to get off the freeway, got picked up by a couple of good fellows and brought over here. Do you remember that? No, don't remember. But I'm here in event, and I always love this when Adam's absent. The guest tonight is going to be Ricky Paul Goldin. You know him as Gary Dawson on Young and Restless. He also has some interesting web projects underway, and he'll be coming in a few minutes. I have absolutely no doubt that Adam will be here any second. This is not like him. It's not as though he's always a flake. No, no, no, no.
6:41🔗
Drew
Be that as it may, let's go to your calls. This is, let's see here, hold on. This is Derek. Derek is 16.
6:50🔗
Caller
My dad is about 36, and he doesn't have any facial hair. He has very little facial hair, and he can't grow a full beard. I was wondering, that was a genetic thing, or what's wrong?
7:04🔗
Drew
Well, I'm sure there's some genetic component to this, but how much of that is genetic, I don't know. I know that, for instance, I have no arm hair, and one of my sons has lots of arm hair. So does that mean that, you know, where did that come from? I don't know.
7:23🔗
Drew
Your dad has never met his real dad before. Well, obviously we are the component parts of our genetic histories, and there's obviously a precedent there for you as well, and it's possible that this will be reflected in your body. I just spilled a coffee all over a computer. Can you guys get me a paper towel here or something? This is nuts. I was trying to monitor the chat rooms of drdrew.com while I broadcast here, and instead I just poured coffee all over a nice laptop. But can't predict. We'll see. We'll see. You will know fairly soon whether or not you're going to have facial hair. Jessica is 22. Jessica?
7:55🔗
Caller
Yeah. My period just started today, but let me think. My breasts got really swollen from, I'd say, seven days after my last period, so for the past two and a half weeks. And then it's been getting worse over the past couple of years.
8:15🔗
Caller
Well, my PMS has been changing and it's just, I guess it's actually over the past year that it's just been my breasts get really swollen, and really sore, and tender.
8:34🔗
No.
8:40🔗
No.
8:44🔗
Caller
No, actually, I just quit drinking coffee. And I have quit drink, quit dairy products for the most part. I try to. I eat eggs from time to time, but.
8:54🔗
Drew
I know of no evidence that stopping dairy has anything to do with this kind of thing, right?
8:58🔗
Caller
Yeah, that's more just because I'm, I'm lactose intolerant and I have a pretty, and my stomach actually also gets really bad, like the first day of my period.
9:07🔗
Drew
So part of your, as you get older, sometimes your estrogen levels change, you get more estrogen, less estrogen, more progesterone. And that can change how you experience your menstrual tension or your menstrual period, your menstrual flow. So no big surprise here. This is Sam, who is 20, Sam.
9:35🔗
Caller
My question was, okay, I have a roommate and he has a girlfriend and she's constantly over all the time. And, you know, she's not really the roommate. She doesn't live in the house. And it's really hard for me to bring up the subject that, you know, she doesn't live here and it's time for her to kind of, you know, step away from our house.
10:00🔗
Caller
Well, she has a place of her own, but she's constantly here at least five times a week.
10:13🔗
Caller
Well, actually, no, I am, but our other roommates never home, so he doesn't really feel anything.
10:25🔗
Drew
I haven't talked to him about it. You live in a real small place, where having another person around is a big deal?
10:44🔗
Caller
My exact problem is that she doesn't live here, and I don't want to call her a roommate. You know, I want to call her a friend.
10:51🔗
Caller
No, no, that's totally not it. I'm kind of based it on a person here. Like, it doesn't matter who it is, it's just that a person's here, and they're taking up energy, they're taking showers here, they're taking up room, you know, they're going through the fridge.
11:07🔗
Caller
That would be fine, yeah, but see, I didn't agree to the terms of having four people living here.
11:17🔗
Drew
Well, you're going to have to sort this out. The three of you are going to sit down and sort this out.
11:21🔗
Drew
Okay, because you're one of three votes. I have a feeling the other guy's not going to support you on this. Neither of them probably will.
11:27🔗
Drew
I mean, you're a roommate, you're guys, you're young, people are going to have girlfriends over as part of the drill. And if it bothers you that they're taking a disproportionate amount of the resources, that's understandable, maybe you should pay more.
11:39🔗
Drew
But to say you can't live your life, I don't know, unless the other guy supports you on it. In which case, all right, in which case you'll have to.
11:45🔗
Caller
It sometimes seems that, you know, she's here by herself and when nobody's home, so she's making it her home. That's what sometimes it seems like.
11:56🔗
Drew
She's making it her home. She lives, she basically, she's there five nights a week. She lives there, right? Right?
12:06🔗
Drew
She lives there more than your other roommate and she lives there almost as much as you do. Five nights a week. Robert, 29.
12:21🔗
Caller
Okay. Well, my question is this, is, you know, I know that they have, like, surgeries to increase the size of a man's penis. Do they have any that decreases the size?
12:32🔗
Caller
Well, I was wanting to know if they did, and if so, is it a safe procedure and whatnot?
12:39🔗
Caller
Well, I don't know. I've got kind of a... I can't really find any girls that want to do anything with me because they all, you know, they, you know, they chicken out, basically. Basically, what happens. And then I get told, like, people telling me I've got, like, things going around, you know, people talking about and I don't know, you know, I just wanted, you know, I haven't had any luck. I'm 29 now.
13:04🔗
Caller
Well, you know, about finding girls is no problem, but then when it comes to having sex, they're all afraid to have sex with me.
13:14🔗
Drew
What are we talking about here? As far as penis. What kind of size are we talking about?
13:20🔗
Caller
Well, I've gotten a nickname Beer Can because they say it's as brown as a beer can. You know, I mean, I guess you know, pretty large. I get some pretty strange looks in the gym when I go to get a shower or something.
13:37🔗
Caller
Um, as far as length or both? Um, well, I guess, um, as far as the erect measurements or? Um, seventeen.
13:59🔗
That's a damn lie and you know it!
14:02🔗
Caller
Um, I'm serious. I mean, that's, that's what I've measured it at. And that's going from the top, not from the bottom.
14:18🔗
Caller
I've never actually, you know, did the, uh, the girth thing, but, uh, I'm interested in seriously getting some type of a... You know, I'm like...
14:25🔗
Drew
Alright. You're gonna have to hold on here, because Adam's a carpenter. He understands measurements better than I do. How do you keep... How do you wear clothing? You understand what I'm saying?
14:36🔗
Caller
Uh, well, I always... I wear baggy pants on everything. And I always wear oversized clothes.
14:43🔗
Sure.
14:49🔗
Caller
I was just, um, wondering how likely it is for a two-and-a-half-year-old to make up stories of abuse at all, if at all.
15:00🔗
Drew
Depends what we're talking about. I mean, a two-year-old wouldn't really know anything about sexuality.
15:10🔗
Caller
I took her to the doctor today to have her examined, and she said... the doctor said it didn't look like anything was wrong by looking, by examining pretty closely. And she just told me the other day that somebody was touching her where they shouldn't have been. So...
15:37🔗
She said they used...
15:38🔗
Caller
it was on the bed and they used their hands. And she even told me, you know, who did it.
15:46🔗
Drew
It's hard to know what to make of all that. Certainly I would be extremely vigilant. Does this person, this perpetrator, have a history of anything weird before?
15:58🔗
Drew
You know, you got to assess the situation. If it's really not likely to have occurred, if it's somebody that has no antecedent history and the child is speaking sort of vaguely. I mean, children, if you give them an opportunity to sort of fantasize about the kinds of things that go on with pee-pees and touching, they'll come up with something. But if it's not directed and it's, I don't know that you have to be concerned. Okay, you just have to be alert, be careful.
16:23🔗
Drew
I mean, you sound awfully disturbed about this in general. Has anything ever happened to you?
16:30🔗
Caller
I'm just trying to look out for her best interests. These are people that, you know, it's a person that I have trusted with her for basically her whole life.
16:39🔗
Drew
Well, maybe I wouldn't keep that person around her anymore. Or else, you know, when she is around him, be very, very careful and really watch him.
16:46🔗
Caller
Well, maybe that's the thing is that when she's around him, I'm not around. It's when I'm at work.
16:51🔗
Drew
Well, maybe it's time not to have that person around for a while. Okay. Maybe she's referring to when she was having a diaper change or something.
16:58🔗
Drew
I know, but maybe she's having a memory of something that went on long ago. You understand? You don't know. You just don't know. It's not specific at this point. You have to be careful. God knows this day and age. You have to be careful.
17:08🔗
Okay.
17:09🔗
All right.
17:17🔗
Yeah. Hi. I'm calling from my stand. I'm having a problem. You know, I kind of got two girlfriends now. And one of them is like a relationship. And I think I love her. I don't know. And the other one is just she's beautiful. And I just whenever we're together, you know, stuff happens, you know, and I was just calling to see what do you think I should do?
17:41🔗
July 26, 1984.
17:49🔗
Well, I'm about to turn 17, but I said I was 17 anyway, you know.
17:57🔗
All right.
18:01🔗
Caller
Yeah, I don't understand, you know. It's pretty hard. It's kind of confusing, you know. I'm kind of in love with one and the other one is just like, whenever we're together, you know, we make out, have sex a couple of times, but I don't know which one I should stay with.
18:17🔗
Drew
Because you're not ready to be in a relationship. You're screwing around with one, you say you're in love with the other, but you don't know. I mean, you're not ready for a relationship.
18:30🔗
Drew
It is messed up. And I'm sure the relationship is good and feels good, but you really aren't ready for that relationship. That's okay. But I don't think you should declare love at 16, especially when you're behaving like you are.
18:48🔗
Hi, Dr. Drew.
18:50🔗
I'm calling because sometimes when I think of negative experiences or things that happened in the past that embarrassed me, I find myself cursing myself, saying really derogatory things about myself directed at my own being.
19:06🔗
Well, like this morning, like when I was in my room, I was just listening to music and stuff, and I was just thinking about like certain girlfriends, like certain women that I've been attracted to that rejected me. It just pops out of random.
19:22🔗
Excuse me?
19:27🔗
The thoughts come out at random.
19:29🔗
And then verbalizations come from that. Like I'll say, F you, Jeff. I'll say that to myself in a real aggressive way.
19:40🔗
Excuse me?
19:42🔗
I don't have a job right now.
19:44🔗
I'm unemployed.
19:45🔗
With another thing.
19:46🔗
Drew
Yeah. Jeff, really, in general, you've got such high levels of shame and low self-worth, you need to get your ass together. You know, you really need to start working on Jeff. Don't focus on the shame and guilt about things gone wrong in the past. Start getting it together now. Start focusing on men and women, too. But men really need a sense of themselves in the workforce in order to drive any sense of worth. That's the one thing you have after you get out of college. Why do you see kids feel so crappy in high school and college is the young males have no way to define themselves until they get out into the workforce, until they really establish who they are. If you don't go ahead and do that, hey, it's no surprise you feel crappy. This is Adam with 17. By the way, I'm in the chat rooms at drdrew.com. I'm monitoring them and people are distributed throughout the chats and I'm going to get into some of them and look around for questions that people aren't getting through on the phone lines they can get into those chat rooms. Right now I'm in the college chat room. Yeah, Adam. And when Adam gets her, I'll probably have to drop off. Any distractions in the room when Adam is here? He can't tolerate it. He can't stand it. If Adam, if Anderson sort of raises his eyebrow, he's done for about half an hour.
20:47🔗
Unacceptable.
20:48🔗
Drew
So if I'm in a chat just watching you guys and seeing if there's any questions that come up, that's too much. The room just is overwhelming to him then. Adam, what's going on?
20:56🔗
Well, two weeks ago tomorrow I got it, like two weeks ago I got admitted to the ER.
21:04🔗
Because I was like almost dead and I had a temperature of 105.
21:09🔗
They didn't know and they did a spinal tap on me. I had rash all over my body.
21:16🔗
It was.
21:17🔗
I live in Portland, Oregon. Portland.
21:23🔗
Well, they did a mono spot test on me and that's what I had. It was like the worst case I've ever seen.
21:34🔗
It was so swollen I hadn't drink anything or anything in three days.
21:37🔗
Drew
The other thing that looks like that is septic scarlet fever. Scarlet fever is still around, especially actually it's a subtype of strep that causes that and really high fever, it's funny rash, bad sore throat. But it sounds like you had mono since you tested positive.
21:49🔗
And now like my spleen is all huge now.
21:53🔗
And I don't know when I can like, I mean when can I start drinking again?
21:58🔗
Drew
End of summer. You're seventeen anyway, what the hell am I telling you to drink for? You're seventeen.
22:03🔗
Well I just like, you know, a couple of beers or whatever.
22:06🔗
Drew
Alright, Adam, liver and spleen inflammation is a big part of mono and honestly you should give yourself at least four months. Okay. At least.
22:16🔗
What about like activities?
22:20🔗
Okay, and what about like making out with the girls?
22:24🔗
Drew
Once the fever is gone and you feel like getting up and going around again and you're starting to eat normally, I doubt there will be infections at that point.
22:31🔗
Okay.
22:32🔗
Drew
There is such a thing as chronic mono where there's a persistent fatigue syndrome that follows this, but that is relatively rare. The phone number here at Loveline is 1-800-LOVE-191. Our guest is Ricky Paul Goldin who will be here. You know him from Young and the Restless. He is Gary Dawson. He'll be in in just a second. Priscilla Lee Taylor was going to join him, but flaked out on us, and we'll find out why. He also has a website called flyntv.net. We'll hear about that. In the meantime, it's Dr. Drew here waiting for Adam who... Did he call us, you guys? Daniel? No? I'm actually getting kind of worried about it because he usually checks in. Aren't you guys worried? You're not worried? Nobody is worried about you, Adam, if you're listening. They're not the least bit concerned. I'm kind of worried because it's raining outside and this ain't like you. So we'll see what goes. This is Robert 29. Oh, Robert, I've got you on hold until Adam gets here. Okay?
23:30🔗
Caller
Well, yeah. I've actually got invited to do pornography, somebody that had actually, when I was in the gym in California, when I was traveling over there, I was supposedly into it. You know, and I don't really want to do that, but I mean, I was also going to ask you about that. I mean, how safe is that? Because I know they do a lot of testing on those people and stuff like that.
23:55🔗
Caller
Well, they don't really fit. I mean, you know, I can squeeze them over the top, but you know, they won't go all the way down, of course.
24:22🔗
Caller
Actually, I usually have to do quite a bit of my, but I mean, I actually, that's another thing. I mean, I think the amount that I come is like abnormal, too. I mean, it's...
24:46🔗
Drew
All right. Hold on, okay? See, Adam, look what you're missing. Get your ass down here. Brad, fifteen. Brad?
24:52🔗
Yeah?
24:54🔗
Uh...
24:55🔗
Yeah, I was wondering if it's dangerous to smoke pot while I'm on my med.
25:05🔗
Drew
Well, it's certainly... It's not specifically dangerous that I know of, but it certainly isn't going to help the effect of those drugs. And if you're smoking pot every day and not telling the doctors who are prescribing this medication, then you have a big problem.
25:18🔗
Alright.
25:21🔗
I really don't smoke pot that much.
25:29🔗
I don't know.
25:30🔗
I like drinking better and I was wondering if that's dangerous, too.
25:34🔗
Drew
Well, Depakote's a little tough on the liver and you add alcohol to that. Yeah. It's not a great combination. This is Nick, 15. Nick? Hey, Nick? Nick is not in the but I'm on hold yet. Well, Nick is 15 and Nick got, here he is. Nick? Hey, Nick?
25:52🔗
Yeah.
25:52🔗
What's the question?
25:54🔗
For my age, I've seen quite a bit of strange and screwed up pornography. I was just wondering if you knew how it would sort of affect me in the long run.
26:07🔗
Drew
I'll tell you what. We will take your question after the break. It is Loveline, Dr. Drew here. I am also monitoring the chat rooms at drdrew.com. I'm moving out of the college chat room because a bunch of yahoos are in there repeating things. And really, it screws things up for everybody when people start yelling stuff in chat rooms. We'll take Nick's question after the break. Ricky Paul Goldin will be here after the break, and hopefully Adam will be here as well. The fax number 310-854-4455, phone number 1-800-LOVE191. It is Loveline. It will be right back.
27:09🔗
Adam
Yes, it is Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. He is Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-L-A-V-E-1-9-1. Those are my boys, Korn. I was just hanging with them. In Anaheim, they sold out the pond. Wow. Wow, they got quite a show going over there.
27:28🔗
Adam
Well, we did a little man show bit with them. I apologized to all the listeners for being late, but we had to do a thing during the halftime of their concert where we went under the stage and got up on the Jumbotron. It was a madhouse over there. But anyway, Korn Rock, they sounded great. The stage show was great. Power Technics, the whole nine yards, and it's really nice to see friends of the show doing as well. They sold out two nights at the pond. It's like 15, 18,000 people over there. All right. So anyway, I drove 125 miles an hour over here. I left the pond at like 10 to 10, and here I is. Ricky Paul Goldin is our guest tonight. He's from the Young and the Restless. It's number one rated daytime drama. It's been on for, well, actually it was on three years before the TV was invented. I don't know how they pulled that off, but it was very smart. They got the TV. Yeah, they created the show and actually had sold it at Nappy before TVs had actually been invented in 1934, whenever the hell they were. All right. So Ricky, hey, how are you doing?
28:41🔗
Adam
I have often said that, and don't take this the wrong way because I'm going to save myself on this one. People look at daytime soap opera acting as sort of the lower rung of the acting echelon. To me, it's the most difficult because you get a big fat script every day and you've got to take it home and memorize it, right?
29:03🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You get a big fat script and you get a big fat check. The only thing is that, I mean, I'm not trying to be coy about it. The thing is that it's the only gig in this town or in New York that never stops. I mean, if you know it's there, it's a series that goes on and on and on. And it's funny when you say it's the lowest ring on the totem pole, because there's a lot, there's like sometimes there's a soapy smell about you, you know?
29:27🔗
Adam
Well, it's not the lowest rung on the acting totem pole. I mean, you could do Annie Get Your Gun at some community playhouse.
29:38🔗
Adam
Right. But I don't want to talk about her rung. The rung I want to talk about is, I mean, on this sort of professional working on TV. I mean, I don't know where it goes, that, and then, you know, I don't know, daytime talk or maybe sitcom. And then you get into one-hour drama, and then you're into the movies.
29:55🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
And I think daytime did it to themselves, because you can have a model, you know, just to see if they're on autopilot. Or you can have somebody that's very good, you know?
30:05🔗
Adam
It just seems like the engine room of acting. I mean, it's just as much a job as acting could ever be. Well, what I mean is, is if you're doing a movie, and you're working three months out of the year, and you're sitting in your trailer, and you come out of your trailer, and you shoot for an hour, and then you go back in your trailer, and you sit around for four more hours, and you have an assistant. I mean, this is day in, day out. You don't have long hiatuses, do you?
30:37🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You've got to schedule your vacation in advance. I did a soap in New York for five years. This is new to me again. I'm back on a soap out in, I went from the number 8th rated show to the number 1. The Young and the Restless, I will say this, the writing is superior. I really don't watch the shows. I don't watch daytime. I don't know much about it. I really come from a heavy theater background in New York. But I'm just happy to have a gig out in LA instead of doing a great pilot, great writing and it just dies. It doesn't go anywhere.
31:05🔗
Adam
Yeah. You get on the Young and Restless. I mean, this series won't go away. They may kill you.
31:10🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Yeah. I might die. Oh, yeah. And I might come back to life. But, you know, it's true.
31:20🔗
Adam
Oh, man, I would die. I would die with that big stack to memorize. And you got to work like 14-hour days, right?
31:26🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Actually, no. On my old show I did, I was stuck out in Brooklyn. But they've canceled that show. Now the world's dead. And I think as the world turns, moved out to Brooklyn. And God help them, because that sucks living out in Brooklyn doing that show. I mean, you're just across from a acidic high school and there's just nothing to look at. It's terrible.
31:46🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You can't decipher the boys from the girls, but that's a whole other. And it's cold and it's just miserable. But the young and the rest is, I'm out of there. God, I could go to work. I'm done by 10 in the morning sometimes.
32:08🔗
Hi.
32:11🔗
Drew
We heard about his question before the break. He saw some weird porn on the web and it freaked him out.
32:25🔗
Adam
The cement should be dry in your psyche by now. That kind of stuff shouldn't affect you too much.
32:54🔗
It licked my butt.
32:55🔗
Adam
Uh-huh. And you watched and now what? You don't want to eat? You lost your appetite for poo?
33:01🔗
Yeah.
33:02🔗
Adam
I see. Yeah, that can be tough on a lad. All right. Well, get it out of your mind and move on with life. I don't know what your question is.
33:23🔗
Adam
Well, listen, let's not turn this into Vietnam for Christ's sake. The guy saw some Canadian chick eat a little Duke burger. And now we got to check him into a hospital.
33:36🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's love. No kidding. Hey, Nick, don't worry about it. Move on. Okay. All right. All right. Well, you see, here's the thing. I don't want to sympathize too much because I think it makes people think they have a real problem and now they should work on it.
33:53🔗
Drew
No, it's not the kind of trauma we're used to talking about here. It's just a little bit of a disturbing experience, like if you're in an earthquake or something.
34:17🔗
Caller
Well, I've actually well, I've actually had not only myself, but I've had several who wouldn't have sex with me. Say, I just want to see how long it is or whatever.
34:28🔗
Caller
But they seem to, you know, kind of get into like how big it is, but then they don't want to do anything.
34:38🔗
Caller
That guy that I talked to in California, I've actually gotten since he's introduced me to some people, I've gotten many offers to come out and do something like that. But I mean, how safe is, I mean, I was hearing y'all say they do some type of DNA testing. Is that pornography safe?
34:58🔗
Adam
That's frightening. Because a lot of guys, once they get over the nine and a half, ten mark, it's more weight than the base can hold.
35:07🔗
Caller
I mean, it takes a while to get it totally... I mean, I can be like a half hard thing, and it's still very big, but I mean, to get that just rock hard thing, it takes a little while, but...
35:17🔗
Caller
Yeah, I can get it. You know, I have to get pretty excited, though, but normally it'll stay like about a... You know, like a...
35:25🔗
Caller
Like, yeah, like about a half-hard type thing, where it'll... You know, until like, you know, if I get real excited by some girl or something like that, and then... But the thing is, I mean, you know, I've had them... You know, I've told them, you know, we talked about it, and they'll say, well, I like guys that are big, and then, you know, we'll get down to it, and I'll be like, hell no, I ain't going to do nothing with that, you know, and all this stuff.
35:49🔗
Adam
I see. And is your penis graduated so you can actually use it as a tool? It's not a bad thing.
35:55🔗
Caller
No, I mean, I've actually, you know, that guy was telling me that he did a movie with Ron Jeremy who's 13 inches, and he said, I'll make Ron Jeremy look small.
36:03🔗
Adam
No, listen, Ron Jeremy is not 13 inches. Ron Jeremy is a nine and a half on a good day. Yes, it is not 13. Let me, let me show Drew and our guests what 13 and what that 9 is.
36:17🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Can I ask you just honestly, I mean, are you actually thinking about going into porno movies? I thought about it because, you know, like I said, I'm just, I mean, you're really thinking about that.
36:25🔗
Caller
Well, I mean, I don't know, you know what I mean? Because I mean, I'm kind of running out of choices here. I mean, I've, I've, where do you live?
36:36🔗
Adam
Yeah, you'd have to move, well, everything's big over there. You'll fit right in. And by the way, pornography, one rung up on the acting level than daytime television.
36:48🔗
Adam
Well, you get paid and you get to bang away. Okay, this, between my fingers, this is 13, this ain't 17. This is 13. This is not Ron Jeremy. Ron Jeremy is more nine and a half, which is right about here. But this, this is 13 and 17 is here. I mean, that... I love schlong. That is 17. I finally found out what happened to the rest of my penis.
37:24🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Can I ask you just a personal question? Are you killing women when you're sleeping with them? I mean, are they able to handle it? Do you have a girlfriend that can handle it?
37:30🔗
Caller
I mean, I've had them get all the way down until we get undressed. You know, she's ready and as soon as I start getting undressed, they make up an excuse that they gotta go, you know. I was hanging out with this other girlfriend or friend and she took off and said, I gotta talk to my friend and she ended up believing her friend said that she was totally afraid.
37:49🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
So you see where people would think it's fantastic or whatever. Do you have a complex about that?
37:55🔗
Caller
Well, I mean, it kind of pissed me off, man. I mean, it kind of sucks because, I mean, it's cool, you know, being large and everything, but I mean, not to that point where no girl wants to sleep with you.
38:08🔗
Caller
Do they have any type of, you know, like a safe procedure to take maybe four inches off or something?
38:16🔗
Adam
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, imagine I'm going to lose five inches and get down to 12. I lost five inches. I've had a hole in me. You know what I'm saying? I have a vagina.
38:46🔗
Adam
Oh, that is wonderful. All right. Hey, Robert, I'd like you to send some of your sperm over here so I can use it in an experiment basement.
39:06🔗
Adam
He's in proportion. Hey, Robert, I don't know what to tell you. Keep your engineering gig.
39:12🔗
Caller
What about the amount of, is there an abnormal amount of sperm? Like, if somebody comes, like, a ridiculous amount, is that normal?
39:25🔗
Drew
Presumably. No, no, well, no. But the general plumbing system, I'm sure, is extra large, too.
39:34🔗
Okay.
39:35🔗
Adam
I'm never getting a hot tub with that Robert. Can you imagine going hot tubbing with him and a couple of chicks?
39:43🔗
Yeah?
39:44🔗
Caller
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, but I'm not sure. Like, I have his access code, and both of us go to two different colleges, and I called his access code once, and I heard another girl on there saying that he left his sweater at her house.
40:18🔗
Caller
Well, like the first time he cheated on me, there was nothing. Before that, him and I were totally cool. And then after I found out he cheated on me, that's when I started.
40:34🔗
That's done.
40:51🔗
Drew
Yeah. This relationship was over a long time ago. You just didn't know it. It's sort of typical of people. You're ready to let relationships cling to them much, much longer than you should.
40:58🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
She's going to hang up though and say, I totally love this guy, right? You totally love this guy?
41:12🔗
Drew
Right. If people cling to it, there are different colleges. It's just impossible to keep these things together through that kind of thing.
41:18🔗
Adam
There's a psychological thing for women who lose their virginity to a guy. It's like, if I stay with this guy, I'm still a virgin in a sense. I mean, if you look at it that way, yeah, I lost my virginity to this guy. He has my virginity as if-
41:35🔗
Adam
Like he's keeping it in his wallet. He lends it to me on the weekends. And on holidays, I get it for three or four days sometimes. And he's got my virginity. I'm still with him. So now the next guy I'm with, now I turn to a slut all of a sudden because I've been passed around and I've long since lost my virginity.
41:51🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Yeah, don't think that. Don't ever think that. No. And I'm with the guys. You gotta live your life.
41:57🔗
Adam
It's funny though that guys really have no bond with the person they lost their virginity to.
42:02🔗
Adam
I mean, they might like them, but they don't like them any more than someone, the next person they banged around with.
42:08🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I got a couple of friends that they used to gloat on it, but they don't give it down. I mean, it doesn't mean that much to them.
42:15🔗
Adam
All right. We will take ourselves a little break. When we come back, we'll speak to Sarah's 26. She went off the pill last month, but still hasn't had a period. I don't want to talk to her.
42:24🔗
Who are we going to talk to?
42:26🔗
Adam
Discharged, smoking pot. Had a lot of girlfriends in high school, but since graduation, he can't get a date once in a while. Now he's 20 years old. We'll speak to Wade after this.
43:22🔗
Adam
We leave for 20 minutes, the whole channel show changes around. It's the Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. He is Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-LOVE-191, fax number 310-854-4455. Filter will be in here tomorrow night. I think we've had them in here fairly recently. Ricky Paul Goldin is our guest tonight. He's from the Young and the Restless. That is television's number 1 rated daytime drama. You plugging anything else, Ricky?
43:52🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Oh, man. We're working on this underground... It's like a TV network for the web. It's called flytv.net. We're like the MTV. What MTV was to television, even though I kind of feel like MTV's... You know, it's now forever MTV, but we're streaming video. We're a search engine for live content. We're a neophyte, but a week in the internet world is like five years, three years, whatever. Bad analogy, but you know what I'm saying? We're a search engine for other people's live content and we're creating our own television shows, reality-based and eventually we'll get to scripted shows. I think that the net is going to be competing with television. That can really be a part. I hope not.
44:40🔗
Drew
Wade, that's the problem. Let me take a couple of questions off the web. Somebody asked you, is Anderstein-Dione dangerous?
44:46🔗
Drew
I do, but I want to answer this real quick. The Anderstein-Dione is potentially dangerous if you take a lot of it. It's the stuff that Mark McGuire was maybe taking and it's a male hormone and it can maybe accelerate your blood pressure and accelerate hardening of the arteries and put people at risk for various things like heart disease and stroke. And then another question was, somebody got the whole packet of low overall when they were given emergency contraception, which sometimes will happen. Their question is, can you reuse the pills that are there if you have another accident later? And yeah, you can and there should be an expiration date on the packet.
45:21🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I have a question. I was asked this question the other day. How long, condoms that are on the shelf in normal department, whatever, drug stores, how long are they in good form?
45:44🔗
Hey, what's up?
45:46🔗
Caller
Not much. Like you said earlier, in high school, I had like tons of girlfriends. If I broke up with a girl like a week later, I'd be going out with another one. Now that I've graduated and moved back into the city, I can't get date one.
45:59🔗
Adam
Yeah. Very sad. We had to see a man's prime go in high school. I've seen it happen before.
46:08🔗
Adam
That's right. I remember guys who had their prime in junior high. Do you guys know any of those guys? Do you know any of those guys?
46:16🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I was a busboy. My buddy was in his prime. And after that, the Trans Am, the busboy job, it was all over.
46:22🔗
Adam
Guys, I knew guys that were like big wheels in the ninth grade. Got day-to-day eighth grade chicks, Mr. Popular and whatever. They got into high school. Something happened. Next thing you know, they're seventeen. It ain't happening.
46:38🔗
Caller
In high school, I had no problem asking girls that. And now, for some reason, I'm just like, can't even.
46:53🔗
Caller
I haven't started college, and I don't really have enough money to afford it, so I'm saving up. But I'm a checker at a supermarket right now.
47:12🔗
Adam
What happened to the god damn bow tie? It used to be the gas station guys wore it, supermarket guys wore it, everyone wore a bow tie. Now, no one with a bow tie except for old professors.
47:23🔗
Caller
When I started, like three years ago, we had to wear dress shirts and a bow tie and dress black, and now it's just like a nice blue shirt and black jeans.
47:34🔗
Adam
I don't like this casual stuff that's come over America. I want everyone who works at dressing tails. I want them to look like conductors. I want them to wear top hats. All right.
47:51🔗
Adam
Okay. Here's what I can give you. You had a run, the run is over, and now it's time to gear up for the second wave. Here's how you do that. You just focus on your work, focus on your college, focus on you, focus on working out, focus on whatever it is you want to do, and you start molding yourself into the kind of person that a woman wants to be with. Because in high school, it's all sort of, it's about proximity, it's about perception, it's about who's on the football team, it's about your friends. But then once you get out in the real world, you gotta set it all up yourself. It's the job you have, it's where you live, it's the car you drive, it's education, it's all that stuff, and you can build that.
48:41🔗
Adam
Bagging groceries, right. So you just keep going, re-gear and you can do it. The beautiful thing about being a guy is you got plenty of time. I mean, if you're 20 and it ain't happening, don't worry. You got another 40 years. I mean, seriously, you seriously can. All right.
49:04🔗
Adam
Listen, when I was 20 swinging a hammer, not getting any chicks at all, driving a beat up pickup truck with the cranks broken off the goddamn windows, and bar stools where the bench seat should have been pathetic, living with eight guys in a one bedroom. I looked in the mirror, I said, this ain't cutting it. I'm not going to get anything. So I figured, look, I'll do some comedy. Maybe I can meet some chicks. And boom, in the blink of an eye, 12 years later, I got on the radio, and now look at me, I'm masturbating every night.
49:36🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
That's funny. I had a bad run. I was putting rubber bands in lobsters' hands. I had no self-esteem.
49:47🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I can tell a lobster through the water how big he is till this day. I swear to God.
50:01🔗
Drew
That's not from the claws grabbing you. That's from the tails flipping around and scraping you. All of it.
50:20🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
They were like the holding tank. These big 18 wheelers would come down at 3 in the morning. They'd open the doors and the ice would pour everywhere. Us, like seven schmucks, getting paid nothing, would be lifting these big... We'd put all the lobsters in the tanks and weigh them up and put the rubber bands in their hands. These guys were middlemen and they'd have hundreds of thousands of pounds of lobsters. It was the worst job in my life.
50:41🔗
Adam
Can they colonize or farm lobsters or do they have to go get them from the ocean? I know they do it with other fish.
51:09🔗
Adam
That's bigger than a person. Hey, I swear to Christ, you see like I was at a restaurant the other day, the guy brought out a five or six pound lobster. That's huge. 30 pounds. I forget about it. Massive. That's like a crushed Tokyo. Oh my God. Yeah. All right, listen, we gotta take a break. We're gonna dedicate the last hour to talk about lobster. I gotta know what a 30 pound lobster looks like, how much it goes for.
51:34🔗
Adam
In Vegas, there's that Rosewood Grill. Yeah, the guy in the tuxedo holding. But I swear to God, that thing must be 22.
51:42🔗
Adam
All right. Hey, Drew, we're finally starting to get on the same page with the lobster weight. I like that. We'll be back after this.
51:52🔗
Love Line, with Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew.
52:20🔗
Adam
It's the Love Line, we're going to take a quick ten second timeout. We'll be back with more of the show in just ten seconds.
52:42🔗
Adam
It's Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Ricky Paul Goldin is our guest tonight. He's from the Young and the Restless. Hey. We're talking about lobsters when we left off. I'm infinitely fascinated with lobster.
53:03🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Don't eat the clams. I would never eat another clam. I would never eat a clam again.
53:08🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I just, in the last six or seven years, we all know they're filters at the bottom of the, but they're just disgusting. I have not, I mean, especially on the whole East Coast.
53:18🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
No, I mean, well, oysters, oyster shooters at Buffalo Club here in the West Coast, awesome, but the clams is always some kind of crap, and it's, they always bite a piece, there's nothing worse than biting into a piece of sand.
54:00🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Oh, yeah. But you know the deal. The bigger they are, the more they just suck. They just, it's not the bit, the little ones, the good ones.
54:09🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I think Peter Luger or something in Brooklyn or Queens had to have it, you know?
54:18🔗
I don't know.
54:19🔗
Adam
By the way, I can just see myself sitting in the program director's office tomorrow having the discussion about why I dedicated the last 45 minutes of this show to lobster talk.
54:31🔗
Adam
Seven years to get to one pound and then one pound for each year after that. After that. Oh, man.
55:03🔗
Caller
I was taking Paxil and I started getting a discharge from my nipples. I wondered if that was bad.
55:12🔗
Adam
Imagine if a lobster got you in the nipple. You can talk about pain. Ouch. Yeah, Drew, what about that?
55:19🔗
Drew
That is undoubtedly for the medication. The thing is, though, it's important every doctor check your thyroid levels and your prolactin levels because sometimes these medications will sort of bring out a pre-existing condition and things like prolactin are creating tumors in the pituitary gland. If your prolactin level is over 100, that to me is a sign that there's something more than just the medication stimulating that.
56:04🔗
What does that tell you?
56:05🔗
Uh-oh.
56:19🔗
Drew
Southern coastal state. He retired from his career as a lobster farmer. As an abusing father.
56:24🔗
Adam
Right. He's not taking some time off. They're trying to get him out of retirement to come molest again, but he's quite comfortable where he is.
56:42🔗
Adam
Good. Good. I'm glad. All right, Kathy. I'm sorry for what he did to you. It doesn't mean your life's over, though. Get your medication, do your therapy and get on with things.
57:09🔗
Caller
Well, I was laid off from my regular job. I worked for a car company. So when I got laid off, I was working at a sandwich shop. Then I got into an argument with one of the other girls there. We were both asked to leave.
57:58🔗
Adam
Yeah, I don't trust him. I don't trust guys who work around metal. At least this guy's in the research and development aspect of it. All right, Kathy, get your medication, do your therapy, read your books, take some walks. Life will be over before you know it.
58:15🔗
Adam
Well, I don't know, you go to heaven. The streets are paved with gold up there, you hear me? Lobsters come with rubber bands put on their paws. They do. There's nobody who has to put them on. They put them on in hell and then they ship them up.
58:31🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
We're on hell, we're in hell, right down here with the lobsters. Wouldn't it be great if what you guys say, if you just touched a person and you talk to them like that, and they could just know it wasn't them, it wasn't their fault, it wasn't them and they could just move on. It would be so fabulous if they didn't have to struggle for 20 years through it and therapy and Paxil and just know hey, that was his problem.
58:55🔗
Adam
I know, if you could just intellectualize the whole process and go, I happened to be born into this family with this son of a bitch who drank this booze and he did this and that to me.
59:09🔗
Drew
There's a book that was just reviewed in the New York Review of Books this week and called The General Theory on Love. And it talks about attachments and how it screws with your wiring, how long it takes to unwire stuff to make healthy attachments.
59:21🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
It seems just so unfair to have to spend your whole life on planet earth trying to unwire the screw up of your childhood.
59:31🔗
Adam
But it's like a car wreck. It takes 3.2 seconds to do enough damage for you to rebuild this thing in your garage for another 10 years. I mean it's like any tragedy, plane crash, car crash, whatever. The damage takes place in a millisecond. The repair part, earthquake, whatever analogy you want to use, the repair takes years.
1:00:01🔗
Adam
Sometimes you have to just tag it and move across the street. Seth, I don't know what the hell that means. I guess it's reincarnation. Seth, you're 29.
1:00:30🔗
How old are you?
1:00:54🔗
Caller
Well, some days it's just once, but other days it's like three or four times a day. And I have a hard time staying monogamous in relationships. And it's like I'm not in a relationship now. But even when I'm in a relationship, it's like I could be having sex regularly with my girlfriend and stuff. My mind tends to always be oriented around sex and stuff, but I could just have sex with her. I'd go in the bathroom and I'd start jerking off again.
1:01:26🔗
Caller
And is this like completely unhealthy or what? It makes me feel so guilty and stuff, you know?
1:01:31🔗
Drew
The unhealthy part is the disconnect part, the part that doesn't allow you to take all that and put it into your relationship.
1:01:37🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You ever find a girl that you could share all that with, or have you never even tried that?
1:01:42🔗
Caller
I mean, I had one girl for me before who, like, you know, I mean, she was just probably just a sexually active in me. I mean, we would literally do it a few times a day, but even then, you know, I mean, I cheated on her and stuff, and I'd still be masturbating when she wasn't around and stuff, you know?
1:02:02🔗
Caller
No, I mean, never any history of sexual abuse or anything. I mean, my parents were into, like, drugs and alcohol and stuff. You know, I've even had problems with these drugs myself, you know? Alright, so you may be a sex addict.
1:02:21🔗
Drew
And by the way, having a problem with drugs is not something that magically goes away. That will stay with you in some form. Once that biology has been activated, either you'll stay with drugs or you'll convert it over to some thrill activity like sex or extreme sports, that sort of thing.
1:02:38🔗
Adam
I gotta tell you, I was going for number two last night, about 1.45 in the morning. I'm not proud about this, but at least I'm honest. I squeezed one off last night about 8, 8.15 or so.
1:02:54🔗
Adam
Oh, I did, yeah. Well, then I went home and I had a couple glasses of wine and I had a little buzz going and I set the mood.
1:03:04🔗
Adam
It was like yawning. It was like 1.45 and I thought, all right, I'll go for number two. I thought, well, should I pop in a movie or should I just go off memory? I mean, I'm a creative guy.
1:03:16🔗
Adam
Yeah, except for the memory is the last time I whacked off. It's not feeling okay. So I got down there.
1:03:23🔗
Adam
Yeah, I did. I was closing my eyes and I thought, I'm going to do a little fantasy thing because I had a little buzz going. I closed my eyes and I started going at myself. So I had a little dialogue going and I had a woman down there and I was getting some moral sex and she was like, boy, do I love doing this to you. I said, yeah, it's so good. I said, okay, I'm with this. She goes, yeah, it's so big. Then I went, wait a minute. I swear to God, this is true. I stopped and I went, okay, I got to start over because that's not believable. Now, it's funny and I'm actually laughing. I shouldn't have had her say that. I thought to myself and I thought, mental note, don't have her say that stuff. Yeah, I got to try to keep it real within the realm of possibilities here. So I was like, all right, listen, I'm going to just start again. So I just started again and I just deleted the, I kept the, I love giving you the BJ and I love being with you. I spoke in sort of vague terms, but what sweeping generality? Yeah. It was so bizarre that I stopped. Drew, is that healthy that I stopped?
1:04:38🔗
Adam
No, no, that's my penis. Yeah, that's someone else's. Yeah, I had to reset my balls. I really did. It was so sad. I started laughing, but you know, tears coming down too. Sarah? You're 26.
1:04:55🔗
I went off birth control last month and I hadn't got my new period, so I was wondering if that's normal or not.
1:05:01🔗
Yeah, my-
1:05:03🔗
Yeah, my brand new one.
1:05:05🔗
My non-birth control pill one.
1:05:08🔗
Yeah.
1:05:13🔗
Last month. I should have got my period two weeks ago.
1:05:16🔗
Drew
Well, it's very common for people to have some delay in the initiation of normal cycling. Pretty much everyone will have it back within six months.
1:05:22🔗
Okay.
1:05:24🔗
Drew
All right. And if you don't, they can give you some progesterone challenge. It's not a big deal. Could she be pregnant? Interesting point. But Sarah, that's important actually. Go get a pregnancy test if there's any question. Always when you miss your period, that's always the number one, two, and three things to rule out.
1:05:37🔗
Adam
Thank God. We have a soap star here telling the doctor his job. Drew, get with the program, would you? Alan, you're 16, what's up?
1:05:45🔗
Caller
Yeah, I got in a snowboarding accident over a prison weekend and I went into surgery and since I got the surgery on my arm, I haven't been able to get erection and this was like two weeks ago.
1:06:09🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Especially after the settlement, it's a subway accident? Snowboarding. I'm thinking in New York, he got hit by a train, making millions of dollars.
1:06:28🔗
Adam
Listen, I won't go snowboarding because of this. Everyone says, you got to go, it's great. We're going snowboarding, you got to go. Then everyone comes home in a sling. They broke both ankles, they cracked their pelvis. I mean, everyone's getting the ass kicked out of them snowboarding, yet they're begging you to go do it. And my thing is, is like, until everyone stops coming home in a body cast, that's when I'll start doing it.
1:06:52🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Snowboarding, also the thing with the sail on the surfboard, it's just impossible for me. I cannot do these activities. I can't, I mean, I just suck.
1:07:02🔗
Adam
Yeah, I'm assuming I suck. I just don't want to... Yeah, I've skied a couple of times. I'm from the Valley. We don't like to have that stuff. There's no snow.
1:07:15🔗
Adam
Picture my dad or mom buying skis, boots, and bindings and heading up the mountain. Are you kidding me?
1:07:24🔗
Adam
I suck too, yeah. Well, like I said, potentially, who knows? Maybe I could have been world class, but I'm not gonna find out and I'm too old. Cheryl, you're 21.
1:07:36🔗
Caller
I went to a bar about four weeks ago and I met this guy and I went home with him. I didn't sleep with him the first night, but about two, three days after that, I slept with him. And then we had a kind of a relationship for the next two, three weeks and he broke it off with me because he said he's not ready for a relationship. Well, I just want to know why and now he won't call me and I want to know why he won't call me or if I should call him back and he doesn't want to he doesn't want a relationship. Should I call him back though and just try to establish a friendship with him?
1:08:16🔗
Caller
Yeah, like I just Pursue it. I just want to form like a kind of relationship with him.
1:08:30🔗
Caller
Well, I don't want him to be my boyfriend anymore, even if we're friends it would be fine.
1:08:34🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Go ahead. Yeah, I was just saying, this is just me, this is just my opinion, but I don't, I personally don't know what the point of keeping a relationship going with somebody after I've had a very physical and sexual relationship with a girl, she's my girlfriend, or you guys had a great thing for three weeks, or three months, or three years, I just don't, I as a guy, I'm not, and I was just, wasn't that kind of a little bit of the general consensus?
1:08:59🔗
Drew
No, men don't get, unusual for them to have a relationship, a friendship, after the fact.
1:09:05🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Like a real pal, let's have a little movie, and I'll see you later and then start talking about your other relationships, it just never, for me it never worked out, I just don't ever, I don't really see.
1:09:13🔗
Adam
Now Cheryl doesn't want that, she's deluding herself. She wants him back. She wants confirmation that it was the only connection she can make. Cheryl, you don't want to be friends with him. You met the guy at a bar, you banged him for a few weeks, and that was it.
1:09:33🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I know, but it wouldn't be great if the other breed could think that way.
1:09:43🔗
Adam
But if you want to call, you can call him, but it ain't going to work out. I'm telling you.
1:09:55🔗
Adam
You know what people do is they go, especially women, but guys do this too. They go, okay, I want a relationship with this person. Okay, that's not going to happen. All right, well, can't we just date a little? Okay, that's not going to happen. Okay, well, we'll just be friends. Well, that's not going to happen. Okay, I'm going to get drunk and come over to the house and get my goddamn comb back. That does happen. I've done that a few times.
1:10:19🔗
Adam
As a baseball man. I leave a baseball man at every girl's house I date, so I have something to come get. But the point is, is...
1:10:29🔗
Adam
You don't even know where you're at. I mean, your mind is playing tricks on you. You want to see this person. You make excuses to see this person. This whole thing of, I really like the guy. Okay, it's not going to happen. Can't we just be friends? That part, that's just an excuse for you to try to get near that person again.
1:10:47🔗
Drew
Except though, for women, that's a big piece of relationship. You know what I mean? So it is satisfying something.
1:10:52🔗
Adam
I know, but that's when the woman dumps the guy after a four-year relationship. That's not after a three-year fling where the guy breaks it all.
1:11:00🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I just wish that a woman would be able to, I love girls, there are a few, there are a few girls that go, I just wanted to have a good time myself as well. I just enjoyed it. I used him, he used me type of thing. I don't mean it like that. I had a great time.
1:11:25🔗
Caller
Well, the other night when I was giving my boyfriend oral sex, I noticed a bump on his penis and I was wondering if it was oral sex because it felt rough, like a scab.
1:11:35🔗
A wart?
1:11:44🔗
Drew
Men can get all kinds of fun little skin things, including dermatitis and all kinds of stuff.
1:12:07🔗
Adam
Well, it's interesting, I've placed a speed bump on my penis because I don't like the fast- Slow down, ladies. Fast oral sex.
1:12:16🔗
Adam
Like they put in the middle of a long side street, although this isn't long. I like a slow rhythmic sort of thing, and I find the bump sort of slows them down a little bit.
1:12:34🔗
Yeah.
1:12:36🔗
Adam
What's up? So what's she need to do? Just talk to her boyfriend about the bump of the penis?
1:12:41🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
And I have a question about the bump on the penis. Can you get mouth warts? Can you get-
1:12:47🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
And chances are it was a wart from when he was 14 or 15 years old. Can't they come back after a year and a half or two years and all of that?
1:12:55🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
And it's mostly on the outside. Is that not true? Or I can go all the way inside the girl or the warts?
1:13:06🔗
Yeah.
1:13:09🔗
Yeah. About a month ago, me and my girlfriend, we went through an abortion. And just lately she's been, you know, everything I say, she's really, she snaps at me all the time. And, you know, I'm trying to do everything I can to understand what she's going through.
1:13:24🔗
I feel guilty about it and everything.
1:13:29🔗
Oh, yeah. You know, she doesn't act like it, but.
1:13:39🔗
Drew
And just the hormonal changes that women go through terminating a pregnancy can cause depression. The acknowledgement of a loss in abortion frequently causes depression.
1:13:51🔗
Well, we had a talk about it and she says she does a little bit.
1:13:57🔗
Well, see, I told her what I thought we should do.
1:14:01🔗
And then I left the final decision up to her.
1:14:05🔗
And that's basically what we both decided.
1:14:09🔗
Three years.
1:14:11🔗
Adam
Hey, Jesse, this is pretty normal stuff. I mean, it's only been a month. They got the whole hormonal thing. She feels guilty. She blames you. She feels like maybe you manipulated her. She probably blames herself more than she blames you, but she's taking it out on you. Right. You can't really expedite this thing. You just got to ride it out.
1:14:32🔗
So, I mean, is there anything I can do to...
1:14:39🔗
Drew
That she doesn't get a major depressive episode. She really is having trouble functioning or having substantial disturbances of mood. That needs to be evaluated.
1:14:49🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Do you love this girl? Do you just want to stay with her? I mean, are you looking at a long term staying with her for not giving it up?
1:14:55🔗
Well, yeah, but see, that seems to be one of the problems. It seems like we're getting really close to breaking up over this. I mean, I don't want to, but she's telling me all, bringing out all kinds of bad things about the relationship and just saying that it's getting stale and everything like that.
1:15:09🔗
I mean, I don't think she would be saying this regularly. I think it has a lot to do with what happened a month ago.
1:15:23🔗
Adam
That makes a certain degree of sense. All right. Hey, Jesse. Yeah. I don't know. Like I said, pretend like you're listening, buy some flowers just because.
1:15:40🔗
Adam
Women love that crap. As long as it was painful, as long as it took time, as long as you went out and picked something or stuck some elbow macaroni to the side of a can, as long as you did something. Women like to see a little effort. I like that about women. Men, we're bottom line. Get us some floor mats for the car. Get us a new pair of shoes. Get us a basketball hoop or some Nintendo. That's it. We want what we want. I don't care.
1:16:12🔗
Adam
Hey, you know the neighbor kid who's retarded? Yep. Broke into his room and stole it. Fantastic. I'll use it every day. It was free. Even better. I'll enjoy it more knowing it was free. But women? You got to make it. It's got to hurt just a little bit. I like that. We've talked about it a million times. If you're a rich guy, $5,000 diamond ring doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean anything. If you think about it, why doesn't that $5,000 ring mean anything if you're rich? It didn't hurt. That's a day's pay. That's not a month's salary. You didn't scrimp and save. That's nothing.
1:16:51🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
I have to tell you this. My ex-girlfriend, I was trying to make up with her. I went up into the hills of Hollywood and I picked flowers. I started this. I was like on a date. Then I got vines and I wrapped them. I did the whole thing myself. I brought it home to her that night. Nothing. There was not a reaction. We were leaving the next day for somewhere. She just hung it on the wall to dry. Never talked about it. It was then I knew the relationship was over. She was a cold bitch. You know what I mean? She was not like your normal woman. So I figured if she didn't have that kind of sensitivity, I didn't want to be around her.
1:17:24🔗
Adam
Women want you to actually grow the flowers that you give them. I should start some service where I just send Nicaraguan day laborers into the hillside to pick a bunch of crap and make it look like you made it.
1:17:42🔗
Adam
We'll take ourselves a little break. We'll be back after this. It's the Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla, that is Dr. Drew, Ricky Paul Goldin, this is our guest of night from The Young and the Restless.
1:18:33🔗
Adam
It is our pleasure. Filter will be in here tomorrow night, and let's hop back on the phones and speak to Jennifer, who's 21.
1:18:41🔗
Jennifer?
1:18:42🔗
Yeah.
1:18:49🔗
Right.
1:18:56🔗
He just started acting really funny, and then I just kind of confronted it, and he admitted to it.
1:19:01🔗
Yeah.
1:19:02🔗
Adam
That's cause for divorce. Not the cheating, the part that he broke that easily. How was he acting?
1:19:10🔗
He was just really distant, and then we were driving home from work one night, and he was like, I think I want to separate, and I was like, what? He was like, yeah, I think I want to separate, and I was like, dude, you're not telling me something. And then he told me, and so I got real erratic and everything, and ended up in a mental institution that night, and then he slept with her again that night. Love guys. And the following night, so three times in a row.
1:19:38🔗
Well, basically, I told him, I said, I want to try to work things out, so you need to tell me everything. And so I thought he told me everything, and then we were out to dinner one night, trying to work things out and stuff, and then he's all, yeah, it didn't happen once, it happened three times.
1:19:51🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
See, they never tell you everything, guys. We never just, never tell you everything.
1:19:56🔗
Adam
And he went on to tell you the night you checked into the loony bin, he went and banged her again.
1:20:02🔗
Adam
Okay, see, Jennifer, he wants to break up. He's telling you, hey, listen, I went out, and you're not letting him out.
1:20:24🔗
In April it will be three years.
1:20:38🔗
Caller
Well, it was a year ago, and I just kind of want to move past it, but I just I really just do not want to have sex with him.
1:20:51🔗
Drew
This relationship is in limbo at best, and if you don't do something to bring it either back together or resolve this, it's not going to survive like this.
1:21:05🔗
Adam
Of course. She has a right to be, but on the other hand, this guy sounds like he checked out a while ago.
1:21:14🔗
Adam
I know, but you know guys, they can just get busy and sort of check out going autopilot. Has he checked out?
1:21:23🔗
Caller
No, I mean, he seems like he still really wants to try to work on things. And the thing that sucks is like he really tries, but I kind of treat him like crap. But he still puts up with me.
1:21:36🔗
Caller
I don't know. I have no idea why. Because if the role is reversed, I probably would have been like, OK, it was a year ago. He's treating me like crap. I know I screwed up, but it's over with. And we're trying to work things out.
1:21:47🔗
Adam
Well, let me float a theory. What if Jennifer was lovey-dovey? How long do you think it would take him before he started to stray again? You know what I mean? Sometimes you get caught up in that drama of just trying to convince someone you're a certain way when you don't even really care.
1:22:01🔗
Caller
Yeah. I don't know. But I didn't even know he was capable of doing it. It was such a shock. I had no idea. I would never do anything like this.
1:22:09🔗
Adam
I love it when women discover a man is capable of sleeping with someone else. If I have a daughter, I'm going to explain.
1:22:15🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
It's not even like sleeping with somebody else. You can sleep with a hole in the wall to a guy.
1:22:21🔗
Caller
I mean, do you think marriage counseling or something would work? I've been on like medicine and stuff just because I've been really depressed lately. But I've been off of medicine for a couple months thinking that it was possibly that.
1:22:47🔗
Adam
Yeah. See if you can do that. Tell him there'll be some sex for him at the end of each session. All right.
1:22:58🔗
Adam
Yeah. I'll tell you, that's a bitch when you do something that's kind of reprehensible or heinous. I mean, first you have the affair, fine. Maybe you can forgive that. Then the night she gets checked into the padded hospital, you're back on top of your old chick. That kind of stuff, that woman will pay you back. Listen, you'll be in your grave for five years. The payback will not have ended.
1:23:22🔗
Adam
She'll assume your body just to kick you in the nuts and then lower you back down again.
1:23:26🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You hit on the nose though. Now that he's being treated like garbage, he was the one that was driving in the car and said, I want to break up, now that he's being treated like a dog, he doesn't know what to do with himself.
1:23:36🔗
Adam
Yeah, he may just be panicking and sort of having a knee-jerk reaction. You know, sometimes you'll do that. You'll get in a relationship and you'll piss them off essentially because you want to break up and then they get pissed off and then you get so obsessed with trying to apologize to them that that just becomes your whole focus. You don't even know why you're doing it anymore. It's like trying not to get fired from a job that you don't care about.
1:24:25🔗
Drew
And flush out with whatever type of fluid you happened to have chosen to use for this. And, you know, do it no more than once a month.
1:24:35🔗
Adam
How is it, Katie, you're 16, you've had a vagina nearly half your life and you don't know what douching is?
1:24:47🔗
Adam
Oh, listen, my mom locked herself in the room and smoked pot. I knew what douching was when I was 11. I was calling my friends douchbag with regularity by 12.
1:24:59🔗
Adam
By the way, isn't there other parts of the doucher you could name your friends? You know what I mean? Hey, douchbag!
1:25:05🔗
Adam
Hey, douche nozzle! Come here! Yeah, you and douchebag! Come here! And bring douche hose! We're getting a game going.
1:25:21🔗
Adam
You hear so much about the bag. You're just not about the nozzle. You really don't. Hold on. Hold on, Katie. I stumbled on to something. Why not call guys douche nozzle? It's even worse than the bag.
1:25:47🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Didn't they use to use hot water bottles as a douche for the hose? Does your mother have a hot water bottle?
1:26:14🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
Don't get douche happy, though. Dr. Drew, you can break the vagina with too much douching. Can you not? You can stop it.
1:26:20🔗
Drew
You can fracture it. Yeah, no, it can be not good for it to do it too much and get infections.
1:26:57🔗
Drew
If you register at drdrew.com, just go on the web. It's drdrew.com and when you register, they will send you condom.
1:27:26🔗
Adam
Start hanging around with chicks who chew gum and smoke in a girl's room. You know what I mean?
1:27:31🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
You know what? I gotta say, I'm sensing that this girl is dating a guy or with a guy, not dating, just hanging with him, and she wants to clean herself up. She wants to get the condom. She's getting the whole thing in line. Am I totally wrong?
1:28:01🔗
Adam
Douche nozzle is better. Yeah, it's the kind of thing you yell, Hey, Douche Nozzle, break time's over. Let's go.
1:28:17🔗
Drew
I want to coin it. If you bring that up with Jack Hole and other fine new English language words.
1:28:25🔗
Adam
I want to work that into the American Lexicon. All right. We'll take a break. We'll be back after this.
1:29:05🔗
Adam
It's the Loveline of Adam Corolla. He is Dr. Drew. Ricky Paul Goldin is here from The Young and the Restless. He plays Gary Dawson and-
1:29:24🔗
Adam
Streetwise cop who plays by his own rules. Douche Nozzle, you get in the Lieutenant's room. Douche Nozzle, I got the mayor and the DA crawling up my ass because of you.
1:29:45🔗
Caller
I was going out with this girl for six months and she broke up with me about three months ago and she still wants to be friends. You guys have been talking about this for a while now, how the guys don't want to be friends afterward. Right.
1:29:59🔗
Caller
I agree totally. One time I didn't talk to her for a week and a half and she came to me crying saying she loves me still, she can't live without me and she misses me a lot.
1:30:12🔗
Caller
It's really awkward to be her friend right now. I've tried telling her that I'm not too comfortable with it and she just can't really understand that.
1:30:20🔗
Adam
To me when a woman is hell bent on being friends after she's broken up with you it means there's still some attraction there that she can't deal with or a little chaos that she needs to interject.
1:30:33🔗
Adam
Drama. Some women and some men don't feel like they're alive unless they're in the middle of something, breaking up, making up, whatever it is. Some sort of drama. So they break up, then they want to hang out, then they want to be friends and they break up again.
1:31:08🔗
Adam
Yeah, you got to break it up. Douche nozzle. Ron? Be clear. Are you there, you idiot? All right. Don't make me get out the D word. George, you're 17.
1:31:24🔗
Caller
All right. So today earlier, I was masturbating and like blood came out with the cum. And I was like wondering what's up with that. And the tip of my penis really hurts right now.
1:31:36🔗
Drew
Well, the blood can be very irritating to the urethra. And it's not that uncommon to have blood with ejaculate.
1:31:47🔗
Adam
I understand, but isn't blood sort of benign? I mean, does it have, you know what I mean? Would it sting if it was in your eye? You know, is it got a salt in it?
1:32:06🔗
Drew
It's not terribly abnormal. It's a common thing. It needs to be checked out, but it rarely amounts to much.
1:32:13🔗
Caller
My second problem or my second thing is I have to make a speech tomorrow because they're running for vice president of this club at school.
1:32:23🔗
Caller
It's like, Adam, if you could like give me some pointers or like tell me some cool things to say.
1:32:30🔗
Adam
You open with a joke. Jew Puerto Rican black guy walking into a bar. A nice off-color joke, you know? A good Pollock joke always loosens up the room. You're running for Vice President of what club?
1:32:48🔗
Adam
What do you do in the key club? I always hear about the key club, but I don't know what they do.
1:33:33🔗
Adam
You say, listen, these two douche-nozzles couldn't help themselves at a buffet. Forget about helping others. I'm your man. I got a strong back. I'm able-bodied, and I love gims.
1:33:54🔗
Adam
All right. George, you really should have been working on this speech a while ago. How long does it have to be?
1:34:03🔗
Adam
All right. Listen, here's what you do. Go up there with a blank piece of paper. Say, ladies and gentlemen, students, and key club members, and then go, and then crumple the paper up and throw it down and go, listen. I had a speech prepared, but I got to speak from the heart. You know what I'm saying? See if you can cry. Talk about your uncle molesting you. All right, George, you'll be fine.
1:34:35🔗
Adam
You just let your natural personality peak through. I always like, I know I've brought this up before, but it was always the funniest part of the school election. There'd be a couple of people who'd run for president, a couple of folks, vice president, treasurer, and then there'd be some bizarre thing that no one wanted, some post, some student body representative.
1:34:56🔗
Adam
Yeah. No one else would run for it except for one chick. She'd get up there and she'd go, she got her three minutes to make a speech too. She'd get up there and she'd go, even though I'm running unopposed, I still need your vote. I always thought, really? How bad do you need it? Couldn't you just vote for yourself and you'd be in? One vote landslide. You know what I mean? How many votes do you need? There's nobody else running. How badly do you need my vote? They always say that, even though I'm running unopposed, I still need your vote. Why? You don't feel good?
1:35:31🔗
Adam
Listen, douche nozzle, vote for yourself and let's move on. People who are running unopposed shouldn't get to make speeches. Andrea, wait till I'm in charge. Andrea, you're 16. What's up?
1:35:42🔗
Caller
Well, my mom, I was on antidepressants for a while and I was on 75 mg of Zoloft and my mom, when I ran out, my mom wouldn't take me to get any more and she's like, oh, well, I don't think you need them, so you're okay.
1:36:01🔗
Caller
Well, that was probably about two months ago, so I thought, well, maybe it will be okay. And one day at school, I was walking down the stairs and it was like two days after I ran out. And I just was so dizzy, I almost fell down the stairs. I had to like reach out to someone that was walking in front of me. And he thought that I was like, I don't know what he thought, but it didn't really matter. But anyway, I am starting to get depressed again. So I told my mom the other day that she needed to make an appointment for me. And she said, okay, I'll do it. I'll do it. And then like just yesterday, I said, well, mom, you know, did you make that appointment? And she said, oh, well, no.
1:36:43🔗
Drew
You need to start taking care of your health care. Take responsibility for it, taking care of it. Your mom is not helpful here.
1:36:53🔗
Drew
Yeah, you could, but there could be a little withdrawal, funny business, a little dizziness or funny feelings. But you can stop it rather quickly.
1:37:04🔗
Drew
Well, yeah, you're 16 now, you got a relationship with a doctor, that is your business, your mom is giving you bad advice, she really is not able to sort of admit.
1:37:11🔗
Ricky Paull Goldin
She doesn't understand it. I remember being 16 and being scared though. I wouldn't have called the doctor and asked for my own prescription.
1:37:20🔗
Adam
Alright, oops, I didn't mean to do that. Jay? Jay? Yes? Oh, you idiot. I was going to talk to you, but forget it. The radio cranked up. We're plumb out of show here. Jackie?
1:37:33🔗
Adam
Your 18 abusive ex-boyfriend keeps calling you? How to get rid of him? Stop answering the phone.
1:37:42🔗
Adam
Call block. Call ID. Call block and call whatever and just don't talk to him anymore. You can have no contact with him.
1:37:50🔗
Caller
It's just the fact that we have an abusive relationship, but then we like, we're just friends.
1:37:57🔗
Adam
Break up then you get away from him. Get out of it. It's your fault. Not your fault that he's abusive. It's your fault that it's continuing.
1:38:51🔗
Adam
Well, that's it. I want to thank Ricky Paul Goldin for coming in here from The Young and The Restless.
1:39:05🔗
Adam
Punch that up, you kiddies that are up late with the computer going. Filter tomorrow night, and until next time, this is Adam Corolla for Dr. Drew saying mahalo.