Episode 1000754887121

1:38 Voiceover Listener discretion is advised. Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew. Loveline, Coast to Coast.

1:49 Adam Yeah, we're back. It's Loveline. Where's Mr. Carolla, Adam Carolla?

1:53 Drew He's not here. He's in Toronto, I believe. And again, another breath of fresh air. Stryker is back to join me.

1:59 Voiceover Back in here with Dr. Drew, Board Certified Physician, Addiction Medicine Specialist, I Would Be Stryker, 1-800-LOVE-191. And we got a guest tonight, no ordinary guests, Coolio.

2:08 Coolio So what you trying to say, man? You know what I'm saying, a breath of fresh air.

2:11 Drew He is. That's compared to Adam. You know what Adam's like. He's very negative and very... He pissed off all the time.

2:16 Coolio No, he's anal. Oh, really? He's anal. But anal's cool, though, because, you know, somebody got to be anal, you know, as long as it ain't me.

2:23 Drew I hear you.

2:23 Adam And it's not you, Coolio.

2:24 Coolio But I like the opinion of the opinionator.

2:30 Drew That's right.

2:30 Coolio You know, he has his opinion and he sticks to it.

2:32 Drew No, I'm with you on that. But it still makes Stryker a breath of fresh air. What's the negative versus positive?

2:37 Coolio Well, see, I never heard Stryker.

2:38 Drew Yeah, you'll see. You'll see.

2:40 Adam You got to check out Kerrock a little bit, too, man. But our hair is... Oh, you!

2:43 Coolio That's you!

2:44 Adam Yeah.

2:44 Coolio Oh, that's... Oh, man, okay.

2:45 Adam Now you know. In the house. By the way, my favorite Coolio song of all time is not one that you would think, probably. It's the County Line.

2:52 Coolio Oh, really?

2:53 Adam That is the best Coolio song.

2:54 Coolio Well, then I'll tell you what.

2:56 Adam What's up?

2:56 Coolio When you hit a new album, you're going to have a new favorite.

2:58 Drew Really?

2:59 Coolio Oh, yeah.

2:59 Adam I can't wait to hear it.

3:00 Coolio I got some heat.

3:01 Drew Is this the one you're going to distribute through the web?

3:02 Coolio Oh, I'm distributing it everywhere now. Everywhere now.

3:05 Adam coolio.com is the name of the album. Yeah. And also your website.

3:08 Coolio Yes, sir.

3:08 Adam coolio.com.

3:09 Coolio Yeah, as well.

3:09 Adam And you got the dopest ride outside. I just said the word dopest, by the way, on Loveline.

3:13 Drew What is it?

3:13 Adam A huge ride that says coolio.com all over it.

3:16 Coolio Well, you know, it's the big suburban, you know what I'm saying? The Hummers getting ready to be like that, too.

3:20 Drew Nice. Coolio did an award ceremony like four or five months ago. Did they ever air that?

3:25 Coolio Yeah, they're airing it in August.

3:28 Drew August is almost over. That's what I heard, too.

3:30 Coolio Well, maybe they're airing it in September. It's called the Prism Awards. I thought they were airing it on MTV. I don't really know. I just came from the Source Awards, though.

3:39 Adam I heard there was a huge ruckus. Eminem got some awards. Snoop went up there, and then what happened?

3:44 Coolio Yeah. They gave out three awards. Best video, best new artist, which was Eve. Then they did a Lifetime Achievement Award with Dr. Drew and Ice Cube, and then all hell broke loose. Full start. I don't even know. I went outside to holla at the people. You know, I always go outside and talk to the people outside. I went out there and signed some autographs for one night. I saw, behind me, everybody's running out the door. You know, in LA, when you see people running, it's usually gunshots. But I didn't hear any. You know what I'm saying? So I was kind of tripping. People running from a fight. I mean, personally, I think when people fight at a function like that, that all the people there that pay their money should just jump on them and whoop their ass, and then, you know what I'm saying, and then the fight's over.

4:38 Adam This thing's supposed to be televised in a week, and they're only going to have half a show on stage.

4:41 Coolio Oh, they don't even have half a show.

4:43 Adam Oh, really?

4:43 Drew Well, they ended the show with that?

4:45 Adam Oh, it went crazy. I heard just everyone just rushed the stage. Artists fighting, bodyguards, people just in the crowd.

4:50 Coolio But I tell you what, it won't be like that at D-Day, baby.

4:52 Adam Hell no. What is D-Day? That's the big car show.

4:55 Coolio That's the big car show. It's on Sunday, and we're going to have everybody in the house. We're going to have a mixture. It's going to be some rock people in there. It's going to be some celebrities.

5:03 Adam Far side in the house. Lit's also going to play.

5:05 Coolio Oh, yeah. And some surprise guests. I can't say the name, but some surprise.

5:10 Adam And what, where is this?

5:12 Drew Tyson's coming?

5:13 Coolio Yeah.

5:13 Adam Mike Tyson.

5:14 Coolio Mike, possibly.

5:16 Adam They're a very controversial subject if he goes or not, but we'll find out.

5:19 Coolio I don't know.

5:20 Adam Okay, hey, you ready to take some calls?

5:21 Coolio Yeah.

5:21 Adam All right, let's talk about sex and bosoms and wieners and stuff on Loveline, Stryker, Coolio, Dr. Drew and Tina, you're 21 on Loveline. What's up?

5:29 Caller Yeah, I had a question. How do you know if you've had an orgasm?

5:36 Adam If your eyes roll to the back of your head and your toes curl up.

5:40 Drew You don't have to ask the question.

5:41 Caller No, I mean, because I've had a pretty active sex life and I'd always thought that I had had one or whatever and that I've had pretty intense sexual experiences but my last boyfriend, even before we had sex, just like when we were doing foreplay, like I had some really intense sexual feelings, like everything, really even more sensitive than it's ever been before and I couldn't even let him finish because it was like I thought I was just going to like the pain was like it was kind of painful because it was so intense.

6:18 Drew Do you maybe have multiple orgasms?

6:21 Caller No, I'm not even sure if I've had one before because I couldn't go through with it. I felt like I thought I might urinate on myself or it felt so intense I've never had a feeling like that before.

6:33 Drew That fear of urinating or losing control is a real common fear that women have.

6:37 Caller I've heard that before.

6:38 Drew And it can happen. Just don't worry about it. Lots of things can happen.

6:42 Coolio Go ahead and urinate during sex, it's no problem.

6:45 Caller I mean, so it's just like it's supposed to feel different every time or is it just that I've never had one before?

6:51 Drew I think that was just sort of being over stimulated. But you really probably are not climaxing.

6:56 Coolio Are you still with him?

6:59 Caller Well, yeah. We're still seeing each other.

7:01 Coolio Well, that's a good thing. Then go have fun tonight.

7:05 Drew But figure it out. You're going to have to realize that you need to stay in tune with what's going on with you and ask for certain things and make sure he's responding to you.

7:13 Adam Tina, were there any nails scratching his back while this was going on or were you just kind of, or what?

7:18 Caller Yeah, I mean, yeah. All right.

7:20 Coolio Hey Tina, make sure you go get my new album around December, January. It's called coolio.com. Go on the website and you maybe you can register to win a trip to Munich, Germany to see me perform with this big orchestra and whatnot.

7:33 Adam And that album actually creates orgasms every time you play it, all right Tina?

7:36 Caller Yeah.

7:37 Adam See you later Tina.

7:37 Caller All right, thanks.

7:38 Adam Good luck with the big O.

7:39 Caller Yeah, all right, thanks.

7:40 Adam I think there's like two kinds of orgasms that girls can have. That's what I hear.

7:45 Drew No.

7:45 Adam Okay, then I don't know.

7:46 Drew There's one kind but there's sort of different routes to that one one.

7:49 Adam The outside or getting kind of on the outside, right?

7:51 Drew Yeah, and they may experience it a little differently, but it's basically the same thing.

7:54 Adam All right, Coolio's in the house here on Loveline. Tim, you're 19, what's up?

7:57 Caller How you doing?

7:58 Caller I've got a problem.

8:00 My penis has not grown to the full length that I feel it should be.

8:03 Drew Stryker has that same problem.

8:05 Adam Take it easy, Drew. You're gay. Tim, how long is it right now when it's erect?

8:11 Caller About five, five and a half inches.

8:13 Drew That's actually average.

8:14 Adam Hold on, you said that's average. Coolio just fell down in his chair because he's like 13 wrapped around the leg right now. Coolio, step up to the mic, dude. Five and a half is like this big to you, right?

8:27 Coolio Do you masturbate?

8:29 Adam Yeah.

8:30 Coolio Okay, well, do it more. Get a penis pump, you know. No, I'm just kidding. You know what, man, it's not about the length, man. It's about how you work it. You know what I'm saying? If you are with a woman or something and she has a problem with the length of your penis, then therefore you will learn how to do other things as well. Not only learn how to do other things, but learn how to use the five inches that you have to the maximum potential. Experiment, do wild things, do other things, make the women forget about the size of your penis, and just be the man, dog. Concentrate, it's all mental. Don't even think about the size of your penis, just think about how big your penis is.

9:14 Drew In my experience, guys that have a lot of confidence and esteem in what they're doing in life, do not worry about the length of their penis.

9:22 Adam Exactly. As Coolio said, get good at other things like going below the equator and using your tongue if your penis isn't doing the job. By the way, as Dr. Drew said, first of all, my penis is not five and a half, it's two and a half, but five and a half, I think can get the job done, not that I felt it.

9:36 Coolio I read in this book that four inches is enough to give almost any woman an orgasm unless she's like a porno star or something, they probably need like 14 and a half.

9:46 Adam Actually they don't. I'll tell you about this one. Hey, Kristen.

9:50 What?

9:50 Adam No, never mind.

9:51 Go.

9:52 Adam You know Vivid, right?

9:53 Caller Yeah.

9:53 Adam Okay, Kristen, you're 16.

9:54 Caller What?

9:55 Adam We'll get to it later.

9:56 Drew We will not.

9:58 Adam I can't talk about that. No, no, I'm just playing.

10:00 Caller Hello.

10:00 Adam I don't know anything about Vivid. Kristen.

10:02 Caller Yeah.

10:02 Adam What's up? You're 16 on Loveline.

10:04 Caller Yeah. Well, my boyfriend now wants me to have threesome with his ex-girlfriend. And me and her are like best friends and everything. I think we've been talking about it.

10:14 Coolio How come you're with your best friend's boyfriend?

10:17 Caller Well, it's a long, long story. Yeah.

10:20 Coolio I figured. That's always a long story when you're doing something that's not right. First of all, you shouldn't be with your best friend's boyfriend. But since you are.

10:25 Caller No, actually, they broke up.

10:28 Coolio So you like him?

10:29 Caller No.

10:29 Coolio You like her?

10:30 Caller Yeah.

10:31 Coolio Well, do it. Go for it.

10:32 Drew No, wait a minute.

10:33 Coolio Bye-bye.

10:34 Drew None of these relationships.

10:35 Caller We were seeing friends when we found out that we were seeing the same guy.

10:40 Coolio Wait, you're 16?

10:41 Caller Yeah.

10:42 Coolio You shouldn't even be having sex at all. You shouldn't be having sex until you're at least 18. You know what I'm saying? Are you having sex now? Are you sexually active?

10:50 Caller Yeah.

10:51 Coolio Do you use a condom?

10:52 Caller Yes.

10:53 Coolio Okay. Well, always, always, always use a condom. I guess, I can't tell you what to do. But if you think about what you're doing, and think about how it's going to make you feel afterwards, not only that, they have these things that you can use now if you end up having this threesome. Just make sure you protect yourself all the way around. Protect your mouth, protect your vagina, everything.

11:16 Caller The problem is that I'm liking her more.

11:20 Adam Wait, hold on a minute. Have you liked a girl before? Hold on. You're dating this guy who used to date your best friend, right?

11:26 Caller Well, she became my friend after.

11:28 Drew Yeah. All right. Hold on.

11:30 Caller I met her after.

11:31 Drew First of all, Coolio has a daughter, right? Yeah, I do. Coolio's talent in some games is good advice. At 16, 17, the brain is actually still developing, and the kinds of feelings that are evoked by this kind of closeness can be difficult to manage. But now that Coolio has a daughter, we'll call him Pops Coolio from now on, because he's sounding like one of those old guys. He's sounding like me. But Kristen, come on, you're pulling our leg. Either that or you've got a long history of screwed up relationships.

11:59 Caller Yeah, I can kind of say that, yeah.

12:00 Drew Why? What happened?

12:02 Caller What happened?

12:02 Coolio Yeah.

12:03 Drew Where you sexually beat her up.

12:04 Coolio Wait a minute. Hold on, I gotta cut you off here. How can you have a long history?

12:08 Drew At 16?

12:09 Coolio At 16.

12:11 Drew People get screwed with as a kid.

12:12 Caller Well, I lost my virginity when I was 11 years old.

12:15 Adam And now we're gonna find out what happened to you before you were 11 years old.

12:18 Drew Well, they can go one of two ways. 11, you probably get yourself a 19 year old, right?

12:23 Caller Yeah.

12:24 Drew 19 year old at 11. And this is somebody I would predict probably was sort of physically abused when she was a kid. Your parents struck you, that kind of thing?

12:32 Caller Well, I had an abusive stepfather.

12:35 Drew There you go. And that's what sets people up to go seek out this thing.

12:38 Adam You're on fire, Dr. Drew.

12:41 Drew And then she's sexually abused. And then her sexuality becomes sort of a way of expressing all kinds of abnormal feelings.

12:46 Coolio Did you go to school for this? No, I'm just kidding.

12:48 Adam He's been doing this thing for 15 years.

12:49 Drew So, Kristen, cool out. If you like, decide what you are. Don't go experimenting about what you are. Figure out what you are. Get a stable relationship and stay with that.

12:58 Adam She's 16 years old. The guy is gonna try to get you to do anything. And if you start having feelings for the girl, just read anything. Hey, hey, for real, for real.

13:05 Coolio Don't listen to guys, cause they want you to do what they want you to do.

13:10 Adam Guys have a checklist.

13:11 Coolio Do what you wanna do, okay? That's what you do, Kristen.

13:13 Drew Guys are basically pigs. Can we agree with that? Not they're bad.

13:17 Coolio No, no, no, they're dogs. No, no, you know what it is? We have two brains.

13:22 Adam One up here and one down there.

13:23 Coolio Exactly. And I'm serious.

13:25 Drew But one takes over around 15, and it doesn't let go until you're about 40.

13:28 Coolio Exactly, exactly.

13:30 Adam Coolio is here on Loveline. Chris, 29, you got a question for Coolio.

13:33 Caller Yes, I do. And please understand that I'm not trying to ask this to piss you off, Coolio.

13:40 Coolio Go right ahead.

13:40 Caller But I know it's kind of a, or at least it was a sensitive topic, was the whole weird owl asking for your blessing on Gangsta's Paradise?

13:50 Coolio Oh, well, you know, that was one of those...

13:52 Caller My question actually is though, I don't really understand how you were really involved because it was really Stevie Wonder that wrote the song.

14:00 Coolio Well, actually, it wasn't Stevie Wonder that wrote the song. Stevie Wonder wrote a song called Pastime Paradise. LV reworked the hook. A guy named Doug Rasheed reworked the music and I wrote whole new lyrics for it, so it became an entirely different song. But the thing about it is, it's like, you know, you have a car and you like your car.

14:21 Caller Yeah, that's all right.

14:21 Coolio So now, what if I ask you, can I borrow your car?

14:25 Caller If you ask me, I would say, well, you're Coolio, you can have whatever.

14:28 Coolio Wait, hold on, hold on. Now, what if I ask you, can I borrow your car? And you say, no.

14:33 Caller Okay.

14:33 Coolio Okay, and then you go to the bathroom, right? And you come back, I'm going, your keys going, your car's going.

14:38 Caller Right, right.

14:38 Coolio So you know, it's kind of like that.

14:41 Caller I understand and appreciate that part of it. I guess I just didn't understand that it was different enough that Stevie Wonder wasn't involved in it. Because I mean, I guess, because he changed the words and his words really weren't like yours and yours weren't really like Stevie's.

14:54 Coolio So well, listen to this. He made, he kind of made fun of a song that meant a lot to me and it meant a lot to a lot of other people. But hey, he sold a lot of records with that song.

15:04 Adam Well, let's hold it real quick, Coolio. But either way, Weird Al made a song called Amish Paradise using the same music. We've been here in Amish Paradise.

15:11 Coolio Yeah, yeah, exactly.

15:12 Adam Okay, there you go.

15:12 Coolio Okay, so, so, man, oh.

15:17 Adam Watch the episode.

15:18 Coolio Yeah, that's, that's, that's a, that's a old subject, you know. Basically, I don't even think about that anymore. I don't care, you know, much peace to Weird Al's family, you know, Weird Al just, you know, next time be a little bit more respectful of a brother because, you know, you know how he is, you know what I'm saying. You don't want me to trip on you or nothing. So, you know, just, it's all about respect for me. If I say no, okay, then no. Don't ask me, I mean, I would have felt better about it if he had just done it and not asked me. But if you ask me and I say no, and you do it anyway, that's like slapping me in the face. You know what I'm saying? And that was my whole problem when it was a respect thing.

15:53 Adam Why did Weird Al look so sincere when I saw the VH1 special? Like, he didn't really know that you had said no because his people were dealing with your people.

16:00 Coolio You know what? And it's quite possible that he didn't.

16:03 Drew He personally didn't.

16:04 Coolio It's quite possible, man. I really, you know, we never, you know, I saw him on a plane and he didn't say he was afraid to talk to me.

16:13 Drew He was afraid to talk to you?

16:14 Coolio He was afraid to talk to me. He thought I was going to get ghetto with him and shake him up or, you know, break his jaw or something. So, you know, he wouldn't speak to me.

16:21 Drew He's embarrassed. He's ashamed.

16:22 Coolio No, I mean, he could have said, you know, man, look, I didn't know. He could have said anything, but it's cool. I'm not mad at Weird Al, man. Weird Al, much peace to you, man, much peace to your family. And I'm over it now. I was upset at the time, you know, now I'm on the bigger and better things. Life goes on.

16:37 Adam Cool. And we're going to move on also. So Weird Al, when you see Coolio, say what's up. He ain't going to trip on the ass.

16:41 Coolio All right, Laurie. Just give me like a hundred dollars or something.

16:44 Adam You made more than a hundred from that.

16:47 Coolio Every time you see me.

16:49 Adam Laurie, 14, on Loveline. Coolio is here.

16:52 Yeah, I have like a really big problem. A couple days ago, I lost my virginity.

16:58 Drew 14.

16:59 Yeah.

16:59 Adam With whom? How old was the guy?

17:01 Drew 18.

17:02 16.

17:03 Drew 15. 16.

17:05 Coolio Well, at least he was, you know, a kid still.

17:07 And we had been dating prior before that, but we broke up and we were trying to work on our relationship. And we had had sex. And I was on my period and I wasn't all myself that night. I had been drinking, so I wasn't really thinking of anything.

17:23 Drew What is your question?

17:25 I was wondering if there was any way possible I was able to get pregnant.

17:29 Drew Absolutely.

17:31 Really?

17:31 Drew You can always get pregnant. It's less likely at that time, but you can certainly manage it.

17:36 Hey, I had protective sex twice within that night.

17:39 Coolio Really to ease your mind though.

17:42 Drew It's less likely.

17:42 Coolio It's less likely.

17:44 Drew How many days ago was that that happened?

17:46 Like less than a week ago, but there's still more.

17:49 Drew More to the story? More to your story?

17:53 I'm like the other like a night and a half. Like yeah, two nights ago I did it again with him.

18:00 Drew Will you please get the morning after pill now? Call 1-888-NOT-NUMBER-2 LATE. 1-888-NOT-TOO-LATE. Where are you calling from?

18:11 Visalia, California.

18:12 Drew Visalia. But you find a doctor, urgent care center, anybody can get you this damn thing. You take it now. You take it again 12 hours later, and it will decrease that pregnancy risk by 70%.

18:23 Adam Isn't that the way you want to lose your virginity though, getting wasted at 14 and having some guy?

18:28 Drew That's the way women do it. Women, it's against their instincts. So they sort of either suppress their feelings, or they're acting some other crap out, or they get loaded.

18:37 Coolio Hey, and do this too. Are you still there?

18:39 Drew No, she's listening.

18:40 Coolio Hey, do this. Use a condom, man. Come on, this is nothing to it. If he don't have a condom, then he don't get none. Simple as that. Even if you're getting ready, you're right there, it's on, it's finna happen. Say, do you have a condom? If he doesn't, say, okay, well, go get one.

18:54 Adam Definitely. Girls, listen to this. The guy will do anything just to get some love.

18:59 Drew They don't understand that. Women don't understand the power they hold.

19:02 Coolio Also, remember this. Any guy that sleeps with you without a condom, if he doesn't have one, then he probably slept with somebody else without a condom.

19:10 Adam You got that right.

19:10 Drew He doesn't care.

19:11 Coolio You know what I'm saying?

19:12 Drew I'm gonna hear the story about this guy with my handwashing incident because we got to go to break. All right.

19:17 Adam Real quick.

19:17 Coolio I got to go because I seriously. Yeah.

19:20 Drew No, you're not.

19:21 Coolio It's party time. And you know, it was the Swords Awards at night. I got to go. I got studio. I started studio next break.

19:27 Drew You got to go through all your promotion again. Then you can go. Okay.

19:30 Adam Okay. Is that cool?

19:31 Drew All right.

19:31 Adam Drew, we talk about this real quick.

19:32 Drew Yeah. I know it's a clear goes away because he's going to.

19:35 Adam Okay.

19:35 Drew We got lots of time. All right.

19:36 Adam So why don't we take a quick break right now? We'll come back with Coolio Stryker here for Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew 1-800-LOVE-191. More next on Loveline.

19:46 Stryker Loveline, we'll be right back. Call on the 1-800-LOVE-191.

20:20 Adam All right, we're back. It's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191, Stryker for Adam Carolla, Dr. Drew, and Coolio. coolio.com, new album is Hit and Win.

20:30 Coolio The new album will probably hit around December or January. I got a new single coming out sometime before the end of October. All right. Shooting a new video sometime here in the next three weeks or so, and it's going to be off the hook.

20:45 Adam If you need a funky white guy in there?

20:46 Coolio Hey, you invited already.

20:48 Adam Really?

20:48 Coolio Yeah, you already invited. I'll make sure you get the information to the video shoot.

20:52 Adam And then we got D-Day going on.

20:54 Coolio D-Day is Sunday. I'm going to have the Hummer out there with the monster sounds in it, and bring my truck out, bring my Suburban out, and bring the Viper out, and Shaq's going to come out with his car, Spreewell. Spreewell got some nice cars. Spreewell got 22 cars.

21:13 Adam Really?

21:13 Coolio All of them are black and chrome.

21:17 Adam I got an email about two weeks ago. All it said was Littrell Spreewell's phone number. I was like, what the hell is this? I called it. It was him.

21:23 Coolio Littrell is after him.

21:24 Adam I don't know if anyone else got that. Wait, Dr. Drew, let me see this real quick. Also, Mini Me is going to be there.

21:31 Coolio Fred Gersh is going to be there.

21:33 Adam Fieldy from Korn's picture is on here. Ice T. There's Tyson.

21:36 Drew How'd you get all these guys? You give them cars?

21:38 Coolio No, man. They want to see. All these guys got real nice cars. They want people to see them, but they just want to do something so everybody can get together and have some fun and kind of talk about what they're doing or whatever. It's kind of like a social thing in a way.

21:51 Adam So there's going to be cars and then performances by Slick Rick, Farside, Coolio, and Ice T. In the Body Count.

21:58 Coolio Plus.

21:58 Adam That's going to be cool.

21:59 Coolio Plus, plus, plus.

22:00 Adam Special guest.

22:00 Coolio Special guest. All right. You can't say the names because we don't want it to be two.

22:05 Drew That's enough.

22:06 Coolio But you see the pictures that's on there. That's all I'm going to say.

22:08 Drew You got Shaq, Tyson.

22:09 Adam Can I bring my car down? I got a Corolla.

22:11 Coolio Come on through here. What you got on it? What you got in it?

22:14 Adam Nothing, man.

22:15 Coolio Beer cans in the back.

22:16 Adam Beer cans in the back.

22:17 Coolio Come show off your beer cans.

22:17 Adam I got Saint I's and Mickey's in the back. What's up?

22:21 Coolio You got to check out the new album. It's called coolio.com. I got Kenny Rogers. I got Krazy Bone. I got B-Real from Cypress Hill. With me and him, I got a song that's off the hook. I got Dabz from the Dog Pound. We got a song that's crazy. I got my young homie Spado. I got the Unniggables. That's my new group. Off the hook. We're just doing it, man. Microphone Jones and Young Ghost, Ghost Smoke. There you go. We've been working on a record for about a year, man. Just having fun.

22:53 Coolio Oh yeah. Nice cars, man. We all got a Lamborghini.

22:58 Adam He's got 20 of them. They're all black with chrome on there.

23:00 Coolio That's it right there. That's it.

23:03 Adam You're going to hang a bit, answer a few more questions at the next break, your jet? I got to go.

23:07 Coolio It's almost 2.30. But I surely enjoy you guys, man. And you know, call me back. I'll be back again. I'm Coolio with the flow of the neighborhood. Get it with Dr. Superhero. Down to go toe to toe with any hank, frank, or Joe representing the. It's 2000, you know what I'm saying? It's on east side, west side, north side, south side, worldwide, little punk. I'm at house with my homeboy, Dr. Drew. You know what I'm saying? You know how we do? Lovelines. You know what I'm saying? Work your problems out, think about what you're doing. You know, don't be stupid. I got to go. See ya.

23:40 Adam We're not going to break ya. I'll see you later, man. All right, have fun tonight. There he goes. Coolio's still got the hair, he's got the dope clothes. All right, Anthony.

23:48 Yeah.

23:49 Adam All right, you're 20. Coolio is out the door.

23:51 Drew He's my favorite guy.

23:52 Me and my fiance are worried that we're pregnant because what ended up happening was I masturbated once in the morning, went over to her house.

24:00 Drew Hang on a second, Anthony. Stryker's totally cracking up.

24:02 Adam I'm in shock about Coolio. He sang goodbye and he gave us a minute rap.

24:06 Drew Oh, yeah. He's an amazing guy. Amazing guy.

24:09 Adam And that one band name. All right, Anthony. Sorry. You and your girl are pregnant because why?

24:13 Okay.

24:14 Drew You masturbated in the morning.

24:15 She gave me a blowjob. I come to her mouth and then it was like 40 minutes after that, we ended up. We're waiting till we get married, but we screwed up and I went inside her about an inch or half an inch.

24:26 Drew Forty minutes later.

24:27 Forty minutes later.

24:28 Drew Did you urinate after?

24:30 Caller No.

24:31 And I'm wondering what the possibilities are.

24:33 Adam Did all those little extra drips come out within that 40 minutes?

24:36 No.

24:36 Drew There's still stuff that can sit around in the urethra and come out. I mean, it's very, it's not.

24:40 But when she was giving me a blowjob, I pressed on the urethra and pressed up.

24:47 Drew The hell are you talking about?

24:49 When she was swallowing.

24:51 Drew Yeah, but look, there's still stuff sitting in the urethra. And even if you urinated a couple hours later and somebody looked at your urine, you'd find sperm there. So there's a possibility, but it's remote. That's not a pretty significant exposure.

25:04 See, that's the thing, but she was ovulating on that day.

25:08 Adam You have more because's than this is in that's, Anthony.

25:11 Drew How does she know she was ovulating on that day?

25:12 Caller She checked.

25:13 Drew What did she check?

25:15 She counted the days, you know, 13 to 15 days.

25:16 Drew Oh, that's BS. Come on. That doesn't mean she ovulated necessarily on that day. However, sperm goes for three days. It lasts for three days up there waiting for the egg. That's why you have three days to use the morning after pill because that pill works by suppressing the egg from being released. So you should take that. People, please keep that product in your medicine cabinet.

25:37 Adam The day after pill you're talking about.

25:38 Drew If there's even a question of a possible exposure, take it now. Day one, 24 hours is 90% effective at preventing pregnancy. It doesn't cause abortion. It has nothing to do with abortifacients. I can't understand. RU-46 is going to be out here, I suspect, soon too. I probably will not be supporting that because that is an abortive pill. Right. There's no reason for that when you have this stuff here that suppresses ovulation in the first place.

26:01 Adam So how long sperm will sit inside of the wiener until you urinate?

26:05 Drew Oh, yeah. A few hours. Pretty much.

26:06 Adam A few hours?

26:06 Drew Yeah. But in the tubes, if it makes its way into the tubes, it's sit there for three days waiting for an egg to be released.

26:12 Adam Got it. All right. It's Loveline. And Katie, 19, what's going on?

26:17 I think I have a fair of sex.

26:19 Drew A what? A fair of sex?

26:21 Yeah.

26:22 Drew A fair?

26:23 A fear of sex.

26:24 Adam A fear. A fear of sex. A fear of sex because why? What happened? What's going on?

26:29 I'm all good for the messing around and stuff beforehand.

26:32 Adam Oh, yeah.

26:33 And I want the sex. But when we get to the point to have sex, I'll freeze up and I'll totally...

26:41 Drew Are you a virgin?

26:42 Yeah.

26:43 Drew Did something happen to you that made you frightened of sex?

26:47 When I was five, I got molested by my stepbrother once.

26:50 Drew Well, there you go. So it's a reenactment of that victimization. That makes perfect sense. It's interesting. Last time you were on, we were talking about this, that people get launched into various trajectories as a result of abuse. They either go on a path towards sort of hypersexuality or sexual shutdown. And she's more in the shutdown direction.

27:08 Adam Katie's in the shutdown.

27:09 Drew Yeah.

27:09 Adam How far have you gone, Katie? Everything but the sex?

27:13 Yeah.

27:13 Adam And how do you feel when you're doing the other things?

27:16 I feel fine. Because I really want the sex. But as soon as we get ready to do it, my whole body will tense up and I'll freeze and I'll start bowing my head off.

27:25 Drew Okay. Well, there you go. Have you had any therapy for that post-traumatic stress reaction?

27:30 I've only told one person about this.

27:32 Drew I suggest you see somebody about this. Because as a single, you were molested only once? You were molested only once?

27:38 Yeah.

27:38 Drew Yeah. That's something that should be treated. It really is a true PTSD type reaction. And she ought to be treated.

27:43 Adam Now, when Katie gets treated, is she going to go in that other direction and just start sleeping with the entire town?

27:47 Drew I doubt it. That's a biological thing.

27:50 Adam Is it?

27:50 Drew Okay.

27:51 Adam Alright. So get some help and start spreading the legs for one man. Johnny, 15, on Loveline.

27:56 Caller Yeah. Actually, it's Adam.

27:58 Adam Okay.

27:58 Caller 16.

27:59 Adam Adam, 16. Alright.

28:00 Caller Yeah. First of all, I'd like to say what's up to all the dirty birds in Winnapark. And here's my question. It's actually, I want your guys' opinion. My penis is 11, you know.

28:14 Drew Centimeters?

28:15 Caller No.

28:16 Adam Your penis is not 11 inches long.

28:18 Caller Even. And, I mean, I've been getting a lot of offers from-

28:24 Adam Alright, no. Is that false?

28:25 Drew You're gay. There is such a thing, but he doesn't-

28:28 Adam He's white.

28:29 Drew People don't call to announce that.

28:32 Adam Hey, Adam.

28:33 Stryker Yeah.

28:34 Adam Do you give it to the dirty birds?

28:36 Drew Yeah. Okay, good. There you go. Alright. I want to hear about my hand-washing thing.

28:40 Adam Oh, geez. You guys got to hear this. You guys have to hear this. So, I go into a K-Rock here in Los Angeles today, and I'm just moseying around, and I think it was Anne, producer Anne, handed me an email, and I just started reading it, and I was like, wow. This guy, here's what happened, Dr. Drew, we'll discuss it briefly. Dr. Drew works in a regular doctor's office. Some guy who lives in LA went to his dentist, and then he saw right across the hall, oh my God, that's Dr. Drew's doctor's office. How cool. So the guy gets his teeth cleaned, he goes in to the bathroom. As the guy, I guess maybe is peeing or something, Dr. Drew walks in, this guy, a little starstruck, it's Dr. Drew of course. So the guy's done peeing, Dr. Drew's doing his thing, and while Dr. Drew is peeing, this guy's like messing with his teeth that just got cleaned.

29:24 Drew I told you that part.

29:25 Adam Right, okay, but here's the kicker. Dr. Drew, aka, doctor, waltzes right out of the bathroom without washing his hands. Full speed, full speed. And this guy that emailed, disgusted by him.

29:38 Drew You know what's funny is I had, what's truly bizarre about it is that I had this internal dialogue with myself and I thought, wouldn't that look weird to that guy that I just stormed out of here with that? Because I was not going back to patient care. I was going to Dr. drew.com.

29:49 Adam You say that on the radio right now.

29:51 Drew No, it's true. I swear to God, I had this whole dialogue with myself and I thought, man, if that guy knew who I was, he could just make a big deal about this. Here it is, here it is. Here it is, the one guy that sees you and I knew where I was going. It was not to be touching any of the people or anything and I was actually going to go be using a bathroom at another site because I knew I was drinking a coke and whatnot, I'd be undoubtedly.

30:09 Adam You are backtracking so bad right now. This is the dialogue.

30:12 Drew The backtracking though was that moment in my head going, you should go back and wash your hands. No, God damn it, I'm going to do it later. Let's not worry about it. And I thought, what would the guy think? If he knew I was a doctor, he'd just freak out.

30:22 Adam So the reason you didn't wash your hands was because he was like hogging the sink area?

30:25 Drew He was at the sink and I was in a big hurry and at the last screw I was just getting out of here.

30:28 Adam So your penis is pretty clean then?

30:32 Drew There's no problem that way. You're in a sterile.

30:34 Adam And you swear that you went straight to some drdrew.com not to patients?

30:37 Drew Yeah, that's absolutely what I did. No, I would have washed my hands.

30:39 Adam All right, because I've been getting some spots after I shook your hands the other day.

30:43 Drew Spots on your fingers?

30:44 Adam Yeah, and below.

30:46 Drew Dr. Drew, you're like- How fast did your hand go down there after you've shaked hands? All right.

30:51 Adam Under a minute, you're like Poppy from Seinfeld, Jenny, I'm going to make you the best pie you've ever had. Amy, you're 15 on Loveline.

30:58 Drew No.

30:58 Adam No?

30:58 Drew That's Amy.

30:59 Adam Oh, that's Amy. Amy?

31:00 Yeah.

31:00 Adam Hello.

31:01 Hi.

31:02 Drew Hello.

31:03 Hi.

31:03 Drew That's so weird.

31:05 Caller That guy busted you.

31:06 Adam You are going to think twice. But every time you go to a bathroom-

31:08 Drew But I was thinking twice. What's weird, I predicted what the guy did.

31:12 Adam Because you know you're that popular.

31:13 Drew Yeah, I guess.

31:15 Adam Amy?

31:15 Caller Yeah.

31:16 Adam Do you wash your hands?

31:17 Caller Yeah, I do.

31:18 Adam Good. At least one person around here does.

31:22 Caller Yeah, my mom sneaks weed.

31:25 Adam So do you, apparently.

31:27 Caller What?

31:28 Adam Go ahead.

31:28 Caller Yeah, I do. But see-

31:30 Drew Good pick up.

31:31 Caller I quit, okay? My mom sent me to drug counseling and all. And I quit. I've done it- since I got out of drug counseling, I've done it twice. And that was about six months ago.

31:43 Drew So you're not even in recovery right now.

31:46 Caller I'm like going to NA and stuff.

31:48 Drew You are going to NA.?

31:49 Caller Yeah, I still go.

31:50 Drew And why don't you discuss this with your sponsor?

31:54 Caller Because I don't have one.

31:55 Drew Okay, well then-

31:56 Caller I don't really- I just go-

31:58 Drew You're wasting your time, Amy. No sponsor, no treatment. You're just treading water. You're not going to make the kind of change you need to make to stay sober. It's an internal process that you make with another person. And that's why you're focusing on your mom. You're going to fix her as opposed to doing the tough work of dealing with your own issues.

32:15 Caller Well, see, it's like, I mean, I don't really think I was addicted to it. There was only weed I went there for.

32:21 Drew Amy?

32:22 Caller Yeah?

32:22 Drew Here's how marijuana addiction works. Your mom's a marijuana addict, right?

32:26 Caller Yeah, she's been smoking since she was like 18.

32:29 Drew Yeah, so you know what it looks like.

32:30 Caller Yeah.

32:31 Drew And the way it works is somebody with a family history of some sort of addiction, usually alcoholism, smokes pot a couple of times, and then usually around the third time, pow, this stuff is just, oh my god, I love this stuff.

32:42 Caller Yeah.

32:43 Drew And you would think about using it every day thereafter. And most days you'll use it, and that's marijuana addiction, and that will go on for between one and 20 or 30 years. And as time goes on, it will become less effective, you'll start to get more depressed, more forgetful, more irritable, you start smoking more to try to compensate for that, and eventually you get real depressed.

33:01 Caller That's true.

33:02 Adam Amy, does your mom know that you know that she smokes pot?

33:06 Caller Oh yeah.

33:07 Adam So doesn't that piss you off that she's making you quit, go to the rehab, but she's still hitting the bong every night?

33:13 Caller It pisses me off so much because she's sitting there saying that I gotta quit, but it's okay for her to do it. When, I mean...

33:19 Drew Why don't you go to Alan on that? You get yourself a sponsor, Amy, please.

33:23 Caller Oh yeah.

33:23 Drew This is a mess. Get a sponsor and begin talking about this with somebody who's available for you unconditionally. Not who has all kinds of weird issues with you.

33:30 Caller Yeah, it drives me nuts.

33:33 Drew I'm sure it does. And she's got something she needs to handle, but those are her problems, not yours. You've got your own plate full.

33:38 Adam Only 15. It'll hopefully work out for you. Okay, Amy?

33:41 Caller Okay.

33:41 Adam Get a sponsor.

33:42 Caller Okay.

33:43 Adam See you later.

33:44 Caller Bye.

33:44 Adam I can't believe that. The mom who's hitting the bong every night is forcing the daughter to get...

33:48 Drew No surprises. It happens all the time. It happens all the time. It's alcoholic spouses who get the other spouse into treatment. He becomes the identified patient. He doesn't get it under control. You know, it's...

33:59 Adam Kristen.

33:59 Drew Doesn't work.

34:00 Adam 27 on Loveline.

34:02 Yeah, I've been listening tonight. I listen pretty regularly, but, I mean, within, like, the past half an hour, it's like you guys have already had two guys on calling about the size of their penises.

34:13 Adam Right.

34:14 They're worried about that and sex. And I don't understand why are men, like, you constantly tell them that, like, just going for the hole is not the thing. Yeah. There's so much more to the female orgasm.

34:27 Drew Thank you for listening to that.

34:29 And they consistently ignore it.

34:30 Drew Okay, here's... There's two pieces to this. One is men really, their esteem is totally tied up in their schvanz. Why? It's... I don't understand it. There's all sorts of theories about, you know, what the symbolism and all. I think there's got to be some sort of circuitry, some sort of neurologic connection there. That just... That's the male. You put enough testosterone in the central nervous system, that's what you get. It's ridiculous, and you would think that the rational brain could sort of compensate for that ridiculousness, wouldn't you?

35:04 I mean, they're so worried about pleasing a woman, yet the thing they're worrying about isn't...

35:09 Drew They miss it entirely.

35:10 Yeah.

35:11 Drew And isn't this further evidence of the superior gender being the female? But the other thing is, the other part of this is that it's arrogant of us as males sitting here to be lecturing anybody about what women want. So now here's your chance. You tell them.

35:27 Adam Anyone have a pencil real quick?

35:29 Go for the clitoris! Use your tongue! That's all you have to do.

35:38 Drew And wouldn't you think also that they need to be sort of gentle, available to you? Like compassionate in some way, available emotionally in some way?

35:46 Well, yeah.

35:47 Caller That would be nice, too.

35:48 Drew You can't ask for everything.

35:50 Adam Women are more into sex emotionally, though.

35:52 Drew Kristen, that is the core problem. You guys don't ask for that.

35:55 Caller No.

35:55 Drew And men don't deliver.

35:57 I agree. I agree. I think every night, like Dr. Drew, you say, like, women totally have the upper hand in this. And they don't realize it. And especially young women who are out there, like, just giving it up at, like, 14, 15. Oh, it's just awful. Not using condoms, not using anything. I mean, I did that, too. It was so stupid.

36:18 Drew You have to numb yourself up to do it, too, don't you?

36:20 Oh, yeah.

36:21 Drew You have to literally sub, you have to just swallow your feelings in some way. And the disempowerment of the American female, and I mean the interpersonal disempowerment, I think is one of the greatest problems out there today.

36:32 I totally agree with you. I mean, it's just ridiculous.

36:35 Adam Kristen, what's your story right now? Are you married or have a boyfriend or what?

36:39 Caller No, I'm single.

36:40 Adam When's the last time you had a?

36:41 Drew No, no, no, no, no, not with this. I'm feeling something.

36:44 Adam No, no, I'm not feeling it. Kristen. Yeah. When's the last time you had a boyfriend?

36:47 Caller Two years ago.

36:48 Adam So it seems, are you super picky because you seem like, why do all the men only want to talk about their wiener?

36:54 Caller No, I'm not super picky. I'm just at this point, I guess now I am. I mean, I'm just smart enough to know what I want and I haven't found it.

37:05 Adam Well, you want the clitoris touched and licked.

37:09 Adam Well, God bless you. We're here in West LA. I think. Okay. Bye, Kristen.

37:12 Drew All right.

37:13 Adam Thanks for calling.

37:14 Drew All right.

37:14 Adam 1-800-LOVE-191. Loveline, it's time to take a break. Right, Drew?

37:17 Drew Right.

37:18 Adam Drew has given me the evil eye. We're going to talk to Chris here in a second. He has a crush on a girl, but she has a boyfriend. What the hell is he going to do? We'll find out next on Loveline. All right, Stryker here. It's Loveline with Dr. Drew, 1-800-LOVE-191. Adam is going to be gone for a couple of days.

38:09 Drew Yeah. We've got SR-71, Cindy Margolis coming in here.

38:12 Adam I got to thank that guy for leaving because we had the hottest trick ever in last week. What's her name again? Victoria Silvestate, who showed me the boobs. What happened? My headphones went off for a second.

38:22 Drew Yeah, that's the good equipment we have here. Yeah, I saw you just climbing over the console here. I thought we're going to lose you that night.

38:28 Adam And then we got Cindy Margolis coming in in two days, and tomorrow the band SR-71, they sing the song right now, like Blink-182 Jr. So that should be cool.

38:36 Drew Have they been up here before, SR-71? No.

38:38 Adam No, no, they're a fairly new band from Maryland or something. And you guys are going to have to deal with my ass for the next two days.

38:44 Drew I'm looking forward to it.

38:45 Adam But actually I'm going to get a show because of this called the X-Man Show. I'm copying the Man Show and the X Show. And we're going to have monkeys mostly though, jumping around.

38:54 Drew Chimpanzees. Chimpanzees with voice over chimpanzees.

38:57 Adam You got that right.

38:58 Drew You'll kill the X Show and the Man Show. There we go.

39:00 Adam And big boobs. Probably will go with that too. Alright, Chris.

39:04 Yeah.

39:04 Adam You're 15 on Loveline.

39:05 Caller Yeah.

39:07 Adam Go ahead.

39:07 Alright. Okay, this takes a little bit of setup.

39:11 Drew In three sentences. You better make the setup that fast.

39:14 It'll be quick. I promise. And it wouldn't be a good promise to you guys.

39:17 Drew Hurry.

39:18 Alright. Okay. Alright. There's this girl. I met her when I first got to high school. And since I've gotten to know her, I've sort of gotten to realize that she's like a perfect personality fit, you know, everything about her.

39:30 Drew What's your question?

39:32 Okay. Alright. Now. Okay. The 4th of July, I was at a party of hers. And she had a boyfriend. She met him at this trip she went to. And I guess they were pretty into it. But like after he left, like before, I had to leave. And so me and her just sort of got to talking. And she sort of admitted that she had like a crush on me when she first met me. And there's a sort of like hand-degenerable contact somewhere along the line.

39:57 Drew Hers to yours or yours to hers?

39:59 Caller Both.

40:01 And so I was wondering, is there a chance that I could wait until like, you know, right now there's no one else that I'm interested in.

40:10 Drew Is this other guy a friend of yours?

40:12 What?

40:12 Drew Is this other guy a friend of yours?

40:15 I don't know him. I met him though.

40:16 Drew She's obviously not into this guy, right?

40:18 Well, I don't know. No, she is though.

40:20 Adam How could she be into that guy if she's grabbing your wiener?

40:22 Drew If she is, then she's messed up.

40:24 We were both drunk and high.

40:25 Drew But she's messed up.

40:27 Okay.

40:28 Drew Really, either she's not into that guy or she's messed up. You don't want to be in a relationship with somebody that's going to be cheating like that on you too, or she's just really not into this guy, or the guy is just frankly not good to her. She's really looking for an excuse to sabotage.

40:40 My question is, should I wait until their relationship ends and then maybe if you want to try it?

40:46 Drew I generally believe that you make your intentions very clear and then back away and then say, I am here, I'm interested.

40:53 Adam Put the ball in her corner.

40:54 Drew And if she is ready, she'll come along. If not, then you go about your life.

40:58 Adam Chris, is it crystal clear in her mind that you dig her?

41:06 I sort of told her.

41:08 Drew No, no, no, no. No sorrows.

41:10 Adam Tell her when you're not high and not drinking coarsely.

41:12 I know, but I told her at another time though that I thought she was sort of like my soulmate.

41:16 Drew Yeah, that's fine. That doesn't mean anything. You tell her, here's what I want from you. I'm available. If you didn't have a boyfriend, I'd be all over this. So as soon as you break up, you come call me.

41:27 Adam This is how I'm gonna do it. You're gonna be her, okay? That's Stephanie. I just want to tell you, you're going out with this guy. I want to be the one going out with you. I like you, this, this, this, this, this, this, bam. Walk away, see what she does, right?

41:37 Drew Chris, the particular, this, this, this, this, this bam part.

41:41 Adam I like you, I feel close to you, I want to hold your hand and touch your privates again.

41:45 Drew No, it just has to be, it just has to be, look, I am really attracted to you, I want to date you.

41:50 Adam I just said that.

41:51 Drew But I'm just saying, but real clear, just real short, and I'm not gonna do this when you have a boyfriend, but the second that there's any, that relationship ends, you call me.

41:59 Adam And if she doesn't come crawling to you, don't wait around, find somebody else, Chris, right? And Tony, 17, on Loveline.

42:06 Yes, I have a question about my stepdad, and he, lately, he's been hiding tape recorders around my house, and trying to tape me and my other brothers, like he's already had a tape recorder hooked onto the phone, and he taped like a month worth of phone calls, and trying to, I guess he's trying to get me in trouble, and like...

42:28 Drew What's he worried about?

42:30 I don't know, like I'm a good kid, I mean, like I'm like a CB student.

42:35 Drew Smoking a little pot, though?

42:36 No. No, I don't do that, but it's just...

42:43 Drew He's taping this phone call right now, see?

42:45 Adam Wait, Tony, you think he's trying to get you in trouble, why would he want to do that? For what?

42:48 Drew And what's there to be getting in trouble if you're not getting in trouble? What do you care?

42:52 I don't know, he just does this kind of thing, I mean, like, I haven't told him that I found a tape recorder, like, before, hidden underneath.

43:01 Drew You told him this?

43:02 No, no, I haven't told him, it was underneath my couch, and I found it, and like, I was listening to it, and I had, like, conversation with all my friends, and other stuff like that, like, luckily I wasn't talking anything about my personal life, but you know.

43:14 Drew You told your mom about this?

43:16 No, not yet.

43:17 Drew Why don't, you gotta talk about it, it really is a, it's not a great way to manage somebody your age, it's disrespectful, it's just a, it's not a good idea. If you had somebody that you really strongly believe was doing, potentially harming themselves or other people and you needed confirmation so you can swoop in and intervene, that's almost an indication for something like this. I mean, as a desperation measure, but it's some sort of surveillance, it's very disrespectful, it's very inappropriate, and it's not a healthy situation, you gotta talk to your mom about it. And you need to be very clear with him about how it makes you feel. It's invalidating, it's disrespectful, especially since you have no reason to incite that sort of distrust.

43:59 Adam I would normally talk to your mom, Tony. I would make the phoniest fake phone call as possible, set it up with the friend, and just start talking about your stepdad in either the most positive way in the history of mankind. We are throwing the biggest surprise party for my stepdad next Friday. We're gonna have strippers there, we're gonna have everyone there, and of course nothing's gonna happen. When he's gonna hear it, it'll be like that some episode of some TV show. Then he'll get in a lot of trouble.

44:25 Drew Or you could sort of set up some sort of meeting that he has to, you know, that he's gonna come and bust, and then bust him.

44:31 Adam Yes, yes. Oh, do that, Tony. Emily.

44:34 Hi.

44:35 Adam Hi, 15, what's going on?

44:37 I have a question.

44:38 Yeah? I was talking with my guy friends, and like I'm not confident at all with myself.

44:44 Drew What do you mean not confident?

44:45 Like I don't like the way I look and stuff. And they were like telling me that they think I should finger myself to get more confident.

44:53 Adam The guy said this, right? Yeah, of course.

44:55 Drew This is more evidence of just what Neanderthals men are. Basically, they're trying to get some material together for themselves when they're alone.

45:04 Adam Right.

45:04 Drew This is nothing for you.

45:06 Adam Right now, every 15-year-old you know has something to imagine while they're going to bed tonight, Emily.

45:11 Drew Yeah, and they're just a bunch of idiots.

45:15 Adam So what's wrong with the way you look, and why don't you feel good about yourself?

45:18 I don't know. I just don't. I never felt confident about myself.

45:22 Drew Do you have a needing disorder?

45:23 No, I did. I tried it for a weekend like last year.

45:27 Drew Yeah, so that means that somewhere along the way, you didn't get the right support you needed in order to develop a good sense of yourself. Yeah, I was really... People oftentimes like you are some of the most attractive people that there are, but still feel there's something wrong with them.

45:41 Last year, I was really depressed when I broke up with one of my boyfriends, and I took it really, really hard. And I think that might be something to do with it, I don't know, though.

45:50 Adam Well, if you're good enough to have a boyfriend, I mean, come on now.

45:54 Well, I haven't had one for two months.

45:56 Drew Oh, God, here goes the world.

45:58 It is.

45:59 Adam I have a friend, I won't say his name, Pete, but I don't think he has...

46:05 Drew Five minutes.

46:06 Adam No, it's been a long time since he's made love to a woman.

46:09 Drew Okay.

46:10 Adam Yeah, so...

46:11 Drew Poor Pete.

46:11 Adam Emily. Three months is nothing. No, a long time, Dr. Drew.

46:16 Caller Oh, it is so long.

46:17 Drew But Emily, more importantly, you need some time by yourself so you can gain some confidence rather than be focused on another person and a relationship.

46:24 Well, what do you see I do to gain it?

46:26 Drew But the point is the relationships become life preservers or hostages as a way of trying to bolster your esteem. Being alone and just figuring out what you like in people, who you are in relationships, good friends, what you need to do for yourself in terms of extracurricular activities, what your interests are at schools. Those are all real things that are parts of yourself that you need to develop. And if you pay attention to that stuff, you'll slowly build confidence. And the choices you'll make in relationships will be superior, you're better.

46:53 Adam You understand?

46:55 Drew Yeah.

46:55 Adam Okay, good luck, Alan.

46:56 Drew It's not fun necessarily, but you'll pay dividends later.

46:59 Adam How come teens think three months is like an eternity?

47:03 Drew If she's only been alive 15 years. That's like 1 45th of her life.

47:07 Adam Okay, right. All right, where are we going here?

47:09 Drew Time goes faster. I think the biology of the brain is such that, man, as you get older, time just goes faster and faster. My patients in their 70s and 80s complain that it just goes so fast.

47:18 Adam And before they know it.

47:19 Drew And I have a sense of that myself. Joe.

47:20 Adam Joe, 14 on Loveline.

47:22 Caller Yo, hey. Yo, by the way. Hey, Stryker, you're doing a great job.

47:26 Drew He is doing a good job, I agree. In fact, he's gonna do something important right now.

47:29 Adam Is that called Take a Break?

47:30 Drew Yes.

47:30 Adam All right, we're gonna take a break. Joe, hold on one sec. Your parents spank you a lot. Hopefully it's not in the front, but in the rear. We'll find out what's up with Joe next on Loveline.

47:38 Stryker Loveline, Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. Um, back in a minute.

48:23 Adam All right, Drew, I gave you one week to figure it out. When we heard that little piece of music last week, I said, all the teaching, all the hatin in the world today, all the little girls.

48:32 Drew This one? Yeah.

48:33 Adam And you said, what are you talking about? I'm like, you should check out my show sometime. You're like, I listen to this show.

48:37 Drew I do listen to your show.

48:38 Adam I'm still not going to tell you that. All right. Stryker here for Adam Corolla on Loveline with Dr. Drew. You just went to the bathroom and you did not wash your hands. I followed you back there.

48:48 Drew I followed you back there and you didn't wash your hands.

48:52 Adam You're going to touch me when you leave most likely.

48:55 Drew Then I'll wash my hands probably. I hope.

48:57 Adam No, you're not.

48:58 Drew You went back there a bunch of times. Oh my God.

49:02 Adam I am looking at you in a whole new way.

49:04 Drew Go right ahead. It's very rational. All right.

49:07 Adam You're not going to lick your fingers while we're here, are you?

49:09 Drew I don't normally do that. Okay.

49:11 Adam But you touched me with your feet.

49:12 Drew You know what? There's much, much, much more problem with me wiping my nose and shaking your hand. But that's where my staff lives, all sorts of things. Okay.

49:20 Adam I'm just busting your chops.

49:22 Drew And viruses and things.

49:23 Adam Yes. You said I had a three and a half inch ween earlier. Joe, 14, Loveline, what's up?

49:27 Caller No offense, Stryker, but you have no sense of measurement. Victoria?

49:32 Adam Yeah?

49:33 Caller I went to sexwithvictoria.com and she says that she's a C, and you say she's a D. You are wrong, man.

49:38 She's at least a double D.

49:40 Drew That's what he said. He was being kind.

49:43 Adam Good man, Joe. Good man. All right, so what's going on with you? Apparently you like big boobs, but what else is wrong?

49:51 Caller And Dr. Drew? I went to some website and they showed your high school pictures.

49:57 Drew Oh, they're awful, aren't they? It shows that anybody can survive an awful high school experience.

50:04 Caller Yeah, long hair.

50:05 Drew Yeah, no kidding. That was 1972, Joe.

50:09 Caller Anyway, I just like, my parents, like, spank me a lot. They're not abusive, but because I do stuff, but they don't do it for no reason, but they do it, and I have, like, I want to know, is that, like, why I'm so antisocial now? I mean, I can't make friends.

50:19 Drew Absolutely. Really? Absolutely. Listen, there's no such thing as, there's no such thing. It's very unusual for parents just to just to beat on kids for no reason. It's always a quote because they deserve it. That is how you create an antisocial person, is you physically abuse them for whatever reason.

50:35 Caller I heard you say this last week and I just was making sure. So I told my parents this and they just like told me it was disrespectful and smacked me again.

50:42 Adam Now smack you face, bottom or where?

50:44 Drew The next thing you do is you call Child Protective Services.

50:47 Caller Well, if I did that then I wouldn't have anywhere to go.

50:50 Drew Yeah, but listen, they wouldn't necessarily take you out of the home, but they would put your parents on notice on just how inappropriate this behavior is and how damaging it is to you.

50:59 Adam Now, is he at an age where it will affect him in the future? Well, it's affecting him right now. It already is, I mean, being on social, but...

51:05 Drew Yeah, and then you're going to be pierced up and have lots of tattoos and things.

51:10 Adam Well, maybe he already is because he said, Joe, what kind of things do you do that make your parents smack you around?

51:18 Caller I talk during class and stuff, and I sleep during class.

51:22 Adam And so your teachers call home and they hear this and then your parents get all fired up?

51:25 Drew It's interesting, you look at data on kids being spanked. If kids are spanked, the behavior that they're spanked for stops at that moment, but there's two weeks at least of antisocial behavior that comes out in response to that. Two weeks of acting out in response to getting one behavior to stop. Can cause two weeks of truancy and talking back and this sort of thing.

51:49 Adam So Joe needs to, if this goes on, he needs to call who?

51:53 Drew I'm going to give you a child abuse hotline, 1-800-5404000.

51:58 Adam Joe, write that down.

51:59 Drew Child Help, I'm going to give you both these numbers again, Child Help USA, 800-422-4453, that's 1-800-4-8-CHILD and that's 422-4453 and 800-540-4000.

52:11 Adam So is spanking out of the question these days? I don't think parents know that. I mean, I wouldn't know that if I didn't.

52:17 Drew People have really weird, they defend the need to do it because it was done to them and their parents of course were idealizing great for having done it and they deserved it but the data is overwhelmingly clear that it harms kids to do that. To be rough physically with a child is appropriate in the moment if they are going to harm themselves as a result of the behavior, you must have that behavior stop in that moment but there will be a price for even doing that. Got it. Behavior management is very clear, you reward good behavior, withdraw positives for inappropriate behavior.

52:49 Adam Stop smacking your kids around. Ivana, 16.

52:52 Coolio Yes.

52:53 Adam What's going on?

52:54 Coolio Well, I haven't been able to get an orgasm and well, I had an orgasm but it was in my dream and...

53:01 Drew Well, you're already ahead of the game.

53:03 Coolio Really?

53:03 Drew You're already ahead of your peers.

53:05 Coolio Well, yeah. But...

53:08 Adam Most 16-year-old girls can't have an orgasm at all, even when they sleep.

53:14 Coolio But it's weird because like in my dream, I mean, I'm not saying, you know, black men aren't attractive, I'm just not attracted to them and it was weird because at first, it was a black man and then all of a sudden, like once I got the orgasm started, it turned into a white man that I didn't even know.

53:32 Drew Well, it's a dream.

53:33 Coolio Yeah.

53:34 Drew Okay. You found him attractive in your dream.

53:36 Coolio Yeah.

53:37 Drew Okay. You may find him attractive in real life at some point too.

53:40 Adam I don't understand.

53:41 Drew I don't really get what she's getting at. She just freaked out about her dreams in general.

53:45 Adam At 16, I don't know how many you should be having anyways.

53:47 Drew Yeah, but at 16, remember how all your feelings are scary and dangerous.

53:52 Adam Davey, you're 30 on Loveline. What's up?

53:55 Caller Well, I'm kind of wondering if I'm addicted to pornography. It's been a while since I've made love with a woman. So right when that started, I kind of started looking at stuff. And now it's kind of more and more often. And it's starting to affect the way I look at women.

54:24 Drew What does that mean?

54:25 Caller It's starting to affect the way I look at women.

54:28 Drew What does that mean?

54:29 Caller Well, it's just that when I'm in a social situation where I don't, you know, there's people I don't know, I'm kind of, I don't know, focusing more on...

54:42 Adam Janna Jamison's knockers?

54:45 Caller No, I'm kind of focusing more on their body and...

54:51 Drew Yeah, but you also haven't had sex for a long time and guys start to get more sort of that way the more longer it's been.

54:58 Caller Right.

54:58 Adam How long has it been?

55:03 Caller That long.

55:05 Drew Today's Tuesday. Tuesday, six years.

55:10 Caller I was like six or seven months.

55:13 Adam That's not terrible. Not good, but not terrible.

55:16 Drew Just a dry spell.

55:17 Adam So now you think you're starting to get addicted to porn or is just starting to affect the way you're looking at these women just at their bodies?

55:24 Caller Maybe if I could just know what some of the like, what is it?

55:31 Drew Addiction is some biological predisposition for addiction, a family history of alcoholism or some addiction that you've known as addiction.

55:39 Caller So I need to survey my family to see who.

55:41 Drew You need to be an addict. You need to have inherited the biology of addiction. Then the use, the behavior has got to have progressive consequences in spite of a desire to stop.

55:52 Adam Has anything in your life been screwing?

55:54 Caller It wouldn't have to necessarily be with porn. There could be alcoholism or other kinds of addiction.

55:59 Drew Right. But you're concerned about sexual addiction, in which case you'd expect to see effects on relationships, school or work, financial, legal or health situations, and worsening problems with time in spite of these consequences. You're not that, Dave. You're just preoccupied right now.

56:18 Adam You're alone.

56:19 Drew You're probably angry. And you need to just get more effective social life going.

56:25 Caller Right.

56:26 Adam Dave, do you go out a lot? Go on dates? You go to bars?

56:29 Caller Well, I just moved out to LA. And when I first moved here, I had an appendicitis. So I haven't been going out very much.

56:37 Adam Got it. OK. So maybe, I don't know, maybe we'll do some sit-ups and hit the bars.

56:41 Drew By the way, appendicitis is a two-week recovery. So come on, unless you had a major peritonitis or something or abscess.

56:47 Adam Well, I had my appendix out. I was out for more than two weeks.

56:49 Drew But I mean, it's a couple of weeks recovery. Did you have complications?

56:52 Adam I don't know. I went to the doctor with some of the pains. He put me in the hospital 20 minutes later or whatever, an hour later.

56:57 Drew They didn't say whether it ruptured or was abscessed, right?

56:59 Adam He said it was close. They operated me right away. And then I was out of commission for a while.

57:03 Drew But for three weeks, four weeks?

57:05 Coolio Max, right?

57:06 Drew Max.

57:07 Adam Eighteen months. I'm just kidding. Beth.

57:10 Caller Yeah.

57:10 Adam Hi, you're fourteen on Loveline.

57:12 Caller Hey. Hi.

57:14 Coolio I have a problem about guys going down on me.

57:18 Adam At fourteen, of course, you do.

57:20 Coolio Well, it's happened before, but I wasn't myself, so I can't really tell my boyfriend how it felt.

57:27 Drew Who were you?

57:29 Coolio What?

57:30 No, I was.

57:32 Adam You were drunk.

57:32 Caller Yeah.

57:35 Adam Hold on, hold on. I have to quote Adam real quick. Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.

57:39 Drew At fourteen, especially.

57:40 Adam Listen, screwballs, at fourteen, stop getting drunk and stop having your man go down on you and vice versa. You're fourteen for crying out loud.

57:49 Coolio Okay. But then, is it normal to find it strange?

57:57 Drew Did somebody, I don't know, ask the usual questions. Is it been strange at some other time in your life?

58:06 Coolio My boyfriend says that it's not normal for it to be strange.

58:10 Drew What do you mean strange?

58:12 Coolio I shouldn't think it feels weird.

58:14 Drew What do you mean it feels weird?

58:16 Coolio When the guy was down there, it felt weird. I mean, I just didn't.

58:19 Drew You don't like it?

58:20 Coolio No.

58:21 Drew That's fine.

58:21 Adam Well, then, don't do it and stop getting drunk and letting him do it, okay?

58:24 Okay.

58:24 Drew All right.

58:25 Adam Goodbye, Beth.

58:26 Bye. Wow.

58:26 All right.

58:27 Excellent.

58:28 Drew 14. Beth, this is proof positive. You should be waiting a couple of years.

58:31 Adam I was way behind these guys. Jennifer, you're 15 on Loveline. What's going on?

58:36 Coolio Nothing much.

58:37 Adam Well, good. We'll ask away.

58:38 Coolio Okay. Ever since two months ago, I got raped and I've been having sex a lot.

58:45 Drew What happened with the rape?

58:47 Coolio I was in Miami visiting my dad and I went to this party and I didn't know the guy. He raped me.

58:55 Drew Date rape kind of thing?

58:56 Coolio Yeah, kind of. I didn't really know.

58:59 Drew How old was he?

59:01 Coolio He was like 18.

59:01 Drew What were you doing at a party with a guy you didn't know? How did that happen?

59:05 Coolio I was just out with my friends because I was staying with my dad but I really wasn't. I was just out with my friends and stuff.

59:13 Drew At 15? Why doesn't your dad know where you are at 15?

59:17 Adam Especially when you're visiting him.

59:19 Drew You're out of town in Miami.

59:20 Coolio I don't live with him so I was just visiting him.

59:26 Drew Was that the first time you've been victimized?

59:29 Coolio Yeah.

59:30 Drew You've never been victimized in any other way at any time in your life?

59:33 Coolio No.

59:34 Drew Nobody ever struck you?

59:35 Coolio Oh, yeah.

59:36 Drew Okay. That's victimizing.

59:39 Adam She's taking the route we discussed earlier. You can just close your legs or open them I guess, right?

59:43 Drew Well, it's not just so much the trajectory. It's that when kids are physically abused, they get antisocial and they also carry a lot of pain with them and they're looking for solutions to that and thrill mechanisms. Is there alcoholism in your family?

59:55 Coolio No.

59:56 Drew You sure?

59:57 Coolio Yeah. I'm pretty sure.

59:58 Drew Okay. Alcoholics particularly are prone to this kind of behavior. That's sort of a very, very rewarding behavior to go out in very provocative environments and things. But that's just a way to try to distance oneself from all this pain and also to, you know, you don't trust the man anymore because the man's done you wrong. And people get involved in these sorts of situations all the time. They find other victimizers, know them, and they find those victimizers. How the hell that happens, I don't know.

1:00:22 Adam What is Jennifer supposed to do now, now that she's starting to sleep with them?

1:00:25 Drew Now she's, that is the trajectory issue that she's on now. You need to get help with this rape, Jennifer. You've got to begin talking, preferably, I think what would help you is a women's rape support group.

1:00:35 Coolio Really? Like, I can't because I'm not going to tell my mom.

1:00:38 Drew Well, look, you're hurting yourself and this is just the beginning. Okay, if you want help, you've got to do something to help yourself.

1:00:46 Coolio I know, and not only that, it's just like gotten worse. Like, I've like, I'm having sex with guys I don't really even know.

1:00:52 Drew It's just the beginning.

1:00:53 Adam More reason to talk to someone.

1:00:53 Drew Next, it's going to be an STD and hopefully it's not a terminal one or a pregnancy.

1:00:58 Coolio Yeah.

1:00:58 Drew Make sure you're using condoms. Please, you've got to talk about these feelings or they're going to cause behaviors. They're going to be very destructive.

1:01:05 Coolio Yeah.

1:01:05 Adam All right. Jennifer? I'm sorry all that happened to you, but there's so much only Dr. Drew or myself can say. You have to just find someone to talk to and hopefully they'll straighten it out for you. You won't just go on this crash course.

1:01:17 Drew Women support groups that women have been through this thing tend to be very effective for what you're dealing with. Okay?

1:01:22 Yeah. Okay.

1:01:24 Adam Is there any numbers you just have to-

1:01:26 Caller You know, rape counseling.

1:01:29 Drew He's a youth crisis line.

1:01:30 Adam Write this down, Jennifer.

1:01:33 Drew 1-800-843-5200, 800-843-5200.

1:01:38 Adam Got it. Scott, 26 on Loveline. What's going on?

1:01:41 Caller Not too much. How are you guys doing? Good. I have a question actually. A couple of weeks ago, I was washing my teeth, and I noticed really bad breath that I've never noticed before. And I've been trying to hide it for the past couple of weeks, but my girlfriend just noticed. And it gets kind of buggy. I'm a beginner and it's really bugging me and I'm just wondering what it might be from.

1:02:01 Drew No medication?

1:02:02 Caller Nope.

1:02:02 Drew And no change in your diet?

1:02:04 Caller Nope.

1:02:05 Drew Well, the most significant cause of abnormal breath is bacterial growth at the back of the tongue. And do you ever use tongue scrapers?

1:02:15 Caller No, I don't.

1:02:15 Drew You could get one of those probably just at the pharmacy and start with that and use mouthwash, obviously. But beyond that, there are dentists that actually can sort of measure the gas production by the bacteria back there and give you special scrapers for the back of the tongue and can get this all under control. So you talked to your dentist about it.

1:02:30 Caller So it's a dentist thing?

1:02:32 Drew Typically. It's either a dentist thing or a stomach thing. And if you really aren't having stomach symptoms and you haven't had change in your diet and you're not belching a lot and that kind of thing, then it tends to be at the back of the tongue.

1:02:43 Caller That's kind of what it seems like to me, but I'm not really sure.

1:02:46 Adam Well, that's why you got to go see the dentist.

1:02:47 Caller All right.

1:02:48 Drew No sinus problems, sinus infection.

1:02:51 Caller Maybe a little bit of sinus problems, like maybe something that I'm allergic to. I was thinking it might be that. I don't know.

1:02:57 Drew Yeah, sinus can cause, but usually not in somebody your age. So again, stay with the dentist. All right.

1:03:02 Caller All right. Thanks, guys.

1:03:03 Adam Bye-bye, Scott.

1:03:04 Caller All right.

1:03:05 Adam Bad breath crushing. First one I've ever heard about bad breath on Loveline. Oh, really?

1:03:08 Drew We've had lots of them over the years.

1:03:10 Adam All right. Stryker here in for Adam Corolla along with Dr. Drew and Kate 21 on Loveline. What's going on?

1:03:15 Coolio Hi. Well, I just had a question about rimming.

1:03:20 Drew OK.

1:03:21 Coolio Well, are there any like sanitary risks?

1:03:25 Drew Why didn't Anne just do the touchdown sign?

1:03:28 Coolio Huh?

1:03:28 Drew Oh, nothing, nothing. Kate, what's going on?

1:03:30 Adam Wait. So hold on. I just want to make sure Remy's licking the butt area. Is that like tossing your own fruit salad?

1:03:38 Coolio Yikes.

1:03:40 Adam Are there any risks with that besides turning your teeth brown? I don't know. Dr. Drew, this is you.

1:03:45 Drew Well, in this country, there's not a lot of what's called oral fecal transmission of infectious disease. But internationally, there's a big issue with that. Various kinds of worms and parasites and infectious agents can go that way.

1:04:01 Adam Are you the receiver of the giver or vice versa?

1:04:03 Coolio The giver.

1:04:05 Adam And do you really enjoy this?

1:04:07 Coolio I haven't tried.

1:04:08 Adam Oh, you haven't tried. But you want us to put the tongue down there. Or you just want to experiment with it or your boyfriend wants it?

1:04:13 Coolio I want to experiment with it.

1:04:14 Drew And somebody you know well?

1:04:15 Caller Yeah.

1:04:16 Drew Use a shower as part of the deal. I think it's a good idea. And again, the usual STDs sort of apply. You can transmit herpes down there and you can...

1:04:27 Coolio Okay. But if I like, you know, if I know he's clean and all that?

1:04:33 Drew How's that?

1:04:33 Coolio If I know he's clean and all that?

1:04:35 Drew Yeah. Again, if he doesn't have any... If he's not having vomiting and diarrhea at the time you do this.

1:04:42 Caller He hasn't been traveling in the Amazon.

1:04:44 Drew Right. Hasn't been down to the equator or anything. He has not likely to be in the Ascaras or Strontoloides.

1:04:51 Adam Kate, please call back once you do this. I want to know how it went for you.

1:04:55 Drew Please, Ann. You seem to be very into this one.

1:04:58 Caller We don't get many of these questions.

1:05:00 But why?

1:05:01 Drew Why are you thinking about doing this?

1:05:04 Coolio Has anybody ever done it to you?

1:05:08 Caller No.

1:05:09 Ann, yes, that's true.

1:05:10 Drew I swear I would be so uncomfortable if somebody started licking my butt.

1:05:13 Coolio It feels really good.

1:05:15 Yeah.

1:05:17 Drew There you go, Ann. Come on.

1:05:18 Adam Ann, come on. Has it?

1:05:19 Drew You're just close-minded.

1:05:21 Adam Ann, come on. Someone's been down there and gone a couple inches below.

1:05:26 Drew No. Ann's deal is, hey, I'm never doing that to Doug. Right. He can kiss my ass way before I'll do anything like that.

1:05:34 You're both.

1:05:35 Adam I would.

1:05:35 Would you?

1:05:36 Adam Yeah.

1:05:37 Drew Yeah. Stryker is young and adventurous. We're old and burned out.

1:05:41 Definitely.

1:05:42 Adam Kate, where do you live?

1:05:44 North Hollywood. Yeah.

1:05:45 Drew We're in business, Kate.

1:05:46 Adam Six to ten of her all night. I'll be in the vicinity. Live on the air right there. All right. Kate.

1:05:53 Caller Yeah.

1:05:54 Drew We'll put you on hold. And she can talk to Danielle. We can set her up with Stryker.

1:06:00 Adam Jane.

1:06:01 Caller Yeah.

1:06:02 Adam You're 17. What's going on?

1:06:04 Coolio Nothing.

1:06:04 Caller Not nothing.

1:06:05 Coolio Something. Hi, Stryker.

1:06:07 Drew Hi. How are you?

1:06:08 Caller Good.

1:06:10 Coolio Well, this is kind of completely different from your other questions that you get. Instead of having sex, I'm actually calling to say that I'm not getting any. And I don't want to have sex. I kind of just want to have a relationship right now. But I don't know. I feel like I'm kind of getting too old for it.

1:06:29 Drew Too old for a relationship.

1:06:30 Coolio Yeah.

1:06:30 Drew 17. Yeah, you're too old.

1:06:33 Coolio This is the thing. I've never had one.

1:06:35 Drew A relationship at all.

1:06:36 Coolio No. I've never kissed a guy. Do you date? Anywhere. I haven't gotten anything.

1:06:41 Drew Is there a reason for that, you think?

1:06:43 Coolio Well, I guess it's because I'm kind of picky. But I mean, I'm not bad-looking. I mean, I'm a pretty girl.

1:06:49 Adam How tall are you?

1:06:50 Coolio I'm 5'9.

1:06:51 Adam How much do you weigh?

1:06:52 Coolio Like 160.

1:06:54 Caller But it's all in good places.

1:06:57 Adam What size breasts do you have? I know you're only 17.

1:06:59 Coolio Oh, okay. I'm a 36'y.

1:07:03 Adam So where is it in the right spots? In the booty?

1:07:06 Coolio It's there. It's there.

1:07:07 It's a little bit everywhere.

1:07:09 Adam You sound like a fairly good proportion. I guess too picky. That's just a...

1:07:14 Coolio It's not really that. When I do get hit on by... It's like older men. I don't like that. I do look older.

1:07:19 Drew Yeah. But you sound younger.

1:07:22 Coolio Yeah.

1:07:22 Drew So what's the deal?

1:07:23 Caller No.

1:07:24 Caller What do you mean younger?

1:07:25 Drew You sound about 11.

1:07:27 Caller Oh, no.

1:07:28 Drew Yeah. And so what's the deal? Did something happen in your family around that age?

1:07:36 Caller 11?

1:07:36 Drew 11, 12?

1:07:38 Caller No, not that I know of.

1:07:40 Drew You're family together still?

1:07:41 Caller Yeah.

1:07:42 Coolio Actually, I have really good parents. I'm Hispanic, so I come from those really high moral kind of families, you know?

1:07:48 Drew Good, good.

1:07:49 Coolio That like they teach me a lot of values and stuff, but.

1:07:53 Drew Were they intrusive? Were they sort of overbearing?

1:07:56 Coolio They're a little overprotective. Yeah.

1:07:58 Drew Did you have an eating disorder at any time?

1:08:01 Coolio No. You mean like bulimic or anything like that?

1:08:04 Drew Any kind of eating disorder?

1:08:05 Coolio No. Not that. Well, I kind of eat like sometimes, like not too much, but like I snack a lot, you know?

1:08:12 Drew That's all right. That's not what I'm talking about.

1:08:14 Coolio But I'm young, so.

1:08:15 Adam Yeah, yeah, yeah. Jane, here's my take on it. You sound, to me, I don't think you sound 11. I think you sound around 15, but maybe you're just a little nervous on the radio, but you sound like you have everything going OK for you, and just try not to be so picky, and kissing a guy will definitely come, so to speak. Forming a relationship, you're not too old for it.

1:08:36 Drew Yeah, no, no, no. Are you going away to school?

1:08:39 Coolio I want to.

1:08:39 I want to go to art school.

1:08:41 Drew OK. If you want a good reason to not have a relationship and not to experiment sexually, doesn't listening to this show for five minutes give you plenty of reason not to?

1:08:49 Coolio Yeah. I actually want to tell you that I've learned more from your show, Dr. Drew, than I have in all my years of high school.

1:08:54 Drew Wow. That's huge. But listen, it should leave you feeling good about waiting and making healthy choices.

1:09:02 Coolio I feel really good about myself that I've waited. Yeah.

1:09:10 Drew Think about the choices you would make now, as opposed to the kinds of choices you might have made at 15.

1:09:15 Caller Yeah.

1:09:15 Drew Because I'm very different, huh?

1:09:17 Coolio It's not like I haven't had chances, I have, but it's a little intimidating.

1:09:23 Drew I think you need to get away to college, establish a sense of yourself away from home, and then you'll have a little more confidence with whom you choose to be with and what you choose to do with them as you get a clearer sense of yourself separate from your family, okay?

1:09:36 Caller Yeah.

1:09:37 Drew That's your deal.

1:09:38 Adam All right, Jane.

1:09:38 Drew Good luck.

1:09:39 Coolio It was really good hearing from you. Stryker, I wanted to tell you, I listen to your show all the time. I don't know if you remember this, but I probably don't. I called one time and we played a joke on a friend of mine.

1:09:50 Adam Oh, okay. I remember that.

1:09:52 Drew What was the joke?

1:09:53 Coolio I accidentally called your station or whatever, and then we called her and talking about you pretending to be her boyfriend.

1:10:00 Adam Oh, I remember that. I do remember that. What was that guy's name?

1:10:04 Chris or something?

1:10:04 Adam Yeah, exactly. Cool. Well, thanks, Jane.

1:10:06 Yeah, yeah.

1:10:07 Caller It was fun.

1:10:08 Adam I'll talk to you soon.

1:10:10 Caller All right. Bye-bye.

1:10:11 Adam All right. We got it.

1:10:12 Drew Just quickly, Anne, I'm realizing just how much time Adam spends just sort of ranting about himself. We're spending up to four minutes a call, and yet we're going through about eight times as many calls as we normally do.

1:10:23 It's unbelievable how many people we're helping.

1:10:25 Drew We're actually spending more time per call and going through three times as many calls.

1:10:30 Yeah.

1:10:31 Adam When we come back after the break, I'm going to be discussing my garage and masturbation on Loveline. Hold on. All right, we're back, Loveline, Stryker in for Adam Corolla. So I'm building my garage, and then I'm masterfully-

1:11:13 Drew It's a cathedral.

1:11:13 Adam It's a cathedral. Yeah, I love listening to Adam on this show. I listen to you guys every night driving home. That's why some of the answers are kind of obvious just from hearing you guys give the answers quite a bit. So Adam's gonna be gone for a few days, so I'll be filling in for a bit, so please deal with me. If you don't live in LA or Tucson or Arizona, then you never heard of me. But you may have seen me in the Biscuit video, Break Stuff, MXPX video, in the TV show Jersey on Disney. Anyway, other than that, Tabitha. Hmm, what?

1:11:45 Drew Tabitha?

1:11:45 Adam We're gonna speak to Tabitha.

1:11:46 Drew Oh, I thought you were talking about a TV show. I was like Tabitha, wow, some Teenage Witch show again?

1:11:52 No.

1:11:53 Drew All right, Tabitha.

1:11:54 Caller You stole my name.

1:11:55 Drew What?

1:11:56 Caller That's not how you stole my name.

1:11:58 Adam Well what's your name, Tabitha?

1:12:00 Coolio It's with an I, not an A, in the middle.

1:12:02 Drew I beg your pardon. It's not Tabitha's. Right. It's not Elizabeth Montgomery's daughter. Mrs. Stevens.

1:12:13 Adam I have a friend. He looks exactly like Darren Stevens from that show.

1:12:16 Drew I'm so sorry.

1:12:17 Adam Is that guy's name Dick York? Or was that the other one?

1:12:19 Drew Dick York was the first one.

1:12:20 Adam Okay. Man. Anyway, Tabitha.

1:12:23 Coolio Yeah.

1:12:24 Adam What's going on?

1:12:25 Coolio Okay. The thing is, I have a problem with every single time a guy breaks up with me. It's like for a year or a year and a half, I will just cling to him and I ask him back and like, it's like I'm emotionally, like really unstable.

1:12:38 Drew You can't deal with the letting go, the lost part.

1:12:41 Coolio Yeah. And like, I don't understand why because I don't have any issues with my father because I mean, he's in the house.

1:12:46 Drew Yeah.

1:12:47 Coolio And like, he's been here my whole life. And I just, I don't understand why I'm having such a problem.

1:12:55 Drew Tell me more about yourself. You do well at school. You have any other problems?

1:13:00 Coolio No.

1:13:00 Adam How many boyfriends have you had?

1:13:01 Coolio I've only like, I've only had two, but like, it's such a, I don't know.

1:13:09 Wait, hold on.

1:13:09 Adam So why did they break up with you both times? What did you do for them to say, I don't want to go out with you anymore?

1:13:14 Well, one of them just wanted to stay friends.

1:13:16 Drew Yeah. So you don't really know.

1:13:18 Huh?

1:13:19 Drew You don't know why he wanted to break up.

1:13:20 Adam Well, that's a guy's go-to line. I just want to be friends.

1:13:22 Drew Yeah, yeah. That's the way to soften the blame.

1:13:23 Coolio Well, I mean like, he actually does want to stay friends with me. He like does try to talk to me, but it's just one of those things where it's like I don't want the friendship. I want the relationship.

1:13:32 Drew Are you a caretaker?

1:13:35 Coolio A what?

1:13:36 Drew A caretaker? Do you have a lot of caretaking of other people?

1:13:38 Coolio No.

1:13:40 Drew In your family, are you sort of responsible for other people's feelings? You have to think of other people first or are they always there for you?

1:13:47 Coolio They've always been there for me.

1:13:48 Drew For you, always?

1:13:49 Coolio Yeah.

1:13:51 Adam Do you feel like when the guy lets you go that it's embarrassing for all your friends to know that my old boyfriend just wants to be friends with me in a way to show them that you're okay is to get him back?

1:14:04 Coolio No.

1:14:04 Drew What is the feeling of loss that you experience that you're trying to avoid? What is that experience for you?

1:14:09 Coolio It's kind of like one of those things like they use empty words.

1:14:14 Drew No, no, no. If you were to let go and deal with the letting go part, just let it happen. What is so horrifying about that for you?

1:14:24 Coolio It's like they say they love me and then they just like, my last one, like my last boyfriend, he broke up with me.

1:14:32 Drew Tabitha, many other guys are going to say they love you and then leave. That's the nature of young relationships.

1:14:38 Coolio And like the thing is, I don't know why I get all worked up about it.

1:14:43 Drew Yeah, but what is the feeling that you're avoiding?

1:14:45 Adam I can hear it in you right now, Tabitha.

1:14:47 Drew Yeah, I know. Did your parents work a lot when you were growing up?

1:14:50 Caller Yeah, my dad was in the Navy.

1:14:54 Drew How about your mom?

1:14:55 Coolio My mom, she stayed at home with me and then like when I got a little bit older, she started working.

1:15:04 Drew These are typically abandonment issues you're talking about, okay? Feelings of abandonment were overwhelming, threatening, dangerous, annihilating. Something about them are just impossible for you to experience.

1:15:13 Coolio That's what I don't understand, like why I'm having...

1:15:16 Drew Well, because some meaning, something about having your dad leave and go out on a boat and your mom not working too much perhaps and not being available to you when you needed her and the feelings attached with them being gone when you needed them were overwhelming and dangerous and you've walled them off and made them things you can never experience again. They're too dangerous. They're too awful. And here you are recreating those in your romantic life and you can't get into those feelings because they've been too awful. And you need to do a little reading, maybe even a little therapy, but you have to be able to tolerate these feelings because it's a normal part of life.

1:15:48 Coolio Okay.

1:15:49 Drew They're coming and going and it's about abandonment and you have to think about that a little bit, okay?

1:15:53 Coolio Okay.

1:15:53 Adam All right, Tabitha.

1:15:54 Coolio Thank you.

1:15:55 Adam Okay.

1:15:55 Coolio And Stryker?

1:15:56 Caller Yeah.

1:15:58 You're really cool.

1:15:59 Coolio I want you to like... Adam can be an ass.

1:16:02 Drew No kidding.

1:16:03 Adam No, no. He's fine. He's great.

1:16:05 Drew Stryker's our first...

1:16:06 Adam Thank you very much.

1:16:06 Drew Stryker will be our go-to guy.

1:16:08 Adam I'll be the go-to guy. I want to be the sixth guy off the bench because Adam is doing just fine with this. He kicks ass on this show. Much better than me. Nicole?

1:16:15 Coolio Hello?

1:16:16 Adam Hi, you're 16 on Loveline.

1:16:17 Coolio Yes. First off, I'd like to say I love your show. My problem is that my boyfriend, when we first started having sex, it was great. I got really into it and stuff. But then he went away and we didn't do anything for a few weeks because his cousin was down. When he got back, we started doing stuff. The first time, it was really short, so we tried it second time and him and I both didn't feel anything. That's happened six times because we're trying to figure out why. Then just recently, he tried to do all this different stuff. I couldn't feel any of it. It didn't count or anything. I don't know what's wrong with me or something.

1:17:08 Drew Yeah. The fact that he didn't feel anything really doesn't count because that's not the way guys work. The fact that he's saying that he didn't feel anything is already sort of suspect. It's what is up with this guy? Where is his head? Yeah. That's what's concerning me. He's just not in the game for some reason. That's what you're picking up on. That he's not available. He's not involved, right?

1:17:26 Coolio Well, I mean, he's great. He's really with me on this. He's trying to help me figure out what's wrong.

1:17:31 Drew Yeah, but he's not involved. He's not available to you emotionally the way you need it.

1:17:34 Coolio Yeah.

1:17:35 Drew That's what makes you sort of shut down.

1:17:37 Coolio Yeah. I don't know. It's like, I mean, it seems kind of silly for me to like be worrying about this, but.

1:17:45 Drew Why?

1:17:46 Coolio Well, like, you know, like the G spot and everything, like that, I can't, like, I feel it like barely. And there's like a lot of pressure there, you know? And like, I can't even go.

1:17:55 Drew Did you hear anything I just said?

1:17:57 Coolio No.

1:17:58 Drew No, no.

1:17:59 Adam Open up your ears, Nicole. Listen, go ahead, say it again, Dr. Drew.

1:18:01 Drew He's not in the game. He's not available emotionally the way you need him to be, to be trusting and open and let these sort of parts of yourself function. So he's not there. He's not in for some reason. You got to figure out what's up with him.

1:18:13 Coolio Is there like any way like I can talk to him about it?

1:18:16 Drew Yeah. Like what do you, what do you, what do you, I noticed you.

1:18:18 Adam Wait, hold on. If a guy isn't, he can't feel anything. I don't understand. He can't feel anything.

1:18:24 Drew That's BS is the point. It's a total BS.

1:18:26 Adam Right, that's what I'm saying.

1:18:27 Drew And so he's BSing you, which means he's not available. He's not in the game. He doesn't care. That's what I'm getting at.

1:18:30 Adam That's what I'm getting at. Nicole, a guy, if he's going with that line, something goofy is going on with him, okay?

1:18:35 Drew And then your body is telling you that he's not available because you're not responding to anything. There's nothing there. And so you've got to find out what is his intention with this relationship. Where are you? I can't feel you anymore. I don't connect with you.

1:18:47 Coolio Yeah.

1:18:47 Drew Let's see what's going on. You're afraid to know. That's the problem. You don't want to ask the question because you're afraid what the answer is going to be.

1:18:52 Coolio And like also, there's more to it. Like I used to like orgasm a lot, like eight or more times. And like now, like I'm lucky if I get like one or two.

1:19:03 Adam We just explained the reason why, Nicole. It's because he's not available to you.

1:19:06 Drew He's not in the game. Not that he's not paying attention. He's not invested emotionally in your relationship.

1:19:12 Adam So what Nicole has to do basically is talk to this guy straight out and say, what's your intentions? Do you want to be with me or do you not want to be with me? If you're going to be with me, be available to me.

1:19:19 Drew Right? Just what's going on? I don't feel anything. You're not here. What are you up to?

1:19:24 Adam Plus, I'm only 16. Robert?

1:19:27 Yes.

1:19:27 Adam What's up, man? You're 18 on Loveline.

1:19:29 Caller Hey, not much. I love you guys' show.

1:19:32 Drew Thank you, Robert.

1:19:32 Caller What's going on? Well, actually, I just have a concern for Dr. Drew. He's a medical specialist.

1:19:40 Drew You have a concern for me? A question?

1:19:41 Caller Yes.

1:19:42 Drew Go ahead.

1:19:42 Caller Okay. I was wondering if maybe there's any pills or anything out on the market that improve sexual performance.

1:19:54 Drew You mean duration or erectile function? What are you talking about?

1:19:59 Caller Um, just...

1:20:01 Drew Libido?

1:20:04 Caller Not really. It's not like any Viagra or anything like that.

1:20:07 Drew Robert, you've got a couple of minutes here, so you've got to be real clear. What's the problem?

1:20:12 Caller I'm curious if maybe there's any kind of drugs out on the market that will improve, maybe to go longer or...

1:20:18 Drew To go longer. How long do you go now?

1:20:21 Adam Nine seconds like the bull ride.

1:20:23 Caller Oh, hell no. An hour.

1:20:28 Drew Robert, you're out of your mind.

1:20:29 Adam God bless you, Robert.

1:20:31 Drew Listen, most women would find more than about 10 or 15 minutes painful and uncomfortable. And this is back to that call, the woman that we had a while ago. Why are guys so preoccupied with... Asked that they're preoccupied with, not what women want and actually need?

1:20:44 Adam I've got to be honest with you.

1:20:45 Drew Some women will go longer. But many... I'd say on average about 15 minutes about all they're built to tolerate.

1:20:50 Adam But I've got to tell you, I'm still young, but I get bored after like... Not bored, but I am tired after 40 minutes. I just want to get done as long as the woman is satisfied and I've had my run. If I'm just having trouble, I've been drinking or something, and it's an hour, I just want to quit and say, forget it.

1:21:05 Drew Hour is going to cause pain.

1:21:07 Adam Pain and, you know...

1:21:08 Caller Half hour cause pain.

1:21:09 Drew I mean, it's okay, but this is a guy thing. Guys think they need to do this. Think about what... Ask your women what they want. Some may want longer. That's fine. Maybe for that particular woman, you'll be fine an hour.

1:21:21 Adam Robert, you are golden at an hour, man.

1:21:23 Drew You're too long.

1:21:23 Adam Golden! You're golden, Jerry.

1:21:25 Drew Golden.

1:21:25 Adam Mike, 18, on Loveline.

1:21:28 Caller Hey, what's up?

1:21:28 Adam What's up, dude?

1:21:29 Caller Long time no see. First time caller. I got a question for Drew. Alright, Drew. I was wondering if your penis could shrink for no reason?

1:21:41 Drew Well, possibly. Steroids? It's more that there are things that could increase circulating levels of testosterone and maybe something is sort of depressing that for the time being. And I've heard people talk about this. I've not read about it medically. I'm not sure it's been documented, but many people claim that this happened, so. Why? What's going on?

1:22:02 Caller I don't know if I'm just paranoid, but I think my penis shrunk.

1:22:06 Adam From what to what? What size to what size?

1:22:10 Caller 7.5 to like 7.

1:22:12 Drew 7.5 to 7?

1:22:14 Caller Yeah.

1:22:14 Adam Did you measure it? Who can notice a half inch?

1:22:16 Drew Yeah, it would be hard to measure that, but be that as it may. Are you on a medication?

1:22:20 Caller No.

1:22:20 Drew Were you on anything then?

1:22:22 Caller No.

1:22:22 Drew Were you doing anything athletic then that you aren't doing now or vice versa?

1:22:27 Caller I was playing a little sport.

1:22:28 Drew Maybe that training was raising testosterone levels. You can overtrain too. But at your age, there is some plasticity to all this.

1:22:35 Adam Mike doesn't sound like he's out there running a lot of miles, I got to tell you. Mike, what do you mean you're playing sports?

1:22:42 Caller I was swimming in a waterfall.

1:22:46 Drew Well, don't worry about it. It's not going to continue shrinking, okay? It's not going to invert on you. Okay?

1:22:52 Adam If it does, Mike, call us. I want to check that out. All right. All right. Take another one, Dr. Drew?

1:22:58 Drew No, break. Break?

1:22:59 Adam Time for break. All right. Stryker here for Adam Corolla with Dr. Drew. We're going to speak to James in a second. He has a white milky liquid coming out of something. We'll find out where that is and what the hell it is. Coming up on Loveline.

1:23:13 Back in a minute. Yes, we're back.

1:23:48 Adam Gitz Loveline, Dr. Drew to my left. I would be Stryker, Stryker, Stryker, Stryker. Stryker here for Ace Rockolla, Adam Corolla. He's going to be gone for a couple of days. He's working all over the country, and thanks for being so cool when you guys call in. 1-800-LOVE-191. So let's move on and speak to James, who has something wrong with something. James 22 on Loveline, what's up?

1:24:13 Caller Hi. How are you guys doing tonight?

1:24:14 Drew Fine. What's up, James?

1:24:16 Caller Well, sometimes when I urinate, maybe once every six months or so, this white milky fluid comes out.

1:24:26 Drew Is it after you've masturbated?

1:24:28 Caller No.

1:24:30 Adam It just happens one time every six months, or it happens for a couple of weeks and then dies down for six months.

1:24:34 Caller No, it happens one time every six months.

1:24:36 Drew Are you on medication?

1:24:37 Caller Yeah, but it's happened before I was taking any medication.

1:24:40 Drew What are you taking?

1:24:43 Caller Little risperidol, a little bit of Paxil, some Depakote.

1:24:48 Drew So these are for bipolar disorder? These things can cause retrograde ejaculation. So if you ejaculate and get up into the bladder, and then you urinate it out later.

1:24:57 Caller But this happened before-

1:24:59 Drew I understand. I understand.

1:25:00 Caller All right.

1:25:01 Drew And people can have retrograde ejaculation without being on medication. And sometimes this can be lymph. You can get leukorrhea, which is something that needs to be looked into if that's indeed what you have. So those would be sort of the more common possibility. Somebody needs to look at your urine, study it to see if there are any basically fat cells in there, fat droplets that would indicate that the lymph is getting in there.

1:25:22 All right.

1:25:22 Drew Okay. But you ought to talk to urologist about it. I doubt it's anything serious.

1:25:28 Okay.

1:25:28 Drew All right.

1:25:28 Thanks.

1:25:29 Adam All right. Moving on. Melissa, 29. What's going on?

1:25:33 Hi. Actually, I have a question for Dr. Drew. Yeah. I'm glad that Adam's not there because I didn't feel like being ridiculed.

1:25:40 Adam Leave that to me.

1:25:41 Oh, thanks.

1:25:41 Adam No, I'm just kidding. I won't do it.

1:25:43 Actually, I'm calling because I started taking Paxil in January, and I'm going to be starting the pill here within the next month.

1:25:51 Drew Birth control pill.

1:25:52 Yeah. I wanted to know, first of all, is there any problems with the two of those being put together?

1:25:58 Drew No, no problem.

1:25:59 Okay. And secondly, obviously, one of the side effects is that you have a lower sex drive.

1:26:05 Drew From the Paxil.

1:26:05 Right.

1:26:06 Drew Let me also say some pills can do that too to some people. Also, it could enhance your sex drive. So it's something that needs to be thought out. Also, the birth control pill can decrease or increase your sex drive. Typically, in most women, in my experience, the progesterone heavy pills tend to decrease, and the triphasic pills tend to increase. But you can get the reverse in some people.

1:26:25 Adam I need to write this down after the show, because I've had experience with someone in the past where all of a sudden it was like down the hill, and I didn't even really should have called you up and asked you back then.

1:26:34 Drew People don't think about that. And sometimes the pill can make depression worse, too. So you need to be just at least aware of that. And then Paxil, of course, just shuts your sex drive down completely.

1:26:44 So what can I do to enhance it?

1:26:46 Drew Well, adding Wellbutrin sometimes helps.

1:26:49 Wellbutrin?

1:26:49 Drew Yes, you can talk to your doctor about that. People are experimenting with Viagra and women on antidepressants with this problem.

1:26:55 And that doesn't hurt us?

1:26:57 Drew Well, we don't know. And I'm just experimenting. I wouldn't recommend it. I'm just telling you that's being done. Or if this is really an issue, you want to take it seriously and consider changing your antidepressant medicine. Serizone is a medicine related to Paxil, very closely related, that doesn't cause this side effect.

1:27:15 Serizone.

1:27:16 Drew Serizone, S-E-R-Z-O-N-E. Remeron is another one that doesn't do this.

1:27:20 Remeron. My roommate is writing this down for me.

1:27:22 Drew Remeron is a little harder to use. Then, Welbutrin again doesn't cause it either, but you can add Welbutrin or switch to Welbutrin. The deal with Paxil is do not let anybody stop you abruptly on that medication. There's a very unpleasant withdrawal associated with stopping it quickly. Okay. Okay. Okay.

1:27:37 Thanks a lot.

1:27:38 Adam Anyway, Melissa, why are you just starting the pill now? You just got a new boyfriend or something?

1:27:43 Yeah. Well, I stopped a couple of years ago because I had been on it for such a long time and I kind of wanted to give my body a rest.

1:27:49 Adam Yeah.

1:27:49 And unpleasant, I had gained a little bit of weight and it's weird. As soon as I went off the pill, I lost about 15 pounds.

1:27:56 Adam That's why you got the new boyfriend.

1:27:57 Yeah. So I'm starting it back up again. But my experience was that my sex drive was not affected when I was on the pill before.

1:28:04 Drew Okay. So it probably won't be this time either.

1:28:06 Also, can I just say one thing? Yeah.

1:28:09 You had to call her a little bit ago.

1:28:10 She was 17 and she was 5'9, and all this stuff, and she was worried because she's never had a relationship. Right. Maybe guys are intimidated by her. I mean, if she's 5'9, she's 17 years old, and she's a good-looking girl. I mean, that's kind of a lot for a guy to handle.

1:28:25 Drew Yeah, except this is a point that Adam frequently makes that I actually agree with, which is that this business of attractive women never getting a date. No, uh-uh. No, there's somebody that will walk up to her, believe me. In fact, not just somebody, a lot of guys.

1:28:40 Adam High school girls, guys, I say no. We'll not do that to the hottest chicks in high school.

1:28:45 Drew Somebody will.

1:28:45 5'9, though, I mean, that's kind of a tall girl.

1:28:47 Adam Yeah, but 17-year-old guys are definitely that tall. I mean, I was probably only 5'8, or 5'9, then. Much taller now.

1:28:54 Drew It may narrow the field, though, being that tall.

1:28:56 Adam It's true. Well, thanks a lot for your time. All right, Melissa.

1:28:58 Caller All right, bye.

1:28:59 Adam All right, Casey. What's up, man? You're 20 on Loveline.

1:29:03 Caller Yep. Well, my question is, a couple of weeks ago, I was like this, I don't know really how to explain it. It was kind of like a rash kind of thing on my penis. It was like, it itched, and I was like, like, two days later. And I didn't know what it was.

1:29:18 Drew Well, we don't either.

1:29:20 Adam What does it look like?

1:29:21 Drew It's itchy and it's a rash.

1:29:23 Caller Oh, yeah. It just kind of looks like a rash. I mean, my skin, the skin on it started peeling around it. And like I said, in like three days, it just, it went away.

1:29:31 Adam Are you sexually active?

1:29:32 Caller Yes.

1:29:33 Drew It could be herpes, but the most likely thing is either some sort of chemical reaction or allergic reaction, chemical dermatitis or allergic dermatitis. It's skin. Same thing happens to skin anywhere else happens in your penis.

1:29:45 Adam Especially if you don't wash your hands after urinating.

1:29:46 Drew That's right. All kinds of weird stuff will happen. But Casey, without being able to see or have somebody describe the rash with accuracy, it's pretty hard to know what's going on.

1:29:54 Adam Go to a doctor and have them look at the thing. Lynn, 17, Loveline, what's up?

1:29:57 Caller Okay, this is the deal. Okay, every time I perform oral sex on my boyfriend, he does not ejaculate.

1:30:05 Drew Every time.

1:30:05 Caller He ejaculates fine when we have regular intercourse, but...

1:30:08 Drew Yeah, there is that guy out there. Definitely. That just can't do that.

1:30:12 Adam Definitely.

1:30:12 Drew And for whatever reason, that's that guy.

1:30:15 Caller I mean, I was thinking maybe it was like because I'm his first sexual partner.

1:30:18 Drew No, some guys just, that's them.

1:30:20 Caller Because for a while, when we first began having intercourse, he couldn't ejaculate easily then either.

1:30:28 Adam Probably a little uptight.

1:30:29 Caller Yeah.

1:30:30 Adam He's probably a little bit uptight, a little nervous.

1:30:32 Caller He didn't seem to be, I mean, or anything.

1:30:35 Drew But again, know that there's nothing wrong with him just because during the one act.

1:30:38 Caller Well, I didn't think there was anything wrong with him. And I asked him, like, is it my fault or something? And he said, no, I know that you're doing fine.

1:30:44 Drew Because you're women. Of course not.

1:30:46 Adam Just don't use your teeth.

1:30:48 Caller I don't.

1:30:49 Adam You ever thought of rimming? All right, Lynn.

1:30:54 Caller OK.

1:30:55 Adam It's not you. OK?

1:30:56 Caller OK.

1:30:56 Adam All right. Bye. That's always the go to line. It's not you. It's me. Nicole.

1:31:01 Hello.

1:31:02 Adam Hello. You're 16.

1:31:03 Caller I want to say that I've listened to your guys for a long time and it's great.

1:31:08 Adam I've been doing a wonderful job for years on this show.

1:31:11 Caller Yeah.

1:31:11 Caller Well, I think.

1:31:13 Adam Yeah.

1:31:14 Caller Yeah.

1:31:15 Caller OK.

1:31:16 Caller But I think I might be obsessed with bondage. Well, not really, though. But I asked some of my friends and they said that it was normal. But then I thought that maybe it wasn't.

1:31:26 Caller Oh.

1:31:26 Drew Well, what do you mean obsessed?

1:31:28 Caller Well, just how like, well, I never had a relationship before. And then even online, I find that I want guys to be my master. And there's the whole thing like submissive and like dominant relationship.

1:31:41 Drew And why do you think that's so attractive to you?

1:31:45 Caller I don't know why, but it's just like I want to be controlled and how.

1:31:48 Drew Why? Why? Why does that become arousing?

1:31:53 Caller I don't know. And I like listen to yourself when I've tried to figure it out. But I don't know. And I've always even like having like pain inflicted on me or inflicting pain in others. And I've always been this way for like a long time too.

1:32:04 Drew And nobody's ever done anything like that to you at any point in your life.

1:32:06 Caller No. But I remember when I was younger, how like this thing to stand out is I was introduced like this porn. It was like this sadistic porn. I was like five.

1:32:14 Drew Yeah. How did you get reintroduced to that?

1:32:17 Caller My cousins were watching it and I was in the room.

1:32:19 Drew Well...

1:32:19 Adam But can that one time viewing cause this?

1:32:21 Drew Well, people don't really understand this, but that maybe, yes, maybe, that arousal mechanisms that become sort of activated prematurely can set you again in a trajectory, can sort of send you down that path.

1:32:35 Adam And maybe seeing that, that may have seemed normal, seeing that bondage at five years old.

1:32:39 Drew Yeah, got her sort of entrained to thinking about that as a sexual experience. And that may be it. Usually people that are into that kind of thing have some sort of experience of powerlessness in childhood, that they're either abused physically or sexually.

1:32:54 Adam What kind of bondage are you into, like the whipping, being tied up, have that ball thing in your mouth?

1:32:59 Caller Yeah.

1:33:00 Adam All of it?

1:33:01 Caller Yeah, and I see this, like, I met this guy online. He's really into that too.

1:33:05 Adam How old is he? How old does he say he is?

1:33:07 Caller 24.

1:33:09 Drew Well, just know that the people that you come in contact with, they're not going to be as... Their level of exposure to trauma will be more than yours, and they're not going to be maybe as healthy in relationships as perhaps you'll be able to be.

1:33:25 Adam Well, she wants to know, and I'm not sure. You're a doctor. Is this a problem?

1:33:29 Drew Might not be, but if you're meeting people randomly online and this is the issue you're bonding with them about, it's going to be a problem.

1:33:35 Adam Man, I can't believe 16 obsessed with the bondage. Where are we at?

1:33:38 Drew Is it break time?

1:33:39 Adam It's break time. All right, we got to take a quick break. We got a few more. I don't know what we're going to do next, but it's Loveline. Hold on.

1:33:46 Stryker Adam and Dr. Drew will be right back on Loveline.

1:34:21 Adam We're back. It's Loveline.

1:34:23 Drew Hey, Stryker. Yes. We're going to actually end the show on time.

1:34:26 Adam That's a good thing, right?

1:34:27 Drew Yeah. You think Corolla, after years and years doing the show, could at least hit the commercials on time, end the show on time?

1:34:34 Adam He does, doesn't he?

1:34:35 Coolio No.

1:34:35 Drew Oh, no.

1:34:36 Adam No?

1:34:36 Drew No. And here's how his head works. If I go, hey, hey, got a break. Oh, screw you. I'm talking about the cathedral-like garage.

1:34:44 Adam That's what's funny about you guys, though. That's what he says. So I got this garage thing going, and I sing the porno song. So you just went to the bathroom again, and you wash your hands this time.

1:34:54 Drew How do you know that? You standing in the bathroom, you have cameras.

1:34:57 Adam I'm following you around. Man. All right. So we're about to take off. Tomorrow's guest on Loveline is going to be the band SR-71. They sing that song right now. They're a good band, right here, right now. They're from Maryland. Thanks to Coolio, who hung out for like a half hour. Right now, he's cruising around in a car that says coolio.com on it, and he has an album coming out called coolio.com. Dr. Drew, thank you again.

1:35:19 Drew Thanks, Stryker.

1:35:19 Adam I appreciate it.

1:35:20 Drew See you tomorrow.

1:35:20 Adam I will see you tomorrow for Dr. Drew. This is Stryker saying, Shalom.

1:35:27 Stryker This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors, or this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Engel. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.

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