1:01
Voiceover
Listener discretion is advised. Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew. Loveline Coast to Coast.
1:14
Stryker
If you're Adam Corolla, why doesn't it sound like, to me, your voice is like the equivalent of having your fingernails right down the chalkboard.
1:21
Yeah, that's good.
1:22
It's heavy.
1:23
Stryker
We got to eat while you do.
1:26
Drew
Oh, man. So what's going on, you guys? I've done Loveline, I don't know, 15, 20 times for Adam, if you haven't listened before. I'm trying my best. I try my hardest. I'm no good. I'm no good. I'm no good.
1:36
Stryker
You're great. I'm all right. When I've tried it, when you were last here, it was like six months ago or something.
1:40
Drew
It was a little less. It was about three months ago. For like a five-day stint.
1:45
Stryker
Yeah.
1:45
Drew
It was fun. It was good. I have a question for you. Since you are a doctor, why is it I ate tuna fish today, two big scoops, your buzzer is going off. His vibrator is already going off.
1:56
Stryker
You know what?
1:56
Drew
What's wrong?
1:57
Stryker
I've got just stuff, medical problems everywhere I'm dealing with.
2:00
Drew
Unacceptable.
2:02
Stryker
I will seriously probably have to get up from this mic like three times tonight.
2:04
Drew
If you do, I'm going to grab you.
2:06
Stryker
I have no choice.
2:07
Drew
You can't leave me hanging. All right. Answer this question real quick before we take calls. Why is it I had a scoop of tuna, then I drank a bunch of water and my urine is smelling like the tuna? That's never happened in my life.
2:16
Stryker
No, it's not.
2:16
Drew
I swear.
2:17
Stryker
No.
2:18
Drew
It smelled exactly like it.
2:20
Stryker
No. Urine always kind of smells like tuna.
2:22
Drew
No, no, no. Tastes like chicken, though. Why does that happen?
2:26
Stryker
You're the doctor. That shouldn't happen.
2:27
Drew
It went through too fast. Something's going on.
2:29
Stryker
No.
2:30
Drew
Yes. All right. Dr. Drew is drinking his coffee out of a VIP glass, the show VIP, and we're taking calls. 1-800-LOVE-191. We're going to speak to Frank, who's 20. What's up, Frank? Hiya.
2:43
How you doing? I had a question about oral sex and contracting an STD like HIV.
2:51
Drew
Yeah.
2:51
Stryker
Go right ahead.
2:52
All right. How common is it?
2:55
Stryker
Oral sex, HIV?
2:56
Right.
2:57
Stryker
Not very common.
2:58
All right. Well, here's the situation. It gets a little complicated.
3:03
Stryker
No, no. You were with somebody new recently?
3:06
Yeah.
3:06
Stryker
And was this person at risk for HIV?
3:09
I don't know. She kind of, I don't think she's like.
3:12
Stryker
Was she a drug addict?
3:13
Drew
She's $50 on the corner in New York.
3:15
Stryker
Yeah. Was she a prostitute?
3:16
Yeah. No, but I'm sure she's not too far off. You know what I'm saying? All right.
3:21
Stryker
And so you had oral sex with her?
3:23
Right.
3:24
Stryker
And do you have any symptoms afterwards?
3:26
Well, this was Saturday, so this was two days ago.
3:28
Stryker
Okay. So nothing yet anyway?
3:30
No.
3:30
Stryker
No sore throat or anything like that? No blisters or whatnot? All right. So what else? Extenuating is going on here?
3:35
All right. Well, I had some I had some teeth pulled about a week and a half ago. So I was just wondering, I don't believe the sores are still open.
3:45
Stryker
Yeah, that's probably sealed up pretty good. But you be that as it may, certainly any kind of open wound can increase the probability of all kinds of diseases being transmitted. Right. You're exposing her body fluid to your blood.
3:56
Plus, I found out the following morning that I found like, I guess it was traces of menstrual blood. I found it like in my fingernails, you know, so.
4:05
Stryker
Nice. It's quite a picture, Frank.
4:07
Drew
Frank, I got a question for you, man. Did you know before you were going down there that she's been around the block a little bit?
4:14
No, I didn't.
4:15
Drew
How did you find that out then?
4:17
The next day.
4:18
Drew
From her or her friends?
4:19
Her friends and everyone else. She was at school, you know, so. She kind of came home with me and that one thing led to another, you know.
4:28
Stryker
I suggest just to relax, be careful in the future and make your choices. You know, somebody you know and use latex barriers and that sort of thing.
4:34
Drew
And after you go to the dentist, wait at least two weeks before you're going down on the skink in New York, right? Possibly.
4:39
Stryker
Which he's exposing her to.
4:41
Yeah.
4:42
Drew
Hey, Jordan.
4:43
Yeah.
4:43
Drew
You're 15 on Loveline. What's up?
4:46
Caller
Well, my girlfriend, she told me that like when she masturbates and like when somebody finger bangs her or whatever, she can't have an organ.
4:55
Stryker
Right. As with most 15 year olds.
4:57
Drew
She can't do it.
4:59
Caller
It's not normal?
5:01
Stryker
No. Most 15 year olds have that. She don't have females.
5:04
They do?
5:05
Stryker
Yeah. Look, Jordan, she doesn't work like you do. Okay. Her whole system, very different than yours.
5:13
Okay.
5:13
Stryker
Can you accept that?
5:15
Yeah.
5:15
Stryker
Now, yours, you touch it a certain way, pow, goes off. Hers, no way. No way.
5:20
Drew
I don't even have to touch it for it to go off.
5:22
Stryker
Yeah. That's right. That's true. God will do it for you at night sometimes. Right. And the thing is here that most women under the age of 20 really never have an orgasm under any circumstances. And after around 20, they will start sort of figuring out masturbation by 1822 and sometimes have it with oral sex, but not with intercourse. And ultimately, some will have with intercourse and many never will.
5:44
Drew
Jordan, if you're worried that you can't satisfy or don't even trip, man, because as Drew just said, most 15-year-olds, no dice.
5:51
Stryker
But what she really wants is just the feeling of connection with you and intimacy. And she's looking for a relationship. So you guys want sex, and if a relationship comes, that's great. Women want a relationship, if sex comes, that's all right.
6:03
Drew
You wearing protection, Jordan?
6:04
Huh?
6:05
Drew
Are you wearing protection? It's a condom.
6:09
Yeah.
6:10
Drew
You are? Good.
6:11
Stryker
Are you having sex with her?
6:12
Caller
Um, one time, but, um, other than that, no, it was like just finger vane.
6:17
Stryker
Yeah, 15. Wow. Well, be careful, all right? William, mic's not on, so it doesn't matter what you're saying, Stryker. Oh, there you are.
6:23
Drew
Hello. Be careful, Jordan.
6:25
Caller
Okay.
6:25
Drew
All right.
6:26
Caller
All right, thanks, man.
6:26
Drew
Okay. All right, 1-800-LOVE-191, it's Loveline. We're waiting for Shawnee Smith from the show Becker, which I've never seen, but it's doing well. Yeah. Have you seen it?
6:37
Stryker
It must be on during this show.
6:38
Drew
It is, I think.
6:39
Stryker
That's why I haven't seen it. During your show.
6:41
Caller
Right.
6:41
Drew
During my radio show out here. All right, Anne.
6:43
Caller
Oh, hello.
6:44
Drew
Hello there, you're 40.
6:45
Caller
Yes, I am. Hi, Dr. Drew. I'm calling because I'm a pot addict. I have been for many years, but past three, four years, thanks to your great help, I've been quitting.
6:58
Stryker
Great, congratulations.
6:59
Caller
And I quit for two years, and then I went back, and I quit again for another year, but recently I started up again, which is very uncool because last summer I quit. So it's been almost another year, but I didn't make it anyway.
7:11
Stryker
Do you go on MA?
7:13
Caller
No, there's one here, but...
7:16
Stryker
If you don't go to 12 step, you will not stop doing drugs. Mathematically, that's just the way it works.
7:21
It's really hard.
7:22
Caller
This is a really tough drug.
7:25
Stryker
Why don't you do what is necessary to stop it?
7:27
Caller
Yeah, well, I will. It's just that it's sort of a little period that happened here anyway.
7:32
Stryker
Wait, why won't you do what's necessary to have it stopped? I think it's obvious that what will happen is, I'll tell you what's going to happen. What's going to happen is, you're going to keep trying on and off, white-knockling, white-knockling, and you're not going to get into recovery, and you're going to have panic attacks and depression. You're going to start seeing, hold on, and then you're going to start seeing doctors, and some well-meaning doctor is going to put you on Xanax or some kind of stimulant, because stimulants will take care of your depression.
7:59
Drew
Okay, well, and then let them finish, Ann, let them finish.
8:02
Stryker
So, you know, or you're going to find your own way to speed or something, because the depression is the problem associated with the chronic marijuana use are reversed by the amphetamines, by the stimulants. But then that will begin to take off, and that's what will really become a more serious problem.
8:15
Caller
Well, that's my question. I was just two weeks ago put on Adderall.
8:19
Stryker
There you go.
8:19
Drew
What is that, Dr. Drew?
8:20
Stryker
Speed.
8:21
Adam
Speed.
8:22
Caller
It's been the most wonderful.
8:23
Stryker
Yes, of course. You're on speed.
8:26
Caller
Well, that's not the effect that I have.
8:28
Stryker
It's speed. I'm telling you, Anne. It's speed.
8:32
Caller
Even though it has the opposite effect.
8:35
Stryker
Right.
8:36
Caller
So you don't think it's a good drug that I was put on?
8:39
Stryker
My opinion is, I think it's okay that, you know, I understand the doctor having done that and I'm glad you feel better. But there will be a big prize for this, my opinion.
8:48
Caller
What, for smoking the pod or for?
8:50
Stryker
No, for the whole road you're going down. This is, things are progressing. Things are progressing.
8:55
Caller
So both are bad, do you think?
8:57
Drew
That's what he's saying. And if you were able to stop for a year and then got back on it and then you stopped for whatever it was, two years and got back on it, your system may be good for a year. It's not working. Drew is saying it is.
9:11
Stryker
What I'm saying, what I said was, I mean, I magically predicted that you'd find your way to speed. And here you are.
9:16
Drew
There it is.
9:17
Stryker
There you are. And that's the way this disease goes. And this will progress. There will be a prize for this.
9:22
Caller
Well, they tried Zoloft Paxil, all of those things.
9:25
Stryker
And they can try everything, but you're skipping the treatment.
9:29
Caller
Okay.
9:29
Stryker
You're not willing to do the treatment.
9:30
Caller
Okay. So you think if I do quit smoking the pot again, No.
9:35
Stryker
No. I think if you get into a program of recovery, all your symptoms will settle down.
9:41
Caller
Okay.
9:41
Stryker
But if you don't do that, this will never work. You cannot possibly do it. And you will have to be on some kind of medication. And the medicines that will work are the ones that will make your disease progress, typically. It's Adderall. I don't want to come down too hard on the Adderall because it's a rational thing to do and I understand why they did it. But I think it's skipping the real treatment and it's putting you at a grave risk of progression. Okay?
10:04
Caller
Okay. But even if the Adderall is taking care of the ADD that I have...
10:10
Stryker
Of course, all addicts have ADD. Or most addicts have ADD.
10:13
Caller
I also have dyslexia, dyscalculia, learning disabilities.
10:16
Drew
Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.
10:18
Caller
But this is really, really helpful.
10:20
Stryker
Well, you listen, it's fine and I don't want to... Because it's not exactly an amphetamine, it's a little bit different. I don't want to smash it and it's a rational thing to do. I've just seen too many awful things. Not awful, but missed opportunities because people get off onto these stimulants as opposed to getting their treatment done and they end up, there ends up being a price down the road.
10:40
Drew
Every time I listen to the show, every time I'm hosting the show, you'll get someone that calls in that has been addicted to something. Not only will they not let you or Adam finish, and I couldn't get a word in there, but there's an excuse or a retort for everything.
10:52
Stryker
Sure, they got a reason for it all.
10:53
Drew
And then they ask the same question 50 times in a row. And you're trying to give them the answer.
10:57
Stryker
It's a disease.
10:58
Drew
Go to the 12 step. It's a disease. I know, I'm not trying to be harsh on the lady.
11:01
Stryker
It's the denial, that's it.
11:02
Drew
You understand why I hate our callers, even the ones I've been with.
11:06
Stryker
Oh, I'm feeling so good here. John, 20.
11:08
Drew
John.
11:09
Caller
How are you doing?
11:10
Drew
What's up?
11:11
Caller
I just recently found out that my girlfriend has HPV, and I mean we practice safe sex and everything like that, and we've been dating for a few months now, and she said she knew this for like a few weeks.
11:23
Stryker
She knew what? What? What? She knew what?
11:25
Caller
She knew for a few weeks.
11:27
Drew
That she's had, what is that, warts? Warts, okay.
11:29
Stryker
Yeah, she knew a few weeks. Yeah, a few weeks in like October of 2000.
11:34
Caller
And I'm like, I normally, I regularly get tested, because you never know what the hell is floating out there.
11:39
Stryker
What is the test that you get for the warts?
11:41
Caller
Well, I'm gonna, well no, I'm gonna go tomorrow for this. And I don't know, cause I'm gonna, and I'm wondering, like I'm afraid now, seriously.
11:47
Stryker
Well, you haven't seen any warts, right?
11:49
Caller
No, I don't see anything.
11:51
Stryker
And what they do is they pour acetic acid on your penis and shine a bright, a black light on it, like we did to Adam.
11:58
Drew
What, what, you ended up doing that?
11:59
Stryker
Yeah, you have a tape of that? Here, listen, listen. Oh, he's gonna get it.
12:03
Drew
What, what, oh, I guess we're here in a second.
12:05
Stryker
Yeah, man, here he comes. No?
12:07
Caller
Oh, Jesus Christ.
12:09
Drew
I just dumped acid all over my penis.
12:12
Stryker
Yeah, we dumped acid on his penis. We had a big purple, bright, black light.
12:15
Drew
And if things show up in the black light?
12:17
Stryker
And a little, little white thing show up. That's the wart before you see the wart.
12:21
Caller
I'm wondering, like, if we're practicing safe sex and everything, is there still a chance?
12:24
Stryker
There's a chance, but it's less likely.
12:26
Caller
It's very less likely.
12:26
Drew
Dr. Drew, is there a chance of getting HPV if there's none present? Or you get it automatically if there's none present?
12:34
Stryker
You mean warts? Yes. So you don't have to have the wart present? To get it.
12:37
Drew
Give it to somebody else.
12:38
Caller
What about if she has it, but she doesn't have any, what about with oral sex? Like, as far as her performing it on me.
12:46
Drew
Can she get it in her mouth?
12:47
Stryker
No, she does not have it.
12:48
Caller
No, I'm saying, like, can I get it from her at all?
12:50
Stryker
From her mouth?
12:51
Drew
Not unless she's taking care of her own business when you're not around, John.
12:54
Stryker
She's got nothing in her mouth. Don't worry about that, all right?
12:56
Caller
All right.
12:57
Drew
All right, John, good luck with the warts.
12:58
Caller
All right, thanks.
12:59
Drew
Call me tomorrow.
12:59
Stryker
All right, good times.
13:01
Drew
1-800-LOVE-191, that's the number. Ace Rockolla ain't here. I'd be Stryker with Dr. Drew and we'll speak to Bethany. You're 17. Hello there.
13:10
Caller
Hi. I'm having a little bit of a problem because every time I orgasm, I think it turned off by the idea of having sex with my boyfriend.
13:18
Drew
How often you orgasm in?
13:20
Caller
It's pretty frequent almost every time.
13:23
Stryker
You're turned off by what?
13:24
Caller
The idea of having sex. He'll go down on me and it'll be great. I'll enjoy that. Then when we go to have intercourse, it just grosses me out.
13:35
Drew
Because you already had your orgasm, right?
13:38
Caller
Yeah.
13:39
Stryker
What if he'd done?
13:39
Caller
I feel bad because I get to be pleased by it and then he doesn't.
13:44
Stryker
What if you were to have intercourse with you before the orgasm?
13:47
Caller
Then it's fine.
13:49
Stryker
Why don't you do that?
13:52
Caller
Because I can only orgasm from oral sex.
13:56
Drew
Right. So here, listen, Bethany, next time you're with him, have the sex part first and then have him go downstairs.
14:03
Caller
He won't after he's already done with.
14:06
Drew
He will too.
14:07
Stryker
He's not that big of an ass.
14:08
Drew
Believe me, 17 has got a checklist of all the things he wants to do and that's on there.
14:12
Caller
Okay.
14:13
Stryker
He's not that, come on, he's not that much of a jerk.
14:16
Caller
Well, it's just kind of gross because after you have intercourse-
14:19
Stryker
You're grossed out. He doesn't care.
14:21
Okay. All right.
14:24
Caller
Thank you.
14:24
Drew
All right, Bethany.
14:25
Caller
Bye.
14:26
Drew
Bye. All right, Jessica, you're 15 on Loveline.
14:29
Caller
Yes, I am.
14:30
Drew
Go ahead.
14:31
Caller
I did something kind of sneaky. I went fake-baking or tanning on a Saturday.
14:36
Drew
What did you call it? Fake-baking.
14:37
Caller
Fake-baking.
14:38
Drew
Like a lot of the news people on TV.
14:41
Caller
Sure. It was kind of dumb on me.
14:44
Drew
Why?
14:44
Caller
For a couple of reasons. Well, one, I didn't tell my parents and you need to be like 18 or something. I used a friend's name and I went. I didn't think it was a big deal. I have pretty fair skin, like I have dark hair but fair skin, and I have skin cancer on both sides of my family, and I went.
15:02
Stryker
What kind of skin cancer?
15:05
Caller
I'm not sure.
15:05
Stryker
Okay.
15:06
Drew
How many times did you go? One time?
15:07
Caller
Just once.
15:07
Okay.
15:09
Caller
I noticed actually tonight, well, I just noticed tonight that there's always been this mole on my face, and it's never been a problem. But for the first time, it actually hurt to the touch.
15:21
Stryker
Well, it has nothing to do with the whatever you did.
15:25
Caller
I'm sorry?
15:25
Stryker
It has nothing to do with the tanning salon.
15:27
Caller
Are you sure?
15:28
Drew
How many minutes were you in the bed?
15:30
Caller
Fifteen.
15:30
Drew
That's too long for your first time, by the way.
15:33
Stryker
Really?
15:33
Drew
My friend John owns a tanning salon in Missouri.
15:36
Stryker
Oh, God.
15:37
Drew
Yeah, in Branson.
15:39
Stryker
Nice.
15:40
Drew
So...
15:40
Stryker
No, Jessica, listen. It takes years for that to cause cancer.
15:45
Caller
Even in a mole?
15:46
Stryker
Even in a mole. Moles don't really...
15:48
Caller
Such a relief.
15:49
Stryker
Yeah, and even then, the moles that are cancerous usually are new. Although sometimes it's the one you had before. But yeah, have the mole looked at, see why it's tender. But it has nothing to do with the tanning salon.
15:58
Drew
Actually, I want to ask you a quick question. Why... Do you have an event where you need to be in a bikini or something? Is that why you went?
16:04
Caller
Um, no, I just kind of wanted some color. I've always been fairly pale.
16:08
Drew
Okay. Well, why don't you go to a Cubs game and get a little sun?
16:12
Caller
I've been doing that too, actually.
16:14
Drew
Very good.
16:14
Stryker
Where's sunscreen? Where's sunscreen?
16:15
Caller
Can I just say that you guys are great. As soon as I like touched my face and I was like, wow, that hurts. I freaked out.
16:22
I was like, should I run and tell my parents?
16:24
Caller
Should I call my doctor? What should I do? And I don't know. I think this is great that you have a place where a kid like me can call and not be freaked out. Great.
16:32
Drew
Good.
16:33
Caller
Thank you so much.
16:34
Stryker
You're welcome.
16:34
Drew
Oh, man. I am the best.
16:36
Stryker
You're cool.
16:38
Drew
Just kidding, you guys. All right, Matt, you're 19. What's up, man?
16:42
Um, I had a question for Dr. Drew. Yeah. I'm wondering, um, when I have anal sex with my girlfriend, her nose bleeds.
16:51
Stryker
Man, just the pictures I'm painting tonight are so colorful, so delightful. I love that. Um, what can I say?
17:00
Drew
How many times? Every time?
17:02
Stryker
Every time.
17:03
Drew
I don't buy this for some reason.
17:04
Stryker
Yeah, I kind of with you. But is she straining? Yeah, he's BSing.
17:09
I don't know what he's talking about.
17:10
Drew
You believe him?
17:11
Stryker
I think he's BSing. You do? Listen, obviously, don't do it. If she's straining, it could be causing all kinds of pressure in her head.
17:18
Drew
You mean because she's like, ugh, like that?
17:20
Stryker
Yeah.
17:21
Drew
Has that ever happened to you on the toilet?
17:22
Stryker
No.
17:23
Drew
No. All right, good.
17:24
Stryker
She had her blood pressure checked.
17:26
Drew
Karen, what's up? You're 21 on Loveline.
17:29
Caller
Yes.
17:30
Drew
Go ahead.
17:31
Caller
Well, it's more of a concern than a question. I can't have sex.
17:37
Stryker
How come?
17:38
Caller
Well, ever since I found out I was pregnant, I have not even been interested in having sex. I rarely get horny.
17:44
I don't even masturbate.
17:45
Caller
I think I've masturbated five times since I found out I was pregnant.
17:49
Stryker
How far are you into the pregnancy?
17:51
My son's three months old now.
17:54
Stryker
How about the third trimester? Did you have any feelings then?
17:56
Caller
No.
17:57
Stryker
Have you had any depressions since the delivery?
17:59
Caller
Oh, I've always been depressed.
18:01
Stryker
Are you on antidepressants?
18:03
Caller
No.
18:03
Drew
Where's the father, by the way?
18:05
Caller
Huh?
18:05
Drew
Where's the dad of your baby?
18:07
Stryker
Oh, please. Stryker on Loveline.
18:08
Caller
Lord, if I know.
18:09
Drew
See, I just wanted to make sure that I'm on the ball.
18:11
Stryker
Yeah, you're on Loveline.
18:12
Drew
I'm on the ball.
18:13
Stryker
I'm on the ball.
18:13
Caller
All right.
18:16
Drew
So what's your question? Why aren't you interested in sex?
18:19
Caller
I just, I can't seem to have sex.
18:21
Caller
I'm not even interested in it.
18:22
Drew
Thank God. Keep it that way until you're 50 and rich.
18:27
Caller
I mean, I'm on birth control and everything.
18:29
Stryker
Which birth control, which pill are you on?
18:31
Caller
Oh, crap.
18:33
Caller
It starts with an M.
18:35
Drew
If you're on birth control, you should know the name. Is it Milanta?
18:38
Stryker
M.
18:38
Caller
Milanta. It's not Milanta.
18:41
Caller
I think that's an antacid.
18:42
Caller
M. M.
18:43
Drew
Come on, Dr. Drew.
18:45
Caller
M.
18:45
Stryker
What the hell?
18:45
M?
18:47
Stryker
Really M?
18:49
Drew
Yeah.
18:49
Caller
I think it's Merced.
18:51
Stryker
Merced. Well, now, why did they put you on that one? Do you have any idea?
18:56
Caller
That was just I didn't want the shot. I didn't want anything like that. And even when I did have sex before I was pregnant, I would only have one orgasm.
19:03
Stryker
Oh, but we feel-
19:04
Caller
I would cum a lot, but I can only have one orgasm and I'm done.
19:08
Stryker
Yeah. Okay. Well, we feel very sorry for you. But aside from that, some of these pills can make- certainly pregnancy can make you not want to have sex. Though many times in the last trimester, the last three months, some women get extra horny then. Then when the baby's delivered, usually there's a period of up to a year where women really don't want to have sex. They feel just sort of shut down. And one of the things that can restore things is being on the birth control pill, but you gotta be on the right one. Some of them can make things worse. My understanding of this is that it's typically sort of a progesterone overdrive and getting some pill with an estrogen tends to be helpful. So you might want to talk about changing your pill.
19:43
Drew
Well, no, I would just keep it the way it is. And keep her non-horny a little bit. Do you ever just celebrate in your head when there's no dad, the baby's three months old and they're saying, I'm not horny? You celebrate in your head?
19:53
Stryker
Yeah, I think about it. Next call. All right.
19:56
Drew
Is it Chad or Shad?
19:57
Shad.
19:58
Drew
What's up, dude? You're 24 on Loveline.
20:00
Yeah. My question is for Dr. Drew. Yeah. I've had, you know, for the past four years, I've been in a lot of relationships.
20:08
Stryker
A lot of relationships. What does that mean?
20:10
Like six or seven. But for the past two years, I've been with my girlfriend. And it still goes on where I like...
20:17
Stryker
Turn your radio down, dude. Hey.
20:20
What's that?
20:20
Stryker
Laura, make sure they turn their radios down. Every single one of them. Go ahead.
20:25
But I get off really fast, like two or three minutes.
20:28
Stryker
Yeah.
20:29
And I was just wondering, is there anything I can do for that?
20:32
Stryker
Well, you can like masturbate.
20:34
Drew
Not one off before sex.
20:35
Stryker
Or masturbate very, very frequently and sort of get control over all this.
20:39
Well, I do. I masturbate like three, four times a week.
20:42
Drew
That's nothing.
20:43
Stryker
And how often, how many times a week are you having sex?
20:46
Well, it used to be almost every day. But lately it's been like once every three months.
20:51
Stryker
Okay. You're still two minutes, huh?
20:55
Well, my girlfriend just had a baby. She's eight months old.
20:57
Stryker
Is the premature problem gotten worse as a result of having sex so irregularly?
21:02
Yeah, where it's got worse, it's been less often, yeah. Yeah.
21:06
Stryker
So maybe more frequent sex would help you. More masturbation would help you. The serotonin reuptake-inhibiting medications like Prozac, like Zoloft, sometimes people are prescribing them.
21:15
Drew
Oh, come on. You don't need medicine for that.
21:17
Stryker
But you know, as we always say on this show, I agree with you, but as we always say on this show, is really the clock starts running when you go down. You know what I'm saying? Go down and you start getting busy with the normal sex.
21:26
Drew
That's sex for the girl once your head is down.
21:28
Stryker
That's really what she wants anyway. Most of them. Some of them it's not true, but I'd say most. I really mean most. And so, Chad, that's when your clock starts running. So in most situations, like Chad's describing, it's his ego that's concerned with it. He wants it to go longer. So she's not unhappy. She's fine as long as he's doing his work.
21:45
Drew
Just take care of your business before you have the sex. And if you still last two minutes, then the women you're with in the future are going to love you because you can go many a time. Just go right after.
21:55
Stryker
Well, you can do that. You can go another time. But oral sex, concentrate on the oral sex.
21:58
Drew
All right. Break time or are we taking another call here?
22:01
Stryker
Break. Break?
22:02
Drew
Are you sure? All right. We've got to take a quick break. We'll speak to Kyle in a minute. And he's gay. You're gay, Dr. Drew. 1-800-LOVE-191. We'll be back right after this on Loveline. It's Loveline. We're back, 1-800. Hi, Loveline. 1-900-LOVE-191. I'm Stryker in for Ace Rockolla with Dr. Drew. He's a board certified physician, addiction medicine specialist. You're Shawnee. And right in the door, Shawnee Smith. Hi.
22:26
Adam
Hi.
22:27
Drew
Get a little closer. Get a little closer. Sorry, I'm not.
22:30
Adam
Such a warm welcome.
22:31
Drew
Ace Rockolla.
22:32
Adam
That's all right.
22:33
Drew
You're cute. I'm Ted. Oh, thanks. So are you. So you are not, wait, you're on Becker.
22:37
Adam
Yes.
22:37
Drew
And you're also in a band that I love the name of, Five Dollar Ho.
22:40
Adam
Yes. So Five Dollar ho.com.
22:44
Drew
Where were you stuck on PCH, by the way?
22:46
Adam
Yeah, there was a pretty horrendous accident on PCH. I sat there for 30 minutes or no, like 45, watched the medevac come in and it was like a scene out of the stand. People got out of their cars or walking.
22:58
Drew
Really?
22:59
Adam
Yeah.
22:59
Drew
Did you make friends with anyone?
23:01
Adam
No, actually, guys still flirted with me as I tried to, you know, get information and stuff. I was really pretty flattered. I thought really it's all about me in this moment.
23:10
Drew
And right now, too, on the radio. When is Becker on television?
23:14
Adam
Becker's on Monday nights at 930.
23:17
Drew
And it's doing really well. It's like what, fourth or fifth year, tenth year, fourth year?
23:21
Adam
Yeah, 44th. No, except we're going to do our fourth year next season.
23:25
Drew
Nice.
23:26
Adam
And I'm sure it'll do better after my Maxim magazine comes out this month.
23:31
Drew
I saw some of those photos, by the way. Maxim is just the best magazine.
23:35
Adam
Yeah, isn't it great?
23:37
Drew
Yeah, the articles, of course. What is it? It's a story and a pictorial?
23:42
Adam
Yes. The answer is very brief.
23:45
The questions get tougher as we go.
23:48
Drew
Very good. And you've been on here with Drew and Adam before, right?
23:51
Adam
Very good.
23:52
Stryker
More than once, yes?
23:53
Adam
No, I just saw you backstage at the Prism Awards, where you scared the crap out of me.
23:59
Drew
Why?
24:00
Adam
Because I told you that when I got shot up with Demerol after a surgery, and I really loved it, that not everyone did.
24:06
Oh, yeah.
24:07
Adam
And I must have the gene.
24:09
Stryker
We talked a little bit about that, didn't we?
24:11
Drew
Was that a good thing?
24:11
Stryker
Everyone in that room had the gene, I think, so it was all right.
24:13
Adam
Yeah, right.
24:14
Stryker
In fact, remember you told me everyone was like, oh, yeah.
24:16
Adam
I know. I've done a poll since then. Most people do. Well, not everyone's really had shots of Demerol, but.
24:22
Stryker
Well, I loved that reaction. Yeah. It's cool. It's fun. But I love it as well.
24:29
Drew
You like something?
24:30
Stryker
No.
24:31
Drew
Oh, OK.
24:31
Stryker
I get this for it.
24:33
Drew
Very good. All right. So, you know, call Loveline, you guys. Talk to Shawnee. Talk to me. And Drew, Kyle, you're on. You're 16 on Loveline.
24:40
Caller
Yeah. What's up? What's up? I actually have something to say to Stryker first. You will never replace Ace Rockolla. He is the man.
24:51
Stryker
Yeah. Relax, Kyle.
24:52
Caller
And Dr. Drew, you do a hell of a lot more than Adam does for the show.
24:57
Stryker
That's good.
24:58
Caller
But I had to give Adam props.
24:59
Stryker
All right.
25:00
Caller
But anyway.
25:00
Drew
Hey, Kyle, Kyle. Yeah. I'm going to put you on hold for a minute there. Okay. Let's go. Tina.
25:10
Yeah.
25:10
Drew
Hi. You're 19 on Loveline.
25:12
Caller
Hi.
25:13
Drew
Unacceptable. Gracias.
25:15
Caller
What? What did I do?
25:16
Drew
Nothing. Go ahead.
25:17
Caller
Okay.
25:19
Caller
Okay.
25:19
Caller
Well, I met this guy and I was really dumb about it because I knew the guy had been in jail and stuff and I knew he had a wife and a five-year-old kid and everything. And I can say...
25:30
Stryker
But I loved him. But I loved him.
25:32
Adam
Oh, don't you just love men like that?
25:33
Caller
Oh, and I'm such a good girl too.
25:36
Adam
Oh, surprise, surprise.
25:37
Caller
I am.
25:38
Drew
So what happened? You were typing back and forth and he said he wants to meet you and you said, yay?
25:43
Oh, well, okay.
25:44
Caller
I met him from a guy that I met.
25:47
Stryker
Creepy.
25:47
Drew
Watch your language.
25:48
Stryker
Tina, Tina, Tina, the good girl, Tina, Tina, the good girl. He used the F and S word. It was just freely and liberally. Go ahead.
25:57
Caller
And so I met this guy and like he was like, oh, this is my friend, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, okay, well, that's cool. And so then I started hanging out with him and I told my roommate, well, she's like my mom basically. And I said, okay, I'll be home on Saturday. I left Friday. I didn't come home till Monday. And I had been up for like five days. I was totally drugged out and she's like, what's wrong with you? And I consented to sex one time with this person. And I remember I was like totally out of it. Like I couldn't really move or anything.
26:26
Caller
I total state of paralysis.
26:28
Caller
And he raped me basically, but I can't like prove it because I mean, I don't know how.
26:38
Drew
Like you don't remember anything other than the one time.
26:42
Caller
I remember like he grabbed me by my hair and he said, and I was starting to scream. And we said, if you don't shut up, I'm going to shoot you. And basically I got passed out after that point.
26:50
Stryker
Nice. Why don't you immediately go to the police?
26:55
Caller
Exactly. I don't know why. And so I went and got tested for everything, you know, and the doctor at the clinic I went to, she's like, well, it's my duty to file a report. I'm like, I don't want to do that because if it goes to court, then I'm going to have to deal with looking at that person, and dealing with that person. But it's his word against mine. He can say I consented and I can say I can't.
27:20
Stryker
So what went on here? When have you been a victim previously in your life?
27:26
Caller
I was molested as a young child when I was...
27:31
Stryker
What happened with that?
27:33
Caller
That was one of my really close family relatives. And I was about 11 years old. And that lasted for a while. And then...
27:42
Stryker
How old was that person?
27:45
Caller
About my age now.
27:47
Stryker
So he was also 19. He was 19 at the time.
27:50
Caller
Yeah, and I was 11.
27:52
Stryker
And how did that go down?
27:56
Caller
He didn't have sex with me or anything. He was just basically like touching me and all this stuff, you know. And like I kept like trying to like get my parents and stuff, you know, like to notice. And I'm like, hello, help me. And they're just like, oh, how cute. He's taking care of his little cousin. And I'm like, no, he's not.
28:13
Stryker
Yeah. Anything else happened before 11?
28:16
Caller
Yeah, actually.
28:18
Stryker
Magical.
28:20
Caller
I was about three years old and we were moving into a new house.
28:25
I was about three or four.
28:27
Caller
And one of the people that was helping, one of the movers pulled out his penis and was grabbing my hand, like, you know, here, just touch it and stuff like that. And that went to court.
28:40
Stryker
Okay, good.
28:41
Caller
That went to court. And it totally just freaked me out. I didn't want to deal with that. All right.
28:47
Stryker
But the point is here, you got a long sort of pattern of repetition. Well, it's not a clear-cut repetition, but situations in which you've been victimized and traumatized. And the very first one was sort of awful and it went up, you know, required you to go to court and go through these awful experiences. Yeah, and I don't want to go through that. Yeah, you don't want to go through that again. And yet, this situation is even more egregious. This is just outlandish. This is an awful situation.
29:11
Drew
So how can Tina break this pattern?
29:14
Stryker
The human brain is an interesting thing. If something traumatic happens to you early in life, it sort of etches in some wiring that causes you to go out and find those situations again and again and again.
29:25
Adam
Oh, we talked about this the last time.
29:27
Caller
But I've been seeing this guy for two months. We haven't had a sexual relationship, other than just like oral sex, you know, for like two months. He's like a great guy, you know, he's not into drugs.
29:36
Stryker
Yeah, but you've got this wiring in your head where you've got to go out and find these victimizers.
29:40
Adam
How long ago did this rape happen?
29:42
Caller
Um, last weekend.
29:44
Stryker
I still think you've got to file a report and you've got to get some treatment for trauma recovery.
29:48
Caller
I went and I got tested and anything to be tested.
29:51
Stryker
No, no, trauma recovery therapy for a long time because this wiring in your brain is not going to unwire without a lot of work.
29:58
Drew
It's going to repeat itself even if she's cool right now.
30:01
Adam
You're going to keep dating a nice guy and going out and meeting the bad guy.
30:05
Stryker
Or you're going to keep sabotaging nice relationships and finding the bad guy. You're going to keep doing that.
30:11
Caller
This guy was just released from prison.
30:14
Adam
Are you scared of him? It's not just...
30:17
Caller
I'm scared of him and also he has a wife and another lady that has his five-year-old son.
30:24
Stryker
He's not likely to bring you to the surface, not unless there's a reason for it. You need right now to get involved in some treatment. I think you need to file a report and you need to get in some treatment. I don't think the report will go anywhere. You're not necessarily going to push charges, press charges, but to have that on file, at least, I think it's important.
30:40
Drew
And it's not just coincidence that that happened to you from what you see, right?
30:44
Stryker
Yes, this is round three for you and probably many other circumstances like this through high school, too.
30:49
Adam
Just do those two things for yourself.
30:51
Stryker
At least get into some treatment now, immediately.
30:54
Drew
All right, 1-800-LOVE-191 is the phone number and Karen.
30:58
Caller
Hi.
30:58
Drew
Hi, you're 40 on Loveline.
30:59
Caller
Hi.
31:00
Drew
Hey.
31:00
Caller
Hey, Dr. Drew, we really love, I love your program. It's great. Right to the Chase.
31:06
Stryker
This program, you mean?
31:07
Caller
Yeah.
31:07
Caller
Oh, good.
31:09
Caller
I have a boyfriend, wonderful guy, really great personality on every level, except one thing I discovered about him, and that is he has no means goes online to those free sex sites and he.
31:24
Drew
Hold on one sec there. There's free sex sites.
31:28
Stryker
Stryker wants the address.
31:29
Caller
That's exactly his response.
31:30
Drew
Give me the address.
31:32
Caller
Yeah, that's what he said. It's free sex. In other words, you go on camera, you select an anonymous person to interact with.
31:40
Stryker
Oh my god, it's on camera.
31:42
Adam
Does he get filmed?
31:43
Caller
Yeah.
31:44
Adam
Oh dear.
31:46
Caller
And the other person gets filmed and you exchange, you know, you're on there, a little TV.
31:52
Stryker
Oh my god, it's finally come to this.
31:54
Caller
It's bizarre. That's what he's been so excited by. He says it's the greatest thing.
31:58
Drew
And you're not cool with this or you are?
32:00
Caller
No, I'm not.
32:01
Stryker
I'm not cool with it either.
32:02
Caller
I think it's cheating.
32:03
Drew
Yeah. I don't know if it's cheating, it's just ridiculous, crazy behavior for him to be doing when he's married to you.
32:09
Adam
Not married.
32:10
Drew
Oh, going out.
32:11
Stryker
Well, let's take it back a notch and talk about sort of online chatting, sex chats. Shawnee, would that be a problem for you? You were involved with someone who did that?
32:21
Adam
I actually am a very active sex chatter myself, but I found out that I had the gene last time I talked to you, so let me find out more. No, I'm kidding. No, go ahead.
32:33
Stryker
But if somebody were to do that, would that bother you?
32:35
Adam
Yeah.
32:36
Stryker
So this chatting online and using a lot of sexual interaction would be troubling?
32:41
Adam
Yeah. I like to explore all the freakish, sexy, crazy stuff within Five Dollar Ho, but outside of that, I would probably be offended by many things that...
32:56
Stryker
If you were watching yourself on Five Dollar Ho, you'd be offended.
32:59
Adam
I might be, yeah.
33:00
Drew
To the guys listening, you hear this voice come in, you're like, what is this girl like? She's exactly like that. She looks like she would just rip you a new one in the sack.
33:10
Adam
It's like it's all good and kinky until it's someone that you care about or love.
33:15
Stryker
Okay. So even if a guy was just chatting, doesn't ever saw the person, doesn't know who the person is, but is chatting intimately, that would be disturbing.
33:23
Adam
Oh yeah. That would piss me off.
33:24
Stryker
Most women find that a very serious violation of their trust. Men could care less if women were to do that. Just, hey, who cares? It's just somebody that is in the dark. Women see that as sort of an intimate interaction, which it kind of is. And now we're taking it to the new level where there's actually cameras on one another.
33:39
Drew
What is he doing in the camera? Like masturbating or something?
33:43
Stryker
Why is that different than being in the room together? That's the next step, right? It's not very different.
33:49
Adam
It's so impersonal, though.
33:52
Stryker
But it's so intimate. It's like, oh, I can understand, Karen. That would be very troubling for you.
33:56
Drew
So, Karen, have you told him that you're not digging this?
33:59
Adam
Therapists are going to be out of business soon. Are you kidding? It's going to act out.
34:04
Drew
Wait, what's that?
34:04
Stryker
It's the problem.
34:06
Drew
Go ahead, Karen.
34:07
Adam
Sorry, go ahead.
34:08
Caller
Yes, he just said that it's no different than a magazine.
34:11
Stryker
Well, you know, I don't know how to sort of pass, I don't want to judge it, but how to even sort of understand this, because it feels to me like more. There's a real human there, and there's just a camera, a wire, you know, electronic medium connecting you all. And it is different than typing, because you really do see the person. And I understand his point, that it is kind of, he experiences it as very impersonal. What is important is how he's experienced it, of course, right, because he doesn't feel like he wants to be away from his people.
34:40
Adam
How long have you been going out?
34:42
Caller
Karen.
34:43
Stryker
How long?
34:44
Caller
Two years.
34:44
Adam
Two years?
34:48
Drew
I think it's just up to the individual couple, and you know what, if it bothers one person, then you got to tell the person that's doing it, and maybe some couples are cool with one person going online.
34:59
Stryker
I think that people need to be much more respectful of one another's feelings.
35:02
Adam
Very well put.
35:04
Stryker
And if this bothers her, this can't be the most important thing in his life, and if it is, he's an effing loser.
35:10
Adam
Right.
35:11
Stryker
Right?
35:11
Drew
Go, Dr. Drew.
35:12
Adam
Other fish in the sea, baby.
35:14
Drew
You are so sensitive, Dr. Drew.
35:16
Stryker
Oh, man.
35:17
Drew
I like you.
35:17
Stryker
We're going to have to go out.
35:18
Caller
All right.
35:19
Stryker
Alan, give your ring.
35:21
Caller
Yeah.
35:22
Drew
You're 23.
35:23
Caller
Yeah.
35:24
Drew
What's up?
35:24
Caller
What's up? I got this small problem.
35:28
Drew
Pop smoking is a person. You smoke pot, right?
35:32
Caller
No.
35:32
Stryker
No, this isn't that. I know what you're thinking. I almost went there, but I realize it's not that.
35:36
Caller
I don't do that, and I don't drink either.
35:37
Stryker
You gotcha.
35:38
Adam
He said it's a small problem.
35:43
Caller
Every once in a while, like, I'll date. I've been concentrating a lot more on work because I want to get my head straight and get out on my own stuff, you know what I'm saying?
35:52
Stryker
Yeah. What's the problem?
35:54
Caller
It's like every time I do have a girlfriend, it's like, no matter how nice I treat them, they're like, sometimes they'll like it, other times they'll be like, you know, get away from me, you're smothering me, or...
36:08
Drew
I'm not even listening at this point for some reason.
36:10
Stryker
Hey, God, I'm with you. Being nice, what does that mean to you?
36:16
Caller
Excuse me?
36:17
Stryker
What does being nice mean to you?
36:20
Caller
I would just be nice to her.
36:21
Stryker
What does that mean?
36:23
Caller
You know, take her places.
36:25
Stryker
How about if you're going out to dinner? How do you ask her out?
36:28
Drew
Would you like to go to the Olive Garden with me? They've got the y'all-you-can-eat-lasagna bar next week.
36:33
Stryker
Or would you say, or would you ask her to make plans for her? Make a plan and tell her where we're going. No, I'd ask her. Yeah, I don't know. Where do you want to go? This is that guy.
36:44
Caller
No, I'd ask her where she wants to go.
36:45
Stryker
Yeah, where do you want to go? That's not, women don't like that.
36:49
Adam
You're not going to get her in the sack, buddy.
36:52
Stryker
Women want to feel safe. They want to feel like they have somebody who is decisive, who is present, who they want to see a piece of you. Yes, it's nice to be respectful of what her wishes are if she doesn't like what you've selected, but she wants you. She wants to know where you want to go to dinner and she wants to be present with someone while she's having dinner. Is that close enough, Shawnee?
37:13
Adam
That is very well put, once again.
37:16
Drew
What about slow talkers? What do you think of that? Alan, honestly, we ask you a question, it takes you an hour to spit out nine words. The woman just must hang herself after a little.
37:24
Adam
I usually just break into the booger picking song myself.
37:27
Caller
Right.
37:29
Drew
All right, Alan, try to have a little edge to yourself and be honest with them.
37:34
Stryker
Don't be afraid to be present. It's not about, listen, guys get into this thing where it's like, I'm so nice, I'm so nice. But listen, what you are is sort of-
37:42
Adam
Most nice guys end up trying to be controlling down. They want something for it in the back end.
37:49
Stryker
There's an entitlement. Yes. At the end of the day- Because I'm so nice, I'm entitled to more.
37:55
Adam
Right. You owe me. You're right. For all this niceness. Beware of the guy who opens your car door, I say.
38:01
Drew
No, no, no, no, no, no.
38:03
Stryker
But guys, this isn't even that, although it could get to that.
38:06
Adam
Yeah, now I hear you.
38:08
Stryker
It is somebody who just has difficulty being present in a relationship. Women don't like that. Women don't like that.
38:13
Drew
No, they don't. They definitely don't.
38:15
Adam
Seguing to the pot smoker.
38:16
Stryker
Yes. What? Break?
38:18
Drew
Break smeg, Drew? God damn. All right, we got to take a quick break. Shawnee Smith is here from Becker and she's in Fide La Ho, which is a band, and we'll hear a little something from the CD.
38:27
Adam
Oh, right. Hopefully in a little bit. Yeah.
38:28
Drew
All right, we'll speak to Danielle in a minute from my old stomping ground in Tucks in Arizona after this on Loveline. We are back. It's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. It's Stryker with Dr. Drew and from the TV show Becker, Shawnee Smith, who got a little late. There was an accident, but you're here. You're hanging. And you're also in a band, Phi Dala Ho.
38:53
Adam
Yes, phidalaho.com.
38:55
Drew
You played the whiskey the other night, right?
38:56
Adam
Yeah, we played Unsigned on Sunset Night on Thursday. And Friday, I got a couple of calls from labels.
39:05
Drew
Good for you. Well, let's play a little something, something from the CD.
39:08
Adam
Yeah, I'd love to.
39:09
Drew
And maybe Gio Siria is listening or something.
39:11
Adam
Yeah, which big?
39:12
Drew
Hello, guy. Yeah, I love that guy.
39:15
Adam
So cool. Dream producer.
39:16
Drew
There you go.
39:16
Adam
Yeah, he's the perfect producer for $5.
39:18
Drew
Let's check out $5.00 right now, Shawnee Smith's band.
39:22
Adam
And we're back.
39:23
Caller
And we're back.
39:24
Drew
I guess we're hearing a little piece of it. There's a piece of your music.
39:27
Adam
Yes.
39:29
Drew
So $5.00.com. How do you spell the first word?
39:31
Adam
I would have had to work much harder in the waiting room to get the whole song.
39:34
Drew
If you want to know the 30 seconds, you're going to have to remove the top. I don't know what I'm talking about here. How do you spell the first word if they want to go to that website?
39:42
Adam
It's spelled F-Y-D-O-L-L-A-H-O.
39:48
Stryker
Say that again.
39:49
Adam
F as in Frank. Y. D as in dog. O-L-L-A. Second word, H-O. But on the net, it's all one word.
39:59
Drew
There you go.
40:00
Adam
And you can get naked and put yourself on camera in our website if you like.
40:04
Stryker
Oh, nice, nice effect.
40:05
Adam
As long as you're photogenic.
40:07
Drew
I'm going to sign up when I'm photogenic. Here's my smile. Like those little girls on HBO last night, which was ridiculous.
40:12
Adam
Yeah, we're going to have to get you a flipper. A flipper? Make that perfect.
40:15
Drew
There you go. All right, dance girl, show it off. Danielle, you're 15 from Tucson. What's going on?
40:20
Caller
Not much, hi. Hi.
40:22
Caller
Okay, my question was...
40:24
Stryker
That's what we could bet on.
40:25
Caller
Yeah.
40:26
Caller
What?
40:26
Stryker
Sorry, go ahead.
40:28
Caller
My question was, every time that I masturbate, I do it for a while and then like when I start to really get into it, I start to just start crying and I cry for like an hour, sometimes two, and I just like shake and...
40:41
Stryker
How often do you do this?
40:43
Caller
Really, like practically every time.
40:46
Stryker
How often does that occur?
40:48
Caller
Maybe four days a week.
40:51
Stryker
Four days a week, you send yourself into fits of crying.
40:55
Caller
Well, yeah, I mean, I don't want to. I usually hope it doesn't happen.
40:59
Stryker
But has it ever not happened?
41:02
Caller
Sometimes, but I mean, that's usually like if, I don't know, it just sometimes doesn't happen. I don't know really why it goes off and on.
41:11
Stryker
Where do you think this is coming from?
41:13
Caller
Well, I did get molested when I was seven by my stepdad.
41:21
Stryker
Well, there you go.
41:22
Caller
Well, like the thing is, I'm in counseling and everything and I just want it to go away. And I told my counselor and she doesn't know like, and I also, my step sister, she doesn't know what, the counselor, she doesn't know why or how to stop it. You know, she just.
41:41
Stryker
Well, I'm not sure it can be stopped right now. You can stop masturbating so much.
41:44
Drew
How come you want to put yourself through this if you know what's going to happen to you?
41:49
Caller
Well, usually I don't want it to happen. And I mean, I usually hope it doesn't. And sometimes I'm like, oh, it won't happen, you know? And then I go and I do it and it just like happens. And I mean, it doesn't feel like it.
42:02
Stryker
How long have you been in therapy counseling for?
42:05
Drew
Two days.
42:07
Stryker
Two years.
42:08
Caller
Probably almost a year. I was put in two mental institutions about a year ago and I'm bipolar and obsessive compulsive.
42:17
Stryker
And what medications you want?
42:18
Caller
I'm on Luvox, Tegretol. I was on Sericul and I'm on Welbutrin.
42:23
Stryker
I wonder what it has to do with the medications possibly.
42:27
Caller
Well, I think I did this before I was found medication. I can't really remember, but I think I did.
42:32
Stryker
All right. Okay, well, you know, I think the only solution at this point is to masturbate less. It may be a good thing possibly. Perhaps you're sort of trying to work through some feelings that were bottled up before and now they're sort of out there. And you of course want to, you're 15 and masturbation, you were sexually abused, so you're likely to be sort of sexually compulsive. And you know, maybe this is part of the working through process for you. At least you're not doing it with people.
42:58
Drew
Are you sexually active, Danielle?
43:00
Caller
No, I'm, well, I do things sexually, but I'm still a virgin. But like, if I do do stuff with guys, sometimes, sometimes I will start crying.
43:09
Stryker
Yeah, I think, again, just the fact that you're alone with this is a better thing than what most women do who have this sort of history, which is they go out and find guys to victimize them and do the sexual acts of them and then cry. And then you really are reenacting the trauma.
43:23
Adam
Yeah, I think that's pretty healthy.
43:24
Stryker
Yeah, I mean, so it's, it may be the fact that you're actually getting better, perhaps. I don't know for sure. We don't know you, but it's not as bad as it could be, that's for sure. And it's something that's probably going to get better with time, and if you're going to continue treatment. Go ahead.
43:37
Adam
What do you think about all these drugs, Dr. Drew? Like there weren't all these drugs when I was...
43:42
Stryker
When you needed antidepressants? Right. This is not, she's not on a lot. If she's bipolar, she's bipolar.
43:49
Adam
Yeah.
43:49
Stryker
Then that is a problem.
43:50
Adam
Isn't it kind of quick and easy these days, though, to throw kids on?
43:54
Stryker
It looks like, you know, like with any medication, it's overdone in certain areas and underdone in others. And kids have been sexually abused and have had to be hospitalized. I assume you were suicidal, Danielle, when you were hospitalized?
44:08
Adam
Yeah, I was.
44:09
Stryker
I mean, she's cutting, she's trying to kill herself. She has a one in five chance of dying of this. So if you take any other disease with a 15-year-old and say, hey, 20% chance of death, you're going to take some medication. Yeah, you're going to do whatever you can to save their lives.
44:23
Drew
Let me pull a Corolla, which he would say, well, speak to Cal in a second again, who likes Ace Rockolla, but all you screwballs out there that mess with the little girls and boys when they're like eight, nine, 10, 11, 12, and you're getting your jollies and you move on in your little life and you move back to wherever the hell you're moving around from. These kids are so screwed now, the wiring becomes crazed and it's just, ay-ay-ay.
44:49
Stryker
Don't we have a gift that keeps on giving drop?
44:53
Drew
I don't know, Kyle.
44:54
The world is your oyster.
44:56
I mean, because that's all the world is.
44:58
Stryker
It's more like, I wish those guys were, I'm going to shoot all those guys.
45:02
Adam
Well, hopefully they ended up in prison with a guy named Butch.
45:06
Drew
Kyle, Kyle, you ready to be nice in a second?
45:10
Caller
I will be nice.
45:11
Drew
You're a nice gay man. Hold on one sec, okay?
45:13
Stryker
Your friend's gay.
45:14
Drew
Oh, your friend's gay?
45:15
Stryker
You're gay.
45:16
Drew
Right, you're gay as Dr. Drew just said. We'll be back with more Love Line right after this.
45:22
Caller
Hello? Is this Love Line?
45:24
Call 1-800-LOVE-11. Adam and Dr. Drew will be right back.
45:36
Drew
All right, Loveline, we are back. I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla, who's doing some man show things, I guess. Is that what he's doing? Shaving his back?
45:45
Stryker
He was working on a movie. Really?
45:47
Drew
Good for Ace Rockolla.
45:49
Stryker
He's writing it. He wrote it, and this is their meeting to have the finals.
45:52
Drew
Is this the thing with Robert... No, he and Jimmy wrote it.
45:55
Stryker
With Ivan Reitman.
45:56
Drew
Yeah, Ivan Reitman.
45:57
Adam
Wow.
45:58
Stryker
And then I did some man show stuff today. They had...
46:01
Drew
Did you?
46:02
Stryker
Yes, they had Assoholics Anonymous. That I explained how these assholes correct their behaviors. Right.
46:11
Adam
I just did a movie about addiction, but it's kind of a very volatile movie. It's not like everyone's sitting around a room talking. It's like people really kind of dealing called never get out of the boat.
46:24
Stryker
Nice.
46:25
Drew
When's that coming out?
46:27
Adam
I don't know. It's still filming. John Cusack's producing it.
46:30
Stryker
Really?
46:31
Drew
How was it working with John?
46:33
Adam
I didn't get to work with John.
46:34
Drew
But did you speak to him at all?
46:36
Adam
No. I haven't met him.
46:39
Stryker
You haven't consummated that relationship yet?
46:41
Adam
No, but I did have my first sex scene. What?
46:44
Drew
How'd that go?
46:45
Stryker
Mommy.
46:46
Adam
It was pretty fun.
46:49
Drew
By the way, your nose is resting on it. Are you tired? You're leaning on the blank.
46:54
Adam
No, I'm just not visceral.
46:57
Drew
Who was the guy in your scene?
46:59
Adam
You remember Northern Exposure?
47:02
Stryker
Yeah.
47:03
Adam
The Indian kid?
47:05
Drew
No.
47:05
Adam
Darren.
47:06
Stryker
No.
47:06
Drew
Really?
47:07
Adam
So you're not a girl.
47:09
Drew
So he's hot, your son?
47:11
Adam
He's hot.
47:12
Stryker
But let's keep going.
47:13
Adam
Married with four kids and stuff.
47:14
Stryker
And you have a kid? And you're married? And how does that sex scene that you enjoy translate when you get home?
47:23
Adam
Well, I really didn't want to get into it.
47:27
Stryker
But you are broadcasting about it on the Red National Radio program.
47:31
Adam
Yeah.
47:31
Stryker
So you might catch wind of it.
47:32
Adam
No, it was interesting. I was interested, you know, to know, to see how that went. It's very like, we took it in sections and stuff.
47:41
Stryker
Because you have to, if you're really into the scene, right, you have to be responding like a human.
47:48
Adam
Yeah. Well, it was a cool thing I learned about sex because, you know, they go like action for the part where we're like right about to do the, I mean, it was like, you know.
47:58
Drew
What position were you in?
47:59
Adam
Pump and everything. I was on top.
48:00
Drew
Okay. Oh.
48:01
Adam
But I did, actually, this guy is an ex-heroin addict, and there was no part in the sex scene where a condom was involved. So I worked it into the scene. Like, I had to do it in a sexy way. I was kind of lept across the bed and threw things all over the place looking for like the one, because she was a very repressed woman.
48:20
Stryker
Obviously.
48:21
Adam
The one, you know, that she had from two years ago. But, but just acting that, you know, you were about to you were in the throes on action kind of got you in the mood.
48:31
Stryker
Hang on. What did you learn about sex?
48:32
Adam
My quick, but sometimes like if you're not into it or whatever at the moment, you just like pretend that you're in the middle of a sex scene and they just said action.
48:42
Drew
And you're in.
48:43
Adam
And then like two seconds later, you're feeling.
48:45
Stryker
This is not going to be necessarily reassuring for your husband.
48:48
Adam
Right.
48:48
Drew
Oh, they'll be fine. You know the best guy in movies that has sex, and I'm straight, Michael Douglas sex. Every movie, he's throwing dishes, he's turning on water, he's ripping off women's panties, he's screaming, he's saying bad words. Michael Douglas sex is the best in movies. The best, Jerry, the best. You're sick. All right. Thank you.
49:06
Stryker
You're gay.
49:07
Drew
Kyle, take it easy over there. Kyle, you're 16 and now you're on Loveline. What's up, dude?
49:12
Caller
What's up?
49:13
Caller
Okay. Well, what happened was my friend, I just discovered that he was gay.
49:18
Stryker
How did you discover this?
49:20
Caller
Well, he has this digital camera that he brought over to our house and he left it, you know, he was just chilling. We were smoking some weed and then we left it on the table and he left all high and he left it here. And we came across this and, you know, it had this little disc inside of it and we checked it out on the camera and then we discovered there was pictures on there of him and the various, well, sexual positions, I guess you could say.
49:49
Stryker
By himself?
49:51
Caller
Yeah. No, no, actually it was like somebody was, you know, taking pictures, somebody was taking the pictures but, yeah, because I don't think he, some of the positions he was in, I don't think he could have...
50:02
Drew
What kind of positions was he in?
50:03
Of course the good stuff.
50:05
Adam
Obviously, gay positions.
50:07
Stryker
Well, no, what is a gay position?
50:08
Drew
Yeah, when he's by himself? He's tuning his own horn like Ron Jeremy.
50:12
Stryker
How does taking pictures of himself make him gay?
50:13
Caller
No, no, no, no, no.
50:14
Adam
Is his nose bleeding?
50:16
Caller
The fact is, he was bent over and he had his head between his legs and he had a dildo stuck in his butt.
50:23
Drew
That's pretty close to it, then.
50:25
Stryker
No, no, no, no.
50:27
Caller
Yeah.
50:28
Stryker
That makes him weird. I mean, it's peculiar, but it doesn't make him gay.
50:31
Caller
Well, I mean, how else am I supposed to come across this?
50:33
Stryker
I mean, you know, a gay means another male is with him. Well, period. Okay. Your manager is totally cracking up right now for some reason. Things are the greatest thing I've ever heard of.
50:44
Adam
You've never had a girl strap it on and give it to you from behind?
50:47
Caller
Me?
50:48
Drew
Yes, Kyle, you.
50:49
Stryker
He's only 16.
50:50
Drew
Michael Douglas sex, Kyle?
50:52
Caller
What?
50:54
Stryker
Kyle, listen, how old is this guy?
50:57
Caller
He's 17.
50:58
Stryker
Yeah. I mean, he's into some weird stuff. Let's not be, let's make no mistake about it.
51:02
Caller
But he was like taking pictures of his penis and maybe he's doing both hands and his ass. It was gross.
51:09
Stryker
Yeah, he's into some wild stuff, but that does not make him gay.
51:12
Caller
Well, how's the guy supposed to?
51:16
Stryker
You can say he's a freak, but you can't say he's gay.
51:19
Drew
Kyle, this guy is Jenny Jones, bound, strange, ridiculous, but there's doesn't mean he's gay. I agree with Drew.
51:25
Caller
We were saying he was a product of Jerry Springer.
51:29
Drew
Right. And that's exactly what he is. Until you see him with the man on that camera, I would just assume he's straight, but just totally sexually crazed in a good way.
51:37
Caller
He's bisexual.
51:38
Caller
This guy is like my best friend, and I've known him for two years, and I wouldn't have ever guessed, but I just figured this out. I mean, how am I supposed to come up to him and say, you know, what's up like usual? But now that I know this, what am I supposed to do?
51:50
Adam
He's handing the camera and go, dude, you're a freak.
51:52
Drew
Yeah, I would praise him.
51:53
Stryker
It depends how much you like this person. Well, it is obviously aspects to him that you didn't know. Yeah, as there are to everyone.
52:01
Adam
Aspects.
52:02
Stryker
Aspects. And you can either tolerate this and really if you care about the guy, sort of say something like Shawnee says, just try to make light of it. Hey, this is freakish stuff. You're freaking me out a little bit. But I think Kyle likes him. No, he does.
52:17
Drew
Oh, no, he totally does. He likes him.
52:20
Stryker
And if you can't tolerate it, maybe this relationship is maybe you found out too much about him. Maybe it's something you can't tolerate.
52:26
Drew
Well, I think he's only 16. Kyle is. And the other kid is mentally way ahead of him.
52:31
Stryker
Cut back on the cut back on my side, Corolla. Deal with the pod issue here. That's the bigger issue for you, Kyle.
52:37
Drew
All right. Eric.
52:38
Caller
Yeah.
52:39
Drew
What's up? You're 16 on Loveline.
52:42
Caller
Well, I had sex with the girl last week. And yesterday I was checking myself and I felt a couple of lumps in my balls.
52:50
Stryker
First of all, you did not have sex last week.
52:53
Caller
Yeah.
52:53
Stryker
No, you didn't.
52:54
Drew
What was his name?
52:55
Stryker
No, no, not him.
52:56
Caller
No, I didn't get it. It was the girl. Her name was Mike.
53:00
Caller
It's a damn lie and you know it.
53:02
Stryker
And what the hell would having sex have to do with lumps in your testicles?
53:05
Caller
I don't know.
53:06
Drew
Is it on the skin or on your nuts?
53:09
Caller
In the sex.
53:11
Caller
Yeah.
53:12
Stryker
Well, they were there before you had sex, I guarantee it.
53:16
Adam
You just weren't feeling around down there.
53:18
Caller
Yeah, I guess I probably didn't feel right or something.
53:21
Stryker
Well, certain lumps are normal. Are they smooth?
53:24
Caller
No, they're more hard. I guess they're smooth. I don't go around bashing them.
53:31
Stryker
Eric, you called us. You felt some stuff in your nuts. Now listen, you do go around smushing them because that's how you found these things. Are they like pebbles or rocks?
53:40
Caller
Yeah, like small rocks.
53:41
Stryker
Or are they like firm, like a Super Bowl?
53:44
Drew
Small rocks.
53:46
Caller
Like small rocks.
53:47
Stryker
No. How many is rocks? What are you talking about here?
53:50
Drew
It's like a gravel road.
53:52
Stryker
How many rocks are you talking about?
53:53
Caller
Like three, four.
53:57
Stryker
In each testy?
54:00
Caller
Yeah.
54:01
Stryker
Oh, right. Please. What?
54:03
Drew
Drew, hold on. Let me talk for a second.
54:05
Stryker
He's not describing something that occurs in nature. But if you have any question, I'll have somebody feel them who knows what they're looking for.
54:11
Drew
Eric?
54:12
Caller
Yes?
54:13
Drew
Is your mind just playing tricks on you because your condom broke?
54:18
Caller
Well, maybe. I don't know what's going on, but I mean, I'm there, I'm there, I'm there.
54:21
Stryker
All right. We'll get somebody to look at it. It doesn't make sense. I mean, Rock and the testy is cancer. And let's also take care of this young lady who you had sex with and be sure she doesn't get pregnant. Emergency contraception within 72 hours.
54:35
Caller
I didn't like condom. I'd like to switch condoms before that happened.
54:39
Stryker
Good for you. You put another condom on.
54:41
Caller
Yeah.
54:43
Drew
Nice.
54:44
Stryker
Well, this has nothing to do with having had sex.
54:46
Adam
Very responsible. Love you.
54:47
Stryker
Definitely.
54:48
Drew
And Eric, Drew can't see your nuts from here even though you're fairly close to us. Go see a doctor if it's very much worrying you and then you'll be fine. All right, Samantha, you're 15 on Loveline with Shawnee Smith from the TV show Becker.
55:03
Caller
Hello?
55:03
Drew
Yes, Samantha. That's you. Go ahead.
55:05
Caller
I'm 16, but that's okay. All right. Dr., I have a question for you. I've been having sex for six months now.
55:11
Drew
Oh my God. What does your mother say?
55:13
Caller
Well, I have to have a physical this summer before school starts. I'm all worried that she's going to find out or like, is there any way I can hide it from a doctor or not have anyone find out?
55:25
Stryker
Well, if they don't do a pelvic exam, they certainly definitely won't know then.
55:29
Caller
I know, but what if they have to do one? There's no way I can do anything.
55:32
Stryker
How is that going to be determined whether you have to have one or not?
55:35
Caller
Well, don't they make you or you can say no?
55:39
Drew
You're going to want to have one if you're sexually.
55:41
Stryker
Yeah, this is what I want to get into. I want her to understand that she's going to actually have to ask for this probably because most 15-year-olds probably wouldn't normally get a pelvic exam at a routine physical. However, you need one. You're sexually active. You've got to get one. That means it's important for your health care, for you. If you're old enough and responsible to be having sex, you've got to be also able to handle the responsibility of your own health and well-being that goes along with this, which means talking to your doctor about it, getting the past mirrors. Young women are the ones that get cervical cancer. Your risk of cervical cancer goes up. The earlier you start, the more partners you have. So it's important. And you have a right to confidential health care. If you tell your doctor something in confidence, he can't tell your parents.
56:27
Drew
Just ride the bus to the doctor. How old is the guy you're having sex with?
56:31
Caller
Oh, he's 16, just like me.
56:32
Drew
Okay, there you go.
56:33
Caller
And he's my only partner and we've been going out for a long time.
56:37
Drew
Make sure he wears a condom.
56:38
Caller
Yeah, he does.
56:38
Drew
And fasten your seatbelt. And make sure you feel as testes for rocks. Okay, bye bye.
56:43
Caller
Bye.
56:44
Drew
Alright, 1-800-LOVE-191 is the number. I'm Stryker for Ace Rockolla with Dr. Drew and Shawnee Smith from the TV show, Becker. Hey, how's old Ted Danson doing?
56:53
Adam
Ted Danson is a cool dude.
56:56
Drew
Rich.
56:57
Adam
Yeah, very rich.
56:59
Drew
Is he still married to Mary Steenburgen, Kathy, whatever her name is?
57:03
Adam
Yeah, she's pretty hot.
57:04
Drew
Is she ever? I saw her on Parenthood the other night on cable.
57:07
Adam
Yeah.
57:07
Stryker
Take care of my business.
57:09
Drew
She, I don't know, which one was she?
57:12
Adam
She was the parent.
57:13
Stryker
She was, was it Steve, Steve Martin's?
57:15
Drew
Steve Martin's lady.
57:16
Stryker
His wife.
57:17
Drew
Yeah, exactly.
57:17
Adam
You know, Harold and...
57:19
Drew
Mudd?
57:20
Adam
No.
57:21
Drew
No? Matt, you're on Loveline, you're 18, what's up?
57:24
Caller
Yeah, I wanted to talk to, about my prom, that was...
57:28
Stryker
Well, go, go.
57:29
Caller
Okay, I took my best friend and she doesn't live near me at all. She lives probably about a hundred miles away.
57:35
Drew
To prom, you took her?
57:36
Caller
Yes.
57:37
Drew
Okay.
57:37
Caller
Okay, and I've wanted to take her for about a year now, since I met her.
57:41
Stryker
Wait, she, wait, now hold on. She's your good friend?
57:45
Drew
Best friend.
57:46
Caller
Yeah, she's my good friend.
57:47
Stryker
How did this friendship...
57:49
Caller
I tell her things that nobody else knows.
57:51
Stryker
How did this friendship develop?
57:52
Caller
I met her at a diving meet.
57:54
Stryker
A diving meet?
57:55
Caller
Yes.
57:55
Stryker
And you were into her.
57:56
Drew
He's the... hang on, the tallow boy, are you?
57:59
No, I was diving too.
58:01
Stryker
Okay, so you were into her. You wanted to have a relationship with her.
58:04
Caller
At the beginning, yeah.
58:05
Stryker
Yeah, and then she would have none of that.
58:07
Caller
Yeah. Right. Well, it's not like...
58:10
Stryker
Hey, Matt, that's the way this works. It always starts out with somebody is into it, and then somebody accepts the unfortunate reality, and accepts friendship.
58:20
Caller
Okay.
58:20
Stryker
Especially when it's a guy accepting that it's really extra painful.
58:24
Drew
So what happened on prom? You took her to the prom. Did you make a move?
58:27
Caller
No.
58:28
Stryker
You've been dying to take her to the prom, but it finally gets her there. Now you're having this idealized experience. You're really just rubbing salt in your wounds, Matt. She doesn't want a relationship.
58:37
Caller
Oh, I know that, but...
58:39
Adam
What happened? What's the problem?
58:42
Drew
Matt?
58:42
Caller
Hello?
58:43
Caller
Yeah.
58:43
Caller
I'm sorry, I'm here.
58:44
Drew
Let's go ahead.
58:44
Adam
So what happened?
58:46
Caller
Okay, well, like, we were dancing and everything, but she took her friend, too. No, that's a girl. And she was dancing pretty weird. She's what they call freaking.
58:57
Adam
Right.
58:57
Caller
And she was freaking, like, really bad.
59:00
Stryker
With her girlfriend?
59:00
Adam
This is serious. Is she on medication?
59:03
Caller
No.
59:04
Stryker
With her girlfriend?
59:05
Caller
Yeah.
59:06
Drew
So, hold on, you brought her to the prom and then your friend that's a girl brought...
59:10
Caller
Like, friends, friends. They're not like lesbians or anything.
59:13
Stryker
Yeah, but you had a date and she brought a date? I mean, she brought a friend?
59:16
Caller
No, she brought her friend. My friend went with her.
59:19
Adam
Okay, his friend went with her friend.
59:21
Caller
Yeah.
59:22
Drew
Got it. So, they double dated. Yeah.
59:23
Caller
And they were dancing like I wasn't even there.
59:26
Drew
So, yeah, of course, because they didn't want to dance with you.
59:29
Caller
Yeah. Oh, no.
59:31
Adam
They wanted to freaking turn on the guy that they've liked for a year.
59:35
Caller
Yeah.
59:35
Stryker
No, she didn't.
59:36
Caller
And like, I really didn't like her. Well, I did, but I never realized it.
59:44
Drew
Let me just say something, Matt. There are some hot swimmers out there, very nice swimmers, great bodies.
59:49
Caller
Yeah.
59:49
Drew
And this is just a stab in the dark. And all you female swimmers, don't throw tomatoes at me. I think she could be a lesbian. I'm serious.
59:57
Caller
She has a boyfriend. Oh, and that's another thing.
59:59
Drew
Oh, Jesus, Matt. What?
1:00:00
Caller
Okay. She's going out with this one guy. And that never, ever bothered me before. But like she said that she's going out with this Hispanic guy. And I was totally joking around. And I said, well, what gang is he in? She's all, oh, some gang called SK. And I was like, what? I was like, why are you going out with somebody like that? You could get somebody so much better than that.
1:00:21
Drew
Uh, Matt, hold on one second.
1:00:23
Caller
Okay. Hold on.
1:00:24
Stryker
Another nice guy.
1:00:25
Drew
Man, I don't know if I can take any more of that, Dr. Drew.
1:00:28
Adam
I would have taken it. She's a lesbian and run. Of course, it's the only reason she wouldn't be attracted to me.
1:00:34
Stryker
I haven't heard his question.
1:00:35
Drew
Just to be fair to Matt, in 10 seconds, ask a question. Go ahead.
1:00:38
Caller
Okay. Well, I was wondering if I should tell her how badly she hurt me.
1:00:43
Stryker
By doing what?
1:00:44
Caller
I took it really bad.
1:00:45
Stryker
What? What did you take bad?
1:00:47
Caller
How she was totally ignoring me the whole night.
1:00:50
Drew
At the prom?
1:00:50
Caller
Yes.
1:00:51
Stryker
Well, I suppose you should. You should include in that your true feelings about what you really want from her, which I guess you've never really shared with her. And, yeah, you've liked her from the beginning.
1:01:03
Drew
I don't know. She doesn't even live in the same town.
1:01:05
Stryker
He's going to go off to college. She's not going to have any of this, but listen, they need to swear this. They really do. The friendship is a sham. It's him waiting in the brush for his opportunity to pounce. And when he does pounce, he's going to be on some rebound when she's going to break his heart again, make it even worse, and go after some gangbanger as opposed to nice Matt.
1:01:25
Drew
He's not really a gangbanger, though. Do you should date a shot putter? They're always good looking women. You seen the shot putters over at UCLA, Drake Field, Drew?
1:01:31
Stryker
No, not lately.
1:01:32
Drew
They are hot. Lisa, you're 30 on Loveline. Are you a shot putter?
1:01:38
Caller
No.
1:01:38
Drew
Okay, go ahead. What's your question?
1:01:39
Caller
No. Even though I was sexually abused as a child by my stepdad for about seven years, I never thought that it had an effect on me.
1:01:47
Stryker
Well, it always does.
1:01:49
Caller
Well, yeah. The past couple years, I've been thinking that it does. Because I've always been kind of shy, and I haven't really been forward as far as sexual advances goes. And I've always stayed away from the doggie style position and going down on a guy. I know those are two things that my stepdad always did to me and made me perform on him.
1:02:14
Stryker
Wonderful. Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.
1:02:17
Caller
Yeah. But the past couple years, the boyfriend...
1:02:20
Stryker
What a wonderful man your stepfather must have been. I just wish him the best. He should rot in hell.
1:02:26
Drew
Put this down. Shoot this guy.
1:02:29
Stryker
But listen, so you feel guilty for not being able to engage in those two acts with your current partner?
1:02:37
Caller
Yeah. And I feel like when I do, I do it for him. And then afterwards, I feel like I was used...
1:02:43
Stryker
Don't do it. You shouldn't do it. Listen.
1:02:45
Caller
And I don't know how to tell him that that's how I feel. How old are you? I'm thirty.
1:02:49
Stryker
Does he know you were sexually abused?
1:02:51
Caller
No. We were going out two months. And I don't really know how to bring it up, but...
1:02:54
Stryker
You've got to find a way. I think it's unrealistic to think that you could comfortably engage in those acts that were so awful.
1:03:02
Caller
Will I ever be able to? Because I'm trying.
1:03:05
Stryker
You're doing a great job and I understand that you're trying to please your partner and all, but certainly not until you've been in a comfortable relationship, a very safe, loving relationship for a long time, and then you might try it gently with someone who understands what it means to you. But as it is, why put yourself through that? Why?
1:03:22
Drew
You're going to have to really get close to this person.
1:03:24
Stryker
The fact that you're able to have a relationship with men at all is extraordinary. That you have stable relationships is extraordinary. Count your blessings. Don't keep pushing it.
1:03:33
Drew
All right, Lisa?
1:03:34
Caller
Do you think I should tell him?
1:03:36
Stryker
Not at two months. It's too early. Yes, it's too early.
1:03:39
Adam
Yeah, you don't want to trust somebody with that information.
1:03:42
Stryker
Everybody has preferences and you just have to tell them, this is, I don't enjoy this.
1:03:46
Adam
I'm not into it.
1:03:47
Stryker
Yeah, I'm not into this, I'm not into this, and that's fine. If he can't accept that, you know you may not have the right guy here.
1:03:52
Adam
Right.
1:03:53
Drew
How old did she sound, Shawnee, age-wise?
1:03:56
Adam
Like, 14.
1:03:57
Drew
Exactly, because, Drew, why?
1:03:59
Stryker
She was sexually abused.
1:04:00
Drew
Most girls sexually abused from me listening and being on here sound, if they're 25, sound 13.
1:04:06
Stryker
They see, we can actually hear the age at which the trauma was initiated. You can actually tell just by the voice. You listen to the voices, we can pick that up.
1:04:14
Drew
It's scary. All right, 1-800-LOVE-191. And by the way, to the guy that should feel that had the rocks in his nuts, listen to Tom Green, man. What are you pointing at, Dr. Drew?
1:04:23
Stryker
I want to take a call, too. What if this is accurate?
1:04:26
Drew
What's that?
1:04:27
Stryker
You have a 7-year-old on hold.
1:04:28
Drew
I can't even grab the call.
1:04:29
Stryker
Hold on, let me see. I want it on hold immediately.
1:04:31
Drew
Put number 2 on hold.
1:04:32
Stryker
Oh, 17. Forget it. Let's go.
1:04:34
Number 7.
1:04:35
Drew
A 7-year-old is calling. Hi, I'm 7 and I have a penis. All right, Sarah, you're 21. What's up?
1:04:42
Caller
Yeah, probably about a year ago, I moved to Seattle. I had been adopted when I was about 3, and I just met my biological father, and I decided to move up here. Well, when I moved up here, I had quit smoking pot and what not, and after that, I started having nightmares and just different things about my past. I've had a pretty messed up past.
1:05:11
Stryker
Like what?
1:05:13
Caller
Like having been molested for about 3 or 4 years.
1:05:17
Stryker
From when to when?
1:05:19
Caller
About 4 to 7, 4 to 8.
1:05:22
Stryker
You said you moved to Seattle and then started smoking pot?
1:05:24
Caller
No, I had been smoking pot for something like 3 years, and then I moved to Seattle.
1:05:28
Adam
When you stopped smoking pot, you started having these?
1:05:31
Caller
When I started having these nightmares, and I'm curious.
1:05:34
Stryker
Oh yeah, it will screw with your sleep for about 6 months. Big time.
1:05:38
Caller
It's been a year though. Oh, that's not pie. Yeah, so that's not very good. And I'm wondering too if it's just maybe the stress of having met my biological father. You know.
1:05:50
Stryker
Well, it's, I mean.
1:05:53
Caller
What?
1:05:54
Stryker
It's really hard to say what's what here. You had some major, major traumas. You've just mentioned that you've moved, you've met your biological father, you've gone on and off drugs. That's a hell of a lot going on here. I'm thinking I'm working up to a nightmare right now just hearing your story.
1:06:10
Drew
What are you dreaming about, Sarah?
1:06:11
Stryker
There's a lot more. I have no doubt. So why don't you sort of get some help with all this?
1:06:18
Caller
The thing is that I'm kind of afraid to. Basically, what set it all off was when I was about 15, I was going to this church, I'd been baptized and everything. I was a straight A student, played sports and everything. When this thing happened at my church, I was almost 16 at the time.
1:06:39
Stryker
What thing?
1:06:41
Caller
Like I had a sexual encounter with my youth pastor.
1:06:46
Stryker
Nice.
1:06:47
Caller
And after that, everything kind of went down the drain for me.
1:06:52
Stryker
Well, it just reopened all of those old...
1:06:53
Adam
Jesus loves me this I know.
1:06:55
Stryker
Nightmares! But this is how that works, right? You find those people find you, you find them and pow, you're back right where you were when you were four. Get some help, Sarah. That's the bottom line. These dreams are the least of our concerns about you. The dreams are just a symptom of all the turmoil, chaos and trauma you've been through. Get some help with it so you can do better.
1:07:13
Drew
Man, I've been hosting this show quite a few times with you now for the past couple of years. This is the most molestation calls we've ever had.
1:07:20
Stryker
Really? It just seems routine to me.
1:07:22
Drew
Oh my God! Alright, we need to take a quick break. We'll speak to Annie in a minute. And we don't know if she's been molested, but she masturbates a lot. And I hear the word masturbation and I know Shani gets happy. So we'll speak to her right after this on Loveline.
1:07:41
Loveline back in a minute.
1:07:44
Drew
Yep, we're back. It's Loveline. I am Stryker, Ted, middle name Ramon and for Ace Rockolla, my main man Mayonnaise who's doing something with the movie right now. Dr. Drew is- That's where our Snoop Dogg Calvin brought us. Dr. Drew is outside of the room right now. Shawnee Smith is hanging out from the TV show Becker, which is on when? Monday nights?
1:08:04
Adam
Yes, Monday nights at 9.30.
1:08:06
Drew
Which character do you play?
1:08:08
Adam
I'm the loopy nurses assistant named Linda.
1:08:11
Drew
Really? Was it a hard process getting that role or just the normals? You audition, they bring you back, they bring you back again and you're in? Was it one of those?
1:08:19
Adam
Yeah, a couple of sexual favors, you know, I had to film- no, yeah. No, I had to audition like five times. Wow.
1:08:32
Drew
Good for you. And is your role good? You like playing that?
1:08:36
Adam
I love my role. I like we have summer hiatus is from March to August and like I miss her. I miss Linda.
1:08:45
Drew
Right.
1:08:46
Adam
She's like a chick I would like to be friends with.
1:08:49
Drew
Friends?
1:08:51
Adam
Yeah. You say that like you'd like to imagine more.
1:08:54
Drew
I don't know. I'm a guy and I'm sitting in the Loveline thing. So, you're also in a band $5.00 Hode. Do you like music or are they acting better?
1:09:03
Adam
They're very different although they complement each other. Music is a bit more. I mean the only reason I play music is because I get lost in it and it's like probably the most deeply personal experience which is why I like to go listen to it and then when you're playing and you're getting off and your audience is getting off it's like you know pretty much nirvana but you know acting is a bit more precarious but you do get to pretend you're someone else which is some you know fun time sometimes.
1:09:32
Drew
Okay please don't use the word precarious around me. Who are some of your favorite bands now or all time?
1:09:39
Adam
Well, PJ Harvey, please, please.
1:09:42
Drew
Alright, I'm sorry I'll step back.
1:09:45
Adam
Bjork, Shirley Horn, Helmet, so sad they're not together.
1:09:51
Caller
Radiohead.
1:09:52
Adam
Radiohead.
1:09:53
Drew
Alright, Nirvana?
1:09:55
Adam
Well, yeah.
1:09:56
Drew
Okay, good, very good. They're my favorite all time band.
1:09:58
Adam
Such a loss.
1:09:59
Drew
Nirvana is.
1:10:00
Adam
Such a loss. But we still have Courtney.
1:10:03
Drew
Yes we do. Anyway, Dave Grohl and her really get along. Annie.
1:10:08
Caller
Hey.
1:10:08
Drew
What's up, you're 16 on Loveline.
1:10:10
Caller
Yeah, this might be pretty astonishing to you right now, but I have never been sexually molested. Yeah. That's a new one for the night, huh?
1:10:20
Drew
It is. Man, we had so many of those in a row.
1:10:22
Caller
And I just seem to rack them up tonight.
1:10:24
Drew
Seriously. And if you're just in here filling in, and that's what you get like five in a row, it's very, it's really weird sitting here and hearing that over and over.
1:10:32
Adam
Yeah. And isn't it great timing since the doctor's out of the room?
1:10:36
Drew
Yeah. Drew, you're not allowed to speak right now. All right, Annie, what's going on with you? Okay.
1:10:40
Caller
Well, my question is, actually it is kind of for Dr. Drew, because he's the addiction medicine specialist.
1:10:46
Drew
Yes, he is.
1:10:46
Adam
Oh, God, isn't he?
1:10:48
Caller
My question is, like, I've been masturbating, not even kidding, since I was like seven, eight.
1:10:54
Stryker
And I just, you know, it's an abnormal thing for me. Just after you were sexually abused or just?
1:10:58
Drew
God, you come in here, you start yapping, and you shut up, Drew?
1:11:01
Caller
God.
1:11:01
Stryker
What's that, Annie?
1:11:02
Caller
He missed that.
1:11:03
Stryker
What's that? I missed what?
1:11:04
Caller
I've never been sexually abused, ever.
1:11:06
When did your dad rape you?
1:11:07
Stryker
Is there a bipolar illness in your family?
1:11:10
Caller
Nope.
1:11:12
Caller
Seriously, I'm like perfect. Listen to this, I go to a really good school.
1:11:16
I've never had any problems at all.
1:11:18
Caller
The only medication I'm on is for acne, tetracycline. That's it. And I've only been on that a year. I have really high self-esteem. I have a lot of friends, and I, you know?
1:11:29
Adam
What's the problem?
1:11:30
Caller
It's not messed up. It's not-
1:11:31
Stryker
Why are you calling?
1:11:32
Caller
What?
1:11:32
Stryker
Why are you calling?
1:11:33
Drew
Five orgasms a day at 16, Drew?
1:11:35
Stryker
Well, five orgasms are five separate masturbatory episodes.
1:11:39
Caller
Kind of both.
1:11:41
Stryker
I don't understand how it can be kind of both.
1:11:42
Caller
Um, because I'll masturbate about six or seven times a day, and I'll get about six or seven orgasms every time I do it.
1:11:49
Stryker
And you've been doing it since you were five?
1:11:50
Caller
No, seven.
1:11:51
Stryker
Seven. And there was no- Every day. Nothing-
1:11:55
Adam
No lull anywhere in there?
1:11:58
Caller
Well, um, I won't do it, like, consistently in a row, but I'll, um, spread it out, I mean, but I'll do it-
1:12:04
Adam
But daily?
1:12:05
Caller
Yeah.
1:12:05
Drew
Does it- Does it interfere with schooling or sports or anything like that that you do? No. Well, is that a problem, then?
1:12:12
Caller
I do a lot of sports. I do soccer and water polo and-
1:12:15
Stryker
Well, it all sounds good, but, uh-
1:12:17
Adam
That sounds really good.
1:12:18
Stryker
She's gonna make somebody very happy. But, but, uh, be that as it may, um, I don't quite buy it. where there was nothing super arousing happened in your childhood, no- no physical abuse or big accident.
1:12:30
Caller
No. No one's ever, like, abused me in any way at all. In any way. In any way. I mean, no.
1:12:38
Stryker
You mean what?
1:12:39
Caller
Well, like, no, like, nothing I can think of that would be out of the absolute ordinary or nothing.
1:12:44
Stryker
Well, give me an example of ordinary.
1:12:46
Caller
Well, ordinary would be like, I mean, like, scolding when you're little.
1:12:48
I mean, no one-
1:12:49
Caller
but no one ever hit me.
1:12:50
No one ever-
1:12:51
Stryker
No one picked up a stick and smacked you or something.
1:12:53
Caller
No, never.
1:12:54
Adam
Is it normal to give yourself orgasms at seven?
1:12:57
Stryker
Mmm, it can happen.
1:12:59
Adam
I was doing that.
1:12:59
Caller
But when I need to be, I don't like- it's not like I stick my fingers up over anything. No, I understand. It's just rubbing, you know?
1:13:04
Stryker
Yeah, yeah, I understand.
1:13:05
Adam
Yeah. Just the good part.
1:13:06
Stryker
Yeah.
1:13:07
Drew
Have you had sex before?
1:13:09
Only once and it was only like in January, February.
1:13:13
Adam
Must have been so disappointing.
1:13:14
Caller
Yeah, and I never did after that.
1:13:16
Stryker
That was enough.
1:13:17
Drew
No, because you have built yourself up for nine years and no one is ever going to match you. So, seriously, Annie, if you don't slow down a little bit, most men you're going to be with or maybe all, at least until you're in your thirties or something, are not going to satisfy you like you can satisfy yourself.
1:13:33
Caller
And that's what I'm kind of afraid of.
1:13:35
Adam
Oh, no.
1:13:35
Caller
I know.
1:13:37
Caller
But is there any way I can change it so that, you know, that part feels better than what I'm doing?
1:13:41
Adam
Something's not sitting right with Dr. Drew.
1:13:43
Stryker
No, I'm coming around with it. What do you mean make what part better? Understand.
1:13:48
Caller
I mean, there's different, I mean, like, there's different parts, right? Because you can either just, like, rub right there, or you can, like, go up and, you know?
1:13:55
Stryker
Right, right, right, right. And what's your question?
1:13:57
Caller
Is, is that going to change? Can I change it where I get pleasure from?
1:14:02
Stryker
You'll sort of figure it out more as you go along.
1:14:05
Drew
Go about a quarter of an inch in and up, and you'll feel a little rough.
1:14:08
Stryker
Yeah, and the important thing is for your partner.
1:14:09
Adam
Oh, very good.
1:14:10
Caller
Thank you.
1:14:11
Adam
I'm impressed.
1:14:12
Drew
That's why they bring me in, baby.
1:14:14
Stryker
Your partner's got to figure all this out. And see, I, again, there's no behavior attached to this that is destructive or...
1:14:22
Caller
Well, no, the only thing I could...
1:14:24
Caller
I've kind of left this out.
1:14:25
Caller
The only thing is, like, whenever... sometimes when I do it, like, it's not... it's never all the time, but sometimes when I do it, like, I'm feeling, like, gross, whatever I'm feeling, kind of, like, I don't know, like, I've never been anorexic or anything like that, but I feel fat, you know?
1:14:38
Adam
We'll do that.
1:14:39
Caller
And I don't know what that's attached to, but that's the only thing that's ever been weird about it.
1:14:44
Adam
Are you overweight?
1:14:45
Caller
No, not at all.
1:14:46
Drew
She swims and plays soccer when you're fat.
1:14:48
Caller
I'm 5'2, and I weigh 108, 110.
1:14:52
Stryker
You'll feel fat? What do you mean?
1:14:54
Caller
Like, you know, like, I'll look in the mirror and I'll feel fat, and then just like, I feel bloated or something like that, and I'll just masturbate and make you feel better.
1:15:05
Stryker
Just a way of avoiding that unpleasant feeling?
1:15:08
Caller
Yeah. I'm fat.
1:15:11
Adam
Or you get like, she just gets her sexual energy going.
1:15:15
Stryker
Yeah, people sexualize feelings and then they use sex as a way of managing feelings.
1:15:20
Caller
Yeah, it's kind of like making me feel better about myself or something like that. That's the only thing I could think of.
1:15:24
Stryker
Yeah. So, all right. Well, you have our blessing.
1:15:26
Drew
You said it all right to me.
1:15:27
Stryker
Yeah. We have no complaints.
1:15:29
Drew
And if you're down in LA when you're 18, give me a call. My name is Stryker, by the way. It's with a Y. Okay. Let's go to Sarah. You're 20 on Loveline. What's up?
1:15:41
Caller
Hi. My name is Sarah. I've been a sexual actor since I was 18. And I've done oral sex like off and on with my partners. And yesterday I gave oral sex to one of my partners with one of the guys I'm fooling around and he wanted me to swallow, which I let them come in my mouth but I wouldn't swallow. And then yesterday was my first time doing that and I started throwing up and then I swallowed. I was throwing up until today. I've been throwing up.
1:16:11
Stryker
How long ago did this happen?
1:16:12
Caller
Just last night.
1:16:13
Stryker
And you've been vomiting overnight?
1:16:15
Caller
Like when I got, I was throwing, I threw up when I swallowed it.
1:16:18
Stryker
You did swallow. Is it gross you out? Is that what happened or?
1:16:21
Caller
It was just nasty because I never pictured myself doing that. I don't mind doing like having them come in my mouth and I'll spit it out but.
1:16:28
Stryker
All right so.
1:16:29
Adam
You just don't swallow again.
1:16:31
Stryker
Yeah don't do that.
1:16:32
Caller
Is it, but is it bad? Because I heard like some of my friends, I heard that they've done it and they just had to get their stomach pumped and.
1:16:38
Caller
What?
1:16:39
Caller
They told me all these crazy stuff.
1:16:41
Stryker
Yes crazy.
1:16:42
Drew
They were performing oral sex on a gasoline tank. So that's what happened.
1:16:47
Stryker
Drano.
1:16:48
Caller
Yeah because he told me that he wanted, he wanted to know how it feels because we haven't had sex because I'm too terrified to have sex with it because he's this.
1:16:56
Drew
Sarah, Sarah, some girls from my experience, not a lot, but some girls like to swallow it and some absolutely do not and will not. The ones that like it, man do they crave that like I crave ice cream. But the ones that don't like, what? I've met people.
1:17:12
Stryker
Is there actually women that ask the girl right there?
1:17:14
Drew
That actually crave that disgusting experience?
1:17:18
Adam
I would hate to break that myth.
1:17:20
Stryker
Yeah, exactly. If they want to make you believe, that's what they want.
1:17:24
Drew
But they had me believing since the late age.
1:17:26
Adam
Women are usually a few steps ahead.
1:17:29
Stryker
Yeah, absolutely.
1:17:31
Drew
You guys just put me in place.
1:17:33
Stryker
I mean, think about it. How could they possibly?
1:17:35
Adam
Not that you guys aren't easy to read.
1:17:37
Caller
Yeah, and that's another thing. He told me I was his first, giving him oral. And I felt like I felt like honored sort of.
1:17:44
Caller
I know it's not that cool.
1:17:46
Drew
Your trophies in the mail.
1:17:48
Caller
And he told me that he wanted to make he wanted some part of him to be inside. But I was like, that's gross. And then I just did it. And then I felt sick. And I don't want to do it again.
1:17:58
Drew
Well, don't do it again.
1:17:59
Caller
That's how I tell him.
1:18:01
Drew
Just tell him you'll get it in the mouth and you'll spit in the cup. You'll freeze it. And he can have it as a lot.
1:18:06
Stryker
He'll be fine.
1:18:07
Caller
I said Eskimo, like my friend Tommy.
1:18:09
Stryker
What is that?
1:18:11
Caller
The guy comes in your mouth and you pretend to want it and kiss him and pass it into his mouth.
1:18:16
Drew
That is actually called a snowball.
1:18:18
Caller
Oh, there you go.
1:18:19
Drew
Snowball, not an Eskimo. It's a snowball.
1:18:21
Stryker
What are you hanging out with?
1:18:23
Caller
My God.
1:18:24
Adam
I say just blurt it out the next time you got it in your mouth.
1:18:27
Stryker
The whole idea for the guy is just don't break his stride. He doesn't care what you do with it. You know what I'm saying?
1:18:33
Caller
Yeah, of course.
1:18:34
Drew
So that is a snowball when it's in the mouth and you get, do you know what a strawberry shortcake is?
1:18:39
Stryker
No.
1:18:39
Drew
Do you want to know?
1:18:40
Stryker
No.
1:18:40
Drew
You don't want to know?
1:18:41
Adam
I don't even know that.
1:18:42
Drew
Alright, I'm not going to tell you.
1:18:43
Adam
Strawberry shortcake.
1:18:44
Drew
If someone wants to know, you can call Loveline and I'll tell you because it's good. Alright, I think we've got to take a break. We're taking another call real quick. Let's take just a quick call here. Chris?
1:18:55
Yeah.
1:18:56
Drew
You're from 19 years old. What's up, dude?
1:19:00
Yeah, I went to my dad's wedding a couple weeks ago.
1:19:04
Drew
Right.
1:19:04
And a couple nights before his wedding day, he was out with a couple of his friends and I was just staying at home. Well, his fiance was there. And we had a few drinks and-
1:19:16
Stryker
Oh, come on.
1:19:18
Drew
Yeah, you had a few drinks, right?
1:19:20
And we exchanged oral sex.
1:19:22
Stryker
You exchanged it. Where were you when this happened?
1:19:26
At my house.
1:19:27
Caller
Where?
1:19:28
This is in California.
1:19:29
Stryker
Where in the house?
1:19:31
In the living room, actually.
1:19:32
Stryker
The living room.
1:19:33
Drew
Now, what do you mean you had drinks together? She- you're 19, I'm sure you've had drinks before, but she just said, hey, you want to have drinks, Chris?
1:19:40
Caller
No, it was like I was sitting there watching TV, having a beer and then she was having a beer and then we broke out with the liquor and-
1:19:47
Stryker
You have a TV in your living room? Yeah. And they broke out the liquor again. And this is an adult with a 19-year-old?
1:19:53
Adam
Well, the 19-year-old's already drinking a beer on the couch like it's normal.
1:19:57
Caller
Yeah, it's really no big deal with my parents.
1:20:01
Drew
Was she any good at it?
1:20:03
Caller
Yeah, she was.
1:20:04
Adam
I mean, let's get to what's really important.
1:20:07
Caller
I want to know, how do I confront my father about this?
1:20:10
Drew
Do not confront your father with this.
1:20:11
Stryker
That's why we know you're BSing. Why would you even- why would- anybody who went through this kind of experience would be trying to figure out how to make sure his father did not find out about it.
1:20:20
Adam
Never found out.
1:20:21
Caller
But I feel like totally guilty because he just talks about her like she's God.
1:20:26
Drew
Live with it Chris, live with it. Never tell him.
1:20:29
Stryker
Find a way to get him to see who she really is, if that's the case.
1:20:33
Caller
Okay.
1:20:34
Adam
I'm sure he's getting something out of it.
1:20:36
Caller
Okay.
1:20:37
Stryker
I mean, he's a grown up, it's his choice. Stay away from this woman, never be alone with her again. And keep other people away, you know, keep friends away. And try to find a way to sort of blow her cover.
1:20:50
Drew
Actually, Chris, is that the first time that you've done anything with her? Has she hinted at it in previous times?
1:20:56
Caller
That's the first time anything like that has happened with her.
1:20:59
Drew
Alright. Well, just as Drew said, don't stay in the same room with her because who knows what will happen and don't tell your father.
1:21:05
Stryker
I believe she's not going to.
1:21:07
Caller
Alright.
1:21:08
Drew
Cool, man.
1:21:08
Caller
Thanks.
1:21:09
Stryker
Have fun.
1:21:10
Drew
Alright. Let's take one, no, let's take a break. Alright. And just a second, we'll speak to Lynn. Let's see, her husband in three years. Oh, her husband only lasts two minutes. Sixty seconds longer than me and I've never been with her. Alright, I'm Stryker in For Ace Rockolla with Dr. Drew and Shawnee Smith is here from the TV show Becker. More Loveline after this. She paints her nails. All right, what's going on? It's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. Stryker in for Adam Corolla, who's gone for the next couple of days. I think The Living End is coming in here on Wednesday. Great punk band from Australia. And Dr. Drew here, and Shawnee Smith from Becker.
1:21:56
Stryker
I get kind of scared when punk bands come in here.
1:21:58
Drew
Now, these guys are cool. They're from Australia. They'll drink you under the table.
1:22:01
Stryker
Pennywise was cool, too, but I still get freaked out.
1:22:05
Drew
Pennywise is the best new song, by the way, F Authority. Guys from Pennywise, if you're listening down there, what's going on? Shawnee Smith from Becker's here, also in the band Five Dollar Ho.
1:22:14
Adam
Yes, we'll be playing at the gig on Melrose on the 31st of this month. FYI, Mike Galaxy presents at 9.30.
1:22:22
Drew
Going on at 9.30?
1:22:24
Adam
Yes, for all the old people who need to get to bed early.
1:22:29
Drew
So go see her playing in her band. All right, this is very important here. Christy?
1:22:33
Yes.
1:22:34
Drew
You're 26 on Loveline.
1:22:36
Caller
Yeah, I was wanting to know the answer to the, well, Strawberry Shortcake.
1:22:41
Drew
A Strawberry Shortcake is the following. Well, we found out what the snowball was. The Strawberry Shortcake, Drew has his head on the microphone.
1:22:49
Caller
Sorry, Drew.
1:22:50
Stryker
I'm just going to start reciting the alphabet. A, B, C, D, G.
1:22:54
Drew
Can you turn off the numbers? All right, a Strawberry Shortcake is when the man ejaculates. Oh God, this is so bad. Mom and dad, I'm so sorry.
1:23:03
Stryker
Don't worry, they're so proud of that.
1:23:05
Drew
They're sleeping with their brand new pug that they just rescued. Okay, it's when the man ejaculates on the woman's face and punches her in the nose.
1:23:11
Caller
Oh, nice.
1:23:15
Caller
Oh my God.
1:23:17
Stryker
You had to ask, Christy.
1:23:19
Caller
Yeah, and a female would go for that.
1:23:22
Caller
Why?
1:23:22
Drew
No, guys never do that to the girls. Just an expression. I got one more for you.
1:23:27
Stryker
I'm not sure it had something to do with menstrual flow.
1:23:29
Drew
Do you know what a dirty Sanchez is?
1:23:31
Adam
No, I didn't even go there.
1:23:33
Drew
It's when a man, or you can do it vice versa, you put the finger up the butt and then wipe the mustache.
1:23:41
Stryker
Unacceptable. Stryker, you are one disgusting ass.
1:23:45
Caller
I'm sorry.
1:23:47
Caller
Okay, see, and I was thinking the strawberry shortcake thing was kind of a long thing.
1:23:50
Adam
I can see the gleam in his eye right now as he's describing this.
1:23:53
Drew
I'm so happy. Christy, have fun in Phoenix, okay? And say hi to Jason Kidd out there. Okay, bye-bye.
1:24:00
Adam
Bye.
1:24:00
Drew
Oh, man. Beautiful. All right, now let's go to Lynn. Lynn, 24 on Loveline. Hello.
1:24:07
Caller
Hi.
1:24:07
Caller
Hi.
1:24:09
Caller
Okay, well, me and my husband have been married for like three years, and he can't seem to last for anything. And I don't like him to go down on me because I'm just not comfortable with that. And-
1:24:21
Adam
What the hell's the matter with you?
1:24:23
Caller
Oh, well-
1:24:24
Adam
Not comfortable with him going down on you?
1:24:32
Stryker
Be careful, Lynn.
1:24:33
Adam
This is getting rough. No, I just don't want you to deprive yourself. That's one of the joys of being a woman.
1:24:39
Caller
Well, okay, well, not to sound like I'm going with the trend, but I was molested when I was younger. So I'm just really, really not comfortable with anyone going down there. And plus the whole kissing afterwards, that's kind of disgusting.
1:24:55
Drew
Well, you're married to them.
1:24:56
Caller
Well, yeah, but if I was meant to taste myself, I think God would have made me so I could bend down and taste myself.
1:25:02
Drew
Hey, if I could do that, I'd never leave home. Let me tell you.
1:25:07
Caller
But I was just wondering, cause we've tried everything from like the sprays, to Nomet and the-
1:25:13
Stryker
Nomet what?
1:25:14
Caller
His penis.
1:25:15
Drew
So it doesn't ejaculate so fast.
1:25:17
Caller
No, please.
1:25:18
Caller
Cockering, condoms, everything. We even tried the masturbating before and nothing worked.
1:25:28
Adam
Are you okay with him touching you down there?
1:25:30
Caller
Oh, yeah.
1:25:31
Stryker
How about him using Viagra to sustain an erection? Something like that.
1:25:35
Caller
Viagra?
1:25:35
Caller
Yeah.
1:25:37
Caller
Wasn't that for old guys?
1:25:38
Stryker
Well, it's better for that, but it seems like you guys have tried so much that there's sort of two medication interventions that we earlier talked about this and we've all gone on record saying, gee, we hate to have you take medications for something like this and would prefer that he finds some way to sort of master his own sexual physiology, like masturbate more, do whatever, have sex a second time after he's already ejaculated. Something that allows him to control his physiology a little bit, but if you really truly can, people use the serotonin ramp, take inhibiting drugs like Prozac sometimes and or they might prescribe something like Viagra so the erection will go on after he ejaculates.
1:26:15
Caller
So then he does need to go to a doctor because he keeps telling me he wants to go to this Boston Medical Group and they're supposed to cure him with $150 and put him on medication and he's been being magically cured.
1:26:28
Stryker
Well there are things that they can do. Is this out in San Dimas? There's a group out there that specializes in this?
1:26:34
Caller
I have no idea. He found it on the Internet.
1:26:38
Drew
Internet's going down the tubes, baby.
1:26:40
Caller
I'm kind of leery of that. It makes me feel like it's me because every time we talk about him and past partners, it doesn't seem like he's ever had a problem.
1:26:49
Stryker
He's too turned on by you, Lynn. He's too into you.
1:26:53
Caller
How is that possible?
1:26:54
Drew
You should be flattered, Lynn.
1:26:55
Stryker
How is that possible?
1:26:57
Drew
Well, you know, unless it's as a youngster, married at 21, that's there you go.
1:27:01
Adam
Have you ever been to therapy about that, by the way?
1:27:05
Caller
Yeah, sort of. Not really.
1:27:07
Stryker
No, that's a no. Yeah.
1:27:10
Adam
Why don't you send him to the clinic and you can send yourself to the therapist?
1:27:15
Caller
Well, because I've talked to my therapist and me and her have decided that, you know, when I feel comfortable about dealing with it, then I'm going to deal with it. But for right now, I just like push it back to the back of my mind because it's just, it's really, really painful for me to think about it.
1:27:30
Stryker
There's something to that. I mean, containment is going to be...
1:27:32
Caller
Well, because it was from 11 to 15 and it's like, to me, it's like a phenomenal thing. But, I mean, to other people, it might not seem like that.
1:27:40
Stryker
All right.
1:27:41
Drew
Well, just, Lynn, take him, take him where Dr. Drew said to go, which was where again, Drew, will you tell her again?
1:27:46
Stryker
No, urologist or just his doctor. All right.
1:27:48
Drew
I have a question for Shawnee. If you are dating a man, if you're dating a man and he's not that great in the sack, does he have any chance of marrying you?
1:27:55
Adam
No.
1:27:56
Stryker
She wouldn't be dating him.
1:27:57
Adam
Exactly.
1:27:58
Drew
Well, that just seemed kind of odd to me with Lynn there. All right. Let's speak to good old Rob. Rob, you're 21 on Loveline.
1:28:05
Caller
Yeah. I just wanted to ask Shawnee a couple of questions.
1:28:09
Caller
What's up?
1:28:11
Caller
Basically, I mean, I love watching Yom Becker. I love your character.
1:28:15
Adam
Thank you.
1:28:17
Caller
Blonde doesn't do you right though.
1:28:18
Adam
I've heard that from several people.
1:28:21
Drew
You're talking about on top of her head, right?
1:28:23
Caller
Yeah, definitely. Basically, have you ever considered doing any pictorial magazines, Playboy, anything like that?
1:28:33
Stryker
The Down Boy.
1:28:35
Drew
He's all right.
1:28:36
Caller
It's all right.
1:28:37
Adam
Pictorial.
1:28:39
Caller
You've got a beautiful body.
1:28:41
Adam
Well, thank you very much. I just think that a little left of the imagination is always nice, but I will be at Maxim next month, so you can maybe get your rocks off and still have some left to your imaginations.
1:28:58
Caller
All right.
1:28:58
Adam
Maybe it'll be a good blending of the two for you.
1:29:02
Caller
Okay, thanks a lot.
1:29:03
Adam
Sure. Thank you.
1:29:04
Drew
Maxim magazine. You guys can see Shawnee on there.
1:29:07
Stryker
Happy Jacking.
1:29:07
Drew
Yeah. All right. Alan.
1:29:09
Caller
Yeah.
1:29:10
Drew
What's up? From Arizona again. You're 30.
1:29:13
Caller
Why don't you show me to repeat the website?
1:29:15
Drew
Your band website.
1:29:17
Adam
F as in Frank, Y, D as in dog, O, L, L, A, second word, H, O.
1:29:26
Caller
All righty.
1:29:27
Adam
So for the website, fightallahoe, alloneword.com.
1:29:30
Caller
I appreciate it.
1:29:31
Adam
I appreciate you asking.
1:29:32
Caller
Have a good one.
1:29:33
Adam
You too.
1:29:34
Drew
Hey, Baba.
1:29:35
Caller
Yeah, Baba.
1:29:37
Drew
What's going on?
1:29:38
Caller
Well, I'm 11 and I'm really, really trying hard to work out.
1:29:44
Stryker
Right.
1:29:44
Drew
You want a six-pack, I assume? Yeah. Yeah.
1:29:47
Caller
I already have arm muscles, but my sister says if I work out, it'll like shorten my growth.
1:29:53
Stryker
Well, is she a nurse or something?
1:29:55
Caller
Oh, no. It doesn't really short my growth. I'm just wondering.
1:29:58
Stryker
You don't want to over, you surely don't want to overwork out, but you can work out. But I'm much less concerned about you affecting your stature than I am about your overall mental health. There's something now evolving called an Adonis complex. I mean, 11 year olds obsessing about how they're built.
1:30:13
Caller
No, it's not that. I mean, the problem was that I was really fat when I was younger. And I'm just wondering if it's okay to work out.
1:30:25
Stryker
It's okay to exercise in a healthy way.
1:30:28
Caller
Yeah.
1:30:29
Stryker
Don't over exercise.
1:30:30
Caller
I don't over exercise. I just, I'm fine.
1:30:33
Stryker
Maybe consult with somebody at your school, get a training program together that somebody who understands these things puts together for you and make sure you don't do something unhealthy.
1:30:42
Drew
Best thing to do, Baba. I used to do this in 11 and 12 years old. Get up in the morning, 25 push-ups, 25 sit-ups. Go to bed at night, 25 push-ups, 25 sit-ups.
1:30:50
Adam
My brother used to do that.
1:30:52
Drew
Seriously, that's what my dad told me to do that. He was a 25-baseball team. Very simple. Before you know it, you're in. Do we have time for one more?
1:31:01
Stryker
No.
1:31:01
Drew
No? We're done? Drew, you're sitting back now. Get to the mic.
1:31:05
Stryker
Go to break.
1:31:05
Drew
All right, we're going to break. All right, it's Stryker and Drew and Shawnee Smith from Becker and it's Loveline. We'll be back in a moment. Hold on there, bastards.
1:31:11
Caller
We'll be right back.
1:31:15
Caller
Loveline with Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew.
1:31:35
Drew
Yeah, we're back. It's Loveline. We're going to wrap this up real quick. Thanks for hanging out, you guys. Shawnee Smith, thank you.
1:31:41
Adam
Pleasure. It's all mine.
1:31:42
Stryker
Good.
1:31:43
Drew
The pleasure was kind of mine. Sorry I wasn't Adam Corolla, but you can watch her on Becker and the website again for your band.
1:31:50
Adam
Website is fidelahoe.com, and we're playing the 31st of May. Mike Galaxy presents at the gig on Melrose in Hollywood.
1:31:59
Stryker
There you go.
1:32:00
Caller
All right.
1:32:00
Drew
Dr. Drew, I'll see you again tomorrow night.
1:32:02
Caller
All right.
1:32:02
Drew
For Dr. Drew, I am Stryker, and I am saying strawberry shortcake goodbye.
1:32:06
Stryker
You called us. You felt some stuff, and you're nuts. Now, listen, you do go around smooshing them, because that's how you found these things.
1:32:13
Caller
This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors, or this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Engel. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.