Episode 1000754886786

1:01 Voiceover Listener discretion is advised.

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1:08 Voiceover Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew Loveline, Coast to Coast.

1:13 Adam Yes, it is Loveline, everybody. I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew over there in LA. I'm in Las Vegas. This is phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1, Dr. Drew, Board Certified Physician, Addiction Medicine Specialist.

1:28 Drew And you, sir, are kind of a mess. What's going on?

1:31 Adam Really?

1:31 Drew Well, you're sad because your nose congested, you're tired. What's going on there?

1:34 Adam Well, all right.

1:35 Are you loaded?

1:37 Adam I had a cocktail. It's no big deal.

1:39 Drew But it's interesting how I can tell immediately what's going on with you.

1:42 What?

1:42 Adam You went right for the sinuses.

1:44 Drew Well, I just hear languishing and congested.

1:50 Adam I had one highball with dinner tonight. Drew, how dare you attempt to dis-

1:57 Drew What's the pyramid? Oh, for Christ's sake. Forget it. The Luxor. The Luxor, they have those drinks that are like six feet tall with a big straw on it.

2:04 Adam No, this is like four feet.

2:08 Drew Okay.

2:09 Adam No, I had a gin and tonic with my meal, only one, turned down the second, added a beautiful steakhouse, $65 bucks for a goddamn steak.

2:18 What?

2:19 Adam Yeah. You know what's crazy too? The more expensive the entree is, nothing comes with it.

2:28 Drew Right. You got to buy the asparagus separate, the rice separate.

2:31 Adam It's weird. It's like, hey, it's $65 bucks for a steak. Great. You want some asparagus? Yeah. $9. You want a potato? Okay. I mean, it's weird. Like the more money it costs to start out with, the less crap you get with it.

2:50 Drew It's just a weird justification for them to be like an old New York chop house, you know?

2:54 Adam You know what's weird about this old school chop house? I ate with three guys and one woman and the woman's menu had no prices. Oh. Have you ever seen that?

3:05 Drew Where they had the women? That's very funny.

3:08 Adam You could picture it, right?

3:08 Drew And she was what? She was a network president or something?

3:11 Adam She was paying.

3:12 Drew Yeah, right. My boyfriend, literally a millionaire. Yeah, that's you.

3:17 Adam It was very ironic that the woman, because it's an old school place, her menu had no numbers on it. The other three guys, Cousin Sal and Jimmy, all had the numbers on there, yet she was the one who was paying.

3:33 Drew If she had known you were ordering the $65 steak, she would have kicked your ass. So it's good.

3:38 Adam I just tried to make some coffee here at the studio and it turned into a Lucy sketch with the coffee maker running while the pot wasn't under it and the old grounds going everywhere and black juice everywhere.

3:52 Drew They have that huge rumpus room around the corner there, right? It's a big room.

3:57 Adam Yeah. Well, it's right next to where I'm... Well, I'm destroying it with coffee right now.

4:03 Drew You're flooding it out. Nice.

4:04 Adam Let me ask you this real fast, Drew, before we get to the kiddies. What is it about coffee that makes it go bad?

4:13 Drew You mean when it's not fresh, you mean?

4:15 Adam Yeah.

4:16 Drew I wanted that myself. Yeah.

4:17 Adam It doesn't go bad, but what I'm saying is, is you take a quart of OJ, you put it in the fridge, it's there for a week.

4:23 Drew Right.

4:23 Adam It's fine. It's no different the day you open it than seven, eight days later.

4:27 Drew Yes.

4:28 Adam And the same with lemonade and the same with iced tea.

4:31 Drew Same with like hot chocolate even, really.

4:33 Adam Not chocolate. Tea doesn't go bad.

4:35 Drew No.

4:36 Adam Why does coffee go bad when it's been sitting there for a couple of hours?

4:39 Drew It's just cold and then you heat it back up?

4:41 Adam No, it's not cold.

4:42 Drew No, no. That's the point. You heat it back up, you think it's just gone cold. You heat it back up, it tastes like crap.

4:48 Adam Right. Okay. I'm with you on that. But even when it's sitting on the warmer for three hours, it's no good.

4:53 Drew Then my feeling is it concentrates. It seems like the water evaporates.

4:58 Adam Okay. Whatever it is, for some reason, coffee goes bad. I'd like to figure out the molecular structure of coffee and invent something that didn't go bad. But I'm in the process of trying to make some. I don't think it's going to work.

5:11 Drew In the meantime, I indeed am. Let's talk to Ryan who's 14. Ryan.

5:17 Hey, sup guys.

5:18 Drew Hey, Ryan.

5:19 Well, my question is kind of bogus, but my friend has poison oak on his penis.

5:24 Drew Yeah.

5:24 It's pretty funny.

5:25 Drew It's funny to you.

5:26 It's kind of a hardware question for Adam.

5:28 Drew Well, first of all, what's your friend doing with the poison oak? How did he get poison oak on his penis?

5:32 He touched it and then he beat off or something. Yeah, he's stupid.

5:36 Drew Is he using a crane?

5:37 Adam Hey, Drew, Drew.

5:38 Drew Yeah.

5:38 Adam All right. Be prepared to drop many of these callers prematurely.

5:42 Oh, I have a hardware question for you, Adam.

5:45 Adam Very fast.

5:46 Okay, I have a hardware question.

5:47 Drew Go.

5:49 If you put propane up to a blowtorch, it would work? Like would it melt like metal?

5:56 Adam No, it's not going to melt metal. I mean, you can sweat copper pipe with it if you want to just melt some lead. You're not going to be able to melt any lead, any metal.

6:09 Drew Fast.

6:09 Adam If you want to bend some metal and you keep the heat on it long enough, it will make it a little more pliable.

6:14 Drew Moving right along. This is Laurie, who's 38.

6:16 Adam Idiot.

6:17 Drew Laurie.

6:17 Caller Yes.

6:18 Drew Hey.

6:18 Caller Hey. First of all, I need to blame Adam's father for all of my problems because he was never there for me.

6:25 Adam Yeah.

6:25 Drew Adam's father was never there for you?

6:27 Caller He was never here for me, no.

6:29 Adam I told everyone a few nights ago to start blaming my dad.

6:32 Drew Oh, I see. I see. Okay. Right. Got it.

6:35 Caller I like Adam's theories on quicksand and how it's long gone and they should bring it back.

6:40 Drew I had something else the other day where I thought, man, this is a good one for you, Adam. I'll think about that.

6:44 Adam Well, let's just keep moving along.

6:45 Drew Okay.

6:46 Caller Since we live in an age of sexual promiscuity, I keep hearing, because I listen every night, like faithfully at work, that the girls that call, automatically, it goes back to the father that they're sexually promiscuous or they have a problem that they're expressing to you. And for the boys, it's more like they're just being boys, so they could have a string of girlfriends or they could have these problems, but nothing ever really goes back to the parents. It's always...

7:17 True.

7:18 Caller I don't say always, but it seems to be that way. And isn't there some, there shouldn't some thought be given to the fact that that advertising and movies and sex is all over the place and maybe girls are just sexual, sexually active earlier because of that? And is there something so wrong with that? You know, as far as...

7:38 Drew There's nothing wrong with any of it. If these people weren't calling up in pain, we... Listen, if we're good to have threesomes, we tell people to do it. It just...

7:45 Adam Well, but, but, but I understand what Laurie's point is, but to be fair to us, it's not, you know, if a woman calls up and says, yeah, I like sex and I've had a few partners, we don't give her a hard time.

7:57 Drew We don't even go, we don't, we ask what the problem is.

8:01 Adam It's usually, I mean, that's how it's always perceived, but it's usually if their behavior has taken a turn or it's harming them or they don't feel good about it.

8:11 Drew Right.

8:11 Adam Or they're incredibly young, like 14 or 15, and they've had quite a few partners. And we don't, we don't, we don't, you know, if a 22 year old girl says, I'm calling, I'm in college, I've had a few boyfriends, a few partners, I like sex, what's wrong with me? We don't give her a hard time.

8:31 Drew Let's ask you this, what do you think makes a 15 year old or a 16 year old male have a lot of sex?

8:37 Hormones.

8:38 Drew But what is his motivation? Because women have hormones too, but what's the man's motivation? What's he going for?

8:45 Caller Bouncy, bouncy. I just, the physical activity is what I would.

8:49 Drew Yeah. Men, the young males will say, because it feels good. That's it. Period. That's it. You ask a young female that, and they will say, I want a relationship, I want intimacy. They'll mention 10 other things before they talk about the feel good part. The guys, that is bewildering to them. It's like, wait a minute, girls want it just the way guys do, don't they? That's what they say in the Cosmo. No, we're selling them a bill of goods a little bit. Because there is a profound difference in how they experience this at that age. Now men will settle down later when they're in their late 20s, early 30s, and the women actually come up to meet them a little bit.

9:24 Caller When everything stops working, that's when they settle down.

9:27 Drew Well, that's when women sort of come up and they become hypersexual a little bit sometimes.

9:31 Caller Well, I had noticed it and I thought that I would mention, I have three daughters, I'm a single parent, and I have three great kids that are very, very different, vastly different. They've never had a father figure in their life, really. And, you know, they're great kids and I teach them to take responsibility and I try to teach them to make good decisions.

9:54 Drew That's good.

9:55 Caller And those are the things that I, you know, I'm helping.

9:57 Drew Teach them to listen to their instincts. Teach them to listen. The things that they want are okay. There's nothing wrong with them if they don't want what boys want. If they don't want this, it's in Cosmo. Just listen to their instincts and teach them to negotiate to get those needs met.

10:11 Adam Yeah, they'll be calling in a few years.

10:12 Drew The other thing, Lori, is, Lori, the thing we see with, I'm so humiliated when they're listening. Lori, the thing we see with young men is when they don't have a dad is uncontained aggression. The guys become very aggressive and they can't contain their aggressions. And with women, they tend to go for males that are unavailable. That's the pattern. Okay. All right.

10:33 Adam Thanks, baby. Do a good job with those girls.

10:35 Drew She is doing a good job with them.

10:36 Adam How many of them become strippers, Drew?

10:38 Drew Two or three? Two.

10:40 Adam Okay.

10:40 Drew Laura is 22.

10:44 I have a question about my boyfriend. Ever since he started a diet solution, you know, mail order, excuse me, he's been getting this small, hard, almost like a little piece of a gummy bear mass in his semen.

11:05 Drew Gummy spoo.

11:12 And I don't know if it's a reaction from the-

11:18 Drew Let me ask you this. How long have you been sort of sifting through the semen?

11:23 Well, it's actually, he can feel it come out.

11:25 Drew No, I understand he feels it. So, he's been complaining about it.

11:28 Right, he's the one who brought it up.

11:30 Drew So, for all you know-

11:31 I'm the one sifting through it.

11:32 Drew Right, this possible has been going on for a long time. He just maybe just recently noticed it.

11:37 Adam Well, he would have noticed it though, Drew. A guy keeps track of a guy's semen. I know where all mine is since the seventh grade.

11:44 Drew Well, it's a common thing, Laura, and it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with his diet. And it's just one of them things.

11:50 Okay.

11:50 Drew Yeah, it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

11:52 Okay, so should he still go to the doctor and get it checked?

11:56 Drew Yeah, sometimes it can be infections and stuff, but yeah, it won't hurt, but I doubt they'll find anything.

12:01 Adam Well, what's he trying to do with this diet?

12:04 He was trying to lose weight, but when he actually got on it, and he actually gained weight, which doesn't make sense.

12:13 Adam What kind of diet was it?

12:16 It's a liquid-type diet, that you're supposed to take it right before you go to bed and...

12:22 Drew Oh, is this that stuff that I heard about in the radio?

12:25 Probably.

12:26 Drew Yeah.

12:27 Adam What's it called?

12:29 Body Solutions.

12:29 Drew Body Solutions. Is this the radio that I take it once a day? I've lost 60 pounds.

12:33 Adam Well, here's what...

12:34 Caller What is that stuff?

12:35 Adam Listen, here's what they have to do, Drew. They find a fat guy at a radio station, which is almost... It's like trying to find a racist at a truck pull. No problem. Yeah. They're trying to find a thin guy at a radio station. That's right. Everyone's a bunch of fat asses. They're roaming up and down the halls. All they do is eat. And obviously, they don't do anything but flap their jaws for exercise. So there's always a fat guy at a radio station. Yes.

13:02 Drew It is uncannily strange how true that is, though.

13:05 Adam The great thing... Yeah, the great thing about radio stations... Jesus.

13:10 Drew This isn't a radio... You know, our peanut calorie is getting all pissed off. Hey, this isn't a radio station. This isn't a radio. We don't mean a radio institution. K-Rock.

13:22 Adam A bunch of big guys just came in. Everyone is making fun of them. Holy Christ. All right, anyway, the point is, it's not hard to find a fat guy at a radio station, right? You love Fat Camp, don't you, Lardos? And the thing about the radios is, if a guy is fat at a radio station, his name is Fat Something. Fat Stew. Do you know what I'm saying? It works even better for their advertising.

13:46 Drew Or Cow Something. Attach an animal to it.

13:49 Adam Right, right. His name is Manatee or something. They think of him as a big fat name. So he'll be fat somebody and he's on a radio and then they give him this stuff and then he claims he loses weight and he gets on the air and talks about how much weight he's lost and how he's getting laid now when they go out and give away prizes in the van.

14:07 Drew Gummy Spoon.

14:09 Adam Okay, but the point is they say you eat whatever you want and the only thing is you don't eat three or four hours before you go to bed and you drink this liquid. My feeling is this, as far as losing weight, and Drew, you stop me if I'm wrong, when you kind of decide you're on a diet, you're automatically somewhat watching what you're eating.

14:33 Drew Yes.

14:33 Adam You know what I mean?

14:34 Drew Absolutely. However, for people like me and I suspect like you, that means you're eating more. Because you're thinking about it all the time.

14:40 Adam Well, you're thinking about it, so it's now game on.

14:42 Drew Yes. It's not time to eat.

14:44 Adam Same with masturbation, by the way, but that's a different diet. If you don't eat-

14:49 Drew When you've never attempted, by the way.

14:52 Adam Never will. If most people did not eat four hours before they went to bed, they'd probably lose a little bit of weight.

15:00 Drew Yes.

15:00 Adam I mean, you think about the damage you do with those late night snacks.

15:04 Drew That's right.

15:05 Adam So that's probably part of it. But I don't know what it's supposed to do. It's supposed to speed up your metabolism while you're asleep?

15:11 Drew I honestly, I don't know.

15:12 Adam Drew, can you speed up your metabolism without beaking you up? No. If you're beaked up, how you sleeping?

15:21 Drew If you're beaked up, how good can it be for you?

15:24 Adam Well, how good can you sleep if you take this before you go to bed?

15:27 Drew Yeah. Oh yeah, I'm sure. I don't know if that's how it works or not. Melissa is 29.

15:32 Hello.

15:32 Drew Hi, Melissa.

15:33 Hello. Yeah, I just had a question. I have hyperthyroid and I've been losing weight. I mean, I don't get hungry.

15:43 Drew How long you been hyperthyroid?

15:44 I had my glands removed in like 95 percent in 1996.

15:50 Drew Okay. So you're no longer hyperthyroid. Now you're taking thyroid medicine to replace not having a thyroid gland. Yeah. How much synthroid or levothyroxine are you taking?

16:00 0.5.

16:02 Drew 0.05?

16:03 Yeah. Okay.

16:03 Drew That's a tiny dose. I mean, it's not tiny, but it's a small dose. So it's not as though that would be causing any problems now.

16:11 Adam Hey, Drew.

16:11 Drew Yeah.

16:12 Adam Why do they leave the 5 percent?

16:15 Drew I think they're trying to leave, first of all, they leave the parathyroids behind often or they try to. And so that means leaving some thyroid behind. And I think they used to believe that they were going to try to leave enough behind to give them a normal thyroid function, which never works out that way.

16:28 Adam So meaning your thyroid is producing too much, so we'll just cut out 90 percent of it and then you'll be down to normal. But it doesn't work.

16:36 Drew Yeah, that works that way. So Melissa, some other reason you're not eating and you sound kind of depressed for one thing.

16:42 Yeah, because I can't eat. And then every time I eat, I mean, I want to throw it up. I can't.

16:48 Drew Well, why don't you go get that looked into? That is unlikely to have anything to do with your thyroid.

16:52 Adam What do you like to eat? What do you like to eat? Pizza, French fries, potatoes.

17:01 Yeah, but what's warning me is that my weight keeps on dropping because right now I'm 96 and then it goes up 102. And then I drop down.

17:12 Adam Weight of a sling blade. Hey, you want to hear my Billy Bob Thornton?

17:17 Okay.

17:18 Adam Okay. You ready?

17:20 Drew Action.

17:22 Adam I like French fried potatoes now. They good. Drew, you knew that was coming, right?

17:29 Drew No.

17:29 Adam Okay.

17:30 Drew You got me.

17:31 Adam What are you doing with all this kind of? Well, you like pizza, right? Well, why don't you eat some? You feel nauseous?

17:40 Yeah. And I was wondering what's good to you. Maybe itch shirt.

17:45 Drew Yeah, itch shirt is fine. Itch shirt is good. But you need a balanced diet. You need to go. First, you need an explanation of why this is happening. Forget. Stop thinking that it has anything to do with your thyroid. That's very unlikely.

17:53 Adam Maybe you're pregnant.

17:54 No.

17:55 Adam You smoke weed?

17:57 No.

17:57 Drew You take aspirin or anti-inflammatories?

18:00 No. The only thing I take is domain to sleep.

18:03 Drew Yeah. That's 29.

18:05 Because I can't sleep either.

18:06 Drew It just sounds like you're depressed.

18:08 Adam How's life going, Melissa?

18:11 Oh, the way that I'm feeling is not that good because I can't eat and my weight and...

18:16 Drew Physical, physical, physical. Emotionally, what's going on?

18:19 Adam Put her on hold. What is it with our callers where they're almost like... Well, you know I don't like to insult them, but they're like animals in the sense that they have no understanding or sense of what you're asking. It's like they call and they go, I can't eat because I throw up and the food doesn't taste good. And you go, what else is going on in your life? I can't eat. I don't eat and I throw up. It sounds like you're upset, maybe a little depressed. How's life going? It's not going good because...

18:56 Drew How I feel.

18:57 Adam I can't eat and then I throw up. It's like, oh really? Do you think that's what we're asking for the fifth time? Do you know what I'm saying?

19:05 Drew Oh yeah.

19:06 Adam Get her back on the line. Melissa? You know the part about you throwing up and not eating?

19:15 Drew Got that.

19:15 Adam I understand. We got that part. Now what about the other parts of life? Your work, boyfriend, family, that kind of stuff?

19:27 Well, everything's going good. I have a husband and I have a happy life.

19:33 Drew You sound immensely happy.

19:36 Adam Yeah. You sound like you just won the lottery.

19:38 Drew Play that back for her. Just, I have a happy life. Just let her hear that back so she can understand what we're talking about. Here we go.

19:44 I just want a second opinion. That's all I want.

19:47 Drew Melissa, you're vomiting, you're not eating. We got all that. Anderson's going to find your I have a happy life and give it back to us. It's going to take him a minute. But Melissa, we're suggesting that maybe there's something wrong with your mood, that you're not feeling good.

20:04 You there?

20:05 Drew Then maybe you're depressed.

20:08 Well, I get tired a lot, like one down.

20:11 Drew I know you throw up and you don't eat. All right.

20:13 Adam Well, the tired run down could be part of depression.

20:15 Drew But then again, listen, we don't know what you got.

20:18 Adam Well, let me ask her some questions.

20:19 Drew But the one point I want to make is you need a thorough medical evaluation. You need a diagnosis. Somebody's going to tell you what this is. Here's your happy life back. Nope, not yet. Go ahead, Adam.

20:29 Adam You're golden by the way, Drew. Melissa, do you work?

20:33 No. No, right now I'm not.

20:35 Adam Do you have kids?

20:37 Two.

20:37 Drew How long ago was your last child?

20:40 How long ago did I have my last child?

20:41 Drew Yes.

20:43 About seven years ago. Wow.

20:46 Adam Been a while. And your husband, what does he do?

20:50 He works in construction.

20:52 Adam Uh-oh. That's cause for depression. How's he doing?

20:58 He builds houses.

20:59 Adam I see. Okay. So he's doing good. He say builds.

21:03 Drew He's in construction. Have you got that?

21:05 Adam I understand. And the kids, they're doing okay in school?

21:08 Yeah, they're doing good.

21:10 Adam Okay. I mean, you're happy. I mean, other than the eating part, you're fulfilled.

21:16 I have a happy life.

21:17 Drew Okay. Was that it? Let's play it again.

21:20 I have a happy life.

21:24 Drew Yeah.

21:24 Adam All right.

21:25 Drew Well.

21:25 Adam All right. Well, off to the doctor. And get yourself checked out, baby.

21:30 Drew It's not your thyroid. Forget that. At least highly unlikely to be a thyroid. That's an easy thing to rule out just with a blood test.

21:36 Adam And take care of yourself.

21:39 Drew All right. When we come back.

21:40 Adam Hop of the world.

21:41 I have a happy life.

21:44 Drew Oh boy. We're going to talk to Tanya, who was actually at a hall from last night. She got hit in the head and became deaf as a result or had some hearing loss.

21:53 Adam All right. That's good times.

21:54 Good times.

21:55 Drew So how are things in Vegas? You having fun?

22:00 Adam I got off the plane this morning and I went to work and I've just been kind of working ever since.

22:05 Drew Where are you staying? You're my millionaire friend. Are you staying for four seasons?

22:11 Adam Yeah. Yeah. That's right.

22:13 Drew Must be rough living your life.

22:14 Adam You know, that's the only place I can stay now, Drew, unless of course there's a five seasons that I'm not aware of. Is there such a thing?

22:22 Drew I'm sure you'll find something ultra exclusive.

22:24 Adam Perhaps if there's a five season, a place where I can be pampered just a little bit more.

22:29 Drew Must be tough living your life.

22:31 Adam I'll stay there. Yeah. I'm going to have the bed turned down tonight, you know, because it's difficult to lift the comforter myself. I have the towel warmer fired up when I get back. Of course, I have the deluxe suite and they have the chocolates on the pillow. So I have that to look forward to. And Drew, what kind of message is that? Here, here's some chocolate before you go to bed, Lardo. I mean, whether you're talking about tooth decay or weight, is it a great idea to put chocolate in your mouth just before you hit the sack?

22:58 Drew You're so rich and powerful, Monsieur. It doesn't matter. Enjoy.

23:02 Adam True. We'll be back. It's Love Line. I'm Adam Carolla, that's Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Drew?

23:48 Drew Yeah, Adam, I celebrate when you're not here by reading the dictionary, when I'm alone in the studio here, and I found a great word to describe what's likely to happen to you tonight. Called crapulus. Remember that word?

24:00 Adam No, but it sounds good.

24:01 Drew Great word, marked by intemperance, especially in eating or drinking.

24:06 Adam What's intemperance mean?

24:08 Drew Excessive. Going too far.

24:11 Adam Yeah, crapulant.

24:13 Drew Crapulus.

24:15 Adam Crapulus. But could one be crapulant?

24:19 Drew It's not in the dictionary, but that seems to me it should be able to be crapulant. Sick from excessive indulgence in liquor is definition number two.

24:28 Adam Crapulus. All right, that's crapulus.

24:31 Drew Crapulus, good times.

24:32 Adam Yeah, all right, that's gonna be me tonight, everybody.

24:35 Drew Crapulus.

24:35 Adam I'm in Las Vegas, Drew's over there in a boring old LA, and speaking of Crapulus, I just made the world's crampiest cup of coffee.

24:44 Drew I'm good. Well, it's a radio station, we expect. This is Tanya. Tanya is 18. Tanya has a hearing problem. Tanya, can you hear me? Oh no.

24:58 Adam She hung up.

24:59 Drew I don't know, guys. Hey, hey. Yeah, see where she is. Now she will go on hold.

25:05 Adam Drew, this show sounds totally different when you're not in there.

25:08 Drew Try this. Tanya? There she is.

25:10 All right.

25:12 OK. On Friday, I got a concussion. And when I was at the hospital, I noticed that the right side of my hearing was a little fuzzy.

25:23 Drew Were you hit on the right side of the head?

25:25 Yeah, but the thing is, I don't get it because I got a concussion. I fell on my bike. But I was making a left-handed U-turn. I got all the scrapes on the right side of my body. Wouldn't I get them on the left side?

25:38 Adam Well, you could have gone over the back side.

25:41 Drew Something through, you know, the acceleration is going out if you're turning left. So when you fly off your bike, you'll fly to the right. You don't have to fold in the actual acceleration.

25:52 Adam Hold on. Listen, Einstein. You could do two things when you make a turn. You could either dump it and sort of lay it down and go down on the side that you're turning, or you could go over the top and go over the back side. It sort of depends on what happened.

26:08 Drew Did you tell them you couldn't hear or have a trouble hearing?

26:11 I told them and he was just because they were like really busy.

26:15 Drew I suggest you see a ear, nose, and throat doctor because sometimes you can even dislocate the little ossicles in there that vibrate from your eardrum. Oh, man. As things can happen, you can also get disruptions of the nerve and blood clots in that area. It's something worth looking into.

26:29 Adam What happened? Why did you crash?

26:31 I have no idea. I don't know what happened.

26:34 Adam Did someone hit you?

26:35 I have no idea. I woke up and my bike was on one side of the street and the neighbor found me and she said, I was on the other side of the street.

26:43 Drew Wow. Somebody hit you.

26:44 I do not remember a thing. What happened?

26:47 Drew Wow.

26:48 Adam You got to wear a helmet.

26:50 Yeah. That's what my dad was telling me.

26:52 Drew Oh my God. You weren't wearing a helmet. How lucky you are. The other thing is you're going to experience what people do not make enough of that after you've had a concussion, a concussion really means a head whack with any alteration of your thought process or memory, any sensorium change. You're going to have weird feelings for quite some time. You're going to get depressed. You're going to have memory problems. You're going to be irritable. You're going to have sleep disturbances.

27:12 Adam I've had a hundred of those, Drew.

27:14 Drew The reason I'm bringing it up that remains to be seen. The reason I'm bringing it up is that we live in a culture where in the Three Stooges world people are going to hit over the head all the time or in cartoons and then birds fly around their head and then they go about their business. Head injuries, even sometimes relatively mild ones, can really cause a lot of disruption and symptoms. It's extraordinary how much it can hurt people.

27:39 I've been able to concentrate on certain stuff that I have to do.

27:42 Drew There you go. You may have sleep problems and panic. I don't have to worry about stuff.

27:45 Adam Drew, don't get her all freaked out.

27:47 Drew I'm not. Just be prepared for it and it can be treated if you have a lot of problems and take care of yourself. It will get better.

27:53 Adam Drew.

27:54 Drew What?

27:54 Adam Yeah. That's enough for Tanya. She's fine. That was Tanya the chick?

28:00 Drew Well, I don't know Tanya Boyes, do you?

28:03 Adam No. Not until now.

28:05 Drew Sounded a little interesting, but Lisa is 26.

28:08 Adam Well, here's what I want to say, Drew. If you were wearing a helmet while riding your bicycle at age 14, how much fun would they have made of you?

28:18 Drew Are you kidding? It would be impossible.

28:21 Adam They would have thought you're a retarded kid, right?

28:23 Drew Exactly.

28:24 Adam It was unthinkable, maybe on a motorcycle, maybe.

28:28 Drew Maybe. Thank God. I was watching that 80s show tonight and they had a little thing where a guy was talking on a cell phone and making such a big deal out of it. I can remember having a cell phone and being embarrassed if people saw me talking on it. Like in public, you're trying to carry a conversation. I felt like I was talking to myself and people would think I was crazy.

28:48 Adam What year was this?

28:49 Drew Probably 86.

28:52 Adam Was it one of those big beige bricks?

28:54 Drew Yes.

28:56 Adam They couldn't even make it black. We didn't have the technology to color plastic in 1986. It had to be some bizarre, it had to look like a prosthetic device growing out of your head. Do you know what I'm saying?

29:13 Drew Oh yeah, I remember. They weighed about 40 pounds.

29:15 Adam What was that? Was that one company that made that?

29:17 Drew I guess. I actually didn't have that one. I had one that you had to carry over your shoulder and tie it.

29:22 Adam Wow. How much did that thing cost?

29:25 Drew I think it was a couple hundred bucks. It wasn't hugely expensive, but the air time was.

29:29 Adam The minutes were, right?

29:30 Drew Yeah, crazy.

29:30 Adam Oh, you'd freak out if someone called. Yeah. Oh, Drew, you must have freaked. All right. Lisa?

29:37 Yes.

29:38 Adam What's up?

29:40 Okay. I've been married for almost seven years now, and in November I found out that my husband was calling somebody else on the cell phone.

29:52 Drew For what?

29:55 Well, I don't know. He told her he was not married. I know that much.

30:02 Adam How do you know that much?

30:04 He told me.

30:05 Adam Why did he tell you that?

30:08 Because he got caught calling her.

30:11 Adam So here's what I don't understand. How did you catch him?

30:16 Caller I asked him for a cell phone one day.

30:19 Drew And?

30:20 Caller And he threw a big fit and went and gave it to me and then finally told me why.

30:25 Drew What? What, because she would call him on it or something?

30:28 Caller Yeah, she would call him and he would call her while he was at work.

30:32 Drew So he didn't want you to have the phone that she might call you?

30:37 Caller Yeah.

30:39 Adam Okay, feel free to explain these things, by the way. And geez, he couldn't have just given you the phone and then got on the horn and told her not to call?

30:48 Drew Right.

30:49 Caller Well, her number was on the phone.

30:52 Adam On the speed dial there?

30:53 Drew Yeah, but you might have thought it was a business associate or something, right?

30:57 Caller Yeah, I probably would.

30:58 Drew Yeah, and so he told you, then he went so far as to tell you she doesn't know he's married?

31:04 Adam Why did he give that up?

31:09 Caller Well, the way he told me that he said that he had been talking to somebody else. I'm sorry.

31:16 Drew Lisa, do you understand why that's confusing to us?

31:19 Caller Yeah. Okay.

31:22 Drew So you can feel free to explain to us.

31:23 Adam Sure, I'm going to go take a cram.

31:24 Drew Yeah.

31:25 Adam You all right?

31:25 Drew Don't get crapulous.

31:27 Caller What happened was like a few days before or two days before Thanksgiving, and he told me he did not want to be married.

31:33 Drew Okay. So what did you do to that? Have you guys got a divorce? You separated?

31:39 Caller No.

31:40 We have two kids.

31:42 Drew So he's going to stay together for the kids?

31:44 Caller Well, no.

31:46 Drew Oh, Lisa.

31:46 Caller I don't know.

31:48 Adam Well, stop making us... Well, all right. So are we.

31:52 Drew We get that.

31:53 Adam All right. So he gave you the phone. You wanted to borrow the phone. He said, no, you can't have the phone. Then you wanted to know what was up, and then he said, okay, here's the phone, but you should know that I've been talking to a woman and I told her I wasn't married. Right.

32:09 Drew And it sounds like he's trying to push Lisa away. So that starts to make sense now. He's already declared he wants out.

32:14 Caller If in fact this is how it went down, which we'll never know, Drew, even though Lisa's on the other line, we'll have no way of knowing if that's the way it ever went down.

32:23 Drew Nor do I think should we try to go any further with it, except to ask Lisa what her question is.

32:27 Caller Okay. Now he tells me he wants to be with me.

32:33 Drew But Lisa, what's your question?

32:37 Caller I don't know. What is it that guys want?

32:40 Why do they do this?

32:42 Adam Well, we don't know. Was he having an affair, do you think?

32:46 I don't know.

32:47 Drew Yeah, this is not... I don't think there's any generalization about men that can be made that will help you in this situation.

32:52 Adam But you're saying, why do men do this? And we're not totally sure what this is.

32:57 Drew Yeah.

32:58 Caller He gets off work late, but then there were calls that he made to her like two or three hours after he was supposed to be home.

33:09 Adam Where... So what did he say to you? That he was still at work?

33:12 Caller He would tell me that he had to work late on nights or some nights. He would go out and wait for her to call.

33:19 Drew He has a girlfriend.

33:20 Adam He told you he would go out and wait for her to call?

33:23 Drew Yes.

33:24 Adam All right. So he's saying, I went out.

33:27 Drew But then now he's deciding he wants back. Lisa, nothing general about this applies to all men. There's something up with your husband. He's got some serious stuff going on here. It doesn't sound good, but someone needs to slog through it and you sound confused. So the only way this is, and you sound as though you're completely lost in terms of how you'd respond to this. This is a time when people go in for professional counseling. If for no other reason, wait, they have two kids. At least on behalf of the kids to make a crack at this.

33:56 Adam You think she's going to do that?

33:58 Drew I don't know.

33:59 Adam Is she still there? Yeah. All right. So what time does he get off work?

34:06 Caller Around 3.

34:08 Drew Do you want to call him?

34:12 Adam And was he coming home at like 7 in the morning?

34:17 Caller Well, see, I'm always in bed when he comes home.

34:19 Drew Adam, you know better than this.

34:21 Adam You're right. I shouldn't ask any more questions. My fault, Lisa. I'm sorry. You don't know when he comes home.

34:27 Caller I'm always in bed because I have to get my little girl up for school.

34:30 Adam I see. Okay. You don't wake up and notice what time he comes in, huh?

34:35 Caller No.

34:36 Adam No? You wouldn't know the difference between 3.30 and 7.30 in the morning?

34:41 Caller Well, between 3.30 and 6.30.

34:44 Adam All right. You're just a sound sleeper.

34:48 Drew Adam, it's unfathomable to you.

34:51 Adam Well, I don't know if I was in bed and someone crawled into it. I'd have an idea if it was two or three hours later than they normally get there.

34:58 Drew I would not, but I'm not like you where I know what time the neighbors crawl into bed, for Christ's sake.

35:02 Adam You wouldn't?

35:03 Drew No.

35:03 Adam Listen, hold on. God forbid your old lady works, Drew, but if she did and she came home and you knew she got off at 3.00 every night and got in bed at 3.30, you don't think by 6:00 a.m. you'd feel around the bed and notice she wasn't around?

35:19 Drew Not in those kinds of hours.

35:20 Adam You wouldn't know?

35:21 Drew If she was supposed to be home at 11.00 and wasn't there until 4.00 I'd know it. That's a deep sleeping time in the middle of the night, you know.

35:27 Adam All right. Well, I assume this guy's cheating and I don't think he's the world's greatest guy and plus who the hell wants a guy who's getting off work at 3:00 a.m.? Right. I mean, how good can his life be going?

35:40 Drew But look, on behalf of these kids and this poor woman, I mean, Lisa sounds like she's hurting, lost.

35:45 Adam Yes, very confused.

35:47 Drew You need professional help with this. On behalf of your kids, please get someone to help you guys with this.

35:52 I have a happy life.

35:53 Drew Yeah. It's been the theme of the night.

35:57 Adam Geez, Drew, I know I say this once every other show, but how do people make it to the adult age and just seem to have no idea what goes on on the planet or how people behave or where they are? Do you know what I mean? Oh yeah. I'm not talking about being a psych major or writing books on human behavior. I just mean that sort of general like, I don't know. And you're like, well, why would he do this? Why do you think he'd say that?

36:30 Drew No.

36:30 Adam I don't know.

36:30 Drew Yeah, completely.

36:31 Adam I mean, I understand that at 11, but how do you get into your 30s?

36:37 Drew Well, we certainly-

36:39 Adam What is that? You know what that is?

36:41 Drew That's the American-

36:42 Adam You don't know either, do you, son of a bitch?

36:44 Drew No, I just think that's what's happened in this country, is that people aren't been educated. They're not being taught to prioritize and think about these things.

36:51 Adam What's education have to do with that?

36:53 Drew Well, some of it is that, right? Some of it is the ability to think carefully and analytically, and just think things through.

37:01 Adam Here's what I'm saying. I never had any education. I never hung out with anyone who had any education, because we consider them geeks, Drew. But they know what's going on. Do you know what I'm saying?

37:13 Drew Yeah.

37:14 Adam You meet people all the time with zero education, but they're aware of where they are. I'm sort of alarmed at the part where people aren't sure where they are.

37:24 Drew I mean, like, they can't even describe what's happening to them.

37:28 Adam Right. And they don't know. And if you say, like, you bring up questions like, well, why would the guy just tell you outright that he wasn't interested, or he told this other girl he was not married? Why do you think he would say that? I don't know. I mean, that's strange. I mean, is it, are we, is it like?

37:48 Drew It requires abstraction. I don't think people are doing that. They don't, they don't step outside themselves.

37:51 Adam Well, whose fault is it, Drew? That's what I want to know.

37:53 Drew It's yours, god damn it.

37:54 Adam Is it like too much TV or what?

37:56 Drew Too much TV, yeah. It's just, and then you add to that difficulty separating. Their whole sense of self is incomplete because of the crappy parenting. I mean, just, what would it be like if we were talking to a bunch of, you know, Scottish mountain men? You know?

38:11 Adam I think they would know what we were talking about, but they would be confused about the whole cell phone aspect of the question, I imagine.

38:17 Drew That's probably true.

38:19 Adam They probably still use those huge beige ones that you had. Even scarier, the flesh color. And if there's any manufacturers who are within the sound of my voice, don't make stuff flesh color unless it's a fake arm.

38:34 Drew Right.

38:34 Adam It's very, it's disarming when people see that. You know what I mean? Like, it makes you feel weird when you see flesh colored stuff.

38:43 Drew I just remember what it was I wanted to bring to your attention from the 60s and 70s. How about-

38:47 Adam Wait a minute.

38:48 Drew Come on. Let me do it.

38:49 Adam We gotta go to break here, buddy.

38:50 Drew When we get back. When we get back.

38:51 Adam All right. Right after this.

38:54 Caller This is your radio. Loveline will be right back.

39:33 Adam Hey, everybody, it's Loveline. I'm Adam, and it's Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-LOVE-191.

39:41 Drew Yes, sir, I've got some history to bring to bear here. And by the way, it's National Compliment Week. Everyone's being very kind to one another here. Give each other compliments. And actually, National Compliment Day. So Adam, you're doing a very nice job broadcasting tonight.

39:55 Adam Is it really?

39:56 Drew Yeah.

39:57 Adam Jesus.

39:58 Drew Yeah.

39:58 Adam That holiday sucks.

39:59 Drew Yeah. Yeah. It would be a pretty rough one for you, I imagine.

40:03 Adam But listen, I didn't hear about this.

40:06 Drew Well, let me tell you my thing about the 60s and 70s I want to bring back. And it's apropos to the phone history we're talking about. In the 60s, and people will no way anybody under the 35s are going to remember this. Phone numbers were not. First of all, there was no area code, right? Everyone you knew was in the same area code. It was all one area code. I mean, if you called another area code, you were calling another state usually. And then it was expensive. So all phone numbers were seven numbers. The first two numbers were given out as letters with which were designated by a word. Remember that? Sycamore, 99575, Murray 31475. Remember that?

40:43 Adam Yes. My cousins were ex-Brooks.

40:47 Drew How bizarre is that?

40:48 Adam I never knew what my dad was talking about when he said that.

40:52 Drew And adults seem to sort of languish in that too. It's like, it's Sycamore 9, 8475.

40:58 Adam Right.

40:58 Drew They enjoyed that word. Somehow it added importance to the phone number.

41:03 Adam Yeah, it did. It made everyone seem like a secret agent.

41:08 What did Sycamore mean, though?

41:09 Drew S-Y. So it would be whatever. You have to look at the letters. You know, the letters that are on the phone. Maybe everyone wondered why those letters are there. That's why they were there.

41:16 Caller Well, they still use them for like...

41:17 Drew They use them now to make up words and things. But then it was the first two letters of the phone number. The first two numbers were designated by letters.

41:24 Adam But wasn't it... Oh, it was the first two.

41:26 Drew Yeah, it was Sycamores. S-Y. Murray was M-U.

41:30 Adam Yeah, but my cousins...

41:31 Drew Sycamores was seven nine. I remember that.

41:32 Adam My cousins was X-Brooks six. So it would be the first... It would be E-X and then six. Right? Whatever the E-X were.

41:40 Drew Yeah, it would be E-X six. Right.

41:43 Adam Jesus, they sure put a long name on there for two goddamn numbers.

41:47 Drew And who came up with those names? That was always my question back then. I was like, what? Who's Murray? Why Murray? Sycamore, where the hell else in your life are you using the word sycamore?

41:57 Adam All right. Well, Drew, that's a good one. You're going crazier than me, by the way.

42:02 Well, that's weird, huh?

42:03 Adam Let's take some calls, buddy. What do you say?

42:05 Drew Yeah, sure. Here's Bill, 29. Hey, Bill.

42:08 Caller Yeah.

42:09 Drew What's going on there?

42:11 Caller Hey, how's it going? My question is, I'm 29 years old, and my girlfriend basically was, sounds like she was raped, and I haven't talked to her in detail, but when she was about 18 years old.

42:24 Drew Sounds like she was raped.

42:25 Caller Well, she said that she was raped, I'm not clear if she was sexually, like full on sexually raped or if she was attacked. My understanding is that she was sexually assaulted.

42:43 Drew You know that it was a sexual assault, you don't know if it was actually a rape.

42:46 Caller Exactly. Okay. Since that time we've been going out now for six months and you know we have sex but she never really gets into it and you know we're both thinking about you know possibly staying together and it's obviously a very important aspect of our relationship and it's something that we want to try to figure out and I'm just trying to wonder.

43:11 Drew Well, one of the things we find frequently Bill is women that are raped in their teen years often have some other kind of victimization earlier not only because that makes them good targets for these a-holes that perpetrate this crap right and so you might think that somebody that had some sexual issues maybe had something even earlier go on and that she may be focused on the rape. Now if indeed she was otherwise perfectly pristine and healthy and the rape just set her off her balance beam then she needs some treatment. The treatment would be very successful and the best kind of treatment for that kind of thing tends to be women's support group where she can just finally talk about her feelings about this rape and people get better very quickly with that.

43:49 Adam They do?

43:49 Drew Yeah.

43:50 Adam Yeah, but even if the incident was isolated and she needs some help, I mean actually I worded that incorrectly, sorry. What I'm saying is even if it wasn't isolated she still needs some help.

44:06 Drew Yeah, yeah, yeah.

44:07 Adam And it doesn't necessarily have to be sexual abuse in the past that set her up for this.

44:12 Drew No, no.

44:13 Adam She could just had an a-hole dad that was, you know.

44:16 Drew Victimizing.

44:17 Caller Right, but she's actually, I do believe that she's from a, that this was the first incident. I know since this first time that she was either raped or sexually assaulted, a second thing happened another, like a couple of years later.

44:30 Drew Uh, Bill.

44:31 Caller Both of them.

44:32 Drew No, Bill, no. Repeated episodes, that's even more evidence that something's going on.

44:37 Caller Of something in the past.

44:38 Drew Yeah.

44:39 Caller I mean, it's false, but I've met her parents. They're, uh, I'd be, I'd be amazed, I'd be surprised.

44:43 Drew We're not saying they're the perpetrators.

44:46 Adam No, but also, also, I think we're getting Bill confused here, Drew, and you're doing a good job of it, which is it doesn't necessarily mean that she was molested by her dad or her uncle.

44:57 Drew No, no.

44:58 Adam Or, or by anybody sexually when she was six years old.

45:02 Drew Right.

45:02 Adam It could just mean that she grew up in an environment that wasn't real good and nurturing, and she became open to be victimized later on in life. Do you know what I'm saying? It doesn't mean there's wholesale abuse there. But you know what? You're just going to have to tell her, look, if she doesn't want to talk about it, that's fine, but she's going to have to seek some help because you guys, you're in it for the long haul.

45:24 Drew Yeah.

45:24 Caller And if she's open to that, it's just the question is sort of what would be the next step, and that's good to hear that the Women's Support Group is where to go with that.

45:33 Drew Well, if it's, yeah, make sure, though, it's someone who also does individual therapy, because I'm suspicious here she's going to need that as well.

45:40 Caller Well, she's been to the therapist, and she was for going for some time, but she moved, and she broke off her professional relationship.

45:47 Drew When was she going? After the rape?

45:50 Caller No, over the course of the last five years. I don't know if it started immediately after the rape or if it, you know, was...

45:56 Drew And why was she going?

45:58 Caller For, you know, just... The problem is, you know...

46:01 Drew Yeah, Bill, I don't think... You need a more realistic assessment of who your partner is here. And I'm not saying that you shouldn't love her or that the marriage couldn't be very successful, but you don't seem to have real grasp on who you're dealing with.

46:16 Adam Well, Drew, what are you going to the shrink for? Yeah, there you go, wise ass.

46:22 Drew I got problems.

46:24 Adam You don't know. You don't even know, for Christ's sake. You think your wife knows?

46:27 Drew No, I'm just, I'm just, I think the fact that she has gone far is a great sign, frankly.

46:32 Adam Yeah, I do too.

46:32 Drew And I think, but I think Bill, it seems very vague about who she is.

46:36 Adam Well, all right.

46:37 Drew And I think, I don't want him to be three years in marriage and realize that somebody's going to need some more work and he's going to be angry with her for, you know, just doing her work.

46:43 Adam But that's why he's calling. He's only been with her for six months. He's trying to move in that direction. Fine.

46:48 Drew Get her back in the relationship with the therapist. She needs to reestablish with somebody.

46:52 Caller That's right.

46:53 Adam No.

46:54 Drew And you should go up for pre-marital counseling. Hey, relax.

46:57 Adam You got a goddamn clock there?

46:59 Drew Hey, we got to go to break. I was going to let it run until now. And so, what? I was going to go to another call.

47:05 Adam We had another question you were going to let him do, you idiot.

47:08 Drew All right, we're going to break.

47:09 Adam That's enough.

47:10 Drew All right, we're going to break.

47:11 All right, guys, here's the deal.

47:13 Caller You're looking to hook up, sick of wasting time with the wrong person?

47:16 Caller One call is all you need to make.

47:18 Caller Call the Dateline, 877-889-DATE.

47:21 Call the Dateline.

48:05 Adam Hey, everybody, it's Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. That's Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. And Drew?

48:13 Drew This one's gonna be very interesting. This is Diane. She is 40.

48:17 Hi.

48:17 Drew Hi. Hey.

48:19 Adam and Corolla. Drew and Corolla. I'm so excited. I'm getting all excited. I'm Diane.

48:25 Drew Hi, Diane.

48:26 And I'm 40. First of all, I wanted to compliment your screener, Damien. He's a good screener.

48:32 Adam Really? How many other screeners have you spoken to?

48:36 Well, we got a guy named Tic Tac here in Tucson, Arizona. He's an excellent screener.

48:41 Adam Who's better, Tic Tac or Damien?

48:44 Damien.

48:46 Caller Nice.

48:47 He asked me a lot of questions.

48:49 Adam We were going to fly Tic Tac out and have him replace Damien, but forget that.

48:53 Yeah, but he's real hot. He's good looking.

48:56 Adam Tic Tac is?

48:57 Yeah, he's real hot.

48:58 Adam Yeah, yeah. Damien's.

49:00 He's totally hot.

49:01 Adam Damien's no prize.

49:02 And I know a friend of yours, Ted Stryker. He's the one.

49:05 Adam Oh, Stryker. Yeah.

49:07 Drew Stryker. Stryker or 14? Nothing. Go ahead.

49:12 Anyway, you guys get some stupid calls, like the guy that had a problem with his penis. That was such a waste. And then the guy called in and his girl didn't get the birth control. Oh, she missed a couple of days. You know, that's problems we don't need to hear about. They should take it to family planning.

49:32 Adam That's right.

49:33 Caller That's right.

49:34 Drew Well, here's your chance, Diane. What should we talk about?

49:36 Adam Wait a minute. Diane makes a valid point. We don't need these kids.

49:39 You called somebody a bitch the other night. She was a stupid bitch.

49:42 Adam Yeah. Would you put her on hold for a second, Drew? Diane brings up a very valid point. Damn, bitch.

49:48 Drew All right. What's that?

49:49 Adam We don't need to waste our time with these young kids and their calls about pregnancies and penis problems and birth control and whatnot. We got Diane critiquing phone screeners.

50:01 Drew No, not critiquing. Describing their level of attraction.

50:05 Adam They're hot. I would say the critique was part of her.

50:09 Drew Yeah, that's true. You're right. There was a critique there.

50:11 Adam Thank you. Go ahead, Diane.

50:15 You could say I'm an expert at radio because I'm a big radio head. All the DJs know that I call them and I ask for songs and I drive them crazy.

50:24 Adam Shocking.

50:25 But anyway, I was in love with a guy named Cooper, but he's not there anymore at my other station. But I listen to Camp Ami all the time.

50:33 Adam Hey, Diane.

50:34 I'm sorry.

50:35 Adam Let me just say something. Don't take any offense to this, but you're a crazy person. You live in your own crazy world and you can't expect us to be interested in that, can you?

50:44 No, but I have to ask you a question about my sex life.

50:47 Adam Well, there you go. Go ahead.

50:49 It's cut to the chase. Okay. I'm 40, you know that. And I have a really high sex drive, totally high. I was having sex with my ex-boyfriend three times a day. And he's good. He's excellent. But we've been together years. And I didn't expect it to keep getting better. But I just broke up with him recently. You know, I'm not going to go back with him. But I don't want to do recreational sex, doctor. And I do use, I do practice safe sex. I believe women should carry condoms.

51:23 Drew Okay, Diane, hold on a second. What was I saying? Adam? It's incomprehensible.

51:30 Adam I know what she's talking about.

51:32 Drew What's she saying?

51:33 Adam Well, she started off talking about NAFTA, North American Free Trade Agreement. And she was weighing the checks and balances on that, how it's impacted negatively and positively the North American culture, as well as the Latino culture south of the border.

51:51 Drew Something about infant mortality after that?

51:53 Adam I think she got into that. She was just beginning to get into plate tectonics, I believe.

51:58 Excuse me.

52:00 Adam She's a sexual person.

52:02 Drew Okay, Diane.

52:03 Adam All right, so she has sex.

52:04 Drew And you don't want to have sex.

52:05 Adam And she doesn't want recreational sex.

52:08 I've always been a monogamous person.

52:10 Drew Yeah, but you have a boyfriend that you're having sex with three times a day.

52:13 Adam Yeah, I broke up.

52:15 I broke up with him. But he's an adoptee. And that's got a whole, you know, that's a whole...

52:20 Adam Oh, yeah.

52:21 That's too much to get into. And it's not, you know, my... That's his privacy. I can't really step into that. This is about me.

52:29 Drew What is your point in a sentence?

52:32 Well, I don't think... I don't believe that there's a man right now that's worth me sleeping with.

52:37 Drew Okay, then don't.

52:39 Okay.

52:39 Drew All right.

52:40 Adam A lot of guys just side a huge side of relief, Drew.

52:45 Drew No, no.

52:46 They want me, but they don't accept my mind. You know, I have a great mind and they don't accept that. And if I get into a relationship, then they try to take away my DJs and you call them too much and blah, blah and all that. And I don't want my...

53:00 Drew Well, they have a point there.

53:02 Adam Well, yeah, don't do it then. You find a guy who likes you.

53:06 If I'm happy and I want them to accept me.

53:08 Drew And your radio career too. They need to be able to relate to that.

53:11 I want them to accept my mind and to respect my mind.

53:14 Drew Okay. We want them to respect you as a total person.

53:16 Pardon?

53:18 Adam Yes. I agree. It's a wonderful, wonderful mind.

53:22 I don't want to be giving myself away like that.

53:25 Adam No, I should think you wouldn't.

53:28 Yeah.

53:28 Adam Well, let me ask, what do you do? Do you have a job?

53:32 Yes, I do.

53:34 Adam What could you possibly do for a living?

53:36 I'm a telephone professional.

53:38 Drew What does that mean?

53:39 Adam Really?

53:40 Drew Sales?

53:40 No, I don't do sales. I've done sales.

53:43 Drew Sex phone?

53:43 I do interviews. I mean surveys. I'm sorry, demographics.

53:46 Drew Demographics surveys.

53:47 Adam Oh, you call people while they're eating and ask them if they're watching Dharma and Greg.

53:53 I call them and I have impeccable manners and they speak to me. Yeah, I get people to talk to me.

54:00 Adam I would bet it's morbid curiosity more than the impeccable manners that keeps them on the phone. Do you have any kids?

54:09 No.

54:10 Adam Okay, good.

54:11 Drew I am. That's good.

54:12 Adam Good girl. All right, baby.

54:14 Drew All right.

54:15 Adam Well, you know, consider us. Put us on your speed dial.

54:19 Drew Yeah.

54:19 Okay. Well, I listen to you every night.

54:21 Adam Thank you, baby. You're just calling time.

54:23 Okay, love and peace.

54:24 Drew Okay, you can talk.

54:25 Adam Love and you, baby.

54:26 Drew Damon will know your voice immediately and we'll take your calls.

54:30 Adam Well, there you go.

54:31 Drew Okay.

54:32 Adam It's a very, very valid point and question to bring up.

54:36 Drew Yeah.

54:37 Adam Hey, Drew. Yeah. I know I ask this a lot, but she holds a job down. You know what I mean? Like a lot of the people we speak to. Yeah. Could you ever imagine employing them? Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah. Are you sometimes curious how people go to work, get a paycheck, buy groceries, pay the utilities, pay the landlord? Do you know what I mean?

55:04 Drew Oh, yeah.

55:05 Adam Wouldn't that seem nearly impossible for a lot of the people that call the show?

55:10 Drew Yeah.

55:11 Adam But yet they do it. I like that.

55:14 Drew Emily's 22. Emily. Hello. Hi.

55:18 Hi. First of all, I'd like to say I'm sorry for all these really silly questions you keep getting bombarded with. But mine is just as silly. But I've been wanting to ask you for quite a long time.

55:30 Drew All right. Now's your chance.

55:32 I moved to a new town from a very small town. And my problem is that where I used to have a great deal of boyfriends in the smaller town, now I'm having a hard time meeting people in general, no matter what.

55:45 Drew What kind of town is this?

55:47 I moved to a college town actually.

55:48 Drew And that makes it, I would think it would be easier to meet guys in a college town.

55:52 This is what I thought too, but I'm having a great deal of problems.

55:56 Drew Where are you? Are you in Eugene or?

55:58 Yes, Eugene.

56:00 Adam And you're not going to the college?

56:02 Actually I am. I'm going to the community college.

56:05 Adam Oh, ten times. Wow. You could dial the phone and everything. I'm surprised. And what about, you're thinking about transferring into the major university there?

56:18 Yes, later.

56:19 Drew The one with the football team?

56:20 Caller Yes, the one with the football team.

56:24 Adam And so you go to college and you work too?

56:28 Yes, I do.

56:29 Adam What do you do?

56:30 I'm a CNA.

56:32 Drew A nursing assistant.

56:35 Adam Oh, that's bad. You're never going to meet anybody there. No, but that's bad times. So you're not going to meet anyone at work. What about at school?

56:47 At school? Well, unfortunately, it hasn't seemed to be working quite too well.

56:53 Drew When are you going to transfer?

56:54 When did I transfer?

56:55 Drew When are you going to transfer?

56:56 When do I go to transfer?

56:57 Drew When are you going to transfer to the university of Oregon?

57:00 When do I?

57:01 Drew When do you transfer?

57:02 Adam Put her on hold, Drew. You know what was funny?

57:05 Drew Yeah.

57:06 Adam You know what was funny? She was like, she's a CAA, right?

57:10 Drew Yeah.

57:11 Adam And seems to have her stuff together, working, lucid, going to junior college and all that. So when you first said, when are you going to transfer to the University of Oregon? My mind went, six months, she'll be there. And then the second time you asked it, I had to push back to a year. By the time you got to the fifth time, I was like, I don't think she's going to make it.

57:33 Drew Oh man. Emily, when is your plan to transfer?

57:37 My plan to transfer is in about six months.

57:39 Drew Six months.

57:40 Yes.

57:40 Adam Well, that's where I started.

57:41 Drew Yeah. Can you just bear down and make sure you get the grades and make that transfer and then have a social life? And focus and just live your life as a college student and have a social life.

57:51 Yes, I realize this. My other issue is that right now I feel like very confident. Mentally, I feel very stable. And this is the first time that I felt this way. And now I can't seem to meet guys.

58:03 Adam Well, where are you going? I mean, you're working.

58:06 Drew Yeah. By the way, Emily, if you're suggesting because you don't feel confident, guys aren't coming around, guys love that. The more wounded you are, the more likely they are to swarm.

58:16 Adam If you pretended like you're retarded and had a broken leg, and you're flailing out in the street like a bird that fell out of its nest, that's when you're going to score. This dynamic, confident BS is not going to work for guys.

58:29 Drew So listen, you're just not beating guys.

58:31 Adam Let me just ask you a couple of quick questions. What about junior college? How about some of them pot-smoking, hacky sack plane degenerates you go to school with? I can only imagine what they're like in Oregon.

58:44 They make me nauseous, but yeah, keep going.

58:46 Adam You don't want to date any of those losers?

58:48 No, actually.

58:50 Adam Okay. Then socially, what do you do? Do you have anything you participate in, any clubs you go to?

58:57 Oh, no. Let's see. I like art a lot. So I like to go to art galleries. I like to go to clubs.

59:07 Adam You know what you need? Would you stop that, please? God damn it. You're driving me nuts.

59:13 Drew That's not me.

59:14 Adam I know. It's her. Do you have any girlfriends?

59:18 I beg your pardon? Girlfriends?

59:19 Adam Do you have girlfriends?

59:21 Okay. We're not talking the lesbian kind.

59:23 Drew No, no. Just friends you can hang with.

59:24 Adam You have girlfriends?

59:25 Drew Yeah.

59:25 I have friends.

59:26 Adam Okay. Okay. What? Okay. Get rid of her, would you? Is it true? Yeah. Is it just me who's on edge?

59:37 Drew Yes.

59:37 Adam And maybe that's it. But here's what I'm saying.

59:40 Drew What I like is when you're on edge and not here, then I can actually put, you know, I can rest my hands on the table and put my cup down without you freaking out. It's nice.

59:49 Adam What's with the pulling teeth all the times? Like, do you have girlfriends? Girlfriends? Do you have, pardon me, do you have girlfriends? If you're asking me if I'm a lesbian, no, no, I'm just saying, do you have girlfriends? I have friends. Just say yes or no. If you have girlfriends, go out with your girlfriends. They must know some guys. Maybe some of them go to the major university over there. Some of them have boyfriends who have single friends. Do a little networking. Don't be so tight. She's 22.

1:00:26 Drew Right. What's so difficult about spending six months, and we're only talking about six months here, grinding it out at school, making sure you get those grades, make that transfer happen, and then you enter a new community. Will you have a social life? I mean, think how guys have to do this all the time. Guys spend six years getting their asses together so they're in a position to start meeting people.

1:00:46 Adam I get the vibe from Emily that she's a little angry or uptight or controlled or she's kind of living up in her head a little bit or she's too old for 22.

1:00:56 Drew Well, a lot of it's entitlement.

1:00:58 Adam Well, just have a shot and relax.

1:01:01 Drew Julie's 24.

1:01:02 Adam Thank you.

1:01:02 Drew Julie. Good times.

1:01:04 Caller Hi.

1:01:04 Drew Hi, Julie.

1:01:06 Caller Okay. My question is, an incident happened with a guy and I'm trying to determine if it was rape. So I'll just give you the rundown. Met a guy through mutual friends, went out, had a good time, whatnot, had some drinks, ended up going back to his place and we hooked up. I'm fine with it. Didn't have a problem with that.

1:01:27 Drew What does that mean, hooked up?

1:01:28 Caller We slept together.

1:01:29 Drew Okay, you had sex with the guy.

1:01:31 Caller Right, I had sex.

1:01:32 Caller That night, that was fine. I stayed the night there because I was in no condition to drive home. Next morning, I'm just kind of in the mood to go home, get on with my day or whatnot. He wants to have sex. I say no. He proceeds anyway, not really caring about what I'm saying. I said no and I got really upset, emotional, and started crying and I continually said no, but he wasn't really listening to that. He just sort of did his own thing. So I don't know if I'm overreacting, if it really was rape the next morning, or if I should just chill out and be like, hey, you know what, it hurt up with him the night before, so you should expect that that's going to happen the next day.

1:02:19 Adam Well, it's an interesting one because we haven't really heard it this way. Yeah, well, if you said no repeatedly and you kept going, then that's rape. But one of my questions is, why do you think you got so emotional so fast? I mean, you did sleep, have sex with the guy the night before, and you slept in bed with him.

1:02:42 Drew Was he just being real? Was he being aggressive?

1:02:44 Adam He wanted a second helping. Why did that come out in you?

1:02:49 Caller Right, exactly. And so, I mean, I'm not, that's why I'm trying to figure out if I'm overreacting. I think one of the things was that when I was saying no and I did start crying, I really felt like he was sort of, I don't know, like just the look on his face, I felt like he was detached from the situation or something. Like it didn't really matter who was there. Like, it didn't matter.

1:03:14 Drew Clearly, that's what was happening because he's got a person in front of him that's freaking out and he goes right on with his business.

1:03:21 Adam Why did you start crying so fast though?

1:03:24 Caller I honestly don't know. I've never been in a situation where, I've never been in a situation like that. If I was not comfortable with what was happening physically between me and someone else, they were perfectly fine to stop right there.

1:03:39 Drew Why didn't you just get up and get dressed and get out of there?

1:03:42 Caller I started to but he basically got on top of me and I couldn't push him off.

1:03:49 Drew Listen, Adam, this is just a, here's I think the reality. The reality is this was a serious rape as far as I'm concerned. The problem is though, Julie's got her head completely screwed on and I'm not sure she wants to go through the headache of dealing with this.

1:04:06 Adam Do you? Well, I don't know. I mean, I don't know.

1:04:10 Drew That is a rape, man.

1:04:12 Adam Why does Julie having her head screwed on have to do with her not wanting to go through with this?

1:04:17 Drew It's affected her all that badly and I think it's going to be difficult for her to prove anything.

1:04:21 Adam Well, I'm curious about... I have a couple more questions. Julie, what if that morning he'd said, hey, Sunshine, let me make you a cup of coffee before you hit the road. Do you think he would have been interested in him down the road, future dates kind of stuff?

1:04:40 Caller I mean, sure, we had a really good time that night. I felt like we got along really well and, I mean, I'm not the type to, you know, just if I end up hooking up with someone or having sex, I'm not the type of girl to automatically be like, oh my God, we're going to start dating, he's my boyfriend now because, you know, people drink, they, you know, end up fooling around or whatever. It's a good time. You chalk it up to that. That's what happens. It's, you know, two adults making adult decisions. It's very possible I may have wanted to continue seeing him or even progressing to a relationship. I don't know. And I know I use poor judgment by, you know, sleeping with someone before I really knew them. I totally take responsibility for that.

1:05:27 Adam Well, listen, I think what this guy did, if it's, as you said, it is definitely rape.

1:05:34 Drew Definitely rape.

1:05:35 Adam I'm looking at a mother and her young infant child through the window, right, as the word rape came out of my mouth and waving to her. I hope she doesn't read lips. The only part, the only vibe I get, or the only thing that's strange to me was the part about you getting emotional and crying. I'm taking it to be very early on, as you said no to him.

1:06:03 Caller Yeah, I didn't want to have sex the next morning.

1:06:07 Drew But did you burst out in tears right away?

1:06:10 Caller Not right. I mean, at first, partly what was going through my mind was I thought this can't be happening. Like I said no, this isn't really happening. Like I really thought that. And then when I realized that he just wasn't listening and didn't really care, that I didn't want to participate, it was like, oh my god, there's nothing I can do to stop this.

1:06:32 Adam Well, this is rape and you should do something about it.

1:06:37 Drew Yeah, are you up for that?

1:06:39 Caller As far as like taking out.

1:06:41 Drew Reporting it?

1:06:41 Caller Charges?

1:06:42 Drew Yeah.

1:06:43 Caller No, no, I.

1:06:43 Drew I didn't think she was.

1:06:45 Caller I mean, the whole thing is, it's like part of me wants to report him because I would hate for this to happen to another girl.

1:06:51 Drew Right, that would be the reason to do it.

1:06:53 Caller I know, but at the same time, I talked to a friend who's a policeman and he said, to be honest with you, you're never going to be pretty dramatic because if you decide to report him, you're going to have to go to court and you're going to have to go through the whole ordeal. I mean, I went and I took a morning after pill. I'm on birth control pills, but I'm like so paranoid. I was like, you know, just my luck, this will be the one time the pill doesn't work. I went and took the morning after pill because the last thing I wanted was to be pregnant by him. I mean, I could just, I could just imagine. I mean, I can't be level headed, so I thought, am I just overreacting?

1:07:27 Drew No, no, this was right. This was right. I mean, what an awful, vulnerable, powerless position to be in. I would think you'd have a little bit of a post-traumatic stress reaction from that too. And that's an awful position for someone to be in. And I would hope you find a way to sort of get this guy under surveillance, you know what I mean? To protect other people from it. That guy's an idiot. This guy's a... Even if this wasn't rape, think what a colossal asshole this guy is. Think about it.

1:07:56 Adam Well, yes, I know, but you either press charges or not. You don't put him under surveillance.

1:08:02 Drew But maybe I don't know.

1:08:04 Adam Well, in my other experience...

1:08:06 Caller I'm 24. I'm a college student. You know, I'm waitressing right now. He's 30 years old. He's a business person. I mean, in a lot of cases, it's going to be his word against mine. And, you know, I don't... There's just so many people out there who are trying to just work men over or whatever.

1:08:21 Drew It seems that that was sort of my take on you. It's not going to be important to you psychologically to do it because you haven't been... This is like a recurrent trauma for you that you're going to turn the tables on finally. You're okay. You're whole. You're in one piece. And the real traumatic part might be the reporting and going through all the hell of doing that. So there you go. And you're sort of going away.

1:08:42 Adam Is she still there? Hey Julie?

1:08:44 Drew Yes.

1:08:44 Adam Dear, let me ask a few of our regular questions. You got anything we need to know about?

1:08:50 Caller No. I mean, for the most part, like I said, I'm level-headed.

1:08:54 Adam I don't, you know, I know all that stuff. But was everything good in the past? Did anything happen before when you were younger? Anything like that?

1:09:02 Caller No. No, I'm fairly... I'm probably one of your more quote unquote normal...

1:09:07 Drew I get, I get, I get hell from Julie. I really do.

1:09:11 Caller Basically, I just wanted to sort of get an answer from somebody and I figure, you know, who better...

1:09:16 Drew I think...

1:09:17 Adam Well, listen, it's definitely rape.

1:09:19 Drew Yeah, I think people are... I think people listen to the story would be outraged.

1:09:22 Adam Anytime you say no, anytime a woman says no and the guy keeps going, unless, you know, that guy is me, it's rape.

1:09:29 Drew This isn't even just no. This is her lying there crying. I mean, what kind of a... just sort of inhuman, you know? It's just awful.

1:09:39 Adam All right, is she gone, Drew?

1:09:40 Drew Julie, we're saying goodbye. All right? All right, thanks, guys.

1:09:43 Adam Take care of yourself.

1:09:43 Drew Help me handle this. What?

1:09:45 Adam Yeah, Drew, you didn't want to poke around a little there?

1:09:48 Drew No, I didn't get a single vibe. Not even close to an instinct on that.

1:09:53 Adam Well, maybe I'm just a pig, but... You know, I always think like... And again, I'm not going to win any fans with this, but, you know, couldn't she have bit him? Do you know what I'm saying? There's a part where you're paralyzed or you're angry or... You know, I always say when someone is raped, like, how does it actually work? How does he get in if she's, like, kind of shoving? What I mean is, I can barely get in when the chick, you know, when I've paid her to hold still.

1:10:28 Drew Yeah.

1:10:29 Adam Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah. Like, is there some point where you just sort of pop up and run out of the room?

1:10:35 Drew Yeah.

1:10:36 Adam Or does he block the door?

1:10:38 Drew Well, she said she had him pinned.

1:10:41 Adam Well, she said he got on top of her.

1:10:43 Drew I had her pinned this time.

1:10:44 Adam All right.

1:10:46 Drew That's a pretty scary situation.

1:10:49 Adam No, no, listen, it's definitely scary. I just was just curious if you-

1:10:54 Drew I imagine the fantasies you have too. This guy's out of control. While looking at his eyes, she's probably thinking he could do anything to me. Just hold still and get through this.

1:11:02 Adam All right. Well, listen, if it's that bad, Drew, I think in a way it's incumbent upon her to do something.

1:11:13 Drew In a way there is. I didn't want to put that on her, but there is.

1:11:15 Adam Well, I mean, Drew, do you know what I'm talking about? Once in a while you get victimized and then you have to go through more crap.

1:11:23 Drew Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

1:11:26 Adam It's sort of one of those life's not fair things.

1:11:29 Drew Yeah.

1:11:30 Adam I mean, if it was really all that she said, and I'm not saying it wasn't, I'm just saying if she was crying and this guy pinned her down kind of thing, it seems like she should talk to her cop friend about a way to go, is there a way to sort of put somebody, get it into somebody's record without going through a full-blown trial?

1:11:52 Drew That's what I said, and you said, now you can't do that.

1:11:55 Adam No, no, you said surveillance, you idiot.

1:11:56 Drew Well, I don't know what word to use.

1:11:57 Adam You want her sitting outside of his house with a night-vision binoculars, even Pistachio nuts don't fly in the morning.

1:12:04 Drew To tag this guy like a caribou or something, some way to try to light on this one is a problem. He comes up again, it's that guy, let's get him this time.

1:12:13 Adam Right, but you're talking in a fantasy kind of way.

1:12:16 Drew I know, I don't know how it's done.

1:12:17 Adam But here's what I'm saying, and maybe if there's law enforcement listening to this show, we're going to have a law enforcement guy up here.

1:12:22 Drew And when is that guy coming up here, the rape guy, the rape specialist, or Torrance Policeman coming up here?

1:12:28 Adam Bob Raipman?

1:12:29 Drew Bob Raipman, the crappulous one, February 13th.

1:12:34 Adam Okay, but Drew, like everyone's going to remember when February 13th comes around. Drew, please, we're on the air. All I'm saying is, when he comes on, let's remember to ask him, is there any way to be on record that this guy attempted to do something to me but still fall short of a full-blown trial?

1:12:59 Drew That's right. Yes, we'll make no of that.

1:13:02 Adam Okay there, Drew.

1:13:03 Drew Meantime, we'll take breaks.

1:13:05 Adam Yes, buddy. Hey, y'all, Loveline. I'm Adam. It's Dr. Drew. I'm in Las Vegas tonight. Drew was enjoying himself reading the dictionary in Los Angeles.

1:13:52 Drew Nice.

1:13:53 Adam I'm over here drinking horrible coffee in Las Vegas. And phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Who's coming up next week, Drew?

1:14:02 Drew Next week, we've got the cast of that 80s show. We've got Jeremy Grant.

1:14:07 Adam You just saw that tonight, right?

1:14:08 Drew I did indeed.

1:14:09 Adam How was that? Uh-oh.

1:14:13 Drew Cute. Oh, Jesus. It's hard to know. You've got to get a feeling for those characters. The first time you watch it, you think it's hard to...

1:14:21 Adam It sucked. Who next?

1:14:25 Drew Joe Rogan.

1:14:27 Adam From Fear Factor. In news radio all those years.

1:14:31 Drew There's a guy coming in who wrote a book about a pituitary. What's it like to have your testes turn on all of a sudden when you're a man?

1:14:38 Caller Older man.

1:14:38 Adam Boring.

1:14:39 Drew It's going to be good. You'll be surprised. He had a pituitary tumor and wrote a book about this.

1:14:43 Caller Boring.

1:14:47 Adam Yeah.

1:14:48 Caller Yeah.

1:14:48 Adam The 14 year olds love a guy who wrote a book about having a pituitary tumor. That's going to be good.

1:14:57 Drew You'll see. Jeremy's 14. Jeremy. Hey. What's up?

1:15:01 Hey. Yesterday I got a knobs for my girlfriend.

1:15:07 Drew Nobs?

1:15:08 Yeah.

1:15:09 Adam That's a BJ, right?

1:15:10 Yeah.

1:15:11 Adam Yeah.

1:15:13 Drew Nobs?

1:15:14 Yeah. Nobs.

1:15:15 Adam N-O-B-S. I never knew it was knobs.

1:15:20 Drew K-N-O-B-S?

1:15:22 Yeah.

1:15:22 Drew Okay.

1:15:24 I think so. Anyway, that was like the best orgasm I've ever had. Yeah.

1:15:32 Adam Geez, I like to kick this guy right in the nuts. Best orgasm I ever had. You're 14. All right. I don't know.

1:15:43 Caller Anyway, it was the best one I ever had and it's like all the other ones were all low, like low feeling and then this one comes long, it's all big and I just want to know why it changes in different levels and stuff.

1:15:53 Adam Well, you had someone's mouth on your penis.

1:15:57 Caller I've had it before.

1:15:59 Adam Oh, really?

1:15:59 Caller Yeah.

1:16:01 Adam How many different nubs have you had from different nub-givers?

1:16:06 Caller I don't know. Ten.

1:16:10 Adam Hold on. Hey, dump him then. Dump him. Idiot. Is he gone? Well, listen, you're 14.

1:16:20 Drew Yeah.

1:16:21 Adam Drew.

1:16:21 Drew Yeah. Zero.

1:16:23 Adam Do you think at 14, you'd know how many people gave you BJs?

1:16:27 Drew I would think so. Yeah.

1:16:29 Adam Well, I think you're pretty good. Let's say it was an incredibly high number, 414.

1:16:34 Drew Yeah.

1:16:35 Adam Such as 6. Wouldn't you still kind of know?

1:16:39 Drew Yeah.

1:16:40 Adam All right. You think he's full of crap?

1:16:43 Drew He's gone. It sort of doesn't matter.

1:16:46 Adam It felt good. Enjoy.

1:16:48 Drew Alice is 19. Alice.

1:16:50 Hi.

1:16:50 Drew Hey. Here you go.

1:16:57 Did I tell you guys now?

1:16:58 Drew Turn the radio off.

1:16:59 Oh, turn the radio off?

1:17:00 Caller Yeah.

1:17:02 Drew And here's your chance. Go.

1:17:04 Caller Okay. I was calling because I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend, like, big time. Because...

1:17:12 Adam What's he doing?

1:17:14 Caller Oh, well, we had... We were talking for, like, six months. And then we got together. And we were dating. We were together for, like, a month and a half. And after a month and a half, well, he was in jail for, like, four years.

1:17:31 Drew Four years?

1:17:32 Caller Yes.

1:17:32 Drew How old is he?

1:17:33 Caller He is twenty.

1:17:34 Caller Oh, man.

1:17:36 Caller Four years.

1:17:36 Drew At sixteen.

1:17:38 Caller Yeah. And, well, he has a baby and everything right now. But his girlfriend, like, left to... Well, his ex left to Texas. He has no contact with the baby because the mom and everything, they keep them away from her.

1:17:51 Drew What's your question?

1:17:52 Caller Well, um...

1:17:54 Adam How badly do you want these two to make it?

1:17:57 Caller Well, he, um, he played on me because I get...

1:18:01 Drew She's an antisocial guy like that? Untrustworthy? He's been in jail for four years and he does things that might be hurtful to you?

1:18:08 Caller Well, he was locked up for four years and I barely met him the last year that he's been in jail.

1:18:13 Drew Don't you find it just shocking that someone that is a ward of the state and is antisocial would do things that might be disturbing to you? Isn't that shocking?

1:18:26 Caller No.

1:18:27 Drew No. That's consistent with somebody like that. Alright, so he's up to... If we sort of had to write a script of what we would expect him to do, that's just about what we would expect him to do.

1:18:39 Caller And while we were together, one of his friends introduced him to some other girl and they talked and everything.

1:18:51 Drew Here's the problem here. Not why can't you trust him, as why are you even thinking about trusting him again?

1:18:57 Caller Well, it's because he slept with that girl.

1:19:00 Drew Why are you even considering trusting him?

1:19:03 Caller Because I fell in love with him.

1:19:04 Drew Why are you even considering trusting someone like this?

1:19:08 Caller Although he's been trying to gain my trust back. Like he's been trying and trying.

1:19:12 Drew Adam, is that clear up for you?

1:19:13 Adam Clear it up?

1:19:15 Caller He's been doing stuff like he didn't do before. He is changing and he is trying really, really hard and everything. It's just hard for me. I'm trying to, I guess, I don't know, because of past relationships or something. He's been trying really, really bad. I know that.

1:19:32 Adam How long ago did he... Quiet down. How long ago did he sleep with this other girl?

1:19:38 Caller About five months ago.

1:19:40 Adam Five months. And you guys have been together for that past five months?

1:19:45 Caller Yeah. Well, we broke up for a while, and then I got back with him, and he's, like, been trying really hard.

1:19:53 Adam Okay.

1:19:53 Caller And I'm just, I don't, I just have...

1:19:55 Adam Why did you break up with him?

1:19:57 Caller Because he played on me. Well, he slept with that girl.

1:20:01 Adam Well, that was five months ago, and then you guys got back together.

1:20:04 Caller Yeah.

1:20:05 Adam And then you broke up again because of that.

1:20:08 Caller Oh, no. I broke up with him when he slept with that girl.

1:20:11 Drew Just the one time, Adam.

1:20:12 Caller Yeah.

1:20:13 Adam Okay. Hold on a second, Drew. Am I as high as the callers, or did she not say that he did this five months ago? Yeah. And that they had gotten back together?

1:20:25 Drew She, no.

1:20:27 Adam But then she broke up with him.

1:20:28 Drew She ultimately broke up because of this. She didn't break up immediately.

1:20:32 Adam Are they not together now, then?

1:20:34 Drew Then, they got back together. They're together.

1:20:37 Adam So, you're together now.

1:20:41 Caller Yeah, we're together right now.

1:20:42 Adam And how long have you been together?

1:20:44 Caller We've been together for like eight months.

1:20:49 Drew No, no, it's true.

1:20:51 Adam Can we see what I'm saying?

1:20:52 Drew No, it's comedy. Okay.

1:20:55 Adam Well, let me just get this straight. All right. Alice? Uh-huh. Altogether, you've been going, you met this guy eight months ago. Is that correct?

1:21:06 Caller No, no, no. Okay. I met him at the beginning of the year.

1:21:10 Drew How long have you been with him?

1:21:12 Caller Uh-huh.

1:21:12 Drew How long have you been dating him?

1:21:14 Caller I've been dating him for like seven or eight months.

1:21:18 Adam Okay. Seven or eight months.

1:21:20 Drew She doesn't get what you're asking.

1:21:21 Adam Okay. So you've been together, let's just say, sake argument, you've been going out with him for eight months.

1:21:27 Caller Okay.

1:21:28 Adam And five months ago, he cheated on you.

1:21:31 Caller Yes.

1:21:32 Adam And you broke up with him.

1:21:33 Caller Yeah.

1:21:34 Adam But then you got back together again. And you're still together.

1:21:37 Caller Yeah.

1:21:38 Adam But you don't trust him.

1:21:40 Caller I can't. Like, he's been trying. I've been like trying to trust him, but it's hard for me.

1:21:44 Adam But you don't trust him.

1:21:46 Caller No.

1:21:46 Adam Fine. And here's a... Yeah, just listen. Here's my number one societal priority. I think I speak for all of North America, and I include Canada.

1:22:00 Drew Don't get pregnant.

1:22:01 Caller Oh, no, no, no, no, no.

1:22:02 Drew Would that be it?

1:22:03 Caller No, I haven't done anything with him.

1:22:04 Adam Yes. What are you using for birth control?

1:22:07 Caller Oh, I don't... I haven't slept with him at all.

1:22:10 Drew Abstance.

1:22:10 Caller Yeah, yeah. There you go.

1:22:12 Drew Perfect.

1:22:12 Adam You have not slept with him in five months?

1:22:15 Caller Oh, I've never slept with him.

1:22:17 Adam Never?

1:22:17 Caller No. Actually, I've never slept with nobody. That's good.

1:22:20 Adam With nobody?

1:22:21 Caller No.

1:22:22 Adam Why is that?

1:22:24 Caller Because I'm really not like that. I just... I want to wait until like the right one, you know, until I get married.

1:22:31 Adam Okay. But yet... And it's funny because when you sort of juxtapose those two personalities, you don't think dating... you know, you got the part that dates the felon, and then you got the virgin.

1:22:43 Drew It's good.

1:22:44 Adam It's a bizarre combination. It's nice. Intriguing, but bizarre.

1:22:47 Drew Yeah.

1:22:48 Adam Okay. Here's all I'm saying. If the guy's proven it to you, and he's turned his life around, and he wants you to forgive him, and he's doing everything right, then just stay with him until he screws up again. But if he gets one screw up...

1:23:05 Drew There you go.

1:23:06 Adam He's out. In the meantime, do think about birth control because I guarantee you, this guy is a loser, and losers have super sperm. I mean, this idiot already has one kid, right? He's going to have another the first time out. So just please keep that condom in the nightstand and be prepared, baby.

1:23:28 Drew All right. We're going to go to break, but when we come back, we're going to talk to Pete, who's a policeman, and he has answers for us about that rape call. All right.

1:23:36 Adam After this. Hey, Loveline, I'm Adam, and this is Drew. Drew?

1:24:21 Drew How come I... There we go.

1:24:22 Adam Dr. Drew? Let's hop back on the phones and see if we can power through a few.

1:24:28 Drew This is Pete, our peace officer. Pete?

1:24:31 Caller Hi.

1:24:31 Drew Hey.

1:24:32 Caller How you doing?

1:24:33 Drew Good. So, you have answers.

1:24:35 Caller Yeah, absolutely. The girl that was raped, she needs to report it, because once she does that, she's entitled to rape crisis counseling and victim witness offers a lot of things that can help her with that. And then the guy, even if she doesn't want to prosecute it, he'd be listed locally as a rape suspect. So if he keeps it, he'd be arrested again.

1:24:58 Drew So all she has to do is file a report?

1:25:01 Caller Right.

1:25:01 Drew So she doesn't have to show up in court, she doesn't have to face this guy again?

1:25:04 Caller Nope.

1:25:05 Drew And that's true in all states, or is that California?

1:25:07 Caller No, that's California.

1:25:09 Drew Where was she calling from? Where was she calling from? She was from Washington.

1:25:12 Adam What the hell do I know?

1:25:14 Drew Was it San Francisco?

1:25:16 Adam I don't know, I'm not where you are, I can't tell where the calls are. Hey, Officer Pete? Yeah. Officer Pete, really, it sounds like the kind of name, it's like those guys who showed up at 3.30 in the afternoon when you were in the 8th grade, and they had like a parrot, and they told you about crossing the street between the guidelines and stuff. What's next, Officer Pete? But let me ask you this, what's to stop someone from just coming in and putting someone's name on that list, some, you know, boyfriend they're pissed off at, or, you know, disgruntled neighbor, something like that?

1:25:53 Caller You know, nothing, and that does happen quite frequently. It actually does.

1:25:58 Adam That's interesting. So you can come in and file a report in the police department. I mean, isn't it sort of, aren't the police sort of obligated? Like if you came in and said, forget rape, would it work in other crimes? What if I came in and said, this guy pulled a knife on me, and he lunged at me, and he nicked me, but I'm okay. I don't want to go through a trial. But I just want you to know that this guy attempted to assault me.

1:26:24 Caller Yeah, yeah, it's true for just about anything, but specifically rape, it's against the law for the police to even suggest that the person reporting the rape might be doing it for a reason other than an actual crime had occurred.

1:26:38 Adam Right, but if I had given you the story about the guy with the knife, would you be obligated to follow up on it?

1:26:46 Caller Oh yeah, absolutely, and if it's somebody that's just coming in, you can pretty much tell when they're just blowing smoke, and then you go to talk to somebody, because usually something doesn't happen where somebody else doesn't know what's going on, or somebody else's third uninvolved party doesn't actually witness what occurred. So, you're pretty much able to...

1:27:08 Adam Alright, so somebody can come in and say they were violently raped, but I don't want to press charges, and you guys won't go after the guy, but his name will be down on your list.

1:27:18 Caller Right, just locally, like here in our local records, but if the person actually gets arrested for it and booked, then he would be listed as having been arrested for that crime nationally, and if he moves anywhere.

1:27:31 Drew They checked where that caller was, apparently it was Arizona. Are the laws similar there?

1:27:36 Adam Well, how does he know?

1:27:37 Drew Well, maybe he knows. Pete?

1:27:39 Caller What?

1:27:40 Drew Are the laws similar in Arizona to California? Very similar. Okay, so it would be true.

1:27:43 Caller And Washington, as a matter of fact.

1:27:44 Drew Okay.

1:27:45 Adam I told you, Drew, even though. Thanks, Officer Pete.

1:27:48 Drew We appreciate it.

1:27:49 Caller No problem.

1:27:49 Drew Alright, take care.

1:27:50 Caller Alright, you too.

1:27:50 Drew Bye.

1:27:51 Adam Doing the Lord's work, unless he's writing those chicken ass tickets.

1:27:56 Drew Michael 17. Hello? Hey. Yeah. Go.

1:28:05 Adam Wow. That was annoying.

1:28:08 Drew Yeah. Uh, Danielle, 21.

1:28:11 How's it going?

1:28:11 Drew Good.

1:28:12 Adam Good.

1:28:13 Uh, my father disappeared about four years ago. And ever since then, I've noticed just recently, of course, that I can't maintain a relationship with a man.

1:28:24 Drew Right.

1:28:25 And I want to learn how to get back to him.

1:28:27 Drew What do you mean he disappeared?

1:28:28 Um, well, my mother and father divorced. I would come on the weekends to see him. Left one weekend, came back the next weekend, and he had actually moved. Picked up and moved.

1:28:39 Drew And didn't tell you where he was?

1:28:39 Adam How old were you?

1:28:41 17.

1:28:42 Drew And he didn't tell you where he was going?

1:28:44 No. And I did 1-800-US search, had an investigator try to find him, and if he's anywhere in the US, he does not want to be found.

1:28:54 Drew Do you think he might be part of like some witness protection or something weird like that?

1:28:59 I was never led to believe that that could have been the case. Something tells me it might have something to do with money.

1:29:09 Adam Well it probably wasn't you, I mean it was probably some bad, some deal that went bad.

1:29:14 Drew Were you close with him before he left?

1:29:16 Yes, very close.

1:29:16 Drew Oh my god.

1:29:18 Adam Okay, but Drew, at 17 that shouldn't screw her up too bad.

1:29:22 Drew Not permanently, but you can see where for a few years it would be tougher to have a relationship.

1:29:26 Well yeah, I haven't been able to experience any closure with the situation. And for me, I feel like, well if after 17 years he can just leave, then this guy I've been dating for six months could do that too, so why even bother?

1:29:40 Drew See how women work? See that?

1:29:42 Adam Yeah, well here's the, here's the, what is that, the 411 ladies and gents. Guys can always leave and so can women. I mean everyone's capable of that. There's zero guarantees when you enter into a relationship, but the question has to be, what way do you want to go through life without any kind of relationship because the person may pick up and leave? Or do you want to enjoy life and the relationships and the ups and downs and the highs and lows that go with that?

1:30:12 Caller Well of course I do want to enjoy life. I just see myself getting into a pattern where I find guys that are just enough unattainable that I can keep one foot out the door and not get attached. And I want to see how to break that cycle.

1:30:28 Drew Go ahead and find a guy that's available.

1:30:31 Caller Completely available?

1:30:32 Drew Yeah. I know it's shocking to think of that as a solution, but yes, that's what you need to do.

1:30:37 Adam And put her on hold, Drew, there, while I go into this minor tirade. Listen, ladies, there are tons of very faithful, available, steady guys. They're guys who are loyal, they're guys who would never cheat on you. You're not interested in those guys, but they're probably more of them than the A-holes. Now, the A-hole guys may only make up 10 or 15 percent of the population, but they spread themselves around like the goddamn Taliban. Do you know what I'm saying? And they pollute things, and then we set up our world accordingly. It's like, look at, you know, I mean, what percentage of the world are terrorists? You know what I'm saying?

1:31:24 Drew But it's enough to...

1:31:25 Adam One billionth of a percent? But yet, we have airport screeners, we have security, we have all these elaborate things to catch them, and we're constantly on guard for this population that doesn't really add up to almost anything. It would be one drop in an ocean of people. And I think a lot of women do this.

1:31:47 Drew I mean, I would look at the damages these people do.

1:31:49 Adam Well, I understand that, but I would argue that these people aren't open and aren't looking for the guys, and Drew, you know these guys, and you went to high school with them, and you went to college, and certainly, there was a lot of them in med school, at least before they graduated and became doctors, then they became A-holes, but there's a lot of super regular, loyal, humble guys, and you gotta go out there and find one, and they're the majority. You're just not interested. You guys would be thrilled to have a woman look their way.

1:32:21 Drew She knows that. She's looking for the unattainable guy, but she needs to break that. She needs to find an unattainable guy. Adam, we gotta go to break.

1:32:29 Adam All right, Drew.

1:32:30 Drew So here we go.

1:32:31 Adam All right.

1:32:32 Caller So I know there's nothing wrong with me. So what's up?

1:32:34 Caller So I was like you, and I used to think that these datelines were totally cheesy.

1:32:37 Caller Why can't I meet anybody? But I tried everything else and thought, what the hell?

1:32:40 Caller So I called the dateline and actually met a cool guy.

1:32:42 Caller And I called the dateline and I hooked up with some cool people.

1:32:44 Caller Believe it or not, other normal people are out there looking too.

1:32:47 Caller 877-889-DATE.

1:32:50 Caller Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191.

1:32:52 Caller We'll be right back.

1:33:24 Drew Well, mercifully, another show has come to an end. Adam has returned to his crappulousness, retreated somewhere to the Luxor, or no, Four Seasons, I beg your pardon, at the Mandalay Bay, where they will fold his bed back and provide him with some chocolate and some classical music, which he deserves. He's literally a millionaire, you know, so that's good. Anyway, it's at the light when he's not here for me. It's Dr. Drew on behalf of Adam Corolla saying mahalo. Gummy Spoo.

1:33:54 Caller This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors, or this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Engel. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.

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