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1:20🔗VoiceoverHey, everybody, it's Loveline. I'm Adam. That's Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Dr. Drew is a board certified physician and addiction medicine specialist. And tonight, we're excited to have Dave Matthews and Boyd Tinsley, both from the Dave Matthews Band. And it's too bad the show had to interrupt the provocative conversation we were having before the show.
1:41🔗Dave Matthews BandPrison. It was a good chat.
1:43🔗DrewIt was hell and heaven and hell, I think, was where we were going.
1:45🔗AdamNice chat about the joint. I like the guys because they smell like patchouli and they laugh at my jokes. So we're good already. A huge following Dave Matthews Band has. And we don't normally get a lot of big bands in here. Well, not a lot, but we get a couple of big bands in here. And Drew, don't fiddle with that thing. You're going to try to open that thing for the next 20 minutes. Put the CD down. Come on, buddy.
2:11🔗AdamIt distracts me because it's like watching a retarded guy play with a Rubik's Cube. You know what I mean? It just pulls my attention to you.
2:19🔗Dave Matthews BandThat's the most fun I have with a Rubik's Cube is just keep turning it. I don't really have a goal. It's just fun to fiddle.
2:24🔗AdamI have my assistant do mine and then give it back to me and I feel good about myself.
2:28🔗DrewBut he can't be doing anything else while the assistant's doing that.
2:31🔗AdamOkay, Drew, don't get better. Point is, a ton of people out here to see Dave Matthews Band tonight, and it just made me think what a dedicated following Dave Matthews Band has and what a sincere compliment that is to you guys.
2:46🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, we're lucky we got an audience that doesn't get sick of us. The way I get sick of us.
2:53🔗DrewThe problem is Dave is sick of himself. You were talking to me earlier. He is over himself. He can't stand himself. Really? It's not even just his image that bothers him. He went away to Africa, went to Senegal, but he went.
3:35🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, that's the one where I wonder whether it was me.
3:38🔗AdamDave was telling me during the break that his farts were like snowflakes. No two are the same. There you go. All different.
3:46🔗DrewAnd he has four-year-old twins. Both boys?
3:49🔗Dave Matthews BandNo, both girls. Both girls. How do I get them all? Because we didn't mention. Yeah. But the one thing, you expect a series of expulsions, of gas expulsions, you expect the ones nearest each other to be most similar.
4:22🔗Dave Matthews BandIt's like, oh, it's a pink blouse. No, it's undies. What is that?
4:28🔗AdamI think it's a fart. Yeah. Well, you're an artist, Dave. I think even your lower intestine is also blessed with that same artistic ability. Boyd plays the violin in the band. I don't like watching people play classical violin, but I like it when they're rocking with the violin because it's a non-rock instrument. So when you're rocking on a non-rock instrument, it's like when a guy is driving a crappy car fast. It just looks cool sideways in the chevette.
5:07🔗AdamI don't mean that as a compliment, but it's dangerous.
5:10🔗No, thanks, man. No, it's cool, man. There's actually a lot of back in the 30s and 40s, there were a lot of jazz violin players. There were? Black jazz violin players that played a lot of swing and stuff. Really? Yeah, like country blues and jazz, and that led to people like Papa John Creech to play with Jefferson Airplane, and people like Jean-Luc Pontier to play with Fusion.
5:32🔗DrewThere was that famous guy, the old swing and old Opry, right? This is who you're talking about? Famous African-American black.
5:38🔗I do know you told me, I can't remember his name.
5:40🔗Yeah, but there's a whole tradition of that, but it's really awesome to have this opportunity. I always wanted to be an electric guitar player and jam that way, but they didn't have that at my school, so I opted for it. I was classically trained. I took lessons as a kid from like 11 on and played in orchestras and played classical music and I just needed to rock.
6:01🔗Dave Matthews BandWell, I don't look at it anymore because now I had a friend of mine, Soros, play, hadn't seen us play, a friend of mine from when I was growing up, and BT has a really aggressive looking, he's aggressive generally when he's playing, but then he opens his mouth real wide and his teeth are right out there, teeth. My friend's reaction when I said, did you enjoy the show? He said, yeah, but I'd hate to be bitten by Boyd Tinsley. It's quite a mouthful of teeth he's got there.
6:52🔗AdamOkay, you say water. Say, I had an English girlfriend who would say, water, and then she put the A where the R was. But when she would say like spa, like health spa, she would say spar. Spar, yeah. It's like, there's your A, use it baby. She's like, no, I'm going to use the R I got from water, and check it on the end of spa, and I say, okay, look, now you're just pissing me off.
7:16🔗Dave Matthews BandNo, I got the R in sore from New York. Sore. Yeah, I spent as I grew up a little bit. The only thing I kept of my New York accent was sore. So I sore it over there. I can't stop it.
7:26🔗AdamYou started off in South, you're born in South Africa. And then you moved to New York?
8:18🔗AdamYeah. If you saw Dave and you saw Boyd and you said one of them is from South Africa and the other one is from Virginia, you'd probably win that bet almost every time.
8:48🔗Dave Matthews BandPlay the violin and send them all screaming.
8:50🔗AdamYeah. Here's the thing too. I don't know. What about all those other pussy violinists, like the one Shania Twain has? You make fun of them, right? Those guys, little skinny guys playing their electric blue violins.
9:06🔗CallerOh my God. They aren't real violin players, right? They do their thing, man. There's a whole, I mean, there's a lot of guys who go there and play.
9:16🔗AdamYeah. You know what that's equivalent of? That's equivalent of when you repeat the guy's name, when you don't want to say anything bad about him, when you go, Dave's a great guy, great sense of humor, great musician, Boyd, man, outgoing personality, Drew. Drew's Drew.
9:31🔗Dave Matthews BandOh, I see that's nice. I was going to, yeah.
9:33🔗AdamYeah, you say that when you want, you mean a hole or untalented or whatever, but somebody's listening and you just, you can't muster anything to say. They always do that when they interview actors. They're always like, working with Al Pacino, what's that like? You know Al, I mean, he's Al. He's a hole, he's a hole. That's how you know a hole. They just say the guy's name twice, that's how you know.
11:10🔗CallerWell, the problem is my brother came up to me about a few weeks ago, about a month ago, and he told me, I guess, in a serious tone, that he was gay, and that he had gay tendencies, and at first I thought he was joking, but he was like saying that he was serious.
11:29🔗DrewWhat do you think prompted him to say this? Why at 15 is he declaring himself?
11:34🔗CallerWell, see, that's the thing. I'm like kind of confused because we've always been talking to each other for the longest time, and he always trusts me because we can tell each other things all the time. And I don't know, all of a sudden he comes out with this, and I'm just obligated to tell my parents, but I don't want to lose this trust of being able to talk to me and keep secrets.
11:55🔗AdamI don't know. Why are you calling us? Yeah, why are you calling us? It feels bogus.
13:46🔗CallerYoked, buff, ripped. Dave, dude, is Tim Reynolds going to be at all on this tour?
13:52🔗Dave Matthews BandWell, I'm always playing with Tim, but he's doing his own thing a lot of the time too. So I don't think we have any plans for, he's not going to come out on any of the shows with the band as far as I know. But I know that he and I are going to play a show in Vegas together. Really? Yeah, in September. I don't know. Don't ask me the date. I don't know what date it is. Anyway, Tim and I have a thing that we've had for years and it's a lot of fun and I don't want to necessarily talk to Mork about it, but it's a lot of fun to play with him.
14:27🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, it's a lot of fun and it's a friendship and we have a good partnership.
14:36🔗CallerAnother thing, the storytellers you guys did together, is that on DVD? Is that possible to get to or what?
14:44🔗Dave Matthews BandOh, I have no idea. I really don't have any idea, but I'm sure you could find it somewhere. Someone has it somewhere. It's got to be somewhere. Someone must have put it on VHS.
14:53🔗Dave Matthews BandYou could look on a computer and find out that there's Dave and Tim.
14:57🔗AdamThere's nothing. If it exists, it will be there, especially if it has anything to do with music, like Dave Matthews or any pop culture thing. All right. Let's play a little Germany or Florida. Let me explain how Germany or Florida is played. I discovered when I was sitting at the writer's table at Jimmy Kimmel Live for a couple of years that all bizarre stories emanate from either Germany or Florida. Now, not your run of the mill bizarre, but the one where the guy cuts his toes off and cooks him up and then eats his own feet.
16:08🔗AdamThat's solid, but why don't you play David Allen Grier's version, because maybe Dave want to sign him up for the band or at least have him sit in and jam.
16:22🔗CallerIs it Germany or Florida? Hey, Germany or Florida?
17:00🔗Boyd and Dave, man, you guys are the best. I can't say enough about you guys, man. You guys are, you guys make unbelievable music, and it means a lot to so many people. So thanks, man. I just want to tell you guys thanks for everything.
17:10🔗Dave Matthews BandThank you. Because I was for a moment there when you said nice things about Dr. Drew and Adam, then I was for a little, I was a little bit nervous. All of a sudden, maybe you're going to say, you guys, I'm so over you guys. And then, but I'm glad that you didn't say that even if that's what you feel inside.
17:23🔗Decided for Red Rocks coming up, guys. It's going to rock.
17:26🔗DrewOh, you want to get some more tour dates?
17:28🔗AdamYeah, well, hold on a second. Let him get to Germany or Florida. He's never going to do it.
17:31🔗All right, here we go. Germany or Florida. The headline is Retiree Attacks Woman Over Poolside Chair. A local elderly gentleman grew so attached to a poolside deck chair that he attacked a woman who moved his towel to another lounger. When the 76-year-old pensioner returned to his favorite spot at the pool, he was enraged to find the woman had moved his towel to an unoccupied lounger so she could lie down next to her mother. When abusive language failed to shift the woman from his chair, the furious senior citizen got physical. He tipped the chair over and hit her with it, the spokesman said. He couldn't believe he went so far over a spot next to the pool. Germany or Florida.
18:13🔗Dave Matthews BandThe thing is, it's obvious here is that it's poolside and it's elderly people, so the immediate assumption is... I mean, this isn't a question for me, this is for you.
18:23🔗AdamWe've gotten burned a few times lately with this, but then you want to...
18:28🔗DrewHere's the deal. So we go, okay, it's got to be Florida, but the game is to try to trick us, so maybe it's Germany, but then lately we've been doing that and it's been the other.
18:36🔗AdamRight. It's like when your sister, your brother, when you're a kid would say like, you'd go, I want this bed and they go, oh, okay, take that bed and you'd go, wait a minute. Now, why are they doing that?
20:00🔗AdamI got to collect myself. That game again. Let me explain something. In my business, the only thing I have is my confidence. That's the only thing I take on stage.
24:24🔗AdamA little something from the Dave Matthews Band, Boyd and Dave are both here. The guys are going to be playing at the Home Depot Center this Saturday and Sunday. Probably sold out.
24:34🔗Dave Matthews BandNo, you know, this year, this is weird. Now, I'm not the only one that's over me.
24:39🔗Dave Matthews BandBecause apparently Los Angeles, people in Los Angeles are just, maybe they're just not going to shows so much nowadays, or maybe it's a money thing.
24:54🔗DrewIt may cost too much gas to get from one place to another here.
24:56🔗Dave Matthews BandOh, that's where it's gassed.
24:57🔗AdamWe try not to support the arts out here, number one. Number two, everyone from Los Angeles is from Korea and Mexico. I mean, there's no, we don't, there's not-
25:05🔗Dave Matthews BandI was walking around, I wanted to ask somebody, but I didn't know if they spoke English.
25:23🔗AdamYeah, no, I'm trying to, here's how you need to know. Every time you miss dial a phone number, you just got to, and you're like, what? I didn't understand what you're saying. So if you call a number and get the wrong number, you'll get a crazy nationality. That's how you know your city is populated with crazy nationalities because every time someone else picks up the phone, it's a crazy nationality.
25:44🔗AdamDrew, go dial a wrong number right now. If you did it in this area, could I teach you a crazy? Oh, we did. That's right. Hello. Sorry, baby. We're talking about her people. Julia Roberts is in the video that we just heard the song from?
25:59🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah. She called us up and said, can I be in a video with you guys?
26:13🔗AdamExactly. We thought, what the hell? I saw something on Entertainment Tonight about it, and every time they refer to Julia Roberts, they always go, the pretty woman is on the set of the Dave Matthews, and I thought, I got to do a movie called Hung Dude or something good. So I can constantly, Julia Roberts, she'd be in her 70s and dragging her labia around and be like, the pretty woman was seen outside of, you just get called pretty because you did a movie 12 years ago called Pretty Woman. Know what I'm saying? Got to work that out Drew, find my movie.
26:45🔗Dave Matthews BandThey called Hung Dude, find the script.
26:49🔗AdamThe Hung Dude was on the set of his new TV show. Yeah. We will take ourselves a quick break. Dave Matthews here tonight, Boyd here tonight. We'll take a quick break, be right back after this.
27:38🔗AdamIt's Loveline. I'm Adam. That's Dr. Drew. Tonight in studio, Boyd Tinsley is here as well as Dave Matthews from the Dave Matthews Band, new CD called Stand Up. And take some phone calls. The guys are going to be at the Home Depot Center this Saturday and Sunday. Out in what city is that in, Drew?
28:01🔗AdamAnd we'll give you some more, give some more tour dates where they're going to be in Chula Vista, coming up, Phoenix, Albuquerque, Selma, Selma, Texas.
28:15🔗AdamI'm giving you a heads up. It's coming. And it's basically in order. They're going to be in Denver, they're going to be in Boner Springs, Kansas. Where is that?
28:24🔗CallerBoner Springs. I just call it Boner Springs.
28:27🔗Dave Matthews BandI think that's what they call it there.
28:29🔗AdamBoner Springs is, yeah, it's like Lightning Strikes.
28:33🔗DrewSomebody will call from there I bet, any minute.
28:36🔗AdamLook, I would petition to have a change to Boner Springs instead of Bonner.
28:52🔗DrewI live next to a city in college. It was A-T-H-O-L.
28:59🔗AdamOh, that's solid. Yeah. There's got to be a Felschberg somewhere. Be tough if you're doing the Civil War reenactment stuff over at Felschberg. Yeah.
29:57🔗CallerI'm too busy during the day to do that.
30:00🔗AdamAs an atheist, everything's confusing to me. Everything. Jenny? Hi. You're 28. You know being an atheist is like being high on mushrooms for the first time. When I got high on mushrooms for the first time, I just sat around and looked at the world and went, Oh my God, what am I doing? What are we doing? How does this work? And then a commercial came on for Lee Press On Nails. And I saw and I was like, the women of the planet, the female species, sticks these red long plastic claws to the end of their fingers to make them more attractive to the male. Are those supposed to be bloody claws? Why red? Why so long? What does that do to the male?
30:37🔗AdamAnd then it was a monster truck commercial came on next, big trucks, mashing small trucks.
30:41🔗Dave Matthews BandGet away from the TV if you're on mushrooms.
30:43🔗AdamI started to freak out. I was like, I realize when you get high on mushrooms, everything is novel. Everything is bizarre. You don't understand it. You don't realize how much you tune out when you're not high. You're not high. Just tune everything out and everything just goes away.
30:56🔗DrewDoesn't tune anything out. So I imagine how yours just went over the top.
31:40🔗Dave Matthews BandWe're rubbing people the wrong way again. I'll practice my rubbing.
31:45🔗CallerNo, but I'm not over you, so anyway. The reason I called is for Dr. Drew, I had an abortion in March and I'm wondering if that's going to affect getting pregnant in the future.
31:58🔗DrewIt should not. How was the abortion performed?
32:01🔗CallerIt was a medical abortion. I didn't take the pills or anything.
32:12🔗DrewYeah. The other way is to do the pills now, the RU-46. Yeah. It should not affect your fertility. Did they not give you a contraceptive or DepoProvera or something like that afterwards?
32:23🔗CallerYes. I did start taking birth control pills.
32:26🔗AdamWhy not the abortion RU-486 versus the shop vac?
32:30🔗DrewThey usually give them the choice. Did they give you choices?
32:34🔗CallerWell, they should have it too far along. The thing is, when you take the pills, there's a possibility that it might not work. That's what I was told. So I didn't really want to have to go through the vacuum after taking the pill.
32:47🔗AdamThat's a possibility. It's got to be heavy if the kid gets born because it's one thing. I think my mom wanted an abortion but didn't do it, but it's the other thing where they actually tried it and it didn't work.
33:16🔗AdamAll right. Are you okay? How are you doing emotionally?
33:20🔗CallerOh, yeah. I'm fine. I mean, it was with my boyfriend who I've been in a long term relationship with, and we just decided it's not the right time. So, you know, I had this experience a few years back where I was raped. And even though I was on the pill, I went to Planned Parenthood and got the morning after pill, because, like, I just, God forbid, if I'd had a pregnancy out of it. So I do try and be really careful. And I know that you guys are really big advocates for not bringing kids into this world.
33:46🔗AdamWell, we don't mind you, actually. We're talking about the 16-year-old white trash junkies that call the show.
33:52🔗DrewStrangely, you're the one we like to bring the kid in.
33:54🔗AdamThe ones that are worried about what kind of parent they would be, we don't mind them being parents, ironically. It's the ones that think they're great parents because they love their kid.
34:32🔗AdamYeah. I think about five. Yeah. All right. Hey, do you guys, I don't know what they have in South Africa. They have that morning after pill? Not the abortion pill, the morning after pill.
34:48🔗DrewEverybody has everything except this GD country.
34:53🔗AdamWhy? Religious? Is that what's going on?
34:56🔗Dave Matthews BandThere's a more prevalent, more outspoken, I think.
35:02🔗DrewWhenever I have done interviews with international press, or international camera crews or whatever, and I'll ask them, what do you find different about what you hear at this country? They'll always say the same thing. That in this country, when they do interviews, God comes up within about two minutes, and nowhere else in the world does that happen.
35:18🔗AdamRight. Yeah. If you count athletes, it's about two seconds.
35:23🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah. Actually, if you want to be slammed by the press, I have certainly heard this about the UK, is that if a politician wants to be slammed by the press, they mention God in a speech or an interview, and then the press just goes, what is your problem? You know, I mean, I know that might offend a lot.
35:53🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah. God is on your side. Well, God's, you know. Yeah, he's a Republican. He's taking one side. He likes a good fight. God apparently is a, he really likes a good battle.
36:04🔗AdamYou got to invoke the name of the Lord and everyone leaves you alone. Because people are like, you swore you'd never do this again or you said you were never coming out of retirement. What happened? Well, God told me to come back. Oh, everyone's like, oh, OK.
36:15🔗Dave Matthews BandIt is convenient because you could be, you could have almost the cleanest slate in the world and be somewhat liberal and maybe question the existence of God. And you'd be open to ridicule from the press.
36:29🔗DrewBut as opposed to you do Bill Clinton, you could have cigars and things and you go to your clergy and everything's given.
36:35🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, exactly. You could be someone who's sat in college and was a madman, you know, and then but as long as well, I've had God in my life for my peace. And then it's like, well, he made his peace.
36:47🔗AdamSure, he had it up the crapper 20 times a weekend for the, you know, you know, everyone, it's a way of getting everyone off your back. And, you know, I always contend that I'm gonna start using it. The Bill Clintons of the world are just liars because if you really are God fearing man, you don't do the thing that pisses off your God. Yeah, you just don't. I mean, if you really think this guy's omnipresent and he sees all and he's going to decide what your future is eternally, you don't get sucked off in the overall office by some fat chick while your wife's upstairs.
37:19🔗Dave Matthews BandYou don't do it. Maybe your God is a cigar-smoking madman. This is the thing. You forget the possibility. Maybe the devil's down there thinking that way.
37:29🔗Dave Matthews BandHe's upstairs like, hey, whatever you want, big boy.
37:31🔗AdamI don't think as many people are into it as they say, because here's here's I know people aren't really, don't as many people believe in it as they say they do. The second, everyone says they have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and all the clergy stuff and they do some praying on it. Everyone leaves them alone. But as soon as somebody says I talk to God, no, he talks to me. Everyone's like, OK, nut job. Get back in the pad itself. Yeah. Now here's the whole thing. Why wouldn't you be able to talk with him if he was everywhere and you had a personal relationship? Why would we think people that talk to him are nuts? Maybe we don't believe as much as as much as we say we do. Interesting. They're loonies. Powerful. The other thing I was thinking about other countries and their thoughts toward drugs or prostitution or the morning after pill or any of this stuff, I don't think they're necessarily more liberal than we are and I don't think they necessarily condone prostitution more than we do or drug use more than we do. I think they're more realistic. I think the reality with Europe and other other parts of the world is they realize, hey, prostitution here to stay. No fan.
38:37🔗Dave Matthews BandYou can't get rid of it. Yeah. It's like drinking or something. You know, no matter what your position on it is, you can stand up forever and scream, oh, it's terrible.
38:49🔗DrewWe do that here too in this country. We just put it all in Las Vegas.
38:52🔗Dave Matthews BandNo, it's everywhere. The thing is, there is this reality that we have on TV that we imagine, we pretend is real. Right. It doesn't matter. What's the talk show host? What's his name that he's screaming? Bill O'Reilly. No, no, no.
39:09🔗Dave Matthews BandThat was a nice move. Yeah, like that. Yeah, there you go. Kill a guy. But no, I forget his name, but he had was taking all the Oxycontin rush limbo. So now, there's a good example, not whether it was right or wrong for him to be doing that, but here's what he is, what everyone sees, and this is what we consider real in the public eye. But what's really there is that's what's real.
39:32🔗CallerWell, the guy did enough to stop a herd of elephants every day.
39:37🔗AdamWhenever someone protests too much about homosexuality or drugs or anything, look out, baby. Look out. But so I think what other countries do is they go, look, we're no fans of prostitution. We'd like it if everyone got married and was monogamous and stayed and raised their kids. It's not going to happen. So now that we realize it's not going to happen, let's get them tested, let's tax it, let's regulate it, let's be adults about it. Same with the drugs, same with the booze, same with the what?
40:05🔗Dave Matthews BandAnd that's not necessarily the case everywhere because there's some pretty severe.
40:08🔗AdamNot everywhere but in more evolved cultures.
40:11🔗DrewAnd one last thing, although we're not into retarded, as we say, screwed up people like we screwed up kids, we're not necessarily for abortion.
40:38🔗Dave Matthews BandIt's a reality. And it's a choice that's faced someone. But this pro choice, pro life, it's not something that's, it's a horrible thing. It's a horrible, horrible thing. But if it's not up to me, if there's a circumstance where someone is afraid of bringing someone to the world, or someone has a reason that they think is valid for, you know, if you're using it instead of a rubber, then that's, I'm sorry, then that's, that's obscene. But, but, but, you know, there's, I don't know, it just, it seems kind of crazy.
41:05🔗AdamWell, you know what we do is there's no shades of gray in this country. You're a murderer. If you abort someone in the first term, and I don't believe you're a murderer. And here's what I talked to Drew about all the time that no one will just admit. If you're a fair-minded, think, and you're sort of even-keeled person, you realize there's shades of gray. If somebody gets aborted in the first trimester, it's not a great day, but it's not the same as a person being stillborn. And that ain't the same as the kid being backed over when he's four, and that's not the same as the guy dying on his graduation day, high school bound for Harvard in a fiery car crash. These are shades of gray. One is horrible, the other is bad. You know what I mean? And we can't, if we just approach life with murder's murder, then we're not being realistic, because there's a big difference between somebody, you know, LeBlav coming out after six weeks and John Wayne Gacy. You know what I'm saying? All right, let's take a little break. Heavy, man. And it would have been nice if John Wayne was supported, by the way. Not John Wayne the Duke, but Gacy.
42:09🔗AdamWe'll take a quick break. Dave Matthews Band is here tonight. We'll be right back after this.
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42:56🔗AdamYeah, it's Loveline, get it on. Got to get it on. Phone number 1-800-L-E-E-1-9-1. I'm Adam, that's Dr. Drew, Dave Matthews in studio tonight, Boyd Tinsley in studio tonight, Dave Matthews Band. Stand up, name of the CD, we'll hear something else off of that in the 11 o'clock hour. Guys are going to be-
43:16🔗Dave Matthews BandWe don't have to, you know, if you guys-
43:18🔗AdamWe would like to, we would like to. Home, they're going to be at the Home Depot Center this Saturday and Sunday, and tickets are still available.
44:10🔗AdamThe tickets aren't that much to Dave Matthews, are they?
44:12🔗Dave Matthews BandI mean, you can get some cheap seats. We're reasonable compared to a lot of people, but at the same time, that's what I hear. It's unreasonably high at the same time. If you're on a tight budget, I think it can be a bit of a pain in the ass to try to do this show.
44:40🔗AdamAnd you remember, you don't remember the 19 bucks it cost. You just remember you saw the Eagles in 1977, Linda Ronstadt, right? That's the same thing now for you, Amber. You're going to want to remember seeing Dave Matthews when you were 22, when you're 52. Yep. And that 46 bucks for the ticket is going to be neither here nor there.
45:02🔗AdamNow that I've inspired you, let's keep going.
45:04🔗DrewWhat else, Amber? What else would you like to ask us? What's going on?
45:08🔗CallerI actually wanted to tell you guys I love you too, Adam and Dr. Drew. I actually work at an affiliate station and I've been listening to your show for the last year and a half because I run your show every single night.
45:26🔗DrewSo the first advice is get out of radio.
45:29🔗AdamYeah. All right. So question for the band?
45:32🔗CallerYes. Actually, I'm in the military. I'm in the reserves. And I was just wondering what your guys' point was on the war going on right now.
45:44🔗Dave Matthews BandI'll jump in here. This is Dave. I met a couple of soldiers the other night, and I wanted to say to them, and I think it is a good enough place as any to say that I think that a volunteer army, a volunteer, an army of people that are willing to put their lives on the line for just their belief and their devotion to their country is sort of, it's sort of, to me, it's mind boggling coming from a place like South Africa when the military was all drafted. Something like this, I think it's in a way, it's, you know, there's an analogy to firemen. It's such a profoundly generous sort of, in a way, a sort of selfless act. But you know, obviously there's different reasons that people get in the military. I just, a volunteer military, I have nothing but respect for soldiers. Now my opinion of the necessity to go into Iraq is, I'm not sure it was the right decision. I don't think it was, I don't think we were entirely, I don't think we were given the whole truth about the whole, about the thing. I don't think the evidence for going to war was necessarily there. And so I have a real issue with it. And I also, having grown up a Quaker and grown up in a large portion of my life in a very violent place, I am inspired by people like Mandela who come out of a system of vengeance, a system of violence that really was nothing but brutal to them and come out and say, well, let's figure out a way to get along peacefully. It's sort of counterintuitive, but I think at least it should be involved in the debate as opposed to the rush to war. And so my opinion of getting into the war was, I think it was a wrong idea. And I think it's becoming more and more evident. But certainly I feel very strongly about the people that are on the ground there. And then everyone always says you can't separate them. Of course you can separate them. One is an order from the commander in chief. The other is the soldier who said I volunteer myself to this military because I believe in this country. There are two very different things. And they don't necessarily mesh together entirely. And in fact, there's no mesh between them essentially, except for one is incredibly courageous and one is a debate, or at least should be. I'm not a big supporter of the war.
48:16🔗AdamDave, I have to cut you off, unfortunately.
48:20🔗AdamNo, no, that's fine. I appreciate your feelings, but we gotta take a quick break. We can get back and talk more about this. We'll just run it up and stop it there.
48:28🔗AdamI will say a word. I think we'll chime in. Dave Matthews is here tonight. Boyd Tinsley here tonight from Dave Matthews Band. We'll take a quick break. Be right back after this.
49:29🔗AdamHey, everybody, it's Loveline and Adam. That's Dr. Drew, Dave Matthews in studio tonight, Boyd Tinsley in studio tonight, Dave Matthews Band, name of the band, of course, Stand Up, name of the CD. We'll hear something else off of Stand Up in a couple of few. They're going to be at the Home Depot Center out in Carson out here in Southern California this Saturday and this Sunday. And then they're going to keep on keeping on with their tour, which will be culminating in Boner Springs. I'll tell you what you do. You just go to www.davemathewsband.com and you find out all the tour dates and when they're coming toward you because they got a lot of dates coming up. All right. Where was we and what we're going to do? Oh, we're talking about the war. I think most people are starting to have about the same opinion, which is, well, we respect the troops and we love what they're about. But maybe starting to think that this thing's starting to drag out a little bit. On the other hand, I'm all for the Saddam Hussein's of the world getting a bullet in their head. I just, I, I, you're Pat Robertson.
50:34🔗AdamThey're horrible, horrible people that are doing horrible, horrible things to other people. And it's the same thing if you had a chance to put a bullet in Hitler's head or Mussolini's head or Stalin's head, someone should have done it.
50:46🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, and there were, there were attempts always. And, but there's, there's, there's these idiots all over the world. And you know, you pick and choose, well, we kind of like him cause he, you know, sells us good cheap gold or cheap oil. And so, so it's just imbalanced. And then it's the moral position we take, you know, we gotta do it for the, for the people. And it's like, you know, just tell me honestly, we're not going over there to, to liberate the people. We're going to kicks, you know, and you can, and I don't know, I'm starting to ramble. Just tell us what we're doing.
51:17🔗AdamWe're just, it's my oil, get the cough of it. We're going over there to kill Hussein, which is fine with me. We don't, we don't want to do it, but that's, that's fine. A guy deserves a bullet and so do his two sons.
51:26🔗Dave Matthews BandSee, that's when we should call like 007.
51:34🔗Dave Matthews BandAnd just, you know, a little, like from the side window, dress up like a lady. Well, that, Mr. Hussein, you are so sexy to me. I want to do, do, do, do, you know.
51:45🔗AdamWhat happened when guys would put the silencer on the gun? By the way, never put the silencer on the gun before the hit. They'd always have to do it at the hit.
51:53🔗CallerHow about you? Put it on in the hotel.
51:56🔗Dave Matthews BandAnd then, you know, it's not that much more to go down in your pants.
51:58🔗AdamYeah, what's the monkey with the silencer on the job? You know, put it on where you can have nice lighting, you can relax. You don't have to sit there, I'm going to put the silencer on. They do that too, like, after they...
52:09🔗AdamRight, they do all that stuff, the same with the pump on the shotgun. It's like after the guys entered the house filled with zombies at a certain point, do it out in the car.
52:20🔗AdamFirst pump, I'm doing that on the way over. I'm still in the van when I'm pumping that thing. I haven't even opened the door yet. Of course. Do a lot of that. Do a lot of cocking, a lot of pumping, a lot of...
52:31🔗AdamPut on the silencer. Well, here's the thing, Drew and I were, as long as we're talking about oil here, or pumping or whatever it is. You know, I don't know what's going on with the oil. Drew and I were talking about it on the ride home last night. We got to make a move here. I mean, someone's going to have to step up. I was thinking about this the other day, and I realized, you know, these new hybrid automobiles, like Ford's got the new Escape, and it's a little smaller than the Escort, or the Excursion, or it's small, and it's smaller than the Ford, the one down from the Excursion. Come on, Drew. How is it you can only not think of things? I can't think of things when I think of...
53:12🔗AdamThe Explorer. It's a five-passenger car, gets like 30 miles in the city. 69 VW bus, seven passenger, 30 miles in the city. What's the big deal?
53:24🔗AdamWhere are we going here? We want the power. It's been 30 years. What are we doing? Everyone goes nuts with the hybrid stuff. The Prius, the Toyota Prius is 50 miles a gallon. 86 Honda CRX, 50 miles a gallon. This stuff is 20 years old now. We're not going anywhere with it. We thought we'd be in hover crafts by now. We're still getting 26 miles a gallon on a good day. What's up? You know what I mean?
53:52🔗CallerThe whole company is making too much money, man. They're never letting it happen.
53:55🔗AdamRight. Here's how it works. I'm not into conspiracies, but every time Congress says, every time Congress says, look, by 2010, let's have the minimum miles per gallon thing be at 21. Everyone jumps on board, starts lobbying against it and it gets crushed. Then, by the way, here's a couple of million bucks for the next campaign. That's basically how it works.
54:20🔗AdamWell, look at it this way. You ever see those shows on the Discovery Channel where they build those oil derricks that go out into the South Sea and just North Sea and they sit out? Sorry. Thank you, Drew. They go out into the North Sea and they cost $200 billion and have to be dragged out there by tugs and they sink them pylons 40 miles deep in the ocean floor. That thing's got to pay itself off.
54:46🔗Dave Matthews BandYou got to raise some. Maybe they're just thinking about the future because at some point they're going to pay for themselves but at that point we will have drained the Middle East of all its oil.
54:55🔗AdamThere's $2 billion in that oil rig and that thing's going to have to keep pumping for 20 years otherwise they're screwed. So we can't have it.
55:12🔗AdamYou can come over to Xplorer though. Go ahead, Jack.
55:15🔗Yeah, my girlfriend, actually. I've been seeing her about a month now. I felt like we were really feeling something, but it turns out first time we got that sexual intercourse is she actually had a penis.
56:00🔗DrewOh, Jack, you're such an a-hole. That's what will light you about that.
56:02🔗AdamI'll see you in hell. Look, look. Here's the whole thing about the Bogus calls. Put some goddamn effort into them. She had an operation or something. Well, I don't know. That's what I want to know.
56:32🔗AdamI'm telling you, I've said it many times. You have the world's dumbest callers on this show, the world's dumbest and I would put them up against any talk show in South Africa, local or national. We have the dumbest. Like we have, if you collected the IQ of everyone who calls this show, and I would match it up against any talk show in either nationally or local. We would destroy them and how stupid our callers are. Aaron?
57:11🔗AdamHold on. Whoever is screening this phone, this God forsaken show, would you start screening? Jesus Christ. A pterodactyl could fly through your screen door. Yeah, a guy got a penis. I mean, a vagina is short. Okay, we'll put you on. What are you guys doing? Start screening, you idiots. Aaron?
57:49🔗DrewGuys, yeah, girls don't have the bogus gene.
57:52🔗AdamNo, they get put up to it by guys on it. It's like there's no women bank robbers. They're just accomplices. They're women who love too much or helping a guy who's robbing a bank. Right.
58:05🔗All right, here's my situation. I have a situation in which I met a man, somewhat accidentally. I gave him my number. He called me. We got together.
58:14🔗DrewHold on. What do you mean, somewhat accidentally? Define that for me.
58:31🔗CallerI gave him my number and he called me and we got together and we haven't spoken again. But this isn't my question. My question, and I suppose this gets sort of more of an esoteric sort, and I was willing to let it go and be what it was, but endless, endless men, endless, and irrefutable coincidences continue to draw us together. I keep getting drawn to them in the most bizarre ways.
59:19🔗CallerOkay. Let's see. What's a good one? Okay. So he's reading a book and it's about a woman born on my birthday. I'm talking to a friend and I find out that we have this similar dream. I mean, just really bring them bizarre ways.
59:46🔗DrewThe guy has been stalking you since the first moment he met you. You better accept that. Though the random meeting in the grocery store, he probably has a little mini grocery store with little sticks of images of you guys. He planned it out.
1:00:14🔗Dave Matthews BandWhatever. I'm not sure. I have no advice because all I got to say is it's a little creepy, whatever it is. It's not creepy, but it's just, I mean, there's too much in it.
1:00:23🔗CallerHow was the man present? Dave would have the best advice. My advice?
1:00:32🔗Dave Matthews BandYou're not, I don't know what I'm, drawn. That's horrible advice. They're similar. You're similar. He's reading a book about someone that was born on your birthday. Who cares? What's his name?
1:00:44🔗CallerRandom things that just become more and more.
1:00:47🔗AdamErin, Erin, here's the thing. Couple of things. First off, I know you're hot because you're one of these people who's used to talking to people in person where they do a lot of head nodding because you're hot, but when we hear you over the radio, you just sound like a ranting lunatic. Yeah. Why don't you just go out with the guy? I don't understand. You met him, you gave him your phone number, you hooked up with him. Why not just start dating?
1:01:10🔗CallerHe's a bit, let's see, what's the word? His job takes him everywhere and he's sort of, I think he may be attached. I don't know exactly what his situation is. But-
1:01:24🔗DrewWhy don't you know that? Why don't you ask him?
1:01:28🔗CallerWell, we haven't really had contact again.
1:01:31🔗AdamSo he's not into you. He's not into you.
1:01:34🔗DrewSo these random drawing into him things are just random associations that you create meaning out of and associate with him.
1:01:41🔗CallerThat's the problem is that, trust me, man, I'm sort of hesitant saying any of these things because I understand that once they come to pass, really the only question is one of my sanity. But I can promise-
1:01:53🔗DrewThat is the only question right now, Aaron.
1:03:09🔗AdamErin, let me explain something. No matter how smart you think you are, I'm smarter, so listen to me.
1:03:14🔗DrewAsk this. How much money have you made writing in the last month?
1:03:17🔗AdamYou're not going to get a straight answer because she's a BSer. Now, listen to me, Erin. Here's the thing. You're good-looking and you're smart, but that doesn't mean you're not crazy. What you do when you're smart and you're crazy, people that are smart and crazy can talk themselves around their insanity. Yes, everything. They BS the world and the world doesn't call them on it because they're actually smarter than the person that's saying.
1:03:54🔗AdamI hear crazy yodeling from the canyons when you talk. All right. So, baby, get some therapy. Forget about this guy. Forget about the delusion of selling physics papers.
1:05:09🔗CallerI love Dave. I'm coming to see you on September 2nd. What I want to know is you guys have been around throughout the 90s and I wanted to know what you guys thought about online music trading and how that had affected you and what you thought it did to the industry.
1:05:23🔗AdamDidn't exist when you first got going really in any real way, right?
1:05:28🔗CallerNo, not really, man. I mean when we first started in 91, people were still trading tapes, cassette tapes and that to us was a godsend because that's how we got our music across the country so quick. We'd go to places that we'd never been to before and we're still playing in Virginia and we have a crowded house because people heard us through tapes and stuff. So we've always let people tape and to this day still let people tape. But as far as the internet, the online music thing, in one way it's a great thing because you get to share so much music with so many people so instantly. I think that's any musician's dream to do that. But on the other hand, we like everybody else work for a living. It's just like when people are taking your music for free, that means that's money coming out your pocket. I think the way that we've come to deal with the situation on this album is that we just make it harder for people to get access to our stuff before it's released, by encrypting our CDs and stuff like that until it's released. So it's a good thing, but I think you shouldn't be doing it if you're not paying for it.
1:06:36🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah, I agree with BT. I think, but at the same time, I think it's, you know, people want our, if people, you know, it's the first, the beginning, if people want to listen to us, it's also a compliment. So, you know, if they want to get it for free or whatever, you know, I don't necessarily think that's right. You know, I think we all are very well compensated for our work. But at the same time, we've worked hard to get where we are. So I'm sort of on both sides of it. I think, you know, it'll become what it is. You can't really fight something like this. It's just a technology thing. And we're lucky, I think, as a band, because we can we can tour.
1:07:25🔗Dave Matthews BandSo, you know, it's hard to it's hard to trade that online in a way. You know, it's you know, you want to come and see us play. That's what you get.
1:07:39🔗AdamI don't know if it's lucky. I'm not done kissing ass. You guys play a great live show. That's got nothing to do with luck. And then the other thing is, I feel sorry for bands, especially these punk bands that have to try to maintain this posture of, hey man, steal whatever we create and take it for free. Yeah, it's no different than any other product. I don't care if you make oven tongs, or if you just make music or whatever it is you create. If somebody takes what you create for free, they have no right to it.
1:08:13🔗DrewNot only that, but it ruins whatever else the next generation plans to produce because ain't nobody going to produce nothing if they aren't in some way compensated.
1:08:20🔗Dave Matthews BandYou got to be compensated for what you do. That's why I'm saying we're lucky, but it's not the case with every band.
1:08:24🔗DrewYou're in your mom's world or in Chumbawumba's world.
1:08:28🔗AdamYeah, in Chumbawumba's world, big horrible kids show. Chumbawumba's world, a bunch of angry Brits yelling about anarchy, scaring the crap out of your kids. Yeah, the thing, yeah, Chumbawumbas are anarchists and A-holes. And they're really, they're A-holes first and anarchists second.
1:08:44🔗AdamGod, they fell off the goddamn map 10 years ago. Idiots come in here, okay, anyway. They come in here full like their ass doesn't stink and tell us how anarchy's the wave of the future. Great, now they're back in Puddingshire, you know, and putting fish in a newspaper. Good, God love you. Stay there, please. And keep going with your anarchy dream. Just do it in your own crappy country. But here's the thing, you create something, you should be able to sell it. Just pure and simple. And you know, and this other part too, you know, I was doing my TV show, we had Drew Rosenhouse, the NFL agent that everyone's PO'd about because he wants Terrell Owens to make a bunch of money or he wants whatever. And I was like, why should these athletes, because they can. Because you can't run a 4-2-40 and they can. And why should Celine Dion get $250 million a year playing in Vegas, but that Terrell Owens is going to risk his life out on the football field for about five years and he can't get eight million a year. You know what I mean? Or why does this celebrity get paid so much? Why?
1:09:48🔗DrewWhy do you have four TV shows and you can't make what Man Cal makes?
1:09:53🔗AdamWhy is that? I'm angry now. Don't make me angry.
1:09:56🔗Dave Matthews BandOh, really? You're really pissed. There's steam coming out of your ears. Yeah.
1:10:00🔗AdamYou work and you make a product, then you sell the product. Don't worry about what you sell it for. Don't worry about what your compensation is, or what kind of house you live in, or if you fly first class or coach. If people don't want to buy it, then don't buy it, but it's a product and it's for sale. All right. Let's move more products. Shall we, Drew?
1:15:07🔗Caller1-800-LOVE-191. Loveline will be right back.
1:15:34🔗AdamHey, everybody, it's Loveline and Adam. That's Dr. Drew. Wow. Dave Matthews Band in studio. Not a moment too soon. Dave's here tonight. Boyd's here tonight. Dave's ass literally hit the stool right as the mics heated up. But that's timing. That's the timing of an accomplished musician. You understand that, Drew?
1:15:52🔗Dave Matthews BandRelatively. I hang out with a lot of accomplished musicians, at least I've been in.
1:15:58🔗AdamThat's what he does. That's right. That's right. He's a big game player. Yeah. Do you like, I know it's a stupid or a crapped out question, but big arenas, small arenas? I mean, you would like to play the intimate clubs. Does it make a big difference?
1:16:15🔗Dave Matthews BandWe spent a long time in little clubs, and but we enjoy the big rooms too. There's a couple of them. You can make them intimate. Maybe some people disagree, but if you're relaxed, you can make any size venue seem at least, you know, maybe not small, but you can make it seem intimate. You just got to sort of fit in to it, you know? You got to just fit. You got to be comfy.
1:16:52🔗CallerThe whole place moves. It goes up and down.
1:16:54🔗Dave Matthews BandIt's kind of unnerving, actually.
1:16:56🔗CallerIt's just the energy of all the great things have gone in, all the great fights, all the great sporting events, and all the great concerts has gone on there. You feel that energy when you play there, yeah.
1:17:08🔗Dave Matthews BandThey like to come to play. They want to be very serious.
1:17:13🔗AdamIt's hallowed ground, and it's weird. I mean, I'm not into that stuff, but if you think about it, there's, you know, Joe Lewis was fighting Rocky Marciano here 50 years ago, and every huge name that has come before you and after you is going to end up here at some point. My God, the list of events. And yeah, not just music. Every event. All right, let's talk to Anthony, who's 23. Anthony?
1:17:42🔗First off, I just want to say, man, I've been listening to you guys for like five years, and you guys are great. I mean, I've got I've learned a lot from you guys. And, you know, I think what you guys do is great for, you know, the two hours you guys take out of your day to do the show. I think it's awesome. And I learned a lot from you guys.
1:17:56🔗AdamDrew does it for the money. I do it because I love the kids.
1:18:00🔗Yeah, I bet you do. Hey, well, OK, I got this dilemma. I was dating a girl for about a year, and we broke up a month ago. And we had a great sex and everything. And she used to do oral on me. And I was totally into it and everything. But my favorite part of it was that she used to swallow. And I'm dating this new girl now. And she gives me BJs and everything, but she doesn't go that far.
1:18:38🔗DrewAdam has always said she'll raise dad. How could you say that?
1:18:41🔗AdamYeah, so she doesn't. Well, okay, let's.
1:18:44🔗Dave Matthews BandShe just doesn't seem like she's really all the way into it.
1:18:58🔗AdamYeah, I like that, I like it porn too. I like the chick who doesn't really wanna be there halfway into it. It's more exciting for me. You tell she like sobered up and is like, I gotta get back to college.
1:19:12🔗AdamIt's better than the crazy chick with the tats who starts screaming like, give me head. It's always weird. Yeah, I like that. Now, okay, let's figure this out because we haven't talked about this in a long time.
1:19:28🔗AdamWell, okay, we'll try to be delicate. But guys always want women to swallow. I think we are shooting ourselves in the foot by using the word swallow. We don't want you to swallow. We want you to receive and maintain, and then do with it what you will. You don't have to ingest it. You just have to be a repository.
1:19:49🔗DrewBut I think Anthony is a guy. You're very pragmatic that way.
1:20:03🔗AdamIf I was performing oral on you, would I need to actually ingest your seed? Or could I just keep it in my mouth until I got to the bathroom?
1:20:17🔗No. I mean, like, that's cool, too. I mean, that's better than nothing, but, like, I don't know, like, something about it.
1:20:23🔗CallerThanks, because Adam definitely would have liked to get rid of it, I think.
1:20:26🔗DrewThis whole receiving thing is a psychological thing.
1:21:10🔗AdamOkay, here's the deal. A lot of chicks ain't into this, especially the ingestion part and that's the hand you got dealt with this particular chick. You got lucky and you got spoiled before. So I don't think you're going to talk her into it.
1:21:27🔗CallerThere's no way that she would ever be into it that much.
1:22:35🔗AdamLet's not be anus-wise and ass-foolish. I think that's what I'm saying. Drew, write that down. Anus-wise and ass-foolish.
1:22:44🔗Dave Matthews BandYeah. You have your partner there and enjoy each other the way you enjoy each other.
1:22:51🔗CallerCertainly don't try and impose, you know what I really like? I really like it when you grab hold my balls, squeeze my balls and slap me in the head. Come on.
1:23:05🔗Dave Matthews BandNo, but I just think that you got to find out what you both like and maybe don't violate yourself when you're alone. If you want to do some, I'll leave it there.
1:23:16🔗AdamAlso, I don't trust the guy whose mission in the relationship is to talk the chick into doing something she doesn't want to do. That doesn't sound like you're having a relationship. That's like you just have a dummy to experiment on some sort of fling.
1:23:31🔗DrewBut then again, a lot of 20-year-old guys, that's what's going on.
1:24:37🔗AdamIt would be awesome. All right. Let's take ourselves a little break. We will be back with Dave Matthews Band after this.
1:24:46🔗CallerLoveline, be right back in a minute.
1:25:20🔗AdamHey, everybody, it's Loveline and Adam, that's Dr. Drew, Dave Matthews in the studio tonight, Boyd Tinsley in the studio tonight, and they are two-sevenths, eights, how many guys in the band?
1:25:33🔗Dave Matthews BandTwo-sixth, two-fifths in that area, when we're on the road, two-sixth of the band, yes.
1:25:38🔗AdamOf the Dave Matthews Band. The band is gonna be at the Home Depot Center out here in Southern California on Saturday and Sunday, and then they're touring, baby, so just go to www.davemathewsband.com. And find out when they're coming to a town near you. Let's talk to Carina, who's 30. She's addicted to sex.
1:26:04🔗CallerActually, not about. It is exactly 96. Did you mark it off on your wall? Well, actually, I didn't mark it off, but in my head, every time there was entourage, I guess you can say, it was like, okay, that's number 23 or okay, that's number 24. Right. But no, I just, my mom is telling me I'm a sex addict. I don't think I am.
1:26:48🔗AdamMom's got to be delighted by the way. Oh, what happened this weekend, sweetie? 81, 82, 80, no, 81, 82, 83, 84B. That's just about 10 minutes ago. Yeah.
1:27:25🔗AdamYour parents must have been drug addicts.
1:27:28🔗CallerMy mother was a gambling addict and an alcoholic, and my biological father was an alcoholic.
1:27:36🔗DrewOkay, so you had a horrible, horrible upbringing.
1:27:39🔗AdamHere's the thing, everybody, people that get adopted at one or two, that means there's some serious chaos going on at the home, but at 12 or given up at nine, that is super-
1:27:53🔗DrewMeltdown. Meltdown, catastrophe, Karina. So if you're not an addict, it would be a miracle.
1:27:59🔗CallerWell, the thing is, I was with my husband dating him through high school. He was actually my second boyfriend. I was with him for like nine years. And then after we divorced, it was like, all right, I can just go out and sell my wild oats. And about a year and a half after we divorced, that's when I had about 75 guys.
1:28:30🔗AdamYou got to get some therapy for what you've been through.
1:28:32🔗CallerOkay, that's basically it. Whether or not you think I'm a sex addict and what should I do?
1:28:37🔗DrewThere is no doubt you're a sex addict. The question is, well, you're at least sexually compulsive. The question is, are you addicted to anything else?
1:28:47🔗AdamHere's the, that just means you're nuts. Here's, if you start counting that stuff. Yeah, all the chocoholics, please. And by the way, I can't stand people, you know what, I'm addicted to chocolate.
1:29:00🔗DrewYeah, it's an insult to the heroin addicts.
1:29:02🔗AdamIt really is. Oh, okay, sweetie. Yeah, you eat a Hershey's bar once a day. I'm chasing the dragon and strung out, and I got a needle sticking in my arm.
1:29:16🔗CallerAnd to let you know that with the sugar, it was not just a couple things. I would walk about two miles at about two o'clock in the morning, and I would shoplift all kinds of stuff.
1:29:32🔗DrewYou're a bulimic then. You're not a sugar addict. You have bulimia. And by the way, you have kleptomania too, which is by the women a very difficult sign. It really means something very serious is going on. That's a Carina. You have major psychiatric issues that have to be contended with here. And I do suggest you start with that. I don't know if you're bipolar. I don't know what else is going on here.
1:30:01🔗AdamYou your family basically wrapped you around a telephone pole. And now it's time to take yourself to the body shop and get the car straightened out. It's all not your fault. You weren't behind the wheel, but it's your car now. So what are you going to do? You know what I mean?
1:30:28🔗DrewI understand, Karina, a hallmark of what you're describing is a difficulty regulating feeling states and regulating impulses and regulating drives. You're having difficulty regulating. And so your solution is do these highly arousing acts as a way of feeling good in the moment, but they become a compulsive need for those things. The more you do them, the more you have shame, the more you need them to regulate. And listen, you're a million miles from all these feelings and for having really insight into what's going on. One of the things about certain kinds of mental illness is you just lack insight. You lack the ability to see the consequences, feel what's going on, and you're sort of in that mode right now.
1:31:06🔗AdamNothing wrong with you. Just get some help. Well, there's plenty wrong with you. You're not a bad person. You're not really responsible for the shape you're in, but you are responsible for writing yourself.
1:31:17🔗AdamThat's what people don't really realize.
1:31:19🔗DrewYou're not responsible for your disease, but you are responsible for your recovery.
1:31:22🔗AdamLike any disease. If you have diabetes, not your fault, but you got to take your insulin.
1:31:28🔗DrewIf you don't, then people get angry with you. It's like, you're losing your legs now because you didn't do something about that.
1:31:33🔗Dave Matthews BandShe sounds smart just because she's thinking about the stuff and she's eloquent. You know what I mean? Yes. She doesn't sound like she's lost.
1:31:41🔗AdamI find that most nutty people, unfortunately, sort of know what they're doing. It's just they're compulsed. I mean, they can't stop themselves.
1:31:50🔗Dave Matthews BandYou know what I have a problem with now is that you used to be able to tell, this is way, I've just made it really shallow in my mind, but I used to be able to tell a crazy person walking down the street, at least not always, but if they were talking to themselves, crazy people. But now with these modern cell phones, there's a lot of crazy people and so I can't tell if it's a crazy person or not. Because they could be coming down and all of a sudden you'll see a little thing sticking out. It's like, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, not even crazy.
1:32:18🔗AdamIt used to be easy because they thought they were Napoleon.
1:32:30🔗Dave Matthews BandI told the guy to sell, sell, sell. What the hell is wrong with you?
1:32:32🔗DrewWell, people also get into this sort of relativistic view of things like, well, what's crazy anyway? Who are you to say, well, come on. Yeah. There is healthy and there is not healthy. We know what that is.
1:33:18🔗Dave Matthews BandThat should be on her back.
1:33:19🔗AdamYou know what would be awesome when you really start showing is get like a soccer ball or a basketball, a soccer ball with this octagonal black and white. Just get your belly done up like something that's that shape.
1:33:33🔗Dave Matthews BandMaybe start because you're three and a half months.
1:34:07🔗AdamYeah. Glass of wine is not going to kill you. I know, but just don't do it. Just don't do it. Okay?
1:34:12🔗Dave Matthews BandMaybe a Guinness, though.
1:34:14🔗AdamGuinness is good. Yeah, it's got iron in it. We'll take a quick break. We'll be right back after this. Well, that's the show. I want to thank Boyd Tinsley for coming in and Dave Matthews, Dave Matthews Band Stand-Up, name of the CD.
1:35:14🔗Dave Matthews BandWell, I really enjoyed being here, and if you'd have us back, I'd love to come and I'm sure Boyd, it was fun and informative. Thank you very much. Informative.
1:35:24🔗AdamThank you. www.davemathewsband.com is where you find out all the tour dates which are coming up. All right, we'll take ourselves a little extendo break, and until next time, this is Adam Corolla for Dr. Drew saying mahalo.
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