1:02🔗
Drew
Hey everybody, it's the best of Love Line. I'm Adam and I'm at home. That's Drew. I'm at home. You sure as hell ain't at my house, brother. So, sit back, belt in, and prepare for a little something we like to call the Best of Loveline. Yeah, it's Loveline. Gotta get it on. I'll tell you that right now. You know what I'm saying?
1:30🔗
There you go.
1:33🔗
Yeah.
1:38🔗
Caller
Well, a couple months ago, my girlfriend said she wanted to try anal sex, and we tried it, and she didn't like it. And I don't know. It kind of sparked an interest for me. It's not like that's all I crave, but it was kind of, you know, like that hot thing that kind of was.
2:01🔗
Adam
Let's talk about this for a second. Adam, what do you think about this idea of the people up the ante all the time, and that when they do, they sort of are going down a path? You know what I mean? Yeah. And the next thing it's going to, okay, we need to bring another person in, and we got to move along the arousal path.
2:19🔗
Drew
Well, you know, if you think about this country and this society and all that, that's basically what it's about, how you're doing this year compared to last year.
2:27🔗
Adam
When it comes to sexuality, I think there's a momentum to it for some people, almost the way you can get a momentum with drugs.
2:34🔗
Drew
I agree, I'm just saying, why should it be different than any other aspect of your life? I mean, if you think about what this country is built on, I don't want to sound like one of the founding A-holes, but I'm saying is, it's like, let's move, hey man, what you did last year, not good enough this year. It's time to ratchet it up. That's all anyone ever really talks about.
2:53🔗
Adam
And so that sort of gets ingrained in it, but that kind of behavior has a positive payoff. Those sorts of momentums have good payoffs. This kind of takes you spiraling.
3:04🔗
Adam
I agree, I agree, but I'm just saying, here maybe it needs to be contained. Maybe it doesn't apply quite so liberally in this bedroom and with substances. Things you can get motivational shifts in your brain around. You gotta be careful with.
3:17🔗
Drew
I think, oh no, I agree with obviously, yeah, I mean obviously, so, well, you only did one balloon of heroin last year, this year it's time to do two balloons. I don't mean it that way, but I just mean, we're getting hit over the head with faster, better, stronger, better, faster, and I think we're just sort of spiraling in that direction.
3:37🔗
Drew
I do, but philosophically, this is something for you to hear, too, Drew. We probably ought to wrap it up a little everywhere, because you end up just sort of, it's just a crazy treadmill. Everyone's talking into their Blackberry and multitasking, and it's just going insane, you know what I'm saying?
3:56🔗
Adam
So we're saying cool out a little bit. She didn't like it. I know you sort of got your arousals. Spidey senses are up now, but they contain a little bit.
4:04🔗
Caller
I just wondered, is that weird for like, I mean, is it weird for guys to be attracted to that? Because I mean, I don't know, it kind of makes me feel like maybe I'm...
4:20🔗
Adam
Of course. Now look, we talked a lot of guys that are into this or are attracted to it, and it doesn't mean anything to me. And to me it means that, to me, it's the max of, you know, it's the max of alcoholism to me is you need more arousal, more arousal, more arousal all the time.
4:33🔗
Adam
And so just be careful. Just kind of reel it in the way you would a substance or anything else. Just focus on the good stuff that you do have.
4:40🔗
Drew
There are guys out there, and especially guys, not so much women, but there are guys out there that are, you know, there's, there's, OK, it's like somebody goes, oh, man, you see, you see that thing on the news, the guy getting cleaned out by the train on the motorcycle. And there is there's guys who go, I don't need to see that. I don't want I'm going to go to bed. I'm going to have a dream I'm on it. No, I don't need to see that. And then there are guys who will pay to see it.
5:11🔗
Drew
No. I'm just saying there are guys who are, would definitely not want to miss that evening news. If that's what's going to be. And there are guys who say, man, I don't, I don't need to see this. I think it's almost the same guy.
5:24🔗
Drew
And there are guys out there that just, there, there, I don't even know what to call it, but they want to see, it's like they're the guys, they're not going to go, they're not going to kill anybody, they're not going to hurt anybody, they don't want anything bad to happen to them or their family. They would definitely not miss that newscast where the guy got cleaned out.
5:40🔗
Adam
I'm going to shift a little bit on you and also talk about how these guys with their need for anal sex with women. I think it's, it harkens back to that same pulling the ponytail impulse that guys have. Yeah. What is that? They would like to abuse and physically manhandle women. And then women like to giggle along with that. You can respond to that.
5:58🔗
Drew
Well, I mean, a lot of sexuality is just, a lot of it is aggression. There's a fair amount of aggression mixed up into it. And there's a little, you know, yeah, now who's in charge? I mean, there's a few elements. As I've said many times, Drew, when I'm cornholing someone, you know who the boss is. You don't have to come in.
6:18🔗
Adam
You've been just waxing, even sitting around reading Kierkegaard all weekend. What are you even doing?
6:22🔗
Drew
You're in charge. I wish you'd just go around, just go around, just do your day that way. Just go shopping. What movie do you want to see? I want to see that movie where they drink wine. All right, we're going to see the Van Damme trifecta. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. It definitely puts you in charge. I think that's another thing that guys like. All right, you ready?
7:06🔗
20 minutes.
7:07🔗
Drew
45. Trey. Yeah. Commercial salvage diver. Yes. All right. Let's hear all about this. First off, the bends. Call the bends because you bend over. That's what I like. I like a very simple one. You know where they got their name, Drew?
7:28🔗
Drew
It must have been easy before there was all these CAT scans and doctors and cultures and everything. What do we call this one? Well, the guy is attempting to blow himself while he's standing on the edge of the pier. Bends.
7:48🔗
Best Of
You know, I just completely clamped up. I started feeling tingle in my hands, clamped up, and they took me to the hyperbaric chamber.
7:56🔗
Adam
So you didn't have any skin reactions or joint reactions or anything like that? Just muscle?
8:10🔗
Best Of
There was an accident. I was doing a saturation dive where we were down for a very long period of time and we were completely saturated with nitrogen. And there was a mix up when I was getting lifted to the surface and I came up too fast.
8:23🔗
Yeesh.
8:26🔗
Best Of
We were doing some salvaging on an old ship that had a car on it. And so we had to go grab that.
8:38🔗
Drew
Awesome. We got to keep talking. Now let me say a few things. First off, here's where they invented the bends is when they were doing, I think the Brooklyn Bridge and they were digging caissons and they had to dig those caissons deep into the bay. Yeah. People were getting the bends not in the water.
8:57🔗
Drew
They were getting the bends by going into this air chamber, this caisson and spending too much time down there.
9:03🔗
Drew
And then coming up. And everyone was like, people were dying of it all the time. Trey. Yeah. I got a lot of diving related questions for you.
9:14🔗
Adam
No problem. Let me tell you a story. Let me tell you a story. You like this too. I had a guy that was a recreational diver. He came up and he had sort of red marks over his knuckles. And he had a little bit of discomfort there. It was like he had persisted for two weeks after he dove. And he said, what is this? And we call it diving people. We call it everything we can think of. Long Beach has a special sort of decompression chair. And nothing, no big deal. Maybe it's a sea urchin bite or a sting or something. Guy goes down about a month later. He's about 30 feet, dies. How?
10:09🔗
Best Of
It was some old yacht, actually. They were trying to bring this car over to one of the San Juan Islands. This rich guy was doing that and it sunk.
10:22🔗
Drew
That's boring. I thought it was going to be a Duesenberg or something. What year was the Ford?
10:31🔗
Drew
Don't you guys have a recycler where you are? You could pick one of those for 3500 bucks. Okay, so he found a... so he went down to get the 67 Ford.
10:52🔗
Drew
And how bad a shape is a car? I know it depends where it is and how cold the water is on, but two years, I don't know, can you bring it back to surface and, you know, work on it and get it, you know, restore it?
11:04🔗
Best Of
You couldn't restore it, but it's pretty good scrap money and you can sell pieces pretty nicely.
11:13🔗
Best Of
We use these big lift bags that we hook up and if we have to take up piecemeal, that's what we do.
11:36🔗
Best Of
Coolest thing I salvaged was this ancient old Buick from the 30s. It actually restored perfectly.
11:44🔗
Drew
No, you just, you do car, lots of cars? Lots of ocean? You do a lot of cars. You did an old Buick?
12:02🔗
Drew
Well, no, how come the Caddy that was from 67 had only been under the water for two years, but just good for parting the thing out?
12:22🔗
Right, right, right.
12:31🔗
Best Of
Actually, it wasn't, because it was still in really good packing. It was in those Connex containers, and it was really wrapped up tight, and so it was okay.
13:01🔗
Wow.
13:21🔗
Drew
They set records. They do down there. They do welding on oil derricks. What do you mean they do it down there? They come back up again.
13:38🔗
Adam
Are you pleased to freedive Halibut? We'd go 30 feet, and that was a huge deal. I mean, Joe, you know, it's very different.
14:25🔗
Adam
But they'd be interesting if it were because the bends can cause actually tissue damage. And so you might want to kind of check that out if it persists after you get out the codeine.
14:36🔗
Drew
No, no. No, not dream. I just make fantasy. I want an excuse to look at a watch under water. There's nothing cooler. Even when you're in a pool. You ever jump in a pool and you look at your watch and you're under water? Nah, here's where I want to be. I want to be like in the ocean. I want to be kind of deep. And I want to do that thing where I point at my watch to you. You know, I do this thing. I do like two and I do like that. And I point at the watch and you do, and I set the thing. That's, and I also want to have a knife in my mouth at some point.
15:02🔗
Adam
But even that when you have a regulator in your mouth when you're diving, you can't have it.
15:05🔗
Drew
Oh, yeah. No, no. Oh, okay, okay. The point is, is just, Drew, just to point at your watch and to really mean it. Like you have to look at it. Underwire, you think you'll ever be in that situation?
15:20🔗
Adam
Yeah, I used to do the free diving frame with scuba diving and he'd always be going and telling me how long he's got to do it.
15:28🔗
Drew
No, you need to point at your watch. You need a big, hefty, big, thick rubber band on it and you point at it. Look at this. But you don't say anything because, you know.
15:43🔗
Drew
Free diving. What'd you hit him with? A spear? How big? What's the biggest one you ever got?
15:59🔗
Adam
Again, for Discovery Health Channel, we're looking for people to be on that show, looking for people who have sort of sexual hangups because of germs, they're afraid of oral sex, a French kiss, that kind of thing. And people who are fearful of letting their spouse or partner see them naked.
16:18🔗
I'm looking it up right now.
16:21🔗
Drew
How can Chris be doing what I told him to do the second time I ask him every time? Like if I say, here's the thing, here's the thing. What's the date today, the 15th?
16:31🔗
Drew
It was January 15th? If I said to Chris, Chris, I need to look this up and be January 15th. If I came back four years later and said, well, what's the answer to that question? You'd say, hold on, let me get that.
16:59🔗
122 meters is what it was.
17:02🔗
Drew
122 meters. Wow. 400 feet. And by the way, anyone's ever been out in the ocean, look down and see what 60 feet looks like. You'd go out of your mind.
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Yeah.
17:25🔗
Drew
They go down on a sled. They go down. It pulls them down. Then when they get to the bottom, pow, they pull this, you know, nitrogen cartridge or something in a balloon thing and it shoots them back up again. She's still going down 400 feet. And there's a great story about this really hot, like 20-something year old chick. I mean it.
17:47🔗
Drew
Set the record, had this like a husband who freedove, went down, he was going for the, they were going for the record, but it wasn't like sanctioned, right? He screwed up the balloon thing. Boom, went down, thing didn't go. Oh, so that couldn't get back up. Died. Yeah. Bad times. Good looking chick. Long hair.
18:11🔗
Drew
She was the one who died. Yeah. And then they were going after him because they said you didn't set it right. And that was murder. It was crazy. Someone's going to make a movie out of this. All right. Should we take a break, Drew? 400 feet, everybody. It's like a 35-story building. Just straight down on a cable.
18:28🔗
There's a movie called The Big Blue that's all about that.
18:39🔗
Drew
Let's take a quick break. Did you find it, Chris? How many feet, buddy? 400 feet. 400 feet. Excellent. That's what I'm talking about. We're going to take a quick break. When we come back, Drew, who do we talk to? Why does her vagina stink? Yeah, that's Savannah after this.
18:59🔗
Thank you for calling Loveline.
19:08🔗
Drew
Ready for something new? Try Durex Tingling Condoms. There's sex and then there's Durex. Yeah, buddy, it's Loveline. Adam, that's Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1. You know what I was thinking about today, Drew?
19:32🔗
Drew
Talked about it before, but it's been a number of years. My nephew, not my sister's kid, but my wife's sister's kid, got a fractured hip.
19:46🔗
Drew
Hit with a hockey puck. Oh, kid's like 16 years old. Anyway, I think he's going to be okay. But he can't sleep because he's in pain and he sleeps on his side or on his stomach. Of course, the hips are f'ed up and he's got to be on his back. You're on your back a lot in this society. The world is built for people to sleep on their back. You take a plane, the seat reclines. You sleep on your back, you're in great shape. You sleep on your front, you're after like I am. Yes. It's like if you sleep on your back, it's good for if you essentially can doze off in the upright or sitting position. Long bus ride, a plane ride, a boring board meeting, a long movie, whatever it is, goes right on. Now, if you sleep on your front, and then especially if you sleep on your face in this sort of cockeyed position I do where my hands are actually underneath my head being used as sort of a pillow. And if you do that, then you get in the plane seat, you recline the plane seat, and then you proceed to try to twist over. But of course, you're being bent backwards. Like essentially, if you want to sleep, you can do it, but from LA to New York, you're going to be in the down dog position. It's like some sort of retarded yoga lotus position, and you're going to wake up in worse shape than you were. It's actually worse because the only thing worse than actually not sleeping is trying to sleep and tossing and turning all over the place, and you got your face mashed up against the window and stuff, and you're trying to tuck your hand, and you're using your jacket as a pillow under your head. Meanwhile, the guys who sleep on their backs are sawing logs all the way across the ocean. And I just look at them, and I think, you're going 600 miles an hour, you're 30,000 feet in the air, but you might as well just be home in your bed, because that's where you are right now. You're just leaning back, you're going to bed. And I thought, and it's better for your back, it's better for everything, it's better for your skin, like I'll get a zit or something, or an ingrown hair or something on my face or my cheek, because I sleep with my face mashed up against. And then, of course, the drool.
22:04🔗
Adam
No, it's because of your hands, your hands are mashed up against your face, all that stuff on your hands gets on your face.
22:14🔗
Drew
And then secondly, then there's the drool factor. I will slobber on my pillow facing, you know. And then, now if anything happens, like oh, I threw my back out or I hurt my neck or something, now you're in for the worst night of your life.
22:29🔗
Drew
You're just not sleeping. And then, God forbid, something happens where you have to go into the hospital for a few days. You're just screwed. It's like, listen, you might just dart me like a rhino. Otherwise, I'm going to be lying here staring at the ceiling all night. So, I thought, what an advantage sleeping on your back is. What a huge thing. And I thought, two things. One is, I swear to Christ, you get hold of your kids, flip them over, Drew. Go into the room every night and just flip them over. You could turn them over. You could turn them over and flip them over and work them. And my buddy, Chris, he was a belly sleeper until he beat up somebody on Pacific Coast Highway and the guy ran him over in his Volkswagen.
23:14🔗
Drew
Well, he just, he ran him over enough to have some internal bleeding and stuff and a fractured arm and stuff. And he had to go to the hospital and to stay in the hospital for like two weeks. And it converted him over to his back. Wow. Well, because if you think about it, you take a 19 year old guy and you put him on his back for two weeks, he's converted. Why should it be any different than quitting smoking? Right, right, right. You know what I mean? It's like the first couple of days are the hardest, right?
23:50🔗
Adam
Yeah, learn to sleep in the position that you will need your whole life. You know what I mean?
23:56🔗
Drew
Learn to sleep in the position that the man has forced you to get in in almost every situation. I don't care if you're on a subway, a bus or an airplane. You be on your back. Folks, if you sleep on your back and you're flying to Singapore, pop a Xanax and let the good times roll. Now, I start a facility where I'll flip you. I'll flip you. The first thing we got to do is we got to... This is why I'm talking to you, Drew, because I need a physician. People aren't going to do it. I'm going to have to drug them up pretty good. They're going to have a lot of muscle relaxing. They're going to be like the rag dolls. Yeah. And then I'm just going to start flipping them. And I'm going to get a bed that actually starts to pivot and turn over. So they just get a big spatula, flips them over. But after, you know, ten days, they're on their back. And that's it for the rest of their life. No back problems, no slobber on the pillow, sleeping. I predict you will you will take flights just to sleep. You may not even have to travel. You'll just go get on a plane.
25:02🔗
Drew
Chris, you see this? I'm drawing a stick figure on his stomach and I'm drawing the same guy now on his back with an arrow. Okay? All right?
25:14🔗
Drew
You know what I'm going to do? I'm going to send this to myself. Yeah. So it's dated. Got a postmark on it.
25:23🔗
Adam
I have a quick thing first. Again, for the My Television Program, I'm looking to talk to couples who have a fear of having pregnancy while- excuse me, a fear of having sex while pregnant. We talk to those people on Loveline all the time, but the guys are fearful of screwing the kid up or the women feel ugly. We want to put- to talk to that couple on television, so.
25:41🔗
Adam
I know. It's interesting. Yeah, we talk to them all the time. Now, of course, no one will call.
25:46🔗
Yeah.
25:51🔗
Maybe.
25:56🔗
Caller
I can actually sleep on my belly or on my back. I've actually fallen asleep once where I had my elbows on the ground. I had my face propped up.
26:09🔗
Adam
I think I can hear her talk about anything. We like your enthusiasm. Yes. Just read the dictionary to us. Go ahead. What's up?
26:42🔗
Drew
Yeah. Well, I'll tell you how you know it's not one of your daughter, your daughter or one of her friends, because ice skating has not come up yet. And we're a whole minute and 11 seconds into the call. Go ahead, Lacey. What's your question?
26:54🔗
Caller
There's a guy in my class, and I like him and everything. Like, I want him to actually like me, like me.
27:53🔗
Caller
No. They actually cut a scar from the bottom of my ear up to my head, up to the top of my head, and pulled my whole face forward. I have a picture of my three-day black and blue eye. Wow.
28:27🔗
Adam
Was it an arachnoid cyst? Does that sound familiar? That's kind of a weird location for an arachnoid cyst.
28:34🔗
Drew
All right. So, and they check you every once in a while and see if it's coming back? MRI. BFD. All right. So what's up?
28:50🔗
Drew
Listen, I had one of those MRIs like you put your head in a trash can and some guy beats it with a wooden spoon for 40 minutes. It's horrible.
29:17🔗
Drew
Well, here's what I understand, Lacey. You're very outgoing and you're not scared to present yourself to people and have a conversation with people. Maybe you should talk to him about how you feel about him.
29:32🔗
Caller
Yeah, because he doesn't need to like other girls in class because I've called him and I've had like my cousin Three Way and like ask him.
29:57🔗
Adam
Here's the deal. It's okay to talk. What does it mean when you have a boyfriend 12 years old anyway? It just sort of means you kind of hang out.
30:08🔗
Caller
Oh my God. I believe my ex that just dumped me because he has to go down to Hollywood for like five months. For acting, we like would go to the movies. I went to his house.
30:19🔗
Adam
Right, right, right, right. So maybe you should ask him out to hang out like that. I think that's enough for me.
30:31🔗
Drew
Your ex. I don't know. I can't even imagine calling it an ex at age 12. What are you in? Are you in the sixth grade?
30:39🔗
Drew
All right. All right. So here's the thing, Lacey. Let's be realistic about this whole thing. The guy knows you. He's seen you. He's spoken.
30:55🔗
Drew
Right. But that's like saying he's always looking at me because there's a seagull on my head.
31:01🔗
Drew
Do you know what I mean? It's like that doesn't help you any. He's always looking at you. Yeah, because his buddy's right next to you.
31:09🔗
Drew
And you're staring at him. But he's well aware of you and doesn't seem to be interested. Is that correct?
31:16🔗
Adam
Yeah. Okay. But at 12, you never know. I mean, it's like 12 year olds just are not in the girls. They just aren't.
31:40🔗
Caller
He's because my cousin called and she's all like, she's weird. She wears glasses and she has red hair.
31:51🔗
Drew
Well, listen, Lacey, one day you're going to find a lovable nerd who will give you the kind of love that you deserve.
32:04🔗
Adam
He's giving you sort of a no, don't push it. Do not push it. It's okay to have a crush at a distance. Don't get obsessed about it. Just move on.
32:13🔗
Drew
Lacey, here's the thing. This may be the first time this has happened to you. It happens to everybody multiple times. It'll happen. It really does.
32:22🔗
Adam
Yeah, Adam, think of what you wish somebody told you when you were 12 about these kinds of things. That's what we got to tell her, which is what you're telling her.
32:30🔗
Drew
Yeah. Here's the deal, everybody. You will find people that are uninterested in you and everyone will have- The people that you are the most attracted to, who you see on TV, could tell you, could sit you down for five hours and tell you all the people who weren't interested in them.
32:51🔗
Drew
Or who were temporarily and then screwed them over or what have you. It happens to everybody. And you know what? It's actually a good thing because it's one of these things, and there's not too many of these things, but it's one of these things where, as a human being, it's almost necessary.
33:13🔗
Drew
It's almost important that there's some failure at this part, at this level in these interactions. It makes you a better, more well-rounded, more complete human being. Show me a person that's never stumbled and fall in this arena. I'll show you someone I don't want to hang out with.
33:39🔗
Drew
Yeah, my buddy, Chris. Yeah. Well, at least he lets me, you know, smell him down there. Oh, well, I'm just I'm being honest. I think I'm being honest. That's all. That's all I can be. All right, Lacey. It's as I suspected. This guy's not interested. Do not you don't watch all those Disney movies that makes you think you can flip this guy over by putting on new perfume or somehow he's going to look at you in all these movies that somehow, oh, he's ignoring you. He's going after the head cheerleader. And by the end of the 90 minutes, he's realized he's in love with you all the entire time.
34:16🔗
Adam
Doesn't happen. The only flipping over that occurs at the Corolla Sleep Centers. Otherwise, that's it.
34:20🔗
Drew
That's right. Now, it does happen in 33 years when his, you know, when he starts when his waistline gets like 8 inches bigger than, you know, when he starts wearing the 44-33 Levi's.
34:33🔗
Drew
Yeah, he starts getting mammaries and high circulating estrogen and his hair falls out. Then he's India. Unless he makes some money and then he's not again. All right, we'll take a quick break. Sorry, it's true. Take a quick break. Be right back after this.
34:58🔗
Caller
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35:23🔗
Drew
Yep, it's Love Line. I'm Adam, that's Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-LOV. Let's talk to Corey. Last time we talked to Corey, we had to put her on hold. She's 29. She has a little problem with a gag reflex, little situation with her cousin when she was a young.
35:39🔗
Adam
It's so funny, by the way, you know, she's so focused on this gag reflex and nothing comes up about the fact that her cousin sexually abused her from age 7 to 8, defecated on her, urinated on her, sodomized her. No connection between that. No connection between that and your gag response with the penile.
35:59🔗
Drew
Yeah, no, no, no, no. Too big a stretch. Yeah. You just go to church and work things out. Yeah. That's all. You just pray on this stuff. It's fine. And by the way, God, he's got a plan. Don't question it. Those of you who win the lottery, don't question God. And those of you who get defecated in the mouth. Obviously, there's a plan. Not everyone can play quarterback. You know what I mean? There needs to be a couple of guards and centers in alignment. You know what I'm saying, Drew?
36:32🔗
Yes.
36:37🔗
Caller
In all reality, I actually went through 13 years worth of counseling, and my cousin was put into prison for 15 years.
36:53🔗
Caller
I understand. I just, I mean, I really didn't think it had anything to do with that because I have gone through all that counseling.
37:24🔗
Caller
What's he looking for? Me and about seven, eight others of us that weren't happy about it. We tried to present it.
37:41🔗
Drew
Yeah, and let me just say this. We got 280 million people give or take in this country. We can't burn a few that nothing to spare. Everyone's precious. Everyone's the same. Everything is so precious. So goddamn precious. This guy got to save everyone. Everyone's contributing. We got what? Really? That sacred, that precious can't burn a few. No extra 280 something million people can't admit there may be a couple of bad seeds in there.
38:24🔗
Drew
On your hands. You're right. You're right. That's right. You put Manson down and the next thing you know, Jack Booted Dugs marching in your house and they're judged jury and executioner. They're deciding, hey, they saw you.
38:48🔗
Drew
Slippery, slow. Yeah. Here. Here. You know, like, here's according to the slippery slope people. We can do nothing that we can never do anything. We can do zero because everything is sort of the starting point. Everything is a starting point to a slippery slope.
39:04🔗
Drew
No, there'll be no no kind of profiling at all. No kind of no kind of no kind of physician assisted suicide. And there's no there's no anything. We can't do anything because we can't have any gun regulations or anything. We can't have a guy grow marijuana plant. We can't have marijuana for medical use. We can't do anything because it's just the opening to every kind of slippery slope. That's it.
39:29🔗
Adam
But Corey, I think you ought to think in terms of every any and all weird things that happen to you in life, in terms of weird hang ups, somehow I think the odds are pretty good that it's attached to all that horrible stuff. So God bless you for having so much treatment.
39:47🔗
Adam
Well, here's some of the things that are not, some of these things are sort of fixed. Some of these things are in you.
39:52🔗
Drew
Yeah. I mean, look, you got backed over by a pickup truck. Had to get over it. You walk with a limp. That's all. You make the best of it.
40:04🔗
Adam
Yes. Your husband doesn't want to blow a job. He's not beating on you about it. He's not interested. You're somehow hell bent on doing this even though it's so traumatic for you. And to me, to me, that always smacks of somebody looking to relive a little of that trauma. Because then when he participates with you, you can freak out and get angry with him.
40:22🔗
Caller
No, I've never gotten angry at him. I've gotten mad at myself, but I've tried not to let it show to him.
40:28🔗
Adam
All right. Well, wherever that ends up spilling out, it's going to go somewhere. Just leave it behind.
40:34🔗
Drew
You can keep going with the therapy, by the way. It's not going to hurt. You won't do any damage. By the way, you never, it's not like niacin. You can't do too much of it. You know, like sometimes you take supplements and it seems like a good thing, but once in a while you take a little too much of the niacin, you start burning up and then you've overdone it. Next thing you know, you got diarrhea. Therapy, not like that.
41:01🔗
Drew
You will. Yeah, actually my therapist had to flip the cushion on his sofa last week. But it did come out of me. The point is, it doesn't matter. It's not like you're going to get too much therapy and ruin it. You'll be fine. Get a little more. Jeremy?
41:26🔗
Adam
Some people do it right up to the end. If she's getting any preterm labor or any risk to the pregnancy, bleeding, that sort of thing, you definitely want to talk to your obstetrician about it.
41:48🔗
Drew
It's gushy. Whatever. It feels gushy on my thing. And then the stuff comes out. So, you know, what do you mean? He's like a bear. He's distilled it down to, well, no, I don't like it, but I got a hump every two days. I'm 20. Like, also it's like, I'm not going to let a good vagina rot in the bedroom.
42:18🔗
Drew
Yeah. It's just, it's sitting there. Yeah. It's, you know, it's the same. It's the way I feel about leftovers. Yeah. I'm just eating it. I swear to Christ, I ate Chinese. I actually did the math as I was eating at the last Friday night. Two weeks, two weeks, the Chinese food was sitting in the fridge. Oh. Two weeks.
42:42🔗
Drew
I mean, and I, there's no exaggeration. It was two weeks ago, my wife brought home some Chinese.
42:48🔗
Drew
It wasn't even mine. It was hers. I went and did something. And then two weeks later, there it is. Hey, here's my thing. If it doesn't taste bad, I'm eating it.
42:58🔗
Adam
Don't you think they keep it for like two, three weeks anyway, just to eat it up on the microwave?
43:04🔗
Drew
Yeah. I don't know. All I know is a few sprinkles of tap water, a paper plate thrown over the top and pow in the microwave. And and it is it springs back to life. It's like it's like you've reanimated the cashew chicken.
43:23🔗
Drew
Yeah. Still good. Yeah. The paleontologists actually just hit it with a flashlight and then they ate it. Yeah. Two weeks and literally a millionaire and two week old Chinese food.
43:43🔗
Drew
I can't do it. Now, my wife, who had a mom who cooked up, her thing is like, I'm not eating Chinese food. Oh, it's either throw it out or leftovers is like, I ate that last night.
44:13🔗
Drew
Here's the thing about people, people that grew up with folks cooking for them, they're not going to eat the same meal twice in a row. That's number one. So here's-
44:32🔗
Drew
Here's the catch 22. They're not going to eat the same thing two nights in a row. So that's out. Then when the second or third night rolls around, it's now too old. You see, that's been in there for a few days. I ain't eaten that. So therefore leftovers sort of mathematically eliminated from your diet.
44:50🔗
Drew
Now the thing about me is you make, you made a thing of lasagna the size of Montana, I would just eat, I would just eat through until it was gone. Because there's no way I'm chucking a half of Montana worth a lasagna.
45:17🔗
Drew
No, I know that's, that's why it's like, the cheese is covered with hair. Well, then we have to cut through this to the core.
45:24🔗
Drew
And I pull out a tic tac size piece out of a wheel of cheese that was 80, the size of a space saver, spare.
45:32🔗
Drew
And end up, eventually I get to the moldy stuff, but I eat it from the inside back toward the mold so I don't get to the mold. And then it starts smelling like someone farted on my head. I stop. That's how it works.
45:48🔗
Drew
Chicks don't, they don't go for that. Yeah, my wife doesn't go for that at all. And I don't think, partly because they don't have to. You show me, by the way, show me a finicky kid or a finicky adult. I'll show you someone who had a lot of choices, a lot of catering going on. Here's the deal, watch the show Survivor. When, after three weeks of eating grubs, and crappy, eating grubs and whatever washes up on the beach, and then he comes around and says, yeah, I got some fried chicken. Nobody says, I don't like fried chicken. I don't eat, well, I like cheese, but I don't like it when it's fried. Everyone's like, F it, I'm diggin in.
46:38🔗
Drew
They're eating the bag, they're licking the bag, like a goat got to it. That's the whole thing. You have 20 prima donnas, 20 pains in the ass, 20 I'm sure everyone was taking care of, and everyone goes to the restaurant and is a pain in the ass and all that. Put them on an island, take away their food for three weeks, and then probes could crap into a dixie cup and they would be fighting over it. That's the way it goes. Now, when you grow up with a mom who smokes weed and doesn't come out of her room, that's the way you are.
47:11🔗
Drew
That's it, you're hungry. And all the people that have the kids are like, he won't eat, he never, all he wants is fish sticks. He'll not eat, ah, give him a couple days. He'll come around. He'll be eating that cabbage.
47:25🔗
Drew
And you just get him on, just think about the people on, on that island. There is nothing you put in front of them after three weeks that they're not diving on.
47:33🔗
Drew
Nobody ever says like, they don't even come close. Like, well, I was hoping for ribs, but burgers will be hot dogs, whatever.
47:46🔗
Drew
Yeah, that's all you gotta do. You can break your kids, everybody. Oh yeah, you can break them. Let's take a quick break. We'll be right back after this.
48:44🔗
Drew
I talked to him out in the hall. He wasn't excited about it, but some kids came down to watch the show.
48:52🔗
Drew
And the kids really wanted to see Chief Thunder Bear. And he's not a fan of children, but I told them they're refugees from the tsunami. And he was confused.
49:11🔗
Drew
No, they don't look Asian. But Thunder Bear, he only knows, he knows Sunni, he knows a few other Mohawk, he knows a few other American Indian tribes, and that's about it. I don't think he knows the difference between Filipino. No. Or Vietnamese or any of this kind of stuff. So I told him, and I don't want to tell him any differently, that these kids that are here tonight were refugees from the tsunami. He wanted his, you know, he doesn't go anywhere without his tribal tom-tom music, but he said he'd come in here because it was for them.
49:47🔗
Adam
Yeah, would you? Well, let's just, but should we hear about Julia really quick first so we can sort of set this up?
49:52🔗
Drew
That's the best, most effective method of abortion. All right. Well, once you talk to her, I'll get him. Now look, he knows, he speaks Choctaw.
50:05🔗
Drew
He has, because I think he's from watching a lot of American TV. And he's been staying here stateside.
50:21🔗
Dr. Drew.
50:22🔗
Adam
Hi. Chief Thunder Bear, the North American Choctaw speaking only, hopefully, kind of college will be in a second. Here he comes. Are you okay?
50:33🔗
Yeah, I'm fine. Okay.
50:37🔗
I was going to schedule an abortion, but I am kind of nervous about surgery. Plus, I knew someone who had the, I think it's RU486. Is that the name of the pill? That causes a miscarriage?
50:50🔗
Adam
Hold on. I'm going to interrupt you one second. Oh my goodness, Chief Thunderbird. Thank you for coming in. I appreciate that. I know. I'm sorry, Chief. He's very upset, Chris, that you didn't, he can tell that the music wasn't here for him. What do you call that? A tom-tom? So he can say his prayers. So he can feel like a...
51:36🔗
Adam
I know. Yes, it's been wild weather. Can you can you do you have an unrain dance? Can you perhaps do for us?
52:00🔗
Adam
Let's go. He's learned the word warm up. It's pretty good. Chris, Chris, don't laugh at him.
52:14🔗
Adam
I'm not sure. It's a pretty big problem in our country. But you could straighten them out. You could show them some crafts too. There could be a Chief Thunder Bear line of technical schools even.
52:29🔗
Adam
Yes. Okay. So Julia is looking for the, she has a friend who had an abortion, chemical abortion with probably RU-486 or something like that.
52:45🔗
I was just wondering what do like most people do? I mean, obviously you're not a woman, but like, is the... Hang on.
52:52🔗
Adam
The Chief is offended. Hold on a second. Hang on, Julia. Hold on. The Chief is looking to the gods in the skies.
53:00🔗
Drew
Hermaphrodite. So he doesn't yell at Julia because he too has experienced pre-optransexual.
53:08🔗
Adam
Well, he apparently has been in touch with the soul of both men and women and in his spiritual journeys.
53:19🔗
I mean, I am kind of concerned about the pain factor and like I'm really squeamish about surgery. I don't know if that would be the best route for me.
53:29🔗
Do you know what most people, I mean, what most...
53:31🔗
Adam
I don't know what the data is, how it breaks down right now, but you're basic, you're in the first trimester there. Chief, would you agree? First?
53:46🔗
Adam
You're early in your pregnancy and there are a couple of options. One thing, you can have a vacuum abortion. Chemical abortion? That Chris was his coffee order. You got that?
54:09🔗
Adam
Chris can't go to Starbucks tonight. It's raining too hard, okay? Oh, sorry, Chief. But Julia, those are the basic options. And keep, continue. Well, no.
54:24🔗
Adam
They actually, there's some bleeding and cramping for a few days afterwards, but that's about it. And the vacuum, you're done immediately after the procedure, but it is sort of a surgical procedure, but very, very safe.
54:38🔗
Adam
Well, the chief was wondering what about adoption? What about actually having the pregnancy?
54:41🔗
Caller
I wouldn't, my boyfriend wouldn't want to give it up and I don't want to really have a baby.
55:13🔗
Caller
Even though I'm terminating, I kind of, I've been getting pretty strong cramps anyways.
55:21🔗
Adam
Well, chief, you'll agree with me, it could mean an ectopic pregnancy. So if you get bleeding and the cramping gets severe, you need to go to a hospital right away.
55:33🔗
Adam
In the tube. And so it's something to be very cautious about. That can be quite devastating if it gets really going. And it's time to go quick, as soon as possible, go to a place that has proper counseling for this sort of thing.
55:49🔗
Adam
Oh boy, well let's do it quick. You don't want to get through that, pass that first trimester.
55:59🔗
Adam
I too, I too, yes, I know I have mixed feelings about helping somebody with an abortion.
56:15🔗
Adam
But, nonetheless, I think adoption is something that should be encouraged, I agree with you.
56:22🔗
Adam
Thank you, well, thank you for the blessing, and thank you for the help of Julia. And yes, go ahead, go ahead, return to Tetris, yes, Chris.
56:45🔗
Adam
He is putting a curse on you, Chris. I'm sort of... I'm sure, and Chris Bob said it's a scary thing.
57:09🔗
Adam
Chief, chief, chief, chief, he just didn't bring you coffee, relax. I know the music, I know the music, I know, I know. It's tough. Yeah, yeah. Let me just think of the music when you're out playing Tetris. How's your wife?
57:43🔗
Adam
You said that Adam had a problem like that with his wife too, where she wouldn't check the drain and his poor, flooded. I know, just like you.
57:55🔗
Drew
She's sitting TP watch Tivo and while Thunder Bear labor like Mexican in rain. Chachakay, I don't know why, hey, Chachakay, I don't know.
58:15🔗
Adam
Okay, enjoy. Thank you, Chief. And, Chris, what are we gonna do? You need one of those dream catchers or something to sort of fend off evil spirits because, boy, yeah, bad way to go. There he goes. Oh, he's gonna go Chris Corolla now, too.
58:31🔗
Adam
Okay, well, let's take some more calls here anyway. Oh, hey, he was in quite a way tonight.
58:53🔗
Drew
Yeah, they had a super tramp, where they're playing a super set of super tramp over there in Arab, so I don't catch much of it.
59:06🔗
Yes, sir, yes.
59:11🔗
Okay, my son is two years old, and he has, or since this morning it looks like he had an infection on his penis, and he's not circumcised, and like it started with like a little ball on the top of his, his penis underneath his foreskin, it looked like the size of a marble, and I took him a bath and it was gone. Thing is, is that it looks still affected, so I called the doctor, and it was a doctor on call because it's Sunday, and he said just to put antibiotics on it. The thing is that today, right now, it went all the way down and his whole penis is huge. It's swollen.
59:55🔗
I asked the doctor why would that happen, because he was with the babysitter all day yesterday, and he said it was probably because it's normal for boys to have it, he said, because they like to scratch themselves, and he probably had gotten a little scratch and he's probably gotten infected.
1:00:09🔗
Adam
Yes, to get the little thing on the tip, but to have the whole penis swell up and get infected, that's the concern.
1:00:16🔗
Well, I don't trust nobody with my kid, actually. Because I have two boys and the other one has a diaper rash, when I pick up both of them, and now my son don't have a diaper rash when he's with me, he don't get it, but when he's with her, he gets it. So I don't know if it's the babysitter's fault or I was thinking, you know what, I remember when I had the...
1:00:37🔗
Drew
Hold on, what do you think the babysitter does, craps into the kid's diaper while the diaper's wearing it? While the kid's wearing the diaper, just like he actually pulls the huggies and then just drops it across the dump and then rips it around and sends the kid back out to the yard?
1:01:03🔗
Oh, I don't know. I don't know. I'm... I'm... I don't know. My mom's been married three, four... My mom's been married like four times. I don't know.
1:01:19🔗
Well, I don't remember. I just... I block everything.
1:01:24🔗
Adam
We just find it awkward or interesting that you would say that no one else should be trusted with your kid and you have a deep understanding that things bad, things can happen, and yet you turn your kids over to people who are not taking care of your kids adequately.
1:01:37🔗
It's not a ritual. Okay, I'm a single mom and I have to work and this lady was my coworker's mom and she ended up with my kids one day because I ended up in the hospital and I have no family around me and she was the only one that...
1:01:54🔗
Drew
All right. Listen, let's not get into that for a second. I'm just curious about your past. And by the way, can you stop crapping out the kids, please?
1:02:03🔗
Drew
You're 19, you got two kids, you got to screw up. Two boys, by the way, so they can be criminals.
1:02:16🔗
Drew
At least start cranking out some girls so we can get a nice fresh batch of strippers. The boys end up being criminals.
1:02:26🔗
Drew
It's horrible. But here's the thing, mom. First off, no more kids, please no more kids.
1:02:41🔗
Caller
Well, I mean, man, well, because I took my brother, I know for a fact that he was abused.
1:03:05🔗
Drew
It's a camping trip for criminals. It's where you get in a bunch of trouble instead of going to jail. Your last chance is you get to go to Job Corps.
1:03:12🔗
Caller
The only person that's gotten in trouble between me and my brother is me. And my brother is basically the angel between us both.
1:03:22🔗
Caller
Well, because he can't support himself. I mean, he's supporting his mommy to help him.
1:03:44🔗
Caller
Well, actually, I started smoking weed because my family would always put me down. And so I would do that so I could get away from all that.
1:03:53🔗
Drew
And so there's a lesson, Vanessa, I'm only coming down on you because you got two kids. You were victimized clearly and grew up in a bad family. And my only wish for society is that people like yourselves who were victimized can, you know, get a little education, get a career, get a get a relationship, do this. And when all the and a little therapy, by the way, for the abuse that you've been through, and you shouldn't be in jobs where you could. And you should not be parenting children.
1:04:28🔗
Drew
You shouldn't. But by the way, you shouldn't be flying commercial aircraft either. You know what I mean? There's a whole bunch of things you shouldn't do when you're 19 and you have a ninth grade worth of education and an abuse history. There's a whole litany of things you shouldn't do. For some reason, if you put parent on there, that you become a horrible person. So, well, Hitler, I see. No, I don't want you doing that just like I don't want you running a piece of a complicated equipment.
1:04:57🔗
Drew
That you don't know how to run. And by the way, we won't let you do any of those other things, except for the kids part, that you get to do as much as you like. So, Vanessa, no more kids. Take the one to the hospital. Just because you were abused doesn't mean people are looking to abuse your kids.
1:05:21🔗
Adam
But I'm very concerned about the swelling of the soft tissue around the penis, because that can be a serious thing sometimes.
1:05:30🔗
Adam
Why don't you call him again? Again, you keep harkening back to the little ball in the tip.
1:05:36🔗
Caller
I'm scared to go to the hospital, actually, because last week I took him twice. And another thing about that is I had CPS on me, because he had a stomach virus, and he wasn't eating right. So I took him to the hospital, and they gave me some resitories, is that what it's called? We stick them annually?
1:05:58🔗
Caller
Suppositories. The thing is, okay, they put one in him at the hospital, and they gave me some. I got home, I tried it, like six hours later, he wouldn't let me. Now, I didn't force him, I'm not going to force, I mean, I know I'm supposed to, because he already gave me a big lecture, I'm supposed to, I'm just not used to it, and I don't feel right forcing my son to stick something up his butt. That's how I feel. I mean, and I talked to other ladies about it.
1:06:24🔗
Adam
Well, given that he will stop his vomiting and allow him to take fluids and save his life.
1:06:28🔗
Caller
Yeah, yeah, I understand that's what the CPS guy told me. But I mean, I just, I mean, trying.
1:06:33🔗
Adam
So here's your choice. He can have a little bit of sort of a little bit of discomfort with the suppository or die. These are the choices.
1:06:47🔗
Drew
Now, everybody, just close your eyes and picture what the young boys are doing about 15 years from now, 16 years from now. All right. College bound, taxpaying, future future fathers of the year.
1:07:06🔗
Adam
But after all that chaos, how could they ever contain? It's hard to know. All right. All right. Well, listen, Vanessa, Vanessa, don't we see this? Ask for help, Vanessa. Ask CPS, ask the hospital. Maybe some visiting nurses can come by. You need some help. You need some structure. You really do need help.
1:07:22🔗
Drew
You're doing the best you can, but you're 19. You got a 9th grade education and you're trying to raise two boys.
1:07:36🔗
Adam
I don't have the kids. You would be better off with, I mean, goldfish. You could barely handle goldfish at 19.
1:07:56🔗
Drew
Yeah. It was sort of life imitating art. It was interesting. Yeah. We're going to take a break. Chris, what's happening, brother?
1:08:09🔗
Drew
Yeah. If you're going down the hall, don't head toward the jock lounge. Head toward the arrow, where the vending machines are. Take a quick break. We'll be right back after this.
1:08:42🔗
Drew
Loveline, baby dolls! Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. I'm Ace. That's my part, Dr. Drew. Nisha?
1:08:55🔗
Caller
Not much. I thought I'd just call and ask this question. My boyfriend, we've been going out for about a year, and maybe three or four times when he's had an orgasm, he has been ejaculated.
1:09:32🔗
Drew
All right. Do you have something going? You got some exhaust or something going on there? Maybe a throttle body?
1:09:46🔗
Drew
All right. Fully stock. But I like a guy. By the way, hold on. Let me say this. You know what drives me nuts? Everything drives me insane.
1:09:54🔗
Drew
I drive with people. When I drive with someone who drives a stick, I may even yell at you for this, Drew, which is the guy who shifts prematurely with the stick.
1:10:03🔗
Drew
You know, he puts it in first. He gets up like 14, 1500. Then it's in the second. And then he gets it up to like 1600. OK. Then he's in the third. And now we're in we're in fourth gear. We're going 28 miles an hour. The engine's just filling up with carbon. And I feel like an idiot. Now, I'm not sure what to do. Now I sit there and I'm kind of looking and they do it again. And then they're going it's like they're practically like going from third to fourth.
1:10:29🔗
Adam
I just imagine you're acting the way you do with the rancher and music like cut it out.
1:10:34🔗
Drew
I sit on it for a while and then it's like then the next one is like, yeah, I try to come at it from a helpful standpoint. Like, you know, it's better. Get a lot less carbon deposits in there.
1:10:44🔗
Adam
If you're talking to your mom's friend, if you're talking to me or start yelling, screaming at us.
1:10:49🔗
Drew
OK. But it just bothers me. I like the fact that Nisha's boy go ahead and goes ahead and turns a few hours before he shifts.
1:11:40🔗
Caller
He sounds like he doesn't. He says he does. Because I asked him, did you have an orgasm? And he said, yes, because I assume he doesn't.
1:11:46🔗
Adam
But David, you know what I'm talking about? Have you? Is it sort of has it been? Have you had one recently before that and you sort of have nothing left?
1:11:54🔗
Caller
No, because it just started happening to me within the last year. And it's only been with her.
1:11:59🔗
Adam
Well, it may be something called retrograde ejaculation, where the ejaculation goes back up into the bladder.
1:12:04🔗
Adam
No, it doesn't make you gay. And that can be positioning, it could be medication, it could be just you. Or it may be that you have been having sex more frequently than your body can keep up with. It happens sometimes. That's a lot.
1:12:21🔗
Drew
I'm sure it's not like, when you're 20 years old, you can have sex eight times a day before you run out of sap.
1:12:37🔗
Adam
That's not a question for male. You know what I'm saying? That's not something. I'm not sure.
1:12:42🔗
Drew
Well, nothing came out though. Did he just have a weird? But every once in a while, you know what I'm saying? You have this weird sensation and it's like something happened.
1:13:39🔗
Drew
Okay. All right. I thought you guys never met and spent zero time together. I really had no idea who it was. I thought he just put his penis through a hole in a, you know, like an outhouse. And she got on the other end and serviced him. I didn't know they'd actually see each other.
1:13:55🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's kind of hard luck. But Mark, here's the deal. A 15 year old who was going out with a 19 year old that has a heavy sex drive, almost by definition is a trauma survivor. Is someone who's struggling with issues. So, what happened to her? What happened to her?
1:14:28🔗
Caller
I just went over and sat down on the couch because you wanted me to quit doing the dishes.
1:14:32🔗
Drew
All right. Thank you. By the way, do you have your own national top 10 show, Mark's, you know, pedophile countdown you do every Saturday? Do you spend that much time on the radio? Do you actually be doing a load of dishes for the three minutes you're going to be on?
1:14:49🔗
Adam
Yeah, as a matter of fact, yes. You got to think about it for a second, Adam, come on.
1:14:52🔗
Drew
This kid's cocky. I like that. Well, all right. So you're having sex with a 15 year old. See, we don't like that. What grade is she supposed to be in? 15th? Is she 10th grade?
1:15:14🔗
Drew
She's a, she's an old, oh, yeah, just, just, you still wearing the cap and gown, Mark?
1:16:00🔗
Drew
All right, hold on. I'll put that together with the computer. All right, here's what's going on. This isn't your usual sort of, this isn't the guy with El Camino and the primer and the fenders.
1:16:12🔗
Drew
This is the nerdy guy who really emotionally, even though he's 19 chronologically, from an experiential standpoint is probably younger, it's 13 or 14.
1:16:26🔗
Drew
He's got a little angry nerd to him, as most nerds do. But he's getting laid and he wants to talk about it. And that's basically what his question is.
1:16:51🔗
Drew
I'll tell you where it gets dangerous. Later on, if she's a chick who's worth anything, she gets in the 11th grade, there's some senior guy who likes her, she realizes she's going out with a nerdy guy, she dumps him, and then he freaks on her.
1:17:17🔗
Caller
A bad day, it's just what once or as schedule allows, but on a good day, it's generally...
1:17:50🔗
Drew
He called to say he gets laid. He's been dying to say that for the last four years. He's been watching all his classmates get some.
1:18:03🔗
Caller
She's perfectly happy going many, many more than that. And I'm usually finished before she...
1:18:18🔗
Adam
You're exploiting somebody who's got some issues. Just make sure she gets proper treatment.
1:18:41🔗
Adam
But realize that some of that excessive sexual activity may be hypomania. And if she's a trauma survivor, it's very difficult for her to sort of feel satisfied sexually. She'll go in these periods where she's constantly obsessing about it. And then she'll shut down completely and not be interested in it.
1:19:02🔗
Caller
My problem is that my boyfriend, who I've been with almost, well, about two years now, when we first started dating, I had been with a lot more men than he'd been with women. He'd only been with one other person besides me.
1:19:21🔗
Caller
Now the problem is that we're having a huge trust issue in our relationship where he told me that he still doesn't trust me because he thinks that I was a slut and a whore back in the day and that he thinks that people don't change.
1:20:09🔗
Adam
Here's the deal also. By the way, there's envy in this too. Of course. He wishes he had the same number.
1:20:15🔗
Drew
Of course. I mean, here's the thing. As a guy, you want your number to be higher than your woman. That's it. And I don't care if you're four or 40.
1:20:26🔗
Drew
And you have energy. And he has energy about it. Now here's the thing. You guys end up arguing about whether you're, you know, he comes at it from a sort of pragmatic standpoint, which is, hey, I'm just worried you're going to act again. Who knows when your vagina is going to strike again? Your vagina could pounce at any moment.
1:20:51🔗
Drew
Penis comes walking by, Drew, the vaginas up in the tree and pounces on it like a cougar.
1:20:56🔗
Drew
No, he's not really worried about that. He feels shame and inadequate and he's gonna thrust that onto you and then you're gonna engage him in this retarded argument about, we've been together for two years and I've never cheated. Yeah, well not yet, you slut.
1:21:13🔗
Drew
Oh, and look, according to your average, 25 guys, lost your virginity at 16, you're doing three guys a year up until when I met you. So that means you've probably done three more, you've probably done a guy in this time, we've had this argument.
1:21:30🔗
Adam
And she probably went to college and probably had her thing in the early 20s of any women have.
1:21:34🔗
Drew
Yeah, that's two points something here. But yeah, the point is, I don't know when she lost her virginity. Here's my point, don't engage him in this argument.
1:21:53🔗
Drew
18? Getting close to my three number by the way. You guys been going out since you were 24?
1:22:14🔗
Drew
Oh, four guys a year. Yeah. All right. Oh, yeah. Good times. OK, listen. Oh, we got a problem. Robin, here's what you need to do. Are you listening to me, Sweet Pea? I'm listening. Don't dance with him. You will be doing him a favor. And I wish someone would have done this for me when I was 27, full of pith vinegar. And so does every other guy secretly, whether they admit it or not. Here's what it is. Look, here's what when he comes at you that way. I'm not cheating on you. I've not cheated on you.
1:22:48🔗
Drew
I'm committed to you. There's many, many, many women who have done this and worse. I never cheated on anybody. I was just having a good time.
1:23:00🔗
Drew
And this is what people do when they're this age. Now, you want to be my boyfriend and you want to focus on moving this forward?
1:23:09🔗
Drew
Or do you want to just do the foot drag routine and live in the past? Because you will. And this relationship will end. Not because I cheat, because you keep harping on me.
1:23:20🔗
Caller
No, I totally would. I hear what you're saying, because it makes sense. Because I see a lot of he envies a lot of the fact that he's kind of he was kind of the the Metallica geek, you know?
1:23:42🔗
Adam
I feel he feels inadequate. He feels like he can't hang on to you. He's scared. Here's the deal. He's going to screw this up.
1:23:49🔗
Adam
You got to you got to just put it down. And if he can't let go of it, then he needs to go get his number up there.
1:23:57🔗
Drew
Or or he will he will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will cheat and you will move on. And that'll be that. And by the way, enter Sandman. You will be as a Metallica song.
1:24:12🔗
Drew
Enter Jackman. You will be beating off, staring at your Lars poster back in your crappy apartment. And you know the one who's got the numbers? Going to add to those numbers.
1:24:27🔗
Drew
Yeah. Oh yeah. You're fine, baby. Just believe me. But here's what I'm saying. Guys and women have their own version of this too. Each partner needs a yank on the chain.
1:24:40🔗
Drew
I'm trying to think. Here's what I'm saying. Because women spin out. Your wife does the same thing, you know. And we've talked about this before. I secretly believe that when the other couple spins out, I shouldn't say the couple, but the other partner spins out, they're almost they feel like a child or a pet that gets out of control. You give a pet a run of the house and shut the door, they just start to crap over and start chewing on themselves, they're chewing furniture. Relax, Drew, I see your posture. Relax. You can go in now. You want to say something, but just listen to me. This is interesting to me. They need confinement. They don't need restraint, but they need to say, look, I'm your master, everything's going to be cool. Now get in the broom closet, and I'm shutting the door. You're like, when your wife went nuts when you went to the Playboy match and to do politically incorrect, the backpedaling causes more, it's like they're rolling downhill, they're stumbling at you. You backpedal, they feel more out of control. They feel like they're losing, they're stumbling, they can't keep up their feet. They need you to yank that chain. You need to say, look, this is business. I got a house here and a family to provide for. Obviously, I'm not in the grotto with any playmates. We're shooting a TV show right here. And by the way, I'm out by 9 o'clock to go to my next job. All right? So, zip it. I need to be able to focus. I don't need you ride me for stuff I didn't do. Boom, it snaps them in place. I think they need it, provided you didn't spend the weekend at the bunny ranch. And I think in a situation like Robin's here, I think she needs to tug the chain. Absolutely. Look, you want this, Dan? It's gonna end, not because I'm gonna cheat, because you won't stop talking about a past that you feel inadequate about with your past. Now, I love you. We've been together for two years. No cheating. Let's move on. Am I right?
1:26:31🔗
Drew
All right, now give me some coffee. All right, let's take yourselves a little break. We'll be right back after this.
1:27:20🔗
Drew
Hey, buddy, it's Loveline, I'm Adam. That's Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-191. You know what my New Year's rezo is, Drew?
1:27:30🔗
Adam
Stop smoking, stop your medicine, wine that is, lose weight, exercise more, be a good person, get a better job.
1:27:37🔗
Drew
No, you know what it is? More stretching, stretch more. Because I'm convinced when you're on your deathbed and you think back, what should I've really, what should I've done more of?
1:27:53🔗
Adam
Yeah. You're right. Drew, what if, what if a person, what kind of training? Balance training.
1:28:05🔗
Drew
Yeah. All right. What if every morning some chick in a unitard showed up, like one was black, you know, good looking, but flat chested, and a unitard showed up at your house every morning, just stretched your ass for like 40 minutes.
1:28:40🔗
Caller
Like, I've known my girlfriend for like two, two and a half months, and just recently had intercourse with her. And like, I couldn't finish. And like, actually Saturday night.
1:29:31🔗
Drew
Let me tell you something. When I leave the studio, I shake my head like an etch of sketch and everything's gone.
1:29:42🔗
Drew
And then every once in a while, someone goes, Hey, remember last night? And I go, shh, shh, my pretty, don't speak, don't speak. I don't want to. I don't ever want to talk about this show.
1:29:55🔗
Caller
I would like I don't know what would be wrong with me not being able to finish in climax.
1:30:02🔗
Drew
You said she did get you to finish, though, the following night, the following night. All right. So there's nothing wrong with you.
1:30:20🔗
Drew
Well, please. Well, Will, what's your future hold for you, by the way? What are you doing? You're planning on junior college. What are you working toward?
1:30:46🔗
Adam
Will, you're just nervous that first night. Anxiety works against you if you're on a medication. Sometimes that'll work against if you're doing drugs or stimulants or alcohol. That all works against your father.
1:31:01🔗
Drew
I don't want him wasting all the taxpayers money in his time, in society's time by going to junior college. He's going to work on auto.
1:31:11🔗
Drew
You know what I like? I like any commercial. I watch a lot of late night infomercials. Anyone that has to do with pulling dents or fixing dings in cars, because the beginning, first, they show you how you get a ding.
1:31:24🔗
Drew
They show shopping cards hitting your car. They show other cars in your car, as if you could never imagine it. Like my imagination is not wild enough to ever picture how a car could possibly get a dent or a ding. I don't know what you're talking about.
1:31:45🔗
Drew
I wouldn't know what they meant. It's the same thing with the cold commercials. I must see a guy sneezing with a red nose is miserable. So I can actually see what a cold is. Otherwise, I'd have no reference point. Cold. Does that mean it's cold inside his house? I don't know. I would get confused and shut the TV. Have to wrap a hot towel around my head to stop the sounds from coming in. But the first part of the commercial for these infomercials, like the Ding Doctors and stuff, first is, oh, there's annoying dance. And they show car doors opening into your car door and shopping cards. They happen everywhere and they're expensive. And then my favorite part, now you got the mechanic. He's smoking the cigar. Smoking cigar. He's got the hat, but the brim is turned up and you're paying him.
1:32:31🔗
Drew
He's a huge pile of cash on his hand and he's blowing cigar smoke in your face and he keeps laughing. And his take is like, oh no, no, keep it coming. As if you guys never agreed on a price. Like how much to fix my fender? Uh, two pounds of money. I'll just hold my hand out and I'll laugh and blow cigar smoke in your face. And you just, you just keep, and by the way, yeah, like you show up to get your car with like what, what an attache case with like 35 grand worth of 20s.
1:33:01🔗
Drew
Just laughing, laughing and blowing smoke in your face. Keep it coming. Keep it coming. Yeah. As if they aren't all unsettled by insurance guys cutting checks and stuff. But I just, I just love that cash is peeling it off. Just another guy's like, is that enough? No, no, just keep going. I'll tell you when to stop. I'll tell you when to stop. Yeah.
1:33:24🔗
Drew
But that's what it's like. That's what it's like when you work at a body shop, Drew. That's what I'm saying.
1:33:30🔗
Drew
You just blow cigar smoke in guys' faces and you laugh maniacally while they peel off 20s and put them in your hand. And when it weighs so much, you can't hold your arm out anymore. No, you take a rest and then it's more 20s and then you stop. And you got a customer for life. That's how it works. All right. Where are we going, Drew?
1:33:52🔗
Drew
Oh, those dings. Look at that. I would say, look, any commercial I'm making, I don't care if it's for cold medicine or dings, we don't need to spend the first goddamn half of the commercial explaining what happens when you get a ding or get a cold. Let's just get on to the product. You know what I'm saying?
1:34:09🔗
Drew
Who decided, by the way, that every one of these products had to spend the first half of the commercial showing nothing? I would just get the product in immediately.
1:34:20🔗
Adam
By the way, with TiVo and stuff now, you just want to have a blinking light with your product.
1:34:24🔗
Drew
What's crazy about TiVo now is I realize that there's certain commercials that I fast forwarded through 1800 times and I still have no idea what it is. Once in a while, after 1800 times, I'll stop and watch it just to say, what is that for? I saw that idiot. I fast forward to that idiot a thousand times. I have no idea what it is. Yes. With TiVo, you should just have a graphic of your product name flashing. Yeah. Show some cleavage because I'm going to stop. I say cleavage, I'll stop. All right. Let's take ourselves a quick break, Drew. Speak to Rachel when we come back.
1:35:04🔗
Adam
I'm thinking about, now she thinks she's sexually addicted. I think maybe put Michelle and Rachel together because Michelle's a survivor of sexual abuse who went through that whole thing in line one there. It'd be interesting to talk to both of them.
1:35:17🔗
Drew
It becomes confusing. All right, Drew, we'll clear that up. We'll be right back after this. Well, there you go.
1:35:57🔗
Drew
My great uncle Gustavo, you bang us. Used to say that. Yeah, had it embroidered into a quilt. So, until next time, this is Adam Carolla for Dr. Drew saying, mahalo.
1:36:10🔗
Caller
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