1:17🔗VoiceoverAll right, welcome to Loveline, you guys. 1-800-LOVE-191. It's Stryker in for Ace Rockolla, my main man mayonnaise along with Dr. Drew. He's a board certified physician, addiction medicine specialist. You just retook your test and you passed it. And you're wearing the same pants as last night.
2:00🔗AdamWe're doing good. So you're from Fresno, Fresno, California. I know what Fresno is famous for, but hopefully you'll match what I'm thinking right now.
2:23🔗AdamOnce Jerry Tarkanian got there, crime went straight through the roof. He's the coach of the basketball team.
2:27🔗DrewIt's been coming down since then. I think when they got close to NCAA sanctions, right. Then the police really stepped it up and got things out of control.
2:35🔗AdamSo how's Popular going? It's going great. Unfortunately, I work on the radio when it's on, so I'm an idiot, but I know it's doing well on the WB. Which character are you? What's going on?
2:45🔗DrewI play Harrison John. It's on Fridays at 9 o'clock. And we're in the middle of our second season right now. Harrison just got through his leukemia storyline. And there's a storyline involving him and the character of Sam, played by Carly Pope, and all kinds of other wacky stuff.
3:01🔗AdamAnd it takes place in a high school. And it's about the popular kids or the kids that aren't popular?
3:05🔗DrewIt's about both. It's about both. And at the heart, it's about ambition, about how everybody wants to be popular, and about how deep down inside we all feel the same.
3:14🔗AdamRight. I want to be popular. You have the big... What's his name? He was from the football movie. The big guy.
3:47🔗StrykerAnd gosh, I'm blanking. Who's the girl's name we've had in the show a couple of times, blonde, nice, has a nose ring that she forces up for filming?
4:02🔗AdamAnd by the way, for you kids out there listening, Chris Gorham, he was a guy in Party of Five. I remember this vividly, who dated Jennifer Love Hewitt in the show and you turned out to be gay in the show.
5:25🔗StrykerWell, people have all kinds of ways of self-soothing, and some of them can be rather primitive. And this is obviously something you do. But if you want to, you want to break this habit, is that the deal? And I'm wondering, are there other things going on in your life? Are you okay otherwise?
5:44🔗AdamDoes that say on the medicine, beware, nipple rubbing may occur?
5:48🔗StrykerNo, it does not. Not on most package inserts. But it certainly can put Alex at predisposition for obsessive-compulsive kinds of behaviors and things like that. So that may be part of it. Is there any stress going on in your life right now that may be causing you to regress or sort of focus on?
6:06🔗CallerI mean, my parents yell a lot, but that's about it.
6:09🔗StrykerHave you made an effort to try stopping this?
6:50🔗StrykerI don't know of any specific behavioral interventions, Alex, other than, you know, people put bitters on their fingers and all kinds of weird stuff to get people to stop, but it's something you got to really want to do and be ready to stop. And I would suggest you do talk to the people that prescribe your medication. There may be something else about your syndrome that makes it difficult for you to stop this kind of thing.
7:11🔗CallerIs there any way that I can overcome my ADHD?
7:15🔗StrykerYeah, there are, again, people have, if you could, you, A, you're on medications and most people do believe that it's a pharmacologic treatment, but there are behaviorists out there. You could consult with somebody that specifically works on the behavioral management of ADHD.
7:28🔗AdamDo you have any crazy habits before sleep, Chris, from Popular? No. You sure? You gotta let them out right here.
8:02🔗CallerBut yeah, man. Now we have these like Jew and John in the morning and they're way. That's all right.
8:09🔗AdamOK. Thank you. I appreciate it, Troy. I understand. Yeah, exactly. KFMA in Tucson. Hello to everyone in Tucson, by the way, and go Wildcats basketball team. Come on, Lou.
8:17🔗CallerYeah. And yeah, I also have another question.
8:20🔗AdamI was at what was the first question? All right, go ahead.
8:24🔗CallerWell, anyway, I have like I went to this foam party and like people were saying that the STDs are traveling to the foam.
9:03🔗StrykerThat's why they put the suds out? So people can do that without?
9:05🔗AdamNo, it's like, you know, When you're on ecstasy and there's foam floating around.
9:11🔗CallerYou know, it feels really weird on your skin. I mean, I don't do it. I think that's a dirty drug, but that's just me.
9:18🔗StrykerSo I don't, I don't, you would think you'd see more evidence of STDs being passed that way if it really actually happened. So I don't know that it happens.
9:26🔗CallerYeah, that's what I was thinking. But people were like, oh, it's dirty down there. People are screwing it. It's moist and it's perfect for the STDs to travel.
9:34🔗StrykerIt's an interesting theory, but probably not true, right? Well, it's an interesting theory, but probably not true, yeah.
9:40🔗AdamBut I can just imagine, on necks with bubbles, that's got to be not bad. You want to go try it next week? Just one in San Bernardino.
9:47🔗StrykerYou know, never, I never cease to be amazed by how young people just up the ante every year. It's a little more, a little more, a little more.
9:54🔗AdamJust going to the desert on Nexuse wasn't good enough. Now we need bubbles up to our neck.
9:59🔗StrykerThen we have to go to Burning Man, and then we got a, and then we got a bubble.
10:03🔗AdamExactly. All right. It's 1-800-LOVE-191. Drew, you're 17 on Loveline.
10:10🔗CallerI've been, I've been into my girlfriend for about a year now. And before we actually have intercourse, she would rub my testicle, would rub an alcohol.
11:03🔗StrykerBecause boy, somewhere she did not listen carefully. And using a condom? Yes. Okay. Right. Right. So that's what we advocate for protecting against STDs. We don't say, you know, soap down with a best trace in our alcohol.
12:33🔗It's one of the doctor's opinion because I never go to the doctor.
12:37🔗StrykerWell, I don't know why you're not having your period is the problem. If you were not cycling for some reason, like you had polycystic ovarian disease, that kind of thing, you tend to attend not to have PMS, but you have a whole different set of problems that need to be attended to, including things like risk for diabetes. And you need an explanation for why you're not having your periods.
13:20🔗StrykerBut now would be a great time, though, since you have a question. And it's not, you know, it's very common, usually not a big deal, but it does need to be diagnosed.
13:29🔗AdamCan girls miss their cycle or I don't know the exact term from traveling, from like going to Europe and being on an airplane and they can miss their cycle from reading Curious George Book?
13:37🔗StrykerThat's right, Harry Potter. That's what I thought.
13:40🔗AdamAll right, 1-800-LOVE, 1-9-1 is the number. It's Loveline. Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular on the WB. Trent, 18 on Loveline.
13:51🔗Yeah, I just want to know, if you get a oral sex and they like, you know, in your mouth, can you get HIV from that?
14:00🔗StrykerAbsolutely. That's now been categorically shown to be a possibility.
14:04🔗AdamLast time I was here, two times ago, you said no.
14:07🔗StrykerNo, I said, I said that the mouth is an inhospitable environment, but the esophagus is a place where it could potentially penetrate. So maybe if you spit it out of your mouth, that risk might be reduced. But they've now studied a few guys that, you know, they didn't specify their behaviors, but they had given oral sex and had contracted the disease.
14:25🔗AdamSo if a guy goes down on a woman and does that, he could possibly catch it then.
14:40🔗StrykerCondom, yeah. Condom, latex, barium, all mucosal surface contact, Stryker. So when I... I'm going to get Sam and I'm going to tell her to be careful.
14:51🔗AdamSam is a woman, by the way, everybody. And I said, I can't do it because I have a woman.
15:24🔗StrykerWhat about PMS? I answered it three times. I said, it depends whether you're cycling or not. And I don't know that until you've had a diagnosis. And if you're cycling without bleeding, yeah, you'll have PMS. But usually the estrogen progesterone cycles tend to flatten out when you get an ovulatory like this. And that's a whole different set of problems. And you need to understand why that's happening. Because as I said, there's things like polycystic ovarian disease that can have other problems associated with it.
16:14🔗StrykerWait, wait, wait. I want to get on her case a little bit because this is this crazy, bizarre misconception that people have that if they're still affected by the drugs, that it must still be in the system. The effects of E, Tara?
16:27🔗No, not the effects. I have drug testing. I got to get done.
17:01🔗StrykerTara, the effects of E will typically last your whole life, okay? The depression, the anxiety, the panic, the forgetfulness, which I suspect you're getting about now. All that goes forever.
17:15🔗AdamWell, she's on the right track. I mean, you robbed the pharmacy, at least be the driver, and then go on E as much as possible and maybe you won't be thrown in the slammer being on probation for God's sakes. This is cool, man. Michael.
17:39🔗CallerThanks. Okay. I've been tested for herpes about five or six times. At this point, I and every doctor I've seen, I'm convinced that I have it, although I have not been formally diagnosed because even though I've gone with sores, they haven't had the virus in them at that time.
18:01🔗StrykerWhy have you been tested so many times because you've been having these irritations?
18:03🔗CallerBecause I've been continuously getting sores and I try to go every time I have a sore so that I can eventually get a diagnosis because I'm under the impression that I can't actually get medication to help alleviate outbreaks unless I have a diagnosis.
18:17🔗StrykerRight, right. Listen, are you having sores anywhere else like your mouth or nose or eye irritation?
18:22🔗CallerNo, I have absolutely. I don't have any cold sores. I don't have it anywhere else. I don't even know when I contracted it.
18:29🔗StrykerHold on a second. Do you have any joint problems or bowel problems?
18:32🔗CallerI have. Yeah, I actually get a lot of constipation.
18:36🔗StrykerYeah, that wouldn't be it. Because they're rheumatic diseases.
18:40🔗StrykerNo, no. I don't mean to embarrass you, but they're rheumatic diseases that can cause ulcers that look just like herpes but are not infectious.
18:47🔗AdamBut how often do herpes pop up if you have it? Isn't it kind of rare that they actually become implant?
18:51🔗StrykerSome people they can be every couple of weeks.
18:54🔗CallerOnce every six months, something along those lines.
18:57🔗CallerI can almost remember getting some sort of sores and irritations before I even became sexually active. But I'm 20 now and that was when I was 15. And so I can't even imagine that if it was those at the same time. My belief is that if I do in fact have it, which I'm convinced that I do, that I contracted it when I was 15 with one of my first partners.
19:22🔗CallerAnd have been living with it consistently. And the last guy that I dated, he cheated on me. And I didn't know it at the time. And he came up with a sore. And I just assumed that I had given it to him. I then found out that the girl that he had cheated on me with was known to have, it was an ex-girlfriend of his who we knew had cold sores. And the people didn't know that that was-
20:20🔗CallerI was sexually active since I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. I've only had sex with one other guy and and I told him, but we actually had sex when we were both really intoxicated and we knew what we were doing.
20:38🔗AdamCome on. I'm about to fall asleep. Come on. Get to it, Michael.
20:43🔗CallerI'm interested in a guy that I know now and I don't know at what stage I should tell him. If I should just wait to have sex as long as possible until we can really bond and I can feel that I can trust him to ask or if I should just be honest with him up front. I don't know what to do.
20:58🔗StrykerI'm not sure there's a specific... Yeah, I know it's a tough one.
21:03🔗StrykerYeah. Ideally, I like the solution that you get involved in a relationship first and the person is invested in you and then you tell them. When you tell them up front, it tends to chase them away a little bit. I'm not sure that would work on your later.
21:16🔗AdamIf you guys become super close and you're almost ready to have sex and he likes you for who you are, he'll probably be okay with it. But if he doesn't have that emotional tie to you and then you tell him, I don't think he's going to stick around.
21:27🔗StrykerShe probably doesn't want to sleep with him anyway if he doesn't...
21:30🔗AdamShe seems to be sleeping around a little bit.
21:32🔗DrewJust make sure that you tell him. Yeah, that's an important thing.
21:35🔗AdamAnd tell him to throw on a gym hat. Alright, I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla here on Loveline with Dr. Drew and Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular on the WB. We'll speak to him and take more of your calls pretty soon here on Loveline.
22:09🔗You're listening to Loveline on Outrageous Talk Radio. 100.7 The Buzz.
22:24🔗AdamAll right, we're back, it's Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191. I would be Stryker in for Adam Corolla, who should be back tomorrow unless he gets stuck in one of these strip clubs in New Orleans, which may happen, Drew.
22:40🔗StrykerHe may not live to come back. Yeah. He's not gonna get stuck in a strip club. He may just be shot.
22:44🔗AdamWe'll see what happens. Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular on the WB. Mike, who goes to UCLA, I'm sure he's listening. If there's anything you want to tell him.
23:45🔗AdamAll right. So if you have questions, you can talk to Chris about Popular or the WB or Drew or me. And let's speak to, no, number two, number two, number two, number two. This looks good. Michelle, you're 29.
24:58🔗AdamOne big hive is going to pop out of you after nine months.
25:01🔗StrykerAnd it may be, you know, I'm not an expert in this area. There may be things about the sort of the pH and the flora of that vicinity that can be adjusted. Have you tried anything? Have you tried antibiotics, creams or anything like that?
25:15🔗CallerNo, just like stuff that has anesthetic in it afterwards.
25:27🔗StrykerBut if you have it with a condom, have sex with a condom, no problem. Right. And it's not as though these episodes where you're having irritation have been longer or rough or anything mechanical going on. Okay. Well, I mean, you've had it evaluated. It seems that they're concluding this is what it is. You know how to avoid it in the meantime. And when you have, I don't know, I've never heard of this affecting fertility. So you don't worry about that.
25:49🔗CallerI mean, I don't think it would affect fertility, but it sure would affect me wanting to have sex.
25:53🔗AdamOne thing you do have, Michelle, is one great goddamn excuse. I can't have sex because that comma is a little allergic to it.
26:06🔗StrykerDid you ever think if this were a common thing, they would develop like antihistamine douches and things that they can, if it really were an allergy. That's why I think it's not an allergy. It's probably some sort of irritation.
27:30🔗AdamIt was like a high point. Was he doing it in a different position than normal when that happened?
27:34🔗Yeah, I think it was like at an angle or something.
27:36🔗AdamWell, why don't you, you know, seriously, you got to coach the guy. I coach my guys all the time.
27:40🔗I did try to coach him one time and he's like, well, I was like, okay, do it here, do it here. He's like, is it there? Is it there? And he just kept on bugging me. And I was like, no, it's not there.
27:50🔗StrykerBut you see how enthousiastic he is, how much he wants your direction.
27:54🔗AdamPull out a chalkboard next time, Jessica. X's and O's, do the junk.
28:03🔗StrykerJust as long as you get what you, you have him behaving the way you need to be behaving.
28:06🔗AdamAs long as a man is with a naked woman, he will do anything you tell him to do, except maybe toss a fruit salad. Let's speak to Sarah, you're 30 on Loveline.
28:55🔗StrykerSame partner? Uh-huh. I'd be very concerned that there was something going on, some sort of abscess or... Do you have pain with the intercourse?
29:15🔗AdamRight. You're a fine woman, Sarah. Just get some Pepto-Bismol in you next time.
29:21🔗StrykerThere's something... your body's reacting... whether or not some sort of vagal reaction, God knows what.
29:25🔗CallerI mean, I don't understand why it just started happening. I mean, the last four or five times.
29:29🔗StrykerWell, your body's telling you something. And again, that's an area that you can harm and you can actually break bacteria into your bloodstream and do all kinds of lovely things.
30:07🔗CallerI am indeed. I am. I have a girlfriend of six years and she comes from a divorced family. And in fact, everybody in her family is divorced. It's one of those chain of events. And she's sort of having sort of abandonment issues and it's sort of just coming to the surface now. And I was wondering what is the most healthy way to sort of help her through this? Or if she if she can be healed or how old is she? She's 21.
30:32🔗StrykerAnd tell me what you mean by abandonment issues. Exactly what are you talking about?
30:36🔗CallerIt manifests itself by her being rather clingy when it comes to me going and off and doing my own thing.
30:43🔗StrykerYeah, that's not necessarily abandonment issues. What is it you're going off and doing?
30:47🔗CallerWhat am I running off? Oh, well, let's say she has class and I go out and I and I go to a party after work or something that.
30:53🔗StrykerWhat kind of party? What kind of party?
30:56🔗CallerIt doesn't. It really isn't anything that she would disapprove of it. I don't think it has to deal with that.
31:09🔗StrykerAnd you're spending your free time at parties?
31:12🔗CallerNo, I'm spending her free time with her as much as possible.
31:15🔗AdamDrew, you're being way too hard on this guy. One time he goes to a party every now and then. I can see he likes this girl, but once in a while he'll go to a party and she'll get a little freaked out. Is that it?
31:24🔗CallerYou know, it's not even a party. It even manifests itself when it's like, if I have excessive work schedule or if I have a lot, if when I was in school, if I had a lot of school going on, she needs too much attention. Is that really distraught?
31:37🔗StrykerWell, what I'm just assessing is whether or not this is just on the range of within the range of normal, because it's normal for people to want attention, to miss you when you're gone, to pull on you, to get you back if you're distracted or moving away from them. It's all normal.
31:52🔗CallerAnd that's just my question. I really want to know that before I start delving into issues about her parents divorce.
31:57🔗StrykerOh, forget about it. No, Frank. No, no. My God.
32:01🔗DrewWhat you need to do is watch more Popular Fridays at 9 o'clock.
32:32🔗DrewYeah. It's actually about a Mormon missionary in the 50s who gets sent to Tonga for his mission. Covers about three and a half years. So we shot it in the Cook Islands. Eight weeks on Rarotonga.
32:44🔗DrewAnd then two weeks in New Zealand. So it was an awesome, awesome experience. I got to take my wife with me for the whole time. And it was fantastic.
32:51🔗AdamDid you make love under the stars in the rain?
32:55🔗AdamAll right. We got to take a quick break. It's Love Line. Adam's gone. I'm Stryker in for him with Dr. Drew and more with Christopher Gorham and your Love Line questions coming up.
33:25🔗CallerYou're listening to Loveline on Outrageous Talk Radio 100.7 The Bugs.
33:34🔗AdamOh, we're back. Loveline, that would be this. 1-800-LOVE-191. Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular, and our screen just went completely blank. Oh my God.
33:45🔗DrewI'm taking over. It starts with a screen.
33:46🔗AdamYou're taking over. So you went to UCLA, right? I did. And when did you graduate?
33:52🔗AdamSo you think kids living in Iowa that want to get in the business should leave Iowa? Leave Iowa for one. But say they're going to college in Iowa.
34:02🔗AdamIs it smart of them to major in theater? Or are they just like fooling, if they want to major in a psych and think, I'll just move to LA and then I'll be a star?
34:11🔗DrewYou know, I think it can work either way. I think that training is a big help. And if you're going to be an actor, you need to get some training. And no, I don't think you have to major in theater because the reality is if you come out to LA, there's, you know, a thousand different acting coaches. You can take acting classes there.
34:25🔗AdamYeah, there's a good bartender at Tony Roma's in West LA. The Red Robin in Pasadena kicks ass. Crazy Girls on the Brian Sunset's my favorite place to go. Yeah? You've been there? No. You know of it? No.
34:59🔗StrykerHi. Good evening, Dr. Drew Stryker. Hey. I have a quick question about semen and its survival outside of the body. I'm in a monogamous relationship. I've been in it for many years. We have unprotected sex. When I ejaculate, I do it outside of her body.
35:13🔗StrykerWell, how do you know? Wait, wait. If your penis goes into her vagina, you're ejaculating in her body.
36:19🔗AdamBrian, it's like one of those garden hoses. You water your lawn, you turn it off. You know, if you shake the hose afterwards, all those drips and drops come out for about the next 20 seconds? That's just like your wiener.
36:29🔗StrykerWhat about on the skin itself, on the outside?
36:32🔗StrykerBasically till it's dry, but there's tons of else that you need to worry about. Or at least the three days inside the body.
36:39🔗StrykerIn California, is that abortion pill available?
36:44🔗StrykerYeah, however, why don't you take advantage of the morning after pill if you're going to do something like that? You don't need the abortion pill.
36:54🔗StrykerThe morning after pill is just your birth control pill, regular birth control pill taken in a double dose, basically. Okay. And you can take it within 72 hours of an unprotected abortion.
37:03🔗AdamThat I know it is, but what's this abortion pill?
37:04🔗StrykerWell, but the birth control pill, the morning after pill, that's called emergency contraception, works by suppressing ovulation. No egg release, there's no conception, there's no implantation, no nothing. The abortion pill is an abortion pill. That's RU-46. All right, hold on, which was just approved recently.
37:22🔗AdamThe morning after pill, only the next day.
37:28🔗AdamUp to three months. Yeesh, that doesn't sound that good. All right, 1-800-LOVE-191 is the number. Brian, put something on your thing. All right, Megan. Yeah? Hello, there, you're 14 on Loveline.
37:43🔗CallerMy best friend and her boyfriend have been dating for two months. And this really popular girl started hanging all over my best friend's boyfriend. And my best friend thought it was because she wasn't skinny enough. And she was a hundred and thirty-two pounds. And she, like, became bulimic and now she's a hundred and six pounds. And I don't know how to help her because she just won't listen to me.
38:06🔗CallerI've tried, but her mom doesn't like her mom's never home. And she only lives with her mom. And her mom, the only time she's ever seen her be bulimic was like once when we went to the movies. And after that, her mom's like, Oh, every time you go to the bathroom, I want to like make sure you're not throwing up.
38:24🔗StrykerAll right, so her mom knows that she's bulimic. Has she taken her to get some treatment?
38:28🔗CallerYeah, but they like the doctor, I guess, or the therapist that she's going to says it's not bulimia, it's just depression. But it's kind of hard for it not to be bulimia if she's making herself vomit.
38:40🔗StrykerYeah, I understand, Megan, but the point is she's under care. And what more do you want?
38:47🔗CallerI don't know, because she's been going to the therapist since like the first month her and her boyfriend were going out.
38:51🔗StrykerWell, maybe make sure that she's being more honest with the therapist about her behaviors in terms of how much she's vomited. Maybe you could go with her to the therapist and report what you've experienced, what you see her doing. It might help that way. But otherwise, let the people that are taking care of her do their job.
39:05🔗DrewAnd watch Popular. Friday's at 9 p.m. We've dealt with eating disorders.
39:09🔗StrykerTrying to make her eat is not going to help. She'll barf if she doesn't make her eat.
39:13🔗AdamSo what do you do as a 14 year old to tell a 14 year old that...
39:17🔗StrykerYou just keep reflecting reality and how her behavior makes you feel.
39:21🔗AdamAnd the first thing you said was tell her mom. Her mom's never home.
40:15🔗Not much. I am on hold now. I'm on air. You're on. Okay. Hey, listen, man. I heard you were just talking about Mormon missionaries. Yeah. Somebody going to see somebody. Listen, I'm 21. I'm about to be off my mission here. You are? In Arizona. All right. Right. And every now and then I can't sleep. I get insomnia. And so I listen to you guys. And it's quite interesting. The point is here, I've got a, as a kid, I wasn't circumcised. And, you know, I'm a virgin still. And I've, I've heard numerous.
41:10🔗AdamIn about three years, you're going to have about 86 kids. Is that what happens when you come back from a mission? All of a sudden, you find a wife and you just pop them out?
41:36🔗CallerYeah, I can't get myself to have sex with my girlfriend. What do you mean? Well, every time I'm at her house and we want to do it, I just, I don't know, I can't get myself to.
41:48🔗StrykerYou're chicken out or you don't get hard.
42:01🔗CallerUh, I don't know. It seems like whenever I really start to like a girl and really get involved with her, I have trouble having sex.
42:08🔗AdamThat's probably a good thing because you get into it mentally and maybe just, you know, hold him back a little bit until you're actually ready. And maybe something further will go on after you actually have sex with her.
42:55🔗CallerI think it did. He had drug and alcohol. I know there was verbal and physical abuse. I have pictures. I go through the photo album and I'll say, hey, I remember pieces of that, but it's like blackout.
43:10🔗StrykerLet's just say you had a very traumatic childhood. We can safely say that.
43:15🔗CallerYeah. My question is, what type of therapy do you go through to try and get something like that?
43:25🔗StrykerI think the first thing is you see a good psychiatrist to get a proper diagnosis and then let them recommend to you what kind of treatments you need. It's like any other illness. If you don't have an accurate diagnosis, you can't be rendered an accurate treatment. If you have pneumonia and somebody is treating you for a sprained ankle, maybe it's a sprained ankle, but you've got to make the right diagnosis in order to expect the right treatment response.
43:50🔗AdamAre there some screwy things going on in your life other than the dreams that you think are happening because maybe your dad was messing with you?
43:57🔗CallerWell, my husband and I, we have a lot of sexual problems, I guess you could say. I'm just real uncomfortable with sex and...
44:11🔗StrykerAll right, that's good. You're ready, you got some stuff, you know something's going on, you know you've had a traumatic upbringing, check it out.
45:20🔗AdamAnd you have to memorize the scenes you're doing the next day or the entire...
45:24🔗DrewYeah, yeah, just the stuff that you're doing the next day. But no, honestly, I can tell you, it's a storyline that's ongoing and they haven't decided on the resolution yet, so...
45:46🔗AdamAnd by the way, I don't want to put down the WB because I appeared on one of their shows last Sunday night. What's what's what? Gross Point. Did you really? I was on the season finale. You're kidding. No, I have a little acting thing. You're big time.
46:06🔗AdamAnd I was more nervous about memorizing the lines and actually going in front of the camera, which I haven't done in a whole lot. I thought I did all right.
46:14🔗AdamYou know, Darren stars and called me since then. But I think the episode was great. It was on. It just aired. Yeah, just aired. Yeah. Ratings were down.
46:22🔗StrykerNo, I'm just kidding. I don't know what happened.
46:24🔗AdamBut it was it was super fun. Super fun. I loved the WWWB.
46:29🔗AdamDrew was pointing at me like a break. The guy points at me nonstop. Christopher Gorham is here from Popular. And the number is 1-800-LOVE-191. And we'll speak to Rachel and David and some more of you guys coming up soon on Loveline.
47:03🔗CallerAll right, nothing like Inky Bits bringing us back. The Loveline, that's this, what you're listening to on your radio station, 1-800-LOVE-191. I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla along with Dr. Drew. Drew, you all right? You look a little disconvibulated since you left the room a second ago.
47:18🔗StrykerNo, it's okay. No, and I were having a heavy discussion, and Anderson had the temerity to interrupt us.
47:23🔗CallerThe temerity? With a radio program. Hold on, the man that graduated UCLA, what does temerity mean? Audacity? I don't even know. Audacity means boldness, and I learned that in the SAT class back in the day. Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular, and it's on Friday nights at what time? Nine o'clock on all WB networks. Exactly. All WB networks as far as I know. Okay. Except, unless there's something screwy going on with the affiliates. I know in my hometown, Fresno, California, something was going on. They were combining two channels, and so our show ended up being at 11 o'clock at night for six weeks in a row. After the rerun of Alice. Yeah. It was just flip-flopping all over the place, and people couldn't find it, so if for some reason it's not on at nine o'clock, just check your local listings and you should be able to find it. It's called Popular. And one thing, last night we had a girl on Emily Proctor from West Wing, and I was so excited because she was on the Dukes of Hazzard.
52:16🔗StrykerWouldn't that be a good idea if you guys both maybe get on a walking program and that'll help firm up those pelvic muscles a little bit? Listen, it's a payoff for her, too, because it's hard to have a, I can't believe I'm going to say this. It's hard to have a decent orgasm if your pelvic musculature is completely deconditioned like that.
52:35🔗CallerYeah, well, the thing is, is that all of her orgasms are produced pretty much digitally. I've got talented fingers, but, you know, the old dick hardly does it anymore. What can I say?
52:50🔗AdamWell, Max, here's what you need to do. Go out to, and you're from LA., right?
52:53🔗AdamWhy don't you go down to San Vicente Boulevard, do some walking down there.
52:56🔗StrykerAre you familiar with the Kegel exercises?
52:59🔗CallerYeah, I'm familiar with them. Getting her to do them is hard. Are those the same as the pelvic floor exercises?
53:05🔗StrykerYeah, yeah, yeah. They'd be good for her. Listen, when she's 70, she's going to start having difficulty holding her urine, and have all kinds of prolapse. It's going to be lovely.
53:13🔗AdamThe vagina will be dragging on the floor.
53:15🔗StrykerLike with all of our muscular system, it needs to be nourished properly, it needs to be sustained properly.
53:21🔗StrykerWell, not just the Kegels. I have too much information. But you need to walk, you need to exercise. Your body needs that in order to stay healthy. Things will happen. There will be a price for long-term lack of use.
53:33🔗AdamAll right, Drew, this one's for you. Lindey, you're 28.
53:52🔗CallerOkay. The next question is, you were talking some weeks ago about heroin use and ecstasy use, and you talked about Parkinsonian symptoms, and you said that it was impossible to contract Parkinsonian symptoms from taking heroin. And I was wondering if you've ever read the book in the case of the frozen addicts.
54:10🔗StrykerYeah, that's not from the heroin. It's from the stuff that's in it. Right. And you certainly can get that. And designer drugs can cause it, too. And with ecstasy, I've never seen it sustained. I've never seen it go beyond a week or so. So people always ask, am I going to get Parkinson's? And I've never seen that happen, even though people speculate that it might.
54:33🔗CallerBut if somebody out on the market created some synthetic heroin.
54:37🔗StrykerOh, yeah. Synthetic heroin, absolutely can cause it. There's all sorts of things you can take that could cause it. But actual opiate heroin will not do it. Right.
54:47🔗CallerBut, you know, ecstasy or something like that could possibly cause it.
54:51🔗StrykerPossibly. They actually, sure, I've seen it happen acutely, meaning people can get locked in for about a week. But I've never seen it progress later.
54:59🔗CallerNothing like the case of the frozen addicts, though.
55:01🔗StrykerI've not seen that. People speculate that that's a possibility. But they think that the cases in which that has occurred, it probably wasn't MDMA. Alright, a lot of other hideous stuff from MDMA, a lot of other hideous stuff, but not that. Okay?
55:14🔗CallerYou had a guy who called, who was a heroin addict, and he says, I keep on shaking, I think I have Parkinson's, and you told him that you hadn't heard of that very much.
55:23🔗StrykerNo, I've seen that from strokes, again, from various things that happen from the heroin, but I've never seen it from the heroin itself.
55:36🔗CallerI have a question. Actually, two questions.
55:39🔗CallerI want to know if you can get the morning after pill without having to go through all the counseling.
55:45🔗StrykerDepends what's your state situation. Some states are having it basically over the counter.
55:49🔗CallerWell, it's in Texas and I went to Planned Parenthood and they want me to bring my girlfriend in for a bunch of questioning and stuff like that.
55:56🔗StrykerYeah, but that's not, in the state of Washington, you can call a pharmacy and get it immediately.
56:04🔗StrykerThere's something called, there's a line called, you could try this line, Joseph, 1888 not NOT., number two, late. 1888, not too late. And they will refer you to pharmacies where you can get, organizations will give you the morning after tell.
56:22🔗CallerEver since I guess I was about maybe seven or eight, I noticed that my testicles were abnormal. Like there's extra, they're bigger than usual than like normal ones.
58:35🔗CallerWell, I had kind of an interest or I don't know, it's kind of an odd question. For about the past year, I've been dating a really wonderful guy, and we had a little bit of problems in the beginning, and it's actually kind of rough. And I've never really had much trouble with pain before. I'm kind of little and he's kind of well endowed, so there's obviously some friction. But now it seems like whenever we try to have sex or anything, that there's a lot of pain involved. I immediately kind of cramp up and I have some pretty serious pain going on down there.
59:08🔗StrykerSo there's some sort of, there's an anatomic misfit here? Is that what you're saying? What does that mean?
59:13🔗CallerI don't know because I've had well-endowed boyfriends before and I haven't had this problem. Now we're both trying to be a lot gentler and we're working with it a lot, but I'm wondering if now it's not just purely psychological and I'm freaking out every time we have sex without really knowing it and cramping myself up.
59:31🔗StrykerAbsolutely could be. It's called vaginismus. And some versions of that are actually due to spinal reflex, but some of it are due to anxiety. And if you learn to relax and deep breathe and get used to it again, maybe things will be okay. But you do need to be sure you have a pelvic exam to make sure that's not something else going on.
1:00:19🔗CallerIt has nothing to do with, I guarantee.
1:00:21🔗StrykerNo, no. It has nothing to do with you. Nothing. There's just some guys that have difficulty.
1:00:26🔗AdamThat's not true, Drew. It's her fault.
1:00:29🔗StrykerNo, it isn't. This is that guy. This is that guy that has trouble ejaculating from sex. And he'll relax. How long have you been with him?
1:01:52🔗StrykerMarijuana. Well, you know, it seemed to have made it worse even when I stopped, you know.
1:01:59🔗StrykerThat's correct. We talked about this last night, didn't we? That it's very common to have suicidal thinking when you stop smoking pot for about six months.
1:02:08🔗AdamAnd your sex drive can go down and hopefully it'll all come back.
1:02:19🔗StrykerI understand you have depression also. But you may need, in order to really thoroughly treat you over all circumstance, you may need the marijuana addiction treated. And if you need your depression treated, you need to see a doctor that should be treated. Absolutely. 20% of people with depression die. Very serious. They put that number, attach that number to any other illness and people are rushing to the doctor. So let's go.
1:02:42🔗StrykerWell, I mean, I've handled everything on my own, you know, always.
1:02:46🔗StrykerYeah, and you've been depressed for four years, and you've been smoking pot. Let's go there, Tony. It's time to take care of yourself. You're 20.
1:03:14🔗AdamLeave me alone. You know, that's one thing about about marijuana that I really never knew until listening to you guys on Loveline was that people that smoke it a lot, addicted people, when they're done, they're in trouble.
1:03:27🔗DrewWhat's a lot? What's considered a lot?
1:03:35🔗AdamWhat's the long-term effect of smoking? Say someone smokes marijuana seven days a week, three years in a row.
1:03:42🔗StrykerWe don't know for sure. I've noticed, I think in some cases nothing. Although you will get depressed and will get panic, you will get anxious and stuff, but that will pass. And you'll be an addict. You'll have to have that treated because once that addict chemistry has been triggered, that drive will always be there and you'll replace it with something.
1:04:00🔗DrewThat's something that varies person to person, right? I mean, how much it takes to get addicted?
1:04:05🔗StrykerWell, it's a genetic thing. It's a switch. You predispose to genetically. Once the switch is thrown, that's it. It's thrown. And the intensity of the behaviors attached to that tend to be determined by the drug of choice, but it's a threshold issue. And would you ask me how much spot? So the long-term effects. One thing I have noticed occasionally is people sometimes get very obsessive compulsive, very, like weirdly obsessive compulsive.
1:04:27🔗AdamLike rub your nipples and suck your thumb.
1:04:28🔗StrykerRight, like that. People may not recognize that reference from an hour and a half ago.
1:04:47🔗CallerI had a question. Actually, too. Me and my boyfriend have sex. He usually doesn't please me and I tell him what to do, what I want him to do, but he doesn't listen to me. Is there any way I can get him to do what I want?
1:05:02🔗AdamYes. Don't have sex with them anymore and say to him, I will not do anything until you start listening to me. The man will run through coals. He'll set himself on fire. He'll do anything it takes to get back in the sack with you. So I'll tell him beforehand.
1:05:16🔗StrykerI understand why women don't understand they are in control. You're in control, Myra.
1:05:22🔗StrykerYou're in control. You got the goods.
1:05:24🔗CallerYeah, but then that's another thing. He doesn't have sex with me very often either. I like practically have to beg for him to have sex with me too.
1:06:02🔗CallerUm, I mean, I care about him, but I don't know if it's like that I love him or if it's just that I'm so used to being with him.
1:06:10🔗AdamIt's probably that if I were you, you know, I would end it and move on. And you're only 22. You got plenty of time.
1:06:17🔗StrykerSo one thing about these teenage, young adult relationships, you really don't know when they're over when you're that age. These are relationships that would last about three weeks when you're 30. You'd realize it was not going anywhere. You'd get out, you'd end it. Everybody would be fine.
1:06:31🔗StrykerWhen you've got that teenage relationship that goes on too long.
1:06:35🔗AdamYou just do it because it becomes a habit and you're cool because you're just afraid to lose.
1:06:38🔗StrykerYou're afraid. You don't know how to end it. You don't know. You don't know when it's over. You don't know how to end it.
1:06:43🔗DrewEspecially when you've been for somebody for five years. You've got to have the fear of you're not going to find somebody else. This was the one.
1:07:29🔗CallerEnough to not just a wet spot, but a wet quadrant. Wow. So, you know, we're very active and don't see each other a lot, but enough to, you know.
1:07:43🔗CallerWell, I am. It's wonderful. I mean, how could you not be really in the whole scheme of things? I mean, everything's perfect. It's great. What I'm looking for is more practical advice, and I'm looking for you guys' wealth of information here.
1:08:24🔗CallerBut the thing is, it's like we've had to delegate to a certain portion of the room. I mean, you can't use the sofas anymore. I mean, you can't.
1:08:35🔗AdamIt's now leaking down to the neighbor below you, and you're going to get kicked out of the building.
1:08:38🔗DrewYour friends are never coming over again now.
1:08:40🔗CallerI'm really, I'm looking, you guys are the only people that might have enough information that can, you know, like, is there like gadgets or things or?
1:08:55🔗StrykerThat's like, that's like holding back your ejaculation.
1:08:57🔗CallerRight. I mean, the relationship progressed perfectly. Everything's wonderful. She's very confident and-
1:09:05🔗StrykerWhat about, you know, plastic, you know, it's a tarp or something. Seriously, why not just something-
1:09:09🔗CallerIt's just, yeah, I tried doing that underneath a liner. And it's the point where, you know, we, you know, have sex and then we have to get up and watch a movie.
1:09:20🔗AdamYou know how some people that have a jerry curl, they put plastic on the furniture on the top. You need to get some of that plastic and lay it over the sheet.
1:09:55🔗CallerI mean, I can't- I tried- You know, my sheets are, you know, lost products. I can't really go out and get anything nice. I've got a bigger bed that, you know, now at least, you know, there's one, two, three, five-
1:10:07🔗StrykerCan't you come up with, like, a futon that you throw down and wash it or something? You know what I mean?
1:10:12🔗AdamHow about a sponsorship from a bed company?
1:10:14🔗StrykerGo to, like, a Pier One or something to find something you can just toss on the ground.
1:10:33🔗AdamBill, good luck getting an umbrella, get the stuff they use on Jerry Curls, throw that on the bed or do what Drew said, get a futon, like a second bed and just throw it down and we're going to have sex. It's like having one of those rags and you guys know what I'm talking about. My mom is a fur coat, doesn't need a hanger. All right, Christopher Gorham is here. He's from the show Popular and it's on what night?
1:10:53🔗AdamAnd we'll speak to him more and you guys and your questions coming up on the vlog. Hello, what is it?
1:11:11🔗CallerYou're listening to Loveline on Outrageous Talk Radio. 100.7 The Buzz. All right, we're back.
1:11:30🔗AdamIt's Loveline. 1-800-LOVE-1-91. I am sitting here for Adam Corolla, my main man mayonnaise, as Snoop said. I would be Stryker from LA. And Dr. Drew, Board Certified Physician, Dictionary Medicine Specialist, thank you for always welcoming me with the open arms.
1:11:45🔗StrykerMy pleasure, you're always a pleasure.
1:11:46🔗AdamI really appreciate it, because it's Adam's shoes, very tough to fill.
1:11:50🔗AdamNo, come on, you know it is. He's got three TV shows, he does AT&T commercials, and I sit at home and I play Tony Hawk's skateboarding games and watch Vivid Videos.
1:12:00🔗StrykerWell, see, that's what makes you an expert.
1:12:04🔗AdamI'm the king and champion for it. Eh, a little something on the side too. And Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular on Friday nights. And what can you, what's the show about again for people just joining us? It's about high school kids.
1:12:16🔗DrewIt's a high school show, it's about ambition, it's about popularity and unpopularity, and about how deep down inside we all feel the same.
1:12:25🔗AdamAnd what kind of character do you play?
1:12:26🔗DrewAnd I play Harrison John, who is like the alternative guy on the unpopular side, and who goes through all kinds of issues, recently got through leukemia and is now in remission, and will be for about five years before he's cleared.
1:12:40🔗AdamSo you've played a gay guy in Party of Five, now you have cancer. Next maybe they'll chop off your ding-dong.
1:12:48🔗AdamWe can see what happens. It can be like that movie that, what was it called, when the lady lost her arms, her legs, and she was just a body.
1:13:14🔗AdamYou need to see she had, first she lost her arms, then her legs.
1:13:16🔗DrewIt was like this crazy fetish. Like it was her husband or her boyfriend or something started removing, amputating her limbs. And until she had nothing left, she was just a torso.
1:13:27🔗StrykerAnd then what would he do? What was this movie about?
1:13:45🔗AdamI don't have it on DVD, by the way. But if someone wants to send it to me, sure, I'll watch that thing. All right, Drew, where are we going here on Loveline? Let's go to Jason. Jason, you're 29 on Loveline.
1:14:14🔗StrykerWhy don't you just do that? That's the way people stop.
1:14:17🔗CallerI'm very leery about going to get outside help.
1:14:21🔗StrykerIt's not going to help. Jason, it is not going to stop otherwise. Listen, people have all sorts of weird ideas about what addiction is. It's psychologically addictive. It's this. It's that. Hey, look, if you can stop, stop. But if you can't, you're addicted. And if you're addicted, you must get treatment. It will not stop otherwise.
1:14:58🔗AdamI mean, you have the beach. Have you been down? I mean, everyone there is smoking. Yeah.
1:15:01🔗StrykerIt's everywhere. Well, I, at least, if you, you know, there are individual kinds of therapies that you could at least try, but I don't have much faith in that because what really works is a 12-step program. Yeah.
1:15:12🔗StrykerI'm also worried about confidentiality, things like that.
1:15:15🔗StrykerIt works. I'm just telling you a 12-step works. And listen to, listen, lots of celebrities go in for treatment and they manage to maintain some degree of decorum and confidentiality about what goes on.
1:15:28🔗AdamI got to know, Jason, what, you don't want people to, is it your work or something? Yeah. Yeah. What kind of work are you in? Legal field. Ah.
1:15:37🔗StrykerWell, if you're an attorney or law enforcement?
1:15:41🔗StrykerWell, check out the other bar. There are tons of recovering attorneys out there. Tons. And just like recovering physicians, the physicians are even more difficult to treat, frankly. But there's something called the other bar. Check out the other bar. And that's a 12 step program for attorneys. And it's highly, highly confidential.
1:16:40🔗Well, she did catch me when we were dealing with that.
1:16:43🔗StrykerWell, effects can shut your sex drive down. And women particularly, sex starts looking weird. Like, oh my God, people touch it. That doesn't make sense anymore. So you might...
1:17:00🔗She said somebody told her that there's a drug you could take to counteract that. And we've been together for a long time. And, you know, it's something we both enjoy, but...
1:17:15🔗StrykerFred, first of all, recognize that you should not... It's not healthy for you to relinquish physical intimacy on behalf of the treatment, okay? That you need to stay connected. Your relationship is important. It's important to the resolution of her depression. And physical connection is an important part of that. Now, the medicine...
1:17:37🔗StrykerIt's easy. The medicine they're probably talking about is Wellbutrin. You can add Wellbutrin to Effexor, or she could be switched, or they can add Viagra. Sometimes that helps. That's not been proven yet, but some people are trying that. Or she can switch to Wellbutrin, Remeron, or Serizone, all of which do not have these sexual side effects. And I would strongly urge you to have her talk to a doctor about this. There's nothing magical about Effexor, oftentimes.
1:18:07🔗AdamYeah, you're 26 on Loveline. What's up?
1:18:09🔗CallerOh, I have a friend who's homosexual, and he's having a real rough time coming out of the closet. And I'm just trying to figure out what I can do to help him with that transaction.
1:18:55🔗CallerWhy? Well, so he can, like, not be freaked out about it anymore. He's thinking that if he comes out, his family is going to, like, disown him and all of his friends are going to hate him. And it's just not...
1:19:08🔗StrykerWell, you... I hate to say it. I'm glad you're a good friend, but you're not the guy to solve this problem for him. He needs to get a network of gay friends who've been through this and can support him as he goes through it. And he should not start on this process till he has a very, very significant close source of gay friends that he can turn to.
1:19:30🔗AdamSean, is your friend there with you right now?
1:19:53🔗StrykerHi, we're just suggesting, first of all, you don't know why Sean is so hellbent on taking you through this, but I was telling him that it's not a good job for him to be doing for you, that you need to get a network of gay friends who've been through this, really talking through with them, make sure you've got a solid network of support to fall back upon and then begin that process of coming out. Okay?
1:20:15🔗CallerWell, I wouldn't know how to go about to get into that.
1:20:18🔗StrykerGay and Lesbian Youth Center. Every town has got a Gay and Lesbian Youth Center.
1:20:22🔗AdamEven in your city. How long have you been with a man before? Just out of curiosity?
1:20:28🔗AdamNo. How do you know you're gay? You just have the feeling you're attracted to men?
1:20:32🔗CallerYeah, I don't have any sexual tendencies toward any females.
1:20:37🔗AdamDo you think, Drew, I don't know, you do the show every single night, is it, is he ready to come out? Is someone, is our people ready to come out?
1:20:45🔗StrykerThey're ready when they've got adequate support, in my opinion. And support does not come from straight people because they don't really understand what this is all about. It comes from other gay people who have been through this.
1:20:55🔗AdamSo Scott, find yourself some gay friends and they'll be your support group. And when you're ready to do it, hopefully they'll be there for you and everyone will understand, all right?
1:21:04🔗StrykerEveryone won't understand. That's why you need that network of people who have been through it.
1:21:07🔗DrewIt can be really tough. I had a really close friend go through something similar like this, coming out and his family was not happy about it. And it's really, really important to have that support group to help you through that because you'd like to think that your family especially is gonna be supportive of you no matter what, but sometimes they're not.
1:21:26🔗StrykerDefinitely. And or they're just worried about it. Those are their issues. They don't wanna believe it. They believe you're going through a phase. They wanna fix you. That's all them. And you have to be able to be separate and have your support separate from all that.
1:21:39🔗AdamDid you know any gay people in high school at the time they were gay?
1:22:03🔗DrewYeah. No, no, no. But he was very out and very public. And, you know, but it was the environment where he had support there. I mean, you know, none of us cared. So.
1:22:12🔗AdamRight. All right. It's Loveline. We've got to take a quick break. Coming up, let's we'll speak to Patty, who apparently knows you, Christopher, and wants to mention something about your shoe size. And we'll find out what the hell that is coming up on Loveline. Let's go, Dr. Drew. Yeah. I would like to invite you to go with me to the New Found Glory show coming up in about three weeks, I believe, two weeks.
1:23:11🔗AdamYes, you are, especially at the Weenie Roast and Acoustic. I see you out there.
1:23:14🔗StrykerYeah, yeah. Those are the two concerts.
1:23:15🔗AdamWe all announce a couple bands are out there with Adam. Maybe Adam will be too drunk next time, and I'll stand next to you and you just handle the mic.
1:23:24🔗AdamAll right, I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla along with Dr. Drew. It's Loveline.
1:23:28🔗StrykerOr you could ask the program director to send me out there with you. There you go.
1:23:31🔗AdamThat's a good idea. Christopher Gorham is here from the show Popular on the WB. It's on Friday nights at 9 p.m. Nine o'clock. You should watch him on the show. He has leukemia. He's the alternative to the popular kids.
1:24:33🔗DrewAnd literally almost everyone I know who I've talked to since college that lived on that floor has gone to law school. So I don't know what that's about.
1:24:42🔗AdamHopefully your show will be on for a while. He gets a couple movies.
1:25:27🔗CallerAnd I was wondering, is it normal, I guess, for it to, I guess, let's see, over intensify sexual stimulation or no?
1:25:35🔗StrykerYeah. Some people get it for a while, at least. And then it starts to decrease it. But it sounds like it might just give Carlos a pulse. It's the thing.
1:26:50🔗CallerI'm going to try to make this as distinct as possible because it's kind of a complicated situation. It's made more complicated by the fact that I'm currently serving a mission. I'm a Mormon missionary. How about that?
1:27:01🔗CallerAnyway, it seems to me in my entire life, I've seen to have something of a sleeping disorder. Basically, what it's always amounted to is I could never fall asleep at night. I even remember being like a little kid. Eight o'clock, go sleep over at my cousin's house. Ten o'clock, they go to bed, be snoring, and I'd be up until one watching the clock tick by. It also seems that I just like to sleep later and longer. Now, I'm on a mission now and I'm supposed to be up at 6.30 every morning, go to sleep at 10.30, and this has kind of been a problem. So, I've seen a couple of psychiatrists and talked to people and I've been doing a few medications. They started me out, a doctor who, you know, I guess, kind of my problem is that I think it's really easy for...
1:27:40🔗StrykerI think he's from France. He's a conehead.
1:27:45🔗CallerSorry, sorry. I guess really people, it's really easy for people just to say, well, you're lazy, you're depressed, you've got a bad attitude. And so, they gave me some packs. Well, that didn't do jack crap. They gave me some Ambien, you know, nice sleeping pills, but they're not for, you know, long-term thing. Now, I'm on trazodone, which is kind of strange to me because they tell me I'm not depressed. They don't sound depressed.
1:28:05🔗StrykerThey're test-tested. Trazodone is an excellent sleeping medication.
1:28:08🔗AdamYou sound like you're on speed, Chuck.
1:28:09🔗CallerI'm kind of nervous. I'm sorry, guys. But, and, you know, this has just kind of been a running problem. Now, the thing about the trazodone is it's helping me fall asleep, but I still just can't seem to function in the mornings. I still can't get up, you know? And I'm just kind of wondering, you know, I can't seem to get anybody to consider the possibility that I might actually have a sleeping disorder and not just be, you know, a slob, a lazy guy.
1:28:50🔗StrykerI thought they took care of that kind of thing when you're on a mission.
1:28:52🔗CallerYou know what? And they do, but they're not. That's kind of what I said. The first one I first got on the mission, I talked to my mission president about it. He sent me to this doctor who's in the area and he's actually a geriatric doctor. I don't know why I sent him to you. This is the guy who gave me Paxil.
1:29:07🔗AdamDrew, hold on one sec. I don't think I can go on with this call anymore.
1:29:11🔗StrykerThe way he wears you out, I think he may be bipolar, frankly, and that people bipolar have all kinds of funny sleep problems, but you know, I think a sleep value is a reasonable thing and they can tell you over the psychiatric cause of sleep disturbance and then you should see a psychiatrist.
1:29:25🔗AdamChuck, I'm going to give you 10 seconds to ask one question because I don't want to be a jerk off, to ask one question within 10 seconds, go.
1:29:31🔗CallerAll right, is there some other medications that I can talk to somebody about? I mean.
1:29:36🔗StrykerYeah, you should see a psychiatrist, absolutely.
1:29:39🔗StrykerOkay? Yeah, you should, because I think there's more going on here than people have suspected, definitely.
1:29:45🔗DrewIs it just me or any time someone opens with? I just have something really quick to say. Guaranteed for like a five minute explanation and no question.
1:29:53🔗AdamOh, God, I almost needed a noose right then.
1:30:12🔗CallerLet me rephrase my question. I just wanted to know if there's any other way to increase my sexual stamina without taking any kind of drug like, I don't know, any exercises or something like that.
1:30:25🔗AdamExercise. If you masturbate a lot, especially before sex, you will definitely last longer.
1:30:33🔗StrykerAnd the kegalex rises. Some people get some results with.
1:30:52🔗AdamJenny, you're 25 on Loveline. What's up?
1:30:54🔗CallerHi. Well, my question is about an ex-boyfriend. He used to dress up like a woman. He would wear long hair and so sometimes he would curl it and wear mom's clothes and paint his fingernails and watch himself masturbate.
1:31:10🔗AdamAnd you were there watching or you just knew he did that?
1:31:12🔗CallerNo, at one point about six months into the relationship, he just confided me in me and he just told me this. And then later, you know, I was trying to be supportive because I wasn't too freaked out. I thought that might be something that people do. But then later he started requesting that I paint my fingernails and and I have short fingernails, but he would, you know, make me paint them. And then if I didn't, then he'd kind of be disappointed. And I guess it's a fetish. But I'm just wondering, is that a serious thing or I wonder why?
1:31:43🔗StrykerJenny, I don't understand why you are so sort of clueless about people. What's up with you? That you can't make any assessment of what is and is not normal behavior.
1:31:54🔗AdamJenny, you know that is dressing up like a girl going all the way with the curling iron and the painting of the nails. And he wants you to paint your nails.
1:32:02🔗StrykerWhy you wouldn't react to that? I mean, to accept it as one thing, but to have like a no reaction to it is what's up with you?
1:32:08🔗CallerIt's not that I didn't react, I was just trying to be supportive. I mean, I wasn't going to go, I didn't think that it was anything psychotic.
1:32:17🔗StrykerWell, these things don't usually occur in a vacuum. I mean, usually there's a lot of other stuff going on with people that get into that kind of thing. And they're not bad people, but they got a lot of stuff going on. And no, it's not normal. It's not even in the range of normal.
1:32:31🔗AdamJust the dress would be normal, but breaking out the curling iron, it is a fetish.
1:32:36🔗StrykerIt is a fetish, and there's all kinds of theories why this fetish has developed, but it suggests there's a lot going on with this person. And I've never seen that fetish in someone who has no other psychiatric or psychological problems. It usually is part of a bigger syndrome.
1:32:52🔗StrykerLike lots of things. But I'm very concerned that you're just so dismissive of it. Well, obviously, you know, he's into eating small children for breakfast, so I'm very supportive of it.
1:33:02🔗StrykerNo, it's not bad. There's nothing bad about it. But it's, it's, you know, it's something going on and I find it bizarre that you wouldn't sort of look into it a little bit or help him look into it a long ago. All right, Jenny?
1:33:19🔗AdamAll right. Okay. Good luck with your thing. Daniela, you're 14 on Loveline.
1:33:25🔗CallerYeah. My boyfriend, whenever I give him head, he tends to growl and like make like weird sounds.
1:33:34🔗Adam14. When you're 14 years old, what are you doing that to begin with? She should be having sex instead. No. Why are you doing this at 14? And how old is this guy?
1:34:11🔗StrykerWell, it's him. You know what? He's turning into a werewolf. And if you keep doing that to him, he will complete the transition. So stop doing that. Okay?
1:34:19🔗AdamYeah. And his penis is going to grow right through the back of your head next time you're down there. And by the way, I knew a girl that made a noise like a chimpanzee. That girl was brilliant.
1:34:45🔗CallerYeah. Drew mentioned something about an hour ago about being in a relationship when you're really young, like 17 and you're in it for five, six, seven years.
1:35:03🔗CallerYeah. And our relationship, I was together with my ex-girlfriend for five years. And we'd separated this winter. And, you know, I find myself some days where I'm totally over her.
1:35:14🔗CallerI'm having a good time with the people. And then the next day, I'm, you know, I'm back completely in the dumps.
1:35:19🔗StrykerIf you can't, after six months, can't get over it, so to speak, you need an evaluation for depression because that may be the bigger issue.
1:35:26🔗AdamThat's a five year thing. He had a habit. It could be just that.
1:35:29🔗StrykerI think he's fine. But I'm just saying, if you really are really having trouble functioning after six months, you got to get an evaluation.
1:35:34🔗AdamAll right, we got to take a quick break. We'll be back in just a second here on Loveline.
1:36:05🔗CallerHey, this is Adam Corolla. And this is Adam Lakers. And you're watching Loveline. Loveline, the Stryker. Where I was in for Adam Corolla. Thank you guys out there listening for being so kind. Dr. Drew, thank you. Thank you for joining me. Thank you for having me. Always. I can't wait to be back here. I can't wait to be back. Hopefully they'll have me back once again. Christopher Gorham, thank you for being here. Hey, thank you. Stryker, Drew, thank you very much. It's been a pleasure and an honor. Hopefully I can come back one day myself. I'm sure you will. The show is popular. It's on the WB Friday nights. Check it out at nine o'clock. You got it. And Stryker for Adam Corolla saying adios.
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