19:52🔗
Voiceover
Yep, it is Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew over there. Phone number, 1-800-LOVE-191, fax number 310-854-4455. Dr. Drew is a board certified physician and an addiction medicine specialist. Eric Dane is our guest tonight. He has placed Dr. Wyatt Cooper from Gideon's Crossing. Monday nights, that would be tonight, right, Drew?
20:18🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's a good radio there. Ten o'clock, ABC. The show looks good. I've never seen it. I'm always here Monday nights at ten o'clock. Although, Drew, you're oftentimes not here Monday nights at ten. Oftentimes, yes. Are you home watching Gideon's Crossing?
20:34🔗
Adam
That is true. I did purchase a TiVo, but I thought it was described to me as a magic box that I could just will to show the programming that I wanted to watch, which would include Gideon's Crossing. As it turns out, it takes some hooking up.
21:00🔗
Drew
Seriously, once you get hooked on TiVo, there ain't no getting off that. Yeah. Really, it's bad.
21:04🔗
Adam
Well, I think I know that in the back of my mind, but let's focus on Eric and Gideon's Crossing.
21:11🔗
Eric Dane
This is actually the second night, the second Monday night that it airs. It started on a Wednesday, so you guys have no excuses.
21:26🔗
Adam
I never thought I'd be happy to be here on a Wednesday night, but yeah. So we are covered. And how's the show doing? I see the commercials, the reviews, everything looks good.
21:45🔗
Eric Dane
And, you know, as you guys probably know that, you know, if there's network support, then a show will have enough time to build that. If not, you know, a lot of good shows get lost in the shuffle.
21:56🔗
Adam
Yeah, yeah. There does seem to be a little bit of a god when it comes to good programming though. I mean, it does seem like one shows that are good, eventually make it and the word gets out and they find their following. I mean, there's been a long list of shows, none of which come to mind. Cagney and Lacey, a little letter writing campaign, got that show back on the air, I think. Yeah, after the first or second season or something and it went on to enjoy another X amount of seasons.
22:28🔗
Eric Dane
There are shows that have been, you know, not even breaking to the top hundred for the first season and for whatever reason, the network supports them. And, you know, audience follows, ratings follows and the show becomes a success.
22:43🔗
Eric Dane
But they take a big hit financially to keep a show on the air that doesn't have strong ratings.
22:48🔗
Adam
Well, in a show like Gideon's Crossing, it's like making a movie every week, isn't it? It is. I mean, it's, lean up on the mic a little, please. I mean, it's a film that's an hour long, it's got a big cast. I mean, it just, I mean, it must be a few million bucks a week just to put the thing on the air.
23:08🔗
Eric Dane
I think it's a couple million a week. They actually, they aired the pilot Uninterrupted commercials.
23:14🔗
Adam
Yeah. Conversely, when I got home last night because the TiVo is not hooked up, I watched an entire E! True Hollywood story on the Dukes of Hazzard.
23:34🔗
Adam
Yeah. You might not be quite as maybe not now, but when I was 12, she was the best thing in the world. Well, then you could just close your eyes and start drinking, or both. But the point is, this show was like in the top 10 and number one for a while and the network always hated it, and rightfully so. But if you do watch one of those episodes, it was on CBS too. I mean, you got to be kind of humiliated to have a show like that on your television.
24:21🔗
Hello?
24:25🔗
Huh?
24:27🔗
No, I was washing my face and I had my little brother hold the phone for me.
24:35🔗
I like think about sex 24-7.
24:39🔗
I can't stop thinking about it. I mean, it's like starting to interfere with my life.
24:44🔗
Adam
Could you send your little brother out of the bathroom before he completely demasculate him?
24:49🔗
He's gone.
24:51🔗
I'm not in the bathroom anymore.
24:55🔗
I am not.
24:56🔗
Drew
Jamie, are you sexually compulsive or do you think it's just part of normal development?
25:01🔗
I don't know.
25:04🔗
No, I never was. I've lost my virginity when I was barely 13, and ever since then, I don't know. I've had this thing with it. If I don't do it for a while, I just get really like, I don't know how to explain it.
25:17🔗
Drew
I swear to God, there's no clinical evidence that I have come across yet. But I think kids that get sort of aroused, sexually sort of programmed at a young age, it sets some motion going. These arousal mechanisms just get going, and pow, they're off and running.
25:48🔗
Adam
Well, I mean, if you took a 12 or 13-year-old boy, especially, let's say, and you're violent with him or showed him a lot of violence.
25:57🔗
Adam
Any other animal. You're violent with them at 12 or 13. They would probably be a more violent 15-year-old, more aggressive, more aggressive. One that wasn't exposed to it. Okay. Perfect. All right. So sexual, probably the same thing. Yeah. All right, Jamie, that's it. Your statistic? You're going to get uterine cancer in about six months. You'll pop out a few kids and call it a life. You're done.
26:19🔗
I just don't like you, but you're making me very upset right now.
26:24🔗
I'm trying to find out what's wrong with me.
26:28🔗
Well, I mean, I try not to, but it's hard not to.
26:32🔗
No.
26:38🔗
Oh, yeah.
26:39🔗
I'm not going to, like, you know, go out. I haven't had sex with that many guys, but...
26:44🔗
Only about four.
26:49🔗
It could be longer.
26:55🔗
Yeah?
26:56🔗
Adam
How about you just find yourself one guy who, you know, you fall in love with, and you guys have a nice little high school relationship, and you have all the sex you want?
27:04🔗
Okay. Sounds good.
27:06🔗
All right.
27:10🔗
No, no, not really. I have like, really, I just get involved with these guys.
27:15🔗
My family? Oh, no. All crashing down.
27:22🔗
My dad, I live with my dad.
27:26🔗
He's a really good dad. He tries.
27:32🔗
Mom's kind of distant. She's far, she lives far away from me, and I just got my relationship back with her.
27:40🔗
I never really knew her when I was growing up.
27:42🔗
Why?
27:43🔗
She decided that she needed to find herself and that this didn't involve me or my brothers.
27:49🔗
All right. Yes.
27:52🔗
No. She never did drugs, but well, when she was younger, she did, but she was just always really flighty. I don't know how to explain it.
27:59🔗
She's just kind of a crazy artist.
28:01🔗
All right.
28:04🔗
All right.
28:04🔗
Adam
Listen, you have these these. You're compelled to act out. You don't have to act out. You understand what's going on?
28:11🔗
Yeah.
28:12🔗
Adam
God knows I wanted sex in high school. You didn't see me off having sex through high school or my adult years. Still. That's what I'm saying. Yeah. All right, Jamie. I just find a guy and settle in.
28:26🔗
All right.
28:26🔗
Adam, I love you.
28:29🔗
All right.
28:31🔗
Adam
Well, we talk about this all the time. If a woman, especially a cute 15 year old wants to have sex, she will have sex.
28:40🔗
Adam
No problem. And we've talked about this way more than once, which is it's one thing to say, listen, I'm not going to do any more coke. But it's another thing to go to a party every weekend where there's a big pile of coke and say you're not going to do coke. You know what I mean? And when you're an attractive 15-year-old girl in this day and age with some momentum, you're at a party every weekend. I mean, there are guys hitting on you left and right constantly. You know that all you have to do is walk across the party and start talking to some guy. And if you want to have sex with them, he will be there to have sex with you. I mean, you're asking them to govern themselves, but it's not quite the same as someone who was more like us maybe in high school who couldn't get any. Or just any guy.
29:34🔗
Adam
I'm sorry. I know. Eric got a lot of tail in high school. But what I'm saying is, is there's a big difference between turning something down and initiating it. I mean, I'll do fine in life without initiating stuff. I won't do anything. But if somebody came up to me and said, how about I give you a BJ? The answer would always be yes. True? You know, you found that out when we were traveling.
30:05🔗
Dave? Yes.
30:26🔗
Of what?
30:47🔗
Caller
You know, I didn't at all and then I kind of got my head together and realized that it wasn't a good idea and I quit. But now, I guess starting in September, I have been having a hard time getting and maintaining an erection. I am wondering if there is a connection there.
31:00🔗
Eric Dane
Well, there is. Doctor, would you like to go ahead, Russ? Well, I think you have exhausted your testosterone levels. And a lot of times when people take testosterone and use it as a steroid, you have to take some sort of like something to back it up when you're done taking it to sort of reproduce testosterone because you're completely drained.
31:20🔗
Caller
You know, since then, when I first started having this problem, which was in September, I went to a urologist and had my testosterone levels checked. That was the first thing he did.
31:35🔗
Drew
Yeah, well, you know, when you've taken exogenous hormone, it shuts down your normal hormone production.
31:50🔗
Drew
Which is the other thing that happens, your body down-regulates when you over-stimulate. Now, in my experience, usually the people that I see with the problem you're describing have been on steroids for a few years. And there are things that could be done, Clomid, Beta-HCG, and of course Viagra may be of use. But in those cases that I have seen in which this develops, it is a chronic problem.
32:12🔗
Drew
I've never seen anyone develop it this quickly though, Dave. So I suspect if you get on some Clomid or HCG or these things that sort of turn on some of those functions, it might turn on. But you need to see an endocrinologist that specializes in male issues.
32:29🔗
Caller
So to tell the truth, I may have this problem for the rest of my life and there's no turn on.
32:36🔗
Drew
If you'd be doing the steroids for two years and this happened, I'd say that's it. But after a month, it'd be surprising.
32:43🔗
Adam
All right, so you start introducing testosterone in your body. Your body says, oh, we got enough testosterone. Let's stop making it.
32:51🔗
Drew
Let's stop making it. Stop responding to it. Your body, the fun thing about the, fun thing, the funny thing about the endocrine and neurologic system, the brain and the hormones.
33:03🔗
Adam
I understand, Drew. But you know, I did clean carpets right out of high school. So I know.
33:08🔗
Drew
It's like, Everclear probably understand this too, but it's like the body sort of knows where it's, how active it's supposed to be.
33:14🔗
Drew
So if you start bombarding it with things from outside the body, it brings itself back down or up, whatever the case may be, to where it's supposed to be.
33:23🔗
Drew
It's why you would draw from drugs after you've been on it for a long period of time. Or you take sedating drugs, they stop being sedating after a period of time. Your body goes back to what should be a baseline level of activity.
33:33🔗
Adam
Right. Yeah. I understand that. And well, it's like me. You know, first time I masturbated, I swore it would be good for once a month. That'd be about it. Now I'm producing more than ever, you know.
33:52🔗
Adam
Within the next half hours, in fact, so we're going to get back to work. But Eric, how do you know so much about steroids?
34:08🔗
Yes.
34:12🔗
Caller
I've been going out with this girl for, it's been over two years now. And my parents found out about it when we were together for like three weeks.
34:32🔗
Caller
I don't know how you would really put it. She's the first girl I've ever been with. Right.
34:39🔗
Caller
Yeah. Well, it's kind of like, you know, I check out both, but, you know, I'm into her.
34:46🔗
Come on.
34:51🔗
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
35:02🔗
Caller
Well, with like how my family's dealt with the situation, it's kind of strange, you know?
35:08🔗
Drew
I would bet how your family dealt with you in general was something a little bit aggressive to begin with. And this sounds like you sort of intended to be problematic for them.
35:29🔗
Caller
Well, I didn't actually tell them. It's like, I've known her for about five, six years. And we've been friends. And they've known that she's openly gay. And my older sister found out about it. And of course, her big mouth had to go tell my parents about it.
35:48🔗
Adam
All right. All right. Well, the point is, is you've had this relationship and your parents don't like it.
35:58🔗
Adam
All right. Well, I'm done with the questions. They know you're a lesbian. They just don't know you're currently in a relationship.
36:06🔗
Caller
They know that we started going out and they thought it was a phase. And then I would, you know, just throw it away. And so I lied to them and told them that I was no longer with her. And now we've and that was when we were going out for like three weeks or a month. And now we've been together for two years. So it's safe to say. And I tell them we're still together.
36:34🔗
Caller
And I kind of, I would like for them to know and, you know, be happy for me instead of, you know, look down on me about it.
36:40🔗
Adam
Forget about that. Listen, I got two TV shows and a radio show, my family's not happy for me. Forget about the lesbian business. They're never going to be happy for you about that. But they may learn to accept it and they may still have love for you. I don't think they're ever going to be happy about your choice. I don't want to freak you out, but this is probably the kind of people they are. But here's the whole deal. You're living underneath your dad or your mom or your stepdad or your weird uncle's roof right now, right?
37:08🔗
Adam
Right, okay. Why stir things up? Why not wait to move out and then drop the bomb? Why make, you know what I mean?
37:24🔗
Adam
You know what I mean? I mean, look at it as you being in prison. Why go F around with the warden and piss him off when you still got another four or five months before you make the break? The tunnel is not completed yet.
37:36🔗
Adam
So finish the tunnel, wait till you make the break, then leave the warden a note and take off. And once you get outside the prison, you can go back and torment the warden. Sure.
37:45🔗
Caller
The hardest part is that I don't want to leave and then just drop the bomb on them like that.
38:07🔗
Caller
My dad kind of accepted it. And he was just like, I'm going to disagree with it because I don't want to make your mom mad about it.
38:15🔗
Caller
I don't really know. She's just completely thinking her daughters are straight and narrow and they're going to follow the path she set out.
38:41🔗
Adam
Very good mother? Alright, well then leave her alone. Move out of the god damn house and tell her. Why are you going to torture her?
38:49🔗
Drew
Also, you have this sort of idealized expectation that they are going to disappoint you with. So just realize who they are, how they're going to react, and then plan accordingly. Don't make your life miserable by doing it now. Get out. It's going to be a bad situation with them because that's how they are.
39:05🔗
Adam
Just don't tell anyone anything as long as you got to live with them for X amount of months. They're going to make things hard on you. And I don't believe the part about that great mom. She don't like her mom.
39:24🔗
Yeah.
39:28🔗
Caller
I've been married with my wife for six months now. And whenever we try to have sex, I prematurely ejaculate.
39:47🔗
Adam
Holy Christ. That's... That is premature. I mean, what are you doing before you get it in?
39:59🔗
Adam
Well, you're married. You should have stopped that a long time ago. Yeah. You just put it in.
40:31🔗
Adam
I could have probably pulled that off. Now I get that calf pull. I put my muscle in my calf.
41:01🔗
Adam
But that's not the thing. That's unfortunate. You know, it makes sense that that's how it would work, but it probably doesn't. Not that there's anything wrong with your wife, Terry, but you could rape a troll and the same thing would happen. Right?
41:23🔗
Caller
Um, is there anything I can do that would, um, prolong the period so I could get it in?
41:29🔗
Drew
There are medications, Prozac, those sorts of medicines, the serotonin reuptake inhibitor is actually sometimes prescribed for this. There's, um...
41:45🔗
Adam
No, during. You idiot. Yeah, before. You're already doing it during. I don't know. I don't know. Why don't, why doesn't Drew believe you?
41:59🔗
Adam
Uh-oh, now I don't believe him with that. He don't believe me? All right, Terry. Okay, listen, listen. And let's just say what you're saying is true. Man, how about masturbating, let's say, 45 minutes before you have the sex?
42:17🔗
Adam
Yeah, well, we're not going to try. You got to do this one on your own. All right? All righty. All right. I don't know what else to say other than this does have a way of working itself out. I do believe. But if you're a guy who's having the orgasm before you get it in, I mean, to me, the clock hasn't even begun. Right.
42:41🔗
Drew
Yeah. Also, if he sort of seems so resigned to it, if he doesn't work on it, ain't going to get better.
43:13🔗
Adam
That sounds fine. All right. Eric Dane is here from Gideon's Crossing. We're going to take a little break. When we come back we'll speak to Eddie. Eddie's 18th girlfriend is cheating on him with his best friend. How to confront her after this.
43:25🔗
Hello.
43:49🔗
You're listening to Loveline on Outrageous Talk Radio 100.7 The Buzz.
44:04🔗
Adam
Dr. Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla, he is Dr. Drew over there, Eric Dane is our guest tonight, he plays Dr. Wyatt Cooper. From Gideon's Crossing, 10 o'clock, ABC, Monday nights, that would be, well, it's on as we speak.
44:20🔗
Adam
That is absolutely right. But, well, turn this TV on, watch Gideon's Crossing, just leave the sound down. And then when Eric talks, turn it up, unless he's talking here, in which case, you have to keep it down.
44:42🔗
Caller
Oh, well, my girlfriend's cheating on me with my best friend. Well, now my ex-best friend and my ex-girlfriend.
45:36🔗
Caller
Well, I mean, I, I mean, I really liked her and everything. And I think one of my problems is I fall for women too easily.
45:49🔗
Caller
Yeah. I mean, I understand that. And I actually almost did go wet out of the air out of the tires before I went up to military weekend this weekend.
45:57🔗
Caller
Well, I was, I mean, I was shaking. I mean, yeah, not to mention I was sick, but they, Eddie.
46:04🔗
Adam
Yeah. I know this is something that you is going to have a hard time letting in right now, the way you're feeling, the age you are and all that kind of stuff. But all three of us, mature males are sitting here thinking back at that to the time we were 18 and thinking you've dodged a major bullet. This chick has probably a history of shaky, chaotic relationships. For Christ's sake, she's 19, she has a three year old already. You would have been just stupid enough to marry her in six months. She would have continued with her chaos. You guys would have popped out a couple of kids between you, and then you would have been locked in, brother. You would have been 20 and a half and up to your ears in it.
46:58🔗
Caller
I have to say, Adam, you're lucky. You have the juggies near you. You also have the women on trampolines.
47:04🔗
Adam
Yes, thank you. Thank you very much. It's not luck. We pay those women to stand next to us and act happy. You understand? We give them bonuses for acting happy. Absolutely. Thank you. Chris, luck. Nothing to do with it. Chris, you're 18. What's up?
47:24🔗
Caller
My question is for Dr. Drew. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half, and we haven't had sex. And we've talked about sex, but she's always said that her excuse was that she wanted to wait till marriage because of her religion or whatever, Christianity. And then she just told me tonight that she had general warts, and that's the reason why she didn't want to have sex with me.
48:02🔗
Caller
And she said that she had been getting treatment on it. Her last appointment was like last month, and the doctor said that they were gone.
48:20🔗
Caller
If she doesn't have anything on her, if I can't see anything on her, is this still contagious?
48:25🔗
Drew
Potentially. Not as contagious as if you can see something, but potentially contagious. Okay. There's certain percentages of what viruses will clear on their own, but there's no way to predict for whom that's going to be. So you just gotta assume she's contagious. For some people it does.
48:53🔗
Adam
And they take it away. Oh, he certainly does. So Chris, are you okay? I'm okay. You able to get through this? Yeah. Yeah.
49:05🔗
Adam
She owes you sex. And that's by the way, it's not half the population, only one-tenth of 1%. These are your friends. Half of your friends have them, right? Is that what you're saying, Drew? Thank you. Chris?
49:29🔗
Adam
I got a note from Adam. Well, the note's for a blowjob, but... That'd be nice. Oh, boy. I'd write those. I'd probably sell them before I gave them away.
49:43🔗
Yes.
49:47🔗
Caller
I'm just kind of confused. I don't know what my problem is because I've never, you know, had a boyfriend. I sort of have lukewarm attraction to guys, you know, and I just sort of have this look but don't touch attitude. When people approach me, it kind of freaks me out.
50:14🔗
Adam
Well, come on. You can't dangle that Stranger Than Ebony out in front of us and not give it to us. Come on, sister. What is it?
50:36🔗
Adam
Well, that's cool. That's Yerberific. So, well, you're not, you've never had a boyfriend.
50:53🔗
Caller
Yeah. I'm pretty sure I am, but it's just that, I mean, I had this whole look, but don't touch. I just don't want to invade people's space. I don't want to bother people.
51:03🔗
Caller
I feel that a lot of my sexuality is not turned outward, but more, it has, it doesn't really have much to do with other people, more to do with me. If that makes any kind of sense.
51:13🔗
Adam
What have you been doing? You've been burning a lot of incense and putting on a lot of patchouli oil and reading too much. What's up with you?
51:42🔗
Adam
Yeah. I remember the guy from Fat Albert and the Cosby Kids was from Yerba. Yerba, Yerba, Yerba. Remember that kid? He used to look through his hat. Hey, Debbi, Evany? Yeah? Like, maybe you're a lesbian and you're just not coming to grips with it.
52:33🔗
Caller
Well, I mean, if I know... If I have a friend who I know likes to give hugs, I have no problem with that, but if you want, I...
52:40🔗
Adam
All right. Hold on. I got to catch you off, because that's not what we're talking about. Drew, we're on the same... We're going in the same direction here, and tonight, I think it's going to be one of those snake eyes nights for us, but I'm going to try anyway. All right. Let me just do a little line of questioning here real quick. Where's your dad?
53:26🔗
Adam
He's been aggressive with you. Okay. So you were traumatized to some degree by him, wouldn't you say?
53:34🔗
Drew
Ebony, it just comes through loud and clear. Yeah. That anybody approaching you, it's like a puppy dog has been beaten. It's like you cringe, just approaching of another person. And God only knows.
53:59🔗
Adam
Yeah, pocket knife. You're going to have a bottle opener. All right, listen. You need... Can you move out of the house?
54:10🔗
Adam
All right. You need to get out of the house and you probably need to get a little therapy and talk to somebody and do a little work because of, you know, growing up with your violent dad and the way he was and freaking you out a little bit.
54:22🔗
Drew
Or try to get a relationship and try to get used to having somebody touch you and be intimate with you and care about you and feel close to that person. It is possible to feel okay about that, but you have to let that in. If you can't, that's when therapy becomes necessary.
54:36🔗
Caller
Yeah. I also tend to get hit on by, you know, 50 year old men who are homeless with three teeth, two of which are gold.
54:46🔗
Adam
You're not a real fan of guys either, are you? I mean, you're probably a little bit angry toward them. I don't blame you, but you know what I'm saying? Yeah.
55:14🔗
Adam
We're going to take a little break. When we come back, we'll speak to Daniel. Daniel 16 is bisexual, but hasn't gotten hard around guys, huh?
55:28🔗
Adam
Is it is it like a confused teen night on Loveline? I mean, I know every night is confused. Teen night. But tonight doesn't seem like no one can figure out their sexuality.
55:47🔗
Adam
No, listen, I believe you because any anyone who drags out the word a lot is in the guys and they go a lot.
55:57🔗
Adam
We'll be right back with Daniel after this. Drew shut the door there with your loved one. It is Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla, that would be Dr. Drew over there. Eric Dane is our guest tonight from Giddings Crossing. Dr. Wyatt Cooper. It's never Dr. Moishe Faganbaum over there.
56:55🔗
Drew
Geez, I got a call from an emergency up north yesterday. It was from Dr. Pinsky. I almost crapped.
57:10🔗
Adam
Same way, really? Well, that is just incredible. You know what I was thinking? I never thought of this. But since we're talking about last names and we're all being pretty candid, my last name, Corolla, C-A-R, and everyone refuses to spell it C-A-R. They always spell it C-O-R. I just stumbled, I just discovered yesterday, as I was yelling at someone for spelling it the wrong way for the thousandth time. Ironically, my name is spelled like the car. I mean, my name actually has the word car in it.
57:46🔗
Adam
But the car, the Corolla car does not have the word car in it. I think that's going to add to the confusion.
57:56🔗
Adam
Which is not spelled the same as a car, although the first three letters and the ones that are most confused spell the word car.
58:17🔗
Caller
Well, about like, I don't know, for like the last three weeks, it seems like I have not been able to get hard. Like, and I've had like quite a few sexual encounters with guys.
58:29🔗
Caller
Yeah. Well, actually, I was on, well, the thing was like a year ago, I got on the Zoloft.
58:38🔗
Caller
Off of about eight months ago because I was on it. And then I was like, you know, really scared that I had like, I was like, because I just came out, like I was just having like a lot of sex and stuff in the gay community, especially. And I was not able to get a heart or get an erection or anything.
58:54🔗
Caller
And so I was scared. And I went to the hospital, like I didn't know my parents know about it or anything. And then they turned out that they've turned from repels.
59:11🔗
Caller
I haven't experienced with girls yet. I haven't been with a girl for an hour. Try it, man.
59:31🔗
Adam
I know. You're gay. That's fine. But you know, forget the bi. You said bi to bi a long time ago. It's gay time, buddy.
59:53🔗
Drew
You know, I was thinking about the biological predisposition of homosexuality, and I started thinking about Alexandra Paul.
1:00:32🔗
Adam
Oh, yeah. Well, actually, I don't think she's fond of the pole. I think, I think she likes diving into that big inflatable air bag better than the pole. I mean, if we're talking symbolism. Hey, Daniel? Yeah. What's up, though? I mean, you're 16. For Christ's sake, what are you in the 10th or 11th grade? 11th. You're talking about coming out in the gay community and then...
1:00:58🔗
Drew
A year and a half ago, your sexual performance wasn't quite at the peak. It should be at the 15th.
1:01:05🔗
Adam
Yeah. I mean, it's like, who the... We like, I think it's like Andy Warhol or somebody over here, you know? I mean, what's going on? You're in high school. Can't you slow down a little bit?
1:01:18🔗
Caller
Yeah, like, the thing was, was like in junior high, like, I knew my brother was gay and I was embarrassed by it. So I went and had sex with, like, 20 women. Like, or 20 girls.
1:01:36🔗
Adam
I wish I had a gay brother I could have been humiliated by. That was what was missing. So you went out, you hold off and had sex with 20 women.
1:01:45🔗
Caller
At least. And then, girls, women, actually, from the teenage until, like, up until late 20s.
1:01:53🔗
Adam
What are they? Are these, like, welfare moms? Where are you getting these? What's going on? Where do you live? What's going on over there?
1:02:09🔗
Adam
Okay. How are you nailing all these broads when you're in the 8th grade and the 9th grade and you're nailing a bunch of women in their 20s?
1:02:17🔗
Caller
Well, they were not all in their 20s. I mean, most of them are, like, in the, like, teenagers with, like me.
1:02:36🔗
Drew
Well, I think that's the issue is that whatever's been act, he's been acting out about is sort of taking a different form.
1:02:42🔗
Drew
Whatever the feelings are that he was sort of hellbound to, to act out upon, maybe coming closer to the surface and are kind of shutting them down.
1:02:53🔗
Adam
Just relax a little, would you? I mean, I know we're not answering your question, but we're just appalled at the amount of sex you're having.
1:03:12🔗
Adam
Hey, you know, when I was 16, I was playing a Stratego and watching Love Boat. This guy's like, hey, you're having anal sex, right?
1:03:21🔗
Adam
Yeah. Slow down with the parts. Let me tell you something about the ass. You wear that thing out too early.
1:03:43🔗
Drew
But, Daniel, listen, you know, we're goofing around, but he really has got a lot of problems. And what can we say? Get some help. It's just slow down.
1:04:04🔗
Caller
I got a three-year-old daughter and it's just like she gets attached to all of my my male friends like right away and her father's not around. And I just I know that's not good for her because when you bring those guys around, well, it's not like I bring them around to meet her. It's just I'm you know, I take her with me.
1:04:31🔗
Drew
I mean, listen, she's your daughter, goofball. Come on. It's damaging to her. She needs to if you know there's going to be a male around in her life for many years, and this is a stable friendship that you will have had and will continue to have for a long time. That's great. Bring that person into her life. Otherwise, don't do this.
1:04:56🔗
Adam
Aha. See that, Drew? But but I'm still with Drew halfway, which is if it's upsetting to her and this is something that she keeps doing, then then make some sacrifices.
1:05:05🔗
Drew
These can't be friends that stick around. Why would it be keep doing it? In other words, it'd be just she attached to these guys and that's that. You understand the keep doing it part doesn't make sense here.
1:05:15🔗
Adam
Well, she could have a number of friends, platonic friends who are males. Is that who we're talking about, Ricky? Or who are we talking about?
1:05:22🔗
Caller
We're talking about just my friends. Like, okay, say, I have this one friend and he's been around since she was an infant. But lately, you know, he just had a baby himself. So, you know, he hasn't been around her too much, but she always wants to see him and stuff like that. So, I mean, I don't know.
1:05:43🔗
Drew
If you can't provide her that stable relationship with men, it's going to be a problem for her.
1:06:20🔗
Caller
I was too young. All I know is he was bad to my mother. He was real bad to her and she had three kids with him.
1:06:33🔗
Drew
Well, were there a bunch of guys in and out of your life when you were a little kid, do you think?
1:06:38🔗
Caller
I don't think so. I mean, I remember like a few guys, but I don't think they were like boyfriends.
1:06:47🔗
Adam
All right. But OK, Drew, relax over there. Go come on. Go take a breather or something. Would you make yourself a nice cup of post-em or something and chill out? People drinking that?
1:07:06🔗
Adam
It's all in the lawsuit. It's all in the lawsuit. I'll give you. You're going to be deposed. You'll be deposed in a couple of days. Are you kidding? We need your clinical opinion of me. Hey, Ricky. Listen, you're 19, single mom. Your work's cut out for you. It ain't going to be easy. You're going to have to make sacrifices for your young child so that she does not get pregnant as early as you did and as early as your mother did. You understand? Yeah. Got to break that chain. And that means sacrifices for you. All right.
1:08:21🔗
Adam
Loveline, I'm Adam Carolla, that is Dr. Drew over there, moonlighting, getting a little work done during the show. Eric Dane is our guest tonight, That is Dr. Wyatt Cooper on Gideon's Crossing, Monday Nights. Well, it just ended, everybody. Ten o'clock on ABC, and the phone number here is 1-800-L-V-E-1-9-1. And we'll now speak to Danielle, who is 23. Danielle?
1:09:16🔗
Caller
Around there, yes. Every time my husband and I have sex, he comes very quickly. We have sex for about two minutes, and he comes. This happens about four times in a row. We finally are like, okay, forget it.
1:09:37🔗
Caller
We have sex for a minute or two minutes, and he comes, and then he pulls out, and then we try it again, and he comes, and he pulls out.
1:10:00🔗
Adam
It's kind of an interesting philosophical question. Why does he pull out, then? When your boner goes away, is that one gone forever? Do you know what I'm saying?
1:10:12🔗
Adam
If a man gets a boner in the woods and no one's there to... Okay. So he maintains an erection and goes four times.
1:10:28🔗
Drew
Do we get to go feed the baby in between? I don't understand why the break if he's still hard.
1:11:04🔗
Adam
Of course you're going to get pregnant. The guy takes his filthy, filthy sperm-laden penis and puts it back in you. Just because he gave it a quick shammie with the gym sock doesn't mean it's free of sperm.
1:11:20🔗
Adam
I don't care what your question is. First off, we're telling you, you're going to get pregnant again. And if you don't want to get pregnant, you should do something about that.
1:11:29🔗
Drew
Okay, well, how long in between is he waiting? A couple minutes, two minutes between ejaculations.
1:12:10🔗
Adam
She may not be fulfilled, but the room is filled. Jesus Christ, four times. Son of a bitch. It's bizarre. And so here's the question. If there's no time difference between the first and the third or the fourth, eventually though, there has to be some either stopping or yes. I mean, I couldn't for the fifth time wouldn't take him ten minutes to orgasm at that point.
1:12:38🔗
Caller
What? We always give up. We're just like, okay, forget it. So maybe that's what we should try.
1:13:08🔗
Adam
Well, listen, I mean, quite honestly, I hate to say this, but most women, if a guy went down on them for a good 15, 20 minutes, game an orgasm, then popped up and shot the load in two minutes, they'd be fine with that as an encounter, wouldn't you?
1:13:36🔗
Adam
He should be doing it. I mean, any listen, all you guys who come in two minutes, you've got to compensate. You better get down there. Let me tell you, you're like an employee in a wheelchair.
1:13:49🔗
Adam
I'm telling you what your value is to the company. It's that you're honest and you show up early and you work hard.
1:14:12🔗
Adam
Sure. Sure. That's the old bait and switch. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I do that all the time. What do you mean? I live for this, baby. What do you mean? I'm not done. It's only been an hour. I'm just getting warmed up. Fast forward like a month. Like, pfft. Are you kidding? It's weird down there. I'm not going down there. It's scary. I heard an owl down there. It's spooky. All right. Get him down there. Tell him he's got to start making up for shortcomings.
1:14:43🔗
Adam
Spill a little beer down there. See if you can't get him on the trail. All right. What's his nationality?
1:14:52🔗
Adam
Aha! Okay. There's it. All right. But he doesn't have any religion or anything that would preclude him from oral sex, right?
1:15:10🔗
Adam
They weren't big into the oral sex over there. But guys, listen, this is what women enjoy most. Get good at it. You'll have a friend for life. You may not want her, but she'll be your friend for life. Mike?
1:15:33🔗
Caller
Okay, here's the deal. I got this boss of mine. I work for a company, and I just started, like, about three months ago, and I didn't have my schedule for the next week, so he told me that if I gave him my screen name, he'd just, you know, email it to me over email. And I was like, oh, okay, you know, that's pretty cool. And so I gave him my screen name, and yet I find out that he's gay. He's hitting on me on the Internet.
1:15:59🔗
Caller
And, you know, I kind of told him I wasn't gay. I like females. And he keeps on pursuing me. And he owes me like $1,200. We got into this business deal.
1:16:16🔗
Caller
Oh, yeah, I've told him many times, and like everyone like at work tells him that I'm not interested. But the thing is, is he keeps on telling me in order for me to get my money because the stock was under his name, I have to go to his house and pick it up.
1:16:31🔗
Caller
Yeah, I tried that. And my big friends, they won't go. They're like chickens. Because this guy is like huge.
1:17:20🔗
Adam
Yeah, he could have, although I enjoyed it. Joe, do you think he made all this stuff up about the stock market and the email and all that? That'd be some kernels of truth in there somewhere. He's still an idiot. Well, yeah. Joe, caller goes by the name of Joe. Joe. Joe, who is a 19-year-old boyfriend.
1:17:51🔗
Caller
Okay, after my boyfriend and I have sex, which is very frequently, like my vagina like hurts and stings and stuff.
1:18:53🔗
Drew
We should talk about her vagina burning, not this urea, not pain with urination, right?
1:19:07🔗
Adam
This guy's big. How are you guys doing? I mean, is he, is he gentle or is he, you know, you like a sheet in the wind?
1:19:25🔗
Drew
Get a urinalysis done to make sure there's not a urine infection sitting there all this time, maybe triggering all these feelings.
1:20:17🔗
Adam
Okay. All right, baby. Thank you. Yeah. This comes up a lot. I really think the vagina is not, it's not as durable as I'd like it to be, quite frankly. There's a few design changes I'd make on it if I was to put it back up on the drawing board.
1:20:37🔗
Adam
Well, first off, it's way too big. Huge. Huge. No reason for all that room, especially around the left and right, down the width. Don't need that kind of room.
1:20:50🔗
Adam
Well, I could use a little more orgasm capability. Doesn't seem to be much good for that with the penis.
1:20:59🔗
Adam
Vagina itself. If you're going to make it smell like something, make it smells like something good, something we recognize.
1:21:08🔗
Adam
Fresh cut pine, pork ribs, something a man enjoys. What else? I'd use a little more durability out of it, something that held up a little better.
1:21:21🔗
Adam
Something you could hang with for an hour or so without the irritability. Then there's all the urine infections and yeast infections.
1:21:31🔗
Adam
You have to handle that vagina in a hazmat suit. You really should be having sex in one of those clean rooms, that they put...
1:21:46🔗
Adam
Yeah, but it should be handled where you stick your hands to those gloves that are connected to that box.
1:22:04🔗
Adam
Yeah, something ran off a kerosene. You know what I mean? Didn't need the high test. Just a little less delicate. More of a metal drum, not a Steinway. See what I'm saying? It gets out of tune very easily. You know, a little more durable. Like the penis. I use my penis to, you know.
1:22:29🔗
Adam
I really, I've got an erection and launch like, you know, hacky sack balls across the living room. I've, you know, smacked it on the counter. For effect. Yeah.
1:22:40🔗
Adam
Yeah, yank on it once in a while. You know, make that, do that thing where you stand in front of the mirror and they can do that whipping action where you whack it against your belly and then against your leg.
1:23:04🔗
Adam
Right. Vagina. It's like, oh man, it's a Rubik's Cube inside a Stradivarius. It really is. No one can figure that thing out. High maintenance. They're always, they gotta go to the gynecologist. Like you had sex? Yeah, you gotta go to the gynecologist. How many times did you took your penis in to be looked at? Do you know what I mean?
1:23:26🔗
Adam
Yeah. Whereas we have more of a Briggs and Stratton. And that's what I'm saying I like the vagina to be like. Thank you. Sarah?
1:23:37🔗
Caller
Well, I just recently, I don't know, I'm remembering when I was four, I was molested by my cousin and she was 13.
1:23:54🔗
Caller
I don't know. Is it still considered molesting? Because I was like, I like wanted to. And I mean, I was four.
1:24:04🔗
Caller
Well, we were like kissing and I don't know. I just I tried to block it out of my memory. And a friend kind of brought it up that something had happened to him. And anyway, I just it it just scared me. And I don't know, she has a four year old daughter right now.
1:24:34🔗
Caller
Why make it came over, though? She'd be like, oh, do you want to play? And I was like, OK, sure.
1:24:42🔗
Caller
Probably. I don't know. Probably four times. I don't know. I don't remember very well, but I kind of I'm remembering again.
1:24:51🔗
Caller
No, I'm not. Well, one of my question was, is because I have a disliking towards girls. And do you think that could have anything to do with it?
1:25:02🔗
Caller
Oh, no. I mean, all my friends are guys. I mean, I'm not a tomboy. I dress like a girl, but you know, I don't like girls at all.
1:25:10🔗
Adam
Well, Drew dresses like a girl, too, but he still enjoys them. But do you don't like them? I mean, not only physically, but you just don't like them in general.
1:25:21🔗
Adam
I mean, do you really have disdain toward them or you just more of a guy girl than a girl girl?
1:25:34🔗
Caller
Yeah, I can't trust them at all. Not at all. I mean, I go to slumber parties and I just sit there and I'm like, oh, this sucks.
1:25:45🔗
Adam
They need someone to take your place at the next teens all girl slumber party. I might slide in, make a little guest appearance. Yeah. Well, what is up with your mom?
1:26:21🔗
Caller
I don't know. I've always kind of been the bad child even though I get the best grades out of all my siblings. Right. I've always been the arguing with your parent mom.
1:26:31🔗
Eric Dane
Isn't there like sort of like a rebellious stage for girls and their mothers? It's, you know, right around 15, 16, 17.
1:26:53🔗
Drew
This is mom intruding, mom being too invested in you, your mom not being empathic towards you, mom not letting you individuate.
1:27:03🔗
Caller
It makes me stay home. Like one Friday night, she made me come home at nine o'clock.
1:27:07🔗
Drew
But the point is that because that's your relationship with your mom, now you can't trust any women. And this is actually important for you. It's a big part of yourself that you're losing to that relationship. And it would actually be important for you to find a female friend and to try to explore what it would be like to have a relationship with a female.
1:27:30🔗
Adam
Alright. Well, listen, Sarah. Yeah. Okay. So, A, don't focus too much on your cousin and the doctor you played with there. Not a great thing, but I'm sure it didn't ruin you. B, focus more on the relationship with your mom and how you have feelings for her and about her and how those translate in your relationships with women today.
1:27:52🔗
Drew
And how it translates in how you feel about yourself and what pieces of yourself you leave behind because of that.
1:28:16🔗
Adam
Yes. All right. Good advice. Hey, I think we're having some breakthroughs or what you call that today.
1:28:33🔗
Adam
Yeah, I'm ready to gamble just based on your voice, Tamara. All right. Don't even tell us your question. All right. What is your question?
1:28:44🔗
Caller
Well, I have this, like, bad habit of biting my nails. And, like, I pick at my acne all the time.
1:28:53🔗
Adam
That's exactly what I thought it was. Right. You bite your nails. What are you going to use to pick at yourself if your nails are short?
1:29:07🔗
Adam
Hold on a second, because we got to take a break. Okay. Don't pop any zits or push back any cuticles while we're on a break, all right, Tamara?
1:29:15🔗
Adam
All right, Eric Dane is our guest tonight from Gideon's Crossing. We'll take a quick break. We're going to come back and we'll do a little gambling on Tamara after this.
1:30:02🔗
Adam
Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla, and this is Dr. Drew over there. Eric Dane is our guest tonight. He plays Dr. Y. Pooper from Gideon's Crossing. Monday nights, it would be tonight, but we missed it. 10 o'clock on ABC. Alrighty. Oh yeah, use that Tivo. Gotta get that thing hooked up. Let's hop back on the phones and speak to Tamara. Tamara's 23. Tamara?
1:30:35🔗
Adam
It's changing. It's not a gambling type voice anymore. Should we be gambling on your past?
1:30:46🔗
Adam
All right, Eric, you got any... you got a dollar on you? We haven't gambled in a while on this show.
1:31:11🔗
Adam
All right. This car is worth at least a buck. So we put the keys up there. We know it's good for the buck. All right. Let's start the gambling. Let me explain the rules there. We gamble on the past of the person. As you know, we quickly get into the people's past. What kind of relationship they had with the parents, what kind of environment they grew up in, was there abuse, physical, sexual, alcoholism? What brought them to where they are today? The finger biting picker with the strange voice at 23. What did she experience in her younger days? So, we're all getting like a drug vibe. Could be some drug abuse, maybe alcoholism within the family. Picking and biting.
1:32:33🔗
Adam
Oh, six-year-old. I see. Six. By the ages of physical and sexual abuse. Hmm. Wow. This could be a combo answer. Could be some...
1:32:44🔗
Adam
I'm gonna go with... Ah, we're going for a very unique one. Mom freaked... Dad out of the picture early. Mom freaked out a little. Raised by grandparents.
1:33:01🔗
Adam
Raised by maybe grandparents, maybe sister. Raised by... off and on. By somebody else outside the family. And then the abuse ensued. Tamara?
1:33:42🔗
Adam
Oh, that car is going to be sweet. All right. So dad was an alcoholic, full, full blown alcoholic.
1:33:54🔗
Caller
Yeah. Up until the time I was maybe like, I don't know, like. Eight. Like eight or something. I don't remember very well.
1:34:14🔗
Caller
No, actually, dad wasn't violent. Dad wasn't violent, but by one of my brothers, very, very violent.
1:34:39🔗
Caller
Um, not in the family, but I remember being, like, felt that by a couple of cousins.
1:34:48🔗
Caller
Um, I don't know, like young. It wasn't it wasn't like it happened daily or anything.
1:34:56🔗
Caller
By the time I remember, religious holidays, things like that. When I was maybe like four.
1:35:06🔗
Adam
All right. It's bad jazz. So you got you got your dad booze in. You got your older brother's beaten and you got your cousins goosing. And then the maids of Milken and the hens of land, right? But this sounds like a real dynamite group of folks, your family.
1:35:22🔗
Adam
I really I'd really like to just get like an incinerary type bomb and take them all out. From a societal standpoint. I give you a heads up so you could get out of the house.
1:35:36🔗
Caller
All right. And also, Adam, I was raised by my sister because mom was always working, you know.
1:35:45🔗
Adam
No, hold on now. Hold on now. I'm trying to get a buck back here. Your sister would come over?
1:35:59🔗
Caller
Dad was out drinking sometimes. Pretty much absent. And mom was working all the time. And so my older sister kind of watched us.
1:36:11🔗
Eric Dane
Didn't I say both of those? Didn't I say at first and you said my answer was too vague? I said parents weren't around a lot.
1:36:26🔗
Eric Dane
Like I said, I was just throwing it out there because we're going to get to that though.
1:36:42🔗
Adam
All right. Well, I'm out of the running. Although I had a little, I should get 50 cents back. All right. So everything's a mess. And now you're picking and popping.
1:37:15🔗
Adam
You put your bet, it starts off on 16 black and you move it to 22 red and it lands on 16 black. What do you think you get, half? How dare you? All right.
1:37:29🔗
Drew
No speed, no cocaine, nothing like that. All right, any other hair pulling or any other compulsive activities?
1:37:45🔗
Drew
Yeah, sure, with that kind of history, of course. Well, these finger biting, picking, these are all sort of compulsive activities. They're ways people to deal with anxiety, deal with mood disturbances. Do you ever do any cutting?
1:38:00🔗
Adam
And how about some, I mean, this sounds like the kind of, this sounds like she needs a pill for this.
1:38:06🔗
Drew
Well, there are pills for this. There are pills that are for obsessive-compulsive kinds of traits. And really, more importantly, why not get the acne treated? Because that's the thing that's going to be sort of potentially disfiguring and scarring.
1:38:15🔗
Caller
Right. And then that's another issue where, you know, after I do it the next day, you know, my face is irritated.
1:38:22🔗
Drew
Yeah. Why not get that properly dealt with? There's a bunch of different treatments. Acne should be completely curable, or at least manageable this day and age. Whether it's antibiotics or benzoyl peroxide, all the way up to Accutane, you should be treated. And then that issue will be taken care of. If you still have the finger-picking or hair-pulling, then there are medications for the obsessive-compulsive traits.
1:38:40🔗
Adam
All right. So go to a dermatologist, see about the Accutane and whatever, and clear up your skin, and then you won't have anything to pick at.
1:38:47🔗
Drew
And you sound remarkably, even though we were able to pick up on something happened by around the age of six, you sound remarkably resilient.
1:39:02🔗
Drew
And I'm sorry I'm out of time. Be very careful with the guys you choose. You're gonna pick guys just like dad. Do not trust attraction. When you're attracted to guys.
1:39:12🔗
Drew
Yeah, when you're attracted, don't forget it. Listen to that little voice that goes, Oh, no, here I go again. Don't do it.
1:39:24🔗
Adam
Keep his car and his dollar for having a sort of lightning flash of the right answer before he took it away. But still a very game effort. It was a game effort. And I really still think that I'm owed 35 cents for the raise by someone other than the parents, but it was not an outside family member. James.
1:39:52🔗
Caller
Oh, I got a question for Dr. Drew. I ejaculate a lot. I mean, it's a large quantity that comes out. And-
1:40:03🔗
Caller
I've spoken to a couple of doctors about this. I'm divorced. I have a kid. When my wife was going through her pregnancy, I even asked her OBGYN about this.
1:40:16🔗
Caller
Well, the texture of my semen, it seems to be almost solid, almost like a epoxy resin, almost.
1:40:51🔗
Caller
No, why is it the way it is? The last doctor I spoke to said that it was prostate mucus.
1:41:15🔗
Adam
Basically, that was, hey, nut job. I'm knee-deep in your old lady snatch and now you're coming at me with the petrified goo question. I'm about to break for lunch here. How about cut me some slack? I mean, basically, that's what that answer was, right? Hey, James.
1:41:37🔗
Adam
Where did you, you know, I admire your candor and freedom. Okay. The idea that you've cornered four doctors on your sperm is unthinkable to me. Although, I do admire it in a sort of loathsome fashion.
1:41:55🔗
Adam
I know, but the reason, yeah, but... The reason, all right, the reason you weren't getting an answer is because there wasn't an answer.
1:42:10🔗
Adam
Yeah. And Dr. Drew is doctor number five who is not giving you an answer for the viscous nature of your sperm. Please don't make it a six doctor who has to endure this pain.
1:42:24🔗
Caller
I've spoken to this with friends, candidly also, and nobody ever has had this problem that I've ever talked to. It's not a problem.
1:42:35🔗
Adam
All right. And but let's get back to the volume part. A lot comes out too, right? Yeah.
1:42:54🔗
Adam
I understand. But the good news is it rolls right off her belly, right? Yeah. And then you just bounce it off the wall right into the hamper. Flubber. The doink.
1:43:05🔗
Adam
And then you take it the next morning, you roll it on the funny pages. It picks up the tag wood.
1:43:12🔗
Adam
All right, James. That's good. You pull it out. And if there's still a little left in there, you just yank on it and the rest comes out. Right?
1:43:20🔗
Adam
All right. You're fine. Why don't you drink more acidic fluids or cranberry and pineapple juice?
1:43:36🔗
Adam
I just got it. I got it. James, did you hang up? No, he hung up. I want to know where he got his freedom. That's not where he got his license.
1:43:44🔗
Adam
It's it's sort of it's grand. It's pompous. It is. Why, Drew? Maybe he's healthy. No, but you have to admit there is such a thing.
1:44:07🔗
Adam
I mean, what I mean is, is all of us, if we had a question of this nature, would think about it for a few minutes and then probably bite our lip and hit for the vending machine, right?
1:44:20🔗
Adam
Yeah, I'm not going to waste a guy's time with this. And furthermore, it's a little personal to be getting into it. I'm going to feel uncomfortable. They're going to feel uncomfortable. I know they're doctors. I know it's not a real medical condition. It's been going on since I was 13. I'm not going to waste anyone's time with it. I'd be, I wouldn't bring it up. Five doctors. You are now doctor number five.
1:44:42🔗
Adam
Okay. All right. All right. So it's not the kind of guy we'd want to hang out with. When we come back this week to Anna, Anna 17. Dad slept with brother's wife. Brother ran off. She said wants to blame, wants to blame for it.
1:44:59🔗
Adam
No blame for it. Wrong show. All right. We will take a break. We'll be back with Anna after this.
1:45:40🔗
Adam
Yay! Loveline! Adam Corolla over here, Dr. Drew. Over there, Eric Dane is our guest tonight from Gideon's Crossing. Ten o'clock, ABC, Monday Nights. All right, let's get to Anna now. Anna, Anna's got quite a situation going on over there. Anna?
1:46:27🔗
Adam
That's what I thought. And your brother was twenty when it happened. How long ago was this?
1:46:42🔗
Caller
My brother and his wife ran off. He went to Hawaii because he was stationed there in the Navy.
1:46:56🔗
Caller
No. My dad slept with my brother's wife and my brother took his wife and they just haven't had any contact with us.
1:47:04🔗
Adam
They ran off. Your brother and wife. Well, listen. Don't get smug. When you say your dad slept with your brother's wife and they ran off together, I would assume it was your dad that ran, did the running because he was the last guy you mentioned.
1:47:31🔗
Caller
Very understandable. I just want to want to know what I can do to make Harlan see that it wasn't my mom, my sisters and my fault, my fault.
1:48:08🔗
Adam
You're right. Well, I mean, she... Do you think that she doesn't like you or do you think she's embarrassed, humiliated and doesn't want to address this whole thing?
1:48:17🔗
Caller
I think she's afraid because she screamed rape and my dad took a lie detector test and my brother doesn't know the results of that test. He never did.
1:48:45🔗
Adam
They're still together and she... Okay. Well, so here's the deal. Anna, this happens a lot. Sorry to say. It does. Okay. Yeah. Here's what's going on. You ready? I give you the family in a nutshell. This broad over here is a piece of work. She's chaotic. She slept with your dad. She cried, raped and moved off. Now, your brother who comes from the loins of your dad.
1:49:18🔗
What's my dad doing in Israel?
1:49:46🔗
Adam
You understand? Like if I'm saying, Dr. Drew is good, but Jesus is even better. He works in mysterious ways.
1:49:52🔗
Adam
I'm talking about Jesus at that point, not Dr. Drew. You understand? Whoever we talked about last.
1:50:02🔗
Adam
Okay. So anyway, your brother got hooked up with a psycho. Okay? This chick's a little baddie. And her... Yes. She's good and baddie.
1:50:16🔗
Adam
And she is scared that if she re-contacts the family, the truth is going to come out about the lie detector and about the rape allegation. And she's staying as far away from the family and keeping your brother as far away from the family as possible. Now, your brother is just stupid enough to fall in love with someone like this and weak enough to fall under a spell and not stand up for himself. And I'm sorry that had to happen. Now, here's the catch 22. You don't need to have a relationship with somebody who's this pathetic in this week and this far in denial. I know that hurts, but you're asking to have a relationship with a weak and bad person.
1:51:02🔗
Adam
And he may. And he may. But now, it's not the time. And so, what you have to do, Anna, is get on with your life. And you two will patch it up. But it won't be on your timetable, and it may not be for a little while. Meanwhile, you have to go out, go to school, go off to college, have a successful life, don't marry any screwballs, set a good example, and eventually, he'll come back in to your life wanting to borrow money. All right? Don't push. If he doesn't want it, he doesn't want it. It's going to hurt you.
1:52:05🔗
Caller
I'm going to be flying through there. And I was asking his wife if we could maybe hook up.
1:52:28🔗
Adam
You don't know the naval base. You can't find out the naval base. How many naval bases are in Arizona, by the way? Find the city. Hey, Anna. Listen. Okay. I'm starting to lose my patience with you. You're very enterprising. You don't want to do anything or take any responsibility. You can't find out where he is. He's at a naval base. You know his name. You don't know where it is. How many are there?
1:53:12🔗
Drew
But you just said you were going, you were flying into that city. You said you were flying into that city in Arizona.
1:53:40🔗
Adam
All right, Anna? Hey, listen, honey, you're hurt, you're mad, you're whatever. I understand that. I don't know what's going on in your life. I'm sure it's not good. Do not put all your chips in this whole riddled basket called your brother. Just stay in a hotel. He's an idiot, okay? And I know things aren't going for you, good for you at home, and you're relying on him, like he's some sort of fairy godfather. He ain't going to be around. You got to work on your own ass at home, all right?
1:54:10🔗
Adam
Yeah, I'm sure. They sound great. All right, we'll take a break. I was told not to be so mean, but I can't stand everyone. We'll be back. Hey, there you go. All right, another fabulous Loveline. I'm frustrated.
1:54:50🔗
Drew
It's just because of that one caller. One seven-year-old puts you off. That's it, you're done. Good thing this show's over.
1:54:58🔗
Adam
All right, everybody. Gideon's Crossing, Monday nights, 10 o'clock, ABC. Let's, this is a good show.
1:55:25🔗
Adam
.fried pieces of ass that he keeps cranking out, she could watch him real TV. It's all that crap she watches. All right. Thanks, Eric. We do appreciate it.
1:55:41🔗
Caller
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