Episode 1000754886895

1:01 Voiceover Listener discretion is advised. Stryker and Dr. Drew Loveline, Coast to Coast.

1:12 Adam Not that rad bastard again. I'm sorry, I'm already apologizing. This is Stryker, I'm filling in for Adam Corolla here on Loveline.

1:19 Stryker We gotta work on your self-esteem. Really?

1:21 Adam I'm trying to build it up.

1:23 Stryker Good. I don't have to apologize for anything. It's a huge pleasure, you're giving me relief from that monstrous Adam Corolla.

1:30 Adam But he is funny, and when I do get to come in here and do this for him, I get so excited just driving here. It is super fun to do this thing.

1:38 Stryker It is a good show, isn't it?

1:39 Adam Yeah, my week has just been crazy, but mad am I excited right now, I feel like I'm on speed almost.

1:43 Stryker Tell them about your week.

1:44 Adam My week?

1:44 Stryker Yeah.

1:45 Adam Flew out to New York Friday night, stayed up almost the whole night having a good time. Saturday, slept in at like 3 o'clock New York time, first time ever to the East Coast, cruised around out there. Then on Tuesday was a guest on a TRL MTV show.

2:01 Stryker You hosted it?

2:02 Adam Well, I was kind of a co-host. There was like this one dude, but I was on the whole time with him. I think his name is Caboose, Caduceus. Carson was somewhere. Yeah, I think he was golfing or something or looking for a girl. And then the Who Knows the Band thing, which last time I was on here, Filling for Adam was going to start, going to be on TV like a week after I was on with you.

2:22 Stryker That had not aired yet?

2:23 Adam I don't think it, no. It was going to air like the following Monday or something.

2:27 Stryker How interesting.

2:27 Adam And now it's the second season. It just started this past Monday.

2:30 Stryker So they know you as the host of that.

2:32 Adam Who's that? Like people that aren't in Los Angeles.

2:34 Stryker Yes.

2:35 Adam As the host of the Who Knows the Band.

2:36 Stryker They didn't know you as Stryker.

2:37 Adam Yeah, I'm K-Rock. Right, exactly. So the people in LA know exactly what I'm all about, like the System of Down and the Incubus. But if you live in Iowa or Chicago or Antioch, California, well, that's what it says. Yeah, I don't know where that is, but we'll find out. So it's been crazy since I've been here, but super fun.

2:57 I'm excited.

2:58 Stryker That's good.

2:58 Yeah.

2:59 Stryker You deserve it.

2:59 Adam Thanks. Where's Ace at tonight?

3:02 Stryker He went to the Super Bowl. Yeah, I know. It's just his job, doesn't it?

3:06 Adam He's going to the Super Bowl. I'm hosting a Super Bowl party with Jimmy World here in Los Angeles on Sunday.

3:11 Stryker But I think I'd rather be in New Orleans with the Beards and the Well, then, you know, Adam and Jimmy are life partners. And they, you know, Jimmy gets to do all that Fox Sports stuff. And he'll be there probably with all the players. And they're doing the Man Show stuff.

3:24 Cool.

3:25 Stryker Are you still aboard the Five Physicians since last time I was here?

3:28 Yeah.

3:28 Stryker No, nothing's changed.

3:28 Adam Are you still an addiction medicine specialist?

3:30 Stryker Yeah, I still do that.

3:30 Adam Okay.

3:31 Phew, thank God.

3:32 Adam I've heard some rumors. So it's 1-800-LOVE-191, Stryker, Dr. Drew. And where are we going? Let's go to Aaron. Aaron, what's up?

3:42 Caller I have a boyfriend who's a little bit older than me.

3:45 And he has a problem with our age difference.

3:48 Stryker How old is he?

3:48 Caller He is 34.

3:50 Adam Yes.

3:50 Stryker 34.

3:51 Yeah.

3:51 Adam How long have you been dating this guy?

3:53 About five months.

3:55 Adam Where did you meet him?

3:57 Through my uncle. He works on cars and he was working on my uncle's car.

4:03 Stryker Oh boy.

4:03 Adam Of course he was.

4:04 Stryker So he won't let go of the fact that he's so much older than you. Is that what you're saying? So he has some shred of decency is what you're saying.

4:11 Caller I get that.

4:13 Stryker Some remnant of humanity remains in this guy but it doesn't keep him from having sex with her. That's right. Of course it's still going on. So what is it you want to do about this?

4:20 Well, I kind of want him to get over it.

4:23 Stryker I don't think he's going to. He's going to keep getting older. He's going to keep bugging him more.

4:27 Adam What's in it for you in the long run, Erin? Grow a little bit older, get a couple of Pintos, build cars on the lawn, have parts hanging all over the house. He'll be 50, you'll be like 28 with six kids and then you're done.

4:38 No, it's not going to be like that.

4:40 Stryker Think about that. He will be pushing 50 when you're 28.

4:44 Yeah.

4:44 Stryker Think about that. How about when you're like maybe my age and he'll be like 70, 65.

4:51 Adam How old are you?

4:52 Stryker I'm 43, so he'll be 58 then, so almost 60. That's a hell of an age difference. It's sort of being in two different places in one's life. It's going to be tough to maintain a relationship that way. You're both adults. I guess you're 19. It's not like you were 17 when you were 34. We'd be a lot more freaked out if that were the case.

5:10 Adam But if you're just fooling around having fun, I think you're all good, but if you wanted to go further, I don't know about that.

5:16 Yeah.

5:17 Stryker It just doesn't... God bless you, it does, but I'm thankful that he has some shred of decency about him. It concerns him, but this kind of problem does not go away.

5:28 Adam Erin, is this the oldest guy you've ever dated?

5:29 Yeah.

5:30 Okay.

5:31 Stryker Are you in trouble meeting guys?

5:32 No.

5:33 Adam No?

5:34 Actually, it's opposite right now.

5:37 Stryker What is it about this one?

5:40 You know...

5:41 Adam He's greasy.

5:43 No, he's really sweet to me.

5:46 Stryker Well, sure, you're afraid if he makes you angry, you're going to call the police.

5:50 Adam Huh?

5:50 Stryker Why would he?

5:51 Adam No, 19.

5:51 Stryker Yeah, exactly.

5:53 Adam She likes his monkey wrench and they play around and they have fun. Well, have fun with the guy.

5:57 Stryker Well, you're both adults, I mean, effectively, so.

6:00 Adam Effectively?

6:01 What did you say?

6:01 Stryker Well, she's essentially an adult.

6:03 Yeah, okay.

6:04 Adam Chaz, where the hell is Antioch or Antioch?

6:07 Uh, it's like an hour away from San Francisco.

6:12 Stryker All right. What's up?

6:13 Adam You're 13. What's going on?

6:15 Caller Yeah, um, sorry, I'm a little nervous, but, uh...

6:18 Stryker Doing well. You're doing fine.

6:20 Hey, Doc. Hey, Drew. Uh, hey, Stryker.

6:22 Stryker What's that, Chaz?

6:23 Um, I wanted to know what the bases were.

6:27 Stryker The bases, like, if you were running around the baseball diamond, like, sec... No.

6:31 Like, uh, uh, relationships or...

6:35 Stryker Like, sexually, baseball diamond.

6:38 Adam And you're 13.

6:39 Caller Yeah.

6:39 Adam Well, our bases, like...

6:41 Stryker I have to ask kids this, because it changes all the time. But you tell me your understanding of it.

6:45 Adam Of the bases?

6:46 Stryker Yeah, go ahead.

6:47 Adam Well, I mean, for 13, I would say...

6:49 Stryker It actually doesn't... It's the same...

6:51 Adam Yeah, you're probably right. 13 is definitely making out.

6:55 Stryker Is number one.

6:55 Adam Base watch. No hands anywhere except maybe on the back of the other person's head. That is first base. Second base is touching bosom under the shirt. The shirt does not have to be removed, but the hand is on the breast.

7:08 Stryker Bouncy, bouncy.

7:09 Adam That's what I'm talking about. Third base is a hand in the pants. This is now...

7:15 Stryker You're now circa 1985.

7:18 Adam No, no, why?

7:19 Stryker Yes, because it's changed since then.

7:21 Adam Well, I'm saying it from a guy. What a guy is getting...

7:24 Stryker I'm just telling you what they tell me now, because I have to go back and ask young people...

7:27 Adam What is third base for you?

7:28 Stryker Not for me, but what they tell me. Second base is touching anywhere under the clothing, including especially below the belt. Third base is now oral sex, and then the home run is still home run. The bases have been revised.

7:43 Adam Chaz, have you been to any of those bases?

7:45 Stryker By the way, when I was Chaz's age, oral sex was something that happened...

7:51 Adam Nightly in your household?

7:52 Stryker No, it was something that happened only to movie stars. It wasn't something that ever happened in a normal relationship.

8:00 Well, I don't know where you were living.

8:04 Adam Chaz, you said you've been to first base?

8:06 Caller Yeah.

8:07 Adam Was there any tongue involved?

8:08 Caller Yeah.

8:09 Adam What base are you trying to get to?

8:11 Caller At least second.

8:12 Adam At least second, at least. You've got to be respectable. Of course, yeah. Third base is going to be fun for you. Do you have a girlfriend?

8:20 Stryker Uh-huh, not right now.

8:21 Stryker How about you? Take your time.

8:23 Adam At 13, 13. All right, does that answer your question?

8:26 Caller Yeah, and when is Cornyn?

8:29 Stryker That is a great question. Anne?

8:32 Adam I would say the band, Korns.

8:33 Stryker Where's Anne?

8:33 Adam Well, their new album comes out probably in like two or three months, so probably around that time.

8:38 Stryker I keep hearing this around the time of their album release, but I heard February was the album release.

8:41 Adam Well, first it was supposed to come out at the end of 2001.

8:44 Stryker Yes, that's what I heard.

8:45 Adam And they were in Phoenix doing lyrics and that kind of stuff, and I think they ended up at the strip clubs a lot.

8:49 Stryker Okay.

8:49 Adam And then they came back here, and then they're hanging out. You got it, Chaz? Yeah. And say hi to Jonathan Davis when you see him.

8:54 All right.

8:55 Adam Okay, bye-bye. All right. Let's go to George, 21, on Loveline. What's up?

9:00 Caller Hey, what's going on, man?

9:01 Caller Nothing.

9:03 Drew Yeah, I was just calling in regards to soma.

9:06 I believe this question would be for Dr. Drew.

9:08 Caller Right.

9:09 Drew Yeah, every once in a while, me and my friends will take a few and drink a beer and smoke a little bit of weed with them. And I was wondering if we were going to damage ourselves.

9:20 Stryker Do you want to throw any other chemicals in there while you're at it, just to come up with a new one?

9:26 Drew Oh, hold on.

9:26 Stryker Soma is a muscle relaxant. It's a sedative. It's converted by your body into meprobamate, which is a medicine that used to be called milltown.

9:38 Drew Okay.

9:38 Stryker And that stuff's awfully addictive and very sedating.

9:43 Adam What about when you take it with alcohol?

9:45 Stryker It's nothing specific about it being with alcohol or weed, other than just more sedating.

9:49 Drew Yeah. I mean, it's like I can't take it and get up and go to work the next day.

9:54 Stryker Yeah, no kidding.

9:55 Drew Yeah. So, I mean, it's like I'm just saying in the long run, is this going to affect us anyway?

10:00 Stryker No, only if, unless you take accidentally too much when you're screwing around with all this albumin.

10:05 You're not going to wake up.

10:06 Stryker Yeah, you're going to hurt yourself. Or you're going to get addicted, which I think is really the road you're going down. You're addicted to something here and you're just trying to mix it up. Have you been to smoke weed for a long time?

10:16 Drew For a while.

10:19 Stryker That's usually what happens. The weed stops working and you start smoking more and adding stuff into it. That's how you get into trouble.

10:25 Yeah, it's not like I'm taking it all the time.

10:28 Drew I understand.

10:29 Adam George?

10:30 Drew Yeah, what's going on?

10:31 Adam I want to know what's so great about taking the soma and drinking and hanging out with your friends. Isn't it just too mellow for just like a bunch of guys hanging around an apartment? It's the problem.

10:41 Stryker Maybe they wouldn't be taking any of this stuff.

10:43 Drew I mean, it was just fun. I mean, a few times. It's not like I want to take it all the time or anything.

10:48 Stryker No, weed is the all the time drug.

10:50 Yeah, exactly.

10:52 Drew But I mean, it's like, I mean, I don't think, I mean, I want to be taking this for a while.

10:58 Stryker Stryker, when he talks to you, George, I think Stryker here is like Charlie Brown's teacher. Stryker is so squeaky clean, he won't eat peanut butter.

11:07 Drew Oh, okay.

11:08 Stryker I love the squeaky clean.

11:08 Adam I do not eat peanut butter or watermelon coffee.

11:11 Stryker This is not a Stryker thing.

11:12 Adam Yeah. Because I like to be crazy and run around.

11:14 I know, I know that.

11:15 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

11:17 Adam All right, George.

11:17 Drew Yeah.

11:18 Be good, man.

11:18 Drew All right, you too, man.

11:19 Adam Thanks, man.

11:20 All right, take it easy, guys.

11:21 Stryker If Corolla hears that, he starts getting ideas.

11:23 Drew Really?

11:24 Adam I can't take anything that makes me mellow. I'd be just ridiculous.

11:27 I'd like to be...

11:29 Stryker Can you eat peanut butter yet?

11:30 Adam No.

11:30 Okay.

11:30 Adam I refuse to eat peanut butter or nuts for that matter.

11:33 You pansy!

11:33 Adam That's right. It's layoff mine.

11:35 Tim?

11:36 Drew I...

11:36 26.

11:37 Caller What's going on?

11:37 Adam You're on Loveline.

11:38 Caller I got a quick question for you.

11:40 Drew I got out of a four-year relationship and took about a year off of dating, just, I don't know, hang out and be with friends and stuff.

11:48 Stryker A year off of eating?

11:50 Drew No, dating.

11:50 Stryker Oh, dating.

11:51 Caller Yeah, I see.

11:51 And I kind of met a girl that has a three-year-old kid.

11:55 Caller She's 22, and I was just wondering...

11:59 Drew Never dated anybody with a child before, so I was just kind of curious.

12:01 Stryker Well, you're getting to an age where I think you're going to encounter that a little more.

12:04 Drew Yeah.

12:05 Stryker And what's your question about it?

12:06 Drew Is there any do's and don'ts?

12:08 Stryker Yeah, there is a do and don't, actually. Do not get involved with that child on a regular basis unless you plan to stay in that child's life until he's about 11, at least.

12:18 Adam For the child's sake or his?

12:19 Stryker For the child's sake. Listen, all of us, we should be doing everything for children's sake. Trust me, this is all we got. We are doing a lousy job of tilling the soil here.

12:28 Drew I guess the father was really bad to the kid and that's why she left him.

12:36 Stryker He needs male role models but he needs stable role models that are going to be with him and not abandon him.

12:41 Adam Tim, are you ready to jump back in the game and start dating someone long term already?

12:46 Yeah, I think so.

12:48 Adam Well if you like the girl, follow Drew's advice but if not, man, there's a lot of women out in Minneapolis. I've been there and they're all tubby. Yeah, they're all tubby aren't you? Yeah, that's true. That's true.

12:59 Stryker All right, man? Okay.

13:00 Adam Okay, there. All right, it's 1-800-LOVE-191 if you want to get in here. Drew, let's go to number five. This is all about you. Wayne, you're 30 something. What's going on?

13:09 Hey, I just wanted to call. I'm a long time listener to Loveline. I just wanted to call and say, God bless Dr. Drew and all the work you do. I've got a little over two years of sobriety under my belt now. Great, Wayne.

13:21 Stryker Fabulous.

13:22 You know, I work a tight program. When the day finally came, my life was totally unmanageable. When the day finally came, I knew what I had to do. Somehow over the years, everything you were saying, it just kind of sunk in. I knew I had to deal with it.

13:38 Caller I knew I had to go to AA.

13:39 I knew I had to get into 12 Steps and work a program.

13:43 Caller It works. Yeah.

13:45 And every night I listen to you and I hear these kids call in and I'm like, you know, it's like, that's it until you get it. And I listen to you talk about these kids taking different drugs and I've been all through it. And you talk about how it's going to affect their affect and their moods and everything. You know, they don't realize when you get into recovery, there's a reason why we keep going to these meetings. And so it's because we've damaged our psyche, our mind. We have to go to meetings. We have to deal with these issues.

14:15 Stryker And by the way, it feels kind of good after a while, doesn't it?

14:18 Yeah, it does. It changed my life. I go to school. I go to work. I take care of my kids. You know, I'm planning a future. I'm getting a bachelor's degree.

14:26 Stryker Because of you, I will come back again tomorrow night.

14:28 Thank God.

14:29 Stryker You're Dr. Drew.

14:30 I just want to say thanks again.

14:32 Alright, Wayne, you're the man.

14:33 Caller Thank you.

14:34 Stryker Thanks, Wayne. I appreciate it.

14:35 Caller Bye.

14:35 Adam Drew, you're going to come in tomorrow. It's Friday. Have fun.

14:37 Stryker I'll come back. I'll even come in tomorrow.

14:38 Adam Okay, good. We'll see you here. Does that make you feel good?

14:41 Stryker It does make me feel good because Corolla wouldn't let a call like that even come through.

14:44 Adam We've got to give him props every now and then.

14:46 Stryker He'd better abuse the guy or find someone.

14:47 Adam He would bring up Mars and Venus right away.

14:50 Stryker Is that show still on? Thank you, Wayne.

14:51 Caller Unacceptable.

14:53 Adam Thank you, Rockolla.

14:54 Unacceptable.

14:55 Adam Ah, Rick.

14:57 Hello?

14:57 Adam What's up, man? You're 19 on Loveline.

14:59 Caller Hey, pleasure to be on. I've got a question for you guys. Yup. Okay, I have a lot of sex with my girlfriend. I mean, it's pretty good. The only thing is, for some reason, when she's on top of me, I can't stay hard.

15:13 Adam Is she doing the up and down motion or is she doing the like very close to the body only?

15:19 Caller Any sort of time when I'm on my back.

15:21 Stryker What do you feel when she's up there? What does that make you feel?

15:24 Caller I really don't feel a whole lot of anything.

15:26 Stryker No, no, I don't mean...

15:27 Caller Oh.

15:27 Stryker I mean, psychically. What's the experience like for you?

15:33 Caller I don't know. I mean, she's really nice to look at, but it's not like I've got dominant issues, I don't think.

15:39 Stryker Well, some guys are really into that, and some guys are really not into that.

15:44 Adam I'm not super into that.

15:45 Stryker Yeah, and it's a little bit of a... Some guys, it has a meaning or a turn or something that guys just aren't comfortable with. And you're just maybe one of those guys. Rick. Yeah.

15:54 Adam Drew, you can back me up. You've been doing this show long I've been alive, but I think girls can achieve orgasm better when they're on top.

16:01 Stryker Some, some.

16:02 Adam Some. And the only advantageous thing for me being on bottom is I know that they are liking it when they're up there. So that's what gets me going.

16:10 Stryker You can serve your time.

16:11 Caller That's why she's kind of concerned about it, because she likes the on top thing.

16:15 Adam Does she have an orgasm when you guys have sex?

16:18 Caller Yeah.

16:18 Adam Only on top though?

16:19 Caller No. Oh, okay. I mean, we don't really have sex with her on top, because it doesn't work.

16:23 Stryker Right, right. Rick.

16:27 Caller Yeah.

16:27 Stryker You kind of ease into it. It's something to you that is not comfortable. It sort of means something. Maybe you can get in touch with whatever that is. Maybe we can help if you have that kind of feeling about it.

16:38 Adam I'm able to keep the flagpole straight up.

16:40 Stryker What does it mean, something?

16:42 Adam I just put it more that I'm helping her out than me enjoying it.

16:46 Stryker But what is it not appealing about it?

16:49 Adam It's not that it's not appealing. It's just the... Hold on one sec, Rick. Hi, Tim.

16:53 Stryker For Stryker, he's with you, Rick. He's one with you.

16:55 Adam Yeah. The sensation isn't as spectacular.

16:58 Stryker So it's a sensation.

16:59 Adam Exactly.

17:00 Stryker And Rick, for you, what is it? The same thing?

17:02 Caller Yeah.

17:03 Caller Yeah.

17:03 Caller I mean, yeah. Same thing.

17:06 Caller Got to agree.

17:06 Adam All right. Well, Rick, you and I will not start dating anytime soon. All right.

17:10 Stryker Don't worry about it. This is not a big deal.

17:13 Caller Okay.

17:13 Stryker This is like...

17:14 Caller Not at all.

17:14 Stryker You know, you like Coke and she likes Pepsi. This should be about that level of importance.

17:18 Adam Just don't want to play tricks on your mind, Rick, because then it will never be straight up when she's on top. I love cricket penises.

17:27 Stryker It's an old Stryker.

17:28 Adam You're gay. Thank you, Rick. Bye. Bye. All right. 1-800-LOVE-191 is the number. Let's go to... Hey, Brian. You're 16 on Loveline.

17:38 Caller Oh, hey.

17:40 I'm kind of depressed and miss home.

17:43 Stryker Really? You sound depressed, Brian. I'm sorry.

17:45 Yeah. Well, I've been wondering how I can move out of my house.

17:50 Stryker You mean your family of origins house? You're 16, right?

17:53 Caller Yeah.

17:54 Adam For what reason?

17:55 Well, my mom makes me miserable.

17:58 Adam Why?

17:58 Stryker What does she do?

18:00 Caller I'm always being yelled at.

18:03 Stryker Is she using drugs or alcohol?

18:06 No. She was raped like five or six years ago. She's taking drugs for that.

18:13 Stryker What drugs?

18:15 Caller I'm not sure, but she also has like back problems and stuff, and so she's taking pain medicine.

18:21 Stryker All right. So she's an addict. That's addiction. You need to get yourself to Allateen. Get some support for this. You'll meet other people who had to deal with parents like this. Go to Allateen. Don't run away from home. That tends not to solve anything. In fact, that makes things worse. Get support. Get help. You find a way to deal with this. Spend as much time away from her as possible, but in a kind of a supportive environment, not just out, you know, hanging out. Do something good for yourself. Go to Allateen, please.

18:51 Okay.

18:51 Adam All right. Brian, are you depressed because she's yelling at you or you think you'd be depressed even if she was happy as a clam?

18:57 I think I'm feeling either way.

18:59 Stryker Well, it's hard. This is his mom. If you really feel, Brian, if you have any thoughts of hurting yourself or if you can't function because of your mood problem, that is treatable. And it's a dangerous condition, depression. So please, please get help with that.

19:13 Adam And what's the Allateen?

19:14 Caller Allaton?

19:14 Stryker Allateen. Allateen.

19:15 Caller I hear you mention it every night.

19:16 Caller Hello?

19:17 Adam John, you're 40 on Loveline.

19:19 Caller Hi. Thanks for taking my call. What's up? Can you hear me? Yep. Okay, great. I'm 40 years old. I just turned 40. And my problem is I'm having trouble getting erections and maintaining them.

19:35 Stryker And this is a new problem?

19:37 Caller You know, the first time I ever had this problem when I was 38, it happened once then, and then it didn't happen again until about six months ago.

19:46 Stryker Same partner?

19:47 Caller No.

19:48 Adam Are you hetero, John?

19:49 Caller I'm gay. Yeah. And the first time I ever had it was two years ago, and I never had any problems before then. I would always be hard from start to finish. There was never any problem.

20:01 Stryker Are you on medication?

20:03 Caller No, I'm not on any medications. I don't smoke and I don't do drugs, and I drink just a little bit, not too much. And my doctor said to me, well...

20:12 Stryker You're gay.

20:13 Caller What?

20:14 Adam Drew, please, please.

20:15 Stryker He said what, John? Your doctor?

20:16 Caller No, my doctor said, well, you know, you're getting older so your body changes.

20:21 Stryker That's true. Forties is one of those things that can kind of start happening. Is it happening all the time?

20:25 Caller Yeah, you know, for the past couple of months, I started noticing it this past summer when I did fool around. I was just having trouble staying hard enough.

20:37 Adam Do you have the same partner right now, John, as you did a couple months ago or whatever?

20:41 Caller No, no.

20:42 Adam So you're just kind of doing your thing, hmm?

20:44 Caller I'm kind of single.

20:44 Stryker Do you have any medical problems?

20:46 Caller No, I went for a physical recently and the doctor did all the tests, you know, diabetes and blood pressure, and that was fine. And he even did a testosterone test because he thought it might be a problem.

20:56 Stryker Yeah, that's good.

20:56 Caller And he said that came back normal also. So, yeah, it was perfectly fine sexually two years ago, and I guess I've been going downhill since. I was wondering what you thought the problem might be.

21:09 Stryker Well, the majority of problems like this are in fact physical, but you've gone through the necessary workups to see if there's something going on, so you then have to sort of throw it into the psychological realm. Have you been depressed?

21:22 Caller I think I'm pretty well adjusted. I mean, I have a stressful job, and I wish I was in a relationship, but...

21:28 Stryker Yeah, my sort of gut on this is, geez, you're 40. I would think at that age you really want to be in a stable relationship. And things like this can be worked out usually with somebody who really cares about you in a monogamous relationship. I mean, that's the recommendation for stuff like this.

21:43 Caller I'm also wondering about if it might be prostate related. I notice as I get older, I have to wake up like maybe 6 o'clock in the morning to pee.

21:52 Stryker It sure can, and it doesn't help the process. That's for sure. There's a medicine called Hytren or Cardura that will help you evacuate your bladder, and sometimes that sort of decreases the inflammation of that area that occurs around your age if indeed you're having prostate problems.

22:06 Caller I know last year there were a couple of times when I got, I don't know what the doctor called it, it was maybe Prostatitis. Prostatitis gave me Levoquin.

22:14 Stryker I do believe that using something that improves the bladder outlet flow like Hytren is important if you're having recurrent problems like that, and definitely that can impact on your erectile function. You might want to see a urologist and talk more thoroughly about this, and then get a partner.

22:29 Adam How about simply just taking Viagra?

22:31 Stryker Well, yeah, I always hate… I'm not a medication guy. You know what I mean? I guess the medicines are great, important, and useful sometimes, but just throwing a medication on top of something that should be really curable…

22:43 Adam Have you tried that before?

22:44 Stryker Have I tried Viagra?

22:45 Adam That's right.

22:46 Stryker No, it scares me. No.

22:48 Adam God, I saw Hefner on TV today. I was watching Who's Line It, and anyway, he had the three blondes around him, and man, the guy lives on that stuff, so it's got to be doing something right. No, I mean, you've read it, and I read the magazines, and I look at the pictures. All right, we have to take a break. This is Loveline, Dr. Drew, and I'm Stryker filling in for Adam Corolla. When we get back, we're going to talk to a guy. He's a sex maniac. He can't get enough. That makes three of us. We'll be back after this on Loveline. All right, we're back. It is Loveline along with Dr. Drew. I'm Stryker here in LA, and Mr. Rockolla is at the Super Bowl, and I think the Rams are going to win. What do you think, Drew?

23:31 Stryker I think it's pretty good.

23:32 Adam It might spread like 14 right now. And it's an indoor game, and they're going to smoke them. But I am happy for that quarterback from the Patriots.

23:42 Stryker Why did, I don't understand that. Why? Why not Bledsoe?

23:45 Adam Well, who got him to the Super Bowl?

23:48 Stryker Bledsoe?

23:48 Adam No, he played three quarters in the game that took it. He did fine. He was an all-pro quarterback before. But they were 0-2 at the time, I believe. They get this young kid in there. Man, the guy has been on fire. I hope it's a close game, but I want the Rams to win. But I don't like the owner of the Rams, but I love Kurt Warner, love Marshall Faulk. We'll see what happens. You want to bet me? I want the Giant Stinky, or you can go to the Super Bowl. Both great prizes, of course. That was you. That show, by the way, was on Disney today. That was from a Disney TV show. It was about kids going to the Super Bowl, a show called The Jersey, whatever. Alright, let's talk to Steve and find out what's going on with this guy. You're 22, Steve, and you are on Loveline.

24:29 Caller Thank you. Can you hear me?

24:30 Stryker Yeah, we can hear you.

24:32 Caller First of all, I was in an accident a few years ago. Ever since the accident, I'm just like the only guy alive. I can't get enough of a male or female.

24:42 Stryker Was it a head injury?

24:43 Caller Yes, it was.

24:45 Stryker Wow, that's interesting. There's something called a Kluver Busey Syndrome. I mean, if you get a temporal injury, was it on the side of your head?

24:51 Caller Excuse me?

24:52 Stryker Was the injury on the side of your head? Did you have a depressed skull fracture or something?

24:55 Caller I think it was a frontal lobe.

24:57 Stryker Frontal lobe injury?

24:58 Caller Yes.

24:58 Stryker Again, that de-represses people's ability to contain impulses. They're all screwed up.

25:02 Adam Did he go in the hospital for that?

25:04 Caller Excuse me?

25:05 Adam You were in the hospital after that happened?

25:07 Caller Yes.

25:07 Adam And then once you got out, then you became this whatever you are?

25:12 Caller I was in a coma for two and a half weeks. And after I got out, I went to rehabilitation centers and all that kind of stuff.

25:19 Stryker Does anyone who's treating you know about these behaviors?

25:22 Caller Can you say that again?

25:23 Stryker Does anyone who's been treating you or who's currently treating you know about these impulses?

25:29 Caller No one knows for sure really.

25:30 Caller They're just trying to give me drugs to help it out and stuff.

25:33 Stryker But you've been complaining about this and they're giving you drugs to try to help it?

25:37 Caller Yes. Okay.

25:38 Caller All right.

25:39 Stryker So there are people trying to manage this?

25:41 Caller Yeah, but I don't see it helping that much. All right.

25:44 Stryker But you know, you could be dangerous like this, right? I mean, this is a serious issue.

25:48 Caller I've had some instances, yes.

25:51 Stryker Wow.

25:52 Caller Can you give me like a medicine or something like that? Like, can you name one or something?

25:57 Stryker Well, I imagine the kinds of medicines they're giving you are anti-seizure type medications and anti-depressant medications that will decrease your libido. Other than that, were you a sex addict before the head injury?

26:11 Caller No, sir. I wasn't at all.

26:13 Stryker Were you an addict of any type?

26:15 Caller No.

26:16 Stryker Wow. Well, I think the important thing now is to keep you contained in some way. I'm not sure that this is the kind of thing. This is a pure biological process probably, at least predominantly.

26:27 Caller And like, it's not me, it's the injury, you know what I mean?

26:30 Stryker What's that?

26:31 Caller I can't control the injury of how I was in.

26:35 Adam He says it's not him, it's the injury which is making him do this.

26:37 Stryker If you weren't a sex addict before, if you don't want an addict, what happened? What was the injury?

26:42 Adam He was having sex and smashed his head.

26:45 Caller I was in an accident.

26:47 Stryker A car accident?

26:48 Caller Yes.

26:50 Stryker And you hit the steering wheel or something?

26:52 Caller Yes.

26:53 Caller Wow.

26:55 Stryker Boy, Steve, just make sure you, what's that?

26:58 Caller I was considered brain injured.

27:00 Stryker I understand that, I understand that. Just make sure you keep communicating to people who are taking care of you and that you find ways to contain these impulses. Maybe even living in a residential setting where people can kind of help you contain them and watch. Because if you can't contain impulses yourself, if your biological mechanisms won't allow you to contain them, something in the external world needs to help you contain or contain you for you.

27:21 Adam You're going to hurt a bunch of people and maybe already have.

27:24 Stryker And he doesn't want to, he's upset about it. He doesn't want to hurt anybody.

27:26 Caller Yeah.

27:27 Adam All right, let's change tones a tad here. Steve.

27:30 Caller Yes.

27:30 Adam 19 on Loveline. What's up?

27:32 Caller How you doing?

27:33 Adam Doing good.

27:35 Caller I have this problem. I'm in the Marine Corps out here in 29 Palms, right? Yeah. I'm about to deploy overseas and everything. And I tried breaking up with this girl. And she has this, I found out like 3 or 4 days ago, while I was trying to break up with her, that she has a tattoo of my name on her chest.

27:53 Adam You didn't know she did that while you were dating?

27:54 Caller No, because I was in the brig and I just got out like 4 or 5 days ago.

27:58 Caller What were you in the brig for?

28:00 Caller I would rather not talk about that on the radio.

28:03 Adam Who's going to find out, Steve?

28:04 Caller Everybody around me.

28:06 Caller All right.

28:06 Caller And like whoever is listening to this.

28:08 Caller Where did she do it?

28:08 Adam Right on one of the bosoms?

28:10 Caller Yeah, on the left hand side.

28:12 Caller When I got back, she was like, you remember what she drew on my chest? I was like, no. And she's like, The pearl necklace?

28:19 Adam No, go ahead.

28:19 Stryker You drew on her chest?

28:21 Caller Well, we were like messing around. She was drawing all over me one night. I don't know.

28:26 Caller Sorry, stuck out a little while.

28:28 Caller And she was drawing all over me.

28:31 Caller So I drew something on her. And it was my name with a heart around it and an arrow going through.

28:36 Caller And she's like, you remember that?

28:37 Caller And she's like, well, I got.

28:38 Stryker Very creative, Steve.

28:40 Caller You know.

28:40 Stryker What a novel, novel thing.

28:42 Caller I couldn't have anything else.

28:44 Caller You know.

28:45 Adam How long have you been dating her?

28:47 Caller For about four or five months.

28:48 Stryker Well.

28:49 Adam What a ridiculous woman to tattoo your name from your drawing only after five months. At least wait seven or eight months.

28:55 Stryker This is like anything else when people sort of engage in behaviors that make you feel responsible for them.

29:01 Caller That's what I told her. I was like, the only thing I get tattooed on my body is my kids, if I had any kids. She has two kids.

29:07 Stryker For your kids' sake, don't do that either. But listen, there is laser techniques now where these things can be removed pretty easily and pretty painlessly. So it's not like she's doomed to have that tattoo her whole life if she wants to get it off. You know, Dr. Bruce, that fills in for me, I've had anal sex and I've cast out a couple times. There's Bruce. He does these tattoo removals all over the place.

29:24 Caller Do you think that she's like trying to like, I don't know, go to some kind of court or some and say, I want him to pay to get this tattoo removed?

29:33 Stryker No, I don't think so. What are you going to do? She has a natural history of...

29:36 Caller I mean, I didn't tell her to do it, you know?

29:36 Stryker You're going overseas. This is her.

29:39 Adam I wish you had a much longer name than Steve, though.

29:41 Caller And that's...

29:42 Adam it just took up her entire chest.

29:45 Caller I know, I should have...

29:46 Adam You should have wrote your first, middle and last name on there.

29:48 Caller I should have.

29:50 Adam And your ID number in the courier.

29:52 Stryker Listen, it's nice that you're concerned...

29:53 Caller Throw in my blood type, my religion every time.

29:56 Stryker It's nice that you're concerned. Yeah, but you're not responsible for her actions. You're not responsible for this relationship merely because she has your name on her chest.

30:05 Adam She's good in the sack, but a loony, Steve.

30:08 Stryker Yeah, and listen, you're doing no favors just hanging in because of a tattoo.

30:12 Adam It's ridiculous. It is ridiculous. All right, that's 1-800-LOVE-191. Let's go to...

30:19 Caller Nikki.

30:20 Hello?

30:20 Adam Hi, you're 19 on Loveline.

30:22 Caller Hi.

30:23 Caller Hi.

30:23 Caller Um, I can't orgasm.

30:27 Damn it.

30:28 Caller Like, at all.

30:30 Adam How about when you're solo?

30:32 Stryker Nope.

30:33 Stryker Well, that's common at 19th.

30:35 Stryker That's common.

30:36 Stryker Very.

30:36 Stryker But I get right to the point where I should and then it's, like, everything just goes away.

30:41 Stryker Is that by yourself or when you're with someone?

30:43 Stryker That's both. And my boyfriend gets really mad at me because he feels bad, so I don't know what to do.

30:49 He shouldn't get mad at you for one.

30:50 Stryker Yeah, that's his ego. He needs you to orgasm. That's absurd. You should kick his ass a little bit about that, but it's understandable if he wants you to, you know, feel this buzzer and he feels frustrated that he can't.

31:00 Adam It's not that he feels good for you, he feels good for himself if you got to that.

31:04 Stryker That's right. His ego is hurt that he can't get you. Oh yeah. It's like climbing Mount Everest.

31:08 Adam That's what it's like. Eight straight years of that.

31:11 Stryker Alright, but the fact is at 19, it's many, many, many women don't achieve orgasm. Is this through oral sex that he almost gets you there?

31:19 Stryker It's not so much through oral as like actual his penis.

31:24 Stryker Alright, so one of these days you will figure this out, but it's going to take a little time and hopefully some caring from someone in a real connected relationship will make it a lot easier.

31:31 Stryker Well, because I was just wondering, because I had stuff happen to me when I was younger, so I was wondering if that had any connection to it or not.

31:37 Stryker It tends to. What happened?

31:39 Stryker Actually, sounds kind of weird, but my mother molested me.

31:42 Stryker What did she do?

31:45 Stryker A lot of just, I don't even really remember everything.

31:51 Adam What's the worst thing she did?

31:52 Stryker She molested me and I had a cousin when I was the first time three and the second time when I was five who also molested me.

32:00 Stryker A male cousin or female cousin?

32:01 Stryker A male cousin.

32:02 Stryker What did your mother do to you?

32:07 Stryker It's a long, drawn out story, but basically she was molesting me to try and put my dad in jail.

32:12 Adam But what did she do to you exactly?

32:14 Stryker What did she do to me? She had a cabbage patch doll and kind of molested me with that and her fingers and I don't even remember what else.

32:24 Stryker With a cabbage patch doll? Those were big in the 80s. How do you molest me with a cabbage patch doll?

32:32 Adam Well first you have to adopt it.

32:33 Stryker I was thinking like the hands and the feet inside of me and things like that.

32:39 Adam Thank God it wasn't the GI. Joe period when that happened.

32:42 Stryker No it wasn't. It was a cabbage patch doll.

32:45 Stryker Obviously this can have a profound effect on your sexual functioning.

32:48 Stryker Really?

32:49 Stryker Oh sure. Just the fact that you are able to have stable relationships is sort of miraculous. Have you had treatment for this?

32:56 Stryker I went to counseling when I was younger but she was paying for it by court order and she ended up stopping once I told her I refused to speak to her.

33:04 Stryker Are you in school now?

33:06 Stryker Not at the moment. I'm starting next semester.

33:09 Stryker Why don't you look in the Student Health Services and get back into therapy and really get going here.

33:14 Adam You sound fairly stable talking to you and it's cool that you're just about at the point at least. Remarkable. Yeah, you're super close to achieving it. It's pretty remarkable. Maybe just talking to someone can get you over the hump, so to speak.

33:25 Stryker You have a boyfriend, remarkable. I mean, so you're doing okay.

33:28 Adam Yeah.

33:29 Stryker Okay, I have one more question.

33:30 Stryker Yeah.

33:31 Stryker My boyfriend right under the tip of his head has these little pimple looking thing. They look like they're pimples, but he says they're not, and I guess he says he's had them as long as he can remember, and the doctor told him that was normal. Do you know what that is?

33:47 Adam What are those called again, Drew?

33:48 Stryker Well, pearly penile papules. There is pearly penile papules, and also sometimes the circumcision can cause scarring, and there can even be sebaceous cysts and things. There's normal stuff that can occur there.

33:59 Adam So it's okay that he's got those things?

34:01 Stryker If somebody looked at it and said it was normal, I would rest assured it is.

34:04 Adam There you go. Is it break time?

34:06 Stryker I don't even remember.

34:06 Adam It's been a long time.

34:07 Stryker One more call.

34:07 Adam All right. Let's... Danielle?

34:11 Caller Daniel.

34:12 Adam Daniel, what's up?

34:12 Caller You're 30 on Loveline.

34:13 Caller Hey, how's it going?

34:14 Adam Good.

34:15 Caller I've been dating this girl on and off, kind of a playmate thing. She goes up to the local college, and she studies Western or cultural comparative studies.

34:25 Stryker Yeah.

34:26 Caller And she's been studying prostitutes in like the Philippines and Cambodia or Colombia.

34:33 Adam Great.

34:34 Caller And the practices they do. And she's been using them in our escapades.

34:39 Stryker Like what?

34:40 Caller Like the shooting the ping pong ball and the smoking the cigarette and the golden saddle.

34:44 Stryker What's the golden saddle?

34:45 Caller Where they ride on your back and urinate.

34:47 Stryker That's nice.

34:48 Caller Yeah, but my...

34:49 Adam Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.

34:51 Caller Yeah, she's got on her mind one of the things they do to make themselves seem virginal is they use alum.

34:59 Stryker Alum? Dry himself up?

35:00 Caller Yeah, and it tightens the vagina.

35:03 Stryker That's a rather sadistic thing to do to themselves and then it could...

35:08 Adam But then it has to hurt them and for the guy not being able to...

35:11 Caller Would that damage my penis in any way?

35:15 Adam I don't think you can damage your penis unless you hit it with a hammer.

35:18 Caller I mean would that affect the skin?

35:20 Stryker What's going to tear her up pretty good?

35:22 Caller Is that...

35:22 Stryker Let's stay with her for a second.

35:24 Adam It will just make you raw.

35:26 Stryker Yeah, it's going to tear her up pretty good. Probably be uncomfortable for you as well.

35:29 Caller Are you using lubricant with that?

35:31 Stryker Well, why put the album in the first place then? The idea is just to decrease the friction.

35:37 Caller What is the album? Is that a cooking substitute?

35:42 Adam It's a housing development outside of Cairo.

35:44 Stryker A drying agent basically. I would not, under any circumstances.

35:47 Adam Daniel, that seems so unappealing to me to have a dried up poonani as they say.

35:53 Stryker As opposed to the golden saddle, which you're kind of into.

35:55 Caller Oh, sure.

35:57 Adam You never know.

35:57 Caller He's an asshole.

35:59 Stryker Golden sandals. Very nice.

36:01 Caller They squat and they give you a blowjob, and as they give you the blowjob, they urinate on your feet.

36:07 Stryker Wow, what does that do for you?

36:11 Caller It's more for her. I mean, she's a do for her research, and I've what does that do for her? He told me with my kinks like late latex and hold on.

36:19 Stryker What does that do for her? That the evacuation of her bladder, that control man control.

36:26 Caller Yeah, it could be that. I do think she might get that out of it.

36:30 Stryker Control.

36:30 Caller But she's helped me with my fantasy.

36:32 Stryker I don't want to hear it.

36:33 Adam I want to hear it.

36:34 Stryker What's your fantasy?

36:35 Adam To be clean.

36:36 Caller Panty sniffing, Golden Globe Award.

36:41 Adam Golden Globe Award.

36:42 Caller Yeah, where you lay back and masturbate underneath them. When you're ready to come, you let go and just the heat from the urine makes you spout off.

36:57 Adam Wow. How about the old strawberry shortcake?

37:00 Stryker Here's why I'm intrigued.

37:01 Caller This guy is sick.

37:02 Caller I think there's a different version of that from what I heard.

37:05 Stryker Hold on a second. There's a reason I'm interested in this guy is that these, Adam was saying in some of these magazines now have lots of pictures of women urinating.

37:11 Caller Oh yeah.

37:11 Stryker I can't understand that.

37:12 Caller It is big now.

37:13 Stryker I cannot understand that. But here, this is the first caller we ever had that actually called us into this.

37:17 Adam But do you like it, Daniel? Or are you doing it because she likes to do it on you?

37:20 Caller Um, it's mutual.

37:22 Stryker What do you get out of this?

37:24 Caller What do I get out of it?

37:25 Stryker Yeah.

37:25 Caller The heat.

37:27 Stryker Well, get a heating pad for God's sake. There's hot water running in your bathroom, for God's sake.

37:32 Adam Drew, just like third base is now getting under the panels.

37:34 Stryker I understand this is now.

37:35 Adam Now urinating on someone isn't as on your own as it used to be.

37:39 Stryker What you know what a cough cover is. No, stop. Stop with the, the, all the ambers. I want to know what you get out of this. What does this do for you?

37:47 Caller It's, um, it's arousing. It's the heat.

37:51 Stryker Now forget the heat. Stop it.

37:53 Caller It's the same reason why people can urinate in the shower and not mind when it drips on their leg.

37:59 Stryker Your people?

38:00 Caller Well, it's when, when people, when, when you want something.

38:04 Adam My, my, you said your people. Where is your cult, Daniel? I'm staying away. But you have peed on your leg before purpose, haven't you, Drew, in the shower?

38:12 Stryker Purposely.

38:12 Caller Yeah, you just.

38:13 Adam Like you're doing it and then you just kind of glide it along.

38:15 Stryker When you get, when you get to my age, it's just, it's just coming out when you get to the water whether you like it or not.

38:19 Caller Kind of the feeling that you're doing something naughty.

38:21 Stryker Yeah, okay. Nice or something really perverse or something deviant about.

38:25 Adam Do you have a website, Daniel?

38:26 Caller We can look at pictures. I don't, I don't, I don't know.

38:27 Stryker It's okay. That's right. That's okay.

38:29 Adam All right, Daniel. We have to take a break. All right. All right. Good luck with the lady.

38:33 Stryker We'll think of you always, Daniel.

38:34 Adam Daniel, last question. You were, do you wear goggles when you're with her? That's a good one.

38:39 Stryker What an outrageous thing. Stryker, how dare you?

38:41 Caller Honey, we're the goggles.

38:42 Caller That's fantastic.

38:44 Stryker Outrageous, outlandish behavior. I can't, where did you come up with that?

38:48 Adam I don't know where that came up with.

38:49 Stryker Oh my God.

38:50 Adam We're going to take a break and during this break, I'm going to urinate on Drew so he can feel the sensation.

38:54 Stryker No, the heat, the heat.

38:55 Caller I just want the heat.

38:55 Adam I was about to say, and the heat and the softness are ruining the goddamn punchline.

39:00 Stryker You done? Yeah, thank you.

39:02 Caller Go urinate.

39:02 Adam We'll be back after this.

39:03 Caller It's Loveline.

39:05 Adam Loveline, we are back. 1-800-LOVE-191, along with Dr. Drew, I'm Stryker, filling in for Adam Corolla, who is in New Orleans. And I bet you right now, he is so hammered. Oh, yeah. With 50 beads around his neck, talking to a girl that's going to be in Girls Gone Bad Part 7.

39:22 Caller Hey, I need a hair from the whore that bit me.

39:27 Adam That is fantastic. By the way, I'm excited because I'm going to be filling in on Monday once again, and Jason Schwartzman is going to be here. Fantastic actor. If you saw Luterman last night, he was on there. Very funny. What's he in? Well, first, he's in a band, and he's in a new movie coming out called...

39:43 Stryker How many people would know him?

39:45 Adam Oh, from the movie with Bill Murray. Oh, okay.

39:48 Stryker Rushmore. From Rushmore.

39:50 Adam And the new movie is called... Slackers. I'm on the ball, for God's sakes.

39:56 Stryker That's why I'm here.

39:57 Adam All right. Let's go to...

40:01 Stryker You just don't know.

40:03 Caller Mark. Hey, how's it going, guys?

40:05 Stryker What's up?

40:05 Adam You're 27 on Loveline.

40:06 Caller Oh, I'm in pain. Dr. Drew, I've got a question for you.

40:10 Caller I went to the doctor's last night.

40:11 Drew I actually started feeling nauseated and got really sick last night. I was at a comedy club. So they rushed me to the emergency room.

40:19 Stryker Who was the comic?

40:21 Drew Some no-name. It wasn't his material, but as I was leaving, because I puked all over the table, he goes, wow, I've never gotten anybody sick from my jokes before.

40:28 Stryker Nice. Yeah.

40:30 Drew So anyway, I get to the doctor's. I'm in the emergency room and I start puking really hard. And so I get to see the doctor and I'm like, man, it must be food poisoning because I've had it before and it's been diagnosed as food poisoning. So the doctor sees something in my eye, looks at my eye, grabs me by the back of my neck.

40:47 Stryker Throws you back and you start vomiting even worse.

40:49 Drew No, he just grabs the back of my neck and pushes me forward while squeezing the back of my neck. And says, look to the left without moving your head. So he diagnosed something called labyrinthitis. Right.

41:02 Caller What is that?

41:02 Drew What is that?

41:03 Caller He tried to explain to me.

41:04 Drew I don't understand.

41:05 Stryker Was the room spinning around before you started vomiting?

41:08 Drew No, but things were like, not at all.

41:11 Stryker You had no spinning sensation?

41:12 Drew No spinning sensation whatsoever.

41:14 Caller Huh.

41:16 Caller What's it called?

41:16 Stryker Labyrinthitis? Labyrinthitis.

41:19 Caller When he moved his fingers to the side, I could see double fingers.

41:23 Drew When he held his fingers up and I looked to the side, he also gave it another name called vestibulitis.

41:28 Stryker Vestibulitis. It's also called benign positional vertigo. Has the double vision gone away?

41:34 Drew Yeah, double vision is gone.

41:35 Adam How about the monsters on the wall?

41:37 Stryker I'm not totally convinced, Mark, that that's what you had, frankly, because labyrinthitis is an inflammation of the labyrinthine system in your inner ear. It's either the nerve to that or something within the vestibules there. It causes dizziness, primarily, and then vomiting follows that. Sometimes the vomiting can come in real early and be the main symptom.

41:56 Drew Well, it started out with a headache.

41:58 Stryker What he's looking at is something called nystagmus. Your eyes kind of moved to one.

42:01 Drew Yeah, I have that already.

42:03 Stryker You already have nystagmus.

42:04 Caller Yeah, that's why I have to wear glasses.

42:07 Stryker So did you have congenital cataracts or something or congenital nystagmus?

42:10 Drew What happens is when I was younger, I had an operation for it, too, is that I would tilt my head to the left or to the right to see straight.

42:18 Stryker And so did you tell the doctor that?

42:20 Drew Yeah, I told him I already had stigmatism, and that's why I was wearing glasses.

42:23 Stryker No, not a stigmatism, nystagmus, which is your eyes moving, flickering.

42:27 Caller Right, my eyes move big time.

42:28 Caller I mean, anytime I get pulled over for speeding because I have a left foot, the cops always look at my eyes and go, have you been drinking?

42:34 Stryker Yeah, right, that's that same thing. Yeah, that's exactly what I have. You really, you should see a neurologist because he was just, no way you could see the difference between what your normal nystagmus is and the kind of nystagmus we associate with labyrinthitis.

42:47 Caller Okay.

42:48 Stryker You know, headache and vomiting and double vision. Double vision is not part of labyrinthitis.

42:53 Caller Okay.

42:54 Stryker So, you have any other, are you diabetic or anything?

42:55 Caller No, nothing at all. I am attention deficit disorder.

42:58 Stryker Yeah, just do me a favor, just see a neurologist. Do me that favor.

43:01 Adam Mark, kill yourself.

43:03 Caller I got one more question, Dr. Drew.

43:04 Drew He stuck me right above my hip with a needle, and now I can barely walk without a bunch of pain.

43:10 Stryker Wow.

43:11 Caller Okay. So, am I supposed to still be in this much pain?

43:13 Stryker No.

43:15 Caller I am in like major pain.

43:17 Adam You have thick coke bottle glasses, I am sure. Your eyes twitch, you are vomiting in comedy clubs and you have a sore leg.

43:23 Drew Yeah, and I can't walk. I mean, I can walk, but every time I take it, it's like, it's like…

43:27 Stryker It sounds like a very productive visit to the emergency room.

43:29 Drew Yeah, exactly.

43:29 Stryker You can get something, you can get abscesses where they inject you. Is there a lump there?

43:33 Drew I don't know.

43:34 Caller Hold on, let me see.

43:36 Drew There's no lump.

43:37 Caller It's just, it's really sore.

43:38 Drew And when I… It's like on the side of the hip.

43:40 Stryker Yeah, you just put a lot of heat on there and give it a couple of days. That should clear up.

43:44 Drew Okay. Hey, thanks guys.

43:46 Caller Keep up the good work.

43:46 Adam Have some soup also, Mark. That will help.

43:48 Caller I'll go see who? A neurologist?

43:49 Adam A neurologist.

43:50 Caller Okay, cool.

43:50 Caller Thanks.

43:50 Drew Bye.

43:52 Caller Ah, that guy is goofy.

43:53 Adam Ashley.

43:54 Caller Yeah?

43:54 Adam Welcome to Loveline. You're 16.

43:56 Caller Oh, yeah, I am. I just had a baby on December 9th and I was just wondering if I get back into a relationship because I adopted her out to my second cousin.

44:09 Stryker Ashley, there should be like a shrine built in your honor.

44:11 Caller A what?

44:12 Stryker A shrine, a monument in your honor.

44:15 Adam They could do it right at the corner of Campbell and Speedway in Tucson.

44:17 Stryker No, I mean really, what a courageous and appropriate thing to do for your child.

44:21 Adam Yeah.

44:21 Caller Well, I don't believe in abortion.

44:23 Stryker Well, great, and you did what you needed to do on behalf of the child, which is find a parent.

44:27 Adam Ashley, you're saying it's a good thing, what you did. Yeah.

44:29 Caller Yeah.

44:30 Stryker Okay.

44:31 Caller But, okay, and it's like if I get into a relationship and I tell them, like eventually I'm not going to be like right off the bat, hey guess what, by the way I have a baby.

44:41 Stryker Yeah.

44:41 Caller Like, how?

44:42 Stryker I think you're only 16.

44:44 Caller I don't think you need to tell anybody.

44:45 Stryker An 18 year old guy, an older will be able to handle it, no problem. 16 year olds, if you're in a long term relationship, it's really something you're setting up that's going to go on for quite some time, then obviously you want to be honest with them. Yes. But you're just dating someone, no, it's not their business.

44:58 Caller Just not even bring it up?

44:59 Adam No.

45:00 Stryker Not unless you need to want to talk about it, this is somebody you feel you can get support from. But a 16 year old guy is going to be a little squirrel.

45:07 Adam How's Tucson Ashley?

45:09 Caller It's nice now. It was snowing yesterday.

45:11 Stryker Snowing?

45:11 Caller Yeah, like all day long. It actually stuck to the ground. It was really cool.

45:14 Adam Oh, wow.

45:15 Stryker Yeah.

45:16 Adam All right. Don't tell the guys unless you're going to long term, right?

45:20 Stryker We're going to build that monument for you there.

45:22 Adam Yes, we are. Right at Dirtbags. Arizona won a basketball tonight. UCLA lost by about 30. Yikes, UCLA lost by about 30.

45:30 Caller Who cares?

45:32 Adam I care because I like college basketball and not Sredna. All right.

45:36 Stryker No, no, no. We're going to break.

45:37 Adam We're going to break?

45:38 Stryker Yeah.

45:39 Adam All right. We're going to break, according to Dr. Drew. We've got more Loveline coming up and we're going to talk to John in a minute. He wants to know about condoms and sex and waiting two months. I don't know what that means.

45:50 Stryker I don't get that either, but it'll be interesting.

45:51 Adam Yeah, it's going to be interesting. At least we'll try to make it interesting. More Loveline. Hold on. We're back from Loveline. Drew, for the big prize, what song is that playing in the background? They're from Calabasas, Calipornia.

46:24 Stryker Thank you, boss.

46:25 Adam Yes, they're thanking me five on that, homeboy.

46:28 Caller Yes, very good.

46:30 Stryker I actually was going to say it before Anderson whispered in my ear.

46:33 Caller Oh.

46:34 Stryker But I figured that's your bullsier boy, so I figured that's what it had to be.

46:38 Adam Dirk aka Mitch Cumsteen, where are you? All right, 1-800-LOVE-191, Stryker along with Dr. Drew, and we're talking to John here, who has to do with condoms or something. We're confused. You're 20. What's up, man?

46:51 Drew Hey, what's up, guys?

46:53 Stryker John.

46:53 Caller Long time listener, first time caller.

46:55 Caller All right.

46:56 Caller Well, this is the deal. Me and my girlfriend are getting married in March.

46:59 Stryker Getting married?

47:00 Caller Yeah, getting married in March. And her doctor is telling her that she needs to get on the pill.

47:04 Stryker Right.

47:05 Caller And she's going to get on it tomorrow.

47:06 Stryker Right.

47:07 Caller But she's saying, the doctor is saying that even after we're married for a month, that she, that I still need to use a condom.

47:14 Stryker That's correct.

47:15 Caller Why is that?

47:16 Stryker Because it takes a month for the pill to be reliably sort of activated or engaged.

47:20 Caller Okay.

47:21 Stryker The triphasic pills may be safe for that first month. They're reasonably, some doctors would say.

47:27 Caller Because she's getting on a month beforehand. Because she's getting on it tomorrow and we're getting married in March.

47:34 Stryker Yeah. Either the first month you need to wear condoms. Not the first month after.

47:37 Adam It takes one month or two months for it to start activating.

47:40 Caller One month.

47:40 Adam One month.

47:40 Stryker The first month after she gets on the pill, not the first month after you get married.

47:43 Adam But it's not after this thirty second day you can do it, is it?

47:46 Caller Yeah. Oh. Really? So you're saying if she gets on in February, by March we'll be able to do it without a condom, right?

47:55 Stryker Yep.

47:55 Adam Wait thirty-three days apparently.

47:57 Caller So the doctor's saying even after March, I still need to wait until April.

48:02 Adam John, Drew just told you what he thought.

48:04 Stryker That's my opinion. I don't know. Maybe there's some extenuating circumstance here that I'm not aware of.

48:08 Adam Maybe he's trying to keep you guys super safe.

48:09 Stryker I have a feeling your fiance is sort of misinterpreting what he said. That's what I suspect.

48:14 Caller Well, actually, I talked to the doctor, too, and he's saying the same thing.

48:18 Stryker This was a gynecologist?

48:19 Caller Yes.

48:20 Adam He really wants to take that gym hat off, doesn't he, John?

48:24 Stryker What's the birth control pill?

48:26 Caller You know what? I'm not for sure. But we asked him about the shot, too. And he's saying even with the shot, wait another month. And I'm saying why, because she's going to be on it in February 1st. By March 1st, it'll be active, right?

48:38 Stryker With the shot?

48:39 Caller Right. Or with the pill?

48:41 Stryker Yeah. In my training, that's the way it goes.

48:45 Caller What about if he insists, where can I get the day after pill?

48:50 Stryker You can get it at Passead and Planned Parenthood. You can get it from pharmacies now without a prescription. I'm trying to organize a protocol where pharmacies can just access and use me and some other people's doctor's names and just start giving these things out whenever they become needed. So you might want to call 1-888-NOT-TOO-LATE, number 2 LATE, 1-888-NOT-TOO-LATE. They should be able to help refer you to a pharmacy that either certainly carries it and possibly even come to administer it without a prescription. All right. I can see three months from now.

49:21 Caller John, you're on Loveline.

49:23 Caller Drew, you said I could wait 33 days.

49:25 Adam My girl's pregnant.

49:27 Stryker I've never heard of two months.

49:28 Adam I don't know. I don't know how that works.

49:30 Stryker I wonder if they went to him and said, we need to be absolutely categorically, we can't get pregnant and we need to be completely safe. And the guy probably went, that extra month might give you a tenth of a percentage point improvement.

49:43 Adam Well, maybe the doctor knows John maybe has a job that pays $6 an hour and his lady doesn't work. And he knows he's pregnant. I don't know. Jennifer.

49:53 Caller What's up?

49:54 Adam You're 21 on Loveline.

49:55 Caller Hi. Hi, Drew. I think you're a really cool guy and everything. I have like this really weird problem. My grandpa, he's been married to my grandma for about 26 years now. And they're getting a divorce. And we just found out that it's because he's been seeing prostitutes the entire time. I know. It's really weird.

50:15 Adam Women or male prostitutes?

50:17 Caller They're women.

50:17 Caller Okay.

50:19 Stryker How old is he?

50:20 Caller He's 68. Wow. Yeah.

50:23 Stryker Is he an alcoholic?

50:24 Caller Huh?

50:24 Stryker Is he an alcoholic?

50:26 Caller Well, he lives in San Diego, so I guess.

50:27 Stryker Well, then he must be an alcoholic.

50:28 Adam Everyone in San Diego.

50:29 Stryker Is he an alcoholic?

50:32 Adam He lives in Palm Desert.

50:34 Caller No, he lives in San Diego.

50:35 Stryker Is he an alcoholic?

50:37 Caller I've often wondered. I mean, he's talking.

50:40 Adam Okay.

50:42 Stryker This sounds like addict behavior, okay?

50:44 Adam How did you find out that he was seeing hookers?

50:47 Caller Well, basically, I was really mad at my grandma because I didn't know the reason why they were getting divorced and I was being kind of a bitch-door. And finally she just blew up at me and told me and I asked him if it was true and he was like, yeah. So, I mean, I feel like a jackass for being a bitch-door.

51:03 Adam But why would it make you so upset at your grandparents, not your parents, Jennifer, right? Well, I mean, if my grandparents were getting divorced, I'd be upset, but I wouldn't go crazy.

51:12 Stryker How interesting they can have this big...

51:13 Caller The thing is, is that they adopted me when I was like seven years old.

51:17 Stryker So they were like your parents then?

51:18 Caller Yeah, and my dad was never around, so my grandpa was like a father figure to me.

51:23 Stryker Wow, but that's nice that you can have that kind of a discussion with them. You can go to them and first of all, they can tell you what the problem is. You can go to him and say, is this true? He'd answer you honestly. That's huge. That's a big deal. But here, listen, if he wants help, I would recommend the Delamo Treatment Center. Delamo Treatment Center? Delamo, in Torrance.

51:42 Adam D-E-L-L-A-M-O?

51:43 Stryker D-E-L-A-M-O, Delamo. Okay. Let me get the doctor's name. His name is John Sealy.

51:50 Caller John Sealy.

51:51 Stryker S-E-A-L-Y.

51:52 Adam Drew's pulling out his thing, so to speak. Jennifer, how did the grandma find out he was ordering up the prostitutes?

52:00 Caller Well, she had noticed, like, I mean, I guess she was pretty much fed up with the relationship and she was looking for a reason why he wasn't connecting with her, I guess. And so, I mean, she was just like reading.

52:11 Stryker Well, he's an alcoholic.

52:12 Adam Well, hold on.

52:12 Caller I want to get to the answer.

52:13 Adam Okay, right. Yeah.

52:14 Caller Well, I mean, she was just like basically researching his ass and she went through all his bills and she saw this one place, like, on the bill. And she was like, well, what's this place? I guess she kind of, like, I don't know, just played a detective and found out what it was. And then she went to the place and his car was sitting out there and she waited for him to come out.

52:34 Adam Was it one of those Oriental Massage Acupuncture places or was it?

52:39 Caller I don't know exactly what it was.

52:41 Adam But that seems weird that the bill was showing up.

52:43 Stryker But think about him coming out of there and his wife sitting out with people.

52:46 Caller Oh, yeah.

52:47 Adam Well, there's no forehouses in San Diego. Maybe it was in Tijuana.

52:50 Stryker Oh, come on.

52:51 Caller Come on in and give me a hug.

52:57 Stryker Listen, I've got this doctor's phone number. Should we give it to her off the air? Yeah. I'm going to have you guys call her on site, Jennifer, okay? I'm going to have her give you the phone number. Give her this phone number.

53:07 Adam Okay.

53:08 Stryker Okay.

53:08 Adam Oh, man. Grandpa's seen the prostitutes. Have you seen that before happen in your field, any calls like that? Oh, yeah. Really?

53:15 Stryker I know you think people are just, that they cease to live after the age of 50. But no.

53:21 Adam No?

53:22 Stryker I see them live. That as happens.

53:23 Adam They live. Eric.

53:24 Drew Yeah.

53:25 Adam Yes, I'm 23 on Loveline.

53:26 Caller Stryker, Dr. Drew. Love the show. Eric.

53:29 Drew Yeah.

53:29 Caller How's it going?

53:30 Caller Good.

53:30 Drew Well, let's see. Me and my girlfriend are kind of going through this dispute right now. I've been overly concerned, I guess you could say, about her seeing other people and also using drugs that I guess I would find unacceptable, you could say. And I guess it has been the death of our relationship, in other words.

53:52 Stryker All right, so that's over. So what's the problem?

53:54 Drew Well, the problem is, is, you know, I think it was primarily it was me that caused that and it- Wait, wait, wait.

53:59 Stryker She was doing drugs and she was seeing other people.

54:01 Adam Well, that was my concern.

54:03 Drew She may or may not have been. I really have no reason to believe that. And yet, for some reason, there's still a doubt in my mind.

54:10 Stryker You have no, wait a minute.

54:12 Adam What, Eric, what happened to make you think she was seeing someone and what happened to make you think that she's off doing whatever drugs she's doing?

54:19 Drew Well, I guess we work at the same place.

54:21 Adam She's ordering our prostitutes, isn't she? No.

54:25 Caller No, no.

54:25 Drew She's not working around prostitutes.

54:27 Caller Not to my knowledge, I mean, you know, things are...

54:29 Stryker Well, now you've planted that thought, though, Stryker. He'll be sure to obsess about that.

54:33 Adam He's not sleeping at night.

54:34 Caller Oh, man.

54:35 Drew No, I'm pretty sure she's not about that. But we work at the same place and there are people that make those choices. And she seems to, to me, not that that's the for sure, but she seems to me to side with those people.

54:49 Stryker How long have you been with this girl?

54:50 Caller About three years.

54:51 Stryker Is this your first girlfriend?

54:52 Caller No.

54:53 Drew No.

54:54 Stryker And what is the drug you're concerned she's using?

54:56 Drew Well, I was concerned she's using cocaine.

54:58 Stryker And she's hanging out with people that do a bunch of cocaine?

55:01 Drew Well, I don't know that they are doing a bunch of cocaine. No. I am...

55:05 Stryker She's hanging out with people that like cocaine?

55:07 Drew Right.

55:08 Adam Why don't you just ask her?

55:09 Caller I have. I have.

55:11 Drew And I have asked her and she has denied that she has ever done it.

55:14 Stryker Erica, there's something very wrong in this relationship. I don't know why. I don't know what it is, but it just doesn't feel right at all. You can't accept anything she tells you. You're freaked about with distrust. She can't live a separate life. There's no reciprocity. It's just not good.

55:31 Drew Well, I think she should be able to make her own choices. I think that's important for anybody.

55:40 Adam You're freaking out about the sleeping around.

55:42 Stryker It seems like it's the one I wanted to make. Well, it wasn't the one I wish I could have made.

55:47 Drew Yeah, I guess that's true in such a way. I wish she wouldn't make those choices, but it's not up to me regardless.

55:54 Stryker Well, again, if you perceive her to be a different person than you thought she was or that your feelings are changing about her, you're certainly reasonable to end the relationship.

56:03 Caller I guess I do perceive her to be a different person.

56:05 Stryker And I suspect that when you get a little distance from this, there will be more than just this going on. You'll see it.

56:10 Drew How do you mean?

56:11 Stryker I don't know. You'll see it different. You'll see that there's more missing in this relationship than just who she's hanging with.

56:16 Drew Really?

56:17 Stryker I suspect when you get a little distance from it.

56:19 Caller In what respects, though?

56:20 Drew I mean...

56:20 Stryker I don't know. You're in it still. When you get a little distance, it'll...

56:24 Adam You're going to find out what's really been going on. It's probably deeper than what appears to you right now.

56:28 Stryker Right.

56:29 Drew Inside myself or inside both of us.

56:31 Stryker Probably both, yeah.

56:33 Drew Inside both of us.

56:33 Stryker Probably both, yeah.

56:34 Drew See, because I really don't believe that I should be doing this. And I really love this girl. I really do. I've been with her for three years and I really do cherish every moment that I spend with her. But at the same time, for some reason, there's always this lingering doubt within the background.

56:48 Stryker Do you need to sabotage this relationship for some reason?

56:51 Caller No.

56:52 Stryker Are you afraid of intimacy?

56:55 Adam No.

56:55 Drew I may be. I don't know.

56:56 Caller Subconsciously, I'm afraid.

56:57 Stryker Have you had big losses in your life? People die on you or your parents' divorce?

57:01 Drew My parents' divorce later on in my life, probably when I was about 19, 20.

57:05 Stryker Were they?

57:05 Drew They were right about in there. I'm not sure of the exact date.

57:10 Stryker Do you feel you still have lingering problems with that? No.

57:13 Drew I still have a very good relationship with both my parents and, surprisingly enough, they have a good relationship between themselves. They're both open and, you know, very...

57:20 Stryker Was one of them alcoholic or addict?

57:22 Drew No, not to my knowledge. The entire time I was growing up, neither of them used drugs or alcohol.

57:27 Adam You seem suspicious to me, Eric, to be honest with them.

57:29 Drew Really?

57:30 Adam Yeah.

57:30 Stryker The way he says it.

57:31 Adam Yeah.

57:33 Stryker You are an anxious guy, Eric, and they got a certain parent ed streak in you. That may just be you.

57:38 Adam You're freaking me out, dude. Am I?

57:40 Stryker Well, the way your parents do, Dr. Rockolla, well, not to my knowledge. We have them tested and we have been under surveillance for the last six years, but so far, no evidence.

57:48 Caller Right.

57:51 Adam Do what's in your heart. Maybe just break it off with her, and based on her reaction, you'll see where she stands.

57:56 Stryker That is the bottom line. Yeah.

57:57 Adam I think it sounds like it's over.

57:58 Stryker Very controlling, but you're having a feeling. That's what I mean. When you get away, you're going to see these feelings more clearly. Right now, you're into controlling the situation, and Stryker is absolutely right.

58:09 Adam Let's just take a quick question, quick answer, probably. Oh no, this is something else. Hey, Jeremy.

58:15 Caller Jeremy?

58:16 Stryker Jeremy's sleeping. This is like the third night in a row Jeremy's... There he is. He hung up.

58:21 Caller Should I drop it?

58:23 Caller No, I'm dropping him.

58:24 Adam No, he's not there. Jake?

58:27 Caller Yeah?

58:27 Adam What's up? You're 28 on Loveline.

58:30 Caller Well, I have a question for Dr. Drew.

58:32 Drew I believe that's his name. First of all, I really like y'all show. I think it's pretty neat. It's pretty good how you can talk to people about the problems and stuff, but anyway.

58:43 Stryker Yeah, Jake, what's up? Yeah, we're here.

58:46 Drew Anyway, I am afraid to get close to girls, to have sex with girls. I've been this way all my life. I'm not a virgin or anything. I've had sex with a few girls, and I had sex with one girl who I was very attached to, and it just didn't work out. She went with another guy, and just, you know.

59:07 Stryker What's your question, Jake?

59:09 Drew My question is, uh, what...

59:15 Adam Where is the best place to go cow tipping east of the Mississippi?

59:19 Caller Oh, come on now.

59:21 Drew I was molested at eight by my mother, and I'm kind of afraid to have sex with girls.

59:27 Stryker Oh, well, there you go. What did your mom do to you?

59:30 Drew Well, it's kind of hard to spit out, so just bear with me.

59:34 Stryker Yeah.

59:35 Drew Anyway, one day when I was eight, I was going to bed to lay with her, and she made me kind of feel on her chest and on her other parts of her body.

59:46 Stryker One night, did she do it multiple nights or just one night?

59:49 Drew She did it a couple nights, then after a while, I think she felt bad that she did it and didn't do it anymore. I probably shouldn't be an effect on my life as it's been.

1:00:01 Stryker No, it's understandable that somebody that you trust and is responsible for your safety and well-being violates that trust so severely and then intrudes in a way that just freaks you out. I mean, it can be a very sort of arousing, conflicted, awful experience. Naturally enough, other women would evoke those same kinds of feelings again and freak you out every time you got involved with them. So this is normal, but it's also treatable. You have not been destroyed by this. You should be able to, you know, get it on.

1:00:28 Drew And I never really came out and told her this. I never really came out and told her because I figured that she would deny it or I would get mad and say something to her that I really...

1:00:36 Stryker It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. You need to get some help for yourself. You should go see someone who can help you get through this. All kinds of ways this can be treated. And treated pretty easily, usually. Easily. Yeah, usually. And get over this stuff. Get over it so you can go on and just be productive. Your mom, is she not a well person? Was she drinking when she was doing this?

1:00:56 Caller She was an alcoholic.

1:00:57 Stryker Yeah, she was an addict. She didn't know what the hell she was doing.

1:01:00 Drew Yeah, I realized that and it could have been the drugs and the alcohol.

1:01:02 Stryker Listen, it was. And that doesn't make the impact any less. It doesn't excuse her for her behaviors. But she was on drugs. That's what made her brain do what it did. She would have done that if she weren't on drugs. But it's something that you need to deal with.

1:01:19 Drew And I really haven't dealt with it till now. And I've tried to deal with it in the past.

1:01:23 Stryker Jake, Jake, Jake. I do not mean sit around and think about it by yourself.

1:01:27 Adam You need to go speak to a professional first.

1:01:29 Stryker You need to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist. This is not going to get better by reading books or sitting around cogitating about it.

1:01:34 Adam The best place to go is the Internet. I'm just kidding.

1:01:36 Stryker No, go, you know, talk. If you have a doctor, look, if you're in school, get this mental health professional one.

1:01:41 Adam Harry.

1:01:42 Caller Yo.

1:01:43 Adam What's up, man? You're 23 and Loveline.

1:01:45 Caller Hey, how you doing? Um, I got this problem.

1:01:51 Stryker Yeah, I should be on The Voice of My Family.

1:01:52 Caller Yeah, seriously.

1:01:54 Caller What's the problem, Harry?

1:01:56 Caller Well, I've been together with my girlfriend for a couple months now and we have like, you know, good sex and stuff, but I can't, can't climax. Like, I can go for hours and hours and hours.

1:02:10 Adam Who wants to go for hours and hours?

1:02:12 Stryker What's good about their sex?

1:02:14 Caller What's that?

1:02:15 Adam The fluids are not leaving the building, Harry.

1:02:17 Caller No, they're not leaving the building.

1:02:18 Caller How is that good for you?

1:02:20 Caller And it's what, it sucks?

1:02:22 Stryker What else sucks? Now he's going to tell us what sucks.

1:02:26 Caller She, it's making my girlfriend kind of...

1:02:31 Stryker Painful...

1:02:31 Caller .self-conscious.

1:02:32 Adam Of course.

1:02:33 Stryker It hurts her.

1:02:34 Adam Can you do it on your own?

1:02:35 Caller Yeah, I can do it on my own.

1:02:37 Stryker Have you had this problem with her before?

1:02:39 Caller No. Well, I mean, since...

1:02:42 Adam Since they started dating.

1:02:43 Caller Together, I haven't been able to.

1:02:45 Stryker With anyone else?

1:02:47 Caller No, I've never had this problem with anyone else. But I haven't been on... I'm on Paxil and I haven't been on that with anyone else. Well, there you go. That, that...

1:02:54 Stryker Harry, Harry, that's what's happening. That's a classic side effect of Paxil.

1:02:59 Caller Oh, really?

1:03:00 Stryker Oh, yeah. In fact, some...

1:03:01 Caller Yeah, I figured, I figured maybe, you know, you'd have a side effect, like, couldn't get it up or something.

1:03:05 Stryker No, no, no.

1:03:05 Caller I didn't know that something like that could happen.

1:03:07 Stryker In fact, some people, some people will use Paxil. Some doctors will prescribe Paxil to help men who have early ejaculation, so they can go low. Really? Yeah, yeah. It's one of the things that will do. So...

1:03:17 Caller Because she's kind of a two-pound chump, and I just can't... It's starting to get aggravating.

1:03:22 Stryker All right, here's the deal. Here's the deal. Go back to your doctor and talk about a couple of other medicines, either serizone or remeron. Those don't have that side effect.

1:03:31 Caller Do they do a good job, though? I don't want to be like a zombie, and this is working really good for me.

1:03:36 Stryker Are we having panic attacks?

1:03:38 Caller Yeah, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, really bad.

1:03:41 Stryker Well, the Paxil is the best one for the panic attacks. Yeah. So, you got to discuss with your doctor. Sometimes adding wellbutrin will help this out.

1:03:52 Caller Oh, so I go to my doctor and kind of like…

1:03:55 Stryker This is not a side effect that you should figure you just have to live with. You should be working on it with your doctor.

1:03:59 Adam Harry?

1:04:00 Caller Yeah?

1:04:00 Adam Do you masturbate?

1:04:03 Caller What kind of does it?

1:04:04 Adam I was going to say, why don't you not do it for a while, if possible, and next time you're with her, maybe you can achieve it since you haven't done it in a while. Maybe you can kill two birds with one stone, stay on the drugs and have the orgasm.

1:04:16 Caller Oh, that's what you like.

1:04:18 Adam Alright, I'm a genius, right Harry?

1:04:20 Caller You are the man.

1:04:21 Caller Alright, have fun in Arizona.

1:04:23 Caller You guys rock, man. Dr. Drew, you're the man. And Adam, you kick ass.

1:04:27 Adam I kick ass. My name is Adam Rocola and I'm Harry. Oh, good God. Carly.

1:04:36 Caller Hey.

1:04:37 Adam Welcome, you're 19 on Loveline.

1:04:39 Caller Yeah, Eric just called about me.

1:04:42 Stryker Eric, the paranoid guy.

1:04:43 Caller His boyfriend who, his parents don't do drugs.

1:04:46 Stryker Right, his parents don't drink. So the special agents have reported back to him at any event.

1:04:53 Adam Do you do cocaine?

1:04:54 Caller No, I do not.

1:04:55 Adam Do you sleep around?

1:04:56 Caller No, I do not.

1:04:57 Caller You stinking whore.

1:04:58 Adam Why is he freaking?

1:05:00 Caller I have no idea.

1:05:01 Stryker Something is very wrong.

1:05:03 Caller Terrible stuff about people and...

1:05:05 Stryker Something is very wrong. Eric is just very paranoid.

1:05:07 Adam I told you he was freaking me out the way he was talking.

1:05:09 Caller I know, I'm packing all my bags and getting out of here.

1:05:12 Adam Hi, sorry, Eric.

1:05:13 Stryker Is he doing drugs?

1:05:15 Caller No, not that I'm aware of.

1:05:17 Stryker Does he maybe need some help? Need to see a psychiatrist?

1:05:19 Caller No, maybe.

1:05:21 Stryker Is he getting fights at work and that kind of thing?

1:05:24 Caller No, but we get in lots of them.

1:05:27 Adam You guys work at the same place. What do you guys do?

1:05:30 Caller I'm a bus girl.

1:05:33 Caller Wow, turn that down.

1:05:34 Adam Are you at the supermarket right now?

1:05:36 Caller No, I'm at our house.

1:05:38 Stryker You're a box girl, don't you say?

1:05:40 Caller No, I'm a bus girl.

1:05:41 Stryker A bus girl?

1:05:42 Caller Yeah.

1:05:43 Stryker Oh, you bus the tables.

1:05:44 Caller Yeah.

1:05:44 Adam And what does he do? Bus boy?

1:05:47 Stryker He what?

1:05:47 Caller He's a cook.

1:05:48 Stryker Cook. Well, he sounds very controlling and very paranoid. It's a shame. Again, I couldn't tell what was going on with him. That's why I was telling him that when he got some distance in this relationship, you might be able to figure out what the feeling is here. But now all it is is just this.

1:06:06 Caller And I kind of worry because his insecurities that he's had about me and our relationship have kind of made me insecure.

1:06:13 Stryker Like what do you mean? Specifically, what do you mean?

1:06:16 Caller Because I mean, like, I'm not that kind of person that he thinks I am. We've been together for a long time.

1:06:25 Caller Oh.

1:06:26 Stryker He needs to sabotage this for some reason.

1:06:31 Adam Carly?

1:06:31 Caller Yeah?

1:06:32 Adam You still gonna be a bus girl?

1:06:35 Caller I don't know.

1:06:37 Adam You still work at the same place?

1:06:40 Caller Well, I've worked there since I was 14 years old.

1:06:42 Adam You should be at least elevated higher than the bus girl.

1:06:45 Caller Well, I'm a waitress, but it's winter time. One of the waiters got cut to a busser.

1:06:50 Adam Okay.

1:06:51 Caller And we're trying to cut on hours. But I have the most hours out of anybody who works there.

1:06:56 Adam Maybe if you really love this guy, man, I mean, I feel more than anything. Maybe you can suggest that he goes to speak to somebody.

1:07:03 Stryker Why don't you go to get some couples counseling? Maybe somebody can do a diagnostic work on him and see what's going on.

1:07:09 Caller Exactly.

1:07:10 Stryker You know, can you afford that? Is he willing to do that?

1:07:18 Adam Don't say those words, Carly. All right, well, we got to get you out of this.

1:07:23 Stryker That whole situation, I can't even tease it apart to figure out what's going on there.

1:07:29 Adam The man and the woman calling. At that note, if you work at a place for five years, be elevated higher than the busboy, maybe a server, maybe the cook, maybe the waiter. We're going to take a break. This is Loveline. We're back. This is Loveline.

1:07:49 Caller See, I know who these guys are.

1:07:50 Adam Who?

1:07:51 Stryker System of a Down.

1:07:52 Adam Very good. You know their heritage? Their...

1:07:55 Stryker Yes, I had dinner with them the other night.

1:07:58 Adam That's right. John and Shava took you out, right? For some Armenian food? Was it good?

1:08:04 Stryker No, I can't do it.

1:08:07 Adam Wasn't Adam screaming, Wake up! Do you have that drop by any chance?

1:08:11 Stryker No, he does it every night. It's not a drop. He does it every night. Oh, man.

1:08:15 Caller Wake up!

1:08:17 Stryker Wake up!

1:08:18 Adam Wake up!

1:08:19 Stryker That's the best song.

1:08:19 Adam That album, Toxicity, is unbelievable. I don't know if you can get into that sort of thing, but it is fantastic. I heard Adam bought like 80 boxes of food when he was there or something and brought it here.

1:08:33 Stryker John kept ordering and ordering and we packed it all and brought it over here.

1:08:36 Adam What's Armenian food like?

1:08:38 Stryker It's sort of Middle Eastern kind of food. You know, a lot of stuffed grape leaves and shish kebabs and salad and tabbouleh.

1:08:48 Adam That's cool, very good. I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla, by the way, along with Dr. Drew. We've got about a half hour, so let's try to get some of these in here. Spencer?

1:08:58 Caller Yeah?

1:08:58 Adam What's up? You're 13 on Loveline.

1:09:01 Caller Yeah, hey. Yeah, there's this girl, she's 14, and she like said she'd have sex with me, but I don't know if I should. My friend's telling me I should.

1:09:10 Stryker Well, of course your friends are telling you you should, but I would suggest that you think of it in terms of what's healthy for you and just in terms of how we understand 13-year-old brains and 14-year-old brains.

1:09:22 Caller I like her a lot.

1:09:23 Stryker I understand. Then keep having a relationship with her, but don't have sex with her. It's not a good thing for you. It really isn't, not 13.

1:09:30 Caller Okay.

1:09:31 Adam What's your like 13 and three-quarters?

1:09:33 Stryker 16, I'm not going to, you know, you're going to make your own choice as a 16, but 13, I'm going to make the choice. Okay?

1:09:41 Caller Okay.

1:09:42 Adam If you do it, Drew will know.

1:09:43 Stryker Oh, yes. Oh, yes.

1:09:45 Adam He'll find you out in Colorado.

1:09:47 Caller Yeah.

1:09:48 Caller How far should I go?

1:09:50 Adam Third base.

1:09:51 Stryker Third? Okay.

1:09:55 Adam Thank you.

1:09:56 Stryker They won't stop there.

1:09:57 Adam That is the new third base. Whatever you do, Spencer?

1:10:00 Caller Yeah.

1:10:01 Stryker You like her. Just stay with that idea.

1:10:04 Adam Have you kissed her?

1:10:07 Caller Yeah.

1:10:08 Stryker Have you touched her boobs?

1:10:10 Caller Yeah.

1:10:10 Stryker Okay.

1:10:10 Adam Well, you're on your way. Just be careful.

1:10:12 Caller Okay.

1:10:13 Caller All right, man?

1:10:14 Caller Okay.

1:10:14 Adam Later.

1:10:15 Caller Bye. Okay.

1:10:16 Caller Oh, man.

1:10:17 Caller Drew.

1:10:18 Adam Yeah. You think I should have sex with my girl?

1:10:21 Stryker Not you. Okay.

1:10:22 Caller Jeff.

1:10:23 Caller Yeah.

1:10:24 Adam What's up, man?

1:10:25 Caller Oh, nothing much. I like the way you play chop suey.

1:10:27 Caller Yeah.

1:10:28 Adam It's good stuff out there in Alaska.

1:10:30 Caller Yeah, it is.

1:10:31 Adam All right. What's going on with you?

1:10:33 Caller I want to know when you really love someone.

1:10:36 Stryker When you're in love?

1:10:37 Caller Yeah.

1:10:38 Adam You're gay.

1:10:39 Stryker You're not 14.

1:10:40 Caller Yeah, I am.

1:10:41 Stryker No, no. Not when you're in love.

1:10:43 Adam Drew's saying you can't be in love at 14. You can like someone a lot, but love is weird.

1:10:49 Stryker Yeah. Yeah, love comes later. You can have some very intense infatuations and all kinds of very heavy feelings.

1:10:54 Caller Yeah, true, very true.

1:10:56 Stryker Yeah, but that's what they are at that point. And you're still, you're just coming under the influence of these very, very powerful chemicals that your testes are releasing. That make you have all kinds of feelings that you might not have under influence of a more normal physiology.

1:11:11 Yeah.

1:11:12 Caller So when would you say that I would feel something like that?

1:11:15 Stryker Well, you may feel something like that now.

1:11:16 Adam Never.

1:11:17 Stryker But, but it's going to be...

1:11:20 I mean like what?

1:11:20 Caller Like, like 16?

1:11:22 Adam What are you looking for, Jeff? Why are you so interested in being in love?

1:11:25 Caller I don't know.

1:11:26 Caller I just feel so many things.

1:11:27 Caller I don't know what it is.

1:11:30 Adam Have you ever seen that Brady Bunch episode, even though you're only 14, but they're running 50 times a day when Bobby sees fireworks when he makes out with that girl?

1:11:36 Caller No.

1:11:36 Caller I don't watch that stuff.

1:11:37 Adam All right. Well, you should check that out.

1:11:39 Caller Yeah. Cool.

1:11:41 Caller All right, Jeff. That's a crazy question.

1:11:43 Adam Thank you, Jeff.

1:11:44 Caller All right.

1:11:44 Caller Thanks. All right, man.

1:11:47 Adam Good God. Emily.

1:11:49 Caller Hello.

1:11:49 Adam Hi. You're 22 on Loveline.

1:11:51 Caller Yeah.

1:11:51 Adam What's up?

1:11:52 Caller I have questions because I've done lots of LSD and I hallucinate almost every day. But I mean, I haven't done it in like six years. I've done like thousands and thousands of hits.

1:12:07 Stryker Yeah. Are you having flashbacks or are you?

1:12:10 Caller I get like full on hallucinations.

1:12:12 Stryker Like fire doctors, tracers all the time. Yeah. You need to see a doctor. Are you getting depressed?

1:12:18 Caller No.

1:12:19 Caller I'm not depressed.

1:12:20 Caller But...

1:12:21 Stryker That will come.

1:12:22 Caller Yeah?

1:12:22 Stryker Yes.

1:12:23 Caller Hmm.

1:12:24 Adam When did you start doing acid? You're only 22 and you said you've done it hundreds of times.

1:12:27 Stryker Thousands of times.

1:12:28 Adam Thousands of times.

1:12:29 Caller I started when I was 13. Wow.

1:12:32 Stryker Yeah. It's so damaging.

1:12:34 Caller Yeah.

1:12:34 Adam Why do you still hallucinate, Drew? Even when you stop, is it still in your system? No.

1:12:38 Stryker Your brain is altered.

1:12:39 Adam Oh, really? And you can't grow back, can you? No.

1:12:41 Stryker It does not grow back.

1:12:42 Caller Yeah.

1:12:43 Adam All right, Emily.

1:12:44 Caller Well, I also have other questions because I've done lots of ecstasy, too.

1:12:48 Caller Yeah.

1:12:49 Caller I've done probably like 150 heads.

1:12:51 Caller Okay.

1:12:52 Caller So what does that do to my brain?

1:12:54 Caller Because I know it kills parts of your brain.

1:12:55 Stryker Yeah. It kills the part of the brain. It'll impair your memory and make it short-term from what you learn once you do it, correct?

1:13:04 Caller Well, actually, I have a really good photographic memory, so I don't understand because I had like a health class and they told me that it would drop my IQ 50 points. And I was like, God, I got so much LSD, I should have been a super genius then or something.

1:13:19 Stryker Or it's something that may not manifest yet. But it will affect memory and it will affect mood. And those things do tend to come on simultaneously. And it's going to come on. And you just got to be sure you're on top of it. Usually it's going to be hard to know what's what. You've been so many of both drugs. With ecstasy, usually it starts as sort of a social phobia. You know, people originally will say that they're very social. All of a sudden they start feeling funny in social situations and claustrophobic. And then pretty soon they have trouble going outside and then they start getting depressed and So it's like paranoia. It's anxiety and then followed by depression. And then the LSD, usually there's just this grinding severe depression that kind of comes on slowly. And it will come. It is a destructive chemical to the limbic regions of the brain, the center part of the brain. That's where your mood is generated.

1:14:08 Adam You always say X and LSD are the worst to take because they're destroying your brain.

1:14:13 Stryker Yeah, it has the neurotoxin.

1:14:14 Adam Drew, let me ask you this question.

1:14:15 Caller But we call it E on the west coast.

1:14:17 Caller Yeah, X, E.

1:14:18 Caller E.

1:14:21 Adam You're very etarted, Emily. Is that better?

1:14:23 Caller Huh?

1:14:24 Adam You're acting very etarted.

1:14:25 Caller Etarted.

1:14:27 Adam Right, that's right. Drew.

1:14:28 Caller Yeah?

1:14:29 Adam Doing X once a year for four straight years.

1:14:33 Stryker Maybe nothing. I don't know.

1:14:35 Adam So, it seems...

1:14:36 Stryker Everybody wants to know exactly what the threshold is.

1:14:39 Adam No, I don't want to know exactly, but it seems like a lot of drugs and things like that. If you do them every single day for a year straight, then you're screwed.

1:14:47 Stryker No, with LSD and ecstasy, it seems to be... LSD, it's total dose per use and total exposure per lifetime. Cumulative exposure. With ecstasy, it seems to be cumulative exposure.

1:15:02 Adam What does that mean?

1:15:04 Stryker The total dose you've taken.

1:15:05 Adam So, you've taken 30... Even if it's over 30 years, you've done it 30... It's like the same as doing it in 30 days.

1:15:10 Stryker It seems that way, yeah.

1:15:12 Adam But we don't know for sure yet.

1:15:13 Stryker I can't say that one with accuracy, but it's that kind of idea.

1:15:16 Drew Heroin is the flame.

1:15:17 Caller Heroin is the fuse.

1:15:18 Caller LSD is the bomb.

1:15:21 Adam Suzanne?

1:15:22 Caller Yes?

1:15:22 Adam What's up? You're 21 on Loveline.

1:15:24 Caller Hi. In August, my ex and I, we were sleeping together at the time, and we went to Mexico with one of his good friends, and there was a lot of alcohol involved, and his friend took advantage of me.

1:15:40 Stryker What'd he do?

1:15:42 Caller He slept with me. Well, we slept together, I guess you could say.

1:15:45 Stryker Wait a minute. He took advantage of you?

1:15:46 Adam You made it seem like you were just the innocent bystander.

1:15:48 Stryker Did he rape you?

1:15:49 Caller I wasn't 100% innocent, but...

1:15:51 Stryker Wait, wait. Did he rape you?

1:15:53 Caller Basically, yes.

1:15:55 Stryker He raped you?

1:15:55 Caller Yes.

1:15:56 Stryker Are you just saying that to cover your tush?

1:15:59 Caller No, no. I was told...

1:16:00 Stryker Why didn't you report this?

1:16:04 Caller I don't know. Honestly, I don't know. Have you been raped before?

1:16:07 Stryker Have you been raped before?

1:16:08 Caller No.

1:16:09 Stryker Never?

1:16:09 Adam How is it your fault at all then when I said, do you feel responsible or something like that? You're like, a little bit or something like that. How is it your fault at all then?

1:16:17 Caller I guess.

1:16:18 Stryker I don't know.

1:16:19 Caller I guess just because I wasn't... I guess because...

1:16:22 Stryker I don't know. I don't know. Was this in California this happened?

1:16:25 Caller This was in Mexico.

1:16:26 Stryker Because in California, you can't be intoxicated and render consent. That's a rape if you're really that loaded. Right. So you should report this.

1:16:36 Adam I was in Mexico when it happened.

1:16:38 Stryker These are California citizens, I assume. I don't know how to allow a look at that, but look, this is a serious business.

1:16:45 Adam Do you have a question now?

1:16:48 Caller Well, obviously my ex was really upset with me after this. We were talking about getting back together at that time. We went through a period of not speaking together and then he and I became friends again since then and started sleeping together again. We were talking about getting back together, but it's kind of like been the blocker. You know, well, this happened.

1:17:14 Stryker Are you following this?

1:17:15 Adam Yes.

1:17:16 Stryker Explain it to me.

1:17:17 Adam Okay. They went to Mexico. Who? Her, her boyfriend and his friend.

1:17:22 Stryker But it's her ex-boyfriend.

1:17:23 Adam Well, now it is.

1:17:24 Stryker It was already her ex-boyfriend at that point.

1:17:26 Adam Oh, really?

1:17:26 Caller Yeah. He was my ex at that time, but we were sleeping together.

1:17:29 Adam Ah, but they were sleeping together.

1:17:30 Stryker So what does he care? You were committed.

1:17:32 Adam Yeah.

1:17:34 Caller That was my thing, but we were talking about getting back together.

1:17:36 Adam I don't know.

1:17:37 Caller There was this whole weird thing.

1:17:39 Adam I guess I didn't get it. Now I'm really confused. Suzanne, we have to go.

1:17:43 Stryker And now you're back to the Friends with Benefits relationship.

1:17:46 Caller We were back to the Friends with Benefits.

1:17:47 Caller I got tired of that.

1:17:49 Stryker Yeah, but he wants it. He's back to that now, but he's going to hold you there. This guy's diabolical. He's an idiot. Why do you want to get back with this guy?

1:17:56 Adam Seriously.

1:17:58 Stryker Come on.

1:17:58 Caller The relationship was really good.

1:18:00 Stryker Here's his reaction should have been to his buddy raping you, which is, oh my God, what can I do to help you? Let's take care of this. As opposed to, you promised me that we'd maintain this Friends with Benefit. It would be just a contract with me, me and my penis.

1:18:14 Adam I think the plan was two guys and one girl going to Mexico. Maybe the two guys were thinking two-on-one action going down there.

1:18:21 Stryker This guy's not that bad.

1:18:21 Caller I don't know.

1:18:23 Adam Where was the ex-boyfriend when you were in Mexico getting attacked?

1:18:27 Caller In the same room.

1:18:29 Stryker What?

1:18:29 Adam See? Well, I don't know. I don't know what I see.

1:18:31 Caller I mean, he was totally angry and he was not very happy about it.

1:18:36 Adam He was sitting there watching, yeah?

1:18:37 Caller No, I mean, he was walking through the room and swearing. He was not very happy.

1:18:41 Stryker And you guys went right on about your business?

1:18:43 Caller Well, I mean, I stopped. I was like, I mean, I was like, you know, I got a mop of me and I was trying to console my ex and he wasn't having any of it and I was in tears.

1:18:53 Stryker Suzanne, was this a rape or not?

1:18:56 Caller I would say so.

1:18:58 Adam With another guy in the room watching, then he should be responsible as well.

1:19:02 Stryker That's right. Well, you better do something about this.

1:19:05 Adam And don't get back together with him.

1:19:06 Stryker You've never had anything like this happen to you ever before?

1:19:08 Caller No.

1:19:08 Stryker You've never been taken advantage of?

1:19:10 Caller I've never been that drunk in my entire life.

1:19:11 Stryker You've never been sexually abused? You've never been taken advantage of and victimized in any way?

1:19:15 Caller No.

1:19:17 Stryker It seems to me you've got to take some action. You seem pretty nice to me. Stay away from both these guys. That's just a mess. Why do you put up with that? Why do you compromise yourself with this friends with benefit relationship that does nothing for you?

1:19:29 Caller I ended the actual friends with benefits a couple months ago. We've been friends and he's been kind of wanting to benefit again.

1:19:38 Stryker He's friends because he knows if he keeps pushing the friend thing, the benefits come with it.

1:19:42 Adam You're going to give in.

1:19:43 Stryker It's not a friend. It is not a friend. Come on.

1:19:47 Adam All right, Suzanne.

1:19:48 Caller Okay.

1:19:50 Adam Don't go doing anything stupid. Don't go chasing waterfalls as TLC said five years ago. I don't even know what that means. Thank you, Suzanne.

1:19:57 Caller Thank you.

1:19:57 Adam All right. We have to take a break here in Loveline. I'm Stryker for Ace Rockolla along with Drew. When we get back, we're going to speak to a lady. She wants to know why she can't have multiple orgasms. Earlier, we spoke to a lady that can't have any orgasms. Maybe we'll put them together and then the waterfalls will really flow. Lauren Loveline.

1:20:13 Caller Oh, we're back on the air.

1:20:17 Adam We're back on Loveline.

1:20:20 Caller Listen, listen, listen.

1:20:22 Adam You're in New Orleans right now. Look for Corolla and Jimmy walking around. You're free in LA. Dr. Drew and I are here. I'm Stryker. That's right.

1:20:29 Caller At Loveline.

1:20:30 Adam A few minutes left here at 2800. Love 191. There's something good we're going to go to.

1:20:35 Caller Oh, the multiple orgasm lady.

1:20:36 Drew Yes.

1:20:37 Adam God, you are greedy. Adrienne?

1:20:40 Caller Yes.

1:20:40 Adam You're 26? All right. Go ahead.

1:20:44 Caller All right. Thanks, first of all, for talking to me. I've had this problem all my life, I guess, since I've known. And...

1:20:53 Stryker You've had a problem all your life?

1:20:55 Caller Well, just the fact that I can't have multiple orgasms.

1:20:57 Stryker Well, neither can Stryker, neither can I.

1:21:00 Caller Well, I realize that. And I am sorry for you, but I hear all my friends talk about this.

1:21:06 Stryker Well, some women can have them and some women don't.

1:21:08 Caller So there's nothing I can do about this?

1:21:11 Stryker You may not be wired that way.

1:21:12 Adam The Kama Sutra.

1:21:13 Stryker No, you just may not be wired that way. You can try the shower, the mobile shower head stuff, and you can try vibrators, but...

1:21:24 Adam Is it one good enough?

1:21:26 Stryker It should be.

1:21:27 Caller Adrian?

1:21:28 Caller Not always.

1:21:29 Stryker Well, do you have a partner?

1:21:32 Caller No.

1:21:33 Stryker Maybe that's really more the problem. You know?

1:21:37 Caller Well, I just got rid of my partner. So that's not the problem. He wasn't doing it for me, but that wasn't the problem either. So I just... I don't know if it's... I mean, it can't be one partner if it's been all of them, you know?

1:21:53 Stryker Yeah, but maybe a more satisfying relationship and the number of orgasms become less important.

1:21:59 Adam Does multiple mean one after another or like five and ten minutes?

1:22:03 Stryker No, it means one power popper. No refractions.

1:22:05 Caller Oh, okay.

1:22:07 Caller Once I do orgasm, I immediately have to urinate, actually. It's real sensitive and I have to...

1:22:14 Stryker Adrienne, what is up with you? First of all, you sound very angry.

1:22:18 Caller No, I'm fine.

1:22:18 Stryker Have you been able to have relationships, stable relationships?

1:22:21 Caller Oh yeah, I've had many.

1:22:23 Stryker Many. And any successful ones that last for a few years?

1:22:27 Caller The last I was in was two years and the one before that was four years.

1:22:31 Stryker And how have they been?

1:22:34 Caller Pretty successful.

1:22:36 Stryker You're not with alcoholics or addicts or become abusive?

1:22:39 Caller The first was an addict.

1:22:42 Stryker What was your family of origin like?

1:22:45 Caller I actually come from a family of addicts.

1:22:47 Stryker Okay.

1:22:48 Adam That's why you're dating addicts.

1:22:49 Stryker Yeah, of course.

1:22:50 Adam As Drew was about to say.

1:22:51 Caller My last wasn't.

1:22:54 Stryker Are you an addict?

1:22:55 Caller No, I don't think so.

1:22:57 Stryker Have you ever had any momentum with chemicals or drugs?

1:23:00 Caller Well, I do smoke cigarettes.

1:23:02 Stryker No, no, no. But there is really a real disconnect with you, Adrienne. That's all I can tell you. I don't know if because of the coming from an alcoholic family system, it can be very difficult sometimes to connect emotionally and intimately with people. Did you ever go to Al-Anon? Do you ever have any therapy?

1:23:21 Caller I've been to AA, yeah.

1:23:23 Stryker So you've gone to AA yourself? So you're an alcoholic?

1:23:26 Caller No. I had a friend that was in AA and I was smoking a lot of pot at the time and she told me that it would probably be good even though it's AA that I could go with her.

1:23:38 Stryker But there's really something going on with you, Adrienne. You've got a disconnect going on. Whether or not you're an addict, I can't tell, but you certainly are the product of an alcoholic family and you're manifesting these sort of typical phenomenon that children of alcoholics have, which is very deep, sometimes it's rage and anger, difficulty with trusting, difficulty connecting. And when you aren't really in a real relationship, what else is there to worry about but how many orgasms you're having? That is not normal. That is a sign that there's something really ungratifying and inadequate in your interpersonal life.

1:24:08 Adam I don't think I've heard anyone on the show call to complain that she can't have more than one at a time. Do you have many calls like that? No. I can only have one every ten minutes and I want more for the love of God. There's a man who has a question I'd like to know the answer to. Jason, you're 32. Actually, no. I think I'm going for distance, not your actual question. Go ahead.

1:24:29 Caller Well, distance is part of my question. Hi, Dr. Drew and Stryker. Hello. Dr. Drew, I don't know if this has been asked before. I've never heard it on your show. I'm wondering how I get more volume and more intensity to my ejaculation, also meaning distance.

1:24:46 Adam You know who the cannon is, the porn star, aka Peter North?

1:24:49 Caller Oh, yeah, yeah.

1:24:50 Adam Is that guy not the king?

1:24:52 Caller I thought he was the North Pole. I didn't know he was the cannon.

1:24:55 Adam Thank you. That's the nickname that I gave him along with my friend Chris Wilcox.

1:24:59 Caller All right, okay. Yeah, but that's what I mean.

1:25:01 Caller I see that kind of stuff and I am not like that and I wish that I was.

1:25:04 Stryker A cannon? A question?

1:25:06 Caller Pardon me?

1:25:07 Adam How can he shoot out more?

1:25:08 Stryker No, no, I have a question.

1:25:09 Adam Oh, yeah.

1:25:10 Stryker Why?

1:25:12 Caller Yeah, how? Well, I don't know, why or how could I?

1:25:15 Adam No, no, why do you want more? Drew wants to know.

1:25:18 Caller Oh, because I think it would be more exciting for me and probably my partner. I think it looks cool.

1:25:26 Stryker I agree with you.

1:25:28 Adam Drew, ask me the questions too. I'm with this guy.

1:25:32 Stryker We're calling her wife.

1:25:33 Adam Just take it easy.

1:25:34 Caller I'm not married. I'm not married.

1:25:37 Stryker As usual, most guys, their concept... Anne, back me up on this. Anne, where are you?

1:25:44 Adam Drew, it's more for fun. He's not super serious, right, Jason?

1:25:48 Stryker Back me up.

1:25:49 Caller I'm not backed up about this. I don't feel inadequate. I just think it would be cool.

1:25:53 Stryker What would be cool? Hang on here, Jason. To a partner, Anne. What in the world would be good about this? And correct me if I'm wrong.

1:26:01 Caller There's nothing appealing about more com.

1:26:03 Stryker Nothing, right? Nothing. It's like more, I mean, fill in the blank, disgusting fluid.

1:26:11 Caller More snot.

1:26:12 Stryker Yeah, more snot. It's got to be good, then. Okay. Listen, most guys have these weird impulses where things to women need to translate to yuck or out become things you want to do more of.

1:26:25 Caller That's good to hear though what Anne said because I've never had this conversation with a woman about this but that's good to hear because that makes me feel a little better about it.

1:26:34 Adam But it's more of a game I play with myself. I like to see how much flies out of there each time.

1:26:38 Caller Yeah, it would be cool. It would be cool.

1:26:40 Stryker Eventually, Stryker, your soul will emerge, I'm sure. It'll just come flying out of there.

1:26:45 Adam And I don't think, I don't agree with Jason that the girl likes it more. I wasn't on that side of the fence at all. I didn't say that either, by the way. I just think it's cool.

1:26:52 Stryker So.

1:26:54 Caller Well, I didn't know if she would or not. I just thought it might be more of a climactic event, you know, just a little bit of a presentation. Are you insider?

1:27:02 Stryker Yeah, you're insider. What's the difference it make?

1:27:04 Caller Well, no, not every time.

1:27:06 Caller Sometimes you share.

1:27:07 Adam And sometimes he like kneels above her head and tries to get it to the toes.

1:27:10 Caller You share?

1:27:12 Caller Yeah, sometimes it's sharing the event or the moment. It's something that both of you can do.

1:27:17 Adam Come on, honey, let's see if we can get in the belly button tonight.

1:27:20 Stryker I mean.

1:27:20 Caller I'm sure if she's going down on you, the more the better.

1:27:25 Stryker Hands being facetious, okay?

1:27:28 Adam She can use it as a water pick, my friend. Jason, thanks for calling, man.

1:27:33 Caller Hey, can I give Dr. Drew a comment? Sure. I saw you today only part of your interview, and I don't know if it was on Fox News or MSNBC or what it was. And I didn't really agree with your take on the condom thing.

1:27:47 Stryker Okay.

1:27:47 Caller But I didn't see all of it, but I think it's unaccountable for us to just hand everybody condoms. I think that those people who come over should bring their own and be prepared. And I know you said that people from the Netherlands or elsewhere come from the US.

1:28:01 Stryker I'm still talking to him.

1:28:02 Caller No one has any idea what he's talking about.

1:28:03 Stryker I did a news talk show today.

1:28:04 Caller Oh yeah. I guess you'll have to explain that. Anyway, I didn't really agree with your take, although I do respect all the stuff you said.

1:28:10 Stryker The discussion became unfocused. Wait, wait. Let me talk to him for a second. He started talking about other countries and AIDS risks and this kind of thing. The point is that there's a first aid center there that provides first aid and amongst the things that they can access for free is condoms. That's the whole thing. Many religious groups are outraged that young people could be allowed to have sex. That's what the discussion was. Jason, you called asking about shooting out a bunch more. Come, relax, buddy. We're trying to get young people not to have sex and to practice safe sex if they decide to.

1:28:47 Caller Yeah, I agree with that.

1:28:48 Stryker That's all that was.

1:28:49 Caller I didn't want it to be a huge handout for people to come over and have a big screw fest over at the Olympics.

1:28:54 Stryker No, that's not the point. Jason.

1:28:56 Caller Hey, I appreciate it.

1:28:57 Adam Wait, hold on. Jason. Hold your wiener as long as humanly possible before you shoot and that's how you get your distance.

1:29:04 Caller Cool. Hold it.

1:29:05 Adam It's like a hose. You hold that thing.

1:29:07 Caller All right.

1:29:07 Adam All right. Later, dude. Thank you. All right. Let's try to get a quick call in here. Number two. Hey, Katie 20, something about pubic hair. What's your question?

1:29:15 Caller Hi, Dr. Drew.

1:29:17 Stryker Hi, Stryker. Love the show. Okay, well, I have this question and I don't know. I've tried to find information on it everywhere, but I want to remove all my pubic hair so I can look like a porn star, just be all smooth and like, you know, you know what I mean? And I tried waxing, you know, the top part of it, which worked, you know, and it's a little bit irritated, but I know it'll get better in a couple of days.

1:29:41 Stryker So you took off your pubic hair?

1:29:43 Stryker Well, only the top part of it, but I still have some on the list and I want to get rid of all of it because it just disgusts me and I just hate it.

1:29:50 Adam We need a porn star to tell us the exact technique to get it down below.

1:29:52 Caller It disgusts you and you hate it.

1:29:54 Stryker That's interesting. Were you sexually abused?

1:29:56 Stryker Um, no.

1:29:58 Adam Do you watch a lot of porn?

1:29:59 Stryker Wait a minute.

1:30:00 Adam What?

1:30:02 Stryker What does that mean?

1:30:04 Stryker No, I wasn't. I did have some bad situations. But that's when I was older and it was like bad choices by me.

1:30:13 Stryker So you were raped or something?

1:30:15 Stryker No, I wasn't raped but I was planning to be a virgin until I got married. I think a lot of people cry rape and I was drunk. And I do think that it was kind of wrong to just have sex with me when I was drunk and it was my first time drinking but it wasn't rape. I was conscious and everything but after that I slept with a lot of people and I just…

1:30:41 Stryker Well it sounds like you got a little stuff going on there and you're disgusted by your normal anatomy. You got some feelings about all this and that's more what concerns me than whether you're actually able to remove hair.

1:30:53 Adam There's a product called NADS I see like at three in the morning.

1:30:56 Stryker Yeah but you can't put it down there.

1:30:57 Adam No you cannot.

1:30:58 Stryker Katie, there's something else going on in that so you need to take care of it. You're going to keep making bad choices so you reconcile the self-loathing.

1:31:05 Stryker Well I don't know how because I'm happily married right now but I don't know how to get over the past.

1:31:11 Stryker Well then people can help you with that. I suggest you take advantage of that.

1:31:15 Stryker Well who?

1:31:18 Stryker Do you have a doctor?

1:31:20 Stryker No.

1:31:20 Stryker Do you have a waxer? Get a referral to a therapist. Get a referral to a therapist. It's not a difficult problem for somebody to help you with, okay?

1:31:27 Stryker We'll be right back. Is there anything I can do to take, because I mean it's like Katie, Katie, Katie, we have to go because we are 100% of the time. Okay, love you guys.

1:31:37 Adam Alright, thanks Katie. Alright, we've got to do a quick break, more Loveline after this. All right, that's going to do it for tonight's Loveline. I'm going to talk to Drew Stryker. Thank you guys for being so cool and hanging out. Sunday will be best of on Super Bowl Sunday, but then Monday is going to be cool. Jason Schwartzman is going to be here. He's got that new movie coming out, Slackers. He's in a band. The band will be here. We'll play music, we'll hang out. His mom, Talia Shire, will not be here.

1:32:12 Stryker Interesting.

1:32:13 Adam I don't know what she's going to be doing. But that's it. So have a good Super Bowl Sunday, have a good weekend. I'll be filling in for Ace Rockolla once again on Monday night. So we'll talk to you then. Cool. Is that good?

1:32:23 Stryker Yeah.

1:32:24 Adam Alright, for Dr. Drew, I am Stryker and I am saying adios, senor, I do not have a crooked penis. What?

1:32:29 Stryker See?

1:32:29 Adam See? Well, I don't know. I don't know what I see.

1:32:32 Caller This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff management sponsors for this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Engel. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.

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