Episode 1000602664371

0:54 Voiceover Loveline may contain sexually oriented content.

1:00 Love Line with Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew.

1:02 Drew Alright, home field advantage for me finally, Dr. Drew.

1:07 Stryker How's that?

1:08 Drew Whenever I fill in for Ace Rockolla, this is Stryker by the way, along with Dr. Drew, who's a board certified physician, addiction specialist. Yes, thank you Anderson. Normally it's done at the other building, the old building where you guys were at.

1:19 Stryker Well, now we're at home?

1:20 Drew Now I have home field advantage. I'm used to this seat. I'm used to this counter.

1:24 Stryker This is not your studio though.

1:26 Drew But it's the exact same as the one I use eight feet away. Okay, good, that's good. What's up everybody?

1:31 Stryker Stryker.

1:32 Drew I'm with Dr. Drew and Loveline.

1:34 Stryker You having fun?

1:35 Drew I'm having fun.

1:35 Stryker You ever been on the radio before?

1:36 Drew No.

1:37 Stryker Behave like you haven't.

1:38 Drew You know why?

1:39 Stryker Unacceptable.

1:40 Drew Because I sat at home all night bored by myself.

1:44 Stryker Tonight?

1:44 Drew Doing nothing, just waiting for nine o'clock to hit so I could drive here. I wish I had something to do tonight. St. Patrick's Day, I'm dressed in green.

1:51 Stryker Yes you are.

1:51 Drew My mohawk is messed up from the headphones.

1:53 Stryker What's with the mohawk?

1:54 Drew What do you mean? It's been like this for two months.

1:56 Stryker I meant to ask you.

1:57 Drew What's with it? I'm rebelling against your kids. Also, do you know the story about guests and what happened and everything? Okay, first of all you guys, there's no guests tonight.

2:07 Stryker Nerd was scheduled?

2:09 Drew The band, NERD?

2:10 Stryker Yeah.

2:10 Drew Not that I know of.

2:11 Stryker That's what was on the, anyway, tell me what happened.

2:13 Drew All right, well first, tomorrow night System of a Down's gonna be here.

2:15 Stryker Oh, that's cool.

2:16 Drew I talked to John from System. Him and Shava are coming by tomorrow night. So, producer Ann says to me, once I found out Adam couldn't come in, who do you want on the show?

2:25 Stryker Yeah, you basically said like, Cameron Diaz.

2:27 Drew No, no, I go, Ben Affleck or Vince Vaughn. She looked at me like, you're an idiot. I'm like, I know. How about either of them?

2:37 Stryker How about trying?

2:38 Drew I have a connection with both of them.

2:39 Stryker What's the connection?

2:40 Drew New Year's Eve, Las Vegas, me, J.Lo, Ben Affleck, gambling.

2:44 Stryker Oh, that's right, I remember that.

2:45 Drew In the middle of the night.

2:46 Stryker You told me that.

2:46 Drew And I bothered him so bad. That's probably why he's not doing this. Even though you're a doctor, addiction, medicine specialist, I was very drunk, but I was very funny. And I was annoying him and even annoying J.Lo more. And he'll never come on the show with me now, probably.

3:02 Who cares?

3:04 Drew Anderson, when I see you playing centipede next time, I'm kicking you in the nuts. Then Vince Vaughn. Okay, anyway, so I went for A plus plus plus guests. So we ended up with just you and me.

3:15 Stryker So what you're saying is they turned you down flat.

3:17 Drew That's right.

3:17 Stryker They aren't interested.

3:18 Drew That's right. You know what? I'm sure the publicist never even got to him. Right.

3:23 Stryker Although I saw Larry King last night. I was over there and he did not mention your name.

3:28 Drew Ben didn't know Ben Affleck. Look, you're back to the blue collar guy we like. You got this cool movie, the Kevin Smith film coming out. Swing by Culver City right now. That will go out for St. Patrick's Day. He's back off the wagon or is it on the wagon?

3:40 Stryker I'm not sure he's on.

3:43 Drew I don't know which one he is. He's a good guy. We need to take phone calls. Is that what this show is? 1-800-LOVE-191. I'm Stryker, Ace Rockolla coming back soon. Along with Drew, we go to Jerrica.

3:57 Stryker Amanda, 24.

3:58 Drew Amanda, you're 24. Where's your sticky so I know where we're going?

4:01 Stryker You'll see the white right there.

4:03 Drew Oh, white. I see that's about white. Amanda, 24, what's up? Forget it. I'm here.

4:12 Stryker Let's go. By the way, we're going to Was it you or was it me by myself? No, me and David Allen Grier. We went through like 35 calls in one night. Let's try to top that tonight.

4:24 Drew Is he going to cure some babies?

4:26 Stryker Am I going to what? Anderson.

4:28 Anderson. Let's save some babies.

4:32 Drew Thank you. Alright, go ahead, Amanda.

4:33 Adam Okay, I just had a question about it. Is this for Dr. Drew?

4:40 Stryker Yeah, yeah, please, please go right ahead.

4:43 Adam I got confused.

4:44 Just do it!

4:47 Stryker Here we go.

4:48 Stryker Here we go.

4:50 Adam I'm speaking. Okay. My husband is a construction worker and sometimes he comes home and he, I mean, we live in Texas, so it gets really sweaty. I mean, he gets really sweaty and it's really hot and he smells like a woman.

5:12 Stryker Really?

5:12 Down below the belt.

5:15 Stryker Could he be seeing a woman?

5:18 Adam I have girlfriends who also have husbands as construction workers and they say that they go through the same thing. So I don't know if that's normal. Like if a man smells like that.

5:34 Stryker It's normal for guys that are seeing women. They're stepping out.

5:38 Drew To smell like the women. But you said he smells like it below the belt.

5:42 Yeah.

5:43 Drew Wouldn't your neck and chest and face area smell like the woman?

5:48 Stryker No, he doesn't mean, she doesn't mean like perfume.

5:50 Drew Oh, she means like the triangle thing. We can't say words anymore and I don't want the one that causes Loveline to go down.

5:58 Stryker Please.

5:58 Drew But the thing below the equator, above the thighs?

6:00 Stryker Yeah, he's not talking about the smell of cosmetics and perfume.

6:06 Drew First of all, construction worker husband, Adam would be going nuts right now.

6:10 Stryker Yeah, because he would say that construction workers are inclined to do this kind of thing.

6:13 Drew Yes, exactly.

6:14 Stryker Number one. Number two, perhaps, here's the only, what is it you're basing your sense of what this smell represents upon? Do you smell like yourself? Have you smelled other women?

6:31 Adam It smells like, it's hard to explain, not like a...

6:38 Stryker But where have you encountered this? How do you know what that smell is?

6:42 Adam Because when he's come home from work...

6:44 Stryker Yeah, but that's on him. How do you know what you're smelling?

6:48 Adam Well, when he's come home from work, I've gone, you know, and tried to, you know, make him relax.

6:57 Drew Drew, please put this on hold for one sec. I beg of you. Why do you smell like that?

7:04 Stryker Like that? Like that?

7:06 Drew Yes, answer the question.

7:08 Twinkie hole, baby!

7:12 Drew Amanda, put her back on. Amanda, the question is this. What are you basing this smell upon? Why do you say a woman's smell? The man sweats all day, hammering nails, 2x4s.

7:27 Adam Everybody knows what a woman smells like down there.

7:33 Drew There's different scents, by the way.

7:34 Stryker Yeah, there's all kinds of different things.

7:36 Adam That's why I'm kind of confused. Because he's the second person that I've ever been with.

7:42 Stryker So how would you possibly know?

7:46 Adam But I don't know how other, you know, how like other women smell.

7:51 Stryker I think you're just confused. He just smells bad. And listen, before you should be, yeah, before you're exposing, before you're exposing yourself to that part of his body, make him take a bath, for God's sakes. Amanda, my goodness, 24.

8:07 Drew Yeah, she only been with two guys, though.

8:09 Stryker I know Adam would ask her what junior college she went to.

8:11 Drew Well, she didn't go to junior college at all. Or college. Going with the construction work. Amanda, how many kids do you have?

8:18 Adam I have one.

8:20 Drew And how long have you been married?

8:23 Adam We haven't. We were not married.

8:25 Drew No more kids, Amanda. Put it on hold. Tie up the tubes. The only hammering your man's going to be doing is on the scaffold.

8:31 Stryker Junior college?

8:35 Adam I know y'all are going to just nail into me.

8:38 Drew No.

8:42 Adam I believe that if you have children, you stay at home and you raise them until they're ready to go to school.

8:46 Stryker Right. You have children after you've finished your education.

8:50 Drew And after marriage.

8:52 Adam I graduated high school.

8:54 Stryker Okay, well that's...

8:55 Drew No way.

8:56 Stryker What?

8:57 Drew That is crazy, Dr. Drew.

9:00 Stryker This is Nick who's 18. We've got to get through a lot of calls.

9:02 Drew Well, can you use the sticky?

9:05 Stryker Nick, what's up? 18.

9:08 What's up? All right. Yeah, I got a problem with sleep paralysis.

9:15 Stryker And?

9:15 Yeah.

9:16 Stryker Go ahead.

9:17 Yeah. So basically, like, I'll wake up, but I can't move.

9:23 Stryker You said you have sleep paralysis. What can we do for you?

9:26 Well, I just want to know how I can get rid of it.

9:29 Stryker Well, we don't know what it's due to yet. Why don't you have it evaluated?

9:33 Can I just go to my doctor and get it by him?

9:35 Stryker Yes. Go to your doctor. You need to have maybe a sleep study. You may need to have an EEG done. Sleep paralysis can be a seizure symptom. It can be a post-traumatic stress reaction. It can be a lot of different things. It's just like saying, I have a fever. How do I get rid of it? It's a symptom.

9:49 Drew What is that? You go to sleep, you wake up, you're stuck?

9:51 Stryker You're frozen. You're frozen solid.

9:53 Drew Really?

9:53 Stryker You can see calicrine kind of where you were stranded, but you can't budge.

9:56 Drew That seems like it would be cool maybe once.

9:58 Stryker Horrible.

9:58 Drew Once every few months.

9:59 Stryker Sometimes it's horrifying. Alright.

10:01 Drew Jessica, you're 16.

10:02 Stryker Jessica. Nicole.

10:03 Drew Nicole. Drew, can I call it out and then you push the button? We should have discussed this before the show started.

10:08 Stryker Let's start with Nicole. 21.

10:09 Drew Nicole, 21.

10:10 Caller Hi there. I'm about three and a half months pregnant. And I've noticed that after I masturbate and have an orgasm, you know that fat push that some girls have around their belly button? Mm-hmm.

10:22 Drew I certainly do.

10:24 Caller That's something I've always had. But I've noticed that after I have an orgasm, it's like that gets hard. And I'm wondering if that's the baby that's jumping up in there for some reason.

10:36 Drew How long into pregnancy can you have sex, Drew?

10:38 Stryker All the way to the end, if it's a no-risk pregnancy, if there's nothing going on unusually. But here's the two possibilities from my standpoint. One is that it's just your abdominal malmusculature that's sort of pushed forward by the baby. You can feel it now. And I've always had that muscular tension there after orgasm. Or you're having some labor type, some uterine contractions, which are really sort of what are called Braxton Hicks contractions.

11:05 Drew I don't know what you're talking about.

11:06 Stryker These are the muscles around the outside of the uterus contract. But you should talk to your obstetrician. What is going on tonight?

11:13 Drew We have some weird calls. Have you noticed how light it is outside tonight? Even though it's nighttime. Why is it so light out? And last night also.

11:20 Bright moon.

11:21 Drew Bright moon?

11:21 I guess.

11:23 Drew Are you wearing green? You are wearing green. What are you doing after work? Do you want to go out with me tonight? No. Seriously, forget the kids at home.

11:29 Stryker I got to work at first thing in the morning. So do I.

11:31 Drew No, no. What time do you have to get out?

11:33 Stryker Six thirty.

11:34 Drew And? Oh, okay. Dude. I got to get up at six thirty p.m. Come on, Drew, please. I beg of you. Call out a line. Jerrica. Jerrica. Sixteen. What's up there?

11:45 Adam Well, I'm kind of secretly dating my best friend's brother. And we've been together for a couple of months. But we don't want her to know because I told her once before that I liked him and she didn't like that idea.

12:04 How old is he?

12:06 Stryker How old is he?

12:08 Adam He's eighteen.

12:09 Drew Does he go to your school?

12:10 Adam No.

12:11 Drew Have you had sex with him?

12:13 Adam Yeah.

12:16 Drew And you think your friend's going to...

12:18 Adam One time in her bed.

12:20 Drew That is awesome. I love this show, Dr. Drew. That's what I love about it. Every night driving home. So you're afraid your friend's going to freak out because you're having sex with her brother?

12:34 Adam And well, because I told her that I liked him and she didn't like that, so I really don't think that she would like that we're together.

12:40 Drew Why would she care if you were hanging out with the brother?

12:42 Stryker I'm actually a little more disturbed that the brother doesn't want to come clean about it, because to me it makes it mean that he's sort of clandestine and maybe he's up to other no good with other of her friends or other girls at least.

12:53 Adam I don't think it's that.

12:55 Stryker I think it's always best to come clean about these kinds of things. I mean, it's not like you're living with a physically abusive homophobic dad and you're afraid to come home and talk about your sexual orientation. This is your best friend and you're hiding out from her, you're going to ruin the relationship because you're withholding an important piece of your life from her. Her brother should want her to sort of to know about it and get out of his hair.

13:17 Drew Maybe you should talk to your 18 year old boyfriend who is 18 by the way and ask him to mention it to his sister what's going on and maybe she won't freak out.

13:28 Stryker That's actually legal in California. Legal? Legal. Wait, if you're older but within two or three years you're okay.

13:35 Drew So you're saying I could go out with a?

13:37 Stryker A 37 year old.

13:39 Right.

13:41 Drew Well if I'm 20 I could go out the 17 year old. I'm not 20 of course.

13:46 Stryker I think that's the law.

13:47 Drew That can't be the law.

13:48 Stryker Where's the, get my black book.

13:50 Drew Get the black book. Perez is in here hanging out.

13:52 Stryker All right here's Jesse.

13:54 Drew Is that a new law?

13:55 Stryker It's been around for a couple years.

13:56 Drew Really?

13:57 Stryker Jesse 16.

13:57 Drew What was that a long time ago? I would have gotten so much more then. Jesse. 16 what's up?

14:04 Stryker Hold on my mom's in the room.

14:08 Stryker That is good times.

14:09 Drew All I know is that I think she wants to talk about giant boobs which I like. I'm sorry but boobs are good.

14:17 Stryker Well let's talk about age and consent first.

14:19 Drew Drew has this black book you guys with and it's you know he's a doctor. He should be organized. That's the most unorganized looking notebook I've ever seen there.

14:26 Stryker This is these are questionnaires.

14:28 Drew Relax and find out what it is. All right here you guys go.

14:32 Stryker It's 18 but doesn't talk about that two or three.

14:35 Drew You rat bastard dudes that are 20 that now can comb the high schools.

14:39 Stryker So what's going on Jesse? Can you talk yet?

14:46 Drew I hope not. All right go ahead Jesse what's up?

14:49 Stryker I'm 16 and I have like D cups. Is that like normal?

14:54 You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

14:57 Stryker D cups?

14:57 Drew Hold on Drew I'm taking this.

14:59 Stryker Relax Stryker you guys are shaking me. You all right?

15:01 Drew I love D cups. You don't understand.

15:03 Stryker Look at him.

15:04 Drew D cups rule. How much do you weigh?

15:07 Stryker Um.

15:08 Drew What?

15:09 Stryker I hate it when people ask that question.

15:12 Drew Well that will determine whether you need a reduction or not I would think. I mean if you're at 200 pounds with a D breast.

15:16 Stryker You should just lose weight. Yeah. No, no, no, no.

15:20 Stryker I'm like 125, 130.

15:23 Drew Fantastic. Playboy is right off Beverly Glenn.

15:28 Stryker Actually, I kind of want to do that.

15:30 Stryker Do you smoke a lot of pot?

15:32 Stryker No.

15:33 Stryker OK.

15:33 Drew The laugh is pot.

15:34 Stryker You got a little bit of a pot laugh.

15:35 Drew I definitely agree.

15:37 Stryker You don't smoke a lot of pot? I mean I haven't recently.

15:40 Stryker I bet you were a regular smoker for a while there huh?

15:45 Drew Listen Santa Barbara.

15:46 Stryker I know but don't think it hasn't changed you. We could hear it.

15:50 Drew There it is right there.

15:54 Stryker Medication for what? Antidepressant. Well that could be still the pot doing all the thing.

16:00 Drew Boobs, depressed, pot smoker. You'll have kids within a year.

16:05 Stryker Here's the thing about 36D at 16 is A, the girls start treating you differently. They start sort of shunning you and closing you out and treating you as though that you're sort of a out of control presence. Guys will not look at your eyes anymore and will also start objectifying you. And this is they're trying to come to terms with dealing with all this too. You're unfortunately the one that has this, has to live with it. But it will hopefully be something you see as an asset someday.

16:32 Drew Does your back hurt?

16:37 Stryker Because of because of the breasts, I think it I think it like adds to it.

16:42 Stryker But yeah, it does add to it.

16:43 Stryker Yeah.

16:44 Stryker All right. So there's that. What else going on?

16:48 Stryker Hold on.

16:49 Stryker Oh, mom's back.

16:50 Drew Put her on hold for a second.

16:51 Stryker Put you on hold.

16:52 Drew She says she can't even say.

16:54 Stryker She has. Yeah.

16:56 Stryker I think like it's weird that you said that the girls will start shutting me because that's like the opposite of me. They like are interested in like touching. I'm like, like I swear, like I have like I was at the pool with my friend and she was just like, dude, you have big kids. I'm like, guys are just like, I mean, they all like look, but they'll just kind of be like, well, I don't see.

17:23 Stryker How come this man is trying to be respectful. They're trying not to, you know, they their eyes, they can't like control their eyes. They're like magnets. Right. But they but they also try to be respectful. I don't understand your girlfriends violating your physical boundaries.

17:37 Drew Well, they're saying they're jealous. They're seeing these big things on a girl that's a what? Lesbian.

17:46 Stryker You have a lot of lesbian friends.

17:48 Stryker But it's like they have really small boobs.

17:52 Stryker Yeah. But listen, listen, that listen, I interpret that as something different than you do. This is not just, oh, well, they're lesbians. So they just want to touch. That's OK, because they're lesbians. No, to me, that is somebody who has very poor boundaries, who's had their own boundaries violated, probably sexually. And that's why they've sort of confused their sexual orientation. And now they're violating your boundaries by touching you.

18:15 Drew Just because they want to touch the breasts?

18:17 Stryker Listen, I'm telling you, that is not appropriate behavior. And for her to sort of sort of brushed off, like, we're the lesbians. Hey, the guys are straight. They might reach over, too. It's not OK for them to do that either.

18:29 Drew So you're never taking a shower at the YMCA, Drew. And, you know, maybe you've got a big package on there.

18:35 Stryker Yeah, and some guys like, Dr. Drew, look at that.

18:37 You're like a donkey, Dr. Drew.

18:38 Drew Let me get a grab of that little thing, a.k.a. big thing in the cold water, Mr. Pinsky. Yeah, you beat them up.

18:46 Stryker FCC, yes.

18:46 Drew Yeah, definitely. I see what you're saying.

18:49 Stryker Well, but the point is, Jesse, why don't you see these boundary issues? What's up with you? What kind of situation were you raised in?

18:57 Stryker Not very well.

18:58 Stryker What happened?

19:00 Stryker Do you want the whole story?

19:03 Stryker Give me the cliff notes.

19:07 Stryker My dad left us. We lived on the streets for a while. My mom married this other guy who's total pervert.

19:17 Stryker Did he abuse you sexually?

19:18 Stryker Well, he tried, but my sister would take my place.

19:21 Stryker And she'd get abused?

19:22 Stryker Yeah.

19:23 Stryker Did you have to watch that?

19:24 Stryker No, I heard it though.

19:26 Stryker Oh, my God. That's enough, right? That's enough.

19:31 Stryker Well, yeah.

19:32 Stryker I assume there's more. No wonder you're smoking pots to try to deal with these overwhelming traumas.

19:35 Drew And on the Zoloft.

19:37 Stryker And the Zoloft. And you need therapy, therapy, therapy, Jesse. You really do. Or at least, if it's something you can't afford, look into some 12-Step because that's another, getting that relationship with the sponsor going, building those relationships, another way of dealing with the same thing.

19:51 Drew We go to that one, Sarah. Sarah, 25. What's up?

19:57 Adam A couple weeks ago, I had to take the emergency contraceptive pills and I had my period started about a week ago and they usually only last two days but it's been a week and I haven't stopped bleeding.

20:11 Stryker That can happen. Do you have any abdominal pain, pelvic pain?

20:17 Adam No.

20:18 Stryker Because one of the things you worry about is that maybe you actually got pregnant and then you're having now like an ectopic pregnancy and that's why the bleeding.

20:24 That's a concern, yeah.

20:27 Stryker And to have irregular periods, persistent bleeding, no period, all that is very, very common after taking emergency contraception but that should settle down in a week, certainly within two weeks.

20:37 Adam Well, no, my period just started a week ago, it's just after ten years of two day periods and now it's been a week.

20:45 Drew That's it, two day periods?

20:47 Stryker Yeah, you're lucky.

20:48 Drew Well, that seems like a small amount.

20:49 Stryker No, this is good. But you should definitely settle down. I mean, it shouldn't go on for more than, I mean, two weeks would be too long, okay? You have persistent bleeding for a week, no big deal, as long as you don't have any pelvic pain.

21:00 Drew I have questions about the emergency contraceptive pill, Dr. Drew. Within how many hours or days must a woman take it for it to be effective?

21:08 Stryker Seventy-two hours, classically. The sooner you take it, the more effective and you take it in the first 24 hours, it's up to 85 or 90% effective and there have been some studies that show you can take it up to five days out.

21:20 Drew But that's gambling if you wait five days.

21:22 Stryker You really want to take in the first two days if you can.

21:24 Drew Really?

21:25 Stryker Why?

21:26 Drew I'm just curious. Hey, I'm out there, man.

21:31 You never know.

21:32 Drew What? Why are you looking at me like that?

21:35 Stryker Did he like shoot up for a camera today or something?

21:37 Drew No, I did not. I'm happy to be out of the house. I watched six episodes of Seinfeld, I didn't have to work in the daytime today. I worked out like crazy and ran six miles running around, taking a shower. It's St. Patrick's Day. I swear to God, I'm on nothing. I don't do that. I'm drinking.

21:51 Stryker You got the black fingernail part. I've told you that's a sign.

21:56 Drew Now you're painting a picture of people from Tulsa and all over that have no idea what you're doing with over here. Shut up. Bastard.

22:02 Stryker Here we go.

22:03 Drew Is it break time?

22:03 Stryker Break time.

22:04 Drew It is? Really?

22:04 Stryker Yeah, absolutely.

22:06 Drew That was fast. All right. By the way, you guys, System of a Down is coming in tomorrow. That should be cool. I was trying to get a really good band in tonight and it was happening and the label said yes. I don't want to say. But then the label's like, yeah. And then the management's like, they're not in town. But they did play last night in LA. All right. We got to take a break. I'm Stryker along with Dr. Drew. More Love Line coming up after this. Alright, we're back here at Love Line St. Patrick's Day wearing green edition. I'm Stryker for Adam Carolla along with Dr. Drew. We both definitely have green on. Purposely, you wore green, right? You didn't?

22:49 Stryker No.

22:50 Drew You're such a liar.

22:51 Stryker No, I didn't purposefully. I just grabbed this sweater.

22:53 Drew What about the kids? They all wear green today?

22:55 Stryker Yes, they made a big deal out of it. They were pinching and punching each other.

22:57 Drew Nice.

22:58 Stryker For not having it.

22:58 Drew They don't punch the daughter though, because there's two.

23:00 Stryker Are you kidding? She's the one issuing all the punishment to begin with. Then the boys start reacting.

23:05 Drew Is she taller than those two?

23:06 Stryker Way bigger.

23:06 Drew Yeah, but soon they're going to sprout right by her, right? Yep. All right, it's 1-800-LOVE-191 tomorrow night. System of a Down is going to be in here. Sorry, but I'll be here as well, but I love System. And that's going to be fun tomorrow night. All right, let's talk to Nicole. You're 21, what's up? You're on Loveline.

23:23 Caller I was wondering how long it takes for the double verveur shot to kick in.

23:27 Stryker I believe it's effective right away, essentially.

23:29 Drew You're looking at me like I know the answer.

23:31 Stryker No, I'm just thinking a lot of this. This should be something that this kind of thing that you can, you're good right away.

23:35 Caller Oh, really?

23:36 Stryker Yeah, why? What's happening?

23:39 Caller Well, I just wanted to make sure like...

23:42 Stryker They didn't discuss this with you when they gave you the shot?

23:46 Caller I don't think so, no, they didn't.

23:47 Stryker Did they discuss anything with you about it?

23:49 Drew I don't think so.

23:49 Stryker Yeah, they discussed about like potential weight gain and that was about it.

23:54 Stryker All right, well, here's the reality. You're gonna bleed almost continuously.

23:59 Oh yeah, yeah, I did.

24:00 Stryker For the first three months.

24:02 Drew Three months?

24:02 Stryker And maybe even six months. And then you then potentially possibly, but for sure for three months. And then you will lose your period altogether as long as you're on the shot.

24:12 Drew That is a fantastic invention.

24:14 Stryker And then somewhere, somewhere down the line, it may come back and start bleeding and bleeding and bleeding.

24:19 Caller I would bleed for the whole three months, for sure.

24:22 Stryker This time, you're probably going.

24:23 Drew How long does that shot? How long is it good for?

24:25 Stryker Three months, three months.

24:26 Drew That's it, then you gotta get another one.

24:27 Stryker That's it, that's a long time.

24:29 Stryker And I've only like I stopped bleeding like a month and a half afterwards.

24:34 Stryker Oh, that's good. Oh, you lucked out. Then the other thing is that most women, if they're gonna have a side effect, that the most common thing I hear is depression and a decrease in libido. And sometimes even fatigue.

24:48 Drew Is there some new birth control? Maybe it's not even new that you stick a patch, not on the guy, of course, the girl sticks a patch on her butt or something.

24:54 Stryker Or wherever, yeah.

24:55 Drew What is that thing called?

24:56 Stryker It's patch, orthoevera.

24:57 Drew How does it work? It gets through your skin into the blood.

25:00 Stryker Yes, once a week.

25:01 Drew And causes what to happen?

25:02 Stryker Same stuff you take in a pill, you just don't take a pill.

25:04 Drew How easy is that? Is that as effective?

25:07 Stryker Same, same exact thing as a pill.

25:09 Drew You see how curious I am?

25:10 Stryker You are curious.

25:11 Drew Yeah, I'm curious today about the birth control.

25:13 Stryker Why is this guy blue?

25:14 Drew No, no, no. These are legitimate questions.

25:16 Stryker Oh yeah, legitimate.

25:17 Drew Seriously, about this patch thing.

25:18 Stryker Yeah, seriously, yeah, seriously.

25:19 Drew Drew.

25:20 Stryker Yeah.

25:20 Drew Lay off the drugs. You're an addiction medicine specialist, not an addictor.

25:24 Here we go.

25:24 Drew All right. Timothy, you're 19, what's up?

25:31 Caller All right, yeah, here's my problem. I right now am in Oregon and basically I had a group.

25:38 Stryker Right now he's not working.

25:39 Drew Right now I'm in Oregon.

25:41 Caller No, no, no, that's not what it means. That's not what it means. What I just want to tell you guys is, no, I'm in college actually.

25:47 Drew Pot smoker, Drew, I hear it.

25:48 Stryker No.

25:49 Drew Oregon, voice, the laugh?

25:51 Caller No, no, no, University of Oregon.

25:53 Stryker Yeah, good.

25:55 Caller All right, so here it is. All right, so when I moved up here, I got a house, right? And like, my dad went on with me and, you know, we were both paying money and stuff. And I got to work full time to claim residency at Oregon to try to get the tuition to go down. I can only take part-time school. I got to do a full-time job. Also, I had to get a roommate and basically I got a girl, you know, she called me from Oregon and she said that, you know, I can, you know, I can room with you. So I said, all right, cool, whatever. So she comes in and she has a kid and I don't know anything about this, you know, but I said that should be fine as long as I don't have to deal with it, you know, as long as I get my money and stuff. Pretty soon we start having a relationship and God, 19 year old guys.

26:42 Stryker Excellent. Oh my goodness. All right, keep going.

26:44 Caller All right, so basically like, yeah, you know, we're going through our thing and everything. And she's been living here for a little over six months now. We've been together for only about like four, you know, four, about four of those months.

26:57 Drew You guys sleep in the same bed now? Cause I'm sure it started off two bedroom house, separate rooms, of course.

27:01 Caller I don't know. We're not really always in the house at night all the time and stuff. We usually just go out and then like get somebody for the kid or something, but.

27:08 Drew But you end up back at home.

27:10 Caller Yeah, it depends.

27:11 Stryker We understand you don't spend every second in the house, but you sleep overnight in your own home.

27:16 Caller Oh yeah. Oh, well, you know, for part of the nights, sometimes, you know, sometimes it's all going to, you know, my friends dorms or something. We all spend every night together. But, you know, usually if we are in the house and we do stay in the same room and stuff, yeah. So anyway, now everything's like gone horrible. Like just work is bad for me. I'm not getting as much money now. I had to pay out this house and I got to start doing more school next year and stuff. And she doesn't want to live here anymore. So we just, all right, we get in this huge fight and everything, you know, we're fighting and now she wants to move out. And now what I need to know is do I have a legal or a financial responsibility to this kid? I mean, the kid's not mine, you know.

27:55 Stryker Why would you have a financial, I mean, what are you basing on?

27:57 Caller All I'm asking you is she's telling me, I'm, you know, we're going to take this decorum or whatever.

28:02 Stryker And so I don't know, I don't know Oregon law, but I can't imagine you what I tell you.

28:05 Drew How long were you guys living together?

28:08 Caller How long were we living together and not being in a relationship?

28:11 Stryker Yes.

28:11 Caller Six months.

28:12 Stryker And how about together?

28:14 Caller Four.

28:14 Drew Of course not. You're not responsible for the kid. Four months, Drew, right?

28:18 Stryker Yeah, it's a bizarre idea. However, I would wish people like Timothy would look at the sort of ethical responsibility of shacking up with the mom and certainly getting the child's life and then abandoning the child. It can be very traumatizing.

28:33 Drew But at the same time, look, 19, you got a girl in the house. If she wants to make out with him, of course he's going to.

28:38 Stryker How old is she? How quaint. How old is she?

28:41 Caller She's 18. Eight. She was always in Oregon. She didn't come from California.

28:46 Stryker I know, she's chaos.

28:47 Caller And yeah, she doesn't go to college. All I was looking for was a roommate to pay. Cause I needed more money.

28:52 Stryker I know, you're 19.

28:53 Drew From chaos comes clarity.

28:54 Stryker As Adam said, you're 19, you got a boner.

28:57 Drew Even at 30, you get one. Timothy, so I guess your question is, are you legally responsible for the kid?

29:03 Stryker She's just trying to threaten and scare you. She's a lot of chaos and a handful.

29:08 Drew And you.

29:09 Stryker It's another project that you are not prepared to manage.

29:11 Drew You own the house, right?

29:13 Stryker No, well, he's probably the leaseholder. Let's keep going. We got his question answered.

29:17 Drew It's done? It's done.

29:18 Stryker He could dig and dig and find a million things about the abuse his girlfriend went through and about the chaos they're in now. He keeps scratching.

29:24 Drew Your headphones look ridiculous on your head right now. I love punching you while we're working, Dr. Drew. Kiara, you're 17.

29:31 Stryker I will smack you back.

29:32 Drew You will?

29:33 Stryker You keep punching me like that.

29:35 Drew I know, I'm excited to be. Why are we so close in this studio? I don't understand this.

29:39 Stryker We, I'm minding my own business here and you keep like, you're, that D cup call, you've actually jumped over the counter on me.

29:45 Drew Look, how often do I get calls talking about D cups? In my normal life and in my business life?

29:52 Caller Yes, I do. Go on, Kiara. Okay, I've been in a relationship with a girlfriend, my girlfriend, for the past one and a half years. And this would not be a problem except for the fact that my parents are Seventh Day Adventists. And...

30:17 Stryker This is payback. So it is a problem. Here's the payback. So because they are so religious and because you're so angry with Ed, now you must tell them. They must know.

30:25 Caller Yeah, and also that the fact is that we're both going to go to the same university and...

30:33 Stryker Perfect, go away. Don't say a word to them. Let your parents live their life out in peace and in their own religious...

30:41 Drew Close-minded.

30:42 Stryker Well, whatever, it's their life. Why would you want to harm them or create conflict with them at least, particularly if you are dependent upon them to pay for college?

30:53 Caller I'm not dependent on them.

30:55 Adam I've actually got a full scholarship.

30:57 Stryker All right, then leave, get out of there.

30:58 Drew Even better.

30:59 Stryker You don't have to depend on them. Set up your life elsewhere if you want to come back from the secure base of your life at school with a good network of supportive friends. You want to come back and tell them your story, then fine, you do that. But you don't do it until you're well established at school.

31:13 Drew I can't believe you've been hiding this since 15 years old though.

31:16 Stryker Listen, she's been dying to tell them 15. She hates her dad, I guarantee it. You hate your dad, right?

31:23 Which one?

31:24 Stryker Which dad?

31:24 Whoa.

31:25 Stryker As many of them as you can manage to hate at one time. Yeah. Yeah, that's what these are.

31:30 Drew Karen, take the D's, go to college, bring your girl, have fun, do great at the university, don't say anything.

31:39 Stryker I can't understand why you'd ever want to say anything, why you'd want people that have been abusive and horrible to you in your life at all, other than sort of as a formality or just-

31:46 Drew Just to get back at them.

31:47 Stryker But that's what she wants to do. That's what you want to do. Well, not-

31:50 Caller Actually, except for this, my mom and I are really, really close.

31:53 Stryker Except for the fact that you hate her. Except for the fact that you hate her.

31:56 Drew Except for the fact that I'm sleeping with this woman.

31:58 Stryker All the more reason you should want to leave her in peace. You know, let her be. Don't bring your chaos in.

32:04 Drew All right, thanks, Kiara. Good luck. You don't really get this many D-breasted lesbian women, Colin?

32:09 Stryker This is you, Stryker, this is you.

32:11 Drew Am I bringing in the D in the lesbian?

32:13 Stryker Clearly, you're people, clearly.

32:15 Drew My plan is to switch them over.

32:16 Stryker Stop touching me.

32:17 Drew I'm sorry. What?

32:18 Stryker Patrice.

32:21 Drew Where? Patrice.

32:23 Stryker What is it with the touching, the pokey and the punching?

32:26 Drew I feel like a nine-year-old Swedish boy tonight, man. Seriously? No.

32:31 Stryker Patrice, 17.

32:31 Drew I'm excited to be with you.

32:33 Stryker I beg your pardon.

32:34 Stryker Go ahead. Go ahead.

32:34 Stryker Patrice, 17.

32:36 Stryker I was going out with this guy for three months. I met him through an associate and we hit it off from the start and everything was cool. Then I met his parents and they turned out to be crazy, Nazi, just believing in Nazi and Hitler and killing all them Jews. We're just crazy.

32:51 Stryker Seriously? I mean, they were saying things like that?

32:54 Stryker Yeah.

32:56 Drew In front of you, right when you met them for the first time.

32:59 Stryker Well, I was there for a couple hours. We ate dinner. We chit-chat about stuff.

33:03 Stryker They seem like normal people at first?

33:04 Stryker Normal people.

33:06 Stryker How did they launch into the, I almost, it's-

33:09 Drew The flag dropped from the ceiling immediately.

33:11 Stryker Unfolded, unfurled, the Nazi flag. But it's almost comedic. I almost wonder if they were trying to freak her out or scare her or get ready, you know what I mean? You know what I mean? It sounds so bizarre.

33:21 Drew That seems like straight out of a movie. Right, right.

33:24 Stryker How did it come up?

33:26 Stryker I went to his bedroom that he stayed in when he was a little baby.

33:29 Stryker Yeah.

33:30 Stryker And he had videos and posters on his wall.

33:35 Stryker Of what?

33:35 Stryker Of Hitler in the salute and like dead bodies and stuff. But I was just, I flipped out. I almost ran out the front door.

33:42 Stryker Well, hold on. So your boyfriend was into that stuff?

33:45 Stryker Yes, him and his parents though. He got it from his parents.

33:48 Stryker And what did the parents, did they say something to you?

33:51 Stryker Well, I got out and I kind of was just, it was just a shock. I just total shock. And they must have seen it on my face. And it was like, oh, you okay honey dear? And I listened to all that. And then they start talking about it and saying just all kind of stuff.

34:03 Stryker Like what? Tell me specifically.

34:05 Drew Not too bad words.

34:07 Stryker No, no, you don't use bad words, but what was the gist of what they were saying?

34:11 Stryker What they were saying, how Hitler did a great thing for the Aryan people and-

34:17 Stryker Ooh, are they white, these people?

34:19 Stryker Yeah.

34:20 Drew Are you white?

34:21 Stryker No, I'm black.

34:23 Stryker Keep going.

34:24 Stryker And they were saying how he did everything that he could for the Syrians and they were the true nations. And the Jews had it coming and they were putting down the people and they were just overpowering Germany and all this and all that.

34:36 Stryker Did they have a problem with you being African?

34:38 Stryker No, which was kind of weird, but I guess, I don't know.

34:42 Drew Were you just sitting there after you went to the room and you came back sitting on the sofas and they just brought this up, Patrice?

34:48 Stryker I went to the room and I seen it and I came out the room and I was gonna leave actually. It was time to go. He just told me, let's see my room before I leave. So he showed me and they said all that. And I stood there for about five minutes and I'm like, okay, I gotta go. So I left. He called me when I got home about an hour later. This was probably about, I guess, eight o'clock or whatever, I was gonna go to bed. I was just, just had to go to sleep. So he called me and I didn't even wanna call him. He called me and I said, I can't be with you anymore. And he was like, don't do this to me. Why are you doing this to me? We had such great three months and all this. I love you. And I never even said I loved him at all. He never said it before. So maybe about a month after that, I started seeing him at my window. I was like, him.

35:32 Drew Oh, he wasn't wearing a white sheet or anything when he came near.

35:35 Stryker Oh, no, you didn't.

35:37 Stryker Wow, Patrice, how wild. So what'd you do about it? What'd you do?

35:41 Adam Well, he, okay.

35:43 Stryker Well, I told my friend about it and you know, she's like, okay, well, is he just at your window? And I was like, no, he's doing the Hitler salute or whatever it is. What? Yeah, he did it. He did it like twice. And then I just, I just slept in my parents' room. They room was like, hey, good big. So there's another bed that fits by the wall.

36:01 Stryker I'm in and I'm out.

36:02 Drew I don't buy this.

36:03 Stryker But there's so much good detail.

36:04 Drew And I think I heard someone in the back.

36:05 Stryker No, no, I know. I'm still, I'm still in for the moment. Is there a punchline here?

36:08 There's no punchline. What you mean?

36:10 Stryker Okay, good.

36:10 Drew So what's your question? Should you give him another chance? No, move on, escape, do whatever you can to stay away from this.

36:16 Stryker Did you call the police?

36:18 Stryker I was embarrassed to do that. I just didn't, he eventually left. So I just said, forget it.

36:26 Stryker Wow. And that is the one of them. I've heard a lot on this show and that is one of the more bizarre stories I have to tell you.

36:31 Drew I'm bringing him out, Dr. Drew, I'm telling you.

36:33 Stryker You are, you're scaring me, you're freaking me out.

36:35 Drew You're scaring me, lady.

36:36 Stryker No, you, you, Stryker. You're bringing all these people out. It's your fault.

36:40 Drew Thank you, I appreciate that a lot.

36:42 Stryker Patrice, so how long ago did this happen that he was hanging out by your house?

36:45 Stryker This happened about two months ago. I mean, he stopped about two months ago.

36:49 Stryker First of all, congratulations for being evolved enough to know trouble when you see it and to get out. It's amazing that he was able to keep it together enough to get you into a three month relationship. But thank God you have the maturity to get out when you see trouble. Fantastic. The fact that he then starts stalking you is creepy, scary problem.

37:11 Drew But what's more creepy is that she's African American and he's white and has these feelings.

37:15 Stryker But it makes me wonder if they were like sucking her into something weird or who knows what. Who knows what? And that's why I think you really must make a report about this to the police. Just so there's documentation.

37:28 Drew Definitely.

37:28 Stryker Just so they call, you know, your convenience tomorrow.

37:30 Drew For your own good because you don't know what they were gonna maybe do to you.

37:33 Stryker And you don't know what's coming next and you wanna have a little trail here. And so let's go ahead and report what he did.

37:39 Drew All right, we're going to Julie immediately, Dr. Drew.

37:41 Stryker Really?

37:41 Drew Yes.

37:42 Stryker We're supposed to take a break, right?

37:43 Drew Oh, we are?

37:44 Stryker Well, let's just talk to her for a second.

37:45 Drew Julie, 19, what's up? Here I am, baby, give it to me. Hold on, hold on. No, no.

37:54 Stryker Oh, we gotta take a break? Yeah, yeah, all right. Okay, so hang on one second. We will get back with your questions about threesomes and foursomes.

38:01 Drew And foursomes.

38:02 Stryker Which is-

38:03 Drew Who's the man for that?

38:04 Stryker Stryker, you're the man for all this.

38:05 Drew I'm the man for the foursomes. As long as there's three other women in the foursome. Right, Dr. Drew?

38:10 Stryker Right, Stryker.

38:11 Drew I love you very much.

38:12 Stryker Just stop touching me.

38:13 Drew All right, we're gonna take a break. More Loveline with Three Somes After the Us.

38:19 Caller Hello, what is this? 1-800-LOVE-191.

38:30 Drew I got 99 problems in A Girl Ain't One.

38:33 Stryker Is that what this is?

38:34 Drew Yes, it is. Jay-Z.

38:37 Produced by Rick Rubin.

38:39 Stryker He says A Girl Ain't One?

38:40 Drew He says the B word. Can you say that? You can say that, right? We played on the radio.

38:44 Stryker Whatever.

38:44 Drew You can.

38:45 Stryker Whatever.

38:46 Drew Whatever, biatch. There you go, right there. All right, what's up, you guys? This is Loveline. I'm Stryker and for Adam Carolla in Los Angeles, California, where it's very cloudy and cold and Dr. Drew, what?

38:56 Stryker It was 90 degrees today.

38:57 Drew It's cold right now, though. It's down to 65.

39:01 Stryker It's nighttime, it's snowing in Boston.

39:04 Drew Are you gonna give me S everything I say? It's cold for me, I got a long sleeve green on.

39:09 Stryker And black fingernail polish.

39:10 Drew That's dark blue.

39:12 Stryker Bad times. Julie, Julie was gonna get you some threesome for us.

39:16 Drew All right, just to refresh your memory, you guys, we talked to Julie for eight seconds. She wants to possibly have a threesome or foursome.

39:21 Stryker She wants info about that.

39:23 Drew Julie, go ahead, you're 19 in Cypress, California.

39:26 Caller Yeah, I've actually already had a threesome. And it was kind of a bad experience for me because I've never really had like experience with a girl. You know, and I was just trying to like see if I'd be into that.

39:37 Stryker That's why you decided to do this. Well, and what made it bad?

39:41 Caller Um, I didn't like the fact of watching my boyfriend of just doing this girl. Like I told her it was okay, but when I actually like saw it in my own eyes, I was just like horrified, you know?

39:52 Stryker Yes, Julie, of course.

39:55 Drew Even I know that that's, see, if you're going to have threesomes and foursomes, you cannot have your boyfriend involved. It has to be just kind of, I don't want to say a random guy, but a guy that you don't have serious feelings for.

40:06 Stryker You could not have any, whatever relationship exists between you and the other two people is going to be destroyed. Period.

40:15 Caller Cause you know, there's like swingers out there and like swingers and-

40:19 Drew Of course, those are swingers that have no ties with emotions.

40:23 Adam No, it's like they're married couples though.

40:24 Caller It's like they, you know, like really close, like bring them closer.

40:28 Stryker We, you know, here, no, it does not, A, does not bring them closer. B, we live in a time when for some reason, we believe people's BS. People manifest pathology. They defend their pathology with behaviors that sustain their pathology. And then we go, oh, really you're into that? Well, whatever you're into. Well, that's fine, whatever they're into. But it is, I can't tell you how many times I've seen people destroyed by that kind of chaos. And I've never, and occasionally, I've seen it work for people. And I've seen it work when both are severe sexual addicts. And because addiction is a progressive disease, eventually that house of cards comes down too. There you go.

41:10 Drew So you want to do it again? Is that the question? Are you wondering why you're freaking out?

41:13 Caller Well, it turns me on, thinking about it. And it'd be really fun if I could just let go of all this jealousy and worries. He says, guys, they're not really emotionally in the sex and they do it anyways. So it's just like, pretty much another activity that we can do together.

41:28 Drew Are you still with the boyfriend that was with your friend? Are you still with your boyfriend that was in the threesome?

41:33 Caller Yeah, we're still together.

41:34 Stryker Oh, you are?

41:35 Caller Oh.

41:36 Stryker Julie, you are trying to live up to some, I don't know why you would be with an abusive, abandoning man, you have to ask yourself that, a guy who really doesn't care about your feelings, and why you'd insist upon living up to some abstract standard of behavior that's not you.

41:52 Drew I love how you educate Drew and I'm getting excited about this. No, does that make sense?

41:58 Stryker No.

41:58 Drew You are telling her, why are you making these decisions where I'm thinking about-

42:01 Stryker And you're getting an erection?

42:02 Drew No, no, I don't mean excited like that. Well, kind of a little bit. Still, I'm thinking she still wants to do this some more. Give her the solution maybe on why and how she can still do it.

42:13 Stryker Watch porn where people are doing this stuff, but the human reality, the inhuman price of this is a price that it's not real. It's not realistic.

42:22 Caller Yeah, he even said that he's like, oh, it looked much better than the porn.

42:25 Stryker You're saying, what you're saying is, if I could just let go of my humanity, if I could just let go of me, I'd be able to do this. Well, that's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. Now, if you were experimenting, wanted to do this with two people that you didn't really have an attachment to, then that's good. Whatever.

42:40 Drew Yes.

42:41 Stryker But you're expecting the unrealistic of yourself and you're trying to measure up to something that's not realistic. All right?

42:52 Drew Every time you have a threesome, while you have a boyfriend and he gets with another girl, it's gonna freak you out.

42:57 Stryker You're kind of, and it's gonna freak you out.

42:58 Caller See, and then I mentioned, well, why don't we bring another guy into it? Like if we get it with another couple and then he will see like how I felt about it, like watching him do somebody else.

43:06 Stryker Yeah, not in a million years is that gonna happen. Because you've chosen a guy who doesn't really care about your feelings. Now, not that him not willing to do that has so much evidence of that, but that's just another piece of evidence of that.

43:17 Caller Well, can we just forget about threesomes all together and still have a normal relationship? Cause he says he could live with that. He just said it'd be like an extra like fun activity. He's 19.

43:26 Stryker How old is he?

43:28 Caller He's 23.

43:30 Stryker What was up with your dad? Was he like never available and always super attractive? I mean, this guy is a consummate narcissist you're with.

43:39 Drew He's 23 though.

43:41 Caller He never came up like when we first got together. You know?

43:44 Stryker Yeah, of course not. He's trying to reel you in. He's gonna show you all of his shortfalls right at the beginning. No way. And why you would continue to hang out? Is he a bad boy? Is he one of these guys you've been trying to contain and change? Well, that doesn't mean he...

43:58 Drew Right after the threesome and doing drugs on night, right to the church.

44:00 Stryker Very narcissistic. And if that's what you want, so be it. Good luck.

44:04 Drew All right, Julie. I like her personality.

44:06 Stryker It drives me insane though that we live in a time when women have to feel flawed because they don't live up to some bizarre abstract standard that's completely, not them, completely unrealistic.

44:16 Drew You think she's flawed. I think she's into the threesomes.

44:18 Stryker She's not flawed, but she feels flawed because she can't measure up to these behaviors that are completely unrealistic for her.

44:24 Drew Yeah, where you go?

44:25 Stryker Oh, Elizabeth.

44:26 Drew Elizabeth, 17.

44:31 Stryker Okay, well, I was giving this guy a real pleasure.

44:35 Drew Excellent.

44:38 Stryker You know, I was down there and he told me to slow down. He told me to take it easy. So, you know, I didn't, I mean, I don't know. That's never happened to me before. So I didn't know what to do. So I just took it easy and I stopped for a little while and then I went back and I was, you know, going again. And he told me he'd stop me again.

44:58 Caller And he said, take it easy.

45:00 Stryker Stop, you know, and I was like.

45:01 Drew Stop altogether or slow down your emotion?

45:04 Stryker I don't know. I don't know. I didn't know what he meant.

45:06 Drew Well, what'd you do? Stop altogether?

45:08 Stryker You should have asked him.

45:09 Stryker I did. So I said, do you want me to stop?

45:11 And he goes, no, no, no, it feels great.

45:12 Stryker It's just, it's too much.

45:14 I can't take it all.

45:15 Stryker And I was like, what? You know, what's going on?

45:19 Stryker Listen, that what part is where you needed to ask follow up questions.

45:23 Drew But you know what? I give the guy kudos for giving direction. No, I'm serious. No, Elizabeth, I'm serious.

45:29 Stryker Yeah, but the directions were on the order of, ah, and then her not knowing what to do, he let her keep going back.

45:36 Drew He said, slow down a little bit.

45:38 Stryker Yeah, but she took it as huh, stop what?

45:42 Drew So did he end up having an orgasm?

45:44 Stryker No. Oh. I don't know what happened, but see, okay. Also, I've been told by more than one person that Cosmo Magazine.

45:54 Stryker That what? That what?

45:56 Stryker That I'm really good down there, so.

45:58 Stryker Well, wasn't right for this guy.

46:00 Drew I'll be the judge of that.

46:00 Stryker Yeah, wasn't good for this guy for whatever reason. And you need to ask many, many more questions and he'll be very happy to tell you exactly what he wants.

46:07 Drew Is she gone? You just pushed the gone button.

46:08 Stryker Yeah, cause we gotta go to break already.

46:10 Drew Break? What time is it?

46:11 Stryker 54.

46:11 Drew Break, I'm Dan here at them. Is it really? God, what are you doing at midnight tonight? I am begging you to go out with me for one hour and 20 minutes.

46:19 Stryker I'm going to bring my butt home so fast and go to sleep.

46:22 Drew It's St. Patrick's Day. There was a lot of happenings in the LA area.

46:25 Stryker You're going to, up here in Fairfax, what's the one?

46:27 Drew Tom Lasso. What's the name of that place? Molly Malone's?

46:33 Stryker No, no, that's, yeah, but there's a closer one over here.

46:36 Drew I don't go, I don't know. I don't know where I'm going, but I want you to go with me. Please, you're, I don't know.

46:41 Stryker I don't know.

46:41 Drew Come on, Drew, please.

46:42 Stryker I can't, I really like that. I've got an office going full swing tomorrow morning.

46:45 Drew By the way, Drew and I hung out recently and we'll tell you that story also a little bit later. I don't think anyone cares. Yeah, we hung out. We hung out on daytime activity.

46:51 Stryker It was you and me and the Olsen twins.

46:53 Drew That's right. By the way, did the Olsen twins ever say anything?

46:56 Stryker I'll tell you all about it. I'll tell you all about it.

46:58 Drew All right, good. All right, we have to take a break. We're going to talk to, I don't know who we're going to talk to next, but we'll be back. Drew, I can do it. We'll be back after this. All right, what's up, you guys? This is Loveline, I'm Stryker, in for Adam Carolla, who is doing something. Dr. Drew is here, literally a foot away from me, who I keep touching by accident. It's from excitement, I don't even know why. We see each other every day now.

47:52 Stryker And you just reach over and poke and touch and lean.

47:55 Drew It's St. Patrick's Day.

47:57 Stryker Scaring the S out of me.

47:58 Drew Am I scaring the S out of you a little?

47:59 Stryker When you get to start talking about D cups and things, you kind of lose it. You do.

48:04 Drew How often?

48:05 Stryker So we spent the day together. Yes. On the set of the Olsen twin film.

48:10 Drew Right. You were in the movie.

48:12 Stryker I was in the movie.

48:12 Drew I hung out watching you work.

48:14 Stryker You watched me film of the same.

48:16 Drew Yes. What did I got to meet Ashley Olsen?

48:20 Stryker Was your dream.

48:20 Drew Yes. I don't tell my dream. I mean, it was fantastic. And we made eye contact. We shook hands. And then my question to you is, I know she said nothing, but did you put in any sort of word?

48:33 Stryker I said, Ashley, I'm sorry. I'm really sorry about that. He will not hurt you. You will not see him again. I promise.

48:40 Drew What's so funny about it?

48:41 Stryker She said it better not happen.

48:42 Drew Really? What's so crazy about it on the radio here, when we talked about that, I was going to the set and I was going to talk to the Olsen twins. People from the set were nervous that I was really going to not stalk them, but attack them when I got to the year movie set. And then I was embarrassed when I got there.

49:00 Stryker It wasn't very nice though.

49:01 Drew It was so nice. It was awesome. When was that movie coming out?

49:05 Stryker May 7th.

49:06 Drew There's a big premiere and all that?

49:07 Stryker You didn't get to meet Eugene Levy, did you? He was there later, the day before, I guess.

49:13 Drew One hot minute. New York one hot minute.

49:15 Stryker What's the card?

49:16 Drew New York Minute. And it's coming out when? It's cute.

49:18 Stryker It's fun.

49:19 Drew May 7th. Dr. Drew in a movie, you guys. Watch him act.

49:23 Stryker They're dead.

49:24 Drew Dr. Drew, Robert De Niro, Joe Pesci.

49:27 Stryker Stryker liked what I did actually. I was very pleased with that.

49:29 Drew I thought you did very well.

49:30 Stryker And even though Adam has convinced you're lying.

49:33 Drew I wasn't lying. Why would I lie? If you weren't that good, I'd say you weren't that good.

49:36 Stryker You wouldn't say anything, I hope. But you wouldn't say I was good.

49:39 Drew You were good. I was nervous for you. I'll tell you that. I was. All these lights and people. I've done it also. But for you, I don't know. I was like, he's a doctor and he's acting. He doesn't know what he's doing. Give him a stethoscope. OK, where are we going? Which one was it? Patrick, Patrick, 21. What's up, man? Yeah, man, you're on Loveline.

49:57 Caller How's it going? I have a little bit of a story before I get to my question. Where's what happened? I met this girl at a party at my house, probably, you know, a couple of months ago. You know, we got drunk, had sex the first night we met. The next day I talked to her, you know, I don't know if we hit it off, but I kind of liked her and ended up talking to her on and off for a couple of weeks. Finally, things went on. I felt like I was getting led on. People told me that she was into drugs, that this girl was just using me, that she was hooking up with other people, whatever. So I'm like, all right, whatever. I confronted her and I said, you know, look, like I really like you, like what's going on? And she just basically said, no, whatever. I was like, all right, fine, move on. So I find out, you know, a couple of weeks down the line that my best friend had been hooking up with her behind my back during the time we were hanging out, which didn't go over too well. I mean, this has been my best friend since like grade school. And we've never even, you know, not spoken for like a week. So it was kind of strange. So I called him on it and I was like, look, dude, you know, what's going on? And he basically said, well, yeah, he felt bad that, you know, he had done this behind my back. But and, you know, he apologized, whatever. I thought things were cool. And he says, well, do you not want me to see this girl? And at this point, I already think that she's, you know, completely worthless. I don't really care what happens to her. And it just seems strange to me that, you know, these are my friends that are telling me not to, you know, waste my time with this girl. And now he sees with her. So I'm like, well, what do I do? You know, do I say, no, I don't want you to see her? Or do I say, yeah, I don't care what you do. I figure, well, if I say, no, I don't want you to see her. That doesn't really, you know, what's that going to do for me? I, you know, I'm going to hang out with her. So I figure, whatever, do what you're going to do. You know, thinking that you would you would see, you know, that what was really going on? Well, he has been seeing her constantly since then. You know, I basically just decided, well, I'm not going to, you know, lose a friend over some stupid girl, whatever. He stole my friend. Well, you know, when we would go out like me and my friends, we all would joke around. I mean, this girl is known around our group of friends as kind of like the, you know, the slutty type of girl. She's in a drug or whatever. She's just kind of whatever. And we were sitting around having sushi, making cracks about whatever, you know, like normal friends do. And I guess, I mean, he, my friend was probably a little too drunk. He had had a few drinks and I made a joke about her and he just snapped and took a swing at me in this restaurant, you know, this sushi restaurant.

52:28 Drew And he was still dating her at the time or he or you told him to stop at the time? Here's the deal. What's the answer to that?

52:34 Stryker Well, she, she, he was already out of the picture. Patrick was not dating or not interested in her anymore. He was still seeing her. The old, the friend was still seeing her. Here's the deal. This is the big picture. They are using buddies. Your friend's an alcoholic. And that's really what they've got in their relationship. They are addicts acting out together, supporting one another's disease. That's what they, that's what they share. That's why they're together. The reason he attacked you is because he was loaded. He wouldn't have done it if he weren't drunk. This is all, this is what people do when they're, when they're got alcoholism and addiction. This is, this is a typical kind of a story.

53:07 Drew So you should be happy you got out when you did.

53:09 Stryker Well, you're not, you're a nice codependent. You got a best friend who's an alcoholic. You like the girls now. Was your, was you did, was your mom or grandma or something alcoholic?

53:18 Caller Nobody, man.

53:18 Stryker Nobody at all. Was somebody sick in your family growing up? Were you kind of a caretaker?

53:23 Caller Not really. I mean, my, my family's pretty close to there. I don't know.

53:27 Stryker That's fine. That's fine. Then, then, then stop this. But realize what you did. You may just be on a learning curve now. Just learn what this is. This is, these people are going to, are going to start sinking.

53:37 Caller Well, my question is what, I mean, now this is a situation that I'm in. I haven't spoken to my best friend in over a month. I don't know where he's at. I don't know. I'm just wondering what can I do? I mean, am I just stuck? I know that I have to just walk away and be like, look man, I can't, I can't stand there and watch you do this to yourself.

53:55 Stryker Think about it more in terms of his having a disease state, that it's evolving and that when he, when he gets healthier, you're available. But as when he's sinking like this, you don't want to go down with him. It hurts you too much to seeing him go down, you're out. But when he's, when he's back, when he's in recovery, when he's getting healthy again, give him a call.

54:14 Drew Is he, he's not going to go to recovery. You think it's that bad?

54:17 Stryker He will be.

54:18 Drew Patrick, wait, hold on. Patrick, you slept with this girl on the first. Okay, go ahead.

54:21 Stryker What was that?

54:23 Drew Go ahead, Patrick.

54:24 Caller What happened?

54:25 Stryker As Stryker said, it's not that.

54:26 Caller He's not, he's never really been like this. I mean, he's, he's always been the type of guy who, you know, we would go out and party and whatever. And, and recently I've just been, you know, I, I kind of just stood away from that.

54:38 Stryker For, for him, it's taken off now. It's going to go to another level. You see it happening, right?

54:43 Caller He just turned 21. It's obvious to me, you know, whatever we had to fake IDs and all that, you know, whatever, but it shouldn't.

54:48 Stryker Yeah, but, but he is, he has got the disease.

54:50 Drew You slept with her on the very first night also. You shouldn't even be worrying about, about that end of it though, Patrick.

54:55 Caller It's not her at all. I mean, I, I know that this girl is, is nothing. I mean, and, and plus he's having my seconds to begin with, you know? It's not, it's not her at all. It's just the fact that- This is my, this is my best friend. Like, what am I, you know what I mean?

55:08 Stryker Like, what am I? You can't do, yeah, you are helpless.

55:11 Drew And you're on speed also, apparently, right now.

55:13 Stryker No, he's not an addict. You can't do anything about it. You'll be available when you're ready to get well again. But right now, he's taking the slide. And it's, it's gonna take whatever it takes for that to really evolve. It may be a rapid decline to a bottom. It may take many months or even a few years to really hit some sort of-

55:28 Drew I've been here an hour and eight minutes and it took that long and I'm happy about it. To get something where that was all you about addiction and stuff like that. I like the D calls, the D breaths, the this and the that.

55:40 Stryker Allison.

55:40 Drew Now you're rolling your eyes at me.

55:41 Stryker 26.

55:42 Drew You bastard. Now you're calling out the calls.

55:44 Stryker Not rolling your eyes. I'm just ignoring you.

55:46 Drew All right, thank you. It's not the first time. Allison.

55:49 Hello.

55:50 Drew What's up there?

55:54 I had a baby a couple months ago and I'm just wondering if Dr. Drew can give me some insight on why I have zero libido.

56:03 Stryker I don't know that anyone can give you a specific biological explanation for that other than to say it is very common. It's common when you...

56:12 I love him. I'm very attracted to him, but I just don't want to have sex with him.

56:17 Stryker Isn't that interesting? In fact, some data just...

56:19 I'm not interested in anything. I don't want to use my vibrator. I don't have sex dreams.

56:23 Stryker Right. That's right. Well, listen, it's a massive, massive change when you go from a pregnant to a non-pregnant state. Are you wanting a medication?

56:32 No, I take birth control pills. I take the Snore Q or something mini.

56:38 Stryker Well, the mini pills... But the breastfeeding can shut you down a bit and the progesterone containing birth control pills can shut you down. And just having had a baby can shut you down. So you've got several things working against you here. Sometimes changing the kind of pill you take, like sometimes the triphasic pills tend to get you kickstarted.

56:57 Drew Yes, triphasic.

56:58 I guess since I nursed her, I can only take, I can either get the shot or I can take the pill that I have right now.

57:03 Stryker Well, either of those hormones, again, the progesterone, which is what they're kind of giving you, is going to shut you down further. So until you get through this little phase, you're going to have a low sex drive unless you can do something to kickstart it.

57:16 Drew Yeah, break out the vibrator, the one you don't want to use, and that'll kickstart.

57:21 Stryker No, it will not.

57:21 Drew Yes, it will. In my experience, it does.

57:25 Stryker Listen, to her, looking at people kissing is like, ugh, why are they doing that?

57:29 No, no.

57:30 Caller See, I love that.

57:31 I love being lovey with him. I like to cuddle with him and, you know, kiss him and hug him. And I mean, we do have sex, but mentally, I'm just not with it. Physically, it's fine after we start, but mentally, I'm like, nah.

57:45 Stryker No drive.

57:46 Nothing. And we went from like way really good sex life. I mean, everything was fine up until even the day before I had the baby.

57:55 Stryker Do you understand what I told you is the reason? Yeah. What's the reason?

57:59 Because just having the baby, the hormones and the pill.

58:02 Stryker And the breastfeeding.

58:04 Do you think that that subconsciously satisfies me?

58:06 Stryker No. These are very profound biological changes.

58:11 Drew Is there data on that, that it's a biological reason?

58:12 Stryker Absolutely. Your hypothalamus is just shut down and doing other things right now.

58:16 Is it normal though? I mean, does it happen to other women?

58:18 Stryker It happens. The first thing I said was this is very, very common.

58:23 Drew All the time. No, we're going to that. We're going to Kyle. And Drew, you should be an expert on this subject. What's up, Kyle? You're 18 on Loveline.

58:30 Caller Hey, what's up, guys?

58:31 Drew What's up, Kyle?

58:32 Caller Just a few months ago, I came out. And it took me a while to accept that and everything. And a lot of people know.

58:39 Stryker You're gay.

58:41 Caller That's what I'm telling you. The thing is, I have yet to have a life.

58:48 Stryker A social life.

58:49 Drew Dating life with a guy.

58:50 Caller Well, any sort of life. It's like I'm a virgin. And I've had one heterosexual experience and it was horrible.

58:58 Heterosexual.

59:00 Drew Drew, what's a hetero, right? All right.

59:03 Caller Well, the specific thing. All right. There's this nightclub in Laguna Beach that I heard of. And some people are saying, you know, go. It's a cool place. You'll like it. You'll have fun. And there are some people who are saying that it's not a good idea.

59:17 Drew What is it? Why don't you just go and check it out? It's a gay club. I take it.

59:21 Caller Well, yeah. I almost did. But, you know, my parents ended up talking me out of it.

59:25 Drew So I'm like, are you afraid to go meet guys?

59:28 Stryker Parents are discussing this with you, though.

59:30 Drew Well, I'm going to go meet a girl or Drew's going to go meet a guy or something. I mean, we're just going to go and do it. Why don't you just go?

59:35 Caller Well, I think I go by myself. I mean, I'm thinking, well, what's going to happen?

59:41 Stryker Here's what I would suggest you do. Orange County has a very well-developed gay and lesbian youth center. I think it's towards Santa Ana, that area. But you can call them, go, get some friends going, get some support, find out where to go, who to meet, maybe take somebody with you. It's fine to go to a bar, but you want to go with somebody, not just by yourself.

1:00:02 Drew Have you made any friends in your age range, 18, 17, 19, that are gay yet? They can just be your friends, and they can be your partner in crime, and you can go out with them.

1:00:11 Caller There's this one guy who happens to be my neighbor. And we've talked, and I'm not sure if he would be open to go to a gay club. I got that impression from him. So I'm kind of worried, you know, I'm going to, like, ask him, go with me, and he's going to say, like, no, I'm going to end up going by myself. But, well, I'm just worried about, like, my safety for starters.

1:00:35 Stryker What, like somebody's going to kidnap you?

1:00:37 Caller Or, I don't know, like, ass-frame me or something. I'm going to watch you.

1:00:40 Drew It's easy.

1:00:41 Stryker No, you can't say it to me.

1:00:42 Drew No, you can't say it. Put him on hold. Basically, it was like the sublime song he said.

1:00:48 Stryker I see. Yeah.

1:00:50 Drew Was that, what's that?

1:00:51 Stryker I guess so. Yeah, he did. I'm confused.

1:00:53 Caller What's the problem?

1:00:54 Drew No, there ain't no problem. He said.

1:00:57 Caller Yeah, I know what he said, but I'm going to leave that.

1:01:00 Stryker He's going to let it go out on the airwaves.

1:01:01 Drew That's fine.

1:01:03 Stryker Well, Kyle, listen, you're thinking things through very clearly. It's good. Call the Gay and Lesbian Youth Center. You need a supportive network of people who have been where you've been and some people that kind of take you under their wing and mentor you and whatnot. It's all right.

1:01:16 Drew Isn't he thinking too much, though?

1:01:18 Stryker No, no, it's good. He's thinking of a friend.

1:01:20 Drew Afraid of getting kidnapped, going out to a club.

1:01:22 Stryker Yeah, that's all weird. But he's 18. Should he be in a bar anyway?

1:01:25 Drew Yes, he should be in a bar. An 18 and over bar.

1:01:28 Stryker I don't know what the bars are that he's talking about going to unnecessarily. Sure, you do, Drew.

1:01:33 Drew Well, with all my other boyfriends, I've only given them hand jobs. You're 19 with a baby. Hello. What's going on?

1:01:49 Caller Like, I already have a kid. And, like, I want more. Like, right now.

1:01:56 Stryker Why?

1:01:57 Drew Please don't. I beg of you. Please don't. You're 19. Are you married?

1:02:01 Caller No.

1:02:01 Drew Good.

1:02:02 Stryker How do you support these kids?

1:02:04 Caller Oh, I work. I have one kid.

1:02:06 Caller And I do work.

1:02:07 Caller And that's why I won't have another one right now. Because I know I can't afford it.

1:02:10 Caller But I'm not, like, a bum.

1:02:11 Caller I mean, you know, I work a full-time job and everything. But I think, like, my sister's 21.

1:02:18 And she is married.

1:02:19 Caller And she's had five miscarriages. And I think it's, like, maybe, like, I'm scared that I can't have another kid. But, like, I literally get pissed off when I see other people pregnant because I want to be pregnant.

1:02:32 Stryker So you like the pregnant state. You just like being pregnant.

1:02:35 Caller Well, no, no, no, no. I mean, like, I want more kids.

1:02:39 Stryker Yeah, well, not right now.

1:02:41 Drew Please not right now. How, what do you do for a job?

1:02:45 Caller Um, I do technical support for cell phones.

1:02:48 Drew And who takes care of this one-year-old when you're doing technical support for cell phones?

1:02:52 Caller Oh, my family is very supportive, like, just pretty much anybody in my family.

1:02:55 Drew Do you still live at home?

1:02:57 Caller No, no, no, no.

1:02:58 Drew Where's the dad?

1:03:00 Caller Um, I don't know. I mean, I know who it is, but we were together for, like, forever, like, almost two years.

1:03:06 Drew And who are you going to have this, wait, who are you going to have this second so-called kid with? Just some random dude?

1:03:11 Caller No, no, I mean, I'm just saying, like, I mean, like, I'm on the depot shot. I'm not trying to get pregnant. I just, um, I just really, really want to. And I think, like, maybe I was thinking that, like I said, have something to do with my sister, like, if I can't have kids anymore. I don't know. But it's really, because I, like, really get mad. Like, inside, you know, I would never say anything.

1:03:37 Drew Drew, I'd give about a year's pay right now for some vodka in this drink right here.

1:03:40 Stryker Seriously.

1:03:41 Drew Yeah, crazy.

1:03:42 Stryker You get, you get rageful at other people's happiness.

1:03:47 Caller No, no, it's not like that. But I mean, like, I really like if it was up to me, I would have like five kids right now. I mean, I love kids.

1:03:55 Stryker Yeah, that's fine.

1:03:56 Drew And if it was up to me, I would tie your tubes with my hands and no gloves on.

1:04:00 Stryker If it were up to Stryker, he'd live in the Playboy Mansion and have fifty million dollars.

1:04:05 Drew That's right. That would be me.

1:04:08 Caller I know you're thinking like that I'm only 19 and everything, but like I'm not like a welfare mom. And there's nothing wrong with that if you need it.

1:04:17 Stryker So it's not what we're saying is that. First of all, if you satisfy. By the way, the reason that children is not for you, it's for the children. When you want you get a little bit of something out of it, but it almost doesn't matter. You know, I'm saying this is this is this is to propagate, to fulfill yourself and to raise healthy humans, healthy adults, not to gratify some intense desire to be pregnant. And to have lots of kids because I got to have lots of kids. That's fine. That's your preference. But it would be destructive to the kids right now. So that's why you don't do it.

1:04:56 Drew That's the bottom line right there. Drew, that's the best thing you've said in two weeks on this program. It's destructive to the kids. And you know what?

1:05:02 Stryker I'm right.

1:05:03 Drew Monica, you are right.

1:05:04 Stryker Seriously.

1:05:04 Drew 14. What's up, Monica? Happy St. Patrick's Day.

1:05:07 Oh, thank you.

1:05:08 Drew Yeah, no problem.

1:05:10 I got my tongue clear like five days ago. And it's like a hot pink kind of color under it. And like white on the top. I just I'm concerned about it. I don't know if it's healing.

1:05:23 Stryker And are you using the are using the glycolic, the mouthwash?

1:05:27 Yeah.

1:05:28 Stryker They gave you the mouthwash, a special mouthwash.

1:05:32 Well, my friend did. I just thought like Listerine kind of stuff.

1:05:36 Stryker You mean you didn't do it just at a place, working at a reputable place?

1:05:41 Drew Or even a non reputable place?

1:05:42 Stryker So you've taken a bar and stuck it through a body to body tissue mere inches from your brain and your airway. You've got to go to the hospital right now. People, this thing can swell to the point that you stop breathing. The infection can track into your brain has actually been documented to cause brain abscesses. This is nothing to f around with. This is ridiculous, Monica. You've got to go to a hospital.

1:06:04 Drew Oh my God, I am bringing out the best tonight.

1:06:06 Did you hear the way she was talking?

1:06:08 Stryker It sounded like she was holding her tongue.

1:06:09 Drew Yeah, her tongue was gigantic. Her airway was going to get blocked.

1:06:12 Stryker I know, her tongue is the size of a tennis ball. She sounded like this.

1:06:16 Drew Monica, why didn't you go to the mall and get it done at a reputable place, as Drew says?

1:06:22 Caller Oh, because I wouldn't be able to go.

1:06:28 Stryker Do we need to say more? You need to go to the hospital tonight.

1:06:31 Drew I'm sure Korn got their tongues pierced when they were living in Baker's Field at the mall there.

1:06:35 Stryker You're going to need to be on antibiotics. You might need to be in the hospital, and these things are going to need to come out. So let's take care of it. Here we go.

1:06:42 Drew So the first thing to do is take it out by yourself?

1:06:44 Stryker No, the first thing to do is go to the hospital. Go to a hospital. This is really serious.

1:06:47 Drew Do they have hospitals in Baker's Field?

1:06:48 Stryker They have them. They mostly treat horses and farm animals.

1:06:53 Drew Janine, number two there. Janine, 21, what's up? With the same guy? With the same guy?

1:07:09 Stryker Oh my God, I'm overwhelmed tonight. Well, you need to end this relationship. Yeah, that's right. What relationship? Which one? Exactly.

1:07:17 Drew You live with the one for two years?

1:07:18 Stryker You should end both of them, actually, but you certainly need to end the one with the guy that thinks he's your boyfriend. He's not your boyfriend. I don't. Then you need to...

1:07:26 Caller What? I'm sorry, my question is, I don't know why I'm doing it.

1:07:31 Stryker You're doing it because you can't stand intimacy.

1:07:35 Drew And mentally, you could be done with the other guy.

1:07:37 Stryker Or you're done with the and or you're done with this relationship.

1:07:41 Drew Two years, 21 years old, just be done with it. Tell them.

1:07:44 Stryker Sometimes you can't tell when you're young, when you're done. You don't know how to end relationships. You don't have experience with that. You let it drag on until you start doing things that make you end it or really let you know that it's over. Or you really have trouble with intimacy and this is the way to sabotage it.

1:07:58 Drew Or you're just thinking like a guy and getting as much as you can at 21 years old.

1:08:01 Stryker It's not a guy.

1:08:02 Drew I know. Thinking like one.

1:08:03 Stryker It's not a guy though. You can be thinking like a robot. You're still going to be a striker.

1:08:10 Drew That's true. Janine, do you think you can get rid of the guy that you've been with two years or do you still have feelings for him?

1:08:17 Stryker No, you don't. Why?

1:08:18 Drew Because you're sleeping with someone for six months.

1:08:19 Stryker You would do harmful things to somebody you love?

1:08:23 Drew 25% of the time you've been with a boyfriend, you've been sleeping with someone else.

1:08:28 Stryker Unless that's how you were treated by people you loved when you were growing up. So, we have a much more serious problem here that you can't have intimacy without this kind of chaos, without destructiveness, and that is time for treatment. Boy, I'm telling you, you were abused by people you relied on. Yeah. That's not okay. It takes a lot to get over that.

1:08:50 Drew All right. We got to take a break or we can grab the one about threesomes and foursomes again. All right. We're going to take a break. When we come back, Drew is going to get called out on the threesome and foursome talk, how it can happen if you have a relationship. Threesomes aren't bad, Drew. How many have you been in in your life?

1:09:05 Stryker Oh, what's today?

1:09:05 Drew Come on. You were crazy when you were going to USC.

1:09:08 Stryker When you were going to USC. None.

1:09:11 Drew You were at medical school. You were the man. You were smelling like the formaldehyde and the girls were on you. Seriously. I've seen your pictures back in the day. You're handsome now. You were hot then. God, Drew, you are. I am. Stryker. Enthralled by you. What?

1:09:23 Stryker Stop touching me.

1:09:24 Drew Thank you, Harass. Okay. We're taking a break. More threesome talk on this show, Loveline, after this.

1:09:32 Loveline with Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew.

1:09:49 Drew 1-800-LOVE-191 We're back here on Loveline. It's 1-800-LOVE-191. I'm Stryker, in for Adam, along with Dr. Drew St. Patrick's Day. If you're on the West Coast, you're probably, well, you've probably been out since about noon at one of the Irish bars. The O'Malley's, the Dublin's, the St. Nick's of the World, the Pearls, the this and the that. And you're going out with me tonight, Dr. What is the name of that?

1:10:10 Stryker Thomas?

1:10:11 Drew I don't know. I don't know. You said it earlier, stay it off the air. Who knows? I don't know what you're talking about. I just named five places near here.

1:10:17 Stryker It's freestanding. It's not a line of buildings like on Mallys and stuff.

1:10:21 Drew Freestanding.

1:10:22 Stryker It's just like a house almost by itself.

1:10:24 Drew I don't know. I don't know. Are you Irish?

1:10:27 Stryker No.

1:10:27 Drew By the way, tomorrow night, you guys, System of a Down is going to be in here. I think just half of them, Shavo and John are going to come in. They're working on the new record with Rick Rubin and they have a benefit concert in LA coming up pretty soon. We'll talk about that and what it's for and should be cool tomorrow. System of a Down on Loveline.

1:10:43 Stryker But first, Stryker, we're going to expose you to a Loveline tradition. It's called Germany.

1:10:48 Drew Oh, I thought we were going to figure out the threesome thing first.

1:10:51 Stryker No, first we're going to hear it. Oh, Germany or Florida?

1:10:55 Caller Germany or Florida.

1:10:57 Drew It's Germany or Florida.

1:11:01 Stryker Here is Alex. And what you do here, Stryker.

1:11:03 Drew What is this?

1:11:04 Stryker Hang on a second, Alex. We've discovered that everything weird emanates from either Germany or Florida. And not just weird in terms of novelty. You're more like novelty behaviors. The macabre, the weird, the degenerate. Germany or Florida. They tell us the story, we tell them Germany or Florida.

1:11:23 Drew That's where things happen most likely. And he's gonna tell us a story and I say if it's Germany or Florida? Okay, got it.

1:11:29 Stryker Alex.

1:11:30 Stryker Hey.

1:11:31 Stryker Hey.

1:11:31 Stryker How you doing?

1:11:32 Stryker Good.

1:11:33 Stryker Good. How you doing, Dr. Drew?

1:11:35 Stryker I'm good, Alex. What's going on, dude?

1:11:37 Stryker Nothing. It's cool being on.

1:11:39 Stryker That's cool. Are you gonna give us a story?

1:11:41 Stryker Yeah. Okay. A blank man was turned on by swallowing shaved barbie heads after they passed through his bowels, they were washed and used again.

1:11:52 Drew Say it again. A blank man, which means a German or Floridian man, was what now?

1:11:57 Stryker Was turned on by swallowing shaved barbie heads and after they passed through his bowels, they were washed and used again.

1:12:04 Stryker So, is it ecological? You know, he wouldn't dare just distribute barbie heads and take on new ones. You have to reuse the heads once they've been passed.

1:12:13 Drew Yes.

1:12:14 Stryker And now here's how this works. First of all, it smacks of Germany, doesn't it?

1:12:19 Drew I think it's straight, 100 percent it's got to be Germany. Yeah.

1:12:21 Stryker It's just the really wildly over the top bizarre sexual behavior.

1:12:26 Drew I love this game.

1:12:27 Stryker That don't include violence. Germany. And you wouldn't refer to a Floridian man. You wouldn't say a blank man unless it was a German man.

1:12:34 Drew You would say a German man.

1:12:36 Stryker So there's a little clue.

1:12:36 Drew So why are you giving me the answer? Can't I figure it out on my own?

1:12:39 Stryker I'm just I'm just this is your first time with the game. That is explain how the game works. So we're going to go Germany, Alex.

1:12:44 Drew Both of us.

1:12:44 Stryker Really?

1:12:45 Stryker What?

1:12:46 Stryker Really?

1:12:46 Stryker Yeah.

1:12:47 Stryker It's Florida.

1:12:51 Drew I'm no good.

1:12:51 Stryker But it's a German guy in Florida, right?

1:12:54 Drew Oh, I don't know.

1:12:55 Stryker No. Well, thank you, Alex. That's a very good. Where did you find that?

1:12:58 Stryker I found it in some book. I don't know. I thought it a Tower Records.

1:13:04 Drew That is great. Did you ever read The Onion? Yeah, I bought the book. Actually, my uncle, my uncle Jim gave me like the best of The Onion stories. And I sit there reading this thing. I just I just die of laughter. And it's the best, best book I've ever read. Wonderful. And I don't read that often. Except for a wee magazine and jugs.

1:13:22 Stryker Wee. Does wee exist anymore?

1:13:24 Drew No, I don't think so. I love wee magazine.

1:13:26 Stryker They're old enough for that. Susie.

1:13:30 Drew Susie, 25, married seven years. Give it to Dr. Drew, so to speak. What's going on?

1:13:34 Caller All right. I'm 25, my husband's 28, and our girlfriend is 23.

1:13:42 Drew Oh, yeah.

1:13:43 Caller Me and my husband have been together for nine years, married for seven, very happy. Very happy. And we've been with her for four years, very happy.

1:13:54 Drew Exclusively with her?

1:13:55 Caller Yes, we have two kids. And every once in a while, I do admit, we do have four sons. Another chick comes in. And me and her are not very interested in any other guy. So, but we're all living very happy.

1:14:11 Stryker So this is, this is, this is.

1:14:13 Caller They approve because two people work, one person stays with the kids.

1:14:16 Stryker You're fat. Polygamy then basically.

1:14:19 Caller Pretty much. The thing is when we got married.

1:14:22 Stryker This is a little different than a threesome. This is a four year relationship.

1:14:24 Caller When we got married, we didn't know I couldn't have kids. And that's how she came in if she can't have kids.

1:14:32 Drew Oh, she had the kids for you. And she's still sleeping with your husband.

1:14:36 Caller And me.

1:14:37 Drew And you are as well. And you have the kids.

1:14:39 Caller Yes, and we've been together four years. Perfectly happy. I mean, we just-

1:14:44 Drew Can I quote Adam just once tonight? Yeah. I never steal his lines. Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.

1:14:50 Stryker Yeah, right. Well, here's the deal.

1:14:52 Caller As normal couples, we do have our spats, but-

1:14:54 Stryker Yeah, as I said, Susie-

1:14:56 Caller In all in general, we get along and we run like a normal household. Everybody has their part.

1:15:01 Stryker Well, what kind of, what is this, what am I hearing in your voice? Is that speed or alcohol? What am I hearing?

1:15:08 Caller Nothing, actually. I have-

1:15:10 Stryker Are you recovering?

1:15:11 Drew Marlboro Lights.

1:15:11 Stryker Are you recovering? You're taking pain medication?

1:15:14 Caller No. I had two teeth removed and it was just like the third.

1:15:19 Drew Your front teeth?

1:15:20 Caller No, my side teeth.

1:15:34 Stryker You've never had a problem with drugs or alcohol?

1:15:36 Caller No.

1:15:38 Stryker It doesn't fit. Are you a smoker, cigarettes?

1:15:41 Caller I smoke cigarettes, but I am the only one in the house. Nobody drinks or does alcohol or does any drugs.

1:15:48 Drew Drew, there's nothing to figure out here, man. You're squinting, you're looking. Look, there's something weird in that house. Nothing you can figure out. That's all it is. That's why it's working.

1:15:58 Stryker Well, but there's something more there, but we're not gonna get it. So there you go. We're not gonna get it. Whatever.

1:16:02 Drew I hope it works out. That's cool.

1:16:04 Stryker Let's try it with Jackie, 21.

1:16:07 Drew Just cause it's a medical question.

1:16:08 Stryker No, cause it's from Alaska.

1:16:09 Drew Oh, Alaska. The Conditory. No, what's it called? The Dog Race?

1:16:14 Stryker Yeah.

1:16:15 Drew Yeah, what's up, Jackie?

1:16:16 Stryker Iditarod.

1:16:16 Drew Iditarod. No, Jackie to Alaska. Jackie, she's gone. She's in Alaska. Go to Julie. I guess. What's up, Julie? 26.

1:16:31 Caller I have a concern or kind of like just a couple of questions. I've been with my boyfriend for about five years and he's a stress case. Like he stresses a lot about things. He's a thinker, so he's constantly thinking and.

1:16:50 Stryker How dare he do something so degenerate? What is he stressing about?

1:16:54 Caller He doesn't want to have sex.

1:16:56 Stryker Yeah, but you're trying to figure out why he doesn't want to have sex and you've decided it's because he's nervous. Listen, a freaking terrorist attack could occur and guys will still do their thing. It takes a lot more than anxiety to make a guy not interested in sex.

1:17:12 Drew Definitely.

1:17:13 Stryker He may have a rectal problem if he's terribly anxious, but so what's going on here?

1:17:22 Drew Hello. Hold on, Julie.

1:17:24 Stryker Yeah, okay, no problem. Let's find out what the name of that bar was. Yeah.

1:17:28 Drew Hey, she's from Seattle. She knows the name of the bar?

1:17:32 Caller Yeah, well, I grew up in Southern California.

1:17:33 Adam I grew up in Arcadia, but-

1:17:35 Stryker Arcadia, what do you know about Seattle?

1:17:39 Adam Well, I moved here like in 94 with my family.

1:17:44 Stryker My kids just had a Lidley game tonight in Sierra Madre.

1:17:47 Caller Oh, yeah, that's where my grandparents live.

1:17:49 Adam I still have tons of family down there and I visit quite a bit.

1:17:51 Caller But I think the name of that bar that you're trying to think of is Tom Bergens.

1:17:55 Stryker Yes, Tom Bergens.

1:17:56 Drew Oh my God.

1:17:57 Stryker God bless you. That's it. Wow. And it's on Fairfax, right?

1:18:00 Adam Yeah, it is. I've been sitting here screaming at the radio and being irritated with my cell phone that it keeps being busy.

1:18:08 Drew Dina, because you told us that, you know what we're going to give you?

1:18:11 Caller Nothing.

1:18:12 Drew A new car.

1:18:14 Stryker No, Stryker is going to go there and have a beer.

1:18:17 Drew No, I'm not going there tonight. I got another plan where I'm going.

1:18:19 Stryker Where are you going?

1:18:20 Drew I'm not going to announce her award. Yes.

1:18:22 Adam You do go there and tell the bartender, Chris, that Dina says hi.

1:18:25 Drew OK, you got it. Now we're passing matches on to the bars.

1:18:28 Adam All right.

1:18:29 Drew Is that Keely still there? Not something else. Kathy, what's up? You're 22 on Loveline.

1:18:36 Caller I love you. You get me through my drive home. I have some work at the end of the day. Cool.

1:18:41 Caller Dr. Drew, love you too. So my question is, I have a very good friend of mine whose girlfriend happened to cheat on him, and he's still with her. And is it any of my business to be interfering with that?

1:19:01 Stryker Well, given that if you are insistent on interfering, you're either into chaos and trying to stir it up with her, or you're into him and would like to break him up so you can make your move. Which is it?

1:19:14 Caller Yeah, it's the latter.

1:19:15 Stryker You're into him. Okay. None of your business.

1:19:18 Drew Good call, Dr. Drew.

1:19:20 Stryker You can certainly, there's never anything wrong with letting somebody know how you're feeling. If you were to go up to him and say, look, I just want you to know if you break up your girlfriend, you should call me. Just let him know that that door is open and then maybe that will motivate him to get out of this dysfunctional situation. But beyond that, it's none of your business.

1:19:42 Drew Do you think you're going to go up to him and say-

1:19:44 Stryker She's going to tell him. She's going to tell him no matter what.

1:19:46 Drew She's going to tell him. No, tell her.

1:19:48 Stryker She's going to tell him that the girlfriend is cheating.

1:19:50 Drew Instead of just telling him, hey, I'm into you a little bit.

1:19:53 Stryker You don't have to tell him again. Listen, I heard some stuff, but it just seems like you're not so happy right now. Just know that if you break up, I'm available. Here's my phone number.

1:20:00 Drew What are you doing at home tonight on St. Patrick's Day, Kathy? Why aren't you going out wearing green?

1:20:06 Caller I just got home from Cantors, actually.

1:20:09 Drew From Cantors, which is also on Fairfax. Did you see Rodney there?

1:20:14 Adam What?

1:20:15 Drew Did you see Rodney Bingenheimer there?

1:20:17 Adam What does he look like?

1:20:19 Drew Short and odd.

1:20:20 Caller There were many of those there.

1:20:26 Drew Good God, man. All right, I like you very much. Just be cool and don't just do it in a good way. Tell them you're into them. If something were to happen, I'm available. Right, Drew? Is that the way to do it? Yeah. Just like that.

1:20:38 Caller Where are we?

1:20:39 Stryker Tony.

1:20:39 Drew Tony, 21. What's up?

1:20:42 Caller Well, my girlfriend thinks that my sack is much too stretchy than normal. I don't know whether or not I should ignore her.

1:20:50 Stryker What does that mean?

1:20:51 Drew The sack is too stretchy. It's like stretch your arm strong with a jelly in it. You pull.

1:20:56 Caller I mean, they're like bat wings. And she thinks I should get it tucked or go see a doctor about it.

1:21:01 Stryker Remember Adam had a famous porno like Mr. Elastic Scrotum? Are you double-jointed, so to speak? Do you have any kind of-

1:21:12 Caller In my arms, but-

1:21:13 Stryker Because there are connective tissue diseases. I'm called Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and things like that. Really? People can have these very stretchy- Well, it's not necessarily bad.

1:21:21 Drew Does that mean your testicles hang low or you just have a lot of extra skin there? Oh, so can you tuck the whole thing inside the skin?

1:21:30 Stryker No, no, if it gets cold, he has a wrap.

1:21:33 Drew Right, he can wrap his whole body in it.

1:21:35 Stryker Yeah, and you can get dislocations of your lens and things like that if you have these connective tissue diseases, but it's, you know-

1:21:42 Drew Is it freaking out, man, that she's commenting on the stretchiness of the sac?

1:21:46 Caller Yeah, she seems to be a little worried about it.

1:21:48 Caller I mean, I've been with it for 21 years, so I'm kind of used to it. I mean, I didn't really notice anything out of the ordinary, but mine is the only one she's seeing.

1:21:55 Stryker You can always get things checked out. I don't think it's harmed to do so. You should know if you had a connective tissue disease like that, but I don't think it's anything you should worry about.

1:22:03 Drew Drew, have you ever seen anybody with elephantitis of the testicles?

1:22:06 Stryker No, I've never seen it. It's elephantiasis.

1:22:09 Drew Tiasis.

1:22:09 Stryker I've never seen this, too. It's a filarial disease for Africa.

1:22:12 Drew If you ever have a patient that comes in- I'll call you. That's what they did, call me, 1-800-521.

1:22:18 Caller Wait, Drew, tell them about the guy that got shot to the butt and what does Wiener look like after that?

1:22:24 Drew Yeah, please tell me.

1:22:25 Stryker Ladies and gentlemen, my engineer, Anderson. It was great, though.

1:22:28 Drew It's a great story.

1:22:29 Stryker All right. I remember-

1:22:31 Drew Mr. Stryker will love it.

1:22:32 Stryker When I was on a surgical service as a third year medical student, there were two guys and this one woman, we were this team of medical students, and we were on a Saturday night service, which means all the gunshot wounds, all the stamp, at LA County USC Hospital. Dozens and dozens of trauma patients. And it's four in the morning and the resident goes, hey, Suzy, there's your patient over there. Go check him out. And they throw back the sheet on this guy. And his dork is the size of, how would you describe this, like a large squash football?

1:23:09 Drew Yeah. His wiener.

1:23:10 Stryker Yes.

1:23:11 Drew Was the size of a football.

1:23:12 Stryker Yeah. And she recoils, jumps back. It's like, what happened? He had been shot. He was running away from some guy, shot through the butt.

1:23:21 Drew Right.

1:23:22 Stryker And it came out through the nose and ruptured all that and swelled up.

1:23:27 Drew Oh my goodness. I like that story. Thank you, Nasredna, for pointing that out. That's Anderson Backwards, by the way.

1:23:33 Stryker We'll be right back. Yeah, I think it's time for us to take a break.

1:23:36 Drew Is it? Yeah.

1:23:37 Stryker All right.

1:23:37 Drew All right, you guys, we're going to take a break. I'm Stryker, by the way. I'm the one feebly attempting to fill in for Adam. I'll be back tomorrow with System of a Down and Dr. Drew. We'll do some more Loveline. We've just got a little bit left here. We'll be back after this. Hello. Hey, we're back. This is Loveline. I'm Stryker for Adam Carolla. Dr. Drew is here. And real quick before we go on, I want to say hello to everyone that is in Tucson listening where I used to live for a while, go to college, work, hang out, dirt bags, the bar's there, and Arizona plays tomorrow. The NCAA basketball tournament starts tomorrow. So, cats, good luck. Whatever. I have a luck for the tournament.

1:24:36 Stryker Really?

1:24:37 Drew It is, who is it? Monmouth, Monmouth? No, I don't know. I don't have the sheet in front of me. I'm going with the 16C to go all the way. Or Stanford. Stanford or Arizona or Kentucky or Connecticut. Those are my four. What are you doing? I can't give out my shout out to Arizona.

1:24:57 Stryker You did.

1:24:57 Drew Okay, good, fine.

1:24:58 Stryker Here we go.

1:24:59 Drew Yes, I do. Haven't been there in a long time, but I liked it.

1:25:02 Stryker Christina.

1:25:03 Drew Kristiana.

1:25:05 Stryker 19, what's up?

1:25:07 Caller Kristiana.

1:25:08 Stryker Yes, you, what's up?

1:25:13 Caller What's up? Oh, are you asking me what my question is?

1:25:16 Stryker Yes.

1:25:17 Drew Yeah, you're drunk already on St. Patrick's Day.

1:25:20 Stryker You're on the road, Kristiana.

1:25:21 Drew Hurry up, we gotta go.

1:25:22 Caller Okay, my question is, I like this guy. I made out with him on New Year's, right? And the thing is, he didn't call me back the next day, so I don't know if he likes me or not.

1:25:32 Drew It was New Year's Eve. Guys do anything on New Year's Eve, and the next day it's kind of irrelevant what they did that night.

1:25:38 Stryker The answer is he's not.

1:25:39 Drew If it's the first time they did it.

1:25:40 Stryker If he's interested, he's coming back like a freight train. If he had, guys do not play games. They're not ambivalent. They are, I mean, they're a pain. They're so persistent.

1:25:53 Drew If they're not calling, it's not because they're trying to make you think something. It's just that they're not into it.

1:25:58 Stryker No, no, no.

1:25:58 Drew That's the bottom line on that. Don't you think, Drew?

1:26:00 Stryker Yes, it just doesn't work like that. Let's go back to Alaska.

1:26:05 Drew Okay, Jackie in Alaska, what's up?

1:26:07 Caller Yeah, I had a question. Three days ago, my, like right below my stomach was hurting.

1:26:14 Stryker Below your stomach?

1:26:15 Caller Like my abdomen.

1:26:16 Stryker Your abdomen and your stomach? Like around your belly button? Where your stomach is in the middle in what's called the epigastrium. You're talking about around your belly button?

1:26:25 Caller No, I'm talking like-

1:26:27 Drew In the vagina area?

1:26:29 Caller I don't know, ovaries, I guess.

1:26:31 Stryker So lower quadrant pain.

1:26:33 Caller Yeah.

1:26:34 Stryker So lower abdominal pain.

1:26:35 Drew Quadrant.

1:26:36 Stryker Okay.

1:26:36 Caller Like even if I lay on my stomach, I'd hurt. Or if I'm riding in the car, I'd have pain.

1:26:44 Stryker Both sides?

1:26:46 Caller No, just the right side. Uh-oh.

1:26:48 Drew Appendix.

1:26:49 Stryker It does sound like appendix. How about if you like to stand in your tiptoes and drop to your heel?

1:26:53 Caller I have no idea, I haven't tried-

1:26:56 Drew Push in on the side of your stomach where the pain is and then release it immediately. And if there's pain, could be appendicitis, right?

1:27:03 Stryker That's the rebound tendinitis or also the heel drop.

1:27:06 Drew I'm like a doctor now.

1:27:09 Caller Well, I went to the hospital today and they couldn't even answer that. They said that it's either an absence on my ovaries.

1:27:18 Stryker Right, a ruptured ovarian cyst or an appendix or maybe an ovarian or endometriosis or tubal infection sometimes will do this. But you need an ultrasound and you need to see a gynecologist. And have you done any of that?

1:27:32 Caller No, they said to call back on Friday.

1:27:34 Stryker Did they do a blood count on you?

1:27:36 Caller No.

1:27:37 Stryker Okay, you need a blood count and you need an ultrasound. Yeah, so they can look at what's going on down there. All right, it does sound like an appendicitis. And that needs to be sort of got, has to be considered that until proven otherwise.

1:27:51 Caller Okay, thank you.

1:27:52 Stryker All right, good luck.

1:27:53 Drew I want to take care of mama there.

1:27:54 Stryker Did we talk to Keely already? No, in Oregon?

1:27:56 Drew Keely, what's up? 13.

1:27:59 Adam Yeah, I've been making out with my brother's best friend. And recently I found out that he is like scared to love.

1:28:10 Caller And I think he's like just using me.

1:28:13 Stryker And how old, how old is he? How old is he? Yeah, well, he's just, how far is he? All he knows.

1:28:20 Drew He's smarter than his age.

1:28:21 Stryker He's just making out. That's it. That's as far as that's all he knows. He doesn't know more or less than that. He doesn't know it's you, even. He just knows he's making out. You understand? He's not using, he's just making out.

1:28:31 Drew He doesn't even know what's hit him. He's so excited. He's not playing games. He's making out. He's, what did you say about love though? That was kind of funny and fun.

1:28:38 Stryker He can't love.

1:28:39 Drew He can't love.

1:28:39 Stryker He's 15. Yes, he can't love. Nor can any other 15 year old male.

1:28:42 Drew I can't even love at this point in my life. I got all sorts of problems, Keely. Don't even worry.

1:28:47 Stryker You're 13. Let's call your brother's friend. Relax, he's too old for you. Stop, stop, calm down. Yeah, don't do this. He's this, it's not, I know it feels very intense, but it's nothing. I know, stop it, stop it. Just don't make more of it than it is.

1:29:09 Drew Look it, by the time you're 14, you're probably gonna have many kisses, lots of oral sex.

1:29:14 Caller Stop, stop.

1:29:15 Stryker Stop?

1:29:16 Drew Really?

1:29:17 Stryker I mean, just don't even.

1:29:18 Drew Okay, fine. Guys, you see Dr. Drew right now. His eyes are closed and he's leaning back and he's scratching his head and he's wondering, what's going on?

1:29:25 Stryker I'm in pain.

1:29:26 Drew Why are you in pain?

1:29:27 Stryker Thinking about what these young women put themselves through.

1:29:29 Drew I'm sorry. You care so deeply, man. Do you care about me? Honestly, do you care? When can I come over?

1:29:38 Stryker When next time my kids are out of state. Hannah, 19.

1:29:43 Caller Hi, I have a question. I don't know if I'm super, super paranoid or what's going on, but I've had these thoughts for about the past six months running through my head that my father might be having an affair. And I'm talking really quietly because my brother's in the next room. I don't know, it just seems like ever since he switched cell phone plans, it's like we can't, you know, obviously we can't see who's calling, he switched banks, and it seems like he's on his phone a lot, like his cell phone, like homemade calls on his cell phone when he's sitting next to the phone on the wall. My mother's actually out of town this evening because she's with a school thing up north.

1:30:20 Stryker What school is that, what do you mean?

1:30:22 Caller I'm sorry, she's out of town for a school convention thing just for two nights, and he's been gone since, he's been gone for about five hours so far, and I called him, you know, make sure everything's okay, and he's not picking up his cell phone. And ever since he's got his Harley motorcycle, it's just really freaking me out. My parents have been married for 30 years, and I love them to death, and I would never suspect anything.

1:30:48 Stryker But has he suddenly changed his whole style?

1:30:51 Caller No, not like hygiene or anything like that. I mean, he's still, you know.

1:30:54 Stryker No, but I mean, the Harley and all this stuff.

1:30:56 Drew What about the bank thing? What does that have?

1:30:58 Caller He actually, he had eight, he had eight motorcycles before my parents were married. When you got kids and like that, and so he found out and got a new bike, and you know, he's taking her for rides, and the bank thing, it's a stupid story, but it's just nothing like physically or anything about him has changed. I mean, that would just-

1:31:18 Drew What do you think about, Drew, I may be way off, you've handled this way more, what about in a adult, cool sort of way, maybe asking him?

1:31:26 Stryker Yeah, it's possible. Has he ever had an affair before?

1:31:31 Caller I mean, I would not, but it's like, I kind of find it hard to believe, like especially the way we were brought up, especially religiously, that, you know, you would take 30 years of marriage and just turn, you know, four members of your family against you by doing something that's not going to last.

1:31:44 Stryker Yeah, why he would, right, attack his family basically for no reason.

1:31:47 Caller I can't get it off my mind.

1:31:49 Stryker Well, just relax. It's unlikely that's the case for whatever. It sounds to me like-

1:31:54 Drew A lot of coincidence.

1:31:55 Stryker Yeah, it sounds to me like you're mostly responding to him sort of pulling away or changing in some way. The dad you knew is somehow evolving into something else. And that may be just where he is in his life. He's just changing right now for whatever reason. You guys are going off to school. You're 19 now. The kids are growing up. He's sort of expressing parts of himself that may he may have been repressing since before you guys were born and it may be a little bit scary. Doesn't mean he's going to have impaired judgment and do things that are going to hurt your family. There you go.

1:32:21 Drew We do because we are running late. More Loveline after this.

1:32:24 Stryker Hold on.

1:32:24 Stryker All right, guys, here's the deal.

1:32:27 Caller Call the Dateline. Stick a waste in time with the wrong person.

1:32:29 Stryker Call the Dateline.

1:32:30 Caller One call is all you need to make. Call the Dateline. One eight seven seven eight eight nine date.

1:32:37 Caller You know what I'm saying now, Dan?

1:33:07 Drew It is Loveline, the end of it, Stryker and Dr. Drew. Drew, thank you.

1:33:11 Stryker Stryker, it was a pleasure.

1:33:12 Drew Definitely.

1:33:13 Stryker But by tomorrow night, get rid of that fingernail polish.

1:33:16 Drew Keep the fingernail polish.

1:33:17 Stryker Get rid of that fingernail polish.

1:33:18 Drew Thank you, Anderson. I like it. Thank you very much. It's St. Patrick's Day. I'm going out. Be careful driving home, Dr. Drew. Thanks to the Callers also for being so cool. I really appreciate it. Adam will be back in a couple of days. Tomorrow night, System of a Down. And we're going to wrap it up right now for Dr. Drew. I'm Stryker saying goodbye. Goodbye.

1:33:38 Caller This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors, or this station. The producer for Loveline is Annie Gold. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.

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