1:08🔗
Adam
Dr. Drew, board certified physician, addiction medicine specialist, and angry, angry man. He's got his ticket. He got a ticket yesterday, everybody. Moving violation, Dr. Drew, and Drew gets himself a couple of moving violations a year.
1:32🔗
Well, that's obviously someone. Drew, when I tell you I don't have a problem with alcohol.
1:50🔗
Adam
Well, here's the thing. You live in Los Angeles. And they gotta make a buck off you. But nothing you do is inherently dangerous because you don't get into accidents.
2:07🔗
Adam
Drew's nothing, just trying to make a little time. Here's what goes on in Los Angeles, too. Drew and I were, it's kind of funny. You know, it's interesting. You guys listening around the country and even around the state, probably got your eye on American Idol tonight. Everyone curious to see what's going to go on.
2:27🔗
Adam
You got everything going on at the Kodak Theater, and it's right across the street from Jimmy Kimmel Live, and it looks all very glamorous. To us, huge pain in the sack.
2:38🔗
Adam
I work across the street, literally across the street from where it is, where I sit up on my sixth floor and look out the window and look at all the lemmings lining up to get a glimpse at Chiffon and whatever the hell, Fantasia, and wherever the hell their name is. And we, and Ryan, what's the name? Sechrist, we all work in there, and what ends up happening is when they have these big events, such as the Academy Awards and the American Idol finale and all that, for us translates into huge pain in the ass because they close off Hollywood Boulevard, and Hollywood Boulevard's a major artery, and here's how this city works. This city is working like an old man's heart that's just been, where the guy's been living on a steady diet of ass on a shingle and a chip beef and a pudding, and everything's, the arteries are clogged already. Now we're cutting one off, and there's gonna be a stroke. That's what happens. Like we're already at full capacity, and now you cut off a main artery.
3:50🔗
Adam
You start, like your house is one direction, you turn your back on it. You start heading the other direction.
3:57🔗
Adam
Right, and what happens when you live in Los Angeles too, is every drive's a fishing expedition. It's like your house is up and to the right, you're going down and to the left.
4:09🔗
Caller
You're just fishing, turning, trying to keep moving, working your way around, looping around. Uh-oh, street's been closed off. Who's getting out? One of the guys, Shatner's getting another star in the Walk of Fame that blocked the street off. Got to cut down and go back around again.
4:32🔗
Drew
And I just said, all right, got to get off this street. Got to start moving. That's right. Move up. And then there was very confusing signs.
4:46🔗
No, no.
4:58🔗
Come on, you'll get paid.
4:59🔗
Adam
Are you worried about the patients? Yeah, Drew, as a doctor, by the way, that's why I tell you, keep that cooler with the organ transplant sticker on it in your back seat. You know, the little Coleman cooler, organs, and by the way, I got to just take some calves' liver and throw it in there every once in a while. They think that the average guy's walking the beat's gonna, you open that up.
5:37🔗
Drew
I wondered about this business too but them waving me up the street and into their little web.
5:52🔗
Caller
You got to ask for a form. I don't remember how I did it. It was a long time ago, but I was guilty as hell and I won through the mail. Ooh.
6:00🔗
Drew
Correct the violation. What does that mean? Is that what that mean? Correct the violation.
6:13🔗
Drew
No, I just dropped it in the mail and never went to court. Why not? You don't help me, Anderson. You don't tell me how to do it.
6:53🔗
You don't have to show up to court to pay for the ticket.
7:01🔗
You don't have to show up court to pay, do you?
7:23🔗
Adam
That's another great one. You're gonna fight the ticket, but just pay the ticket first and then we'll decide whether you should get your money back or not. All right, well, good times and how'd you beat it Anderson?
7:39🔗
Caller
That was back in my drug days and I didn't know what the hell was going on, but I couldn't afford the ticket. So I sent out, it was a mistake.
7:45🔗
Drew
It slipped out of my hand. I didn't try to, I was actually trying to buy more cigarettes right then.
7:54🔗
Adam
Well, here's my take on finding the tickets by the way, Drew. It doesn't really matter what the merits of your case are. Probably about one out every 10 is gonna make it past. The cops not gonna show up or they're just gonna randomly send it back just to say they do every once in a while.
8:14🔗
Drew
Hey, by the way, I want you to know something about, I'm reading this ticket right now. Look at my approximate speed. What does that tell you about how screwed up I was looking around trying to figure what the hell was going on?
8:32🔗
Adam
Disoriented, Drew. All right, buddy. I'm telling you, if you got that cooler with the calves liver in it and it said, Oregon Transplant.
8:54🔗
Fight the power.
9:00🔗
I'm all about against authority.
9:17🔗
Caller
If your parents tell you to do your homework, you don't do it. And if your boss tells you to show up early the next day, don't ever do anything anyone ever tells you to do.
9:31🔗
Caller
I'm doing on that path. I once got in trouble for saluting a cop with the middle finger.
10:00🔗
Caller
I was, anyway. But I do it quite a bit and, like, I can't get off if I just use my hand, like, regularly. I have to use, like, this back massager-like thing.
10:13🔗
Caller
It's like, if I do it regularly, it took, one time it took me, like, an hour and a half.
10:43🔗
Adam
You use that back massager. Drew, what percentage, and Drew, put the ticket down now. You're starting to obsess now. Turn into Lenny Bruce. You're not funny anymore. Now listen. What percentage of 16-year-old girls can diddle themselves just using a digit or two and have an orgasm within 15 minutes?
11:31🔗
Adam
Yeah, 60, but you're still talking about 60% who aren't having an orgasm through any, any masturbation at all.
11:37🔗
Yeah, all right.
11:51🔗
Okay, so my boyfriend just got back from the golf and well, we just started going out when he came back from the golf and we started having sex and he kept on going limp while he was inside of me, like when he started going really fast and he could stay hard when I give him a blow job and he could stay hard when I give him a hand job but he can't get off. So we took him to the urologist and they have no idea what's wrong with him.
12:24🔗
Drew
Does he think that this is something new and unusual? In other words, what I'm getting at is, does he speculate that either he was traumatized in the golf or maybe he was given some vaccines that he's reacted to poorly?
12:37🔗
He thinks it has to do something with like loss of sensitivity down there because while he was in like the Navy, like when he was stationed in San Diego, he did a lot of drugs like PCP and acid and ecstasy and a lot of stuff like that.
12:51🔗
Drew
I'm delighted to hear that. That's very reassuring by the way. Yeah, we do hear this one spot from PC, from ecstasy.
13:06🔗
He can only have an orgasm when he masturbates himself. So he does that like on me randomly when he can't get off.
13:12🔗
Otherwise.
13:22🔗
Whatever.
13:27🔗
Why, why?
13:32🔗
Adam
It's like, I could just see her. She's working on like a crossword puzzle. She's got her reading glasses on. She's in the den trying to watch TV. He's standing over her.
13:49🔗
Adam
All right. Here's what I'm trying to figure out. I'm trying to figure out that the hand job and the BJ doesn't work. But what I'm trying to figure out is, did intercourse work for him in the orgasm back when? But the BJ and the handy never did?
14:10🔗
Caller
The blow job did, but the hand job, it's never real. I mean, for most guys, it doesn't work that well.
14:23🔗
Drew
Now, you also had sensitivity down there. Does he have trouble actually feeling his penis? He says it stops having like feeling when he starts going really hard like he's not, he doesn't have to sit on like a turbine or something that could have injured the nerve, the pudendal nerve.
14:49🔗
Caller
What he did, he was like special warfare or something. Like he did a lot of things on like boats and he went to Afghanistan and-
15:03🔗
Adam
Navy, doing stuff on boats now. All right, that's how God's, God love women. They don't sweat the details.
15:17🔗
Adam
They just never, never know. Their dad, we talk to women all the time, dad could be a colonel, they could be an ace with, could have shot down 28 megs in Vietnam and could have flew an F4 Phantom and been shot down and been in the Hanoi Hilton for four years.
16:05🔗
Adam
She had it out, because it really was nothing. I'd be pissed though if I was like a fighter pilot or a professional high-light player or something interesting and cool and a secret agent or something. My daughter was like, eh, eh, eh.
16:23🔗
Yes.
16:28🔗
Caller
I'm calling about a year ago. It was a year ago, April 27th. My father passed away. He was in a motorcycle accident. I'm, huh? Sheesh. Yeah, I've been to counselor after counselor after counselor, and they all tell me the same thing. You know, you have a fear of loss, blah. But the thing is, is I'm taking it out on everybody around me. My best friend, my boyfriend, my daughter. I mean, I'm downright mean now, and-
17:20🔗
Caller
No, no, no, we had started to work through all that, and the lady killed him before we ever had a chance to get any closure, I should say.
17:37🔗
Adam
Well, let me ask a couple of good questions. Quite, what did he do to you that made you hate him?
17:46🔗
Caller
My mom gave me up to him when I was four, and I grew up in crack parties and orgies, and I knew how to cut his stuff and sell it for him. I mean, by the time I was five-
18:02🔗
Caller
No, I've never touched the stuff. You've never done it? I had my moment with it when I was about 17, and realized I was going to be my father, and said, I've never touched the stuff again, and then I got my-
18:19🔗
Adam
All right, so Val, God bless you for having kids, by the way, being the world's angriest mom. Okay, here's this, you know, all right, now I'm not going to dig in on Val, because you've been through enough in her relatively short life, and by the way, she's 23, sounds like a Vietnam nurse in her 50s.
18:40🔗
Adam
No, here's the dealio, your dad's a horrible guy, and your mom may be worse, and a lot of the anger you have toward your dad should also be heading toward your mom, who was the one who dumped you off with the drug addict biker, and went and chased her booze dreams and never dealt with you. I don't know, your dad probably was lucky to make it as far as he did in life. I mean, if he died at 45, that was probably old for him, considering the kind of life he was living.
19:11🔗
Adam
And I don't know what kind of progress you're trying to make with him, but this is more about therapy for you. And go ahead, Drew.
19:19🔗
Drew
Drew's got about 10 things to say. One is Adam is absolutely right. He outlived his disease that has nothing to do with you. Number two, your dad was an absolute asshole. You wished him dead and he died. That must feel horrible. You wanted him dead and he died. Here's the reality about that relationship you were forming with him. It would not have gone anywhere. There is no way that would have gone anywhere but to more misery for you.
19:50🔗
Drew
It's not going anywhere because Val didn't do any work. She would have done a lot of work herself also to make that relationship work. That relationship was going nowhere. You wished him dead and he died and now you're guilty.
20:06🔗
Drew
And he died and you feel guilty and you feel as though somehow you had a responsibility in that regard. It has nothing to do with you. He died of his disease of addiction. That relationship you thought you were going to have with him was never going to be real, never going to be realized, never going anywhere. This has nothing to do with you. It's his disease. Take care of yourself. You've got a ton of crap you got to deal with. Let go of all this. You're just using it as an excuse to act out and the people you love.
20:41🔗
Drew
No, I know what this is. He was just using a little less at this time. Val, cut it out. If you want some help, go to an Al Anon meeting, get a sponsor. But I suspect you're an addict yourself. You're acting like one.
21:21🔗
Drew
Val, you're using this as an excuse to act out on your family and you cut it out. Come on, cut it out.
21:28🔗
Drew
Okay, you can do better than this. His death had nothing to do with you, nothing. And that relationship you thought you were gonna have, you weren't gonna have anymore.
21:53🔗
Adam
When all you have, when the only history you have with somebody is being part of their horrible lifestyle, where they're hedonistic lifestyle, where they're having orgies and doing speed and using you to step on their speed and sell it to their buddies. And God knows what his fellow biker buddies did with you when you were 13 and all this stuff. When this is your only relationship, no need to go back and patch it up. It's really like looking for a crap you took 20 years ago and seeing if you can make it, see if you can make it into a log cabin.
22:43🔗
Adam
If your dad just cuts you, let's just say, all right, here's what I'm saying. Okay, listen to me, Drew. Let's just say the dad knocks up the mom and has never seen again. And the mom just raises the kid. Okay, the kid doesn't need to find the sperm donor. He knocked her up and left town. This is worse than that. He hung out and abused you for 15 years. You actually have less reason. At least the guy who left, at least that was his only screw up.
23:10🔗
Drew
And we're not saying don't give a guy in recovery a second chance, but he had two years of solid recovery under his belt and you would have to do a little work there. So he'd ask you to do some work yourself before he'd want you back in his life.
23:30🔗
Adam
People can go a little crazy with this blood thing. And the blood thing is good if the person acts like it.
23:37🔗
Drew
There's a fantasy, the child is so full of fantasy about who the parent is. The reality comes to bear, they want to recapture that fantasy. Well, that fantasy was just a fantasy. It wasn't really there in the first place.
24:09🔗
Adam
And don't question their techniques. If that means handing out tickets to doctors for chicken-esque violations, so be it. We don't know, we're not law enforcement personnel. We don't know how the techniques work.
24:37🔗
Adam
I don't think so. She's coming in, I think later on, maybe a couple of weeks from now. So we'll take a quick break. We'll be right back.
24:45🔗
Hello, this is your radio.
24:51🔗
Caller
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25:16🔗
Adam
That's Dr. Drew, consumer advocate, Dr. Drew. He's in your corner, everybody, he's fighting for you. Got himself a moving violation yesterday. He's got a chip on his shoulder. Yeah, he's angry, Drew is. He's reading about how to contest it. He's gonna write a letter. It's gonna be big, Drew. I'll tell you, you're gonna win. And you know what you're gonna win?
26:06🔗
Caller
I met this guy at a bar and I'm 15 years old and I went to a bar and I met him and he's 24 and my ride dumped me there. So we went over to his house and had sort of a kissing thing and he was supposed to call me today and he didn't call. And I was wondering if I should go to his house and see what's up.
26:54🔗
Drew
That's what was gonna happen that night, but he had a weak moment. Do not go anywhere near this guy.
27:21🔗
Adam
What's going on with you, by the way? Boy, I'll tell you, your dad needs a nice iron boot to the sack.
27:52🔗
Adam
Listen, you're angry, you're acting out, and I don't know who's supposed to be supervising you. My grandma. You got two moms.
28:23🔗
Adam
All right, so, Echo, here's the situation. You're angry, and rightfully so, and you're acting out, and you're gonna screw yourself up. I mean, you're gonna get pregnant, you're gonna get a venereal disease.
28:38🔗
Adam
You're gonna, or worse, you could become a publicist. You understand? Do you know what a publicist is, Sweet Pea? That that's an a-hole, mostly gay, who worked with celebrities and aren't celebrities, but think they're celebrities. It's horrible. They're horrible, horrible, wretched, horrible, awful people who, if they had a shred of dignity, would put a shotgun in their mouths. You could end up one of them. You understand? Okay, I don't want that to happen to you, or anyone. Really, for my sake, too, because they're so horrible. So Echo, get some therapy or something. I know you're angry, and I know you have to be angry all the time, and even when you call radio shows to talk to people, you have to pretend like we called you, because she's angry.
29:23🔗
Drew
How when people have a certain experience of life, when you ask a question about why things are so out of line, they're sort of bewildered.
29:34🔗
Adam
Your dad abandoned the family, your mom's an alcoholic or a drug addict, and you're raised by grandmother, probably trying to do the best she can, but let's not forget whose mom she is. She's either your dad's mom or your mom's mom. Mom's mom, and take a good look at mom. Yeah, maybe didn't do a spectacular job with mom.
29:59🔗
Adam
All right, now everyone's daddy, got the 24 year old guy. At least the guy didn't have sex with you, Echo. Why didn't the guy have sex with you?
30:30🔗
Caller
Well, it was making out. We didn't go further than clothes taken off. Nothing like that.
30:42🔗
Adam
He's not going to call you A, because he probably sobered up and realized he doesn't want to go to jail. And B, you're in the ninth grade.
30:56🔗
Adam
All right. So you dodged a bullet. I know you're going to get into trouble. I don't know what to tell you. Just don't get pregnant. Can you go lesbian or something?
31:33🔗
Adam
And look, this is why these parents need to be prosecuted because they create a mess. And our society is so goddamn stupid when it comes to this stuff that we, you know, we have, first off, we have all these platitudes. Like, why don't you just, you know, pick yourself up our bootstraps and get busy. Start focusing on our studies.
31:54🔗
Drew
Listen, I'm hearing stuff lately. We've gone so far backwards, like the last three months. I argue stuff on some of these cable news channels. They're just kids being kids. They're just kids being kids. Oh, kids have always done stuff like this.
32:05🔗
Adam
No, the difference between a 15 year old that has been properly taken care of, loved and nurtured by two heterosexual parents.
32:18🔗
Adam
And I'm not even talking, I don't care what the act is. Just that 15 year old and the 15 year old that had the abandoning father and the drug addict mom that was raised by the aunt or the grandma who was also the horrible crappy mom of the now junkie. Totally different person.
32:34🔗
Adam
Totally different person. And telling that person, hey, let's go. Buckle down, focus on your studies and let's see if we can get you to college and then have a nice stable relationship.
32:50🔗
Caller
Come on, you're smart. Now you don't want to see your Duke on the nice Afghan rug there, do you, Bucky? Come on, use the bathroom, you see me?
33:01🔗
Drew
Echo, when you come at Echo with that kind of stuff, she hears exactly what the dog would hear when you're trying to get him not to crap on the floor, which is wah, wah.
33:10🔗
Adam
Charlie Brown's teacher. Now, it's not to say that Echo's a lost cause. It's just she's gonna require some therapy. She's gonna require some more.
33:21🔗
Drew
Well, but Adam, how dare you? She could just choose to get better. She should choose to not have these horrible people that choose to stay in school.
33:31🔗
Adam
Well, you know, listen, if Nancy Reagan says, just say no, then Echo can just say, just say whatever she wants.
33:48🔗
Adam
And as a society, I don't know why we have zero interest in this because these are the pregnant teens, these are the welfare moms, these are the physically abused battered wives, these are the horrible parents of the future, these are the criminals, these are the prostitutes. This is it, this is all of them.
34:06🔗
Caller
This is all the people that don't pay taxes, fill the prisons and fill the women's shelters. This is all of them. We don't want to focus on them or they're just the same as everyone else.
34:22🔗
Yeah, hi.
34:28🔗
Okay, I'm sorry, I just want to say thanks for, I don't know, I've grown up on you guys, I just feel like I've gotten through my adolescence like listening to you guys. I don't know, I just want to say thanks, anyway.
34:38🔗
Yeah, yeah, I'm just kind of nervous, sorry. I just have a question about birth control. I've been on birth control or tertiary cyclone, actually now I'm taking a generic form of it for about four years, like kind of on and off, but more on and off, I guess. And I was just wondering, is it really bad if you take, if you sort of don't take it on the exact time that you did, like, I don't know, like sometimes I wait a couple hours because I get really sick when I first start taking like my new, like the first pills on the new pack.
35:43🔗
Yeah.
35:48🔗
Yeah.
36:20🔗
Nanna-he.
36:36🔗
Drew
This doesn't translate directly to English, but he's sort of wondering who it is you're using the pill with.
36:58🔗
Caller
Well, his family is kind of wacko. What do you mean? He's just kind of, he's had like a bad childhood and his family, as a consequence, obviously has had one, too.
37:11🔗
Drew
Listen to me, listen to me. More coffee, Chris, more coffee, quick. I know, I know, she can't make the coffee right now. Yeah I think Fantasia won. Okay, a few hours here or there is not going to make any difference. You don't have to worry about that. Really, if it's a different time of day, if one's in the morning, one's in the evening, it could make a difference. All the research is done on people doing it exactly at the same time. But the reality is a couple hours more or another doesn't make any difference. So say it to the chief.
38:18🔗
Drew
And we'll watch out for that boyfriend with the abuse of the troubled past. He could be a little bit chaotic. Chris, you heard him.
39:01🔗
Adam
We're going to take ourselves a little break. I'm going to get Chief Thunderbear some coffee, and we'll be right back after this. Guess how many terrific sense acts, deodorant, body spray comes in. No, it's more.
39:53🔗
Drew
I guess that's it. He felt like he kind of, or Chris, I guess, really would put it back.
39:57🔗
Adam
Well, he clearly asked Chris to go get him a warm up on a number of occasions, and Chris sort of just...
40:07🔗
Adam
It's a totally different culture. And yeah, Chris was scared and didn't know what to do. And I think Chief Thunderbear took that as a slight.
40:21🔗
Adam
We wish him well. He's mounted his Pinto Bearback, and he's now heading for the reservation.
41:21🔗
Adam
This just seems like, maybe there could have been some thoughts when he had a girl like, okay, I'm going to get her one day. But by the time her seventh birthday passed, he meant that sort of gets thrown on.
41:33🔗
Drew
Here's where my head goes with that. A, there was another one that he was working on before. Or B, his alcoholism got to the point where it started happening.
42:06🔗
Caller
Just, you know, just random touching. I mean, and never went past like sex or anything.
42:31🔗
Adam
Are you sure you're not just one of those test pigeons who's trying to pick some sort of rhythm to something that's.
42:57🔗
Caller
My question is this. It's not really a question. I'm kind of freaking out about this because my brother and his fiance, she's pregnant. And they're planning on moving into the house. And in about two weeks, they're going to find out the sex of the baby. And I'm kind of freaking out that it might be a girl, and the same thing might happen to her.
43:21🔗
Drew
Your brother will get weird, but tell the sister-in-law because she will not let this happen. Well, how about, unless your brother was abused and this woman was abused.
43:28🔗
Adam
They're moving into the house. So you got that white trash thing going on. What's up with your brother? They just got a wife and he's a kid and they're moving home?
43:36🔗
Caller
They're trying to finish school. And they're gonna live at home for a while with the baby.
43:53🔗
Caller
No. Well, I wrote her a letter once, but... Mom won't put it in the project. I never gave it to her.
44:33🔗
Adam
She's going to tell the sister-in-law. Sister-in-law is going to tell the brother. The brother is going to freak on Yvonne and it's going to turn into a cluster act. Are you out of the house?
44:57🔗
Adam
And by the way, why is it the average girl that wasn't molested moves out at 19 and a half and the average person that was molested stays till 28?
45:19🔗
Caller
I actually tried, but it never kind of worked out before. I really can't afford it right now.
45:46🔗
Adam
Look, look, everybody, here's the deal. You cannot open up this can under the same roof you're living in.
45:55🔗
Drew
So the point Adam's making is you need to tell the sister-in-law, but first, get out of the house.
45:59🔗
Adam
Yeah. And by the way, you really want to live in the house at 23 with a brother, with the diddler on the roof.
46:11🔗
Adam
If I was, ironically, not Jews. No way. Here's the deal, though. You don't want to be. Yeah. You got a crappy mom. You got a crappy dad. Now you've got a loser brother and his white trash girlfriend.
46:29🔗
Drew
You just don't stay in a house with the perpetrator. It's horrible for you, Yvonne, psychologically. Get out of there.
46:34🔗
All right.
46:34🔗
Adam
Then tell your brother or tell your sister-in-law. We'll take a quick break. We'll be right back.
46:40🔗
Here it is. Bottom line, it sucks being single today. Tons of lame people and no decent prospects.
46:46🔗
Call the Dateline. 1-877-889-DATE.
46:54🔗
Love Line will be right back.
46:55🔗
Caller
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48:27🔗
Caller
Come on, just give it to me, buddy. I come over to your house, you know, I look at your closet.
49:11🔗
Drew
Aside from that, the Ambient has lesser addictive potential, though some. Ooh, ooh, you can do worse at being in the Valium. It's great for flight, for travel, because it makes it amnestic. Time goes very fast on that medicine.
50:25🔗
Adam
Wait, you gotta fly LA to Paris or something. That's a good 12 hours, right there. Well, here's the math. No, no, here's what I know. It takes about six hours to get from LA to New York. It takes about six hours to get from New York to Paris.
50:58🔗
Adam
Yeah, it's like six hours LA to the East Coast, and then it's another six hours East Coast to Europe. And then, so anyway, you go.
51:08🔗
Adam
Well, I don't know, depending on the Gulf Stream or whatever, but it's about, pull up the map there. Let's find out how far it is. Anyway, you go LA to Paris. I guess it matters what direction you're flying. And it might be faster on the way back, like LA., like New York is faster back from LA. That's probably about 11, 12 hours on the way there. And then it's two hours from there to Italy.
52:09🔗
Adam
Here's all I'm saying. A lot of people like the Oxycontin stuff and the painkillers and that kind of stuff. I tried them, don't do anything. It's important to find out what works on you. Is it not? Is it not?
53:42🔗
Caller
Yeah, and I was abused by my dad and my mom. Well, she didn't do nothing, but she didn't stop my dad. She was a drug addict and my dad was an alcoholic.
53:56🔗
Caller
Yeah. All right, and I have, well, I got adopted. My dad killed my mom and then he had an overdose on heroin.
54:12🔗
Caller
I was 14. And I was in the house and like they would always like lock me in a room, you know, and stuff, so.
54:25🔗
Caller
How'd he kill her? He was protecting me because he wanted to come in and he just wanted to kill everybody. And like she more or less protected me because I was her baby, you know?
54:44🔗
Caller
Well, more or less like the door was kind of open and then I saw her in the hallway and yeah, it just all.
54:59🔗
Caller
Well, he was on heroin when it happened and then the police came and he was already dead in the hallway. So I just stayed in the room and I was like on my bed, you know, and I don't know. And then I got adopted.
55:11🔗
Adam
The cops came, he killed there, then the cops came soon shortly thereafter, then how do you OD on heroin and maybe he's already high on heroin?
55:39🔗
Caller
For about an hour. And well, I got adopted when I was 14 and I mean, my life is great now. I wouldn't change it, but me and my boyfriend, I've been going out with him for about a year and I just, I like put up a wall where I just won't, like we have sex and I just cry afterwards.
56:24🔗
Drew
A miracle. Miranda, God bless you that you can have a relationship with a good guy, not sabotage it, not choose a guy who's abusive or an addict himself. So what if you have a little bit of emotional outburst and you push him away physically? You've been through more than, I think almost anyone I've ever spoken to. And you're talking to somebody.
56:48🔗
Drew
But Miranda, this is, and you know, you're talking to here people that listen to stuff all night long and you've really gone through something.
57:05🔗
Drew
That, ladies and gentlemen, that's what, even in the most extraordinary, extraordinarily traumatizing circumstances, actually taking advantage of therapy, using the tools, doing the work, you get a Miranda.
57:19🔗
Adam
Yeah, I got to believe Miranda had a genetic superiority. I don't know what you want to call it, but some people are genetically more even keeled.
57:30🔗
Drew
Well, some people talk about a resiliency factor that has partly genetic and then partly the first couple of years of life are so healthy in terms of their attachment relationships.
58:26🔗
Caller
Well, I guess my question is for Dr. Drew. I'm anorexic bulimic, and I've been in treatment before, and I've been out for about two months or so.
58:43🔗
Drew
Did they advise you to have some outpatient treatment afterwards? Why did you do that? Yeah.
58:51🔗
Caller
No, no, I have been, and mainly I've been using my outpatient therapy as just for some trauma therapy with EMDR.
59:16🔗
Drew
I think they sort of have you look at a particular spot and they have a certain way of telling you to move your eyes.
59:23🔗
Drew
Ask Violet. No, she did it. And then they evoke feelings while you're talking about things.
59:36🔗
Caller
You can put headphones on and listen to bilateral beeping and it stimulates nerves in your brain to shoot out neurons to special places in your brain. It can process traumatic and stressful memories. So you can sort of get over them. But they also do tapping. They tap you on your knees, left, right, left, right.
1:00:02🔗
Caller
That will, you do the eye movement. If you put on the headphones and you look at a screen in front of you and you follow the dots.
1:00:16🔗
Caller
Yeah, it works. It really does work. A woman found out, she invented it by, she would walk every day and talk with her friends and she noticed by walking.
1:00:28🔗
Caller
She was walking left and right and looking down on her feet. She noticed as she was walking and watching her feet walk left and right, she could process traumatic thoughts and she started to actually get better.
1:00:45🔗
Adam
And it didn't work or did, and this could be used, this could be used for drugs, for eating disorders.
1:00:51🔗
Adam
It's all trauma. But what about the cause of some of these, you know, drugs or eating disorders?
1:00:59🔗
Adam
Could be applied to a lot of things. So Violet, you did the EMDR thing. It seemed to work.
1:01:09🔗
Drew
Right, eating disorder is a separate treatment. Now again, my point though was, didn't they recommend an outpatient program for you?
1:01:18🔗
Caller
Well, I haven't been going back to my psychiatrist because she's been threatening me with hospitalization again. And basically my parents don't want to pay for it.
1:01:29🔗
Drew
Violet, I'm going to ask you now for about the fourth time. They recommended an outpatient program. Well, that's what you needed. If you don't get the adequate dose of treatment for your severe eating disorder, it's going to relapse. That's just the way things are. So it's a medical model. It needs a certain amount.
1:01:48🔗
Drew
Yeah, OA, the 12-step would be helpful for her. And the EMDR is good and she's seeing her psychiatrist and you need to follow directions, Violet. These people are not making casual recommendations. This is the dose you need to get better.
1:01:59🔗
Adam
Well, what's up with their parents? And that's the reason she has eating disorder in the first place.
1:02:09🔗
I checked MapQuest and doesn't have it yet.
1:02:17🔗
No, no, no, I know, but it'll check, you know, Paris too.
1:02:25🔗
They only have United States and Canada as well.
1:02:31🔗
Adam
Get on to Venice, on to Venice, .2 miles, right to 10, on to 10, westbound, 7,500 miles. Overbridge has not yet been built. All right, come on, buddy. Let's go now. Let's go, let's break it down.
1:02:54🔗
Adam
Hey, hey, Chris, that helmet, it's not a chair. All right, gentlemen, I use that term loosely when I say gentlemen, because you're not gentlemen.
1:03:05🔗
Adam
You know, the other good thing to do when you're a coach and you gotta deal with like 11-year-old boys, compare them to women all the time. Okay, ladies, all right. And this is a good one too. I used to have my coach, Mr. Gallagher, used to do this where they do... My daughter Kelly's nine-year-old gymnastics team does more push-ups than you guys. And I was always like, oh. I remember that was a fire that was put under you when you were 11.
1:03:34🔗
Drew
That's a nice sort of value to stick in those young males' hair. Like anything female is demeaning.
1:03:44🔗
Adam
Really, if you wanna get a 11-year-old boy motivated, just tell him about the ladies. And by the way, not a whole lot of difference between the 11-year-old boy and the 11-year-old girl.
1:03:56🔗
Adam
Yeah, they run a little faster, and now the guys might be able to do two more push-ups. But other than that, it's a dead heat. Yeah. All right, let's hop back to the phones. Brandy? You're 21?
1:04:13🔗
Adam
Go over to the computer, because there's smoke coming out of Chris's ears. Drew's gonna go over there.
1:04:34🔗
Is that a compliment?
1:04:37🔗
Okay, great.
1:04:39🔗
Adam
It moves around a little. Sometimes Brandy overtakes Cammie. Other times, Tammy replaces Brandy.
1:04:51🔗
Not at all.
1:04:57🔗
What are those feelings like?
1:04:58🔗
Adam
We just, I think El Camino up on blocks, chick drinking, wine coolers down by the quarry.
1:05:07🔗
Car farming, you know?
1:05:13🔗
I just had a question about oral sex and canker sores as opposed to like herpes simplex.
1:05:32🔗
Well, I've read that actually canker sores is actually like an ulcer, as in like an ulcer that you would have in your stomach.
1:05:42🔗
Right.
1:05:48🔗
Drew
Ulcers means a crater-like erosion in the mucosal surface, and it can be caused by an erosion of the bicarbonate protective layer in the stomach, so acids come in, cause an ulcer, or they can be caused by a virus. There you go. You got a viral ulcer.
1:06:04🔗
Okay, so canker sores are actually a viral ulcer.
1:06:07🔗
And they're viral, which means they can be spread.
1:06:10🔗
Drew
Correct, and you can't really tell what kind you've got. But if you have an outbreak, you shouldn't be giving oral sex.
1:06:16🔗
Caller
Right. That's what I figured as much. Now, I have to admit that I have probably on occasion given oral sex when I've had canker sores.
1:06:28🔗
Caller
Okay, so then because of that, if I had my boyfriend go down on me when he had a canker sore, there's a chance that I could have herpes.
1:06:36🔗
Adam
Yes, yeah, let me say this. When you guys have the sores, best not to be giving each other oral pleasure.
1:06:50🔗
Adam
Use the hand and a copious amount of water soluble lube and he'll be happy. All right, baby doll. All right, good times.
1:07:11🔗
Drew
And how about to LA, New York? Okay, well, we know that's, I'll get that, I'll get that.
1:07:32🔗
Adam
Drew's buried in the computer. Look, first off, you're telling me a second ago when I was telling you it was a 12-hour flight. Yeah. No, you said it was more like eight or nine hours. Here's the thing. It's further from New York to Paris than it is from Los Angeles.
1:08:10🔗
Adam
Thanks Anderson. I'm smarterthanyou.com. Let's take ourselves a little break. Drew, that's enough of the computer.
1:08:36🔗
Adam
Spray that on. It's like slathering on the confidence. Hey y'all, it's The Love Line. I'm Adam, that's Dr. Drew, phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1. Well, 10 hours and 40 minutes from Los Angeles to De Gaulle in France and 3,600 miles from New York to Paris.
1:10:26🔗
Adam
Then that's actually making a little more sense. Back to the phones, we go. I'll speak to Parker, who's 23.
1:10:35🔗
Hi there.
1:10:39🔗
I've got a 36-year-old girlfriend that's starting to have a little stronger feelings for me. And then I'm having for her.
1:10:53🔗
A little over a month.
1:11:02🔗
She's a good girl. I like hanging out with her.
1:11:07🔗
Adam
And by the way, I can't believe she got to be some kind of desperate to be in the Parker. He must be some good looking guy.
1:11:20🔗
Drew
It's funny. I would just have the voice, you don't get encumbered by any of that stuff.
1:11:22🔗
Yeah.
1:11:46🔗
Caller
Actually generally I've dated people, girls that have been like one or two years different for me.
1:12:06🔗
Adam
I don't know. Okay. So Parker. Yeah. I don't understand. She's getting serious. You're not that into her or you are into her? Well, I'm not.
1:12:17🔗
Caller
And I think that she's kind of developing feelings really fast. I don't know if it's just something I should stay away from because she's getting feelings really fast. I'm not saying that I'm not going to develop those feelings. I'm just saying.
1:12:31🔗
Adam
Here's the... It's got a bad line. So I'm putting them on hold, but you can hear us. Here's the thing. To me, 23, 36, 17-year-old daughter sounds like, I don't know. I just think when you're a 23-year-old guy, you should just be a 23-year-old guy.
1:12:50🔗
Drew
Right. He's closer to a peer age of the daughter than the mom. The daughter is six years younger. The mom's 13 years older.
1:12:58🔗
Drew
This is going to be trouble for mom no matter what. He's kind of not into it. It's kind of like, you know, sort of exploiting her. She's really getting involved fast. He doesn't really care about what he's going to do.
1:13:08🔗
Adam
She's in a position where she's 36. She's probably feeling like the clock is ticking a little in terms of getting married a second time or doing whatever. She's, you know, 40s around the corner. And Parker just seems like he's not that into it. And here's the whole thing. When you're 23, you can dick around with a hot 19 or 20 year old. They're made of silly putty. They bounce right back. They got no problem. They don't have a care in the world, these people. When you got the mom that's been through a couple of bad relationships, has got a kid or two, and is looking a little long in the tooth, you can't screw around with that.
1:13:48🔗
Drew
And by the way, mom was pregnant by 18, so daughter's right about on course now. And Parker could be the one served up for those purposes.
1:13:56🔗
Adam
You cannot monkey with that woman. That's a long term thing. That's a permanent thing.
1:14:07🔗
Adam
Don't do it. You're only a dad of a... Look, if this woman is the woman of your dreams and you're very much in love with her...
1:14:14🔗
Adam
If you sort of got one foot in and one foot out, I'm telling you pull the other foot out and get going.
1:14:22🔗
Hello?
1:14:24🔗
Caller
What's up? I've been married for about a year and a half and I said we haven't had sex but actually we haven't had much sex since we've been married. Our sex life was great before we were married.
1:14:38🔗
Caller
I don't know. I think we just got used to each other too much. We did everything we possibly could sexually.
1:14:51🔗
Caller
Right. So now it's just really dropped off. To the point now ever since probably January we haven't had much sex at all.
1:14:59🔗
Adam
Well, listen, Drew is a man of exquisite passion. I barely have a pulse so I should probably take this one.
1:15:16🔗
Adam
Who do you think has initiated the no sex zone? Do you think it's you or do you think it's her?
1:15:33🔗
Adam
Right. You've slowed down. It's like, here's what it's like. It's like when you start starving yourself, your metabolism slows down in order to deal with it. Because if you were just, if it was moving like it was, it would just start, you'd start eating your own bones.
1:16:00🔗
Adam
Well, you were, well, you, you say, you say, hold on a second, Drew, you say you both were, but that you would be that way now if she was that way again, you're just going along with it.
1:16:08🔗
Caller
No, we both just kind of fell off. And now I think we're to the point where we're okay. Not having sex.
1:16:17🔗
Adam
But I will. But a second ago, I know he did, I know he said, she's the one that stopped having sex. And he keeps going where we've decided. This is, I don't really buy the we've decided part.
1:16:28🔗
Drew
No, I don't either. But this is, this is all the earmarks of those bipolar qualities and people are sexually compulsive.
1:16:37🔗
Caller
Um, there are some possibilities of when she was younger, her stepfather might have molested her a little bit.
1:16:48🔗
Caller
Well, some of the stories he tells me aren't exactly molestation stories, but they're here to stay. Here and there. He touched me here. He may have touched me there.
1:16:58🔗
Adam
Creepy stepdad, to say the least. That's enough. Yeah, that's enough. And by the way, just having, we've talked about this a bunch of times, but the idea of you're getting out of the shower and making your way to the bedroom, creepy stepdad lowers the sports page and is leering at you. Just living under the same roof with that A-hole. Crazy. Imagine that kind of constant pressure. You're a 12-year-old girl, how freaky has that got to be? It's like, I know he's probably not going to try to F me, but I know if I let him, he would feel my boobs. How freaky does that have to be? And by the way, how must it shape your opinion of men?
1:18:14🔗
Adam
Got to draw a metaphor here. But everything worth having takes a little upkeep and a little maintenance. You want a nice house, you got to get the gardener, you got to paint the place every so often, you got to exterminate it, you know, you got to get rid of the termites, a nice car, you got to put a coat of wax on it, you got to change the oil. There's upkeep. Everything worth having in life has a certain upkeep aspect to it.
1:18:38🔗
Adam
A boat, whatever, whatever it is you want, boat, car, house, you name your thing. I'm going to, hobby, sport, whatever, there's going to be some work involved with keeping it running right and whatever. Relationship, no different. If you're lucky, you get a nice reliable camry that doesn't really take too much. Even the camry, you got to drop off over at the Jiffy Lube every once in a while and change the oil and rotate the tire.
1:19:06🔗
Adam
Little something. 20 or 4 year old new relationship or newlywed, put a little in, put a coat of paint on it. Yes?
1:19:44🔗
Adam
Sounds like a big gap. Sounds hot. Oh, it's a wildebeest that ate her and fell asleep on the sofa. I tell you, if I was thinking about robbing the house and I heard that coming from under the front door, I'd go to the next house. I'd be like, there's a troll or a bear or something that fell asleep in there.
1:20:13🔗
Adam
Yeah. And by the way, you know, they have all these things, these theft deterrent things, dogs barking and sirens and stuff. How about just the sound of 500 pound biker drunk and knotted off on the sofa?
1:20:37🔗
Adam
Picture a guy in a leather vest with a sawed off shotgun in his lap and a beer in his hand and he just dozed off. You'd go to the next house, right?
1:20:52🔗
Adam
She's been on hold for 76 minutes. Probably fell asleep about the time I started with Chief Thunderbear.
1:21:11🔗
Adam
Yeah, it doesn't suggest petite. Now, if she has the phone up around her face, it probably means that the receiver, the ear part is somewhere near her ear, right?
1:22:03🔗
Adam
We'll get back with Mary. It sort of, it shut her up. I'm, as somebody who's the world's lightest sleeper, I'm constantly amazed at those who can not often in the upright position, like phones are theirs and stuff. She must have heard her, obviously heard her name on some level. She heard something or she wouldn't have stopped, right?
1:22:24🔗
Adam
Thanks for that commitment, Tripp. We'll get back with Mary, and then you and me and us all after this. Thank Hey, y'all, it's Loveline.
1:22:57🔗
Adam
Jenny McCarthy will be in here tomorrow night. Belly laughs, Drew's read the book. He's enjoyed it immensely.
1:23:05🔗
Drew
People say that usually, they're like, they're talking about some sort of ancillary list. No, it's just number seven.
1:23:17🔗
Adam
Yeah, I don't like, you know, I have this bad habit of sort of pre-insulting the guests' work before they come on to the show the following night. I should really save it for the night after.
1:23:31🔗
Adam
Okay, I've not read it. I find Jenny McCarthy to be sort of fun and energetic and pretty.
1:23:42🔗
Adam
Drew's pissed because he wrote what he considers a substantial piece of literature and no one gives a flying ass.
1:23:56🔗
Drew
No, God bless her for getting the book. Please, take my book and paperback. It'd be worth like three bucks.
1:24:06🔗
Adam
Hey, let's get a hand in. And let me say this about Drew. He comes in here night after night and busts his hump for you.
1:24:18🔗
Adam
You guys subscribe to the show? Is it buck 25 a day? No, it's not up on the satellite. He does it for free. Well, actually he gets paid, but free for you. That's my point. So Drew's book's gonna come out and paperback. What's it gonna be? $9.95?
1:24:35🔗
Drew
Oh no, I think it'll be a lot less, I think. A lot less? Are paperbacks like six bucks?
1:24:39🔗
Adam
No, you're thinking of those crappy novels you buy at the car wash or something. They first come out, so they can be $12, $13. That's what I hear. Now I won't buy a book. I'll go to that big house where they lend them to you. The... Don't tell me, because I always get... Because I was confusing, because it doesn't have the word book place in it. It's a big place where they keep the books. They keep them all in this place, and then you could go borrow.
1:25:11🔗
Adam
Yeah, I think you could still borrow them. And if you gotta bring them back, I don't know what you'd want with a book. What's it called?
1:25:26🔗
Adam
All right, here's the point. Okay, let's just call it 10 bucks. Drew gives you tons of top-notch entertainment, two hours of top-notch entertainment. If you would just pay him pennies a week, and don't pay him, save it. Save that 35 cents a week, put that together. No, I'm gonna do some math here. Let's just say your book's gonna be 10 bucks. It'd be like 17 and a half, 18 cents a week. You got like 80 cents, 75, 80 cents at the end of the month, times 12. You write about 9.95.
1:26:10🔗
Adam
All right, and somebody score me some value. Because I bust my hump here, too, every night. Zach?
1:26:18🔗
Yeah.
1:26:21🔗
Caller
I live in LA. I was, just a while ago tonight, actually, I was with my girlfriend, and we were pulling around in the car, and I ended up coming in my pants. We were both on top of the chair. We both still had to close on, and we still continued to grind against each other. And when we were done, I looked down, and I saw that she had a spot on the inside of her leg where, you know, the semen had come through my pants and had gone on hers. She was on the rag at the time, and she had, but she was wearing two pairs of underwear and a pad, and she did show me. And-
1:27:13🔗
Adam
Also, her vagina was locked in an Iron Maiden, which was then placed inside a steamer trunk, put inside a straight jacket, and lowered to the bottom of Lake Huron. It smells like a Houdini trick. She was wearing, I was wearing three pairs of toughskins and some 501s.
1:27:37🔗
Caller
She had six pair of Geranimals on, two pair of panties and three tennis skirts, and oh, and some gauchos.
1:27:46🔗
Adam
My semen was able to penetrate the six layers of denim between the head of said penis and the outside of said wranglers, and I noticed a small spot, probably half-dollar size spot on the outside of her gauchos. She was on the rag and had been deceased for six months. What are the chances of her getting pregnant?
1:28:27🔗
Adam
I do. I don't mind you saying I get back to call one who was just sleeping, but you can't.
1:28:39🔗
Drew
Do you have gills? No, he's got a clogged deviated septum. So when he breathes, you know it.
1:29:00🔗
Caller
Five, six. How much do you weigh? All right, let me, hold on. Let me do a quick radiomath.
1:29:45🔗
Drew
Hey, Mary, your sleep is disordered because of your weight. We could hear it. And you really should take care of that because sleep apnea and sleep disturbances can really cause a lot of health problems.
1:29:57🔗
Drew
Go to your doctor, your general doctor, and ask about a sleep study. And actually look at how many arousals you have during the night and how your air moves with your oxygen levels are normal.
1:30:07🔗
Caller
I don't know how many times I've been listening to Loveline and heard people snoring and you sit there for like 15 minutes and just listen to the snore to interpret what they're thinking.
1:30:29🔗
Adam
Well, you did talk about your cat pleasuring you on more than one occasion and you putting a little pate downstairs and feeling the...
1:30:41🔗
Adam
All right, so listen, shock, did you have a cat? Mary. So here's the thing, we'll get to your question in a second, but you should probably lose some weight because it's probably the cause, the culprit with the sleep apnea, yes, right?
1:31:02🔗
Adam
But let me ask this, I'm not picking on you, but I'm just saying the people that sort of look to try to make working out easy are the ones that just seems like they're gonna stop. How about you just start walking?
1:31:17🔗
Drew
Even heavy duty working out won't make, you'll just, appetite will just compensate. You'll, your body will fight to keep its weight where it is, even if you're exercising hard.
1:31:24🔗
Adam
You know what you need? You need a nice iPod. Put your favorite songs on there, put some shoes on and do a little road work.
1:31:31🔗
Caller
I hate that whole copyright infringement, you know, restriction of turning your MP3s into actual, like, regular.
1:31:38🔗
Drew
Perfect reason not to protect your health. Perfect reason. You've done it, you've solved the code. All right. How to find a way not to take care of myself.
1:31:45🔗
Adam
Well, listen, we care about all our listeners, so I just want you to get some exercise.
1:31:59🔗
Caller
I have no idea where I got the original one from, but basically when I got them at 13, I figured they were just some kind of apnea. I had no idea what they were. No one ever talked to me about them before.
1:32:13🔗
Caller
Well, they started around the edge of my mouth, and then all of a sudden they showed up on my nose, and now they're around my lips, and around my nose, and on my chin. And yeah, I'm under a lot of stress, but I get them basically during the winter. I can get like maybe two, maybe even three at a time.
1:32:33🔗
Drew
All right, there are antiviral medications out there for this, something called Valtrex, or Famvir, or Zofrax that are really quite good for these recurrent facial oral ulcers.
1:32:43🔗
Adam
Yeah, all right, so go talk to your doctor, talk to them about getting the sleep work up, and talk about losing the weight, and then talk about the antiviral medication. As they got medication, just avail yourself of it. We'll take a quick break, we'll be right back.
1:33:31🔗
Adam
Jenny McCarthy, the great Jenny McCarthy is gonna be in here. She's gonna hawk that book, sell just a few more than Drew. That's tomorrow night. So, until next time, this is Adam Corolla for Dr. Drew, saying, mahalo.
1:33:46🔗
Caller
This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors, or this station. The producer for Loveline is Annie Gold. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.