Thursday, September 27, 2001

1:01🔗 Voiceover Listener discretion is advised.

1:05🔗 One, go!

1:07🔗 Voiceover Stryker and Dr. Drew Loveline, coast to coast.

1:13🔗 Stryker That's what I'm talking about, Anderson, nasredna. All right, I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla. Once again, I apologize already for the next two hours because I will be sucking, so to speak, for you. And this is very weird. We're going to talk to James Marsters. That's how you say it, right?

1:27🔗 Drew Yeah, Marsters, thank you.

1:28🔗 Stryker We're going to wrap with you. Yeah, and I don't get it wrong. You know why?

1:31🔗 Drew Why?

1:32🔗 Stryker Because I'm a handsome gentleman. That's right.

1:34🔗 Drew That's right.

1:34🔗 Stryker We just hung out in the parking lot a little bit.

1:36🔗 Drew You had a good look coming in. You did.

1:38🔗 Stryker And we'll get to know each other.

1:39🔗 Drew Ninety seconds early.

1:41🔗 Stryker Ninety seconds early. Yeah. Normally, I'm 90 seconds... My girl will tell you.

1:46🔗 Drew Ninety seconds early is just so cool.

1:49🔗 Stryker This is going to be weird.

1:49🔗 Drew I was five minutes early, which is not cool. Ninety seconds, that's sweet.

1:53🔗 Stryker Because we're in LA.

1:54🔗 Stryker Yeah. Exactly.

1:55🔗 Stryker If we were in a different country, you would take the top bunk and I'd take the bottom bunk.

1:58🔗 Stryker But because we're in America.

1:59🔗 Stryker So Dr. Drew will be on the program, is on the program. But this is crazy because he's not in this room. He's in SACTown. Drew, can you hear me?

2:07🔗 Stryker Oh, yeah. I'm right here.

2:08🔗 Stryker Hello, Drew.

2:09🔗 Stryker Hey, James.

2:10🔗 Drew What are you doing in Sacramento?

2:11🔗 Stryker I was speaking in Sacramento State. I'm here at the Zone 100.5 in Sacramento, who, by the way, have spoiled it.

2:16🔗 Stryker No, no, no.

2:18🔗 Stryker The reason I'm saying their name is they have spoiled it. I want to announce the name of this radio station because they have spoiled it for all other radio stations. They brought gifts and CDs and food.

2:27🔗 Stryker I heard-

2:27🔗 Stryker They got their act together. It's been fabulous.

2:29🔗 Stryker I heard Adam one time say, Drew, I heard someone dropped a quarter in Wisconsin. You go in there to speak? I was like, Adam, what are you doing? I'm so sorry, Drew.

2:37🔗 Drew I didn't know you. I was opening you up for this much criticism. I just asked him what you were doing.

2:43🔗 Stryker Adam is a dick and unacceptable.

2:46🔗 Drew All people who are paid to be funny have to do this.

2:49🔗 Stryker Exactly. Drew, I got an email from some girl in Sacramento today that I think she works at that radio station. Allison or something?

2:56🔗 Stryker Okay.

2:57🔗 Stryker Is she there near you?

2:59🔗 Stryker No.

2:59🔗 Stryker Look under the table.

3:01🔗 Stryker Oh, is that what that is?

3:02🔗 Stryker Exactly. All right, so Drew, we're going to do this. We're going to hang out with James. We're going to take calls. The phone number is 1-800-LOVE-191. James Marsters is here. You play Spike on Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

3:12🔗 Drew I try.

3:12🔗 Stryker Let me just get on my knees and praise you for one minute. I see a lot of actors on TV of our genre, younger guys, and I'm like, how in the world are they on TV?

3:20🔗 Stryker What?

3:22🔗 Stryker You know, I'll see them on talk shows. They have the personality of a table. I saw you on Killborn in maybe two years ago.

3:28🔗 Drew He's fun. Yeah, he's fun. You know what I suspect about Greg Killborn? Gay. No. I never really thought about that. I usually have a good gaydar, actually. But I didn't go off on him. No, I think he does his own intro. And now, Craig Killhorn. And then he goes on stage and does it himself. Exactly.

3:46🔗 Stryker I really suspect that.

3:47🔗 Drew I tried to catch him on it when I was on, but I couldn't.

3:50🔗 Stryker Well, let me finish my whole thought here, James. So I saw you on there, and you were on fire. And I was like, now this guy's funny. Does every accent in the world, you play a British guy, right, in the show? And I'm like, man, that guy's got skills. So you really, you have it, man. And that's, congratulations.

4:06🔗 Drew It's just practice. There's a British guy that's on the show and he keeps correcting me.

4:10🔗 Stryker Really?

4:10🔗 Drew Yeah. In the first couple of episodes, I really sucked.

4:14🔗 Stryker No, you didn't.

4:15🔗 Wah, wah.

4:16🔗 Stryker Are you moving your lips when other people are talking or is your accent sucked?

4:19🔗 Drew Yeah, the first accent, I sounded more southern than anything else.

4:22🔗 Stryker Can you like talk for the next 20 seconds in the accent? I know you're not acting right now.

4:26🔗 Drew Well, you're not really paying me. I mean, I'm in a hole, you know, and you know, I talk this way and I take my shirt off and everything, you know, for the people who pay me.

4:33🔗 Stryker Right.

4:33🔗 Drew But you're not paying me. So, you know, I'm not a slut.

4:36🔗 Stryker That is terrific.

4:38🔗 Drew Excellent job.

4:38🔗 Stryker Very good. That is James. If you want to speak to him and ask him questions about Buffy and his character or speak to Drew or myself, call it right now. And I guess we're going to go to Jessica. You're 17 on Loveline. What's up?

4:50🔗 Stryker Hi. Hi.

4:51🔗 Stryker Hey.

4:51🔗 Stryker For three years or so, I've been in a pain. Like, you know how people like rough sex? I like violent sex. And I'm just wondering where did it come from?

5:02🔗 Stryker Where's your dad?

5:03🔗 Stryker Where's my dad? He lives like a few miles away. He never abused me. I've never been abused or anything.

5:09🔗 Stryker Yeah. But did you see some violent stuff in your house?

5:12🔗 Stryker No. No, nothing like that went on. Actually, I was pretty isolated my whole life.

5:16🔗 Stryker Pretty isolated?

5:18🔗 Stryker Yeah. My mom wouldn't even let me watch scary movies.

5:21🔗 Stryker What kind of rough sex? Jessica, how rough and like holding down space?

5:26🔗 Drew Do you mean protected or isolated?

5:29🔗 Stryker Oh, I guess more protected. I like, I guess, well, I like, like as far as blood, and I like to be like hit, like actually punched all over my body. Like, yeah. What else is going on in your life?

5:42🔗 Stryker What else goes on in your relationships? Pretty chaotic?

5:45🔗 Stryker I usually don't have relationships.

5:47🔗 Stryker How come?

5:48🔗 Stryker Because, I don't know, I just, you can't really have a relationship with guys who will do that.

5:52🔗 Stryker Drew, she has sex with a guy, she makes him bleed to death, gets the hell out of Dodge. That's what I would do. Right, Jessica?

5:58🔗 Stryker They do that to her.

6:01🔗 Stryker Vice versa, I'm sure. Right, Jessica?

6:03🔗 Stryker Huh? I'm sorry?

6:03🔗 Stryker Do you like to scratch and beat them as well or just? Oh, no.

6:06🔗 Stryker I'm very submissive.

6:07🔗 Wow.

6:09🔗 Drew Scratching is good, though.

6:11🔗 Stryker What about biting, James? No. No.

6:13🔗 Drew Biting hurts.

6:14🔗 Stryker I'm actually more concerned with the fact that you're unable to have a relationship.

6:18🔗 Stryker Well, that does kind of suck.

6:20🔗 Stryker And has there been a lot of drama in your life?

6:23🔗 Adam I suppose.

6:24🔗 Stryker Like what? What's been happening?

6:27🔗 Stryker I don't know. Stupid stuff. Like my parents got divorced when I was 12 and moved to like four different houses and changed schools about ten different times.

6:35🔗 Stryker Have you tried to hurt yourself?

6:37🔗 Stryker No.

6:37🔗 Stryker You never never gotten real depressed or anything?

6:40🔗 Stryker No, I've been depressed, but I never tried to kill myself or anything.

6:42🔗 Stryker Have you been hospitalized or on medication?

6:44🔗 Stryker Yeah, I've been in the mental ward like three times.

6:47🔗 Stryker All right. So please don't present this like it's an isolated phenomena. Like I'm this normal person and everything's great in my life, except I like to be punchy. This is part of a more global psychiatric problem. And I have noticed that people that kids that move around a ton, like military kids and stuff, do have a tendency to go towards more violent kinds of sexual behaviors. So that's part of it. But the more serious issue is what's going on with you and your inability to get a sense of yourself, to regulate your feelings and to have a real relationship. Those are very serious problems.

7:16🔗 Stryker So are you talking to someone now, Jessica, other than Drew, myself, and James? Do you have professional help?

7:22🔗 Stryker No. I didn't really think I needed help for it. I was just curious as to where it came from.

7:25🔗 Stryker Well, you do, though. That's the point. That's the point. These things don't happen in a vacuum. This is part of a more global, a much bigger problem. Are you getting help, appropriate mental health care right now?

7:36🔗 Stryker I go to counseling.

7:37🔗 Stryker Okay.

7:38🔗 Drew Because this is not going to stop, you know. I mean, if you like this kind of guy now, you're going to like this kind of guy for a long time.

7:43🔗 Stryker I have no problem with liking this. I mean, I enjoy myself. It's safe.

7:46🔗 Drew Well, I know, but the ramifications for the rest of your life, you know, like five or ten years down the line, it's kind of messed up.

7:52🔗 Stryker You've been in and out of psychiatric hospitals. Something's not going quite right.

7:55🔗 Stryker Yeah, but that really didn't have a lot to do with that. I mean, I can't see any connection.

7:59🔗 Stryker Well, I can. Okay. You know, those kind of guys. And so, I'm telling you, don't focus on the specific behavior here. Understand this is just a tiny little manifestation of a bigger problem. Okay.

8:09🔗 Drew And these kind of guys, I know these kind of guys, they don't change and they suck. If they hit you, they suck.

8:17🔗 Stryker And they'll do it harder and worse as time goes by.

8:21🔗 Drew It is possible to find a good guy who can be that way with you. You know what I mean? And there's a way to find a way to do that in a way that is actually kind of, I don't know, maybe I'm a sick guy, but healthy. That's possible. But you shouldn't put up with an asshole. No one should.

8:41🔗 Stryker If you look at lists of men that tend to be physically abusive to women, their characteristics, one of them is that they hold women down during sex and physically abuse them there.

8:50🔗 Stryker And they were most likely abused themselves, right Drew, growing up?

8:53🔗 Stryker Oftentimes, in some fashion, yeah.

8:55🔗 Stryker All right, Dave, Chris. What's up? You're 18 on Loveline.

8:59🔗 Stryker Well, I'm gay and I'm trying to come out to my parents and to some friends and I'm gay and I don't know exactly how to.

9:07🔗 Stryker Why do you want to come out to your parents? How many 18-year-olds sit down and announce at the dinner table that they're having sex with a heterosexual relationship?

9:16🔗 Stryker Yeah, but they're always asking me why I don't like to bring my girlfriend over to meet them.

9:22🔗 Stryker Do you have a girlfriend, Chris?

9:24🔗 Stryker No.

9:25🔗 Stryker Do you have a boyfriend?

9:26🔗 Stryker No, not really. I have this guy I've been seeing. There's this girl that locks me a whole lot, but I don't know how to tell her or anything, you know?

9:38🔗 Drew Yeah.

9:38🔗 Stryker Well.

9:40🔗 Drew Good for you for admitting it to yourself so early. A lot of guys takes a long time to actually admit it to themselves.

9:47🔗 Stryker Your parents, are they likely to be accepting of you in your preference?

9:50🔗 Stryker Not with that accent, Drew. No way.

9:52🔗 Stryker Well, I'm wondering.

9:54🔗 Stryker No, not really, because it's like I kind of came out and told my mom in a way, and she was like really upset and wanted me to leave and everything, you know?

10:04🔗 Stryker All right. So why do you want to put yourself through that? Do not tell your parents. That's not going to accomplish anything except give you a lot of pain. What you need to do is develop a network of friends who are also gay, who have also dealt with this process of coming out. After you develop a strong network and really thought about this for some time, then you begin to come out a little bit. So you have a foundation to go back to, because many times these things don't go well. And if you are really expecting delightful experiences with your parents and it goes bad, where do you have to turn?

10:34🔗 Stryker Chris, do you have a lot of gay friends that are just your friends? As Drew said, are there people that you can go to that are also gay, where you can talk about it with them before you so-called come out to everyone else?

10:46🔗 Stryker Well, not really. Most of them are older than I am.

10:50🔗 Stryker Are you in high school still?

10:52🔗 Stryker No, I graduated.

10:52🔗 Stryker Oh, okay.

10:55🔗 Stryker Every urban center is gay and lesbian youth centers. That's a great place to go for exactly this kind of stuff.

11:00🔗 Stryker And you could probably get a lot of action when you're there. All right, Chris, find some more gay men, talk to them, hold off on telling your folks. Yeah, good for you, man.

11:08🔗 Drew You got balls.

11:09🔗 Stryker But understand, it's always suspect when a 17, 18, 19-year-old wants to sit at the dinner table and announce anything to their parents. They have an agenda. They want to get something out of their parents, a rise, an FU or something to their parents. James, did you sit down with the first time you had sex and announced it at the dinner table?

11:27🔗 Stryker Actually, you did, didn't you, James?

11:29🔗 Adam Hi, mommy, I'm gay.

11:31🔗 Drew No, I hid it from them. I cleaned up the house really well every Sunday morning after the Saturday party. They never knew anything.

11:40🔗 Stryker Why is he vacuuming?

11:40🔗 Drew I was an angel, but I was infected.

11:43🔗 Stryker You cleaned up all of Modesto after you had sex the first time.

11:45🔗 Drew No, we cleaned up the punches and the holes in the walls and all the spilled beer and everything. We had a cadre of people who would do that.

11:52🔗 Stryker What is Modesto like? That's near Fresno?

11:55🔗 Drew We got some peaches and some almonds. No, it's a good place to grow up. It was a very good place for me to grow up until about age maybe 12, at which point I got interested in drama, at which point there was nothing for me.

12:06🔗 Stryker After masturbation, the day is shot in Modesto.

12:08🔗 Drew Yeah. Basically, adolescent hits and there's no... Yeah. If you want a job with a chick, come.

12:13🔗 Stryker There you go. Let's go to Anthony.

12:17🔗 Stryker Yeah.

12:17🔗 Stryker You're on Loveline. You're 19.

12:19🔗 Stryker Hi.

12:22🔗 Stryker Good. Okay. Hold on one sec. Let's go to Cameron. What's up? You're 21 on Loveline.

12:27🔗 Stryker Hey. How's it going?

12:28🔗 Stryker Good.

12:30🔗 Stryker All right.

12:30🔗 Stryker I have a lot of problems.

12:32🔗 Stryker Yeah.

12:33🔗 Stryker Apparently.

12:36🔗 Stryker I am a drug addict. I've switched from pot. Never been a hardcore drug addict. But I've switched from pot to alcohol.

12:48🔗 Stryker Alcohol.

12:49🔗 Stryker Sure. I spent four years as a camp counselor. I never indulged in anything, but yeah, at the same time, I have an attraction to small girls.

13:07🔗 Stryker Young girls or small girls?

13:10🔗 Stryker Pre-progessing.

13:11🔗 Stryker Okay.

13:11🔗 Stryker All right, Cameron, were you sexually abused yourself?

13:15🔗 Stryker As far as I know, no.

13:18🔗 Stryker Huh. Do you suspect you might have been?

13:22🔗 Stryker It's possible. My mother was sexually abused. Both my parents are alcoholics.

13:27🔗 Stryker All right. Let's assume you were. Be that as it may, why don't you get yourself some help before you harm somebody?

13:34🔗 Stryker Actually, my question was, I'm currently looking, I am going to get help through the university. I'm going to do. My question was, is there anything else I should possibly do to help cure myself? I have other problems as well.

13:56🔗 Stryker Well, the one thing I'm concerned with is you doing something that could harm other people and irreparably change your life. So one of the ways to contain those kinds of impulses, those behaviors that are difficult to contain, sexual behaviors, is to go to SA, Sex Addicts Anonymous, and work a program, get a sponsor, and see to it that you don't get into harm's way.

14:19🔗 Stryker Drew, is that, why do you go to SA, whatever, seminar class if you like young girls? That means you're addicted to sex?

14:28🔗 Stryker He's asking what else he can do other than go to Psychiatric Center or University Hospital. That's something you can go do right now.

14:34🔗 Stryker Currently, in the next couple of weeks, I've come to the point that I had been in therapy before, for a year I got out of it. I was not honest with my therapist.

14:46🔗 Stryker All right, you ready to be honest?

14:48🔗 Stryker I am definitely ready to be honest.

14:50🔗 All right, cool.

14:52🔗 Stryker Maybe you can get some, if the essay becomes relatable for you, maybe you can apply some of those 12 step principles to your alcoholism as well.

15:02🔗 Stryker It's whatever drug, you know what I mean? It's, I mean, I smoke pot and I would...

15:10🔗 Stryker Cameron, you're loaded right now, right? And so it's difficult to have a conversation with...

15:15🔗 Stryker He's a speech major, Dr. Drew, at the school.

15:18🔗 Stryker Cameron. Go to a meeting, just go to a meeting. If you can't get an essay meeting, go to an AA meeting. If you want to do something before, it's time to involve yourself at the university. That's something you can do and do now. Get connected with the group, get a counselor, get a sponsor, get with the program.

15:33🔗 Drew Especially if you're an alcoholic, if your parents are an alcoholic, you have a history of it, it probably means you're an alcoholic, which means it's allergic for you more than other drugs. So if you can just, just don't drink because that harms your ability to control yourself too.

15:47🔗 Stryker And Cameron, hold on one second. Cameron, I swear to God, I feel bad for you, but if you go and mess around with a pre-pubescent teen, as you said, do you know how screwy they're going to be? And they're going to have kids at 16 because of you, and then they're screwed up and the cycle will begin. I will find you, Cameron, and cut your nuts off.

16:03🔗 Drew And do you know what they do in prison to the guys like that? They're called short eyes, and they are treated the worst of any offender in prison. It is amazing what a short eyes go through. You do not want to be there.

16:16🔗 Stryker That is James Marsters talking, the knowledge. To my left, he's from Buffy. He plays Spike on the TV show Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Real quick, you're not on WB anymore.

16:25🔗 Drew No, we are not.

16:26🔗 Stryker You have moved to the UPN.

16:27🔗 Drew Yes, we have. We are the first show in the history of television to move before being canceled. There was a gentleman's agreement up until now that networks would not buy hit shows after licensing fees contracts expired, even if the shows were hits. Buffy, for reasons that are beyond me, broke the gentleman's agreement, and it is now on a new network.

16:49🔗 Stryker Does that affect you one bit at all? Do you still tape at the same spot?

16:53🔗 Drew Exactly. This is my boss and his bosses and their bosses. And frankly, I know my boss and he wears khakis and tennis shoes and he comes down and makes movies with us. We're at the same locale, we're making the same stories, the same writers. It's the same everything except my trailer is really big.

17:09🔗 Stryker Really?

17:10🔗 Stryker Yeah.

17:11🔗 Drew We brought down some of the producers and the writers and we rocked in my trailer and they were just like, this is incredible.

17:16🔗 Stryker You like to play guitar, don't you?

17:17🔗 Drew Five amps in my trailer.

17:19🔗 Stryker You like to play guitar?

17:20🔗 Drew Yeah.

17:20🔗 Stryker What kind of music do you like?

17:21🔗 Drew What do you listen to? God, I listen to Neil Young, Tom Waits, Bruce Springsteen, I like Portishead, I like Morphine.

17:29🔗 Stryker Favorite band of all time? Most talented band of all time. You cannot do that. Alright, I say Nirvana and Radiohead.

17:37🔗 Drew Oh, oh, I disagree with you. Radiohead is way up there. Nirvana is quite a possibility. I would say the Rolling Stones were more seminal, but Nirvana, yeah, dude, we're right on the course on that. Radiohead also rocks.

17:50🔗 Stryker Ah, love that one.

17:51🔗 Drew Coldplay. If the follow up album to Coldplay is as good as the first one.

17:55🔗 Stryker Then they're on their way.

17:56🔗 Drew Yes.

17:56🔗 Stryker But you know what, I don't know if you've heard, they are fighting amongst themselves.

17:59🔗 Drew No.

18:00🔗 Stryker Everyone is jealous of the lead singer in that band. Apparently, they won't even speak to each other. We'll see what happens.

18:04🔗 Drew No, it's all over.

18:05🔗 Stryker All right, let's go to Angel, you're 16.

18:07🔗 Stryker Hi.

18:08🔗 Stryker Hi, you're on Loveline.

18:09🔗 Stryker Hello.

18:10🔗 Stryker Hi.

18:11🔗 Adam What's cracking?

18:13🔗 Stryker What's cracking?

18:13🔗 Stryker Nothing.

18:15🔗 Stryker What's your question?

18:16🔗 Stryker Well, my question was to James.

18:18🔗 Stryker James.

18:19🔗 Adam I was wondering, was playing Spike like your first, what's it called?

18:24🔗 Stryker Villain?

18:25🔗 Adam My first choice.

18:25🔗 Stryker Was that your first choice to be?

18:27🔗 Drew My first choice? Man, baby, I came to town, I was willing to be Alf's sidekick. I was, I had been like ten years out in the, in the Burbs, in the regional theater. It's not the Burbs. It's a, it's a respectable form of theater. And you learn how to act there, frankly. And I spent ten years learning how to act for no money at all. And I finally got sick of it and came to LA and decided to get some money. And I got, I lucked out and got a cool guy character.

18:52🔗 Stryker Now, how'd you get an agent when you moved out here, not really knowing a lot of people? Or did you get discovered while in the theater?

18:57🔗 Drew No, I was a, I had a friend who was a casting director, man.

18:59🔗 Stryker Oh, good.

19:00🔗 Drew It was, yeah.

19:02🔗 Stryker Who was your lover for two weeks? No, no, no, he's a talented man, this James Marsters.

19:07🔗 Drew He's only a friend.

19:08🔗 Stryker Of course.

19:08🔗 Drew He's a good friend.

19:09🔗 Stryker Right.

19:10🔗 Stryker Angel, you have any more questions for James?

19:12🔗 Adam I don't know. I'm just very happy that I'm talking to him.

19:16🔗 Stryker Okay, I'm gonna put you on hold, okay?

19:18🔗 Drew Just watch on Tuesday.

19:19🔗 Stryker On the UPN, 8 p.m. Of course.

19:21🔗 Stryker All right. Okay.

19:22🔗 Stryker Later, baby. Hey, Drew, Drew, we're doing our ride here, right? You being in Sacramento, us down here? I'm great. Okay, cool. Anthony.

19:30🔗 Hi.

19:30🔗 Stryker 19 on Loveline.

19:31🔗 How are you doing today?

19:32🔗 Stryker Good.

19:33🔗 I'm a big fan of the show.

19:35🔗 Drew Cool, man. It's a good show.

19:37🔗 So, you wanna hear what's wrong?

19:39🔗 Stryker No, let's put you on, yeah, go ahead.

19:41🔗 Okay, I speed skate for a speed racing team, and when I'm done with my practices, or in the middle of my practices, I'll cough up or sneeze up blood. And sometimes I can just sneeze it to my mouth.

19:54🔗 Stryker Hang on a second, you will sneeze up blood so it comes out of your nose?

19:57🔗 It will come out of my nose or my mouth.

20:00🔗 Stryker Yeah, but it's something coming down from your nose and then out your mouth.

20:03🔗 Yeah, and I don't have a bloody nose.

20:07🔗 Stryker But if you sneeze, it comes out of your nose?

20:09🔗 Stryker Yes.

20:11🔗 Stryker Does it happen once a month?

20:13🔗 No, it happens.

20:14🔗 Stryker You need to have a chest x-ray to make sure this isn't coming from your lungs. Because coughing, truly coughing up blood is actually a very serious problem. I suspect this is just coming from your sinuses. You're speed skating. You're out in the cold, right, skating?

20:26🔗 No, I'm inside.

20:27🔗 Stryker Inside. Is it ice skating, speed skating?

20:30🔗 Drew Rollerblading.

20:30🔗 Stryker Rollerblading. But it's probably just the dryness from having the air blowing in the sinuses and the vessel bleeds and you sniff it back and cough it out your lung.

20:40🔗 Drew Is it a lot of blood?

20:42🔗 It can get to be a lot, but it really varies.

20:48🔗 Stryker That was a vague answer.

20:49🔗 I'm sorry.

20:50🔗 Stryker That clarifies things. Listen, you said you sneeze and a blop of blood comes out.

20:54🔗 Yes.

20:55🔗 Stryker Yeah. A lot of blood means, you know, people can't, they have to close the restroom, wherever you are, they have to close the rink down.

21:01🔗 Drew Like, if you spit into a handkerchief, would it be like filling it up and, you know, you'd like to need a new handkerchief or just like a little spaz?

21:07🔗 It would be like if I had a really big bloody nose.

21:09🔗 Stryker Ooh, that's a lot of blood, though. All right. Drew, who does he need to see?

21:12🔗 Stryker Well, you have to get this checked out.

21:14🔗 Stryker That's very important.

21:16🔗 Stryker No, no, the bleeding picks up again tonight, but you can go tomorrow, but start with a regular doctor and let's get this checked out.

21:22🔗 Stryker Regular doctor.

21:22🔗 Stryker There's sort of unlimited possibilities here. It could be anything.

21:26🔗 Stryker Okay, good. James Marsters is here. He's hanging out here on Loveline. Buffy the Vampire Slayer is the show.

21:33🔗 Drew Who has these buttons, man? They can also seem, they can make you seem like an idiot too, right?

21:39🔗 Stryker That's right.

21:39🔗 Drew Thank God you like that, you know.

21:41🔗 Stryker It's fun.

21:41🔗 Drew God, I was on time.

21:42🔗 Stryker Yeah, I would have been yelling at you.

21:44🔗 Drew Yeah, and they would be giving to me that, or what, you know, the other button. Loser. I shouldn't even remind you of the other buttons tonight, because you're so nice to me.

21:52🔗 Stryker That's right.

21:52🔗 Stryker Loser.

21:55🔗 Drew Who cares?

21:57🔗 Stryker So if you want to talk to James, you can call us here at Loveline or talk about anything that's going on in your life. Dr. Drew and me, Stryker and more Loveline after this. Hello, this is Loveline.

22:08🔗 1-800-LOVE-191. Loveline will be right back.

22:32🔗 Stryker We are back, it is Loveline.

22:34🔗 Stryker We are having so much fun in the studio, it's practically an orgy, if anyone's around.

22:38🔗 Drew We're here. Stryks are in the studio, we just had to kick them out.

22:41🔗 Stryker Just kicked out the gear, it was all right. I'm Stryker in for-

22:43🔗 You don't call it Loveline for nothing.

22:45🔗 Stryker That's right. For Ace Rockolla, James Marsters is here from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, which is on the UPN.

22:52🔗 Drew Channel 13 on this in Los Angeles.

22:56🔗 Stryker But this show is on in like 362 cities.

23:00🔗 Yeah.

23:00🔗 Stryker Yeah.

23:01🔗 Drew It's all around the world. It's a bit freaky, man.

23:03🔗 It is.

23:03🔗 Drew I went around. I went to Australia and New Zealand and France and England. And it's like big.

23:09🔗 Stryker Loveline?

23:09🔗 Drew It's even way bigger, Canada.

23:11🔗 Stryker Buffy or Loveline? Oh, Buffy. Yeah.

23:13🔗 Drew What are we talking about today?

23:13🔗 Stryker Well, I was saying, Loveline's in that many cities. So it's not just on channel 13. It could be in Boise. It could be on channel nine.

23:19🔗 Drew You're right.

23:20🔗 Stryker Idaho Falls, Pocatello.

23:20🔗 Drew This is what the network is all about.

23:22🔗 Stryker Yes.

23:23🔗 Drew Drew.

23:24🔗 Stryker Yo.

23:24🔗 Stryker You're in Sacramento.

23:26🔗 Stryker I'm in Sacramento at the Zone.

23:27🔗 Stryker What channel is that? There's the plug. What channel is the UPN on up there?

23:31🔗 Stryker Hell if I know.

23:32🔗 Stryker Cause you're watching Spankter Vision instead of Goon.

23:35🔗 Stryker Oh, I do know. Wait.

23:35🔗 Stryker I do know because the UPN, the local UPN here in Sacramento, part of the gift package I got is a book from the Good Day Sacramento on station 31, UPN. There you go.

23:45🔗 Stryker There you go. You guys know where to go. All right. Let's take some more calls here. It's 1-800-LOVE-191. Lola?

23:52🔗 Stryker Hi.

23:52🔗 Stryker You were a show girl. You're 39.

23:54🔗 Stryker No, not a show girl.

23:55🔗 Stryker Okay.

23:56🔗 Stryker We can all hope.

23:58🔗 Stryker I called for a question that I already answered, so I wanted to say to James how much I like him. I love the show. I'm so addicted.

24:07🔗 Drew Thank you.

24:07🔗 Stryker Because when I was growing up, there was nothing like that on TV for us.

24:10🔗 Drew No, there never was anything on TV like that.

24:14🔗 Stryker And I'm like so nuts about it. You know, I'm 39. I should be watching other things.

24:18🔗 Drew No, you know, one of the things is that I always thought that it was good enough for adults. I get calls from my theater friends all around the country to make fun of me and I tell them to watch the show. And these people are 30, 35 years old.

24:27🔗 Stryker Some of them are 50 years old.

24:28🔗 Stryker They love the show. I watch it religiously. God forbid that I miss the show. I go nuts and I really love it. How do you keep white all the time? Don't you regret not being able to go in the sun?

24:39🔗 Drew Yes, I do very much. I live right next to the beach and I can't go to the sun until after the sun goes down. It's in my contract. Are you serious? Yeah, my skin tone has to remain pale.

24:48🔗 Stryker You look, now, you have a little make up on right now.

24:51🔗 Drew I haven't had a tan in five years.

24:52🔗 Stryker You're tan though to me.

24:54🔗 Drew No, I'm just pink.

24:55🔗 Stryker You are tanner than I am.

24:57🔗 Stryker You're translucent though, Stryker.

24:59🔗 Stryker I'm practically invisible.

25:00🔗 Drew Bare, I've got no tan line. This is just me.

25:03🔗 Stryker Ah, your lady must love this.

25:06🔗 Stryker Lola, so he's not allowed to go to the beach until the sun goes down.

25:08🔗 Drew Yeah.

25:09🔗 Stryker You probably have a beautiful skin by now.

25:11🔗 Drew Yeah, it's youthening.

25:13🔗 Stryker No wrinkles?

25:13🔗 Drew No wrinkles at all.

25:16🔗 Stryker Can I give a... I love to talk to you. I wish I could meet you one day, but I know it's impossible. You're so busy. I'm busy too. Can I have a question for Drew real quick? Yeah, Lola, what's up? Yeah, go ahead. Drew, real quick. I used to do occasionally a recreation coke in my early 20s between 20 and 30. I start because what you started doing to me, it used to make me hungry and sleepy.

25:39🔗 Stryker It gave you the accent.

25:41🔗 Stryker What? I'm Italian.

25:44🔗 Stryker She's Italian. Oh, that's good.

25:46🔗 Drew Italian is good.

25:47🔗 Stryker Yes, I know.

25:48🔗 Stryker Yeah.

25:51🔗 Stryker Go ahead, Drew, answer the question.

25:53🔗 Stryker I didn't hear the question.

25:54🔗 Stryker She said, why is his skin so white?

25:56🔗 Stryker No.

25:59🔗 Stryker She said she did cocaine between 20 and 30.

26:03🔗 Stryker Only 20s and 30s, I will go. I stopped because, and that was a good thing. Instead of, you started making me hungry and sleepy. I mean, the moment I started doing it, I would get hungry. And then I would just go to sleep. I mean, really deep sleep and just sleep so well like a baby. And how could this happen?

26:21🔗 Stryker I have no explanation.

26:23🔗 Drew Coke is so bad for your body, girl. I mean, you just wipes out all of your vitamins, man. It is one of the high grade bad things, man.

26:31🔗 Stryker Well, she's in Italian. I think she could maybe handle it. At 39, I don't know why I even watch the show. I should be watching the other shows on TV.

26:38🔗 Stryker I want to put some opiates in there.

26:40🔗 Stryker Maybe.

26:40🔗 Drew No, really. There are other drugs you can do, but Coke is one of the worst ones as far as just biochemically, it's whacks out all the vitamins in your body.

26:47🔗 Stryker But the worst, according to Drew, ecstasy and acid. Really?

26:51🔗 Stryker Right, Drew? For abuse, yeah.

26:53🔗 Drew Yeah. Yeah.

26:54🔗 Stryker Suzanne.

26:56🔗 Stryker Yes, hello.

26:56🔗 Stryker Hello, you're 29 and you're in Sacramento.

26:58🔗 Stryker Yes, I am. How are you guys doing tonight?

27:00🔗 Stryker Doing good. How are you?

27:01🔗 Stryker We're doing great, thanks.

27:02🔗 Stryker Good, what's up?

27:03🔗 Stryker First, I want to make a comment to Dr. Drew.

27:04🔗 Stryker I saw him earlier this evening at Sac State and it was really great to see him there and I know everyone had a great time and I wanted to thank him for that.

27:13🔗 Stryker That was fun. Tell me something. I was actually struck by the women in that crowd. I mean, that was the most assertive group. They actually scared me at one point. Assertive group of women I've ever seen at a college crowd. Is that typical of Sac State?

27:28🔗 Stryker You know, I'm not really sure.

27:31🔗 Stryker You said Sac State.

27:31🔗 Drew Are you? Tell me honestly. Are you going to try to pick up Dr. Drew right now?

27:36🔗 Stryker I'm sorry?

27:36🔗 Stryker Are you trying to pick up Dr. Drew right now?

27:38🔗 Stryker I'm not, no.

27:40🔗 Drew We're just wanting to know. We had a little bet going over here in LA.

27:45🔗 Stryker No, I have a question actually. I know that wet dreams are typically common among men and I don't know, I guess, among young men.

27:54🔗 Stryker Through puberty, Suzanne.

27:56🔗 Stryker Okay. I'm curious about, is it possible for women to have wet dreams?

28:03🔗 Stryker Yeah, they will. Women have sexual dreams where they will orgasm. They don't necessarily emit anything, so they're not truly wet, but they will have orgasm sometimes. The thing with men is men have a need to release. Stuff builds up, has to come out. If they don't get a pattern going in their life of masturbation, the god will release it for them during the night.

28:26🔗 Drew Go masturbation. Let's just stand up and say it. It's the male right.

28:31🔗 Stryker If you tie the hose up, it's going to burst. If you don't masturbate for a week, in the middle of the night, that thing is going to burst.

28:38🔗 Stryker I see.

28:38🔗 Stryker That makes sense.

28:39🔗 Stryker Is it common for, I don't know, would they have to stimulate it physically? Or is it something that just happens?

28:47🔗 Stryker It just happens.

28:48🔗 Stryker Are you looking to have a women dream?

28:50🔗 Drew With women, are you actually wet at night?

28:54🔗 Stryker No, actually, this isn't a question coming from me personally, but it's something that my boyfriend and I were talking about. We got on the subject about it, and we were like, we were kind of stumped and like, hmm, maybe we should ask Dr. Drew.

29:05🔗 Stryker It happens. Women start to get those a little later, too.

29:08🔗 Stryker Really?

29:09🔗 Stryker Yeah. They're sexual dreams that end in climax sometimes.

29:13🔗 Stryker Okay. Do men typically have more sexual dreams than women?

29:17🔗 Stryker Yes.

29:18🔗 Stryker They do.

29:18🔗 Stryker And again, if they're not sort of cleansing themselves of their buildup, it comes out.

29:24🔗 Stryker Drew, what's the last sexual dream you had? When?

29:28🔗 Stryker Oh, I can't remember. I literally can't remember.

29:31🔗 Stryker Doctors. James, how about you?

29:33🔗 Drew I live one.

29:35🔗 Stryker See, he's on Buffy and he comes up with lines like that. Oh my God. All right, Erin, you're 21. What's up? You're on Loveline.

29:42🔗 Stryker Hey, guys. First of all, I want to say, James, you're my favorite person in the entire world.

29:47🔗 Drew I have no idea what to say to that, but thank you. There are 500 people making me look cool, honey, and it takes that many.

29:54🔗 Stryker You're an amazing actor and you're very cool in person.

29:56🔗 Drew Thank you, but they do cut out the crappy parts. They really do.

30:00🔗 Stryker No, but in person especially, you're very humble. I had the pleasure of meeting you a couple of times.

30:04🔗 Drew Thank you.

30:05🔗 Stryker Very cool. Okay, here's my question. I'm with my boyfriend. We've been together for two years. We've been living together for about a little over a year. And I have noticed for the last, I'd say, six months to eight months, first of all, I don't get very aroused. I never really want to have sex, but when we do, things will be going great. And then one little thing, like if he pulls my hair wrong or something, and he scratches me wrong, I'll get just completely angry or I'll start to cry. And I just will not want to have sex after that. I just completely get absolutely angry. And I have no idea why.

30:46🔗 Stryker Is this the first time this has happened to you when you've had a sexual partner?

30:49🔗 Stryker No, it's not.

30:50🔗 Stryker You've got to give us some hints. I mean, what does this recall some?

30:54🔗 Stryker I don't know, like, we'll be getting into it and I'll be in the mood, which it takes me a while to get aroused anyway with him.

31:03🔗 Stryker Are you on any medication?

31:06🔗 Stryker I was on Busfar because I have anxiety and panic disorder.

31:10🔗 Stryker Where does that come from?

31:11🔗 Stryker My mom has it, my grandmother has it. I have three aunts in my family that have it as well, but I don't know if it's completely genetic. It definitely affects my life, but I'm not on anything at the moment. I was on birth control for about, I'd say, a good year, and then I just stopped that and I'm changing birth controls right now.

31:34🔗 Stryker What do you want to know?

31:35🔗 Stryker I'm going to try orthotrycyclin.

31:37🔗 Stryker Okay. You haven't started it yet though.

31:39🔗 Stryker I haven't. It's been about a month that I've been on.

31:41🔗 Stryker It might be that Merced because sometimes women get, do you notice any difference when you started the Merced?

31:47🔗 Stryker No, I didn't really. The reason why is because with my last boyfriend, that happened too and I wasn't on any birth control pills.

31:55🔗 Stryker Erin, Erin, hold on. You've been with this guy two years, but you said it's been happening only the last six to eight months, but then it happened with another boyfriend before.

32:02🔗 Stryker It happened with the guy I was with before him. I was with for two and a half years.

32:07🔗 Stryker Well, what was happening the first year in four months of this relationship?

32:11🔗 Stryker Me and my boyfriend now?

32:11🔗 Stryker Yeah.

32:12🔗 Stryker Everything was fine. I mean, the sex was good.

32:14🔗 Stryker Maybe you're just not into this relationship.

32:16🔗 Stryker Right. That's what I'm getting at.

32:18🔗 Stryker I know that you guys would say something like that. I don't know. I mean, I love him. I know you guys, Drew, said something about that book, but I love him or something because I love him. But I imagine myself with him forever. And I swear to God, there's nothing wrong with this relationship. And this happened to me before.

32:34🔗 Stryker You hate the sex? Of course there's something. Yeah.

32:36🔗 Drew I mean, that's the thing. There are people that press certain buttons in you, and that's what turns you on, you know? And you just have to go over to that, as long as it doesn't lead you into being with people that hurt you.

32:48🔗 Stryker Yeah. He's a great guy.

32:50🔗 Drew And a great guy doesn't always turn you on.

32:53🔗 Stryker Right. And the thing is, too, is I have, like, literally, like, three or four nights a week, I'm having all these sex dreams, and I'm completely turned on in these sexual dreams.

33:02🔗 Drew Are they about him?

33:03🔗 Stryker What?

33:03🔗 Stryker Are they about him?

33:04🔗 Stryker They're about you, James.

33:05🔗 Stryker You want to hear something?

33:06🔗 Stryker Yeah.

33:06🔗 Stryker It's so embarrassing. I swear to God. They are mostly James. I swear to God. Yes. I sound like a little teenager. I know. I know. But no.

33:16🔗 Drew Thank you, babe.

33:17🔗 Stryker I wake up and I have this feeling of like I'm sad when I wake up from these dreams.

33:22🔗 Stryker Erin, this does not sound good, right?

33:25🔗 Drew Good for you.

33:26🔗 Stryker It's not good.

33:27🔗 Stryker I know I'm young, you know, but I've always been like into the committed relationship. Like my parents are still together.

33:32🔗 Stryker They're great together.

33:33🔗 Stryker That's fine that you may commit a relationship, but you know, this relationship doesn't have to be the one you spend the rest of your life in.

33:37🔗 Stryker I know.

33:39🔗 Stryker And there's your body's telling you something. You've got to, you know, part of having anxiety disorder, I believe, is having sort of insufficient competencies of self. You don't manage your internal emotional world well. Your self is not fully developed, so you just sort of left anxious. You can't manage feelings very well. And part of that is not really knowing what you feel. And I think you're sort of detached from things, and you really don't know what the hell is going on here. So you've got to figure out, and maybe some therapy, and less medication might do you some world of good here.

34:08🔗 Stryker Lot of therapy, I think.

34:10🔗 Drew Yeah, and you have a life plan and everything, and what you always wanted for your life. But you have to look at who you are living with, too.

34:18🔗 Stryker Drew.

34:18🔗 Stryker But she doesn't even know who she is. That's the problem. She doesn't know what she wants. She doesn't know what she's feeling.

34:22🔗 Stryker Woo, James is stripping down.

34:25🔗 Stryker Hey, what's the language? Shut up.

34:29🔗 Stryker He said, Andrew said, fuck.

34:32🔗 Stryker Woo, look at Dog over there checking it out. I'm sorry, James.

34:38🔗 Stryker I'm sorry, James.

34:39🔗 Stryker What just happened?

34:40🔗 Drew I took off my coat.

34:41🔗 Stryker And he's wearing a wife beater tank top, this black one. Man's got muscles on his muscles. He's turning red. You're turning violet, violet.

34:47🔗 Drew I'm putting it back on.

34:48🔗 Stryker No, leave it off. Leave it off.

34:50🔗 Drew I'm going to sit here and my own stink.

34:52🔗 Stryker I'll take off my, no, I won't. I can't do that. All right, let's grab a call here. Hey, Olivia. Olivia?

35:03🔗 Stryker Yeah?

35:03🔗 Stryker What's up? You're 14 on Loveline with James Marsters from Buffy.

35:08🔗 Stryker First of all, I want to say, Mr. James, you are God because you are in any way involved in Buffy and anywhere involved in Buffy is God.

35:15🔗 Drew Yeah, it's true, man. Anybody who gets to come to Sunnydale gets, you know, powdered with the fairy dust.

35:22🔗 Stryker Olivia, hold on. James, if it takes just to get on Buffy, God, maybe there's like one line in there for me to be like, sir, where's the taxi cab?

35:29🔗 Stryker Then I'm gone.

35:31🔗 Stryker I'm in, I'm golden.

35:32🔗 Drew For people, you'd be like, you're the guy in the taxi cab. You would be for the rest of your life.

35:36🔗 Stryker Taxi cab, Ted Stryker. All right, Olivia.

35:38🔗 Drew Spock, Gilligan and you.

35:39🔗 Stryker Right. What's your question, Olivia?

35:42🔗 Stryker Okay, well, I kind of think I'm bisexual, but I'm not sure if it's just like a passing phase or if I am and I don't know.

35:48🔗 Stryker Hey, Olivia?

35:49🔗 Stryker Yeah?

35:50🔗 Stryker At 14, don't try to figure it out. Just sit by and don't do anything. Just listen. Just watch your feelings. See what happens.

35:58🔗 Stryker Okay.

35:58🔗 Stryker That's simple. Don't act. Just cool out. See what happens.

36:02🔗 Stryker Okay.

36:03🔗 Stryker Have you ever kissed a girl, Olivia?

36:05🔗 Stryker No, but I've never kissed a guy either.

36:06🔗 Stryker Well, good.

36:08🔗 Stryker Well, hang out till you're about 18 and then you'll know what you're doing.

36:11🔗 Stryker Okay.

36:12🔗 Stryker By experimenting, you tend to add to the confusion and not figure it out. Just listen to your feelings for a while.

36:18🔗 Stryker Very good, Drew. 1-800-LOVE-191 is the phone number. You know, we have to take another quick break. James Marsters is here, as I mentioned, from Buffy. If you want to speak to him, you can call up the program. I'm Stryker, in for Adam Corolla. You don't need to talk to me. Dr. Drew is up in Sacramento. It's very odd not looking at the man, him being way up in Northern California.

36:37🔗 Drew He seems really important, doesn't he? He's a disembodied voice.

36:40🔗 Stryker I'll bet you he's wearing a-

36:41🔗 Drew He's like Charlie from the Angels thing.

36:43🔗 Stryker Hey, Drew, are you wearing a blue tie?

36:45🔗 Stryker No.

36:46🔗 Stryker Damn it.

36:47🔗 Drew Girls, I have a mission for you.

36:49🔗 Stryker All right, I'm gonna mess with James and his body in his tank top, and more Loveline is coming up after this. You're gay.

37:33🔗 Alright, this is Loveline.

37:35🔗 Stryker I feel like I am on speed, Dr. Drew, and I'm not.

37:38🔗 Stryker Art, you sure?

37:39🔗 Stryker Yeah. Well, yeah. I mean, I did my radio show out here before the Loveline, and man, I sped here as driving. I was waving at people. All right, Adam Corolla is going to be back on Sunday, you guys, so you can talk to him then. And Drew and James is here from Buffy, you play Spike, and did you film today, or did you read lines today? Did you do anything for the show today before you came here?

38:00🔗 Drew Oh, God, it all fits in together. Yes, I was shooting a crossbow right at the camera crew, five inches away.

38:07🔗 Stryker Nice.

38:08🔗 Drew And they put, you know, like a furniture pad with a big X for me to point at, and I was actually hitting the tape, because, you know, the camera crew was nervous.

38:14🔗 Stryker Of course.

38:15🔗 Drew Because it's a crossbow.

38:16🔗 Stryker Right, right.

38:16🔗 Drew So they like put Bin Laden, you know, on the little thing, you know, trying to help me out. But I hit the tape. I hit the tape three out of five times. I actually hit the tape, yeah.

38:25🔗 Stryker What time is it the norm on your TV show, Buffy, for you guys to be on set? Is everyone at a different time normally or?

38:31🔗 Drew The only person who really carries the full load to be Sari herself. She's there pretty much all the time, yeah. I mean, she's in every scene, so.

38:39🔗 Stryker Does Freddie Prince Jr. loiter around?

38:41🔗 Drew Yeah, totally.

38:42🔗 Stryker Does he eat all the food in the...

38:44🔗 Stryker Crafty.

38:44🔗 Drew He's always getting the good crafty. His baseball movement eggrolls a mother...

38:49🔗 Stryker What?

38:50🔗 Stryker James.

38:52🔗 Stryker James is on fire, you guys.

38:53🔗 Stryker Did he catch himself or did Anderson do that?

38:55🔗 Stryker He caught himself. He caught himself. He did not say it. I promise he did not say that.

38:59🔗 Drew Oh, I'm sorry.

39:00🔗 Stryker Don't worry. No, you're fine. You're all good. You're all good.

39:03🔗 Drew Hey, Kate.

39:05🔗 Stryker Kate. What's up? You're 14. You're on Loveline. James, you didn't say it. Forget it.

39:08🔗 Stryker I know.

39:08🔗 Drew I said the first half.

39:09🔗 Stryker Yeah.

39:10🔗 Stryker What's up, Kate?

39:11🔗 Stryker Go ahead.

39:12🔗 Adam James, I was just wondering if you're ever coming to a ballet school.

39:16🔗 Stryker It's called Westside Academy of Dance to rehearse.

39:21🔗 Drew I haven't. No, I'm not planning to do that. Although it sounds like a cool thing to do. I'm basically, you know, my my bud is Buffy's and they have me all the time. And I'm always in Sunnydale. What was there a rumor like that or something?

39:35🔗 Stryker Yeah, well, Sarah Michelle Gellar just came yesterday and I got her autograph and I was like shaking for the next 20 minutes.

39:42🔗 Drew Man, no, I'm not going there. She's a dancer, though. She dances cool. She was showing me some of the moves for the upcoming musicals. She dances sexy, man. She's got the whole hip grind thing down.

39:53🔗 Caller She, yeah, man.

39:54🔗 Drew She's like, shows Britney Spears what to do.

39:56🔗 Stryker And for a minimum $20, she'll come to your trail. Yeah, I'm sorry, Sarah. That's not good.

40:02🔗 Drew Freddie Prinze is a lucky man.

40:04🔗 Stryker He's going to beat me up.

40:05🔗 Drew Yeah, he's going to hit me with a chainsaw.

40:07🔗 Stryker I love the true Hollywood story of his dad. They were like best friends with Tony Orlando. They hung out together. You know his dad, right? Yeah. The whole story. It's amazing.

40:15🔗 Stryker Mona 18.

40:16🔗 Stryker Thank you, Drew.

40:17🔗 Stryker Keep you focused, Stryker.

40:19🔗 Stryker I'm focused.

40:20🔗 Adam Hey.

40:21🔗 Stryker Go ahead, Mona.

40:22🔗 Adam Hi. I've never had a healthy relationship, and I'm only really attracted to guys that are like 40 and over, and I'm really worried.

40:34🔗 Stryker Are you trying to recapture the dad that left you long ago?

40:38🔗 Adam No. He's actually still in the picture, but he was a workaholic, and so we never really, I mean, I haven't, he's really been around more than that.

40:49🔗 Stryker Don't confuse people actually physically leaving with being emotionally abandoning. A dad who is a workaholic, who is on drugs or using alcohol, who is a rageaholic, who just doesn't respect you or empathize with you, or is not available to you in ways that you need, that's an abandoning dad.

41:09🔗 Adam Well, also, I had a father of a friend make a pass at me when I was 10, and so I'm really worried because I find myself repeating patterns of behavior that I'm almost searching out these kind of guys that are just scum, and I'm really completely unattracted to guys my age.

41:29🔗 Stryker Where do you meet 40-year-old men?

41:32🔗 Adam Like at concerts and clubs and stuff.

41:36🔗 Drew So, but you, you, you, you go, they're always scum. You never meet a nice 40-year-old. Well, I guess, yeah.

41:45🔗 Stryker A 40-year-old would go with an 18-year-old, though, almost by definition, it's disturbed. But listen, Mona, you understand what this is. You don't like that you do it. Right. There's a certain point where it's just, you got to look at your behavior and just cut it out. You know what I'm saying? You've not given me any sort of emotional motivation for this. It's a compulsive behavior that you know is destructive and you know needs to stop. Go ahead and stop.

42:11🔗 Drew Go out with a 32 year old man. And then go out with a 28 year old man. Yeah.

42:17🔗 Adam 12 step further.

42:19🔗 Stryker 40 year old men, no offense to them, aren't hip to what the 18 year olds are into except having sex with you, Mona.

42:26🔗 Stryker Come here and give me a hug. Yeah.

42:30🔗 Adam Well, the thing is, I also didn't really attract this type of guy. I mean, like I had a drunk guy come up to me and telling me what a loser he was and how I was so nice to be talking to him. And I really felt bad. And so it's really hard for me to disassociate from that.

42:47🔗 Stryker Your dad, what's up with your mom? What's she like?

42:50🔗 Adam My mom and I have a really close relationship.

42:54🔗 Stryker Like close, so close that you have an eating disorder?

42:59🔗 Adam Well, I did, but.

43:00🔗 Stryker True, true.

43:02🔗 Stryker It's unbelievable.

43:03🔗 Stryker Dang.

43:04🔗 Stryker Yeah, that's called an intrusive relationship. That's not a close relationship. When your mother is crawling down your throat with every. You can't, she can't do anything. You can't do anything without having her involved with it or thinking about her. That's not, that's not parenting. That's not parenting. So you don't get, you have a dad is not available and abandons you. You have a mom who intrudes. It doesn't give you an opportunity to develop any sense of yourself. No wonder anyone that comes up to you and shows attraction, you're swept into that relationship. You have no boundaries. Yeah.

43:33🔗 Stryker James, how smart is that, man? You just hit it right on the head.

43:36🔗 Drew That was great. You know, I'm just picking my jaw up off the floor.

43:39🔗 Adam That was great.

43:40🔗 Stryker What did you do if you were eating disorder?

43:43🔗 Adam I was actually hospitalized because of...

43:45🔗 Stryker And are you still working a program?

43:48🔗 Adam No. I kind of finished it and I went from being bulimic to being extremely fat. So I'm working on that kind of one thing to another.

43:58🔗 Stryker In the program?

43:59🔗 Adam Yeah. So because I gained all the weight back and then some and started emotionally eating. So I'm working on that right now.

44:06🔗 Stryker But with the therapeutic team?

44:09🔗 Adam I'm still in therapy. Yeah. I actually just went back in this year.

44:13🔗 Stryker This is the therapy for the eating then, right?

44:16🔗 Adam It's there kind of for all around.

44:18🔗 Stryker For everything. Good. It all goes together. Are you talking to the therapist about this compulsion with the older man?

44:24🔗 Adam No, I haven't. I haven't brought it up yet.

44:26🔗 Stryker Do you trust them?

44:28🔗 Drew Do you trust the therapist?

44:32🔗 Adam Yeah. She's been-

44:33🔗 Drew That's a really powerful answer.

44:35🔗 Stryker That's cool. Yeah. That is cool. Listen, tell her about this.

44:38🔗 Adam Okay. Can I just do one thing?

44:40🔗 Stryker Yeah.

44:40🔗 Adam Jane, you are about the sexiest thing on two legs. I am such a huge fan and you could bite me any day.

44:46🔗 Stryker Mona, have you seen Dr. Drew lately?

44:48🔗 Stryker Yeah.

44:48🔗 Drew He's looking pretty good.

44:51🔗 Adam Yeah.

44:51🔗 Stryker Now all of a sudden you snapped in normality, Mona. So quit sleeping with the 40-year-old. Talk to the therapist and let it out to her, okay?

44:58🔗 Drew Sleep with the 120-year-old vampire.

45:00🔗 Stryker The good news is, Stryker, is I have to be a loser 40-year-old. No, you're not.

45:03🔗 Stryker Oh, okay.

45:04🔗 Stryker You do. See?

45:05🔗 Stryker But you're not. You're on the ball.

45:06🔗 Stryker That's why I'm not attracted to her.

45:07🔗 Stryker Exactly.

45:08🔗 Stryker So it's good news, bad news.

45:10🔗 Stryker Hey, Lyle.

45:11🔗 Stryker Yeah.

45:11🔗 Stryker What's up? You're 14 on Loveline.

45:13🔗 Stryker Yeah.

45:16🔗 Caller She's almost 13, my girlfriend, and I'm almost 15.

45:20🔗 Stryker Is that okay?

45:22🔗 Stryker Unacceptable. No, it's, you know, it's all right.

45:27🔗 Stryker That's fine.

45:27🔗 Stryker What did you guys say?

45:28🔗 Stryker Yeah, that's fine.

45:29🔗 Drew Do you have a erratic life with your mom and dad?

45:32🔗 Stryker They're still together.

45:33🔗 Drew What's up?

45:34🔗 Caller Yeah, they're still together.

45:35🔗 Stryker Yeah. You're fine, man.

45:37🔗 Caller Okay.

45:37🔗 Stryker You're fine. Just when you're 20, don't go out with the 13-year-old.

45:40🔗 Caller No.

45:41🔗 Stryker Okay.

45:42🔗 Stryker All right, Lyle. Have fun in Wisconsin.

45:43🔗 Caller I think.

45:44🔗 Stryker All right.

45:45🔗 Stryker We have time to take one more.

45:47🔗 Stryker No.

45:47🔗 Stryker Now, we're going to take a breakthrough?

45:48🔗 Stryker Yeah.

45:49🔗 Stryker Is your pager going off?

45:50🔗 Stryker No, but 53 is our official break time.

45:53🔗 Stryker All right. All right. All right. That is Dr. Drew up in Sacramento, so it's kind of odd for us down here. James Marsters is here from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I'm Stryker, and I'm the loser around here. We got more Loveline coming up after this. Hello, it's Stryker with Dr. Drew on Loveline. And we're here. I'm so confused, I don't know what I'm doing.

47:16🔗 Drew You're covering well.

47:18🔗 Stryker I want to just tell everyone that's been calling in to Loveline, I've been filling in since Monday. Thank you so much for being so cool calling in, because I know, you know, my main man mayonnaise, Adam Corolla, has been doing this thing for so long, get used to him, don't worry, he's coming back on Sunday. And you guys calling have been so nice to me, not like, you suck, get the hell out, I love Adam. Like even some emails I get when I check him, so nice, and I appreciate that.

47:40🔗 Drew Oh, big whoop.

47:41🔗 Stryker I know, shut up Corolla, hairy bastard. Put that on the loop Anderson, he's already doing it. Dr. Drew, you doing all right up there?

47:50🔗 Stryker Yeah, great.

47:51🔗 Stryker Okay, very good.

47:52🔗 Stryker I'm telling you, it's like gifts, and it's just a wonderful place here at The Zone.

47:56🔗 Stryker It's like being on Hollywood Square is like that kind of gift?

47:59🔗 Stryker Not quite that lavish.

47:59🔗 Stryker Okay.

48:01🔗 Stryker Much more meaningful gifts, personal gifts.

48:03🔗 Drew Do you have two beds, or do you have one big bed?

48:06🔗 Stryker One big one.

48:07🔗 Drew Oh, you got a good bed. That's a nice room.

48:09🔗 Stryker That's a nice thing.

48:09🔗 Drew Very nice.

48:10🔗 Stryker If you guys watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer, well you're in luck, he's one of the big stars from that show. He plays Spike, James Marsters is here, and he's been on fire since he's been here. He's been wearing a tank top, he's got blonde hair, it's all over the place, you're gay.

48:24🔗 Drew He's got the jacket back on.

48:26🔗 Stryker He's got the jacket back on, no. Alright, let's go to Jeff at 1800love191, you're 20, what's up?

48:34🔗 Stryker Yeah, I was just wondering if there's anything maybe psychologically wrong with me, or you know, what I could do to help cope with the fact that my girlfriend slept with more people than I did, and I have like trouble dealing with that.

48:48🔗 Stryker Why?

48:49🔗 Stryker Why?

48:50🔗 Stryker Yeah.

48:52🔗 Stryker I don't, maybe it's because I've-

48:54🔗 Stryker And by the way, why did you get into the details? Why did you start to have a little tally? What, that's not your business.

49:00🔗 Stryker How many BJs has she given? That's more important. Have you seen Clerks?

49:05🔗 Caller The girl's like, I've only slept with five guys, but I've given, you know, 860 BJs.

49:11🔗 Drew Everyone you know.

49:13🔗 Stryker More mystery, less history.

49:15🔗 Stryker Yeah. That's a good one.

49:16🔗 Stryker All right, Jeff, this is not your business. This is her past. If you care about her, she's the person she is because of whatever has gone on in her life to this point.

49:26🔗 Drew Think of it as she was looking for you, and she found you.

49:29🔗 Stryker And by any means, nine is a lot, but that is not a ton, Jeff.

49:34🔗 Drew Around here, baby, that is a weekend.

49:36🔗 Stryker Yeah, so I hear the callers, they call in. Last night was 25.

49:40🔗 Stryker Right.

49:41🔗 Stryker Yeah. Yeah.

49:41🔗 Stryker So.

49:42🔗 Stryker Is there anything I could do to cope with it, maybe? Any references Drew can give me?

49:47🔗 Stryker No, you're trying to sabotage this relationship. What are you doing?

49:53🔗 Stryker Well, no, I'm trying, it's just, it bothers me, because it's like, I don't know, it feels like she didn't, she doesn't feel as strongly about sex, because a lot of them were like one week things, and you know, and it's like.

50:04🔗 Drew Are you afraid that she's more experienced than you are, and you're not going to be able to live up to some else she's been through?

50:08🔗 Stryker No, it's not that at all. It's just like, I'm very strongly moral when it comes to sex.

50:14🔗 Stryker How many women have you been with?

50:15🔗 Drew Six.

50:16🔗 Stryker Six.

50:18🔗 Stryker There's not a giant difference between six and nine.

50:22🔗 Stryker I know there's not a huge jump. I know, that's why it's bothering me so much.

50:27🔗 Stryker Well, all I can, I mean, just, look, I don't know what's going on with you, Jeff, but there's something much, much more substantial than just a numbers game, and I don't know why. It seems to me you're just looking to sabotage this relationship. Well, do you have a problem with intimacy? Do you have difficulty staying in stable relationships?

50:42🔗 Stryker No, I've had actually a couple one-year relationships, a couple for about 10.

50:47🔗 Stryker But Jeff, do you always-

50:48🔗 Stryker Is there something about this one that's extra scary?

50:51🔗 Stryker Um, I don't know what it is with this one. I mean, maybe it's just that she's really good, and maybe it's like scaring me that, you know, I found someone really, you know, better than the other ones, you know? I just put my finger on it.

51:08🔗 Stryker Jeff, try to step out of yourself for a minute, and like, okay, she's been with nine, I've been with six. That is nothing, man. Forget about it. That's so easy to say, but it seems, you're just, there's something else going on. There's gotta be. You think so, Drew?

51:20🔗 Stryker I have no doubt. He is looking to sabotage this relationship.

51:23🔗 Drew He's looking for a reason to break up with her. If it wasn't that, it would be her way to dress her or something.

51:28🔗 Stryker Anyone hearing your story looks at it and just says, what in the hell are you talking about, Jeff?

51:32🔗 Drew Especially if she's good in bed. Yeah, dude, if she's good in bed, that's a good thing.

51:35🔗 Stryker But she's probably been with more than nine.

51:37🔗 Stryker Here's what a lot of guys...

51:38🔗 Stryker You know the rule of three, right?

51:39🔗 Stryker That's right. I just eat an American pie, too.

51:41🔗 Stryker I really think a lot of men are fearful of women's sexuality generally. That they're afraid of being consumed by them or sort of lost in it or that it's sort of going to run amok some way and they're going to have no way to control it. Men are fundamentally fearful of women's sexuality. If she is open with that and expresses that freely to you, that's tough for you to take, obviously. And you've got to focus on it as the fact that she's had some couple of extra experiences as the reason why. It's not the reason why. And it's not a bad thing that she is the way she is. But if you can't handle it, that's your problem.

52:14🔗 Stryker All right, Jeff? All right.

52:16🔗 Stryker Good luck, man.

52:16🔗 Drew Be lucky that she's honest with you.

52:18🔗 Stryker Definitely. Dr. Drew, do you know what the rule of three is?

52:21🔗 Stryker No.

52:22🔗 Stryker All right. If a guy says he slept with nine women, he's really only slept with three. Yeah. If a woman says she slept with six guys, then she slept with 18 guys.

52:33🔗 Stryker Good times.

52:34🔗 Drew So basically, men multiply, women divide.

52:36🔗 Stryker Exactly.

52:37🔗 Stryker Holly.

52:38🔗 Adam Yes.

52:38🔗 Stryker Hi there. You're 27. What's going on?

52:41🔗 Adam I have a weird question, actually.

52:44🔗 Stryker No.

52:44🔗 Adam Not a weird one. By the way, I love this show. I love it. I have to stay up really late to hear it though, because they replay it here.

52:52🔗 Stryker Where do you live? In Hawaii.

52:54🔗 Stryker Okay, cool.

52:56🔗 Adam My question is, okay, it's about anal sex. Yeah. I heard Dr. Drew say a couple of days ago that it was dangerous. I mean, it's obvious, you know, about, you know, diseases and all that kind of stuff. But if you're in a committed relationship with someone, you're monogamous, you both don't have a disease, is it dangerous then?

53:20🔗 Stryker It's not dangerous. It's just that it's not the healthiest activity. I mean, people get, we don't understand when you're a nice, young, healthy adult is that that part of one's body can be fraught with pathology later on in life. Tears and abscesses and all kinds of wonderful things can happen. And this can, you know, this can accelerate that predispose to that. But, you know, it doesn't, it's not a terribly unhealthy action. It's something that you can't do or should avoid. If it's something you as in your monogamous relationship want to do.

53:47🔗 Drew Is it something that he wants to do and you want to please him or do you want to do it too?

53:51🔗 Adam A little bit of both, actually.

53:53🔗 Stryker Have you done it before?

53:56🔗 Adam I did it with a previous boyfriend, but he was not as...

54:00🔗 Stryker Hung?

54:02🔗 Adam Yeah.

54:02🔗 Stryker Okay.

54:04🔗 Stryker I hear you, baby.

54:05🔗 Adam Yeah. So, I mean, it was okay with him. I mean, it was painful, but then it was all right. And then I liked it.

54:09🔗 Stryker Buy some lubricant and be careful.

54:12🔗 Stryker I've had anal sex.

54:15🔗 Stryker Drew, you have?

54:17🔗 Adam Of course.

54:19🔗 Stryker All right, Holly. Is that it?

54:20🔗 Adam I did have one small other question.

54:22🔗 Caller Yeah.

54:24🔗 Adam Okay. In my past relationships, sexual experience, I've been with a couple of guys, and I've always enjoyed performing all sex.

54:32🔗 Stryker Yes.

54:33🔗 Adam And, you know, I've never had a problem with it before. Well, with this boyfriend, he doesn't, I mean, he likes it, but he doesn't finish. And he says he's never finished. And I've tried everything I can think of. And I don't know, like, is that just him?

54:47🔗 Drew Okay, sometimes it hurts to finish in the mouth.

54:51🔗 Stryker And some guys don't like to finish that way. It does. And they just don't like, they just have a preference. They miss that engagement with you in a more intimate way or what they perceive as a more intimate way.

55:01🔗 Stryker Speak for yourself, Drew.

55:03🔗 Stryker I'm just saying that's how that works.

55:06🔗 Stryker Holly, Holly, I'm Stryker and we're in LA.

55:10🔗 Drew Airplanes, baby, if you ever break up with your boyfriend.

55:14🔗 Stryker I've got a woman, so that would have worked. But still, God bless you, Holly.

55:17🔗 Drew I love her very much.

55:18🔗 Stryker I love your attitude, your personality. God bless you. But do not hold it against yourself that he cannot ejaculate when you're doing that, okay?

55:27🔗 Adam That's not like I'm doing something wrong.

55:28🔗 Stryker Not at all.

55:29🔗 Stryker No.

55:30🔗 Stryker Not at all, okay?

55:31🔗 Stryker Holly, in general, I think you're way too preoccupied with the other person. You need to be a little more present yourself. If things aren't good for you, if you don't like it, if it doesn't feel good, you don't have to do everything for the other person, okay?

55:47🔗 Stryker Now, James.

55:49🔗 Drew Yes.

55:49🔗 Stryker That's your kind of woman if you were a woman, man, woman, right?

55:57🔗 Drew Can you be more obscure? Charity.

56:01🔗 Stryker You're 16.

56:03🔗 Stryker Hello.

56:04🔗 Stryker Hi. What's going on?

56:05🔗 Stryker Well, let me just say, I know you always hear these little, we love you type things, but I'm not going to single anybody out, but all of you guys are so awesome. I love this show. I don't know what I'd do without you guys. Seriously, I listen to it every night and I'm like, okay, I need that part of advice. So I just want to say thanks. Cool. Thanks. Okay. I'm probably one of the only virgins who have ever called this show, but I'm having a problem with that. There's this guy and about a year ago, I was with one guy and he seemed to be all great, perfect, blah, blah, blah. Even though he was with 12 other girls at the same time. So I kind of have bad.

56:43🔗 Stryker He sounds just perfect, Charity. What a swell dude.

56:48🔗 Stryker He was kind of a jerk.

56:49🔗 Drew But yeah, he was cute.

56:54🔗 Stryker No, actually he wasn't, but he was sweet. I went for the personality for once and he turned out to be a complete jerk. I don't know. I have this bad luck with guys.

57:03🔗 Stryker But no, luck has nothing to do with it.

57:05🔗 Stryker Really?

57:06🔗 Stryker It's your choices. Yeah, it's what your brain has turned whatever traumas you've been through into attraction. Now you're attracted to these guys that are abuse of a-holes.

57:17🔗 Stryker Yeah, I figured that one out.

57:19🔗 Stryker What happened to you?

57:21🔗 Stryker Well, he broke up with me.

57:22🔗 Stryker No, no, no. What happened to you that made you so attractive to victimizing guys?

57:28🔗 Stryker I don't know. I just like, for some reason, they come off to me as like perfect and then they're-

57:33🔗 Stryker Now, what happened to you early in the week? What happened to you? Have you traumatized in some way?

57:39🔗 Stryker Well, I have this depression problem. I'm really depressed all the time.

57:43🔗 Stryker Yeah.

57:44🔗 Stryker I feel like if I don't have a guy with me, then I'm just like totally going to break down because I always feel like I have to go to somebody. All right.

57:53🔗 Stryker Were you raised in an environment of substantial, of a serious chaos?

57:57🔗 Stryker My dad, he's German, so he has one of those tempers that when he gets mad, he like freaks.

58:04🔗 Stryker Did he hit you?

58:05🔗 Stryker Like long time ago. He hasn't done it for like six or seven years. Okay.

58:09🔗 Stryker When it really counts, when it really counts charity is a long time ago. That's when your brain is developing. That's when it has the most profound effect on you.

58:18🔗 Drew Did he hit you a lot then?

58:20🔗 Stryker Not very much, but enough to where I was scared of him most of my life.

58:25🔗 Stryker That's what is causing you to find these A-holes now.

58:29🔗 Stryker That becomes attraction once you hit puberty.

58:31🔗 Caller Really?

58:32🔗 Stryker You start looking, you're trying to make that right. That's your model for the person you love, is that physically abusive, abandoning dad.

58:42🔗 Drew You figure if you can make it work with that guy, you can fill the hole that you feel because you're dead.

58:49🔗 Caller That's crazy.

58:50🔗 Stryker See, I'm kind of in front of this guy now. But see, after that one guy broke up with me, I was single for a full year and for me that's a long time because usually before I was just dating everybody, go out with everybody, whatever. After him and I broke up, there were so many guys that liked me and whatnot. I was just like, no, I want somebody that's worth my time this time. I'm actually going to let them come to me. I met this guy and he was like so perfect. I knew his reputation, it wasn't bad. I knew a lot of the ex-girlfriends and whatnot. He just seemed perfect. I ran into him one night and we just hung out a little bit after that and he eventually started kissing. He would call me whenever he told me he'd call me, which is a rare thing for a guy to do that I know of.

59:41🔗 Stryker Thank you, Anderson.

59:44🔗 Stryker Where are we going with this, Charity?

59:45🔗 Stryker I give you five seconds to spit out a question or I'm going.

59:48🔗 Stryker Get to it.

59:49🔗 Stryker Come on, baby.

59:50🔗 Stryker After a while, he just left and then his friends said I can't get him back unless I had sex with him.

59:59🔗 Stryker You found another one, Charity. Good job.

1:00:00🔗 Stryker I know, but it's one of those I can't go on. I've been waiting here for a month just thinking about it.

1:00:08🔗 Stryker Charity, you're 16 and you're on edge to lose your virginity. You don't need to do it, especially with an imbecile like this dude.

1:00:15🔗 Drew Anybody who tells you have sex with me or else I won't do that, don't have sex and go find some nice guy.

1:00:20🔗 Stryker He has proven himself to be yet another one of these A-holes that you keep finding. He's an easy guy. He's a little lighter version of it. You're moving up the scale. Good. Let's get back out there and find somebody better.

1:00:31🔗 Stryker Definitely. We're moving on. Drew, I think this question is going to be for you. She's been waiting forever, so I'm grabbing her. Jenna, you're 21. What's going on?

1:00:38🔗 Stryker Hi, boys. How are you tonight?

1:00:40🔗 Stryker We're good.

1:00:41🔗 Stryker Good. You guys rock. I'm so happy. Yay. Okay. Let me give you a little medical history. I am polycystic. And Drew, you know what that is.

1:00:52🔗 Stryker What does that mean, Drew?

1:00:53🔗 Stryker It's this particular syndrome. Are you overweight, too?

1:00:57🔗 Stryker No.

1:00:57🔗 Stryker No, no, no. Do you have insulin resistance at all? Do you have blood sugar problems? No.

1:01:02🔗 Stryker I've never.

1:01:02🔗 Stryker I was diagnosed. Do you have, wait, wait, wait. Do you have polycystic ovarian syndrome or did you have an ovary with some cysts on it?

1:01:09🔗 Stryker They said I was polycystic, but I did have a, my right ovary had to be removed because I had like a baseball-sized like cystic tumoury thing on it. So I've been going to the doctor since I was nine for that. Got with this for a while.

1:01:23🔗 Stryker Was it a dermoid cyst?

1:01:26🔗 Stryker I don't know.

1:01:26🔗 Stryker All right, go ahead.

1:01:28🔗 Stryker So I had that removed when I was thirteen and recently oh I guess about in like January or February I started getting a lot of pain on my right hand side and especially during sex, like the first time it actually happened my boyfriend and I were having sex and all of a sudden I was just on the floor screaming and panting and like I want to be panting but I don't want to be screaming, you know what I'm saying? So it just was killing me and I thought it was just a muscle spasm, I went to my doctor right away, he didn't know what it was and we did all these tests because it kept happening and he found that there was scar tissue, because you can't see it through like an ultrasound or any of these tests, they had to go in there and they found that and they said it was supposed to get better and it hasn't. Like at first it did and now I keep having this and it's like I can't have a regular sex life without pain.

1:02:26🔗 Stryker Or convulsing.

1:02:27🔗 Stryker Or convulsing and like, you know.

1:02:30🔗 Stryker So what do you do about scar tissue? Can you get that removed, Drew?

1:02:33🔗 Stryker Well that's what they did when they did the laparoscopy, I'm sure, but it does tend to come back. And they treat you for an infection at all? Was that a concern?

1:02:42🔗 Stryker No, they didn't. I mean, I asked my doctor about it recently, too. I'm like, why is this happening again? And he's like, well, I don't know what to tell you. You're just going to have to, like, not do it as hard.

1:02:53🔗 Stryker Are you real active sexually?

1:02:56🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:02:56🔗 Stryker Is your boyfriend large?

1:02:58🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:03:00🔗 Stryker Well, he's a big boy, but like...

1:03:02🔗 Stryker I mean, he's giving you a clear direction, which is that you have an inflamed area there that tends to form scar tissue. You have to pay attention to it, just like if you had a leg injury and you insisted on going out and running every day. There are certain injuries that preclude your vigorous activity.

1:03:18🔗 Stryker Well, we've been, I mean, we've been very careful about it. And, you know, if I feel it hurting, you know, we'll stop or we'll like ease back. But it's like, well, am I ever going to get to the point where I'm not going to have to worry about it? Because I can't enjoy sex anymore.

1:03:33🔗 Stryker Because you're worried it's going to hurt?

1:03:34🔗 Stryker Yeah, well, yeah, I like hold it and like it's like gotten to me like emotionally now. I'm just afraid it's going to hurt. So it's like I'm not even...

1:03:42🔗 Stryker Do you have a sexual abuse history?

1:03:44🔗 Stryker No, not at all.

1:03:45🔗 Stryker Okay, then it should get better. I mean, that kind of thing shouldn't persist at that same level of intensity unless the scar tissue comes back, in which case you can go back in there and have it taken out again. They didn't see any endometriosis when they were in there?

1:03:59🔗 Stryker No, they checked for that, but they didn't see anything.

1:04:01🔗 Stryker Listen, pelvic pain is a very, very difficult problem. And it's hard to nail down sometimes. It's hard to know exactly what's causing it. The reason I ask about sexual abuse is that's a very, very common cause of unexplained pelvic pain. And sometimes it gets sort of triggered off by an organic cause, like if a real cause of the pain, then all of a sudden everything gets going and you're stuck with pain. But I would say it sounds like this is the kind of thing that should get better, but you're going to have to be very cautious with it. It may get stirred up very easily.

1:04:25🔗 Stryker I mean, he goes out of town a lot. So it's like we can't be that active all the time because he's not here.

1:04:31🔗 Stryker So we'll just mellow it out, Jenna. Okay.

1:04:34🔗 Stryker It's hard to, you know.

1:04:36🔗 Stryker I know. Well, maybe you can just how about the oral thing? Why doesn't he just start doing oral for a while?

1:04:41🔗 Stryker I know, but okay.

1:04:43🔗 Stryker All right.

1:04:44🔗 Stryker Stryker, the pragmatist.

1:04:45🔗 Stryker That's right.

1:04:46🔗 Drew Really, man?

1:04:47🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:04:48🔗 Drew Fingers in the oral, man. It can work nice.

1:04:51🔗 Stryker All right, Jenna. You have a great personality, by the way.

1:04:53🔗 Stryker Oh, thank you. I have one other little tiny question.

1:04:55🔗 Stryker Ah, get to it.

1:04:56🔗 Stryker I'm sorry.

1:04:57🔗 Adam Sorry.

1:04:58🔗 Stryker Since I do only have one ovary, and I know that it's not supposed to, like, have a problem with bearing children and everything, but since I do have polycystic disease and I was put on birth control to, like, help that, when I get off the birth control, are the cysts just going to come back? Because if I'm trying to have kids and cysts keep growing on.

1:05:16🔗 Stryker I have to tell you, that whole diagnosis of polycystic ovarian disease is questionable to me. I think you may just be somebody that forms follicular cysts and that will not impair fertility. And whether it's PCO or just simple cysts, they do tend to come back.

1:05:32🔗 Stryker See, James, when calls come in about that, we just kind of, at least I just kind of lay low, maybe jump in now and then, Drew does his thing, when we get calls about the penis falling off, that's when we can jump in and screw around for a while. Yeah, I can joke about that, yeah. Exactly. All right, Jean.

1:05:44🔗 Stryker Yes.

1:05:44🔗 Stryker What's up? You're 24 on Loveline. James Marsters is here, you guys, from Buffy, which is on the UPN now, Tuesdays. Go ahead, Jean.

1:05:51🔗 Stryker Hey James, hey Stryker, how are you guys?

1:05:53🔗 Stryker What's up?

1:05:53🔗 Drew Doing good.

1:05:54🔗 Stryker Don't want to leave you guys out, but this question is mainly for Dr. Drew.

1:05:57🔗 Stryker Cool.

1:05:59🔗 Stryker Over the past couple weeks, I've sort of come to the realization that I'm not attracted to men, but same token, I'm not attracted to women.

1:06:08🔗 Stryker Morrissey.

1:06:12🔗 Stryker From the Smiths.

1:06:13🔗 Drew The Smiths and later from Morrissey.

1:06:15🔗 Stryker Right.

1:06:17🔗 Stryker He was, what did they call him?

1:06:18🔗 Stryker Oh, I feel so sorry for myself.

1:06:24🔗 Stryker Very good. He's a her, him, he didn't like anything.

1:06:26🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:06:28🔗 Stryker Sorry, Jean, go ahead.

1:06:29🔗 Stryker Okay.

1:06:29🔗 Stryker Don't mind us.

1:06:30🔗 Stryker I love cricket penises. What else going on, Jean? There's a lot more here. What else? Come on, what else?

1:06:35🔗 Stryker Really, I don't think there's-

1:06:38🔗 Stryker Well, you sound depressed for starters.

1:06:40🔗 Stryker Well, I mean, I'm on Prozac.

1:06:43🔗 Stryker Okay. Well, that can take away your sex drive profoundly.

1:06:46🔗 Stryker No, I know it can because I was on it when I was in high school. So I know that's one of the side effects, but it never went to the point where I just-

1:06:54🔗 Stryker What kind of doctor put you on the Prozac?

1:06:57🔗 Stryker Just my physician.

1:06:59🔗 Stryker They didn't suggest you see a psychologist or a psychiatrist?

1:07:01🔗 Stryker No.

1:07:02🔗 Stryker Maybe that wouldn't be a bad idea because sometimes, while internists or general doctors are certainly capable of prescribing and monitoring medication, they are not the best at making firm or clear diagnoses about mental health. Maybe there are other things that can be done here to really help you be beyond the antidepressant medication. By the way, you still sound depressed in spite of being on Prozac.

1:07:25🔗 Stryker Okay.

1:07:26🔗 Stryker So there's depression, there's probably better management. Secondly, there seems to be something more than just depression going on here that's being undelt with.

1:07:34🔗 Stryker Okay.

1:07:34🔗 Stryker Right?

1:07:36🔗 Stryker I don't know.

1:07:37🔗 Stryker I mean, you're having trouble. I don't think there's anything else. Well, you're having trouble with your interpersonal life.

1:07:42🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:07:43🔗 Stryker You're empty.

1:07:45🔗 Stryker Yeah. I mean, I don't have a ton of close relationships with people. As I've gotten older, I've gotten closer with my family, but I don't have a lot. I don't have tons of friends. I'm realizing that you don't have very many friends in life. You have lots of acquaintances.

1:08:01🔗 Stryker That's an odd outlook to me, Jean.

1:08:04🔗 Stryker Well, I personally don't find a lot of people I would consider friends.

1:08:11🔗 Stryker What about growing up?

1:08:12🔗 Stryker I'm going to go back to my original question. What else is going on here, Jean? There's got to be a ton here. What's up?

1:08:16🔗 Stryker I don't know. I mean, I went back to school, which I was really happy about.

1:08:21🔗 Stryker Why did you leave school?

1:08:22🔗 Stryker Why? I relocated from California to Arizona. So at first, it was my stepdad's job.

1:08:30🔗 Stryker Your stepdad?

1:08:31🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:08:32🔗 Stryker You're 24 years old. Why are you with your stepdad?

1:08:35🔗 Stryker This was back when I was 18. I was still living at home with my parents when I relocated to Arizona. So at first, it was just-

1:08:42🔗 Stryker Wait, I relocated to Arizona. Your family moved to Arizona?

1:08:46🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:08:47🔗 Stryker Okay. I relocated.

1:08:50🔗 Stryker Sorry. My family moved to Arizona, so I came out here. So at first, it was a matter of waiting till I wouldn't have to pay out of-

1:08:58🔗 Stryker Where was your biological dad?

1:09:00🔗 Stryker He lives in San Diego.

1:09:01🔗 Stryker What's his deal?

1:09:03🔗 Stryker We've had an off and on relationship, but I'm really trying to repair that now.

1:09:08🔗 Stryker How old were you when he took off?

1:09:12🔗 Stryker My parents divorced when I was four, and my mom and stepdad had been married for about 18 years. I mean, my stepdad's awesome. So it's not like I didn't have a male figure in my life.

1:09:23🔗 Stryker What happened to your dad? What was his deal?

1:09:25🔗 Stryker He had drug and alcohol problems, so-

1:09:27🔗 Stryker All right.

1:09:28🔗 Stryker There you go.

1:09:29🔗 Stryker All right. So it's a big deal. It's a big deal, Gene. And no one's helping you deal with that. It's a big deal. And by the way, is he in recovery right now?

1:09:39🔗 Stryker He actually has been sober for two years. He got remarried about two years ago. He's been completely sober. He's really made a huge turn in his life, which I have a lot of respect for.

1:09:50🔗 Stryker That's good. And that's great. And I certainly wouldn't be a part of his life unless he was in recovery.

1:09:55🔗 Stryker Right.

1:09:55🔗 Stryker But without you going to Al-Anon, it could be a pretty confusing experience for you, I think, even still.

1:10:00🔗 Stryker All right. So go to Al-Anon. Drew, we have to take a break here.

1:10:02🔗 Stryker All right.

1:10:03🔗 Stryker Do you want to wrap up that call since you did want to speak to you?

1:10:05🔗 Stryker That's it.

1:10:06🔗 Stryker Go to Al-Anon and they'll help you out here.

1:10:08🔗 Stryker All right.

1:10:09🔗 Drew Jesus.

1:10:10🔗 Stryker Two really wonderful calls in a row there. James is here. He plays Spike over on the Buffy TV show which is awesome. Fifth year?

1:10:18🔗 Drew Yeah. As they say in the English theater, attempting the role.

1:10:20🔗 Stryker Attempting the role and you're doing just fine at it.

1:10:22🔗 Drew Yeah.

1:10:23🔗 Stryker You and I will fight with the sword outside. And not in the bathroom. I'm Stryker in for Adam Corolla. More Loveline coming up.

1:10:28🔗 Caller Loveline, Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191.

1:11:04🔗 Stryker You know the song James?

1:11:05🔗 Caller No, I don't.

1:11:05🔗 Stryker Welcome back you guys. This is Loveline. James Marsters is here from the show Buffy the Vampire Slayer. How did you get the role?

1:11:14🔗 Drew They were scraping the bottom of the barrel. They had looked at a lot of big names and didn't find anybody that could do an English accent. And I just lucked out.

1:11:22🔗 Stryker Do you do other accents like Australia, like the croc hunter?

1:11:25🔗 Drew Yeah, I do basically any accent that you could pay me for. You're going to my PECA.

1:11:30🔗 Stryker What?

1:11:32🔗 Stryker My questions are going to my PECA.

1:11:36🔗 Stryker Look at the size of the diamond pick.

1:11:39🔗 Stryker It's huge.

1:11:41🔗 Drew Scarlett Johans, the bacon.

1:11:44🔗 Stryker What's the vibe like on the set of Buffy? Everyone get along pretty well. Everyone's cool.

1:11:48🔗 Drew Really well. The great thing is that Sarah is a complete professional and really nice to everybody, so nobody can be an ass. Right. Nobody can get away with any bad behavior because she shows up on time with her lines down. She's always nice. She's a complete professional.

1:12:03🔗 Stryker And she is the star of the show.

1:12:05🔗 Drew So if she was being a diva, then the rest of the cast could get away with being a little bit of a diva, but because she's not, there's a cap on all that. So it's very cool. What about film?

1:12:15🔗 Stryker Do you have anything that you want to... I mean, you've done a couple movies.

1:12:20🔗 Drew They wanted to put me... There was serious talk of putting me as a major villain in a new big, like $140 movie, man.

1:12:28🔗 Stryker $140 million movie?

1:12:29🔗 Drew Yeah.

1:12:30🔗 Stryker Like Freddy Krueger Part 9 or something bigger than that?

1:12:34🔗 Drew Big special effect movie. They want me to do the...

1:12:35🔗 Stryker And is that a lock? Is that in? Is that done?

1:12:37🔗 Drew Well, it's kind of a lock, except they're not gonna let me out for it.

1:12:40🔗 Stryker Buffy's not gonna let you out to do this?

1:12:42🔗 Drew Well, you know, I'm working for them. Would you let me out if I worked for you?

1:12:48🔗 Stryker Yes, it would help promote everything.

1:12:51🔗 Drew It throws an absolute wrench into the production schedule. It's a headache they don't want.

1:12:55🔗 Stryker Can't you film the movie during hiatus? Can't the $150 million movie? No, they're not gonna do it.

1:13:01🔗 Drew Will the $150 million to $100 million movie wait for me?

1:13:05🔗 Stryker Well, to that movie company, this is Stryker, I will be happy to take the role. I can get the hell out of my radio deal.

1:13:10🔗 Drew I can dye my hair.

1:13:12🔗 Stryker My hair was almost as blonde as yours a couple weeks ago, but spiky, they cut it all off today.

1:13:17🔗 Drew Dude, hurts, doesn't it?

1:13:18🔗 Stryker I feel bad, and the guy, he's like...

1:13:20🔗 Drew No, no, because the bleaching hurts.

1:13:22🔗 Stryker Oh, I like it. I like it, because you can get them spiky.

1:13:24🔗 Drew Well, we should talk about that.

1:13:25🔗 Stryker Get it better.

1:13:25🔗 Stryker It feels good. It's good stuff.

1:13:27🔗 Drew Good pain.

1:13:28🔗 Stryker All right, let's...

1:13:29🔗 Stryker Let's talk to Jessica, she's chaos queen here.

1:13:31🔗 Stryker Yeah, we got her hooked up. Jessica, you're 21, chaos queen. What's going on?

1:13:35🔗 Stryker I need a little advice on a problem I have.

1:13:37🔗 Stryker Yeah?

1:13:38🔗 Stryker For the past two years, my husband has been incarcerated. And about a year ago, I got into a relationship with a girl and she moved in with me.

1:13:46🔗 Stryker Right.

1:13:47🔗 Stryker But the problem is, my husband gets out in November and I don't know how to tell this girl that it's time to go.

1:13:54🔗 Stryker What is your husband locked up for?

1:13:59🔗 Stryker Hold on, the Loveline answer is parole violation.

1:14:01🔗 Stryker No, it was his first offense.

1:14:03🔗 Stryker It's mopery. You know what mopery is, Drew?

1:14:06🔗 Stryker What's that?

1:14:07🔗 Stryker Exposing yourself to a blind person.

1:14:09🔗 Stryker Good times. Jessica, how old is this girl?

1:14:13🔗 Caller She's 23.

1:14:15🔗 Drew Are you romantically involved with her?

1:14:18🔗 Stryker Well, for the past one month, no. Because about five months ago, I broke up with her and she tried to overdose on sleeping pills. And I took her to the hospital, they pumped her stomach and every time I tried to leave her, she talks that she's going to kill herself.

1:14:31🔗 Stryker Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy.

1:14:34🔗 Drew Not manipulative at all.

1:14:37🔗 Stryker I mean, she doesn't want to leave.

1:14:39🔗 Stryker Have you told your husband about this?

1:14:40🔗 Stryker Well, my husband knows.

1:14:42🔗 Stryker Yeah. Maybe you could enlist his help to manage this.

1:14:46🔗 Stryker Oh, Drew, come on. He's going to come home, he's going to do something, get thrown right back in the slammer.

1:14:50🔗 Drew He's going to kick her ass. Yeah. It's going to happen.

1:14:52🔗 Stryker Are you kidding? This a-hole is going to go for a threesome.

1:14:55🔗 Stryker Well, it's not like if he's never done it.

1:14:58🔗 Stryker See what I'm saying, guys?

1:14:59🔗 Drew Well, yeah, threes company.

1:15:01🔗 Stryker He and his girl don't like each other.

1:15:03🔗 Stryker Oh, bad.

1:15:05🔗 Caller Okay.

1:15:06🔗 Stryker Because I left, well, she used to be the first girl I was with, and I left her for him. But when he got locked up, I got back with her. And they never liked me.

1:15:16🔗 Stryker Jessica, what is up with your life? Don't you ever wonder that?

1:15:20🔗 Stryker How many kids do you have?

1:15:22🔗 Stryker Well, me? None.

1:15:23🔗 Stryker I love you, Jessica. You're great. Do you, are you sterile? Do you use birth control? What do you do?

1:15:31🔗 Stryker I'm not ready for kids.

1:15:32🔗 Stryker But how do you prevent it from happening?

1:15:34🔗 Stryker She's with a woman, and the woman does not have a wiener.

1:15:37🔗 Stryker Thank you. Thank you, Stryker, for clarifying that.

1:15:40🔗 Stryker Who's the doctor around here, Sacramento boy?

1:15:44🔗 Drew But thank God for Dr. Drew.

1:15:46🔗 Stryker But I don't understand how you avoid pregnancy and all this chaos.

1:15:49🔗 Stryker And I've been with him for about six years.

1:15:52🔗 Stryker Right. So what are you doing for contraception?

1:15:55🔗 Stryker The shot.

1:15:57🔗 Stryker Cool. You're on Depo Provera show.

1:15:59🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:16:00🔗 Stryker Okay.

1:16:00🔗 Stryker All right, Jessica.

1:16:02🔗 Stryker Keep getting that shot, please.

1:16:03🔗 Stryker Yeah. Keep taking the shot. Who do you like more, the husband or the woman?

1:16:09🔗 Stryker My husband.

1:16:09🔗 Stryker All right. Well, then just bite the bullet and tell her to get out. If she does something bad, she does it. If not.

1:16:15🔗 Drew Yeah, you are not responsible for her. If she decides to hurt herself, that is not your fault.

1:16:21🔗 Stryker It's not your responsibility. Listen, Jessica, you don't want to be cruel. But if she threatens anything, you call the police. Yeah, call 911. That's the appropriate response. If she threatens to kill herself, you call the police.

1:16:32🔗 Stryker She left for about a week.

1:16:33🔗 Stryker She went to my mom's house. What? And she had my mom calling me and she was crying.

1:16:39🔗 Stryker And I mean, okay, here, I have it. Move from where you are and don't tell her where you moved to.

1:16:47🔗 Drew That's a good one. You know, or if she tries to hop herself, you know, call 911 and there will be a psychiatrist that will be given to.

1:16:55🔗 Stryker Yeah. Yeah. She needs help, Jessica.

1:16:57🔗 Stryker She needs to be on her side.

1:16:59🔗 Stryker I said the East police will come.

1:17:01🔗 Stryker She has my family on her side. My family doesn't like my husband. If I were to leave and my family knows, they would tell her where I'm at. They want me to be with her.

1:17:11🔗 Stryker This is worse than any Ricky Lake, for god sakes.

1:17:13🔗 Stryker They want me to be with her, but I don't want her.

1:17:16🔗 Drew Well, then tell your family you live in a post office box and they can mail you there and then live your life if you want to get away from this person. But really, if she's getting you to stay with her by scaring you that she's going to hurt herself, don't let that work. Don't let her beat you with that.

1:17:36🔗 Stryker Because my mom told me, she goes, if you stay with him, I'm not talking to you no more. But if you stay with her, she goes, if you want somewhere to live, I'll get you a place, I'll pay your rent, I'll get you a car. She just wants me to stay with her.

1:17:49🔗 Drew Parents will always come back. Parents will always come back.

1:17:51🔗 Stryker Just with this brief brush I've had with your description of your mom, I think it might be a blessing if she never talked to you again. So let's get on with things.

1:17:59🔗 Stryker For the two years that me and that other girl broke up, my mom didn't talk to me. But when I got back with the other girl.

1:18:04🔗 Drew Exactly.

1:18:04🔗 Stryker Jessica, Jessica, did you just hear what Dr. Drew said 20 seconds ago?

1:18:08🔗 Stryker Where are we going to go with this, guys?

1:18:10🔗 Stryker Here, let me say something and you guys just back me up and we'll move on. You're 21. Do you work?

1:18:19🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:18:20🔗 Stryker Use that money. Get your own apartment.

1:18:22🔗 Stryker I have my own place. I'm buying this house.

1:18:25🔗 Stryker Get a different place.

1:18:26🔗 Stryker Get away from everybody.

1:18:27🔗 Stryker That's great advice.

1:18:28🔗 Stryker Let this psychotic woman hang out with your mom. Don't deal with your mom. She's psychotic also.

1:18:33🔗 Stryker Take that Depo-Provera shot, Jessica, for Christ's sake. Don't get pregnant.

1:18:37🔗 Stryker My mom is psychotic. She was in prison for seven years for trying to kill my dad.

1:18:40🔗 Drew Please yourself.

1:18:42🔗 Stryker There you go.

1:18:42🔗 Drew Please yourself.

1:18:43🔗 Stryker There you go. This mom does not disappoint.

1:18:45🔗 Stryker We gave 86 options. Choose one. Use your money. Get another place and let this psychotic girl go to your mom. You think so, Drew?

1:18:52🔗 Stryker Was I not right?

1:18:52🔗 Stryker You were right on.

1:18:53🔗 Drew Call your own shots. Decide who you want to be with and be with that person. Don't let anybody else tell you what to do with that.

1:18:59🔗 Stryker Was I not right for calling her the chaos queen?

1:19:01🔗 Stryker You're right on, homeboy. Why are you choosing five, Drew?

1:19:05🔗 Stryker Because he's been on call for an hour.

1:19:07🔗 Stryker I know, and I chose two people before the break and it was like strangling myself.

1:19:12🔗 Stryker Put him on hold, then.

1:19:13🔗 Stryker Hold on one second, William.

1:19:14🔗 Stryker It's also a quick one, it's an easy one.

1:19:16🔗 Stryker Jim.

1:19:17🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:19:17🔗 Stryker What's up, man?

1:19:19🔗 Caller All right.

1:19:20🔗 Stryker I have a question. This one, maybe all you guys can feel this one. I listen to you guys' show all the time.

1:19:28🔗 Stryker You what? I'm sorry, I didn't hear what you said.

1:19:30🔗 Stryker I listen to the show all the time. And people got the same type of issue, at least guys have the same issue, saying that they're not sure if they're bifectual or not. And every time someone says it, you guys say for sure that they're gay. If you have any bifectual dependencies, they're gay. Right? That's kind of a feeling that I get.

1:19:48🔗 Stryker You're gay. No, that's Adam's thing.

1:19:52🔗 Drew No.

1:19:53🔗 Stryker There are several-

1:19:54🔗 Drew Kurt Cobain said that everyone is gay. Right.

1:19:58🔗 Stryker That's actually true. But there are multiple different kinds of- That we all have. If you really study the anthropology and the development of this, we all go through periods of development where we have bisexual or homosexual kinds of experiences or feelings. But be that as it may, Jim, there's several different sort of issues here. One is someone who is transitioning from heterosexual to gay, struggling with that and sort of trying to kind of turn to that. There are, number two, people who are sexually confused, people who are sexually abused when they were a kid and just their radar is off. They can't figure out what the hell they are or they have other kinds of psychiatric disturbances that make it impossible for them to develop a mature sexual identity. And there are people that are bisexual, which is relatively uncommon, but there is such a thing that they're a mature bisexual, not confused, that is their sexual orientation. But our point with the bisexuality is it's sort of a technicality because if you are, let's say you're bisexual, Jim, but you're with a male, what the hell is the difference that makes you bisexual or not? You're homosexual now, you're in a committed relationship, you're gay. Or if you're with a girl, you're heterosexual. Who cares whether you're bisexual? You're in a committed relationship.

1:21:09🔗 Stryker That happens to me. That's the thing, is that I can never see myself ever emotionally attach myself to a guy just because that's, you know, I think I could look at it just like how you guys would too. It just doesn't seem right at all.

1:21:21🔗 Drew See, that's the hardest thing about being gay is really admitting that you are, and you're going to have to bite the bullet of undergoing the ostracization and society telling you suck because you're gay. Nobody really wants to be gay. They always have to face up to it and say, you know what, I'm gay and I have to tell everybody. And they have to be pulled to the realization of it and admitting it.

1:21:43🔗 Stryker But gay is a lifestyle commitment. And Jim, I wonder if what you're describing is sort of a fetish.

1:21:51🔗 Stryker You know, I think that's like the weirdest thing.

1:21:54🔗 Stryker You said it gay right there the way you just said that, by the way. Jim, how many guys have you been with?

1:22:02🔗 Stryker What's that?

1:22:02🔗 Stryker How many different guys have you been with?

1:22:05🔗 Stryker Being by been with is just by actually kissing.

1:22:07🔗 Stryker I've never done anything more than that.

1:22:08🔗 Stryker How many women have you had sex with?

1:22:13🔗 Stryker Like 17, 18.

1:22:16🔗 Stryker Divided by three. So you've been with six women.

1:22:18🔗 Stryker No, I heard you guys talking about that one. No, that's the truth.

1:22:21🔗 Stryker So Jim, do you think the guy think it would be just sort of a fetish, a little bit of a pre-option?

1:22:25🔗 Stryker That's honestly and that's what I think it is.

1:22:27🔗 Stryker I think so.

1:22:27🔗 Stryker Yeah, that's what I think too. That's what I think. I think you have a little bit of a sexual compulsive in you. And part of that sort of bleeds into this fetishist. Do you have other fetishes too?

1:22:38🔗 Stryker No. Just guys.

1:22:43🔗 Stryker Do you ever cross-dress or anything like that?

1:22:46🔗 Stryker Nobody wears his mom's panties.

1:22:47🔗 Stryker Yeah. No, I mean, as much as I could say this, but I'm completely normal. You would have...

1:22:54🔗 Stryker There you go.

1:22:54🔗 Stryker Wait, Jim, I have something just hit me here.

1:22:57🔗 Stryker What?

1:22:57🔗 Stryker If I was going to be gay, I would be in it to have my wiener touched, or for me to do something to him, not for the kissing of the guy. That seems weird that you've only kissed, because that seems to me...

1:23:11🔗 Stryker More intimate. Yeah, not nearly as focused, Stryker, as you would be having your wiener touched.

1:23:16🔗 Stryker That's right. No, seriously, Drew.

1:23:17🔗 Drew Usually it's the girls putting them on the brakes anyway. I always start with two guys getting together, you know.

1:23:22🔗 Stryker That's why I think it's just the total opposite. I guess maybe my whole look on it, because I've got a friend who's gay, and he's been trying to tell me whatever, and I just don't agree with anything he says. I'm struggling with my sexuality, and I really don't think so. That's why I look at kissing as like... When it happened, it happened several times, and I was drinking, and I'm not going to use that as a crutch or an excuse. So I just look at it like maybe that's why I think I agree with you, Drew, is that maybe it's just...

1:23:51🔗 Stryker Fetish.

1:23:52🔗 Stryker Fetish.

1:23:53🔗 Stryker All right, Jim. Well, you sound fine, except for the making out with men and the AT girls.

1:23:57🔗 Stryker And I haven't done it, so I haven't done it in a while, so maybe it just was complicated.

1:24:00🔗 Stryker Jim, good times. Relax.

1:24:03🔗 Stryker Have fun in the LBC, dude.

1:24:05🔗 Stryker Have a good time.

1:24:05🔗 Caller All right.

1:24:06🔗 Stryker Take care.

1:24:07🔗 Stryker All right.

1:24:08🔗 Caller This is Loveline.

1:24:09🔗 Stryker I have sex with my brother.

1:24:12🔗 Stryker Good for you, Jim.

1:24:13🔗 Drew I didn't say that.

1:24:14🔗 Stryker No, you didn't say that, James. I was calling you Jim. I was calling- do you like to be called James, all right?

1:24:19🔗 Drew Yeah. Yeah.

1:24:20🔗 Stryker What about Sir?

1:24:21🔗 Stryker No. Sir James.

1:24:24🔗 Stryker All right. If you guys watch Buffy, the man that plays Spike is in the room with me. And I said at the top of the show, I saw him on Killborn a couple of years ago. And you're really the only person I know from the show, not personally, but know as a character because I've never seen the show because I'm on the radio on it.

1:24:37🔗 Drew I know.

1:24:38🔗 Stryker You have a life.

1:24:38🔗 Drew You don't watch television.

1:24:39🔗 Stryker That's good. Actually, I watch it in the morning when I get up.

1:24:41🔗 Drew Good.

1:24:42🔗 Stryker Spice Channel never hurt anybody. Dr. Drew is.

1:24:45🔗 Drew If you watch the show, it's surprisingly good.

1:24:47🔗 Stryker Of course it is.

1:24:48🔗 Drew The name Buffy the Vampire Slayer, my boss is daring you not to be cool enough to check it out because it has such a freaky name. It's got a nerdy name for a reason. I swear to God.

1:24:58🔗 Stryker Is Luke Perry still in it? I'm just kidding. I know. I'm just kidding. Now he's riding the bull on Oz, isn't he?

1:25:05🔗 Drew Yes, he is.

1:25:05🔗 Stryker You should be on Oz. You'd be good on Oz.

1:25:07🔗 Drew Thank you.

1:25:07🔗 Stryker You and Luke could pump each other.

1:25:09🔗 Drew I have to undergo on Oz though.

1:25:10🔗 Stryker Yeah, of course. We got about 20 minutes left at Loveline. If you want to speak to James Marsters from Buffy, you can call us here at Loveline. Hold on.

1:25:19🔗 Caller Loveline, 1-800-LOVE-191.

1:25:52🔗 Stryker We are back, it is Loveline, and the song in the background right here is from Puddle of Mud. And Wesley, the lead singer, it's odd you're hearing this in the background, James from Buffy and I were just talking about Nirvana a whole bunch, and you were in Seattle when Kurt Cobain committed suicide. I think the lead singer of that band has Kurt Cobain-esque voice. Not necessarily in that song we were just hearing, but if you listen to the album, you should check it out.

1:26:16🔗 Stryker It's very similar.

1:26:17🔗 Drew Whenever I sing Come As You Are, it's hard not to go there. You're trying to do it your own way, but it just sounds better when you try to sound like Kurt.

1:26:25🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:26:26🔗 Stryker Definitely. Nirvana, as we talked about earlier, one of your favorite bands like Ab, Mike, Mime.

1:26:30🔗 Drew Absolutely just seminal, man. Just absolutely rewrote everything than the other Beatles.

1:26:36🔗 Stryker Definitely.

1:26:36🔗 Drew Completely notched everything.

1:26:38🔗 Stryker If not for Nirvana, we'd still be listening to Poison.

1:26:41🔗 Stryker Yes. Thank you. Thank you.

1:26:43🔗 Drew Big Hair would still be here.

1:26:44🔗 Stryker That's right. What's your favorite Nirvana song of all time? If there is one, that's very hard. Even if they didn't write it, like on that unplugged CD. So many good ones.

1:26:54🔗 Stryker I'm so happy, cause today I found my friends. Very good.

1:27:00🔗 Caller And I had, I'm so ugly, that's okay, cause so are you.

1:27:06🔗 Caller Yeah!

1:27:07🔗 Stryker Sorry.

1:27:08🔗 Stryker Very good, James. Singing along here. Good stuff, huh, Drew?

1:27:12🔗 Drew Oh, great. Times are wasting.

1:27:14🔗 Stryker Oh my god. Drew, you're still there, aren't you?

1:27:16🔗 Stryker I'm here.

1:27:16🔗 Stryker All right, let's grab a couple quick calls here before we have to get the hell out of here. Renee, you're 18. Question for Drew, real quick.

1:27:23🔗 Stryker My question is, how exactly, what are all the possible ways of chlamydia being transferred to another person?

1:27:28🔗 Stryker What do you mean all the possible? Can you get it from oral sex? Is that the question?

1:27:32🔗 Stryker Yeah, well cause on-

1:27:33🔗 Stryker Yes.

1:27:33🔗 Stryker We, okay, and also here on the computer, it says that contact with the genitals, mouth, or rectal area.

1:27:40🔗 Stryker Yes, any mucosal service. You get it in the eye too, you can't.

1:27:46🔗 Stryker It's from mouth to genital, right?

1:27:48🔗 Stryker Not mouth to mouth?

1:27:51🔗 Stryker Good question. I've never heard of mouth to mouth, but I imagine it could happen.

1:27:55🔗 Stryker Okay.

1:27:56🔗 Stryker Well, how would you have it in your, wait.

1:27:58🔗 Stryker Your throat, it gets in your throat.

1:27:58🔗 Stryker Oh, okay, in your throat. Okay, got it.

1:28:00🔗 Stryker I've never heard of that though.

1:28:01🔗 Stryker Do you know someone that's got it, and you're afraid of getting it?

1:28:05🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:28:06🔗 Stryker Do you think you have symptoms of it? Is that why you're asking?

1:28:09🔗 Stryker Well, I've had, I've been sexual with the guy that has it.

1:28:15🔗 Caller Stinking whore.

1:28:18🔗 Stryker And he's been sexual with a couple of our friends, too. So we have a big chlamydia tree going on here.

1:28:26🔗 Stryker Fabulous.

1:28:27🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:28:28🔗 Stryker Get your azithromax, one dose, one gram.

1:28:32🔗 Stryker We're all going to Planned Parenthood tomorrow.

1:28:34🔗 Drew Good.

1:28:34🔗 Stryker Get the one dose, and you're done, right, Drew? Is that it?

1:28:36🔗 Stryker You're done with it? It's a one dose now.

1:28:38🔗 Stryker Drew, what are some of the STDs that stick with you for life, like warts, right?

1:28:43🔗 Stryker Warts actually may burn out after a few years. A certain percentage of the wort viruses actually go away. The ones that persist are the ones more likely to be associated with the cancers, the cervical cancers, that kind of thing. Herpes is with you for good. HIV is with you for good. Hepatitis C, Hepatitis B can be with you for good.

1:28:58🔗 Stryker But chlamydia, if you take that pill, you can knock it out of you, is that right?

1:29:02🔗 Stryker The chlamydia gonorrhea, non-gonococcal infections, these have become sort of quaint sexually transmitted diseases by comparison with what else is out there.

1:29:10🔗 Drew Yeah, but the big one is get to Planned Parenthood. They're good people, they'll treat you well, and they will not spill your stuff around. And they pass out mints at the door. Yeah, and they're not that expensive, guys. They go by what you earn, so if you don't earn that much, they won't charge you that much. So go.

1:29:28🔗 Stryker Excellent. Crystal?

1:29:30🔗 Adam Hi.

1:29:30🔗 Stryker Hi, you're 16 on Loveline with James Marsters from Buffy, The Vampire Slayer.

1:29:35🔗 Adam Yeah, who is very hot, I might add.

1:29:37🔗 Stryker Thank you, love. Ow!

1:29:41🔗 Adam But yeah, I have kind of a problem. My boyfriend is leaving to the military kind of thing.

1:29:48🔗 Stryker How old is he? You're 16.

1:29:50🔗 Adam Yeah, he's going to be 19, or yeah.

1:29:53🔗 Stryker Unacceptable.

1:29:54🔗 Stryker Is he going to boot camp?

1:29:55🔗 Adam Yeah. And while he's there, he says he like doesn't want to write, talk, anything. Like after he leaves, he says he like wants nothing to do with me, like supposedly for my own good.

1:30:08🔗 Stryker Are you in love with this guy?

1:30:09🔗 Stryker He's kind of right.

1:30:10🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:30:11🔗 Adam Well, yeah, but like, okay, I've been with him for like over a year now.

1:30:15🔗 Stryker Crystal?

1:30:16🔗 Adam Yeah.

1:30:17🔗 Stryker I'm no genius, but you're only 16. This guy's taken off. He is 19. You have two more years of high school, I assume. So many guys are going to be in your school. He's going to boot camp, and when he comes back, he will be such a different person, it will make your head spin.

1:30:29🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:30:30🔗 Adam Oh, I know, but like, I figure if we like still keep in contact while he's in boot camp, it wouldn't be that much of a shock if he comes back.

1:30:38🔗 Stryker No. Does he have to go on a tour? Does he have to go away for a while, even after the basic training?

1:30:43🔗 Adam Yeah.

1:30:44🔗 Stryker How long has he been gone for?

1:30:46🔗 Adam He'll probably at the very most be gone for two years, but he's in for like five, and he's thinking...

1:30:50🔗 Stryker All right, Crystal.

1:30:51🔗 Drew Two years?

1:30:52🔗 Stryker Wait, two years?

1:30:53🔗 Stryker By the time he comes back, you should be going to some college.

1:30:55🔗 Drew You should have been through five to six boyfriends by that time.

1:30:57🔗 Stryker He is being so considerate. He really is, as opposed to leaving you clinging together. He's being realistic. He's breaking it off.

1:31:05🔗 Adam No, he's not breaking it off, though. He's saying as soon as he leaves, he doesn't want to have anything to do with me, but while he's here, he wants to like do me, you know?

1:31:12🔗 Stryker He wants to have sex, of course. He's a guy, after all.

1:31:15🔗 Stryker He's male. I do the same thing.

1:31:18🔗 Stryker Just because he wants to have physical relationship while he's still in your physical presence doesn't mean he doesn't want to break it off when he's gone.

1:31:25🔗 Adam I know, but isn't that like jerky?

1:31:27🔗 Stryker Yes, it is.

1:31:28🔗 Stryker All guys are. They want the punani.

1:31:30🔗 Stryker Yeah.

1:31:31🔗 Adam Oh, I understand that, but I'm not saying that I don't want him either, you know?

1:31:35🔗 Stryker Right.

1:31:35🔗 Stryker Yeah, well, make a decision, though. Maybe it'd be better for you to end it up sooner. That's not a bad thing. I think he's being very considerate.

1:31:41🔗 Stryker Me too.

1:31:41🔗 Drew Yeah, it's very painful, but the other choice is even worse.

1:31:45🔗 Adam Yeah, well, I don't know, because, I don't know, he's just like really weird, and he comes up with like all these like weird odd ideas for like things to be, like things have to be his way or the highway, and it's just really bad and...

1:31:59🔗 Stryker Well, perfect. Now is the chance for you to get the hell out of this. When he leaves, he's breaking it off, he's doing the right thing. If you don't want to, if you're pissed that he wants to have sex with you before he's leaving, deny him. Deny him. He'll send you flowers then, you know, then maybe you give in, I guess. All right, let's try to squeeze in... Anderson, how much time... When we got... Let's grab one more. Drew, you can pick this last one. Go ahead.

1:32:21🔗 Stryker Well, I can't get it up now. I mean, I can't...

1:32:25🔗 Stryker Go out on that. Yeah, we're going out on that.

1:32:27🔗 Stryker Put that on a loop, huh?

1:32:28🔗 Stryker He's already got it. He's way ahead.

1:32:29🔗 Stryker There we go.

1:32:31🔗 Stryker All right, William.

1:32:32🔗 Stryker Yes, how you doing?

1:32:32🔗 Stryker All right, let's make this one kind of quick if you can. You're 19. Thanks for waiting.

1:32:36🔗 Stryker No problem. I just have a good question. For the past three months, I have been... I'll be dead asleep and all of a sudden, I'll wake up and I have to vomit and it's nothing like a little like phlegm or anything. It's like what I ate during the day.

1:32:50🔗 Stryker All right, well, do you have any medical problems?

1:32:52🔗 Stryker I was born premature seven weeks.

1:32:56🔗 Stryker That's it?

1:32:56🔗 Stryker And I have a poly on my leg and the doctor said I might have sleep apnea because of my dad.

1:33:03🔗 Stryker Are you overweight?

1:33:04🔗 Stryker No.

1:33:05🔗 Stryker You're fat and do you want any medication?

1:33:08🔗 Stryker No, I'm not on any medication.

1:33:09🔗 Stryker Okay, well, you're describing reflux, which is basically the content of your stomach fluxing back up into your esophagus when you lie flat. Why at 19, the sphincter between your esophagus and your stomach wouldn't work is a mystery to me. There's a muscle there. There's like a sphincter there. And it needs to be evaluated. You need some testing to look at what's going on there. This is not normal for a 19-year-old. You're not taking Motrin or anything like that?

1:33:33🔗 Caller No.

1:33:34🔗 Stryker No aspirins?

1:33:35🔗 Caller No.

1:33:36🔗 Stryker Flintstone Kids, William?

1:33:37🔗 Stryker Get it checked out.

1:33:38🔗 Drew Oh, and you don't take the Barney, man. That's just, you know.

1:33:42🔗 Stryker What's that, William?

1:33:42🔗 Drew Addictive.

1:33:43🔗 Stryker You had a good speech tonight at Sac State.

1:33:45🔗 Stryker Oh, thanks. You were there?

1:33:46🔗 Stryker Yeah, I was in the second row.

1:33:47🔗 Drew Wow.

1:33:48🔗 Stryker He's the one that vomited.

1:33:49🔗 Stryker Oh, yeah, that one.

1:33:50🔗 Stryker Thank you, William.

1:33:51🔗 Stryker No problem. Thank you.

1:33:51🔗 Stryker Bye. All right. We have to take another break. Drew is going to try to get it up on that end. And James Marsters is here. And I'm Stryker. And I gots it up.

1:34:00🔗 Caller Alright guys, here's the deal. You looking to hook up, sick of wasting time with the wrong person?

1:34:05🔗 Stryker One call is all you need to make.

1:34:07🔗 Stryker Call the Dateline.

1:34:08🔗 Stryker 877-889-DATE.

1:34:10🔗 Stryker Call the Dateline.

1:34:44🔗 Stryker All right, we're back, it's Loveline. Dr. Drew, who was in Sacramento, actually just took off, because he's trying to catch a plane to get back to Los Angeles right now. I am Stryker, along with James Marsters, and I want to thank you so much for coming in.

1:34:56🔗 Drew My pleasure, as always.

1:34:57🔗 Stryker Man, with cool guests like you, it makes it so much easier on my part.

1:35:00🔗 Drew Well, we didn't have any questions about swollen testicles, so it made it a lot easier for me.

1:35:04🔗 Stryker We had a couple last night.

1:35:05🔗 Drew Yeah, well, you know, it's good.

1:35:06🔗 Stryker And I thought all about you. You can see James, he plays the character of Spike on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. They are on the UPN. It's Tuesdays at 8 p.m. Also reruns are being shown on FX weekdays at 7 p.m. Yeah, hold on to your hats, folks.

1:35:19🔗 Drew It's going to get real weird.

1:35:21🔗 Stryker Anything you want to tell us super quick, then I got to sign off.

1:35:24🔗 Drew Um, no, he has nothing to say. God, it's hard. We're not supposed to release any secrets, but the Slayer is dead. Worms are eating her brain. And there are no cops in Sunnydale. The demons are having a hard day.

1:35:37🔗 Stryker There you go. All right. I'm Stryker. You can see what I look like on MTV Monday at 5 p.m. by the way, and Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday for weeks to come. God bless America. Thanks to Ace Rockolla for letting me fill in for Dr. Drew. I am Stryker saying adios.

1:35:52🔗 Stryker Kiss my ass, you idiots.

1:35:53🔗 Stryker Shut up, Corolla, Harry bastard.

1:35:56🔗 Caller This has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on this show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors or this station. The producer for Loveline, Dan Wilkin-Tingle. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.

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