0:55🔗DrewIt is Loveline. I'm Adam Corolla. This is Dr. Drew over there. Phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1. Dr. Drew is a board certified physician and addiction medicine specialist. All right there, Drew.
1:12🔗AdamI'm better because we actually had our talk on the way home last night.
1:15🔗DrewYes, Drew and I speak on a cell phone 20 minutes every night before we get into the Hills and it gets out of range. We don't get enough of each other. Sorry, ass is on the air.
1:24🔗AdamIn fact, last time we had a very heated discussion about what makes a man a man.
1:29🔗DrewOh, we did get into that. Yeah, that was a good one. Izabella Miko and Jonathan Schaech are both here from The Forsaken, which... What was the name of that Clint Eastwood movie that sounded like that? It was Drive and Menace. Maybe it was just The Unforgiven. You're right, Anderson. The Forsaken, which is coming out this Friday. Wide release, yes?
2:03🔗DrewBut there's been a handful of vampire movies that have been released in the last few years. Why should we go see this?
2:11🔗GuestIt's a little different than the typical vampire. You know, they don't have fangs. They get an incredible back story. A 900-year-old vampire that was...
3:02🔗GuestThey adapt into today's society. They cover their own tracks. So they burglarize and murder and do considerable mayhem like America does.
3:12🔗DrewI love a scary movie. I really do. I don't know what it is. I don't know what is it. What is about humans that want to be scared, that want to pay eight bucks to sit down somewhere and have the crap scared out of them. Maybe it's just to go back to their life and feel better about their life. I mean, you know, they didn't get a limb chewed off. They weren't raped. They were not. They didn't have their trachea punctured or anything. Yeah. I mean, maybe it's like a weird relative thing. You know, what is that?
3:44🔗AdamI mean, humans are pretty violent. You're right down to it. And when it's all unsubmerged, they may have a need to kind of look at it. And they do the same thing with sex, right? People watch that, too. They may not do all those things, but they kind of watch this stuff.
3:58🔗DrewRight. Yeah, I wonder, you know what? I wonder if people studied the culture many, many, many years from now, they'd say, well, they repressed a lot of their impulses of sex and anger and violence, but then they all gathered in these places in dark rooms and watched one with a thick German accent perpetrate it on others.
4:19🔗GuestThat's how the vampire was born. Yeah. He gets to be that, in which we can't be. He gets to be incredibly free sexually.
4:28🔗AdamHumans are drawn to violence. They go to the guillotines, they watch the gallows, they go to the battlefields and watch things. They have huge spectacles.
4:46🔗DrewUnlike the mummy in Frankenstein. They're like me in high school. But vampires are smart. They're like, hey, if I'm going to break into this chick's room in the middle of the night, I'm going to get some ass before I kill her. It's not a bad strategy. I mean, if you're going to kill, you might as well toss rape in there too. I mean, it's not like... Who are you trying to impress?
6:53🔗GuestI was raised Baptist and I within the past couple of years have attended a Pentecostal Church.
7:02🔗DrewYou got to get into one of those religions that doesn't really count. They'll take anybody. You know what I mean? Santeria. I think... Drew, what about the Jews? They don't mind the gays, do they? No, I think they do.
7:23🔗GuestI'm not worried as far as what other people think. It's more like the biblical because you never hear any stories of any good, positive, homosexual, you know, anything.
7:37🔗AdamI have a friend and somebody I took care of who is a patient who is a lesbian minister for a church. I mean, one of the most delightful people I know and doesn't seem to have any problem with her community. And is a spectacular minister.
7:53🔗DrewAnd golfer. This is a, but LA is a little more progressive than Lansing, Michigan, I guess.
8:03🔗DrewHow about moving out of there? I mean, it sounds stupid like why should you have to leave your home, but why not go to a place that's more accepting?
8:17🔗AdamWell, that's, that's, that's 90% of the problem. And you've got their support. You're more than halfway home. Right. You should be able to find a community of spiritual.
8:26🔗DrewTry the Internet. They lead you somewhere.
8:30🔗GuestI've been in chat rooms and they're just scary.
8:32🔗DrewI mean, they got like religious stuff on the Internet now, don't they?
9:02🔗GuestI mean, you just have to sort of, you know.
9:03🔗DrewGay is a religion to me. That trumps everything. It's a nationality. It's a religion. It, it, it just, it takes priority in all, all facets of life. I don't know. If I was gay and, and so much of, of religion is anti-gay, I would probably abandon religion.
9:36🔗AdamYeah. Hang on a second, Bob. I just realized, I now I know why you and Jimmy are not involved in your gay relationship that you've longed for.
9:46🔗DrewNo, that's not it. And what's that? No. No, I, you guys, as I've said on the air many times, I wish I was gay. I'd be, it's more, I'd be a better lifestyle for me. It really would.
9:58🔗AdamYeah. Oh, well, you'd be a better person.
10:29🔗GuestI got a fetish, I guess I would call it, with nylons. I love them. Any woman wearing them, love to rub on them, love to rub my privates on them. Is that strange or have you heard of it?
10:43🔗AdamDefinitely heard of it. It's not the usual behavior.
10:54🔗AdamBut are you able to carry on normal relationships otherwise? Yes. Do you need the nylons in order to function sexually? You understand what I'm asking?
12:24🔗DrewAnd then she puts... Did she fix them or just use them? Just get the next pair out. Just get them and use them next time, right? All right. Yeah, good times.
12:35🔗GuestOkay, one other short question. What is the average penis length in America?
12:48🔗DrewI don't like to argue too much for lower, though, because it makes me sound, you know, like I'm compensating. But it's under 6. It's quite a bit under 6. We were surprised. 6 was always the given answer, but it turns out it's under 5.5.
13:53🔗CallerWell, recently I was diagnosed with being a sex addict. And I was just wondering what the treatment for that was.
14:02🔗AdamHow was it you came upon that diagnosis?
14:04🔗CallerWell, I was dealing with some emotions about I had cheated on my wife a couple of times. And it wasn't really like cheating like I screwed someone. I, you know, basically just kissed a girl when I was drunk. But, you know, it happened. You know, there's like a cycle that happens that, you know, you know, like every six months or whatever. You know, I'll go out with some friends or whatever and then something happens. And, you know, I was just kind of wondering, you know, what exactly is the treatment or?
14:28🔗AdamThat does not qualify as sexual addiction.
14:31🔗DrewSexual addiction, something happens, meaning you go out and kiss somebody?
14:34🔗CallerWell, it's not so much of that. It's just, you know, I gotta have sex like, you know, two to three times a day.
15:29🔗GuestOh, yeah. And I have sex with my brother.
15:31🔗AdamAnd that kind of thing, those are the things that set you up for sexual addiction. So I agree, sexual addiction is probably a part of this here. And you may be an addict, at least sexual compulsivity and possibly sexual addiction.
15:42🔗DrewAnd how old was your sister at the time?
15:44🔗CallerUh, she was two years younger than me.
16:00🔗DrewBut what about that's the then, you know, got a taboo to theme, by the way. Yeah, you've dealt with this issue, but I'm not going to start singing Anderson if that's what you want.
16:24🔗DrewAll right. And I'm sorry. Doesn't everyone know a good porn theme or two? Come on. Did you sing this at camp? Maybe you did, but you don't. All right. Turn it down, Anderson, please. We have a very serious problem here. Alright. Now that's enough.
17:09🔗AdamSo some of this, okay, individual therapy may have an important role here. And you need to deal with someone who has some experience with these kinds of traumas. If it's true addiction, a 12-step model becomes an important part of the treatment. There are sexual addiction 12-step programs, SA. I would suggest you get the SA Big Book, which has a white cover. And it's extremely, a lot of good information in there about what is going on with you underneath. It helps sort of compulse and create all this impulsivity.
17:44🔗AdamYeah, I know. I didn't recommend it to you, you know. But Jason, it is an important thing, Jason. You should attend to it.
17:53🔗DrewYeah. And what's your sister doing? She's 27? What's she up to?
17:57🔗CallerYeah, she's 27 now. She's married. She's got a couple kids. She's just, you know, compulsive wire. Borderline. Just had a lot of problems, I mean.
18:40🔗DrewHow did you deal with it? I don't understand.
18:42🔗CallerWell, I got counseling and I understand everything that was wrong with it and I've come to terms with it.
18:47🔗AdamWell, understanding intellectually what's wrong with it doesn't do much to change the emotional circumstances and the biological results. So get some real treatment.
18:56🔗DrewMan, I mean, listen, we've all gotten drunk and got it on with our sister, you know, on a Thanksgiving evening or, you know, something like that. But to a four or five year relationship, I mean, that is eerie. That is bizarre. I mean, this guy won and think about those years too. I mean, from him, he went 13 to like 17, 18. Well, listen, he said four or five years. That probably means five or six. I mean, he could have won from, you know, seventh grade through, you know, first year out of high school or something with this. And she went all the way through her, you know, fifth grade, sixth grade through like her senior year. I mean, that, that is bizarre.
19:46🔗GuestOh, thank God they don't have like kids or something.
19:48🔗DrewThat would be big. Well, the point is, is she's got a couple of kids. Not with him, obviously, but that's mama now.
21:23🔗DrewI feel like I never told me what to do or do anything.
21:26🔗CallerI was pretty much like a loner at that time in my life. I mean, I really didn't have any friends at all.
21:31🔗DrewAlright, so how did it all come out with the family?
21:35🔗CallerThey all accepted it, actually. No, no, no.
21:37🔗AdamWhat actually went down? What triggered it?
21:39🔗CallerWhat went down? Well, she lived out of state for like for about three, four years. And when she came back, you know, that's when she came out and said, you know, that I had done this to her and she said that I also had done it to some other sisters, but that wasn't true. It was just me and her. And so it was brought to me, you know, did this happen? And I said, well, yeah, just with her, but I don't know who else would say that this has happened because it hadn't. Well, she had manipulated my sister into thinking that it had. And, you know, about three years after it came, no, two years after it came out, my sister finally realized that she was coerced into thinking that it had happened because, you know, she was being told over and over again, you know, been dealing with nightmares and whatnot, that, you know, I've been doing something I hadn't been. And it was just her way of dealing with the whole thing, I guess. I don't know.
22:29🔗DrewAll right. Jason, I'll tell you, for a guy who's been through or at least perpetrated what you have perpetrated or been through what you have been through, he sounds sort of squared away almost.
22:43🔗DrewSquared away? All right. More therapy. Everyone, to the therapist's office. That's what I want. I want a giant bat pole put into the country that goes right down to the center of the earth. And I'll just yell, just like, instead of a... Yeah, to the bat cave, I'll yell, to the therapist. And we'll dive on the pole and go our way down. And then we'll do one of those spin things. And we'll be on the sofa.
23:22🔗DrewIsabella Miko is here. So it's Jonathan Shaech. The movie is The Forsaken that is coming out this Friday. We'll take ourselves a little break. I'm going to mop my brow because I think it's getting hot in here. And we'll be back after this.
23:44🔗DrewI'm Adam Corolla. It's Dr. Drew over there. Isabella Miko and Jonathan Shaech are both here tonight from The Forsaken. That is a horror movie which is coming out this Friday.
24:01🔗DrewYeah. What's your scariest movie? What rattled your bones growing up? Let's start with Isabella.
24:10🔗GuestI don't know really. I never liked vampire movies or scary movies, but I actually watched What Lies Beneath a year ago and that really scared me.
25:04🔗DrewYeah. Drew, see anything scary? You're Exorcist man, right? You're old school.
25:11🔗AdamI don't like scary movies either. I don't want to, you know.
25:14🔗DrewYou don't want to change system, but you don't like it, huh? I don't like the ones that are pure thriller. Like I wasn't that freaked out by like Rosemary's Baby. I didn't, I wasn't too much, too much thrill and not enough kill, I guess. Like it too much, too much set up. Yeah. Psychological thrillers. I'm not really into that. I like to see a lot of blood. Monica?
25:40🔗CallerI have three girls, but my oldest one does some sort of masturbation thing like daily. I just woke my littlest one up. But she does this masturbation thing daily, and she doesn't touch herself, but she squeezes her little butt together, and she buries her face in a pillow and makes noises. When she comes up, she's bright red and all sweaty on the face, and just concerned a little. How old is she?
26:25🔗DrewYeah, I mean, Monica, why do you read it that way?
26:28🔗CallerWell, because it looks like, I asked her what she's doing, she says, my Noo-Noo, that's what we call her private spot. And she says, I'm doing my tickle thing, so what else do I think?
26:39🔗DrewMy grandma refers to hers as the old old. It's a little twist on the Noo-Noo.
26:45🔗AdamWell, I don't think you should worry about it. I can certainly imagine.
26:48🔗CallerI tell her to go do it by herself, because she lays in the middle of the floor, but now she goes in her room or under the table, but she still makes a loud noise, it's a little concerned.
28:16🔗DrewYeah. Here's the deal. I have found in my vast experience... Where's my bourbon? The guys who don't work are guys who they don't want working, pretty much. It's not that things have slowed down. They slowed the guy down, because he's drunk or not doing a good job. Yeah.
29:24🔗CallerOh, I've got a good anger problem, but not towards my kids. No, I've...
29:29🔗AdamYeah, but that's when I asked you about her environment. If she's in a very stimulating, uncomfortable, arousing, traumatizing environment, none of it has to be directed at her. Kids will sometimes start to stimulate in this way. And addicted family systems are great set-ups for sort of inappropriate sexual behaviors in young kids.
29:51🔗DrewRemember my plan about overtaking a large island and getting Bill Cosby and Felicia Rashad to raise all the children of this country?
30:16🔗DrewTake these three kids, get them out of the unemployed, alcoholic dudes one bedroom apartment and right over to that island with Bill Cosby. Big fat sweater, reading them Mother Goose every night. Think care of them.
30:30🔗AdamBut isn't it interesting how that whole thing unfolded? Yes, perfect family, everything is great, two parents at home, little things happening.
30:37🔗DrewYeah, that thing segwayed into I can't talk right now.
30:41🔗GuestI was scared for her, like the guy was going to... Wow.
30:45🔗AdamAnd these things, ladies and gentlemen, do not happen for no reason. Whatever it is. Take an honest look at things.
30:56🔗DrewThe three little girls. She's got to get him and he's got to get him into some recovery.
31:15🔗AdamSome can, some can't. I'm not a child specialist by any means, but I'll tell you in families where there's addicts doing their thing and I get involved in the treatment, oftentimes what you'll see is kids like exposing themselves and doing inappropriate sexual behaviors, not overt, not sexualized behaviors. They won't sexually abuse other kids or try to have sex, but they'll self-stimulate and they'll expose themselves and do aggressive kinds of sexual things.
31:42🔗AdamNo one knows. I guess maybe somebody has some theories, but to me it's part of when the arousal systems are prematurely activated, it necessarily spills into a sexual element.
31:51🔗DrewAlright, let's talk to April who's eighteen.
31:58🔗CallerLet's see, this is my situation. I've been with five different people and never anytime in any of those relationships have I ever really been sexually aroused.
32:14🔗CallerYeah, the first time is like, you know, it's fun, it's great, it's good, but after that it's just boring and I'm in a relationship right now. I've been with him for a little over a year and it's just me. I'm like, what, you know, okay, if we're gonna do it, let's do it. Let's be quick about it, be done and he's like, you know, let's go get together.
32:41🔗CallerWell, I need to know how to fix it. I'm not into it. He's always wanted to do it.
32:47🔗AdamYeah. I suspect. You know what my instinct on this would be? Let's pretend you're not in a relationship right now, which what you should be, frankly, is you should be dating guys and just figuring out what is you want, who you want. You don't know what you want right now. You're just sort of unnecessarily prematurely involved in these intense close relationships. You're just not into. You don't love these guys. And you need to really, you got to go out there, figure out who you are, figure out what kind of person you want to be involved with.
33:22🔗CallerYes, they're all guys. I've been with the jerks. I've been with everybody and this guy is like, you know, I love him to death and I care about him a lot. I think maybe some of my past relationships, you know, and some of the things that have happened to me before maybe do this.
33:42🔗CallerI've had boyfriends that would, you know, say, if you want, you know, before I had a car, they'd be like, you know, if you want to get home, then you're going to do this for me or, you know. And my best friend's father, you know, tried to mess with me one time that I spent the night at her house and that kind of got a little crazy. Why?
35:26🔗DrewI got some cheating energy here. Hey, April, is a girl at 18, you haven't hit your stride yet, physically or intimately, you know what I mean? It's kind of weird. Some girls bloom a little bit later than others. It doesn't sound like you're into this guy that much. Okay. And it sounds like you got some energy for guys.
35:51🔗AdamYou know, there's a book out there called But I Love Him.
35:57🔗AdamYeah. And it's about teenage women and the way they conduct themselves in these relationships and this nonsense.
36:02🔗CallerI ever had sex, before I even ever had sex, I could get turned on just like a switch, you know? And it would just, you know, easy. And then that very first time I had sex, it was just like, blah. And it's been, nobody's really, you know, I've never really hit the big O and, you know, I tell you, I think I do it in my dreams and stuff. You know, I feel like, you know, I'll wake up and just be all right.
36:50🔗CallerYes, he does. I mean, he's good, but it's just.
36:55🔗DrewDoes he use my carpet bombing technique?
36:58🔗CallerOh, God. No, he's really good. And, you know, he's not like small or anything. I mean, he's just really good. I just there's nothing. No one. No.
37:18🔗DrewI get angry guys like freaked out about not not operating in reality with her.
37:23🔗AdamAnd that not really a seeing things as they really are. Anger, angry guy is part of that. But choosing guys that she's not into, can't trust them, can't get in with them, can't open up to them, angry.
37:34🔗DrewBut I love them. I love them to death. I love them to death. I love them to death. I don't think you're having a real intimate relationship with this person.
37:52🔗DrewI understand you've been with other guys, but you're not, well, you're 16, 17, 15. I mean, you're just not in that place yet. You got to open yourself up. I'm thinking some therapy and just some time off.
38:07🔗AdamYes, that's what I open with. We're not in a relationship. Time off.
38:10🔗DrewAll right. I get to see, you know, on this show we only get to talk to people for a couple of minutes and it's kind of hard to figure out from the information exactly what's going on all the time and plus they spin things their own directions. But we both kind of get vibes from people. The system cadence and their tone and the vibe that they have. And I got that not comfortable in their own skin, not relaxed, just a little anger in a sense, but making up for anything. My dad's the greatest guy. My mom's great. Mom's great. Cheated on dad. Probably drove dad away maybe, but everything's great. Loved him to death.
38:45🔗AdamI see him all the time. Twice a month in North Carolina. Right. You'll see him all the time.
38:49🔗DrewAll right. Let's take ourselves a little break. We're talking about the Forsaken tonight out this Friday. Everybody in a theater near you. And when we come back, we'll speak to Anna. She's 18. Walked in on her boyfriend. And brother having sex. This will be good. Yeah, this is Love Line, I'm Adam Perola.
39:16🔗DrewIzabella Miko and Jonathan Shaech are both here tonight from the Forsaken. Coming out this Friday in a theater near you. Go there and be scared. You should be so scared. Well, you shouldn't be so scared that you don't go, but you should evacuate your bowels before you go into the theater.
40:08🔗DrewHe went down in a boat. It wasn't Titanic. It was Speed Tube. It was Speed Tube. It was the boat he crashed. This guy sunk two ships. I wouldn't want to go out bass fishing with the guy. I'm just saying, you know, it would be very ironic if he went at sea. It was an American disaster took him down. Anna?
42:20🔗DrewHey, it's better than a half Nelson. Let me tell you. I've got a guy to say, Uncle, now hurry. Oh, baby. All right. So everything's a mess, right? Right.
42:32🔗AdamYeah. Not because, not just because he's cheating, not because he's gay, because he would be do something as egregious as act out on a sibling.
42:43🔗AdamYeah, that's the no go. That's that's the you got to get out of here thing. All right. And the boy, your brother, I don't know. You know, hopefully you'll heal that in some way someday. But he's obviously a piece of work.
43:43🔗DrewOkay. Hey, Anna? You got your work cut out for you. You're working, though? You're making money? Yeah. Okay. Don't lose your job. Keep it together. Don't get strung out on drugs. Kick these two a-holes out of the apartment. Live by yourself. Just be on your own for a little while.
44:02🔗AdamLet the rent sort of go. Get them kicked out of their own.
44:24🔗DrewDo you need the chaotic a-hole in the life all the time? Just like a stepping stone from one to the other to the next. I mean, you show me somebody who can be on their own for a little while and I'll show you a relatively sane person or crazy insane. It's one or the other, but that's what she needs to do. She needs to take control of her life. I know it sounds like a cliché. The world is your oyster. I mean, because that's all the world is. That is so out of context. I was either high or possibly high when I said that. I know I was kidding. There's no way I was serious when I said it.
45:14🔗DrewAll right, Izabella and Jonathan are both here. From the Forsaken, which is out this Friday. We'll take a break. We'll be back after this.
45:21🔗CallerHello, this is your radio. Loveline will be right back.
45:35🔗DrewHey, Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla, that is Dr. Drew, wherever he may be. Who's that riff by, Anderson? I haven't heard that one in a little while. I like that riff. Sum 41. Yeah, that's old Sum 41, that's right. Izabella Miko is here tonight, along with Jonathan Shaech from The Forsaken, which is coming out, a very scary movie, coming out this Friday.
47:29🔗AdamYeah. This is a controversial issue, but it appears that there are... It's both. Yeah. Like with every human behavior, there are genetic elements and there's environmental elements. And for some people, it's a predominately environmental issue that brings it on. And for others, they're born that way.
48:05🔗GuestI was actually in a ballet school for a couple of years, and that's, you know, we had a lot of guys that were straight when they went into ballet school, and then they turned into gay, and they're just, yeah. Because ballet makes you sort of more feminine and go in touch with your body.
48:21🔗AdamThey were gay at the beginning when they just sort of brought them out.
48:23🔗GuestNo, I don't think so. I mean, I saw it. I've seen this happen.
48:35🔗DrewThere's something about being limber and being gay that go hand in hand. You show me a guy who can't touch his toes, I'll show you a straight guy. You know what I'm saying? Mike, you gay?
48:45🔗CallerNo, not whatsoever. I had another quick...
48:51🔗CallerI have a quick question. Before I had my son, when I was 17, through 15 and 17, methamphetamines was part of my life and I used it every day. And I wonder if that could affect my metabolism now.
49:03🔗AdamNo, it could affect your brain function now, but not your metabolism.
49:08🔗AdamNo, but your brain function. Boy, if you have a metabolism problem, get your thyroid checked. But the high dose of amphetamine will do basically the same thing as a few exposures to ecstasy, which is to disturb the serotonin function in the emotional centers of the brain.
49:27🔗CallerAfter I had my son, I was about 180 pounds without my son and now I bumped up 100 pounds. I'm 280 now. It's hard to drop it. I'm only 22 years old.
49:53🔗CallerYeah. I'm active. I go to work. I surf. I ride dirt bikes. I'm active. But I can't push the weight. I can't get it off.
50:00🔗DrewWell, a couple of things. A, when you're doing speed, you just tend not to eat so much. Say, A, number one, and B, number two, some guys grow into their sort of adult body, and that's kind of where they're at. Yeah.
50:34🔗DrewBut still, there's usually a pretty good difference between a 16, 17-year-old guy and a 22, 23-year-old guy, usually. Isn't there that kind of adult body? Or is that more like late 20s?
50:48🔗AdamYeah, but some guys, they're scrawny little people in high school, and you see them 15 years later, and they're like kind of stocky, thick, different. Man, they look different.
51:00🔗DrewBut it's not necessarily... It's not like they got fat.
51:02🔗AdamIt's like they came into their adult body.
51:06🔗DrewIt's the difference, I guess, between 30-year-old guys and 15-year-old guys. It's not that they're necessarily fat 15-year-olds. It's that they're...
51:13🔗GuestHe's just taking care of his kid now, instead of running off and doing drugs.
51:17🔗AdamHe's eating sugars all the time, too. Yeah, that's gratifying. That same system.
51:26🔗CallerYeah, I have never had my period on my own. When I was 16, they put me on the pill, and then that gave me my period. And then I think around March of my freshman year at college, I went off for a year, and I didn't have my period. And then they put me back on the pill, and then I just went off again in January.
52:05🔗CallerAnd then I had a, that's like pretty much, I think, I'm going, the reason they put me off on January is because I went to see, I don't know what you call it, the hormone doctor. And he wants to see like what my levels are.
52:29🔗CallerAnd then he is going to check my blood work and see what's up.
52:35🔗AdamWell, that sounds like an appropriate plan because you really don't have a diagnosis at this point. All you know is you don't have your periods. There's a lot of different reasons for that.
52:42🔗DrewIs he doing blood work? Is he doing the blood work?
52:46🔗CallerDo you have any idea like, because I mean I'm going to be 21 in a month.
52:50🔗AdamThere could be a lot of things, Elizabeth. There could be something called hypothylamic pituitary access dysfunction, which means although there's nothing structurally wrong with your pituitary, it doesn't work normally. There can be abnormalities with uterus. There can be abnormalities with ovaries, polycystic ovarian disease sometimes will do this sort of thing. There's a number of different things.
53:05🔗GuestYou might be like too, sometimes you're too skinny. When you go away now.
53:09🔗AdamAnorectic, overworking out, that kind of thing can do it.
53:20🔗CallerBecause I think my dad was just saying that, I think one of my, I don't know, it's in the family.
53:26🔗AdamWell, diabetes is a very easy thing to diagnose, okay? And they would have picked that up already. However, the reason it's interesting to bring this up, there's something called polycystic ovarian syndrome that is associated with insulin resistance and we believe may lead to diabetes later in life and that it's a significant and important thing to rule out. And some of the features that might be suppressed if you're on the pill.
53:49🔗DrewAll right. Well, she's going in, she's going to get her blood worked up and everything will be fine, yeah?
54:15🔗CallerMy mom, she uses meth, and I was taken out of the home about two years ago. I'm living with my grandparents now. I've been in and out of residential treatments and psychiatric hospitals.
54:26🔗AdamAnd why didn't they hospitalize you after the razor blades?
54:34🔗DrewHow's that work there, Dr. Drew? And I never hear about that anymore. Didn't it used to be a way that people tried to kill themselves? Or was it just a Halloween thing?
54:46🔗GuestWhen you start passing razor blades, that's not good.
54:48🔗DrewI mean, I felt like I passed a razor blade after eating a Muffaletta in New Orleans, but it wasn't actually a razor blade.
54:56🔗AdamThe theory is that if something passes your esophagus, if it makes it through the esophagus, it'll make it the rest of the way. However, I have no experience with razor blade swallowing, frankly, and I would be real concerned about this. I would hope you get evaluated.
55:10🔗DrewWell, if you swallowed the razor blade yesterday, Yeah, the day before she swallowed it. and the day before, would you have moved them?
56:20🔗DrewGod, that's weird. I mean, see, normally...
56:22🔗AdamAnne, can you... This is what we need to follow up on, all right? Brandy, would you just commit to us that you're going to tell somebody tonight so you can get to proper care, please?
56:42🔗CallerI do. I'm kind of having second thoughts when I write this second just because I don't know exactly what's going to happen and how painful it's going to be, but I don't know. I guess I do want to die. I just... I don't...
57:08🔗CallerMy mom won't at all commit to trying to stop...
57:13🔗AdamYeah, but that's your mom. Your mom's a drug addict. That's reality. Let go of that. Yeah, we got to let go of that. She has to take care of herself, but you got to take care of yourself.
57:21🔗GuestYou're so young too. You have so much ahead of you.
57:37🔗DrewYeah. You gotta wait a little bit, but there'll be another snowfall and you get your snowboard back out. And you know, you can theoretically kill yourself snowboarding, actually. That'd probably be the more logical plan.
57:52🔗DrewIt's certainly more effective from the people I know who've gone snowboarding. Hey Brandy, you gotta do something. You gotta talk to somebody. You have to call... I don't know, Drew, who she calls? Does it call a hospital?
58:05🔗AdamWell, would you at least talk to a suicide hotline?
58:31🔗AdamOkay. 422-4453. But we'd like to talk to you in a week or two, and just see how you're doing. And we want you to be around when we call next time.
58:41🔗AdamYou know, it hurts to think that you would do yourself in. I guarantee you, tons of people that you would learn to care about and who undoubtedly would care about you even now. And that helps life be meaningful when it's difficult to find meaning in life. It's there, you know?
59:54🔗AdamYou wouldn't get through past your tongue. You'd still slice your tongue off.
59:59🔗DrewWell, I'll tell you, Drew, I may kill myself after tonight. I really might. Tonight's been a... It's been tough... .very much. It's been a heavy night.
1:00:36🔗GuestThat's right. At 14 years old, can you attach to your creativity very easily?
1:00:42🔗AdamNo. It's easier and perhaps more efficient to attach to other people and to find meaning through that connectedness of other. And I trust that that was the hard part, is she's been so abused and neglected and abandoned and whatnot.
1:00:54🔗GuestSo she thinks the next step is to swallow razor blades and get her mom to quit doing drugs.
1:01:11🔗GuestWhen I was 15, I was going to high school, I had a teacher, she was my English teacher, and she was pretty, pretty wackly. She seduced me into living with her and all kinds of mess. I continue to like.
1:02:10🔗GuestWell, I lived with her about, I don't know, a couple months or something. Then they took me to a, my parents took me to a wilderness program in Arizona.
1:03:03🔗GuestYeah. I eventually started to realize what this lady was all about. And I decided she was pretty strange and I didn't want to be with her.
1:03:14🔗DrewFlawed. And how long was she not teaching anymore?
1:03:39🔗GuestWell, yeah. My mom went in there with notes that she had taken from a phone conversation she had listened to, that would be an all lovey-dovey and stuff.
1:03:57🔗GuestWell, recently I had this girlfriend. She was too young. She was living with a lady. The lady called the cops on me. I went to jail for three months. All right. That sparked the bitterness against society. And I went and talked to a lawyer. Got things rolling.
1:04:16🔗DrewOkay. Hold on a second there, Stuart. We gotta talk about you. I hate everyone who files a lawsuit for anything. I don't care if you burn over 90% of your body because the Matterhorn exploded while you were waiting in line. I still hate you for lawsuits. Stuart sounds like he was screwed by his teacher, literally. Figuratively. It sounds like the school board dropped the ball. He also sounds like a terribly troubled, anti-social, semi-dangerous, sociopathic guy himself.
1:05:52🔗DrewHere's something to worry about, though, Stuart. And I know this sounds a cliché, and it's as old as the Bible, but if you got your hands on, you know, $452,000 cash, you might blow your brains out, not with a gun, but just screw your life up royally in about... You could blow through it in a year or two years, and you could be hooked on God knows what by the time that period was over. I mean, it can... I had a friend who got just a small amount of money, just like 15 grand, and he just went flying off the deep end. I mean, that isn't my friends, but he just quit his job, started doing blow, moved to Hawaii, lived in a hotel for four months.
1:06:36🔗DrewThat's pretty good. It was probably more like 13 grand. Oh, but that, you know, you're living in North Hollywood making 280 bucks a week, 13 grand is as much money as you're ever gonna see at any one time.
1:06:49🔗DrewYeah, be, prepare yourself that if you do win a settlement, that somebody else administers it, have it go somewhere, have it go into some T-bills or something, get it invested. Don't, you know, put yourself on a sort of a diet with it. Don't, don't freak out with it.
1:07:09🔗GuestWell, I've done drugs and I've had a pretty serious weed problem for, I don't know, a couple years, three or four years. But actually, I don't do any drugs anymore.
1:07:23🔗DrewOkay, but why don't, why don't you look at your, make yourself your project to get yourself in shape for when the time comes a year from now or eight months from now or whatever it is that you actually receive some sort of settlement check?
1:07:42🔗DrewRight. Okay. Well, we'll take ourselves a break. We'll be right back. Hi.
1:07:58🔗This is John Favreau and you're listening to Love Line with Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew.
1:08:06🔗DrewIzabella Miko and Jonathan Sheck are our guests tonight. They are from The Forsaken, which is coming out this Friday in a theater near you. You just met Jonathan, I mean, John Favreau. Yeah, in The Drop.
1:08:41🔗AdamAbout... John felt himself to be an expert in the mental health field. And he was advising a very sick young man not to take his medicines.
1:08:50🔗GuestHis wife is a doctor. I'm pretty sure.
1:08:53🔗DrewOh, really? Yeah. There's only... Drew's policy is there's only room for one geek in the studio.
1:09:28🔗CallerI have a daughter who is going to be 13 soon, and luckily we're very close, and we happened to be out to dinner the other day having our normal discussion, and she told me that one of her friends, but I have to promise not to tell, is, and it's not a close friend, is giving blow jobs to the other boy.
1:09:58🔗AdamAnd you're aware that as amazing as it is, that's fairly common behavior these days.
1:10:05🔗CallerAs amazing as it is, yes. Unfortunately, though, I mean, when I was discussing it with my daughter, she sees it, thank God. She says, you know, it's really sad that she has to find self-esteem that way.
1:10:26🔗CallerBut anyway, so my concern is, you know, I told my daughter, I think probably something's happening in the household, and maybe that's causing her to act like that.
1:10:33🔗AdamOr maybe it had happened at one time, sure.
1:10:35🔗CallerRight. And she says, no, no, no, people have stayed over there. You know, apparently the mom has let them have teenage couple sleepovers.
1:10:42🔗AdamWell, that's, you know, that's a hint that something's going on at that house.
1:10:46🔗CallerRight. That's kind of what I said, but my daughter told me that I can't tell anybody and not to go running to the counselor and tell the counselor. And I said, well, you know, it's kind of a problem. I mean, maybe there's something really going on at home.
1:10:57🔗GuestWell, try going on Jerry Springer or something like that. Yeah.
1:11:00🔗AdamYou see, kids get very confused about...
1:11:02🔗GuestI saw that before, on Jerry Springer.
1:11:03🔗AdamKids get very confused about loyalty and secrets and when it is and is not appropriate to help, try to help someone.
1:11:10🔗DrewThat's why they're called parenting, everybody. But you say teenage sleepover, male and female?
1:11:15🔗CallerYes. Male, female couple sleepovers. My daughter's not allowed to go over there. Yeah. She's not allowed to go over, even, you know, go over to her house or hang around with her after school ever since. Her friend's parents walked in on the little girl and the other friend and then two boys over in the guest house filling them up with their clothes off.
1:11:38🔗DrewOh, I thought she said filling them up.
1:11:40🔗CallerYeah, they were groping the girls nude.
1:11:42🔗DrewI see. All right. But the parents are together.
1:11:48🔗CallerI don't know what their parents are. My daughter, from my understanding, she says the mom's been married like five times, and I said, you know, yeah, there's a problem there.
1:11:56🔗AdamYeah, yeah, it doesn't matter. These parents are troubled. There's trouble in the household.
1:12:01🔗CallerThat's what I think, and my concern is like something might happen to this poor kid because nobody really wants to step in and do it.
1:12:07🔗AdamYou've got to go over and start talking to some of the teachers and things, and tell them that you have some stuff given to you, and information in confidence. So it's important that they figure out a way to sort of come upon this information without it being obvious that it was from you.
1:12:21🔗DrewStart calling your daughter Raven, call her Snowman.
1:12:25🔗AdamYou've got to alert the people that are taking care of this girl.
1:12:28🔗CallerBecause I feel really bad about the whole thing, and I mean because I promise...
1:12:35🔗AdamListen, don't you start to collude with these crazy ideas.
1:12:38🔗CallerWell, I'm really not. I'm trying to figure out a way I can do it without it being obvious.
1:12:41🔗AdamGo talk to the teachers. Tell them that you're telling this in confidence, but you have information they need to know. That it can't be, it must be clear that it didn't come from you, that you're trying to respect some confidence in the way you receive the information, but the teachers must have the information.
1:12:58🔗DrewWhere's her dad, where's your husband?
1:13:12🔗CallerWell, she has a lot of things to focus on.
1:13:14🔗CallerI feel sorry for the other kids because I love my daughter and I try to stay close with her, but let her do her own thing. And I feel bad for the kids who aren't in the same position.
1:13:24🔗DrewOkay. All right. So do go talk to the counselor.
1:13:27🔗AdamJust consider what if she were giving you information about one of the kids was planning to get a gun and start shooting. Just in strictest confidence. Can't tell anybody.
1:13:36🔗DrewOf course you tell. Well, but that's a no brainer. That's a layup.
1:13:40🔗DrewAll right. I'll tell you, if I saw my mom walking into school, I would kill myself. I'd jump right out the window. Just screaming. I'd swallow an antlers or a globe and I'd have to kill myself.
1:13:56🔗DrewI go nuts. Thank God. I really do. I want to thank my parents for having almost no, almost no part in my life at all. It was a little bit of an open house, parent-teacher conferences. I never showed up and God bless them. God bless them. I should get in my car, another car or something for that. I really should.
1:14:16🔗AdamDid they maybe start out by attending them and they were so painful and disappointing that they ultimately just gave up?
1:14:22🔗DrewI don't really remember. All I remember is by the time I got to the sixth or seventh grade, I was off and running and I never saw them. I never saw them at school and that was good. That notion of my parents speaking to a teacher or any buddy associated with the school was a very horrifying thought.
1:14:45🔗GuestYou can use it the other way. I actually forced my parents to go to those meetings and I told them what to tell to the teacher. I would say, you got to tell them to back off. I don't have time to do my homework because they would listen to my mom.
1:15:31🔗CallerI think that this is really an important issue that we could further address because you guys have the great opportunity of reaching this country nationwide. And to let these innocent mothers, I'll call them innocent because maybe they've never been subjected to anything like this in their own lives. But I think that stay-at-home fathers should be looked at very closely. I mean, they're drinking alcohol. This little girl is four years old. Just a hectic environment doesn't necessarily instigate that type of act, those types of actions. He could be watching porno in front of her. He could be violating her innocence in some way, shape or form. And that mother needs to know that she should question her daughter if she sees anything on TV. She might need a medical exam, make sure that she's not being touched. I was a sexually abused child, and I remember doing that because those parts of me were being violated.
1:16:34🔗AdamYeah, and we brought that up and mentioned that to her as well. But she is in such a mess. First of all, we were afraid to be too provocative because the husband was listening and becoming aggressive.
1:16:45🔗GuestSecondly, we could have become aggressive.
1:16:47🔗AdamWe could hear her in the background. And secondly, it was made clear to her that this is a disturbed situation with the alcoholic husband. We don't know what he's up to, period.
1:16:58🔗CallerI think she gathered that. I think that you guys could be a little bit more direct because it goes on so freely in this country and it's ignored.
1:17:09🔗AdamCarla, this show is actually criticized constantly for being too much focused on sexual abuse because we deal with it almost every third call. And we actually get criticized for focusing too much on it.
1:17:21🔗CallerYou had the opportunity to maybe awaken these ignorant mothers and maybe some of them...
1:17:29🔗AdamMost of them were sexually abused. Most of them were sexually abused, too.
1:17:33🔗CallerYou guys were very subtle, though, when you guys were talking to her. And I was like, come on, come on, tell her to look closer at this. And maybe she gathered, maybe she didn't, but if she's listening right now, I want her to hear me and say, don't let this time in your little daughter's life go without being, you know? Yeah.
1:17:51🔗DrewWell, it's possible that she was sexually abused. On the other hand, you have an agenda that is bleeding into the words that you hear and the questions that we get as well. So your reality isn't everyone's reality either.
1:18:10🔗CallerIt should be, it should be brought to the attention of a lot of people who don't realize that these things really do happen. And it's not right for people to have, you know, pornos going in their house and then going on.
1:18:24🔗DrewWe completely agree with that. But on the other hand, every situation of a child stimulating themselves is not directly caused by molestation. And we can't make everyone one of those. I agree with you, it should be brought up, it should be addressed.
1:18:43🔗CallerI understand, but a four-year-old is a baby.
1:18:46🔗DrewAnd okay, but that doesn't make, doesn't mean they were abused. You were abused. That doesn't mean everyone was abused.
1:18:53🔗CallerBut this little girl could have been.
1:18:58🔗CallerBecause if it's that extreme, when she says she's red-faced and she moans, that could be a sign that she saw something that she shouldn't see.
1:19:07🔗AdamIt could be. And again, the problem we have in this show is we talk about it every third call. And because it's your agenda, it didn't go exactly the way on that call the way you wish it would have. If you listen to the show, we will address this every 10 minutes.
1:19:20🔗DrewI agree. We could have hit the sexual abuse part a little harder.
1:19:25🔗GuestYeah, but we're actually going on. I think she got the point.
1:19:29🔗DrewWell, the point was this guy's an alcoholic. This guy should be watched. He should not be trusted and he has to do something about his alcoholism.
1:19:37🔗AdamSomething is going on here that's making this kid do it.
1:19:39🔗DrewRight. Susie? Susie, you're 21. Boy, I'll tell you, what a life, everybody.
1:19:45🔗AdamAnd by the way, that's everybody that has something they're calling about, they feel strongly about, right?
1:19:50🔗DrewWhenever, here's, here's, let me, let me tell everyone who not to trust in life beside people who, who bring lawsuits on other people, people with an agenda. When you turn the TV on and you see people screaming about Jesus Christ, or you see people screaming about legalizing weed, or you see people screaming about abortion one way or the other, or molestation, or whatever, whatever, whoever has an agenda, don't believe them. Something happened to them, it's now become their life's work, and we're simply canvases for their sort of bad finger paintings. That's what we become. Everybody should be concerned with molestation. Should it consume their life? No. Should every case be molestation? No. It should be a responsible thing that everybody is aware of.
1:20:36🔗AdamBut if it's not and somebody has had that happen to them, they'll come down in any way that doesn't see it as their life work.
1:20:42🔗GuestAre most children at that age openly sexual?
1:20:46🔗AdamNo. If kids are sexually directed before puberty, they were...
1:20:51🔗DrewNo, Drew. I tell you, you say this, I know, and you shake your head and you make me into some kind of maniac every time, but everybody I speak to, every kid says they played doctor, they were curious, they touched, sometimes they did a lot of stuff that would be sexual, but they didn't have an orgasm.
1:21:12🔗DrewNo, I'm not saying intercourse, but you cut it off. There could have been oral sex.
1:21:18🔗AdamNo, no. I'm telling you, if there's oral sex, you're into that realm. You're into it.
1:21:23🔗DrewI'm telling you, most people I talk to have had some sort of experience that would be physically very far along the lines, but emotionally not that far along the lines.
1:21:36🔗AdamTouching and looking and being curious is completely normal. Being sexually directed to orgasm is adult.
1:21:42🔗DrewWell, not to orgasm. We don't know what an orgasm is.
1:21:47🔗DrewNo, you just, it's experimentation. It's the same with the looking and the touching. What's the difference? What's the difference? What's the difference between touching and putting it in your mouth?
1:22:30🔗AdamAnd especially in highly arousing, disturbed family systems, you'll see more of this stuff. And if it becomes sexually directed, it's because an adult did something to one of the kids.
1:22:42🔗DrewIt's all sexually directed. They just don't know what sex is.
1:22:58🔗AdamYeah. Pornos are traumatizing young kids. That is not good for kids to see that stuff.
1:23:02🔗DrewRight. But it's some mimicry, but there's a fair amount of experimentation and biology involved with it. There's non-orgasm, or even what I would call sexual biology, but biology, nonetheless.
1:23:20🔗AdamCurious, touching, that kind of thing. Yes.
1:23:24🔗AdamWe're saying basically the same thing. We really are.
1:23:26🔗DrewI'm just saying it goes on more than you think.
1:23:29🔗AdamAnd especially in disturbed systems, where there's a lot of arousal.
1:23:33🔗DrewAll right. We'll take ourselves a break. We'll be back. That's the pious one over there, Dr. Drew. Isabella Miko is our guest tonight, along with Jonathan Shaech, from The Forsaken. It is out this... Thank you, thank you. This Friday, and if this show hasn't scared you, that movie will.
1:25:02🔗AdamThat shouldn't have anything to do with it, unless he had the radiation or testicular cancer and had treatment for that or something. Sometimes that will do it.
1:25:12🔗DrewAre you using protection? I'm on the pill. Oh, good times, baby. Yeah. What I like to hear. Calling from San Fernando? Yeah. You got to haul your ass out of that pit soon. Jesus Christ. People in North Hollywood, they laugh at the people in San Fernando.
1:26:02🔗CallerWhen he was going up, his mom made him think it was dirty.
1:26:07🔗AdamMaybe that's why he's anxious about having sex, maybe why he can't ejaculate. I don't know. We'd have to talk to him to find out what's going on.
1:26:13🔗DrewHis mom screamed, is he Mexican? Yeah. Mexican women got that crazy mom voice. They scream like they're on fire all the time. No, every time I call my maid, her mom answer, hello, is it there?
1:27:58🔗DrewDo I know his last name? Yeah, you do know his last name. Yeah. All right. I would like you to find out what happened to one of his balls and what his dad's business is. Okay. All right.
1:28:09🔗AdamAnd what he needs in order to ejaculate, what you can do for him to make him happy.
1:28:38🔗AdamThat's just not something... First of all, you're not trained to make any diagnosis, and even people who are trained to make diligent efforts not to diagnose themselves.
1:29:33🔗AdamIt could be a varicoseal, cystoseal, spermatosal, it could be a tumor, it could be a lot of things. Epididymitis, down the list. Epididymitis is usually just pain in the groin and testing.
1:29:42🔗GuestOkay, and could it be related to masturbating and then keeping the ejaculate from exiting the penis?
1:30:09🔗DrewYou know what's funny to me? When guys are 15 and well on their way to A-hole-ville, like well on their way, you know, a little pompous, a little self-righteous, kind of pricks, and 15.
1:30:23🔗GuestDid he self-diagnose himself at elephant biases?
1:30:28🔗DrewI really would not like to see this guy at like 41, unless he's had a full epiphany and found Jesus Christ or something. You know, the 15-year-old guy is kind of a prick? A jerk-off, I'm fine with, but like a sort of blow-harded 15? Hi, this is John Favreau. That's trouble. Oh, please. Please. He's a delight. How dare you. All right, let's take ourselves a little break and we'll come back, wrap up, wrap down after this.
1:31:39🔗CallerThis has been Loveline. The opinions expressed on the show are not necessarily those of the staff, management, sponsors for this station. The producer for Loveline is Ann Wilkins Dingle. Loveline is a presentation of Westwood One Entertainment.