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Voiceover
Listener discretion is advised. Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew. Love Line Coast to Coast.
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Adam
Hey, it's the Love Line. I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew over there. We'll be right back with another episode of Dr. Drew's Abortive Certified Physician. Dr. Lindquist is a crime prevention and addiction medicine specialist. Tonight in the 11 o'clock hour, we're going to bring in Scott Lindquist. Scott is a FCPP and a CPS. What's the FCPP part, Drew? Do you know what that is? Point is, is he wrote a book on-
5:50🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's the CPS part. I'm looking for the FCPP part. Here's my point. He wrote a book on date rape. I think he's coming out against it, right? Is that true?
6:02🔗
Adam
It's how to prevent date rape. We're going to talk to him. You guys can take some notes. You date rapers, you can write down stuff, tricks that the gals may try to play on you. You see what I'm saying, Drew?
6:14🔗
Adam
There will be something in it for everybody when our guest comes in at 11 o'clock hour. For now, it's just me and the doctor. Let me say a couple of things before we get started because sometimes I just drive around and I think, I can't wait till I get behind that goddamn microphone.
6:32🔗
Adam
No, no, no. Anderson, please turn that stuff down, would you? Thank you. I guess that's down. Couple of things, things I've touched on before. I drove here on the 405. I was coming from the valley tonight.
6:46🔗
Adam
And I was going up the hill. And the thing I always marvel at, and I'm sure Producer Anne does, because you take the wonderful 405 over here too, is the way up the 405, you're doing 46 miles an hour, and on the way down, you're doing 68 miles an hour. And I really want to tell this to people. I've brought it up before, but it's important that everyone pay attention to this. Here's how it works, everybody. There's a pedal. It's toward the bottom. That's where your feet go in your car. It's on the right. It's called an accelerator. Now, if you're heading uphill or you're in mud, or there's 150-mile-an-hour wind, something is in front of you. It's important to push that pedal down just a little bit further so you can compensate for whatever it is. And here's how it would go. If it was just a slight grade, like just a little bit uphill, you'd just have to push the pedal down a little. But if it was steeper, you'd have to push it down even more.
7:41🔗
Adam
Yeah, you don't keep the pedal in the same goddamn place from your house to where you're showing up to. If the road goes uphill, you push the pedal down a little more so you can go a little bit faster, so you maintain that constant speed, you see? And then, now listen, and you may want to grab a pad and pencil, on the way down the hill, you have to back off the pedal just a little bit because they have a little more momentum, a little more inertia carrying it down the hill.
8:15🔗
Drew
The guy, he managed to get off the runway, and then he's like, I'm going across the next runway. I'm going.
8:22🔗
Drew
I was listening on the air traffic. And then when you get to the gate, it rolls on in past the little thing.
8:39🔗
Adam
Oh, really? They got to chock those tires. All right. So don't fly and use more gas when you go up a hill, everybody. You can't go 46 miles an hour up the hill. Another quick thing I want to say too, saw one of these guys out there. I want all you pussies to die. These are the guys who buy the motorcycle at the police auction and then sport the leather jacket and the two-tone white and black cop helmet. Oh, yeah. And then drive behind you at a steady yet slow speed. They're about 150 feet behind you on the freeway, and all you see is cop in your rear view, and you start pulling off the freeway, and these guys go past you, and they're wearing a pair of sweatpants. And I'm thinking, I want to kill these guys.
9:22🔗
Adam
They must know what they're doing. Yeah. I understand buying the cop bike at the police auction. That's fine. I mean, you get a Moto Guzzi for $1,500 or a Kawasaki 900, just like Ponch used to drive, and you get it for a song. I understand that. But put a full-face helmet on, or put one of those Prussian helmets on, the one with the big point on it. Or wear a vest, or don't wear a shirt. Don't wear the cop jacket, the cop helmet, and ride the cop bike, because it makes us think you're a cop. And then when you ride behind us, all we think is that's a cop behind us. Who's got huevos big enough to say, wait a minute, through the rear view, looks like that dude's wearing a pair of Keds. I'm going to get on it. I'm going to spark that joint back up. No way! Especially when you're stoned, then you're free.
10:15🔗
Adam
No, I'm just saying that anybody who buys a cop motorcycle from an auction Should be killed. No, you should wear a bright orange helmet, not the two-tone cop helmet, and you pussies pretend like we don't notice, or it's just happenstance or coincidence. BS. I got you all figured out. They're trying to, trying to, they probably got kicked off the fours or were trying to, you're all living at home, pussies. You should compensate me for my life. That's the way I look at it. I feel raped, speaking of date rape, that's real rape, that's male rape. Driving 55 for 8 miles on the freeway because one of these idiots is behind you.
10:58🔗
Yes?
11:02🔗
I have a question for Dr. Drew. When I perform oral sex on my boyfriend of four years, he cannot ejaculate and he's the only male I've had this problem with.
11:16🔗
Drew
Well, some guys have that. That's just the way they're put together. And it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with what you're doing or anything wrong with him. We hear that an awful lot.
11:24🔗
Adam
These are the guys who buy the motorcycles at police offices. Adam doesn't trust these guys at all.
11:29🔗
Drew
Yeah, Adam believes they're gravely impaired on some level. We haven't figured out what level that is.
11:32🔗
Adam
Gay or gravely impaired? Or is that your new code for gay? Gravely impaired? Yeah. Eight.
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Is there anything I can do for you?
11:43🔗
Adam
It's not his bag. That's all right. There's nothing wrong with you. Maybe if you're a little prettier in the face, but there's really nothing we can do about that.
11:59🔗
Adam
I just drove 46 miles an hour up the 405 with some a-hole who was on a rented cop bike behind me driving me insane.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Oh, I'm really good at it.
12:21🔗
Adam
Yeah. Well, yeah, you're so good. He's so good. He hasn't came in four years. You should get some kind of award.
12:30🔗
Adam
He hasn't Duncumd enough four years. Yeah. Listen, don't give him a big speech about how great you are and how many satisfied customers you have. That's just not his bag. There's a lot of guys out there who are this way. I don't trust them. I don't talk to them, but they're out there. Right, Sandra? Okay.
12:49🔗
Drew
I think they had to wear a big scarlet letter or something, just so you know how to keep away from them.
12:53🔗
Adam
Well, listen, I heard that. I'm just not paying attention to it. Here's what I'm saying. What percentage of guys can't get off with oral sex?
13:09🔗
Adam
Okay. I'd say 10 to 15 percent cannot have an orgasm with it, and 15 to 30 just aren't really that into it. Yeah. I'll give you that. Oh my God. What is wrong with these guys? What is wrong with them?
13:23🔗
Adam
Oh, it kills me. But this is like when I hear about someone not liking the Simpsons. I have the same reaction. I just want to punch them. I want to hit them and then I don't want to hang out with them, because I've labeled them immediate idiots. But here's the deal. If you're a woman and you've been with five, six, 10 guys, well, the chances are if 70 or 80 percent men can have an orgasm, that you've only had these guys. Then five years goes by and you run into the guy who hasn't, you're all freaked out. That's just how it breaks down. Todd?
14:02🔗
Caller
That's okay. Well, my question I guess is this, Dr. Drew, my hands shake uncontrollably pretty often and I want to know if it could be from past drug use.
14:31🔗
Drew
I'm just saying that there's a data accumulating that shows that people that use amphetamine heavily will have changes in their brain that have been shown to persist for up to five years after the use, and it's probably a permanent change. And things like tremor would be one of the kinds of things we'd expect to see.
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Live with it?
14:51🔗
Adam
Aren't you going to tell him to go to a psychiatrist and see if there's some drugs that could be prescribed?
14:58🔗
Drew
Because the kind of things that, well, here's why. The kind of things you use to treat tremor cause depression. Depression is one of the things that he's going to be at risk for with all the drugs history he's got. So he's just talking, he's asked about tremor. I'm staying on point here.
15:10🔗
Adam
Hold on a second. Todd, your days as a professional calligrapher are over. You're going to have to pull off the circuit. Do they have that in the X Games now? I thought they had freestyle calligraphy.
15:24🔗
Yeah. So I just have to wait it out?
15:28🔗
Drew
No, it's just going to be with you probably. It's just that's going to be you now. You're going to have tremors periodically.
15:46🔗
Drew
As I told Adam, the thing I'm concerned, the reason I didn't advocate getting the tremor treated, which it is treatable, is that most of the medicines that we use to treat that kind of tremor either cause depression or are addictive themselves. So you're also at risk for depression with that kind of injury, and that's a more important issue, I think.
16:11🔗
Drew
I met some people that were into the man show, and I realized, particularly women, when they enthusiastically say they're into the man show, I think, what the hell is the matter with you?
16:29🔗
Adam
Molested them? Yes. Wow. It's good code there. Listen, I don't care if you've been molested, as long as you can enjoy the man show. Why shouldn't victims of molestation enjoy good comedy?
16:40🔗
Drew
Point is that it's further degradation and abuse. They suffer at your hands right through that visual meeting we call TV.
16:55🔗
Adam
Big Brother? Yeah, I'd like to get out there, but it's like a good three miles away from where I live.
17:12🔗
Adam
I'm not in, you know, let me explain. I have eight guys I went to high school with all working on my house now, that I spend the entire day with each and every day. That's enough drama. It's enough personality conflicts. It's enough tension. I don't like real life.
17:29🔗
Adam
I want to see a bunch of people coexisting in a realistic atmosphere. I lived in an apartment with three guys. I had enough, enough real life. I went, I went pixie dust and fantasy. You understand? I went big grand extravaganza. I went, speaking of that, did you see the opening to the Olympics?
17:50🔗
Adam
I turned the thing on at like seven o'clock at night. I went out, I came back at 1030. That chick was still in the air. Well, 88-year-old still hanging by that wire.
17:57🔗
Drew
I was like, what the hell is going on here? What was it she did? I didn't see that part.
18:04🔗
Drew
No, they didn't know about it. I saw her interviewed afterwards, and she said it was such a secret. She was not even allowed to tell her parents what it was they were having her do, and that they are now having a stroke, having seen what just happened.
18:15🔗
Adam
Her parents told her to say that, so they wouldn't be arrested. That's why I would tell her, I would tell my kid to say we didn't know.
18:23🔗
Adam
Well, you know the harness that the wrestler was killed in a few years ago when he fell into the ring?
18:34🔗
Adam
From Atlanta, wherever the guy died in the ring. And she flew around above Olympic Stadium, like 80 feet above the ground, in this big sort of water, aquatic sort of, really, the whole thing looked like a mushroom trip I had when I was 19. But the point is, is I thought they would run out into the stadium and then light the torch up, light the flame, the Olympic flame. I left the house, I came back three hours later, they were still marching into that stadium.
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Hello?
19:13🔗
Caller
Oh, Adam. I love you, man. You are like the highlight of my day, man. You are so funny.
19:29🔗
Caller
I've had this girlfriend for like a couple of months. Like, we have a great sex life and everything's cool and I like her a lot. But she is like even too adventurous for me, though. It's kind of insane. She has been out with other guys, like before she met me. And she has a strap on on them and she enjoyed it as much as they did. And I don't understand how either of them can enjoy it in the first place because it seems like not sex and it's like really strange. And she said, Hey, Dave, why don't I do this to you? And I mean, George. Yeah.
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Caller
And I was like, no, no, I'm not going to do that. Only gay guys do that. You know what I mean? And she was like, she was like, you know, I can understand. But, you know, how am I, you know, she still has this need and this urge. And she says, Dave, what can I do about it? And I don't know what to tell her.
20:13🔗
Adam
Well, first off, it's a good place to use my invention, the strap on asshole. See, this is a lifesaver. Keep one in the glove box.
20:38🔗
Adam
Is she? Now, listen, here's the problem. And, Drew, I know you're thinking this, too. You're thinking this chick's a little left up, right?
20:46🔗
Drew
I'm even going for it. I'm thinking, let's see, George's a pod addict, so she's probably an addict, because someone would have put up with that stuff.
21:00🔗
Caller
Well, she is a little left up, to tell you the truth. She was molested by her stepdad for a couple of years.
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Drew
For people that have been through experiences like that, sex becomes issues of power. The whole thing becomes a re-experiencing, a reenactment of those old traumas, and they have to sort of...
21:24🔗
Caller
But is this like a deal breaker for her mentally? Like, if I can't do this, does that mean she's going to cheat on me and do it to other guys?
21:39🔗
Adam
No, I know. Listen, you guys have something special that could never be captured again. I mean, you know, with the... forcing the stuff in your anus and that kind of stuff.
21:51🔗
Adam
Okay, okay. Listen, George, here's the deal. Here's why this stuff sounds cool, but it's kind of a turn-off. Because you know something's up with her. It's not just she's adventurous or she's amorous.
22:04🔗
Adam
She's acting something out and she's effed up. And the reason it feels weird for you to go along with it is because you're now acting out her effed up behavior.
22:19🔗
Caller
Well, this is the first time I had a problem, and this is the only thing. I was hoping, like, maybe if she went to therapy or some sort of medication.
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Adam
And here's the problem, too. She goes to therapy, her vagina dries up, immediately you get nothing. A week from now, you're begging to have this thing put in your ass. Oh, come on. Come on. Just come on. I'll back up. Just hold it still.
22:40🔗
Drew
And there's something to what I'm saying is that the people that have those histories tend to go one extreme to the other.
22:51🔗
Adam
OK. Listen, George. Here's the deal. You're young. You're not getting married. Not to her. Yeah. All right. She can work on her stuff. You can help her as much as you can. And you can have a good time.
23:07🔗
Adam
Oh, we pick someone like that because she's she she lets him. And he's 21 and he's desperate and he's horny. That's why. I mean, OK, but listen, meanwhile, you're not going to marry her and you're not going to get her pregnant. And if she works on her stuff and starts to mellow out a little, great. OK.
23:38🔗
Adam
That's Kari Wurr, everybody. Let me tell you something. Was I telling you about Kari Wurr?
23:45🔗
Adam
I don't know if I gave you like an update. Kari Wurr will call me. Loaded. I don't know if she's loaded. I guess she's loaded. She'll call twice a year, 1231 in the morning and act like I called her 10 minutes earlier and told her to call me back. I mean, she called like once a year. Like I've talked to Kari Wurr like six times in my life on the phone. Maybe three times in my life. One year. I mean, Kari Wurr calling me is no different than Kari Wurr calling anyone who can hear my voice. I really mean it. I have as much of a relationship with her as you do.
24:22🔗
Drew
No, you have a little more. I mean, you've done it for a long time too. It's spanned a long time.
24:25🔗
Adam
I've said see her in the studio once every two years, and then I'd never see her again. I'd never talk to her.
24:33🔗
Adam
Oh, let's see. Last time I called her, I said she lives down the street. I said, you should come over, you should see my house. She said, fine, do it Saturday. I said, fine. Never. That was three months ago. She never called. She is the flakiest, craziest chick I've ever met in my life. I don't really care.
25:00🔗
Adam
Yeah. Well, I don't know about that. God. It's weird. Now, I don't want people to take this the wrong way. We don't have a relationship. I don't like her. She sure as hell don't like me.
25:19🔗
Adam
She calls me twice a year drunk and for the last three years, I've been saying to her, you live right up the street. You ought to come by and take a look at the house.
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Get some, get some, get some.
25:31🔗
Adam
I think they broke up. Did they break up? All right. Let's just pretend they broke up. Wayne?
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Yeah.
25:43🔗
I was taking hydrocodone and carosaproto.
25:51🔗
Yeah, pretty much.
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Okay.
25:56🔗
I was just prescribed buprenorphine.
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Drew
Buprenorphine. But if you're not in actively involved in a program, that is, this is not going to work. Is that right? You've got to be very involved in treatment. Very. Because the easiest part of treating opiate addiction is getting you off the drug. Staying off. Your brain is in a permanent, not permanent, but is in an altered state that makes it extremely difficult to stay off the drug. There are forces operating well outside of your conscious understanding that push you towards the drug again. Your brain perceives survival as the reward delivered by that drug.
26:45🔗
Drew
Because it's on protocols now, it's on research, and it's sort of disputed whether it's a good thing or not. I personally am not a fan of buprenorphine, because I see lots of people get strung out on buprenorphine. It's like using methadone or anything else, it's just making the withdrawal easier. The withdrawal is easy enough such as it is with standard treatments.
27:19🔗
Isn't the orphan kind of related to morphine?
27:21🔗
Drew
Oh, it's related to morphine, all right. It goes to the same part of the brain as your hydrocodone does, and morphine. Just the deal is personally, I will not treat opiate addiction outside of a structure environment. I mean, you go somewhere and live for a couple of months because it doesn't work in my opinion.
27:39🔗
Adam
Let me ask you this. I was just thinking when you're spelling this thing out, tell me if this is dyslexic or stupid.
27:47🔗
Adam
Oh, come on. How do you know what I was talking about me? Just guessing. I was at the Kobe Bryant Bowl for charity last night. Right. I've signed in some autographs. One thing that's wrong with me is when people tell me how to spell stuff, I can't process it.
28:38🔗
Adam
All right. We got to take a break. When we come back, we're going to speak to Kathy. K-A-T-H-Y. I'm such a retard. I mean, I sign autographs. I got to go, yeah, make it out to Dan. Dan. Yeah, Dan. How do you spell that, Dan? D-A-N. D-N-A.
29:00🔗
Drew
Part of that is we've been traumatized by all the different spellings out there across the country. You have to check if their name is, you know, whatever it is, you have to check the spelling. There's no single spelling of any name out there now.
29:12🔗
Adam
I could do 15 minutes on how all you idiots out there who claim, who are trying to claim some individuality by spelling your name incorrectly need to be severely disciplined. Or the parents. Or the parents. When I'm in charge, names will be like words. Everybody will be one spelling.
29:35🔗
Adam
No. What I mean is, there's one way to spell stop and one way to spell go, and there's going to be one way to spell Sue, and there's going to be one way to spell Amy. It'll be A-M-Y. That's it. There'll be no triple E at the end of it, you idiots. You're driving me insane with this. See how easy it is to drive me insane? Alright, when we come back we're going to speak to Cavity30. Why is it easier for her to orgasm during anal sex than vaginal sex after this? Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. We were just talking about how evil publicists were during the commercial break. I was sitting at the Kobe Bowl-a-thon yesterday trying to win some money for some charity. Let me say a few things about this charity for just a second. I have no idea what charity I was bowling on their behalf. There were a lot of celebrities there. I was definitely not one of the... I'm a B slash C celebrity. But it was Saturday night. I was at the bowling alley and I wanted to brew. You know what I'm saying?
31:25🔗
Adam
I don't bowl without a beer in my hand. It helps balance out the ball. What I do is I use a 16-pound Brunswick High Luster, and then I get one of those pony kegs and I put it in the other hand, which weighs about 16 pounds too, and I can sort of balance myself perfectly as I go down the lane.
31:44🔗
Adam
I have it waiting back with the scores table. I can go 10, 15 seconds without eating a pizza, but I wanted a beer. But every time I said, and it was sponsored by I don't know, IHOP or I don't know, some burger joint or something, but I kept saying it and they assign people to you. This is your helper, they'll get you what you need. You need anything to drink, you need anything to eat, what do you want? You need a towel. I was like, how about a beer? Oh, we don't have any beer. And then it's kind of weird because it's always like I've done a few of these types of things. This is a charity event, we don't have beer. And I thought to myself, hey, why do I got to suffer? I mean, the kid's in a wheelchair, but why am I getting screwed? And by the way, what does that have to do with anything? You know what I mean? I know it makes sense, like, hey, it's a charity thing, we don't serve, it's not a beer thing, but hey, it's Saturday night, we're bowling and we're like raising money for something, why not have a beer? What the hell's that got to do with pediatric aids? You know what I'm saying? So I sent someone into the Jerry's Deli, which is connected to the bowling, and this made me start to think I may have a prom. I got fixated on beer. I was going to be there for three hours bowling, I wanted a beer, so it was Saturday night, so I sent somebody in, I said, look, going to Jerry's, here's 20 bucks, going to Jerry's, who else wants a beer? A few people wanted a beer, go in there, put it in a paper cup, bring it back in the alley, that's great. They come back 20 minutes, they wouldn't give us any. I think, you know what I should do? I should go to the Dale's Jr. down the corner between frames and smuggle a six pack up my ass, and then we could all rendezvous in the girls' room. And it's like, just get a beer out, would ya? I understand it's a charity.
33:42🔗
Yeah.
33:44🔗
Caller
Hey, I have a question for Dr. Drew. First of all, Adam, I want to back up a little bit. You spelled Kathy, my name, with a Y and not two E's.
33:59🔗
Adam
No, I know. I know a Kathy who did that. And while we were bowling, and this made me think she was a little bit crazy. Well, this wasn't last night. This is a few months ago. We're bowling. And I just wrote her name. I was keeping score and I wrote her name on the overhead thing, C-A-T-H-Y. And she ran up and erased it and put K-A-T-H-E-E. And I thought, oh, baby, you got a problem.
34:20🔗
Not I-E, just E-E.
34:28🔗
Caller
Well, this is my question for Dr. Drew. I want to know why it's easier for me to have an orgasm annually than it is vaginally. Classy.
34:36🔗
Drew
I don't know, but there are definitely some women for whom that is true. And I don't really understand how that works, but I know what happens. And it doesn't mean there's anything, it doesn't mean anything. It has no meaning that I'm aware of.
35:14🔗
Adam
Your boyfriend? Yeah. He's the only guy in America that's like, Oh, Christ, not in the ass again. Oh, Jesus. Oh, boy. Here we go.
35:23🔗
Drew
Do you have any sense of the experience, how it's different for you? I mean, really, I'm just curious.
35:36🔗
Because it's easier.
36:34🔗
Drew
Just hang up on it. Is there anything else about the experience? Not how it feels, but how you experience the entire act that makes it different for you?
36:50🔗
Adam
Let me explain you broads. I even have to explain the broads of the broads. Listen to me, because I'm a genius by all gender standards. I don't even know what that meant.
37:15🔗
Adam
Da, da, da, da. Men are very mechanical. You manipulate the penis, something comes out. It's very easy. It's like a jack in the box. If you turn that crank enough times, something's going to pop out. That's it. Oh, my. My. Okay. That's how men work. Women, you guys are all over the map. Who knows what's going on with you? Your G-spots and your candles and your Julio Iglesias. Who the hell knows what's going on with you? So because half of your orgasm is emotional, then the excitement, the intrigue, and the sort of naughty nature of having a guy approach you from behind could be enough to give you an orgasm. Aha.
38:02🔗
Drew
But listen, I had a theory, I think, in myself that perhaps has something to do with the way women experience receptivity, because receptivity is a lot of their sexual experience. They're sort of receiving a connection with the guy. Right. Is there anything to that, Cathy, for you? No, not really. No, she's just a mechanic for her.
38:25🔗
Adam
You ought to work for a big oil company, and you could say, I think there's oil right here, drill here, and they'd go, thank you very much. Boys, let's move the rig about 200 miles down the road.
38:36🔗
Drew
Really, it better be some sort of navigator. I'd be perfect for that, because they could plan to go exactly the opposite direction of whatever I say.
38:52🔗
Yep.
38:54🔗
Yeah.
38:57🔗
Caller
I just want to let Dr. Drew know that he's like the sexiest, sexiest man I've ever seen. I swear to God, he's so beautiful.
39:05🔗
Oh, I just went to TV instead.
39:11🔗
Caller
Oh, no, I don't. But actually, my boyfriend, every time we have sex and stuff, he gets so completely sweaty. I mean, he's showering me in his sweat and sometimes I don't know what to do. It's so embarrassing. But I don't know what I'm supposed to say. I don't know what to do and stuff.
39:50🔗
Caller
No, I don't think it's... It doesn't matter like where we are. We could be outside and like it could be freezing and he'll still be that sweaty. I don't know what it is.
39:57🔗
Adam
No, no, no, no. Listen, you get a fan going on and it'll slow him down. I'm a big sweat guy.
40:08🔗
Adam
Yeah, I'm a big schvitzer, ladies. Mark that down. And I'm the world's laziest man. Drew, do you notice I'm wearing my pants inside out? My pants are inside out, right? Because I put them on and I started to leave the house and I went to put my wallet in my pocket and I couldn't find it. I had like 20 minutes trying to find my pant pocket. I was like, why won't this wallet stay somewhere? And then I looked down and I went, oh, my pants are on inside out. And I stopped for a minute and I went, well, I guess I have to carry my wallet. And I just kept going.
40:40🔗
Adam
But the point is, I didn't even turn my pants around. I'm that lazy. Hey, Lisa, you need to get a fan on this guy.
40:47🔗
Drew
And you also need to communicate with him. Look, you're having a very intimate experience with him. You need to be able to kind of work it out together to get something that's comfortable for you. It's not all about him. It's about you, too. And you are well within your right to ask not to be showered.
41:22🔗
It's like, is it something that he's eating?
41:26🔗
Adam
No, I'm telling you, Mexican guys don't sweat. You know, it's been 108 degrees in the valley all day. Okay, let me explain something about Mexican guys. They do not wear shorts. Mexican guys do not wear shorts.
41:39🔗
Adam
Mexican construction guys do not wear shorts. Okay, I work with six guys and they're all Latin guys and they're all wearing pants, boots, and like a long-sleeve shirt that's tucked in.
41:52🔗
Adam
And it's 108. And all the white guys, all the white guys are working in their underpants.
42:07🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's true. I don't know. They don't wear shorts. Even Mexican guys at the beach don't wear shorts. You ever see Mexican guys wear a pair of swim trunks?
42:15🔗
Adam
No, never seen it. Now, those are tourists. Go down to Santa Monica, see if you find a Mexican guy wearing a pair of shorts.
42:21🔗
Drew
All right, let's continue with our racist epitaphs for the rest of the show. Here we go.
42:27🔗
Adam
How many Mexican guys you work with every day? In 105-degree weather. You don't. I do. They all wear pants. Yeah. That's not a bad thing. They're better men than I. I got to wear shorts or my balls will fall off. But I'll tell you one thing I got to say about the Mexicans before we move on with the show. We've talked about this before. Epithets.
42:47🔗
Adam
Yeah, right. See? You want to kill them. I called my plumber up. I know my electrician up, Jose, today. And it's like his mother-in-law answered the phone or something. And you know this big beef of mine when the Latinos answer the phone and it's like the wife or the grandma or something. And he asked for the guy and they and they answer with who and they ask act like no one's never heard of the guy. Here's how it goes.
43:13🔗
Adam
No. Is Jose there? Jose there? They sound completely confused. And you know what I'm talking about? You ever done this? And I'm thinking to myself, you don't speak English, but certainly you live with Jose. I mean, you know Jose, right? And then always the next one is this. This is the next one. So is Jose there? Jose?
43:37🔗
No, he's not here.
43:38🔗
Adam
And I'm always thinking to myself, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like I'm thinking, I'm picturing Jose like duct tape to a chair sitting right behind like a with a tennis ball in his mouth, like sweating while someone's holding a gun to his head, you know, and I get nervous. Like I'm like, oh, okay. Tell Jose this is Adam and that he needs to, boom, hang up. I think to myself, okay, now here's all I'm saying. Here's all I want to say. This is not a racist statement. If you're living in a country where there's a primary language, which is English, and someone calls, speaking that primary language, do not be confused. That's A, number one. Like if I lived in Germany and some guy called, I answered the phone and some guy was speaking German, I wouldn't be that freaked out. I mean, doesn't mean I speak German, but I wouldn't be confused. I wouldn't, Hans, oh, Hans. You know, like I wouldn't freak on him. I'd just be like, okay, this is Germany. I guess the guy speak in German. Okay, that's number one. So don't be freaked out when someone calls speaking English. And number two, if you're actually living with the person who's of the same name that the person is calling is asking for, again, don't be too freaked out. They live there. Someone is calling, speaking in the tongue of the country you live in, and asking for the person who lives with you. Don't freak. Is Jose there? Oh, just go, no, he no home. That's good. I'm fine with that. Okay, Jose's not home. I always hang up the phone thinking, I don't know who I called. I wonder if that was Jose. It's gonna confuse him. Hi, is Drew home? Oh, Dr. Drew?
45:21🔗
Adam
All right. No, we're gonna bring in, we're gonna bring our guest in, Scott Lindquist. He's gonna tell us how not to be ripe on a date.
46:06🔗
Adam
Hey, Loveline, I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew. Phone number 1-800-L-O-V-E-1-9-1. Scott Lindquist is our guest tonight. Scott is the author of the Date Rape Prevention Book. Scott is a FCPP and a CPS, Crime Prevention Specialist, but that's the CPS. What's the FCPP?
46:37🔗
Adam
I see. Jesus, that's a lot of nothing, I got to tell you. That doesn't mean anything to anybody. Even people in Date County hear that and start laughing. Like, get that off your list.
46:49🔗
Adam
Now I'm done criticizing the guest. Fifteen Ways to Prevent Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape. What made you author this book?
46:57🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, this really comes from a long line of seminars that I've done in universities around the country on crime prevention in general. And basically we had a lot of questions from people about this issue of date and acquaintance rape. And there wasn't a lot written on the subject that was really readable, that was easy to read, that wasn't filled with so many statistics and a lot of horror stories that made it difficult for people to read. So I sent out surveys to about 200 or 300 universities and asked them what they wanted to see in this kind of a book. And that's what became the Date Rape Prevention Book.
47:29🔗
Adam
I was telling Drew off the air, I think, I'd put a chapter on camping in this, which I believe should be called raping, because there's no difference. We talk to people all night long. Every time they go camping, they get raped.
47:44🔗
Adam
I mean, it's nonstop. So I don't know if there's a section on that or a chapter on that. It should be an addendum to that.
47:53🔗
Adam
Oh, I'll tell you, the number, well, I don't know about number one, but the way a lot of guys work is they get a few buddies and they get a few girls and they go out camping and they bring a case of beer and somebody inevitably crawls into someone's mummy bag.
48:07🔗
Scott Lindquist
Right. Actually, over 90 percent of all acquaintance rapes have a real high propensity of alcohol, both with the perpetrator and the victim. So alcohol is the number one, what I call the rape enabler out there.
48:20🔗
Adam
Well, as my buddy, the Wheeze, used to say, juice them up and go. He was quoting an old Sizzler's commercial that was made by the Hot Wheel Company, I think. But we knew what his point was, which was booze is the way to get in the pants. And not that I condone that. And, you know, in California, if you have sex with somebody who has booze in their system, it's considered rape.
48:44🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah. And I really think that going in that direction can be dangerous because I think that it's, you know, what I try to do is to get men and women to both take responsibility for their own sexuality. And the problem with going in that direction is that if we tell women that no matter whether you say yes or no, it's still going to be rape if you're drinking, then why does a man bother to ask for, you know, consent? If he's going to be thought the rapist regardless of what she says, then what's the purpose of communicating? What I'm trying to do is to get people to communicate.
49:19🔗
Drew
Hey, we have two minutes before we have to take another break, so why don't we do a call? And then we can continue the interview after the talk.
49:38🔗
Caller
I'm okay. Like a few years ago, I was raped. And ever since then, I had problems with dealing with like emotional and stable relationships. I haven't been able to have a healthy relationship. And so it's like...
50:02🔗
Caller
What it was is he was an acquaintance of mine. It was after a football game at a party. Right.
50:08🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah. Did you get help? You know, did you report to crime or did you get help or counseling or anything?
50:20🔗
Caller
And so it was I wasn't the first girl this has happened to. But ever since then, it's like I've had nothing but chaotic relationships and I'm not happy in a stable relationship.
50:39🔗
Scott Lindquist
I think one of the things that I have run into many, many times that when women don't report the crime, when they don't get counseling, when they don't validate what happened to them, they end up blaming themselves a lot. They feel it's somehow their fault, that they did something wrong. I shouldn't have gone out with him. I shouldn't have had so much to drink. I shouldn't have allowed him to take me home or whatever happened. But you've got to understand that if you don't get help, if you don't get counseling or therapy or turn to somebody, there's a lot of people out there that can help you. And there are rape crisis centers out there. There's all over the country that can help you get through this. But you've got to face what happened to you and get this out.
51:33🔗
Adam
8 or 9 years? Okay. Stop it. There we go. I answered that one quick. We'll take a little break. We'll be back.
52:23🔗
Adam
Hey, it's Loveline. Hey, I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew over there. Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Scott Lindquist is our guest tonight. He's the author of the Date Rape Prevention Book. He's a crime prevention expert. And we were talking, were you talking to Miranda? Uh-huh. Yeah. All right. Should we talk, let's talk to Scott a little more and then we'll get back to Miranda. So most of this stuff is common sense, right? I mean, how to prevent any crime almost, right?
52:55🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, there's some of it that's common sense. A lot of times, we were talking about alcohol earlier and the fact that a lot of young girls don't understand that alcohol affects a woman's body faster than a man's body. There's an enzyme that she carries that actually helps women become alcoholics faster than men. And this same enzyme is a situation where if she's drinking the same amount as her boyfriend, she's going to get drunk faster.
53:19🔗
Scott Lindquist
And the old adage that when you drink, you are easy is in some ways true, because you are easier to manipulate and control.
53:28🔗
Scott Lindquist
If you're drinking or if you're having date-rape drugs put into your drinks or you're under your food, and you know, GHB or Rohypnol, those kind of things. And you can't smell them and you can't taste them and you can't see them. So they're very, very deadly because you don't know you've ingested them and then you fall unconscious and then you, you know, you're sexually assaulted and then you can't remember who did it.
53:50🔗
Adam
What is, what percentage, do they know what percentage of rapes are reported or do they have some kind of guesstimation on it?
54:02🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah. And it's very low. And basically because most people don't believe that anybody's going to believe them. And they oftentimes don't identify the rape as actually being a crime until days later when the evidence is bad.
54:16🔗
Adam
Right. And also, I would imagine that a lot of people feel like, well, I had some sort of relationship with this person, and now they raped me. So therefore, I'm somewhat responsible for it or I have to play a role in it.
54:31🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah. They blame themselves. And oftentimes a woman will blame herself, just like that young girl did to Miranda. You know, people told her not to report the crime because he was a football star and we didn't want to ruin his career and we don't want to upset him and his way of life. But in the meantime, her life basically goes to hell and in a hand basket, and she has to try to recover for the next 20 or 30 years.
54:55🔗
Adam
Plus, I'd like to add this, that she said this guy's done this before and has never been reported. If the people he'd done this to before had reported it, it wouldn't have happened. Well, probably wouldn't have happened with you. But then even if it did happen with you and you report it, now there's a paper trail here. There's a little history and it's much easier to prosecute.
55:17🔗
Scott Lindquist
But if he's valuable to the athletic team, if he's valuable to the university and people think, well, we can't disturb that. He's too important. So we'd rather keep him in his place.
55:26🔗
Adam
That's why if I was an athletic director, I'd get everyone on the football team, what I call comfort women. Fluff, fluff? Fluffers. I'd fly them in from Indonesia and I would have them, you know, just sort of surrogate sexual partners.
55:40🔗
Drew
Like the way the Japanese used to do with their fighter pilots? Just have a little compound?
55:43🔗
Adam
Yeah, during World War II, the Japanese would just go ahead and force women into prostitution so they could, you know, the guys could keep the edge off before they went into battle. Yeah. And let's say something real quick about the Japanese.
56:04🔗
Adam
No, but I just want to say something real fast. You know, once in a while people get a little freaked out about Nagasaki or Hiroshima or something like that. Best military move we've ever made. Are you kidding me? Are you nuts? You know, many Americans would have died in invasion of Japan.
56:22🔗
Adam
How many Japanese? Kids, women, civilians. These people were crazy. They were they were doing kamikaze, not only kamikaze in airplanes, just human bombs. Kamikaze submarines, suicide attacks, jumping off cliffs when we were taking over the Philippine Islands. Are you crazy? Are you kidding me? That was the greatest move we had saved more lives than any other military move ever. Please. I can't stand hearing that. And number two, it's a war. You kidding me? You know these people treated our American prisoners. What about Pearl Harbor? And what do you think they would have done if they had the bomb? They would have dropped it on the Statue of Liberty. You crazy sympathizing sons of bitches. Go to Japan. You got a problem with that. Thank you. All right, we'll get back on the phone.
57:12🔗
Adam
I'm the only idiot who should be able to yell. Please, I think rape is a good thing. Oh, I didn't know the mic was on. I really didn't. Miranda?
57:30🔗
Caller
I had a very perfect upbringing. I mean, my mom was over intrusive and I had eating disorders and I've done drugs.
57:39🔗
Caller
And now I'm like attracted to guys that are 8, 19 years older than me now. I mean, don't get me wrong. I mean, I really like these guys, but I was wondering, is that not healthy? Is that connected to the race?
57:48🔗
Adam
Hey, hey, hey, Miranda, you want me to tell you the most unhealthy part of your life right now?
58:05🔗
Drew
The next thing is your massive abject denial about your psychological state. You had an eating disorder. That's a major psychiatric condition.
58:24🔗
Drew
I'm not saying anybody's bad. I'm just saying that there's some stuff here that set you up. That made you a good victim for this guy.
58:33🔗
Caller
Yeah. It was just, you know, like he was just an acquaintance. You know, I'd known him forever and I didn't expect this. And I had a boyfriend. Supposedly, my boyfriend knew about this. Because I remember my boyfriend walked into the room when this was happening and he didn't do anything about it.
58:45🔗
Adam
Okay. One more reason you need to sort of evaluate your life and your decisions. And it doesn't make this rape your fault by any stretch of the imagination. We're just saying that, you know, the guy you chose to make your boyfriend, number one, was an a-hole, right?
59:03🔗
Adam
And you had this eating disorder and your mom's over intrusive and things aren't as great emotionally as maybe you made them out to be at the top of the call.
59:28🔗
Caller
It just makes me so mad because I had a chance at like a really great relationship and like I sabotaged it. And it makes me so mad because of these stupid issues. And I know they're not my fault.
59:36🔗
Drew
But you would have sabotaged it in some other way had it not been this way. And that's what you need to get back and work on.
59:40🔗
Adam
It wasn't a really, really great relationship on the guy who walked in while you were being raped and left, was it?
59:48🔗
Caller
But I was just wondering, Amy, is it wrong for me to be attracted to people that are almost, you know, that are in your own living, in your life?
1:00:00🔗
Yeah.
1:00:04🔗
Hey.
1:00:06🔗
Hey, it's okay.
1:00:08🔗
Uh, well, first of all, you're really cool, and I just got finished watching the Man Show about 30 minutes ago.
1:00:15🔗
Great show.
1:00:18🔗
Drew, you're great, too. Bruce sucks. Yeah. What I want to know is- Yeah. When callers always call and you're talking about- Drew is talking about child abuse or whatever. I wonder what exactly child abuse is, because my mom might throw a shoe or something when she's mad, and I wonder if that really can hit her.
1:00:45🔗
No.
1:00:51🔗
I mean, we get into an argument and she's mad at me, and she throws something at me.
1:01:03🔗
Adam
No, that's not abuse. Now, if she hit you with one of those big Lucite stripper wedgies, that'd be something.
1:01:10🔗
Drew
It's certainly flirting with abuse, isn't it? It may not be overt abuse, but it certainly isn't being respectful of you and your boundaries. It certainly isn't giving you a good role model for a parent that can contain aggression. So it's certainly an unhealthy kind of a situation. Is it disastrous? No, probably not.
1:01:27🔗
Caller
My dad lives about 15 minutes away. I live with him during the week. I'm only here on the weekend.
1:01:45🔗
Adam
All right. Listen to me. I'm speaking to my own dad here. All you screwed up parents who get divorced, and all you guys that leave these crazy bitches because they're just flat out nuts and you can't handle them. What do you think your 11-year-old is doing with them? You know what I mean? It drives me nuts. You hear about all these guys that are like, oh, this chick's psycho. She is nuts. Oh, man, if she gets around her, period, look out. Here, take my three kids. I'm going to Miami. You can't handle it and you're 6'3, 210 pounds and you drive a truck. If you want, you go shoot some pool and have a beer and get out of the house. You got a nine-year-old sitting there, is getting the crap beat out of him and shoes thrown out of him. What the hell kind of fathering is that? I mean, I know the mom is nuts and the mom's abusive, but they dads, why are you leaving your kids with that nut? The nut you left, the nut you left because she's too nutty. Leaving your kids with that? What the hell kind of thinking is that? Craig?
1:02:44🔗
Caller
Well, I heard you guys talking like a long time ago, and actually it wasn't too long ago, but you were talking about how this dude, he was talking, he called you, he had warts on his penis, and you said that that wasn't possible.
1:02:57🔗
Drew
What? No, Craig, warts on the penis, 30 percent of the country have warts on the penis and in the vagina.
1:03:06🔗
Drew
It's in some populations up to 50 percent, and it puts women at risk for cervical cancer, and it's extremely common. It's the most common sexually transmitted disease.
1:03:17🔗
Drew
They can't be eliminated permanently. Some of them tend to burn out by themselves over about three to five years. You should consider yourself always contagious with them. And they can be burned off, and there's creams like Aldera and there's Interferon, and things can be used.
1:03:40🔗
Adam
I don't know. Scott Lindquist is our guest tonight. He is the author of the book, The Date Rape Prevention Book. Sounds like a fun read. Here's 15 ways to prevent date and acquaintance, and acquaintance rape. Communicate up front with your date. I imagine this is the woman, right? It's not the guy saying there's going to be some raping going on tonight.
1:04:05🔗
Scott Lindquist
They both need to communicate. Communication is only 3% verbal, about 38% tone of voice and 55% body language. So in order for her to communicate effectively, all three of those things have to be saying the same thing. And when I talk to women about what they wear, and I tell them, look, if you want to wear a sexy outfit, that's your choice. And nobody has the right to touch you against your will or without your consent or without your knowledge. But you've got to understand that if you're wearing that sexy outfit, that is sending a message. So you've got to bump up your communication skills to overcome whatever message that's sending.
1:04:43🔗
Adam
No, no, I don't think it's, well, it's not horrible advice, but it's what I would deem unrealistic advice, because I'll tell you why. Because A, when a girl gets raped at a party like this other caller, she may dress up and go to the party with her boyfriend or with some of her friends, and B, maybe provocatively dress, but have no intention of hooking up with any guy that night.
1:05:09🔗
Adam
Then it's time to change. I agree. Go home, get yourself a potato sack, put that on when you're drunk, and then come back to the party so you don't get raped. So that's A, why it's unrealistic. B, hold on, I'm not shooting holes in your point. Number two is, I think a lot of women, first off, a lot of women like to look sexy. You talk to women all the time, it's like, what do you waste money for on lingerie? Makes me feel sexy. They're very much into the way they feel, which is weird because as men we're realistic, we're into how other people feel about us. That's why we spray coloring on our bald spots. You realize to us, we feel like idiots. Hey, I'm putting spray paint on my goddamn head. But to everyone else, we look like geniuses. Very attractive. Here's what I think what happens. I think a lot of women meet a guy and they like the guy. Like, hey, the guy's cute. The guy seems nice. We're going on a date. I'm attracted to the guy. I want him to be attracted to me. Now we're going out. We have dinner. We have a couple of cocktails and he's pushing it further than I want to go with him. But when they were going on the date, initially they were thinking, well, I'm attracted to the guy and maybe we can make out, maybe we can kiss a little, but he parked the car and he won't stop now.
1:06:21🔗
Adam
So it's not as if they're trying to thwart him at the beginning of the date. It's the point is, is like they got to change your outfit three quarters of the way into the day.
1:06:31🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, or they've got to change the way they communicate. And oftentimes, you know, it's not a good time to be vague or gentle in your communication. In the book, I talk about that there are four different kinds of rapists. And the most common rapist out there is what we call the gentleman rapist because he behaves like-
1:06:53🔗
Adam
Pardon me. When I boxed as a fighter, that was my name. Kid, gentleman, rapist. You should have seen my robe. I'll wear it in here. I wore a top hat and rubber gloves as I entered the ring. All right. I'm sorry.
1:07:06🔗
Scott Lindquist
But this kind of guy, basically, the FBI calls him a gentleman rapist because he behaves like a gentleman after the rape. He'll, after the rape, he'll walk her home. He'll be very protective of her, send her flowers, invite her out the next day because he doesn't understand that he has committed rape. So if she's in a position with this guy and he starts to rape her, the best thing, because in his mind, he doesn't think he's committing rape. He thinks he's just having sex. So she's got to be very assertive and aggressive with him verbally to call it like it is. This is rape, this is not consensual, this is not love, and I will prosecute because you got to break through the fantasy.
1:07:43🔗
Scott Lindquist
But the next kind of guy out there that is also very common is called the control freak. And he knows he's committing rape. And you don't want to be aggressive and assertive with this guy because he knows what he's doing. What you want to do is to talk about yourself and be very, you know, your family, your religion, your faith, anything you can think of because you're trying to build a link between who you are and someone he cares about.
1:08:13🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah, somebody that he cares about. You know, hopefully that will make that connection.
1:08:21🔗
Adam
It could backfire, that strategy. But yeah, I always hear about that. You sort of humanize yourself because you're no longer an object that way. Do these guys, though, these, the second guy you mentioned, I mean, but these are the control freak. These are the guys who wear the stocking on their head and hide in the bushes, right?
1:08:40🔗
Scott Lindquist
Not necessarily. This is the guy that has all kinds of names for women. A lot of, you'll have a lot of athletic guys, guys who are, you know, real important to the team. Right. You know, they get off on objectifying women. They have all sorts of derogatory names for them. They're not real people. They're just things.
1:08:57🔗
Drew
I think we should have tried to humanize ourselves when Fletch had us cornered in here.
1:09:17🔗
Adam
That's Dr. Drew. Drew, how are the triplets? Still, still, they doing fine? Good, good. Okay. Sandy, you're 24?
1:09:30🔗
Caller
I am scared to death of sex. I can't even think about it. I mean, I don't talk about it. This is like the first time I've ever even, this scares me even talking about it.
1:09:45🔗
Caller
I don't know. That's the problem. I have this like reoccurring dream I have all the time. I know it happened, but I can't, like when I was like eight years old, I was spending the night at my aunt's house. I woke up and my uncle was standing there. He was just standing in the doorway and he stood there for about 10 minutes. And I just sat there, I mean just lay there. And he walked, he left for work. And I got up and I just told my aunt I wanted to go home. But I don't remember anything and that's what like bothers me is when did I remember?
1:10:33🔗
Drew
Are you, are you just afraid of men? Oh, yeah, like I think there's more about being afraid of men, isn't it?
1:10:48🔗
Caller
Yeah, that's what I, I mean, that's what I, what I understand is like, I hate being touched.
1:11:16🔗
Adam
It's probably like shaving with his electric razor or something before he headed out to work.
1:11:19🔗
Drew
But the point is there was sort of something already going on. I think this is what became the symbol of all that.
1:11:31🔗
Adam
Oh, well, that's a bad sign. No, no, no. Let me ask you this, Annie. What kind of guy is your uncle? Is he a bad guy? I mean, other than this.
1:11:47🔗
Caller
He used to get ice cream, you know, kind of, and I would hide and I would run, and I would hide every time he came over. He lives in a different state now, but.
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Okay.
1:12:15🔗
Caller
Um, I've been on depression medicine. See, the problem with that is it really bothers me. My mom will take me to my regular doctor and she'll put me on it. And she will, I won't go to see anybody and talk to them.
1:12:27🔗
Drew
Why don't you talk to your regular doctor about the fact that you have some other phobias?
1:12:32🔗
Drew
All right, him. But just tell him that you need to talk to somebody. It's not just about the depression.
1:13:03🔗
Adam
Yeah, your dad scared the ass out of you. Your dad was a brutal man. He freaked you out.
1:13:11🔗
Adam
Oh, yeah, they always change now. You know when they change, when they figure out you can kick their ass and all of a sudden they become Mr. Nice Guy? That's how my dad is. Yeah. Still going to give a good ass whooping. I'm waiting for his 70th birthday. Hey, dad, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to wrap my hand in a bag, put a bow on my fist and pow right in the chops. It's going to be great. You want me to hit your dad too, Sandy? Sure. How old is he? Is that over 60? I only hit guys over 60. His what?
1:13:45🔗
Adam
All right, Sandy, I'm going to tell you two very important things. I'm going to hang up on you.
1:13:51🔗
Adam
It'll be the same as hanging up because we'll never talk again. Okay. Are you good looking?
1:14:06🔗
Adam
Oh no. Crazy prostitute. Sandy, listen to me. Your dad is a world class a-hole. He grounds some horrible things into you. Now, your dad's a man and a father and a bad at both. Then there are guys like Dr. Drew. Good man, good father. So what conclusion can we draw? Well, some guys are bad and some guys aren't bad. Okay. Let's start using your brain. You understand me? Not every guy is an evil, abusive, alcoholic trucker stands in your door. Shut up and listen to me. That's life. You understand there's real bad guys and then there's real good guys. You don't have to be freaked out by every guy. You understand? There's dogs who bite and dogs that drag you to safety. Okay. Your job is to understand the difference between which dog is which. Not to freak out over every dog. Okay. You got to get some therapy now. Okay. All right.
1:15:04🔗
Adam
Oh, boy, my genius. I should hit that lecture circuit with you, Scott. Yeah. Rape is bad.
1:15:15🔗
Adam
I'm going to be like the black guy behind Farrakhan. You know, I'm not going to say anything, but you'll go, rape something, a tragedy that strikes 10 million women a year. And I'll go, yeah, go brother. I'll just wave my hands around and you go. And then once in a while I'll go, mm-hmm. And I'll just cross my arms and nod my head. I'll get a few of my buddies to do it too. And it'll be like a whole lot. It will add and maybe some pyrotechnics too. We'll make a real, and you don't wear that when you lecture, do you? I mean, I see in a jumpsuit.
1:15:46🔗
Adam
That's right. Coming on one of those wires like that crazy Australian chick who was abused by being dragged by that wire 80 feet above the Olympic Stadium for 14 hours on Friday. All right, we're going to take a little break. We'll more rape talk after this. It's a love line. I'm Adam Corolla. That is Dr. Drew over there. Phone number 1-800-LOVE-191. Is that the number there, Drew? That's it. Tonight, our guest is Scott Lindquist. He is an expert on crime prevention. He authored the Date Rape Prevention Book. And let me tell you something about what kind of a super sleuth I am. I didn't want my car stereo to get stolen once, when I was living in Hollywood, and I didn't have insurance. I painted it brown. Huh?
1:17:16🔗
Adam
Yeah, because I said to myself, who's stealing a car stereo? And every other retard I told this to went, why, what's that going to do for you? I said, who steals car stereos? Junkies. Junkies who need a fix. I mean, that's what you do. You're going to wrap a towel around your hand, bash in a car window, reach in and tear out somebody's stereo, parked on the street kind of thing, and then sell it to some fence guy for 40 bucks. That's drugs, man. That's a quick turnaround. I mean, that's not, you're not an international jewel thief. You're not Pierce Brosnan at that point. You're wearing Kleenex boxes for shoes and you're looking for a hit of smack, right? So I painted my thing brown because I thought, you can't sell a stereo that got spray painted. Basically, my strategy is I'll eff it up so no one will steal it. I should rub crap on it.
1:18:11🔗
Adam
You damaged merchandise bad enough and no one wants anything to do with you. Yeah, it works.
1:18:17🔗
Adam
Yeah. Yeah. That's what it is. I painted that stereo brown and I parked it right in the middle of Hollywood in a truck. And I never locked the doors because my strategy again was I didn't want to get the windows broken. If someone wanted to try to steal my brown stereo, let them just open the door. I didn't want a bashed in window. And I put a fuel kill switch on my car under the seat. And I left the doors open and nothing in the glove box. And I figured, have at it, brothers. And somebody drove it down the street once. But I went and found it because it'll run out of gas in like two blocks.
1:18:47🔗
Scott Lindquist
That's why some women, after they've been raped, they will make themselves very unattractive, gain a lot of weight.
1:18:54🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah, they really do. So nobody will mess with them, make themselves very unattractive.
1:19:04🔗
Adam
Let me tell you something. A cop pulled me over because I've started my car with a screwdriver because the guy did try to steal it, bus it out, the ignition. I have enough to put a new ignition in. I used to have to start with a flathead screwdriver. I just drove around for a year with a flathead screwdriver. And it was all right. I was a carpenter. I always had one on me. But a cop pulled me over because he saw me driving with the screwdriver hanging out of my thing. And when I explained to him about the fuel kill switch and painting it brown, he proclaimed that I was a genius. Right there on the street. Didn't even give me a citation. That's right. Way to the buddies back. Way to the buddies on the floor. So you're about this one. Chris?
1:19:42🔗
Caller
Yeah. My friend was spending a night with me the other night and we were in the same bed and he thought I was asleep and I really wasn't. And he was trying to get me in the ass.
1:19:57🔗
Adam
I don't know. It just seemed, I could see if you said he started massaging your testicles or something. I'd go along with that, but to get you in the ass, come on.
1:20:12🔗
Caller
I was acting like I was talking to my sleep. We were just playing around. And then he thought I was asleep because I was talking to my sleep.
1:20:20🔗
Adam
I understand the part. Oh, oh, totally different. I apologize. Totally different. I was 150 percent wrong there, Chris. My goodness, that must have been traumatic.
1:20:42🔗
Caller
Well, I was acting like I was beating someone up in my school. He thought it was pretty funny. He told me the next morning.
1:20:48🔗
Adam
Right. So he was hearing you having these violent conflict-type dreams, so he decided to sodomize you?
1:20:58🔗
Caller
Then he stopped and went in the other room. He got some lotion or something on the bathroom. When he came back and he started shoving it all up in my ass.
1:21:26🔗
Scott Lindquist
Yeah, about 20% of all reported rapes are male-to-male rapes. So that's also an issue now that-
1:21:35🔗
Scott Lindquist
Because now with the advent of these date-rape drugs, young guys are being drugged and just like a woman would be drugged and they wake up and they don't know who did it and they know they've been violated.
1:21:58🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, you can just imagine that if 20% of the reported rapes are male-to-male, then it's higher than that. Much higher than that. They're actually happening.
1:22:10🔗
Adam
What percentage of that 20% are heterosexual, do you believe? At least the rape victim. You know what I'm saying?
1:22:17🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, that's difficult to ascertain. We know that the basic threat for a male is not from homosexual rape, it's from heterosexual rape.
1:22:37🔗
Scott Lindquist
Well, what I'm saying is that they're not previously homosexual. I mean, it's not something that both guys are homosexual.
1:22:52🔗
Adam
I mean, it's sort of that deliverance type rape, that farmer rape, that hillbilly rape, that squeal like a pig rape.
1:23:05🔗
Adam
Every man should experience that at least once. You ever been in the woods of Kentucky, Drew? It's a beautiful country out there. We're going to spend our next vacation there.
1:23:20🔗
Adam
I'll tell you. I don't know. I'm trying to think. If I got raped by God, I'd be like, I'm going to report this immediately, and then I'd be like, let's see. I'm going to watch your dukes ass and then I'll call the cops. Then I'd probably end up forgetting about it. Someone stole my mail the other day, by the way.
1:23:35🔗
Adam
Yeah, that's rape. You know what I did? Nothing. It's like, what are you going to do? All you people that call people to do stuff about something, realize nothing gets done. You know, you guys, like, you come home and someone broke in your house and stole your watch. You're going to call the cops? Have fun. You wait around for six hours. They show up. You fill out a bunch of paperwork. You never see them again. You never see your watch again. Just forget it. Just go get a lock or a dog. Don't even bother. Don't even bother. Nancy?
1:24:04🔗
Caller
This guy. My question is, would you, could you test positive for methamphetamines if you had sex with someone that does methamphetamines?
1:24:23🔗
Drew
A couple of years ago who insisted that she got high, a stimulant high, after she had sex with her boyfriend. He was a severe amphetamine addict. It turns out that amphetamine is about seven times greater concentration in semen than in blood. So if he's using a lot, you actually can get exposure to a pretty decent dose. An opiate is sometimes the same thing. But enough to detect on a urine screen, I don't know of any data that suggests that. I was just reading some stuff about medical review officers and that was not one of the possible causes of a false positive. And it would be gone even at that level of exposure after about eight to 12 hours.
1:24:59🔗
Adam
Scott, let me tell you my plan. I have a lot of plans about crime prevention. I really do. I got a lot of angles on this. I should really, I should work with some police departments. Here's my weapons plan. You ready for this?
1:25:13🔗
Adam
I think this is the best way to go. Now a lot of people have guns in the house, right? I have a gun in my house. You do? No, I don't. Well, I got a good looking pellet gun. CO2. It's got pretty good stopping power. Listen, I'd run if someone came at me with this thing. It's semi-automatic. I can squeeze like eight shots of the fresh CO2 cartridge. You're running. I mean, you got to have some elephant tranquilizer in you. Otherwise, you're running. But here's my point. Here's my plan. So they say, we keep a gun in the house for the protection, protection of our family and intruders, right? But we have kids, so we play it safe. So what do you do? Well, we keep the gun in a safe. That's on the first floor. And then we keep the ammunition on the second floor and a strong box on the top, up in the top of the closet. Okay, that's great, but what happens when you're asleep and you hear a window break downstairs? It'll take an hour and 45 minutes to load the gun. I load a musket faster and you get that 9-millimeter loaded. Or then you got to be irresponsible, right? Things loaded, things in the nightstand. Meanwhile, your son gets hold of the gun, blows the holes on it. Here's my plan. I've been thinking about this for a long time. I need a shotgun, okay? First off, shotgun's good because every law enforcement guy tells you that pump is like nothing else. People hear that pump a mile away and they start running. So you got the pump action with a shotgun. Secondly, you're not going to miss with a shotgun. Now, I get the shotgun and here's what I do. I get one of those shotguns that holds like eight or 10 rounds in it, okay? They have these ones. I mean, as fast as you can pump, that's as fast as you can shoot it and you don't have to keep loading it. It's not like the old double barrel kind. You get about eight rounds in there, right? First round, blank, nothing in it. Just the boom. Just the chick chick and the boom. Just to hear that chick chick and that boom go off, that's good enough. Second round, second round is all rock salt. Just as something goes flying. Still blow a hole in the curtain, blow out a window, blow out a vase or whatever. Third, fourth, fifth and all the way through the eighth is live. Now, if something really harries happen, you can go through the first two in about a second and a half. You could actually probably just pump them out of the way or fire them off, whatever, but you could get to the meat real fast. On the other hand, you wouldn't blow away your neighbor by mistake. You wouldn't kill your buddy by mistake. You wouldn't trip while you're carrying it and have everything go off and take your head off. This is a good plan, right? Solid, right?
1:27:52🔗
Scott Lindquist
The biggest problem with having a gun for protection is it has to be accessible and a person has to be- They have to be trained how to use it, and they have to be emotionally prepared to take another human life. Most people, they're very intellectual, they start thinking too much. Right. The more you think, the longer you hesitate and hesitation kills. That's the problem with lethal weapons. I generally don't recommend lethal weapons for most situations.
1:28:22🔗
Adam
Very solid. We're going to take a little break. I'm going to let Scott Heat praise on me. And we'll be back after this.
1:29:05🔗
Adam
Yeah, it's Love Line. I'm Adam Corolla, that's Dr. Drew. Scott Lindquist is our guest tonight. He is a crime prevention expert and also a rape prevention expert, which I guess falls under the heading of crime. The Date Rape Prevention Book is the name of the book that he's authored. I was explaining to him and Drew during the break that-
1:29:25🔗
Adam
I basically build my room like a cage. You put bars, this is what everyone should do. Put a lock on your bedroom door. No one can walk in while you're asleep. Make sure there's a phone in there. Then if you're on the first floor, you put some bars on the window. Then at noon, the guy comes by and feeds you. He'll slop you. You need to live your life out.
1:29:45🔗
Adam
That's my life. Yeah. Guy comes in and waiters and hoses the place down. I fling some poo at him. Then of course, the summer is my dormant season. So I just sleep. It's great.
1:30:01🔗
Adam
Yeah. It's fantastic. All right. Where the hell were we? Yeah. My shotgun with the three shells.
1:30:16🔗
Caller
Yeah. I guess keeping with the theme of child abuse tonight, I was sexually abused for a lot of years growing up. I guess to make a long story short, I'm in the mutilation now, self-mutilation.
1:30:29🔗
Drew
Which, as we mentioned, is sort of what people do to try to mess with themselves, have control over their bodies so somebody else doesn't mess with them.
1:30:52🔗
Caller
Well, it helps a lot, but it's brought me up from negative 100 to like, you know, 50. 50, yeah.
1:30:57🔗
Adam
Yeah. I'm going to give myself a light beating when I get home, Mike, if it's any consolation.
1:31:27🔗
Adam
I thought that was the construction battalion. That wasn't John Wayne of the Tennessee. Fighting CVs or something. All right. So, hey, Mike.
1:32:15🔗
Caller
Well, they found out the night I was in the emergency room from like cutting to the bone.
1:32:26🔗
Adam
I'm sorry, but it hurts my gums. Don't make that noise. That hurts my nuts. Hey, Mike, Mike, listen, I'm sorry for what happened to you, but it isn't, you know, it's not a death sentence. Yeah. All right. It feels like it though. I know, I know.
1:32:42🔗
Adam
Looking at it this way, it's a good time to be alive, even if you feel the way you do, because there's treatments and medications. I mean, you know what I mean? Even 50 years ago, they would have just carted you away somewhere and you would have just picked at yourself until you died. You know what I mean? Yeah. I mean, avail yourself of all the technology and medications and take care of yourself. Please, Mike. You'll be a great artist one day. You'll probably start a band.
1:33:08🔗
Adam
Maybe better even. Yeah. All right. Oh boy. Where are we going here? Dawn? Speaking of rape, what about this phone system? Dawn?
1:33:54🔗
Caller
I've known him since I was 13, and I just got out of relationship, and he just seemed like Mr. Wonderful, just like the best.
1:34:11🔗
Adam
Right. All right. Friend of the family. And were you guys going to go out, like sort of romantically?
1:34:15🔗
Caller
I never even went on a date with him. I hadn't yet. We were supposed to go on our first date the next day. We were going to go bike riding.
1:34:24🔗
Caller
I'd never drank alcohol before at all. And I'm not saying that I don't have accountability, you know. In fact, if anything, I blame myself completely for what happened.
1:34:34🔗
Caller
But I mean, I drank a lot. I didn't. I, you know, I never really drank. And I went to this bar and I had like six white Russians and a purple hooter.
1:34:50🔗
Caller
Yeah. And so he suggested we go to his house. And I just thought everything was so funny. Ha ha. And I was laughing and laughing. And he just, you know, I mean, I was really stupid. I made really poor judgment.
1:35:06🔗
Caller
And ended up waking up the next day and being like, oh, my God, you know, because I told him no. I said, no. I said, no, I want to go home, get off me.
1:35:19🔗
Caller
He took me home and I didn't know what to think. I like lay there all day and try to figure out what had happened.
1:35:32🔗
Caller
Yeah. I told my parents eventually, but it took a long time. It took about four or five months or something.
1:35:48🔗
Caller
I went to the doctor and got tested for like everything I had done. I just had like this crazy paranoia.
1:35:56🔗
Caller
He thought I should go see somebody in Seattle, but I never went. I like just did a no show and stuff.
1:36:03🔗
Scott Lindquist
Don, whatever decisions you made or whether you had too much to drink or you didn't have anything to drink at all, it doesn't matter really. You made some bad choices, but that does not excuse what he did because he made a choice to commit a violent crime. You are not the victim of rape. You are the survivor of rape. There's a big difference in that in the way you look at yourself and think about yourself, but you really need to get some help. You need to get some therapy. You need to talk to a rape crisis center. It's never too late to get some help about this because this will not go away.
1:36:38🔗
Drew
I think the reason people avoid it is the issues are so painful that they just don't want to get into it.
1:36:43🔗
Adam
Well, I remember when I was authoring my book, Rape by the Federal Government, that I dealt-
1:36:51🔗
Adam
I was in denial for years. Sure, I wasn't paying taxes. I paid like $1,000 tax for the first 15 years of my life. Now I pay that on weekends. It's great. All right. Scott Lindquist is our guest tonight. He's the crime prevention expert, the rape prevention expert. We'll take ourselves-
1:37:15🔗
Adam
That is right. It's a good read and a fast read. I read it on the toilet. Drew, did you read this book?
1:37:22🔗
Drew
I've actually skimmed it a couple of times. Much more reading of it than you accomplished on the toilet.
1:38:22🔗
Adam
Well, Scott Lindquist just paid me one of the greatest compliments I've ever been paid, which is, I think, like a criminal.
1:38:31🔗
Adam
Thank you. That's what I tell people. That's good. It's a good thing. The Date Rape Prevention Book is the name of Scott's book. It is an important book to read. I was going to do one of these hostings, male or female, but chicks, you just read it. Don't worry about the guys. Guys, you focus on not raping. And ladies, you read the Date Rape Prevention Book, and don't get loaded, and don't wear any tube tops, and you'll do just fine. Alright, that is it. Scott, thanks for coming in.
1:39:09🔗
Caller
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